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Lady why do you keep beefing with that child? How many times and different ways do you need to hear you’re an asshole? You’re going to AITA yourself to and through the nursing home.
YTA
It's obvious there's a lot of information missing from your post. I wonder why. Why would a 10 year old insult you like this for no reason, and why would you kick her and your son to the street over something that could be solved with scolding and grounding her?
You did something to deserve it and you're trying to hide it.
From your previous posts, you clearly don't understand the difference between grounding someone and starving them, and you seem to have a *very* short fuse for yelling, sorry, scolding people. YTA, in all of these posts you've made.
Maybe look at how you raised your kids and why they don’t want you to use the same discipline on their kid. Seems like there’s more to this story. I’m no contact with my mom. It’s not easy. It hurts. But she hurts me more. Think about what it means when your kid says they would rather deal with the pain of loosing a mother (which is how it feels) then be around you
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Well I hope this was all worth it to you. Your daughter is likely going to follow as soon as she is of age. So congrats, you’re going from mom of four to mom of none!
At this point it’s another Francisca troll!
Here a link to her other posts! [one](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/10p12y9/aita_for_thinking_my_son_should_allow_me_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&utm_content=1&utm_term=15)
[two](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/13m74lp/aita_for_not_letting_my_grandchild_eat_something/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&utm_content=1&utm_term=15)
[three](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/10k4qym/aita_for_punishing_my_9_year_old_granddaughter/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1)
You've asked a few times already and were told YTA, then you create a new account and come back again with a modified story trying to paint you in a better light. How many times being voted YTA will it take?
For those wondering
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/13zlrpn/comment/jms8tm6/
You kicked your son and his 10 year old daughter out of your house, presumably making them homeless simply because your granddaughter was rude. You’ve raised 3 children so this is crazy to me. And the fact that both of your other sons left too paints a clear picture. At this point it’s on you for not realising that YTA. Best of luck to you but your son and granddaughter deserve better
Edit: also the fact that you’re referring to your granddaughter as “his daughter” clearly shows some distain on your behalf.
ESH- That's what you get for raising narcissistic entitled brats. The shit children you raised, raised even shittier children. You have no one to blame but yourself. Don't worry, they'll come crying back to you demanding you pay the rent or they'll demand to return home. Watch and wait.
Honey, you’ve known YTA since you’ve been on Reddit. I don’t know why you haven’t come to terms with the fact that you are abusive trash, especially since you love to leave stuff out because you know it makes you look even worse. Have you tried therapy, just for yourself? You need to let those who can leave, leave, and work on yourself. You won’t, because it’d require self reflection. But you should.
INFO can you afford your home on your own or will you need roommates?
If you can afford it, I don't see a downside to three adult men moving out and living together, they can do the sibling remake of Three Men and A Little Lady.
NTA
Seems like a lot of you're the AH votes happening here. Welcome to the cult of child worship where kids get to be savages and you're just supposed to turn a blind eye to it.
All of them living rent free? Nah. Good riddance.
YTA, you’re a bad grandmother and mother. You chose to have 5 kids. You kicked your 18 year old son out of the house because he took responsibility for impregnating his girlfriend which is very commendable. You deliberately cook things you know your granddaughter won’t like. You deprived her of food because she wasn’t very open to talk to her estranged grandma who didn’t want her to exist in the first place. And now you’re upset she isn’t kissing your feet??
Said with all love:
Whatever pain and trauma you have experienced is valid. The pain and trauma your family has experienced is equally valid.
Pain is pain. Humans have it.
I’ve read everything & consider this as a learning point.
Think about yourself at 10. The good and the bad. Remind her that whatever good and bad happened is almost always dictated by the adults surrounding her. Whatever bad (in most cases) was not your fault.
Now, think of your granddaughter. She is 10. She called you a bad name. Why? What inside of her allowed her to feel this is okay?
Can you see her views?
For the sake of healing your relationships with your children, I urge you to do this. Actually, I’m **begging** you for the sake of all of you. Seek whatever help you can find.
I know it’s hard. I had to do all of this as a young adult in order to become the best parent possible. Wishing you all hope and happiness for a better future. Truly.
You can take this learning point & make it a turning point. 💜
Edit/ can’t type
Omfg imagine being 10 years old, living with a single father who is struggling, facing homelessness, moving in with grandma, then feeling responsible for yourself and your father being kicked out of the only place you had to stay AND both of your uncles also move out and grandma throws herself a pity party, all of which you blame yourself for.
YTA
Kinda need more information. But it sounds like you tried to set boundaries and they disrespected them. A ten year old should not be using language like this in general. No OP NTA.
I feel like we’re missing so much context here. The one concerning part is when the 10 year old child called you a itch you “lost it”.
You are an adult and it is up to you to manage your own emotions. You don’t need to “put up with it” or “lose it”. You can calmly and rationally explain your point of view and ask others to do the same. You’re the mom here, I’m not sure what you’ve taught your kids but your modelling clearly isn’t great. So for that reason I’m going to go with YTA
NTA. Clearly she was a good mom if literally all of her children were living with her still otherwise they would have moved out together a long time ago and cut contact. I think it’s pretty clear here that the son isn’t raising his daughter right and won’t let his mother have any authority over her so she can’t discipline her like her father should be but won’t. A 10 year old should know better than to call anyone let alone her grandmother a bitch or any other name this disrespect has gone on long enough it’s not like the dad had no idea it was going on so if he cared he would have stopped it. She doesn’t need to take verbal abuse from a damn 10 year old when she is doing her and her father a favor.
INFO: You have a right to be respected in your own home, and you were doing something nice for your eldest son and his child, but did you ever properly and clearly address the daughter's abusive behavior with your son, or did you go straight from taking the abuse, to kicking him and her out when she called you a b\*tch?
There are something missing here, there is information left out. And your comments here isn't helpful. It's your house so normally this would be a N T A, but I have a feeling there is more, so I'm going YTA.
Info; what were the exact details of those incidents where she was as per your description? As in what happened/ who said what before she insulted you?
I don't know how to copy a comment (I know it's possible, other folks do it)
But OP stated that GD was supposed to wash the family dishes for the day, and after she had done it, youngest son (18) made more dishes just to mess with her, and OP told her she didn't do her chores right and to finish them.
I mean, yes. YTA.
From reading the comments, it seems like one of your sons was "messing with" this 10 year old kid by making more work for her (intentionally dirtying plates and putting them in the sink for her to clean). Instead of correcting his behavior, you chalked it up to "they do this all the time" and scold her to do them anyway. I can't even imagine kicking a literal child out onto the street for not doing the dishes properly.
It's pretty obvious that this motherless girl being raised by a very young father needs kindness, calm, and love. You behavior as you described it is chaotic, reactive, and extremely immature. There are SO MANY THINGS you could have done when she called you a name. Your actions explain so much about your kids.
Your granddaughter is 10. Reprimand her and explain why her calling you names is not alright. She is at an impressionable age, teach her right from wrong while she is under your roof. Set boundaries from the get go, you’d be amazed how much more respect you will get from her. Kicking them out is wrong, especially since she is a 10 year old child
YTA. She is 10, you are a grown up. You take the issue to her dad to have a word. But kids are kids, and your granddaughter has clearly being through something difficult to end up living with you. Have some grace and rise above it
INFO: there's way too much missing from this story. What kind of relationship do you have with your kids? I can't imagine them all moving out because of a single incident.
YTA.
You’re speaking of your 10-year-old granddaughter, as if she is a random person you had an encounter with on the street.
This child has been through the ringer, obviously because she was going to be homeless and her dad had her at 17. She is not set up to succeed.
She’s hurting.
She’s confused.
She’s scared.
She’s 10.
Yes, YTA. It's not just his daughter but YOUR GRANDDAUGHTER. After reviewing your multiple posts on this subject and other related ones, I could not be happier that they left, and I hope they do not reconsider or reestablish contact for their own sake. Take the quiet as a lesson, and learn to be a better, less self serving person OP.
YTA
It would have been better to have a conversation with your oldest son as to the behavior of his daughter and allowed him to handle it. Could have also gone with a different approach with her since in a new and stressful situation. I am sure if you apologize to all, it can be reversed and forgiven.
I suspect it's a lot more than your oldest child's daughter being disrespectful to you. If the whole house gets the heck out of there over this, you might be the A.
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NTA based on what was described.
Also I don't understand how a 10 year old is calling her grandmother - or frankly any other person a bitch.
This seems to be learned behavior and should have been corrected. Whether OP is actually mean spirited or whatever, is irrelevant. A 10 year old should know that you don't go around cursing or insulting people and that there are ramifications for that behavior.
If the father had punished the behavior instead of allowing it to continue, then I suspect they could have stayed instead of being kicked out. At a minimum, the child should have apologized for using the language and a discussion as to why she felt that way towards her grandmother
More info is needed…do the son is responsible? Does he work? The child seems spoiled, but it’s a child, so, not her fault….why do them almost became homeless?
well that says much more about you then your son. How do you not know these things. And if he is living with you, why have you not talked about financials. After reading all of your responses, there is a ton of information missing here.
NTA for saying an almost 30 year old man can't stay there if his daughter is going to curse at you and he's not going to do anything about her behavior. However, this girl's probably been through a lot and it really depends on if there's any other reason all your sons immediately want to move out
Are you the grandma who tried to force her son’s child to eat something she didn’t like and said she was rude for not eating it? Wouldn’t let her eat anything else? Cause you sound like her, not that it’s ever ok for a child to call an elder the word b*tch. But if you are than you definitely started this relationship off on this trajectory
If this is a legit account (with all of the other links to shitty parenting/grandparenting behavior, you need to be reported and probably never spend time alone with children again.
NTA. If his kid is going to be abusive toward you, they need to go. If your other kids are going to condone it they need to go. These little birds need to flee the nest and fend for themselves. You’ve done all you can for them. Also, your son is doing a very poor job of raising his daughter. He will have to learn the hard way when she smokes drinks does drugs doesn’t come home and call him names. I also agree that you’re leaving a lot out here. If they left and the others left them they have some place to go. Something about this situation doesn’t smell right
Going with YTA because there’s clearly some information being intentionally left out here and OP is being just as vague answering further questions about context of the situation. It’s telling that you’re not more forthcoming about the situation, likely because you know it’s paint you in a poor light.
But questions are: What’s the other rude behavior? What did you say to her, exactly, before she responded and called you a bitch? What is your relationship like with your other sons that they would up and leave just like that?
I’ve read OP’s comments and whilst I think it’s weird every child will want to move out, I’m reluctant to automatically see the situation as just OP having blame. I don’t vibe with a 10 year old using such language and especially being insulting to an adult. My initial instinct was that OP has raised spoilt kids that walk all over them. But with seeing the comments that even the minor child would like to move out, I am just going to say ESH. Every member of the family seems off and requires help of some sort, because this is in no way normal.
You are not telling us the full story. Your other kids wouldn't just up and move out because of a disrespectful child. There is something more going on than just that.
Give us the whole story
INFO: Your kid had a daughter at 17 and both your 21 and 18 year old were immediately willing to move out over your actions. There's clearly more at work here than just a badly behaved 10 year old. What aren't you telling us here?
This.
My immediate thought as a mom, and the child of some fairly problematically complicated parents, was what did you do that made her call you a bitch?
Did you deserve it?
And do you respect boundaries, or is your inability to let other people exist and offer them respect maybe the issue?
THIS!! Cause people wouldn’t choose the struggle for no reason. If they were allowed to stay but are choosing to leave, it says a lot about the people left in the house, aka OP.
Right question! Something is very much amiss in this. It's little unbelievable that three kids would move out all of a sudden. Also, what was the motivation for the grandkid to be rude to OP? And don't know if it's important, but what about the kid's mother?
To be fair - some children are just rude because they still have no good way to handle their emotions. Sometimes they‘re rude for the sake of it so that‘s not the best evidence. But the fact that his own children, adults, moved out instantly is a warning sign that OP probably fucked up prior that
From OP’s post history over the past 2 weeks, the “offensive behaviour” is:
- Whispering
- Not wanting to eat a curry that her grandmother *knew* she wouldn’t like
- Not answering her grandmother’s question “how old are you” and being sent to her room and denied dinner for being “rude”.
It should be noted that OP kicked her son out when he was 18 for wanting to take responsibility for his unborn child. OP never spoke to him or the child until 3 weeks ago and admits that her granddaughter “knows” OP didn’t want her to be born.
OP, your granddaughter was right in what she called you. YTA.
Honestly this post reminded me of a thing I read about parents whose children cut contact. they leave out a lot of information to make themselves look good and get support and act like there wasn't a reason, when in reality there was and either the parent can't remember it, didn't process's it, or just simply didn't care.
Edit: [I found it.](https://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/missing-missing-reasons.html)
Exactly. When 3 out of 3 kids go low/no contact with their parent(s), its a major red flag that there was issues caused BY the parents. Even more so if those siblings all still choose to stay in contact with each other
That is what I was thinking.
And it was actually 4 kids, not three. OP mentioned in the comments that the youngest tried to leave as well, but was underage.
This reminds me of my MIL! She will blatantly lie to make herself look better. Got kicked out of the house her ex owned because she said her other exes name (because she came up for the gender reveal of my SIL and was fucking around with that guy). I had to stiffle a laugh about it because instead of telling him her exs mom died and she was upset she probably blew up like usual when it's not in her favor.
She blew up on my husband because he told her she couldn't come to our house at 7pm to drop off gifts. She was invited to the next day but never showed. 🤷🏻♀️
Thank you for sharing this. I'm still emotionally stuck figuring out what it will take for me to finish morning the parents I'll never have. I feel like this article helps.
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INFO;
>From the first moment that they arrived his daughter
>A few days ago his daughter
>I let my oldest child(27M) and his daughter(10F)
Sooooo.... what's going on here that it's never *my granddaughter*, only *his daughter*... has it always been that way? Are there resentments seeping out? Where's the mom? Is that an underlying issue?
Edit: Woof... wow. YTA. There are soooo many reasons elaborated very well in a large chunk of the comments on this (and your other) posts. *Read* through them and do some self reflection...
You made your son, and granddaughter homeless all because she called you a bitch! Most people would be upset about that. But they also would understand that the kid was probably just angry,and they would put the child on a punishment. I assume that you are not exactly close to your granddaughter. What kind of relationship do you have with your son? Because it's unusual that the first thing you do when a problem arises is to throw them out on the streets knowing that they will be homeless. So was there prior resentment between the two?
INFO - Something does not sound right about your story. Why do your other sons respect their prodigal brother more than they do you? And why did they call you an AH? Does anybody in the house respect you? And why did your granddaughter (who you refer to as his daughter) call you a bitch? There seems to be a lot of hate for you there - why?
OP has posted a few times with different accounts regarding this situation and is always voted TA. This is the second time she has kicked this son out, the first being when his daughter was a newborn.
Okay, having read through the comments where you described what happened, OP, yeah, YTA.
Of course you don't like being called a bitch.
But you were acting like one, mom to mom, and kicking them out because a ten y/o was rude is a giant overreaction.
If you actually care to find some better and more useful ways to approach your granddaughter, [try this book to give you some tools.](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/164277.How_to_Talk_So_Teens_Will_Listen_and_Listen_So_Teens_Will_Talk)
Why do you not refer to your son's kid as your "granddaughter"? Sounds to me like you should be old enough certainly but also mature enough to sit down with your grandchild and explain that calling you a bitch is not cool. This little girl reacted to something you did not fess up to. This little girl needs some stability and safety and you are acting out more than she is. Grow up grandma and YTA big time.
OP has the emotional control of a 4 year old. In each and every of their stories they respond to the first instance of a 9/10 year old grandchild ( that they have refused to be a part of their life, and who knows that they think she should never have been born) "misbehaving" by yelling at her, forcing her to say something out loud she was trying to say quietly to her father while upset, grounding her and refusing to feed her. It is no wonder that the child hates her guts.
Just to sum up what you wrote in the comments:
Right before she called you a bitch, you tried to enforce chores on her. She was supposed to wash all dishes that day. She did. But your son, her uncle, dirtied more dishes to make her a bigger workload. Instead of telling your son off, you forced her to also clean the fake dishes. She called you a bitch for that. She may be 10, but hell she already knows what you are.
YTA.
Ps: this girl is not "your sons daughter". It is your granddaughter. You. Kicked. Out. Your. 10. Year. Old. Granddaughter.
NTA. It is your house, they don’t pay rent, and they were disrespectful. They should be kissing the ground you walk on for not only letting all 3 of them live with you rent free, but also for tolerating a bratty and disrespectful 10 year old for months just to help your son out.
NTA you shouldn’t have to put up with that behavior in your own home! I won’t be surprised when your other children come running back when they realize that being in the real world means they have a bills to pay. No, you do not have to put up with a 10-year-old calling you horrible names. She is not your responsibility and your son is a grown adult. Let them go.
Did you ever consider that your grandkid called you a bitch because you are one? If you're willing to make a ten year old, and your *own child,* homeless because the kid was rude, you're straight up a monster IMO. YTA
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YTA.
A child, who was born to teen parents, about to be homeless, is acting out??
Made a 10 year old child almost homeless again because she was disrespectful.
Don’t you think it’s disrespectful to hold a 10 year old accountable as an adult?
YTA. kids don't just move out with no notice unless you fucked up big time. my brother just did this because our mother has been abusive towards us for years.
I'm getting some disagreers here. There is clearly some issues with her and her kids but that doesn't change the issue she presented. She didn't want to be called names and the grand daughter called her names.
What is the disagreers point of views?
Major YTA. You're gonna make your grand daughter homeless for saying a mean word. After you've watched an adult bully her into doing more chores for fun.
There's a reason why every single one of your children wants to leave.
There has to be so much more to this story if all of your kids want to leave over whatever this incident was.
Obviously, 10 year old shouldn't be calling anyone a bitch but I'm going to guess there's a lot of dysfunction and toxicity in this poor kids life.
I got more info guys so basically the daughter was washing dishes and one of her son's thought it would be "funny" to put more dishes in the sink when she was washing them and she refused to wash them. The Mother got mad and said she wasn't doing it right and that it was her chore and she should do it right. That's probably why she called her a b***h.
But I think the mother said more but she isn't gonna say what she on here bc she doesn't want to be the bad guy.
Also more info she expects them to come crawling back when they realize they can't find an apartment In their budget.
Gonna add more if I find anything 👍
Edit: She says her son never mentioned how much money he was making but she assumed it wasn't a lot.
OP, your language indicates that you feel no emotional attachment to your granddaughter at all. With the way your other sons reacted, I'm guessing you weren't a very loving mother and kept yourself distant from them too. While a child shouldn't call anyone that name without a consequence - making it a teachable moment, I'm sure she did it because of something you did to her or her father...because clearly she is emotionally attached to her father and vice versa. I have in the past spoken up to an uncle who was derisively to my mother. I didn't call him names, but I spoke with venom when I told him not to talk to my mother that way. The bigger issue here is that there are a lot of things wrong with this situation. Perhaps you should look to yourself and your own behavior to find the answers. Therapy may help you to understand yourself and how you need to fix your relationship with your children and grandchild.
YTA for putting a 10 year old child out on the street without trying to fix the situation first.
NTA why is he not correcting her horrible behavior? She’s 10 and definitely knows better then that. Seems like she has crappy parents. Mine would never speak like that to an adult, they’ve been taught better than that.
YTA
You kicked a 10yo to the curb over some hurt feelings and effectively lost all of your kids in the process. This screams of missing missing reasons. No way everyone goes nuclear for nothing.
would you care to share the remainder of the information that you're clearly leaving out? no ten year old would call their grandparent such a name without a reason. what have you been doing to upset this young girl?
You are willing to see your son and granddaughter homeless because a 10yr old child was rude to you? 🤔. There's really no way you could have disciplined this child and worked through this? You really seem like YTA ngl.
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Wow. I thought you were pretty reasonable in this one. Good thing someone else posted links to your previous posts!
Gotta say, you might have swayed me to a "Everybody S\*\*\*s Here" if it wasn't for the title of your first post.
**AITA for punishing my 9 year old granddaughter, who I met 2 days ago** ***and who probably knows*** [i don't think she should have been born](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/10k4qym/aita_for_punishing_my_9_year_old_granddaughter/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1)**, by withholding food and sending her to her**
**room?**
Lady, if I were to tell you what I truly think of you, I'd be banned from the subreddit for a solid month. YTA to a staggering extreme.
Why do you waste your time posting on this forum if you don't intend to be honest here and hide information? Just to satisfy your own ego and have the world tell you you're not wrong? Geez. It's a 10 year old. If the kid is swearing, there's something wrong. Do your job as a grandma and teach her right from wrong.
YTA
Grandmother of the year award goes to you for not only creating three different accounts to post three different AITA stories on how bad your granddaughter is, but also clearly stating you don't think she should be here.
Not only that, you think all your children will fail without you, expecting them to come running back to you when your eldest proved he could do it, with a child, without your help for nine years.
And let me tell you something else, a LOT of people don't like or can't eat curry (other post). You trying to force your granddaughter to eat something she clearly doesn't like because YOU are offended is horrible.
It only says something about your character, not hers. I guarantee you you won't see your family again until you do some serious work on yourself and your attitude.
You will lose your daughter as well, I have no doubt about it.
Can’t make a judgment on what you’ve put in your post alone.
INfO: What was happening when she called you names?
Of course you don’t want to be insulted in your own home, but this is a 10yo child who clearly needs support that has been lacking in her life. I’m not condoning her behaviour but sounds like 10F hasn’t had things easy.
Something else is very wrong. First...calls sons child "daughter", not grand daughter. And one or two incident's of rudeness does not cause all the children of OP to up and leave. So OP is not telling the WHOLE STORY!
Agree. What efforts (or other events) were done to work things out? Or did you just kick them out without trying to address/work things out?
INFO for now, but likely going to start my vote with a Y.
Oh I’m almost 95% sure she posted a few time and was voted AH. If I am remembering correctly, she kicked her son out when he got is gf pregnant and wanted to stay in the girls life, I can not remember what happen to the mom but dad got full custody. And the “rude” behavior was something stupid like not wanting to hang out with OOP or not eating food she did not like. I’m sure if I scroll the AITD all the post will be there
Edit: [here’s one!](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/13m74lp/aita_for_not_letting_my_grandchild_eat_something/jktkf64/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3)
I remember this!!! She clearly don't want her grandchild to like her we all know why she is rude to her since then it must've been a lot of other situations like this
And even if not? She's 10. Is it inappropriate to swear at an adult? Sure.
But come on. When you get into a power struggle with a child, one of you has to be the adult.
I agree that it sounds like there's more going on here, but even if there wasn't, even if we take OP's story at face value, it's like Ma'am, you could be the adult here in this situation and not lose your entire goddamn mind over a cuss word.
Oh here’s another [one](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/10p12y9/aita_for_thinking_my_son_should_allow_me_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&utm_content=1&utm_term=15)
Edit [one more just for fun](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/10k4qym/aita_for_punishing_my_9_year_old_granddaughter/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1)
Oh christ.
I went to the comments that regaled some of the og post...
She took away food for an entire day because the kid didn't tell her how old she was?
Biiiiiiiiiiiiish.
I hope that all 3 siblings and that children are happy together.
Look, my parents disciplined me when I was young, even hitting me once or twice. But for major things like breaking my brothers nose, breaking a door, and injuring my little sister. Even so, to starve a 9 year old kid for not telling you their age or for not liking a type of food. The OP needs to go to psych ward because that is the behaviour of someone who is obviously clinically insane
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Lady why do you keep beefing with that child? How many times and different ways do you need to hear you’re an asshole? You’re going to AITA yourself to and through the nursing home.
YTA It's obvious there's a lot of information missing from your post. I wonder why. Why would a 10 year old insult you like this for no reason, and why would you kick her and your son to the street over something that could be solved with scolding and grounding her? You did something to deserve it and you're trying to hide it.
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From your previous posts, you clearly don't understand the difference between grounding someone and starving them, and you seem to have a *very* short fuse for yelling, sorry, scolding people. YTA, in all of these posts you've made.
Seriously, she sounds horrendous, nasty and doesn't even realise it, completely oblivious in fact.
Maybe look at how you raised your kids and why they don’t want you to use the same discipline on their kid. Seems like there’s more to this story. I’m no contact with my mom. It’s not easy. It hurts. But she hurts me more. Think about what it means when your kid says they would rather deal with the pain of loosing a mother (which is how it feels) then be around you
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Well I hope this was all worth it to you. Your daughter is likely going to follow as soon as she is of age. So congrats, you’re going from mom of four to mom of none!
> It's obvious there's a lot of information missing from your post Yep... https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/13zlrpn/comment/jms8tm6/
At this point it’s another Francisca troll! Here a link to her other posts! [one](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/10p12y9/aita_for_thinking_my_son_should_allow_me_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&utm_content=1&utm_term=15) [two](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/13m74lp/aita_for_not_letting_my_grandchild_eat_something/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&utm_content=1&utm_term=15) [three](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/10k4qym/aita_for_punishing_my_9_year_old_granddaughter/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1)
How many times are you gonna post here , you’re literally always voted YTA.
I think you know the answer to this already
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You've asked a few times already and were told YTA, then you create a new account and come back again with a modified story trying to paint you in a better light. How many times being voted YTA will it take? For those wondering https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/13zlrpn/comment/jms8tm6/
Your granddaughter already told you what you are... When even a 10 year old can see it, you know it must be true. You sound awful.
YTA. You're welcome.
You kicked your son and his 10 year old daughter out of your house, presumably making them homeless simply because your granddaughter was rude. You’ve raised 3 children so this is crazy to me. And the fact that both of your other sons left too paints a clear picture. At this point it’s on you for not realising that YTA. Best of luck to you but your son and granddaughter deserve better Edit: also the fact that you’re referring to your granddaughter as “his daughter” clearly shows some distain on your behalf.
4 children at least. There’s a minor daughter too. This lady is leaving out so much she’s a YTA just for that
Ah yes, I see that comment now
ESH- That's what you get for raising narcissistic entitled brats. The shit children you raised, raised even shittier children. You have no one to blame but yourself. Don't worry, they'll come crying back to you demanding you pay the rent or they'll demand to return home. Watch and wait.
Honey, you’ve known YTA since you’ve been on Reddit. I don’t know why you haven’t come to terms with the fact that you are abusive trash, especially since you love to leave stuff out because you know it makes you look even worse. Have you tried therapy, just for yourself? You need to let those who can leave, leave, and work on yourself. You won’t, because it’d require self reflection. But you should.
Oh damn. What did they leave out. I’m missing something👀
INFO can you afford your home on your own or will you need roommates? If you can afford it, I don't see a downside to three adult men moving out and living together, they can do the sibling remake of Three Men and A Little Lady.
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Then don't let the door hit them on the way out and enjoy the peace and quiet. NTA.
YTA and your entire posting history on reddit proves that. You’re leaving out key facts and embellishing other parts of the story to try and look good
NTA Seems like a lot of you're the AH votes happening here. Welcome to the cult of child worship where kids get to be savages and you're just supposed to turn a blind eye to it. All of them living rent free? Nah. Good riddance.
YTA, you’re a bad grandmother and mother. You chose to have 5 kids. You kicked your 18 year old son out of the house because he took responsibility for impregnating his girlfriend which is very commendable. You deliberately cook things you know your granddaughter won’t like. You deprived her of food because she wasn’t very open to talk to her estranged grandma who didn’t want her to exist in the first place. And now you’re upset she isn’t kissing your feet??
YTA. Bad language from a 10 year old gets a telling off and a firm discussion with their parent, not eviction.
I don’t understand why you keep calling your GRANDDAUGHTER your son’s child. For this alone YTA.
Said with all love: Whatever pain and trauma you have experienced is valid. The pain and trauma your family has experienced is equally valid. Pain is pain. Humans have it. I’ve read everything & consider this as a learning point. Think about yourself at 10. The good and the bad. Remind her that whatever good and bad happened is almost always dictated by the adults surrounding her. Whatever bad (in most cases) was not your fault. Now, think of your granddaughter. She is 10. She called you a bad name. Why? What inside of her allowed her to feel this is okay? Can you see her views? For the sake of healing your relationships with your children, I urge you to do this. Actually, I’m **begging** you for the sake of all of you. Seek whatever help you can find. I know it’s hard. I had to do all of this as a young adult in order to become the best parent possible. Wishing you all hope and happiness for a better future. Truly. You can take this learning point & make it a turning point. 💜 Edit/ can’t type
Info Where is the girls mother? Is she apart of her life?
You’re making a 10yo homeless over saying a mean word and you’re asking if you’re the AH YTA, grow up
Your kids are spoiled brats
INFO: What’s it like to know you’ve screwed up everything? You don’t seem like a good storyteller or a good parent
Omfg imagine being 10 years old, living with a single father who is struggling, facing homelessness, moving in with grandma, then feeling responsible for yourself and your father being kicked out of the only place you had to stay AND both of your uncles also move out and grandma throws herself a pity party, all of which you blame yourself for. YTA
You are absolutely the AH here and in every other post you've made about the same subject.
I wanna hear the brothers' perspectives. Something tells me there's more to this.
Kinda need more information. But it sounds like you tried to set boundaries and they disrespected them. A ten year old should not be using language like this in general. No OP NTA.
It feels there is more to it than this. What's missing?
My guess is all the reasons every single one of her kids is so eager for an excuse to leave.
Check their post history
Well, look on the bright side, now you have your house to yourself.
But who will do the chores?
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I feel like we’re missing so much context here. The one concerning part is when the 10 year old child called you a itch you “lost it”. You are an adult and it is up to you to manage your own emotions. You don’t need to “put up with it” or “lose it”. You can calmly and rationally explain your point of view and ask others to do the same. You’re the mom here, I’m not sure what you’ve taught your kids but your modelling clearly isn’t great. So for that reason I’m going to go with YTA
NTA. Clearly she was a good mom if literally all of her children were living with her still otherwise they would have moved out together a long time ago and cut contact. I think it’s pretty clear here that the son isn’t raising his daughter right and won’t let his mother have any authority over her so she can’t discipline her like her father should be but won’t. A 10 year old should know better than to call anyone let alone her grandmother a bitch or any other name this disrespect has gone on long enough it’s not like the dad had no idea it was going on so if he cared he would have stopped it. She doesn’t need to take verbal abuse from a damn 10 year old when she is doing her and her father a favor.
INFO: You have a right to be respected in your own home, and you were doing something nice for your eldest son and his child, but did you ever properly and clearly address the daughter's abusive behavior with your son, or did you go straight from taking the abuse, to kicking him and her out when she called you a b\*tch?
YTA. There is clearly some missing info that you're hiding and I'm sure there's a valid reason as to why you got called a b*tch. Lighten up.
There are something missing here, there is information left out. And your comments here isn't helpful. It's your house so normally this would be a N T A, but I have a feeling there is more, so I'm going YTA.
Info; what were the exact details of those incidents where she was as per your description? As in what happened/ who said what before she insulted you?
I don't know how to copy a comment (I know it's possible, other folks do it) But OP stated that GD was supposed to wash the family dishes for the day, and after she had done it, youngest son (18) made more dishes just to mess with her, and OP told her she didn't do her chores right and to finish them.
you can post this scenario again and again with less and less details but you will always be the asshole
Sounds like you are.
I mean, yes. YTA. From reading the comments, it seems like one of your sons was "messing with" this 10 year old kid by making more work for her (intentionally dirtying plates and putting them in the sink for her to clean). Instead of correcting his behavior, you chalked it up to "they do this all the time" and scold her to do them anyway. I can't even imagine kicking a literal child out onto the street for not doing the dishes properly. It's pretty obvious that this motherless girl being raised by a very young father needs kindness, calm, and love. You behavior as you described it is chaotic, reactive, and extremely immature. There are SO MANY THINGS you could have done when she called you a name. Your actions explain so much about your kids.
Your granddaughter is 10. Reprimand her and explain why her calling you names is not alright. She is at an impressionable age, teach her right from wrong while she is under your roof. Set boundaries from the get go, you’d be amazed how much more respect you will get from her. Kicking them out is wrong, especially since she is a 10 year old child
YTA. She is 10, you are a grown up. You take the issue to her dad to have a word. But kids are kids, and your granddaughter has clearly being through something difficult to end up living with you. Have some grace and rise above it
INFO: there's way too much missing from this story. What kind of relationship do you have with your kids? I can't imagine them all moving out because of a single incident.
YTA. You’re speaking of your 10-year-old granddaughter, as if she is a random person you had an encounter with on the street. This child has been through the ringer, obviously because she was going to be homeless and her dad had her at 17. She is not set up to succeed. She’s hurting. She’s confused. She’s scared. She’s 10.
Yes, YTA. It's not just his daughter but YOUR GRANDDAUGHTER. After reviewing your multiple posts on this subject and other related ones, I could not be happier that they left, and I hope they do not reconsider or reestablish contact for their own sake. Take the quiet as a lesson, and learn to be a better, less self serving person OP.
YTA It would have been better to have a conversation with your oldest son as to the behavior of his daughter and allowed him to handle it. Could have also gone with a different approach with her since in a new and stressful situation. I am sure if you apologize to all, it can be reversed and forgiven.
NTA. They can all live together
INFO - what was happening immediately before your granddaughter called you that?
Why do you call her your son's child and not your granddaughter? WTF
I suspect it's a lot more than your oldest child's daughter being disrespectful to you. If the whole house gets the heck out of there over this, you might be the A.
YTA. If a 10 year old is calling you a bitch they're probably right
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NTA based on what was described. Also I don't understand how a 10 year old is calling her grandmother - or frankly any other person a bitch. This seems to be learned behavior and should have been corrected. Whether OP is actually mean spirited or whatever, is irrelevant. A 10 year old should know that you don't go around cursing or insulting people and that there are ramifications for that behavior. If the father had punished the behavior instead of allowing it to continue, then I suspect they could have stayed instead of being kicked out. At a minimum, the child should have apologized for using the language and a discussion as to why she felt that way towards her grandmother
I dunno if anyone is gonna vote on this with so much obviously left out
This sounds like a doomed family.
More info is needed…do the son is responsible? Does he work? The child seems spoiled, but it’s a child, so, not her fault….why do them almost became homeless?
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well that says much more about you then your son. How do you not know these things. And if he is living with you, why have you not talked about financials. After reading all of your responses, there is a ton of information missing here.
I’m interested to know where the other siblings are going to go since the son is moving out when he has had nowhere to go.. something is missing here.
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If your kids can't afford it, they should start a gofundme and post it here - I'd happily donate to help them stay away from you
Why do you hate your kids so much?
You truly are a terrible parent, I hope they succeed in spite of you
YTA, unreliable narrator
NTA for saying an almost 30 year old man can't stay there if his daughter is going to curse at you and he's not going to do anything about her behavior. However, this girl's probably been through a lot and it really depends on if there's any other reason all your sons immediately want to move out
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Yikes. I'm now leaning to YTA All your kids want to leave over this? It feels like this is the final straw!
Are you the grandma who tried to force her son’s child to eat something she didn’t like and said she was rude for not eating it? Wouldn’t let her eat anything else? Cause you sound like her, not that it’s ever ok for a child to call an elder the word b*tch. But if you are than you definitely started this relationship off on this trajectory
This probably didnt happen at all. Sounds like someone needing attention and Reddit is it.
If this is a legit account (with all of the other links to shitty parenting/grandparenting behavior, you need to be reported and probably never spend time alone with children again.
NTA. Just think, you have the house to yourself now. Turn the vacated rooms into fun rooms for yourself.
NTA. You had good intentions, but you're not a doormat.
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YTA-So you’re mad your granddaughter didn’t want to you at the moment. Like she didn’t have a lot going on like losing her home and change schools?
Congratulations! All your kids were living with you, correct? You’ve just emancipated yourself wether you ATH or not! Fly free and live life!
NTA. If his kid is going to be abusive toward you, they need to go. If your other kids are going to condone it they need to go. These little birds need to flee the nest and fend for themselves. You’ve done all you can for them. Also, your son is doing a very poor job of raising his daughter. He will have to learn the hard way when she smokes drinks does drugs doesn’t come home and call him names. I also agree that you’re leaving a lot out here. If they left and the others left them they have some place to go. Something about this situation doesn’t smell right
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What about your other post where she wouldn't eat the curry you made
Sounds to me like he's trying to protect his daughter from your controlling, overbearing "parenting"
But...if you raised him right, how can it be that he didn't know how to parent correctly as a 17 yo dad ?
Going with YTA because there’s clearly some information being intentionally left out here and OP is being just as vague answering further questions about context of the situation. It’s telling that you’re not more forthcoming about the situation, likely because you know it’s paint you in a poor light. But questions are: What’s the other rude behavior? What did you say to her, exactly, before she responded and called you a bitch? What is your relationship like with your other sons that they would up and leave just like that?
I’ve read OP’s comments and whilst I think it’s weird every child will want to move out, I’m reluctant to automatically see the situation as just OP having blame. I don’t vibe with a 10 year old using such language and especially being insulting to an adult. My initial instinct was that OP has raised spoilt kids that walk all over them. But with seeing the comments that even the minor child would like to move out, I am just going to say ESH. Every member of the family seems off and requires help of some sort, because this is in no way normal.
There’s something more to this..
You are not telling us the full story. Your other kids wouldn't just up and move out because of a disrespectful child. There is something more going on than just that. Give us the whole story
You must be a real trash can of a mother.
NTA. Good riddance to all your sons. Now you’ll have peace of mind, go and do you and enjoy life.
INFO: Your kid had a daughter at 17 and both your 21 and 18 year old were immediately willing to move out over your actions. There's clearly more at work here than just a badly behaved 10 year old. What aren't you telling us here?
This. My immediate thought as a mom, and the child of some fairly problematically complicated parents, was what did you do that made her call you a bitch? Did you deserve it? And do you respect boundaries, or is your inability to let other people exist and offer them respect maybe the issue?
THIS!! Cause people wouldn’t choose the struggle for no reason. If they were allowed to stay but are choosing to leave, it says a lot about the people left in the house, aka OP.
Right question! Something is very much amiss in this. It's little unbelievable that three kids would move out all of a sudden. Also, what was the motivation for the grandkid to be rude to OP? And don't know if it's important, but what about the kid's mother?
To be fair - some children are just rude because they still have no good way to handle their emotions. Sometimes they‘re rude for the sake of it so that‘s not the best evidence. But the fact that his own children, adults, moved out instantly is a warning sign that OP probably fucked up prior that
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Exactly! Why are all of them against OP? If it's one, it's possible. Two, may be . But all three children and a grand child are against OP!
Something tells me the child is just a little more honest than OP's kids.
From OP’s post history over the past 2 weeks, the “offensive behaviour” is: - Whispering - Not wanting to eat a curry that her grandmother *knew* she wouldn’t like - Not answering her grandmother’s question “how old are you” and being sent to her room and denied dinner for being “rude”. It should be noted that OP kicked her son out when he was 18 for wanting to take responsibility for his unborn child. OP never spoke to him or the child until 3 weeks ago and admits that her granddaughter “knows” OP didn’t want her to be born. OP, your granddaughter was right in what she called you. YTA.
Honestly this post reminded me of a thing I read about parents whose children cut contact. they leave out a lot of information to make themselves look good and get support and act like there wasn't a reason, when in reality there was and either the parent can't remember it, didn't process's it, or just simply didn't care. Edit: [I found it.](https://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/missing-missing-reasons.html)
Oh yes. This is the holy canon in r/raisedbynarcissists
Exactly. When 3 out of 3 kids go low/no contact with their parent(s), its a major red flag that there was issues caused BY the parents. Even more so if those siblings all still choose to stay in contact with each other
That is what I was thinking. And it was actually 4 kids, not three. OP mentioned in the comments that the youngest tried to leave as well, but was underage.
This was my exact same thought as well. Thank you for linking it.
This reminds me of my MIL! She will blatantly lie to make herself look better. Got kicked out of the house her ex owned because she said her other exes name (because she came up for the gender reveal of my SIL and was fucking around with that guy). I had to stiffle a laugh about it because instead of telling him her exs mom died and she was upset she probably blew up like usual when it's not in her favor. She blew up on my husband because he told her she couldn't come to our house at 7pm to drop off gifts. She was invited to the next day but never showed. 🤷🏻♀️
fascinating
Thank you for sharing this. I'm still emotionally stuck figuring out what it will take for me to finish morning the parents I'll never have. I feel like this article helps.
Story doesn't add up. Automatic YTA
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NTA. Let them go !
NTA but they all are. You do not have to be insulted on your own home. Let them go and do not feel bad. They do not respect you
I’m positive there is ALOT being left out here. Your other two children being so eager to move out because of this is telling.
INFO; >From the first moment that they arrived his daughter >A few days ago his daughter >I let my oldest child(27M) and his daughter(10F) Sooooo.... what's going on here that it's never *my granddaughter*, only *his daughter*... has it always been that way? Are there resentments seeping out? Where's the mom? Is that an underlying issue? Edit: Woof... wow. YTA. There are soooo many reasons elaborated very well in a large chunk of the comments on this (and your other) posts. *Read* through them and do some self reflection...
You made your son, and granddaughter homeless all because she called you a bitch! Most people would be upset about that. But they also would understand that the kid was probably just angry,and they would put the child on a punishment. I assume that you are not exactly close to your granddaughter. What kind of relationship do you have with your son? Because it's unusual that the first thing you do when a problem arises is to throw them out on the streets knowing that they will be homeless. So was there prior resentment between the two?
INFO - Something does not sound right about your story. Why do your other sons respect their prodigal brother more than they do you? And why did they call you an AH? Does anybody in the house respect you? And why did your granddaughter (who you refer to as his daughter) call you a bitch? There seems to be a lot of hate for you there - why?
Read the thread. Breathe.
OP has posted a few times with different accounts regarding this situation and is always voted TA. This is the second time she has kicked this son out, the first being when his daughter was a newborn.
Found one of your previous posts for more context and, yeah. YTA
Okay, having read through the comments where you described what happened, OP, yeah, YTA. Of course you don't like being called a bitch. But you were acting like one, mom to mom, and kicking them out because a ten y/o was rude is a giant overreaction. If you actually care to find some better and more useful ways to approach your granddaughter, [try this book to give you some tools.](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/164277.How_to_Talk_So_Teens_Will_Listen_and_Listen_So_Teens_Will_Talk)
NTA - Boom, fixed three problems at once.
Why do you not refer to your son's kid as your "granddaughter"? Sounds to me like you should be old enough certainly but also mature enough to sit down with your grandchild and explain that calling you a bitch is not cool. This little girl reacted to something you did not fess up to. This little girl needs some stability and safety and you are acting out more than she is. Grow up grandma and YTA big time.
OP has the emotional control of a 4 year old. In each and every of their stories they respond to the first instance of a 9/10 year old grandchild ( that they have refused to be a part of their life, and who knows that they think she should never have been born) "misbehaving" by yelling at her, forcing her to say something out loud she was trying to say quietly to her father while upset, grounding her and refusing to feed her. It is no wonder that the child hates her guts.
Just to sum up what you wrote in the comments: Right before she called you a bitch, you tried to enforce chores on her. She was supposed to wash all dishes that day. She did. But your son, her uncle, dirtied more dishes to make her a bigger workload. Instead of telling your son off, you forced her to also clean the fake dishes. She called you a bitch for that. She may be 10, but hell she already knows what you are. YTA. Ps: this girl is not "your sons daughter". It is your granddaughter. You. Kicked. Out. Your. 10. Year. Old. Granddaughter.
NTA. It is your house, they don’t pay rent, and they were disrespectful. They should be kissing the ground you walk on for not only letting all 3 of them live with you rent free, but also for tolerating a bratty and disrespectful 10 year old for months just to help your son out.
NTA you shouldn’t have to put up with that behavior in your own home! I won’t be surprised when your other children come running back when they realize that being in the real world means they have a bills to pay. No, you do not have to put up with a 10-year-old calling you horrible names. She is not your responsibility and your son is a grown adult. Let them go.
Did you ever consider that your grandkid called you a bitch because you are one? If you're willing to make a ten year old, and your *own child,* homeless because the kid was rude, you're straight up a monster IMO. YTA
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YTA. A child, who was born to teen parents, about to be homeless, is acting out?? Made a 10 year old child almost homeless again because she was disrespectful. Don’t you think it’s disrespectful to hold a 10 year old accountable as an adult?
YTA. kids don't just move out with no notice unless you fucked up big time. my brother just did this because our mother has been abusive towards us for years.
NTA, it is your house and if you have rules they should be following them. Just don't expect any calls on birthdays or visits during the holidays.
I'm getting some disagreers here. There is clearly some issues with her and her kids but that doesn't change the issue she presented. She didn't want to be called names and the grand daughter called her names. What is the disagreers point of views?
Hell, that's all it took to get the lot of them to leave. Congratulations. Nta
Major YTA. You're gonna make your grand daughter homeless for saying a mean word. After you've watched an adult bully her into doing more chores for fun. There's a reason why every single one of your children wants to leave.
Byeeeeeee my opinion you're all grown spread your wings I'll stay home by myself no harm no foul
Info where are they all going if their older brother is homeless?
There has to be so much more to this story if all of your kids want to leave over whatever this incident was. Obviously, 10 year old shouldn't be calling anyone a bitch but I'm going to guess there's a lot of dysfunction and toxicity in this poor kids life.
I got more info guys so basically the daughter was washing dishes and one of her son's thought it would be "funny" to put more dishes in the sink when she was washing them and she refused to wash them. The Mother got mad and said she wasn't doing it right and that it was her chore and she should do it right. That's probably why she called her a b***h. But I think the mother said more but she isn't gonna say what she on here bc she doesn't want to be the bad guy. Also more info she expects them to come crawling back when they realize they can't find an apartment In their budget. Gonna add more if I find anything 👍 Edit: She says her son never mentioned how much money he was making but she assumed it wasn't a lot.
OP, your language indicates that you feel no emotional attachment to your granddaughter at all. With the way your other sons reacted, I'm guessing you weren't a very loving mother and kept yourself distant from them too. While a child shouldn't call anyone that name without a consequence - making it a teachable moment, I'm sure she did it because of something you did to her or her father...because clearly she is emotionally attached to her father and vice versa. I have in the past spoken up to an uncle who was derisively to my mother. I didn't call him names, but I spoke with venom when I told him not to talk to my mother that way. The bigger issue here is that there are a lot of things wrong with this situation. Perhaps you should look to yourself and your own behavior to find the answers. Therapy may help you to understand yourself and how you need to fix your relationship with your children and grandchild. YTA for putting a 10 year old child out on the street without trying to fix the situation first.
The fact that you’re falling your granddaughter “his daughter” shows my YTA
NTA why is he not correcting her horrible behavior? She’s 10 and definitely knows better then that. Seems like she has crappy parents. Mine would never speak like that to an adult, they’ve been taught better than that.
Not nearly enough context but based on this alone, YTA. She's literally 10 years old.
YTA You kicked a 10yo to the curb over some hurt feelings and effectively lost all of your kids in the process. This screams of missing missing reasons. No way everyone goes nuclear for nothing.
would you care to share the remainder of the information that you're clearly leaving out? no ten year old would call their grandparent such a name without a reason. what have you been doing to upset this young girl?
You are willing to see your son and granddaughter homeless because a 10yr old child was rude to you? 🤔. There's really no way you could have disciplined this child and worked through this? You really seem like YTA ngl.
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YTA For not even calling your granddaughter that name. You do realize you are related to her, too, right? I’m sure there is a lot more to this story.
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You AGAIN. How many times do we have to tell you what a ridiculous asshole you are?!
Wow. I thought you were pretty reasonable in this one. Good thing someone else posted links to your previous posts! Gotta say, you might have swayed me to a "Everybody S\*\*\*s Here" if it wasn't for the title of your first post. **AITA for punishing my 9 year old granddaughter, who I met 2 days ago** ***and who probably knows*** [i don't think she should have been born](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/10k4qym/aita_for_punishing_my_9_year_old_granddaughter/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1)**, by withholding food and sending her to her** **room?** Lady, if I were to tell you what I truly think of you, I'd be banned from the subreddit for a solid month. YTA to a staggering extreme.
Why do you waste your time posting on this forum if you don't intend to be honest here and hide information? Just to satisfy your own ego and have the world tell you you're not wrong? Geez. It's a 10 year old. If the kid is swearing, there's something wrong. Do your job as a grandma and teach her right from wrong.
YTA Grandmother of the year award goes to you for not only creating three different accounts to post three different AITA stories on how bad your granddaughter is, but also clearly stating you don't think she should be here. Not only that, you think all your children will fail without you, expecting them to come running back to you when your eldest proved he could do it, with a child, without your help for nine years. And let me tell you something else, a LOT of people don't like or can't eat curry (other post). You trying to force your granddaughter to eat something she clearly doesn't like because YOU are offended is horrible. It only says something about your character, not hers. I guarantee you you won't see your family again until you do some serious work on yourself and your attitude. You will lose your daughter as well, I have no doubt about it.
Can’t make a judgment on what you’ve put in your post alone. INfO: What was happening when she called you names? Of course you don’t want to be insulted in your own home, but this is a 10yo child who clearly needs support that has been lacking in her life. I’m not condoning her behaviour but sounds like 10F hasn’t had things easy.
From previous posts, much of what has been hard in this child's life recently has been having to interact with this complete AH of an OP.
Something else is very wrong. First...calls sons child "daughter", not grand daughter. And one or two incident's of rudeness does not cause all the children of OP to up and leave. So OP is not telling the WHOLE STORY!
You are leaving information out on purpose.
Agree. What efforts (or other events) were done to work things out? Or did you just kick them out without trying to address/work things out? INFO for now, but likely going to start my vote with a Y.
The fact that there is a mass exodus makes me think the same.
Oh I’m almost 95% sure she posted a few time and was voted AH. If I am remembering correctly, she kicked her son out when he got is gf pregnant and wanted to stay in the girls life, I can not remember what happen to the mom but dad got full custody. And the “rude” behavior was something stupid like not wanting to hang out with OOP or not eating food she did not like. I’m sure if I scroll the AITD all the post will be there Edit: [here’s one!](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/13m74lp/aita_for_not_letting_my_grandchild_eat_something/jktkf64/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3)
I remember that one because OP's behavior was so out of line. OP, YTA.
Oh yeah I remember this one. Very much AH.
I remember this!!! She clearly don't want her grandchild to like her we all know why she is rude to her since then it must've been a lot of other situations like this
Maybe the kid was right to swear at her grandmother.
And even if not? She's 10. Is it inappropriate to swear at an adult? Sure. But come on. When you get into a power struggle with a child, one of you has to be the adult. I agree that it sounds like there's more going on here, but even if there wasn't, even if we take OP's story at face value, it's like Ma'am, you could be the adult here in this situation and not lose your entire goddamn mind over a cuss word.
Well, after reading all your other post I would have to agree with your children. YTA
Wait... that's a 29F in her other posts on that profile.....
oh holy hell, I hope those children never come back
Oof!
I notice she doesn’t refer to this child as her grandchild. Always “my sons daughter”. That seems very odd and makes me wonder what she’s leaving out.
I remember her. YTA
Thanks for finding this one. Wow that women is an AH. YTA
Oh here’s another [one](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/10p12y9/aita_for_thinking_my_son_should_allow_me_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&utm_content=1&utm_term=15) Edit [one more just for fun](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/10k4qym/aita_for_punishing_my_9_year_old_granddaughter/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1)
Whoa what a roller coaster, so iron fist mom and gma. OP needs to get the "I'm the best mom" chip off her shoulder.
Oh christ. I went to the comments that regaled some of the og post... She took away food for an entire day because the kid didn't tell her how old she was? Biiiiiiiiiiiiish. I hope that all 3 siblings and that children are happy together.
Look, my parents disciplined me when I was young, even hitting me once or twice. But for major things like breaking my brothers nose, breaking a door, and injuring my little sister. Even so, to starve a 9 year old kid for not telling you their age or for not liking a type of food. The OP needs to go to psych ward because that is the behaviour of someone who is obviously clinically insane
You, sumerquen, are my hero for this. You should make a Boru post with these. This lady is nuts!
That’s the worst!