DKG. Pag-isipan mong mabuti kung gusto mo pang ituloy relasyon nyo.

TBH, I started to question myself after you said this.

Parang ginagaslight mo lang yung sarili mo na walang nangyayari sa isang room. Alam munan yung sagot.

She said she was downstairs doing stuff while the ex was upstairs sleeping alone. But, as you said, anything can happen.

Not to add fuel to the fire, pero why it seems in appropriate to let the ex stay in your room OP. It is your personal space. Also, para lang makapag drive ng maayos? pwede naman sa sala yung ex magpahinga.

One word: DISRESPECTFUL. Si GF at yung ex nya. Di marunong rumespeto ng boundaries.

Mismo. Pero najustify pa eh.

On Goddd, and sa tatay naman nung mga bata d man lang siya nahihiya like hello kapal mukha neto

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DKG, valid namn ung nararamdaman, since nandian ang ex, at may chance na mahulog ulit yang gf, since may anak sila, try to communicate it to her, at mag set sia kamo ng boundaries. then once na di ka satisfied sa response nia after communicating it to her, maybe assess yourself if you still want to continue ung relasyon nio. ayan mahirap pag may sabit eh, ung other partner ung nagaadjust. 😓

I was aware of this risk. Having a girlfriend na single mom was not my first rodeo. Pero yes, I told her to set boundaries. Pero dumada-moves pa rin yung guy eh.

Masisira lang mental health mo ..Stress aabutin mo Dyan bro ..

You are not wrong. 😮‍💨

Baka makabaril kapa dahil lang Dyan ..that kind of girl magsasabi Ng kaunting katotohanan sa kasinungalingan para mabawasan guilt trip nila ..at kapag natrigger mo mag gagalit galitan at imamanipulate ka ulit ..Mga Hindi Masaya sa mga buhay ang mga ganyan at sa sarili ..at wag kanang sumali ..

Dkg. Pero dont tolerate it OP. Kung okay lang yun noon, it's not okay ngayong youre in the picture na. That's out of respect for you, but more importantly, your relationship with your gf

Di ko tinotolerate. She was just doing it for the kid, daw.

Anong klaseng dahilan yun, edi sana di na sya nag boyfriend kung ok lang magpatulog ng ex sa bahay “for the kid”. Paptayin nya kamo sa anxiety kahit sinong boyfriend pa hanapin nya. Edi sana di pinaabot ng late para maaga makauwi. Bakit kailangan mag offer? She’s creating an environment for cheating wtf.

Oohh, DKG. Ang off Naman ni gf, alam na nga nyang kayo,sana kinonsider na niya na mag iisip ka rin ng iba since ex nya Yun.

My paranoia was off the charts. She kept on saying na the guy was alone dun sa room while she was downstairs looking after her kid.

Kahit naman walang something sa dalawa OP, valid naman yung feelings mo. Mag usap kayo ng masinsinan, what if baliktad ang situation, yung ex mo yung nasa bahay tas Ikaw yung nasa baba ng sala. Diba? No problem sa co parenting style nila pero dapat may limitations din.

same thing happened to me before. ex went to visit her kids sa province ng ex nya sa laguna. Sama2 sila natulog sa isang room together with the ex. Yes, d naten maiwasan mag-isip pero since ganito nga ung situation na pinasok naten, pero kung may tiwala ka nman sa gf mo, wala ka dpat alalahanin.

May tiwala ako sa kanya. Dun akl sa ex walang tiwala.

the disrespect. I am also a single mom and my ex and I use to talk before for our and kapag birthday nung anak namin, we do one party and we sometimes take fam pic but that was when I am single. Nung nagkaboyfriend na ako, nililigawan palang ako nagcut ties na ako sa ex ko, he’s now talking directly to our kid then kapag susunduin siya or ihahatid hanggang labas lang talaga, hindi na kami nagkikita and that’s all to respect my boyfriend so take it from me, mali yung sitwasyon. Just leave, hindi yan sure sayo kasi hindi niya kaya irespeto ka.

How old was your kid nung nagka-BF ka? What if the kid was 10 years old or younger, will that rule still apply?

ofc, I had my boyfriend nung 8 yung anak ko. It’s important to set boundaries din kasi e, to not confuse the kids too kasi hindi lang naman kayo ang involved.

pwd naman umiglit sa daan ..park nya kotse nya saglit if my wheels pwd naman mag motel ang mura lang I'f gusto lang matulog.. NAHIHIYA SYA SAKANYA PERO SAYO HINDI .,HINDI VALIDATED OR CONSIDERED FEELINGS MO AT BINABALEWALA ..Red Flag parang Wala lang sakanila pag nagsisinungaling .. never will tolerate Any of those actions or thinking ,na walang boundaries.. Nagbababuyan na dinadamay pa Mental health mo .. Habang Maaga isipin Mona kung after years Hindi sasagi sa iyo ang ginagwa nya at hahantong din kayo sa dead end ..

HAHHA NATULOG SA DAANAN NG BATA?? jk. It reallt can happen pero walang kasama? sila lang? psh. HAHAHA Coparent din kami nang ex ko for two yrs na ha. It never happened to us, respect nadin sa mga partners namin and hindi kami nagkikita basta basta na kami lang, laging kasama ang lolo lola, madalas nga wala pa yung tatay, madalas grandparents pa naghhatid sa anak namin. OP dont walk that path.

The GF was downstairs with the helper while the ex was upstairs sleeping with their kid. GF was telling me not to worry kasi she's just trying to do it for the kid. This path is very dangerous.

guard your heart OP yun nalang ahhhah

OP, if I were you, talk to her about your feelings. Kasi most probably mauulit/mangyayari ang hindi magandang naiisip mo. Iwan mo na kung di ka pa sure jan. At di din sya marunong rumespeto sa boundaries mo. Happened to my sister na engot🙄. My sister had a child with his ex bf. Iniwanan sila ni ex nya. Kami na magkakapatid nagsupport sa kanya since we live in the same house. Etong kapatid ko nagkaron ng new bf. We like the new bf. Mabait, tanggap na meron sya anak, tnggap din ng pamilya ng new bf sister ko. Ewan ko ba naman sa kapatid ko🤷‍♀️🤦🏻 pinatulan ulet ung ex nya. Ayun...iniwan sya ng matinong guy. Iniwan din sya ulet ng ex nyabg gago. Di ko ma-tolerate kagagahan nya🙄 ako na umalis ng bahay. Bahala na sya magpalaki sa anak nya dahil ayaw nman nya makinig. Hayyyy buhay...

Sorry but there's a huge chance na may nangyayare at niloloko ka nalang nila. Nobody deserves that kind of pambabastos.Makipaghiwalay na if you can.

Run sir, as fast as you can. Away from your GF and his ex.

Mamamatay na ba ako sa stress dahil sa mga pwede pang mangyari 'no? 😅

DKG. Valid yung nararamdaman mo. Hindi naman sa gusto ko manira ng relasyon nyo, pero may pinagsamahan din sila so? ewan. Also, may romatic relationship na kayo eh, mas priority nya sana yung maiisip at mararamdaman mo kaysa sa maingayan yung ex nya sa sala.

Sana sa sala na lang niya pinatulog. Boundaries, ika nga. Risky. Too many history between them and they have a child. P. S. Change the sheets before ka matulog sa kama.

DKG, OP. Di nirerespeto ng partner mo yung boundaries mo.

DKG. Tanggap mo yung bata at ina pero di kasama dun yung maging pikit mata sa disrespect pag nandiyan ang ex nya. Kung di nya kayang mag set ng boundaries ngayong may bagong boyfriend na sya at di ka kayang bigyan ng peace of mind, umalis kana jan OP. Sakit sa ulo at hinanakit ang mapapala mo jan. Hindi si ex ang dapat umaksyon kundi si girlfriend mo.

Sure ka ba OP na gusto mung e patuloy ang dynamic na ganyan? Gusto ko din ba e pursue at alagaan yung anak niya?

For the *dynamic*, siempre di ako kumportable. I try to balance my own sanity vs my feelings. Inisip ko naman lahat ng yan even before I engage in the relationship. As for taking care of the kid, yes. Minahal ko siya kaya dapat mahalin ko rin ang kasama sa buhay niya - except the ex, he should be with his other women.

if she really loves you, di ka nya dpat binibigyan ng mga dahilan na ikaka overthink mo. ofc bro, valid yang nararamdaman mo at natural lng na mag isip tayo Ng Ganon sa partner ntin. pero ung patulugin pa sya under the same roof knowing na committed na sya Sayo, man, ibang usapan na yon.

DKG, malay mo ba kung ano talaga ginagawa nila dun, baka mamaya nag re reminisce ng past nila.

"Muling ibalik ang tamis ng pag-ibigggg" 🎵🎶

Baka "Put your head on my shoulder, Hold me in your arms Baby, squeeze me, oh, so tight Show me that you love me too" sorry OP pero mahirap talaga mang hula.

Pero madali namang rumespeto eh. She told me na pinatulog niya sa taas, pinakain at pinauwi na.

its up to you OP, if you can sleep without thinking about it, then its okay. BUT you need to make sure na hindi na mauulit. she needs to respect also what you feel.

DKG. Dapat inisip niya yung mararamdaman mo out of respect lang ba. But first have you communicated this with her? Tell her how you feel about this.

Yes, I did. She said na wala naman daw mangyayari and I should trust her na nothing will happen.

Ah, the disrespect. Gusto mo pa ba ituloy OP? Kung may nangyayari pa sa kanlia in the past kahit hiwalay na sila, hindi malabo na may nagaganap ngayon. And in your own effin' room pa natutulog. The audacity, I mean the ACIDITY ,🤡

iwan mo na. .

That's downright disrespectful. She knows you're uncomfortable with it pero inulit pa. Pag isipan mo yan maigi. There's no peace of mind in a relationship where your boundaries are disrespected.

Your gf and her ex sleeping in the same room? naku di lang literal na sleep ang nangyayari dyan. na-NTR ka. Run

Hindi naman. TBF, she said na nasa baba daw siya while the ex, yung tatay ng anak nila, was sleeping sa room where my GF and I sleep para daw magpahinga dahil napagod sa biyahe.

But still, anything can happen lalo na nga't sabi mo this is not the first time. Good luck to you nalang OP at sana mali iniisip namin sa gf mo at ex niya

Madalas may konting truth ang lies para lang mawala Ng kaunti ang guilt at maloko Sarili nila ..And you believed naman?

I believe whatever she said. I did this para if the allegations were true, at least malinis kunsensya ko.

Link to this submission: https://www.reddit.com/r/AkoBaYungGago/comments/1bgu1e9/abyg_na_irrational_dahil_natulog_yung_tatay_ng/ Title of this post: ABYG na *irrational* dahil natulog yung tatay ng anak ng GF ko sa room kung saan kami natutulog? Backup of the post's body: Kami na ng GF ko for how many months now and I understood na hiwalay na sila ng tatay nung anak niya. As the current BF, I understand na hinihiram nung lalaki yung anak niya when he needs to as part of his responsibility. I also understood na they slept together several times kahit hindi na sila but she said it was all in the past na daw. So nung hinatid na yung bata sa bahay nila, my GF offered him to sleep in the same room I sleep dahil malayo pa daw yung biyahe at maingay daw sa sala and that got me anxious lalo na't I don't stay there. I just want to note na this is not the first time this happened and I feel uncomfortable na naulit ito. Your insights are appreciated. OP: JamiroleUsman *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AkoBaYungGago) if you have any questions or concerns.*

DKG. Pero i suggest you let her know what you feel when this happens. Valid din ang feelings mo when it comes to the relationship and you can and should speak up about it. Good luck OP.

dkg, I think it's plain common sense nalang and courtesy to you as the new bf na dapat hindi ganon. yung gf mo masyadong caring when dapat hindi na, kasi bat need sa bahay niyo patulugin, bat di niya hayaan sa sasakyan matulog or sa gas station kung antukin. hindi naman na bata yung ex niya, I don't see the need na alukin pa. eh ano naman kung malayo, di na problema ng gf mo yun, yung lalake bumabyahe don I doubt na hindi siya sanay sa long drive. anyway, consult your gf about this, talk about it and voice out your concerns. after all, dito nagsstart yung drifting apart kapag hindi ka na comfortable tapos makikita mo paulit ulit, sasama lang din loob mo.

DKG - your gf is doing it para sa anak nila "hopefully" and sana hanggang doon nalang yon. GGK - if itotolerate mo and hahayaan mo lang na hindi ka niya i respect as her present partner. Mauulit at mauulit yan scenario na yan since pinatulog niya ex niya sa same roof unless kung mapagusapan niyo ng maayos at gumawa siya ng paraan.

Missing information: Who owns the room/ apartment?

My bad for not posting. Si GF ang may-ari ng apartment, bought by her own money.

Looks like she gets to decide what happens in her place. Let her know your boundaries. Sabihin mo awkward. Kwarto mo rin yun. Paano pag andun kayo ni ex sabay tapos magbibihis si GF?

...not a good thought to think.

May update na sa drama na to: https://www.reddit.com/r/AkoBaYungGago/s/epSGWGEJHt

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