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>I told my sister what happened and she said that my neighbor was right, I could take his packages if I was home cause that’s what a good neighbor would do. There are limits to being a "good neighbour." Also, it's a two-way street. If he was a good neighbour, he wouldn't have repeatedly put you in this position, and he certainly wouldn't have called you a bitch, which shows his true colours. NTA

NTA Agree 💯. You’ve received your neighbor’s package on his behalf more than enough times. Has he ever thanked you for that, OP? It doesn’t seem like it since he called you a bitch. He’s not being a “good neighbor” by expecting you to continually receive his packages then resorting to name-calling when you refuse to do it. He needs to correct the problem by putting his name on his mailbox.

NTA. Sure, a "good neighbor" might take in someone's packages. However, the concept of being a good neighbor goes both ways, and your neighbor should just label his damn mailbox so he doesn't have to impose on you. As a side note, you shouldn't take on the responsibility; you don't know what's in these packages and you don't know what would happen if a package goes missing and he blames you for stealing it.

INFO How hard is it to label a mailbox? Is it just writing your name on a card and sliding it in a slot, or do you have to go to a post office or what? I would accept the package, but after a month of him still not doing it, I may start tossing the package on his doorstep. My mailbox just has a number, but to get the mailbox in a community box, you have to go to the post office and apply for the address. Just wondering if that is the case here. Not that it excuses him taking a MONTH to do it.

You just have to put your name on something and slide it in a slot, that’s why I told him I could do it for him if he wanted

I’d be very suspicious he was being shipped things that are illegal.

He should be embarrassed he hasn't found the time to do something so trivial yet.

Do it for him, don’t ask, just do it.

I live in a small apartment complex and we have a cluster box for our mail along with a couple of parcel boxes for the packages. You cannot just put your name on the box. When a new tenant moves in, we have to go to the post office and show them our address and they assign us a box.

There is actually a label with the name and address assigned to the box however it’s placed at the rear of the cubbyhole and is accessed from the letter carriers side of the cluster box. We do not put our name in that box.

NTA. >I told my sister what happened and she said that my neighbor was right, I could take his packages if I was home cause that’s what a good neighbor would do. Being a good neighbor could also get you arrested for taking someone else's packages.

NTA and I’m surprised so many packages were left with you, but couldn’t be left at the correct address without a name.

I honestly don’t know, my mom said one of the possibility is they’re calling him beforehand and he tells them it’s safe to let them to me

If this is in the US, the mailbox is not required to be name-labeled for delivery. I had a postal worker once tell me that if I didn't list every person in the residence who got mail, he wasn't delivering it. He even faked up an official looking letter with a cut-and-paste USPS logo on it demanding that. I took it to his local post master and threatened to get a lawyer involved (no way I'm putting my minor children's names on a cluster-fuck box that can be identified by apartment unit number). Mail is delivered to an ADDRESS unless a change of address has been properly filed for the person who used to get their mail there. I don't know the rules outside of the US and there's no indication other than spelling that you're somewhere else (neighbor vs neighbour indicates not British, dor example). Your postal carrier is being a lazy asshole. NTA

NTA, dude didn't handle his business and blames someone else. No way I'm doing anything for that person if they berate you over a minor inconvenience that was their fault.

NTA you aren't his secretary.

 NTA. Your neighbor is being very entitled.  Perhaps you should introduce him to your sister? ;) Edit to add: go ahead and label his mailbox for him: THE ASSHOLE WHO WON’T PUT HIS NAME ON HIS DAMN MAILBOX 

I love this!

Nope. NTA I had the same thing happen to me. A month is sufficient time for the current or previous owner of a place to get their mail situation sorted.

NTA. Your sister and your neighbor are completely wrong. It’s pretty clear he had no intention to put his name on his mailbox. Why do that, when having you deliver his mail personally is so much easier?? (Yes, that’s sarcasm.) If your sister thinks it’s such a nothing perhaps *she* should volunteer to have all his mail delivered to *her* address so that she can be his personal mail delivery person from now on?? Seriously. What is wrong w people?!?? Also, you take NO responsibility for his mail from this point on. Talk to the PO- they can start to RTS his mail- as they should’ve been doing all along and leave you out of it.

I find it hard to believe he would call you selfish and a bitch for not collecting his mail, when you hardly know him. If he really did, then he deserves to go out of his way to collect his mail.

He’s just mad I’m not getting his package for him when I can easily do it and honestly you wouldn’t believe the kind of neighbors I have where I live lol

That’s literally hilarious to me. I woulda said, “okay great, then I guess I’m a bitch! the bitch will no longer be handling your mail, have a great day!!!!”  What an absurd man lol

He has had ample opportunity to put his name on the mailbox. Personally, I would not have told him that he had gotten a package, I'd have let him find out the hard way. There is a very simple solution to the problem - he can put his name on the mailbox. NTA And if you sister thinks you should be doing it, have her come over and wait for the mail carrier.

NTA. I'm extremely suspicious of people like this. You don't know what's inside those packages and why he keeps on refusing to put his name on his mailbox. Never accept another package addressed to him. And never let him know that you declined the package. The post office is obligated to leave a notification.

NTA Stop answering the door for deliveries unless you’re expecting something for yourself. Anything that’s left on your doorstep gets marked with Return To Sender and put back in the outgoing mailbox. Consider cameras and motion-activated lights around your property in case your neighbor decides to vandalize your property, or worse. Please double-check your door and window locks. Document any and every interaction with this person. Your neighbor is currently an asshole, but definitely has the potential to promote to unhinged or dangerous.

And because I listen to a lot of true crime podcasts, may be creeping on her. Easy way to have her come over on a regular basis is for her to deliver his mail/packages.

NTA. Good neighbours don't inconvenience other neighbours by making them "look out" for them to be in, to deliver parcels/mail or interrupting them to collect while they may be in the shower, eating, or in the middle of something that is annoying to interrupt (vacuuming upstairs, etc) Plus, if neighbours are obnoxious, you could get allegations of theft or damage - I don't take parcels in for my neighbours for this reason (and have my own delivered to collection point, or instruct to leave in safe place). My best one was the cheeky fucker getting a parcel delivered to my address because they used to live here, were friends with my horrible neighbours and were visiting that day to "collect". The parcel had previously been left with yet ANOTHER neighbour while I was out, who insisted I take it because it was my address and they didn't want to deal with it. When I didn't answer the door, they started banging and shouting that they knew I was there and that parcel was for them. Me \*throws open bathroom window and truthfully screams back\* I'M IN THE SHOWER, YOU'LL JUST HAVE TO WAIT

NTA. He’s had more than enough time to get his name on his mailbox. He was hoisted by his own petard.

NTA. Not your mail not your job. Since he called you a bitch I would show him what a bitch does, next time you get his packages write it tell the mailman “return to sender.” He won’t take care of his responsibilities that makes him an AH. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.

It seems that neighbour doesn’t mind you taking their packages, but you seem to mind. You even offered to help with their mailbox, but they said they have it covered. Sounds to me like neighbour didn’t actually have anything handled, and was just hoping you could continue to help them out, when there is a simple solution to keep you out of loop (which you prefer). Nta

NTA. I have a three strikes rule with telling things to neighbors. If they still do not listen to what I say, it is on them. Your request to him to label his own mailbox is trivial and would take a few minutes if he felt like printing out his name and cutting a piece of paper, and less if he wrote it. It is something he is supposed to do. To anyone who complains, including the neighbor, tell them that the neighbor needs to start acting like an adult and do the basic things needed and that you are not their parent to hold their hands to make sure they are doing it.

I'm confused here... why does a mailbox have to have a person's name on it? I've never heard of such a thing. Deliveries are usually based on address alone. Name really means nothing.

NTA and your sister is naiive. He was doing this on purpose out of sheer laziness. A good neighbor would have been apologetic and put their damn name on a mailbox after a MONTH. A mailbox I'm betting they walk past every day. I have the occasional incorrect delivery and I certainly walk it over to the right house. If it happened EVERY time either the carrier and/or my neighbor would get a talking to, especially if it became obvious the same one was having their crap sent to my door.

NTA - Put his name on a piece of paper or sticker and tape it to his mailbox. Problem solved.

NTA this is a weird power trip on his part. He is an adult he needs to take responsibility

NTA He never asked you to take them in the first place. You were nice to someone who just moved in. His assumption that you would continue to do so is such an AH move on his part.

NTA You're not responsible for accepting his packages, or the liability if they are lost or damaged Dude needs to label his damn mailbox

NTA.  You’re not his courier. You communicated this fact to him and offered a solution. He ignored it.   If he can’t be bothered to put his name on things, then he can put on his big boy pants and go to the post office to pick up his parcel like everyone else.    He was the asshole here before he calked you a bitch.  Your sister is either missing some of the story or is out to lunch. Being a good neighbor doesn’t mean always doing something for someone. It simply means being considerate of your neighbors and their time when you can. 

What happens to the rest of his Mail?

Idk I just get the package

NTA and your sister is wrong. Being a good neighbour is taking a package at the start while he was getting settled in, which is what you did. Now he’s just being a user. And what would happen the time he’s expecting a delivery, it doesn’t arrive but he gets it into his head that it was delivered to you as usual but you’re not handling it up??

NTA. You were a good neighbor by accepting his packages when he first moved in and also letting him know he needed to get his name on his mailbox. It’s not that hard to find time somewhere within a month to get your name on your mailbox. At this point he’s being a bad neighbor by taking advantage of you and forcing you to spend your time watching for him to return and delivering his packages. Honestly you didn’t even need to let him know you refused one. If this doesn’t get him to put his name on his mailbox continue refusing them and don’t bother telling him. And don’t accept packages for a neighbor. Sure it’s a nice thing to do, but you have no idea what he could be having delivered and if it’s legal or not. I’ve advised this in other posts similar to this because my parents had a neighbor who had drugs shipped to him and my Mom used to accept packages for them. She stopped after she found out what they were getting and that she could have been an accessory.

Once you accept his package, you accept responsibility for the package. If he claims later that he didn't get it but the the delivery service has on record that they handed it directly to you, you could be held legally liable. NTA 

NTA Enough is enough. All he has to do is put his name on his mailbox. How hard is that? You're his neighbor, not his valet.

Your sister is brain dead and your neighbor is lazy. This stuff gets annoying. I used to live in this apartment complex and the post office kept putting some random units mail in my box. A lot of it looked really important, like insurance and Healthcare. I took it to her a couple of times and asked her to talk to the post office about it. She either didn't or the post office didn't care. I just started putting it in the outgoing mail box until it stopped coming

INFO: this doesn’t make any sense… who’s delivering this mail that needs a name on the box? Typically the name is irrelevant, it’s the address that matters. And why would you have to tell the neighbor about the package, why aren’t they leaving a slip? Also, how hard is it for someone to just put the name on the mailbox and be done with this?

Maybe the courier needs a signature.

Possibly, but they stated that they can’t leave it in the mailbox because there was no name, not because they needed a signature. And same thing with leaving a slip on the door rather than making OP the messenger.

You're right, the name is irrelevant. Our couriers leave small items in the letterbox and take a photo. Might be a company rule boxes have to be named. OP could write B. Itch on the box.

Since when is a name on a mailbox required? Shouldn't the house number be the primary info for delivering mail? What if people work multiple last names live in a house? I'm going to guess you aren't in the US because I can't seem to stop getting the old homeowners mail and if the fix was as easy as putting my name on the box I'd do it in a heartbeat. My guess is that your frequently gone and the neighbor isn't so he's assuming the best way to not get his mail/packages stolen if to have you collect it instead.

NTA but why is the post office okay with leaving it with you, who lives in a different nit and is not related to this guy, but they won't leave it in his box even though it's not labeled? There is no guarantee you would give it to him. Going forward, just don't tell him you refused it. If he asks, say you weren't home.

NTA - and while it can be considered nice there are other things that can happen. I just wouldn't want to be responsible for other peoples stuff. for 1 thing if you take his packages and they are damaged when he opens he can try to blame you. Take a sharpie or a tape a post it and write "the entitled dick that lives in 3D" so now his mailbox is labeled

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NTA for not taking it. But next time just don’t say anything. He would have got the notification it is at the post office and when he keeps having to go get them he would have been instructed to put his name on the box

NTA. He was being lazy and disrespectful in relying on you because he has no respect for you and your time. You're right in that it isn't your job and he was just taking advantage of the convenience.

NTA. I don’t think you should have even mentioned anything to him. He must be getting delivery notifications and must be aware of where his package is.

NTA. Your his neighbor not his maid.

NTA. That is all.

NTA. Fuck him.

Sharpie it on there and be done with it.

No .. HIS responsibility to change address ... if a future delivery goes missing = you are first suspect of package theft .... Tell sister this is not decades ago where valuable stuff was never mailed . Just yesterday had to call about a Pharmacy shipment that went missing- FedEx said was delivered> showed picture of someone's wooden front steps> Ours are brick .. Calling company > are you sure it didn't go to a neighbors > YES! there are only 4 houses on this road and I know everyone and its Not their front steps .. Company is sending replacement , just thankful it was not our Prescription order ..

NTA It cost him nothing to add the name to the mail box. Good neighbors try not to inconvenience other neighbors.

You are in no obligation to accept your neighbor’s packages. Given that he is aware he is shoving them on to you by his neglect to label his mailbox makes your position even stronger. Adding that you already did this several times and asked him to label his box and he didn’t. He’s a grown man. It’s his business to figure out his own mail. NTA

NTA.  You're a "bitch" now? That'd be the last time I'd ever do a favor for him. You can tell your sister you DID take his packages, multiple times. This is all on him. The fact he cursed you out after HE failed to do a 15 second task says an awful lot about his character, or lack of one. 

NTA and your sister is kinda dumb. Your neighbor needs to take 5 minutes and put his name on his mailbox. I mean, I’m sure he is a very important person who’s time is oh so very valuable, and you are just the unimportant neighbor with nothing better to do than serve as his personal assistant and collect his mail. Without pay. Bet he finds that 5 minutes now that’s HE has been inconvenienced

Your neighbor and your sister are idiots. NTA.

NTA and your sister sounds like a doormat. She can deal with a rude neighbor all she wants, doesn't mean you have to.

NTA but your neighbour is.  In future, refuse all packages and don't tell him. He lost any right to a courteous heads-up when he abused you.  I wonder if your sister is a contrarian, like mine. If you said the sea was blue, she would disagree. Tell your sister that you told the nice man next door that she was happy to accept his packages and see how that goes down. Another poster mentioned security cameras - a good idea even if you don't live next to his type.

NTA, you have probably been receiving illegal stuff and that's why your neighbour doesn't want his name on the mailbox in case he gets found out and leaving you to explain why you keep accepting the post.

NTA. it costs you nothing? What about your time and the annoyance factor? How about having to deal with answering your door, then waiting for selfish neighbor to get home to deliver his package? There is a reason his name isn't on his mailbox-he wants hand delivery from you.

tell him for a delivery fee of $5 per package of his you get, you'll give him. bet he adds his name real quick.

And something goes missing and then you’re to blame. Nope, not the AH.

NTA. He's lazy and taking advantage of you. Something tells me he wouldn't do the same for you.

NTA Here's a suggestion, get a piece of white tape, a magic marker, write his name on it and stick it on his mailbox. Problem solved.

I see both sides here. I would not want to get involved with my neighbors packages. It would only be a matter of time before they accuse you of "stealing" a package then.

Nta you are not his mom, his secretary or his keeper.  If he called you names you should go no contact.  Neighbor is a lazy asshole.  How long does it take to put his name on his own mail box.  Probably less time than it took to yell at you and certainly less time than going to the post office to pick up his package. Ignore this idiot. 

NTA. It is *so* simple to get a piece of paper and some tape or a sticky and put it on your mailbox. This is one of the easiest “adulting” tasks to complete. He has no excuse other than being lazy. You’ve been doing a nice thing, but you by no means have to. I wouldn’t continue. If you want to, are entitled to do so, and don’t think it’ll escalate things further I’d honestly just label the mailbox for him if that would solve your problem.

NTA. Your sister and your neighbor are the AHs here. Your neighbor is refusing to put his name on the mail box because he wants to use you as insurance that his packages are not stolen before he gets home. This is not your responsibility. If you take it on then he will just ask for more and more and more.

NTA  He needs to deal with this. It’s not like he has no other option 

Your sister is a doormat. You aren't this dude's personal assistant and at the very least he could ask nicely and be appreciative of what you already did. But he expects people to be at his beck and call. Fuck that. NTA