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I only got through about five sentences. To sum it up: you’re only 18 years old. You’ve been long-distance with a guy for two years and have been fighting a lot during that time.
Info, what is the fucking point? I’m sure you can find somebody much closer to have a shitty relationship with.
Dump this guy. I don’t care who the AH is.
NTA.
You need to dump him right now, do, since :
-- he gives you shit for falling asleep on a call (who hasn't?)
-- he's yelling at you that you give him _attitude_? Isn't what he was doing by berating you for falling asleep?
-- most of all, if what he might do in that situation make you afraid, you have NOT worked out your problem, since HE his the problem. You will always live in fear. Get out now, please, for your safety.
EDIT : adding spaces between the bullet points.
NTA. When fighting sleep, sleep will always win.
Seriously, drop this one. You don’t want someone that loses their temper, yells at, demeans and berates you, when something they don’t like happens, especially when it’s irrational. And then uses emotional manipulation after the fact. Don’t attach yourself to this, you deserve better.
NTA. Girl. This boy is not a good man. He is a bad person.
A good partner wouldn't cuss you out, ever. A good partner would think it was cute & sweet that you chose to fall asleep with him. A good partner would make a point to partake in your hobbies instead of both of you only doing his thing.
A good person would respect your need for sleep. A good person would not attack your character or insult you when you haven't done anything morally wrong. A good person wouldn't freak out because you weren't riveted by watching him play games on a screen like he was the most fascinating thing on the planet.
You don't need permission to sleep. You don't need to apologize for going to sleep.
If he treats you this badly when it's a long distance relationship & there's only one thing that bothers him, what's going to happen when you're in the same place & you chew too loud, or load the dishwasher wrong, or expect him to do his share of chores but he doesn't wasn't to, or he doesn't like your family or friends? He'll be more insulting, more controlling, more demanding, & he'll isolate you.
This boy is bad news. Dump him. It's better to be alone than with this jerk. Raise your standards & don't let things like this slide. Hold out for a good man.
NTA. Dump him now.
- No one can control when they pass out from sleep
-This has happened multiple times
-He has no right to yell out you for something you can't control.
INFO: You've had two difficult years with a long-distance guy you've only met four times, who curses at you when you fall asleep watching him have fun, you're scared of his reactions and he yells at you. You do realize you can find a guy who'll treat you like (or maybe even better!) than this nearby, right? He's not some special unique guy.
You know, there are lots of people in the world, and a large majority of them aren’t douches who will ignore you, play games and then be verbally abusive towards you (words carefully chosen) when their game isn’t exciting enough to keep you awake when you’re exhausted.
YTA to yourself if you stay with this guy. Otherwise NTA.
"The girlfriend who won't let their boyfriend play video games," is just how men who don't want to ever give anything in their relationship talk about women who have expectations.
Anyway, NTA but you have wasted 2 years of your youth in a guy who yelled at you for falling asleep while watching him game (which, IMO is extremely fucking boring.) He is not going to change. Do you want to keep doing this?
NTA
Dump his ass
He can’t yell at you for falling asleep. Falling asleep is a natural thing people do.
He will continue to argue and fight you over petty shit. He isn’t your future
Never never never date someone who expects you to watch them play games. Also, never date someone who wants to play the guitar for you over the phone, but that's another story. You're NTA unless you stay with this childish person.
NTA *But first* let's talk about your relationship.
He has kept you hanging on for two years through a verbally abusive relationship. My guess is that this is a fairly normal cycle for you.
You know you need to get away from this guy. Please do it before he sucks you into living with him.
NTA. i fall asleep on call with my friends and partners all the time bevause i feel comfortable with them. If he treats you so horribly over something so small you should leave because you never know how he would react to a big problem.
NTA. This is an abusive relationship and you need to leave. Love is not supposed to be hard. Especially not when you're so young. You have your whole life ahead of you. Spend it being happy, not being yelled at by some asshole.
I'm in my 30s and married to a wonderful guy. I spent my teenage years and 20s with verbally and emotionally abusive men like this one. I promise you they are not worth it. Run. You will find someone who treats you well.
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Okay so for a little context,
Me(18F) and my boyfriend(19M) have been long distance for almost 2 years know, well, i see him around twice a year, and i can surely say those 2 years haven’t been the easiest.
But we somewhat got over all of our problems and moved on, so we can open a new page in our lives, because i do trully see a future with this man.
So this is the situation
Me and my boyfriend sleep call everynight, and it’s a normal thing iv’e gotten used to.
And since he enjoys playing games (league of legends, valorant, rainbow six siege) when i met him i decided that i wont be that girlfriend that doesn’t allow him to do that, so instead i started playing with him.
So we played a bit of games and i got a bit tired and he chose to stream him playing league, so i can atleast watch him play.
But i have this habbit that when i get tired at one point i just completley pass out without noticing, and we’ve had converasations about it in the past, because everytime i passed out he used to get completley pissed at me and curse me out, but we talked it out and he apologised so i assumed it was fixed.
Well this night wasn’t different, i passed out without noticing and while im passed out i hear yelling
“Hello?…Hello?!? HELLO!?”
So i obviously wake up
And he starts cursing me out for falling asleep but i assumed maybe the league game just wasn’t doing well.
But because of our past iv’e grown to get scared of this so i lied to him
“no, i didn’t but okay”
I know i shouldn’t have lied and that maybe saying that with a bit of attitude was my fault.
But then he started guilt tripping me on how he’s dissapointed in me, yelled and hanged up
Obviously still a bit sleepy i text him and ask him why did he react that way
I didn’t think it’s such a huge deal
but he went on ranting how im a stubborn person and if i wouldn’t have gave him attitude and apologised he would’ve never been rude and how it’s my fault the whole night is ruined
And then he went on ranting how i don’t understand how fucked up it is i fall asleep like that, and how i can’t even apologise for falling asleep because im stubborn
so
am i the asshole?
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I only got through about five sentences. To sum it up: you’re only 18 years old. You’ve been long-distance with a guy for two years and have been fighting a lot during that time. Info, what is the fucking point? I’m sure you can find somebody much closer to have a shitty relationship with. Dump this guy. I don’t care who the AH is.
NTA. You need to dump him right now, do, since : -- he gives you shit for falling asleep on a call (who hasn't?) -- he's yelling at you that you give him _attitude_? Isn't what he was doing by berating you for falling asleep? -- most of all, if what he might do in that situation make you afraid, you have NOT worked out your problem, since HE his the problem. You will always live in fear. Get out now, please, for your safety. EDIT : adding spaces between the bullet points.
NTA. When fighting sleep, sleep will always win. Seriously, drop this one. You don’t want someone that loses their temper, yells at, demeans and berates you, when something they don’t like happens, especially when it’s irrational. And then uses emotional manipulation after the fact. Don’t attach yourself to this, you deserve better.
🚩🚩🚩 mad over a humanly function? Leave.
NTA. Girl. This boy is not a good man. He is a bad person. A good partner wouldn't cuss you out, ever. A good partner would think it was cute & sweet that you chose to fall asleep with him. A good partner would make a point to partake in your hobbies instead of both of you only doing his thing. A good person would respect your need for sleep. A good person would not attack your character or insult you when you haven't done anything morally wrong. A good person wouldn't freak out because you weren't riveted by watching him play games on a screen like he was the most fascinating thing on the planet. You don't need permission to sleep. You don't need to apologize for going to sleep. If he treats you this badly when it's a long distance relationship & there's only one thing that bothers him, what's going to happen when you're in the same place & you chew too loud, or load the dishwasher wrong, or expect him to do his share of chores but he doesn't wasn't to, or he doesn't like your family or friends? He'll be more insulting, more controlling, more demanding, & he'll isolate you. This boy is bad news. Dump him. It's better to be alone than with this jerk. Raise your standards & don't let things like this slide. Hold out for a good man.
NTA. Dump him now. - No one can control when they pass out from sleep -This has happened multiple times -He has no right to yell out you for something you can't control.
INFO: You've had two difficult years with a long-distance guy you've only met four times, who curses at you when you fall asleep watching him have fun, you're scared of his reactions and he yells at you. You do realize you can find a guy who'll treat you like (or maybe even better!) than this nearby, right? He's not some special unique guy.
You know, there are lots of people in the world, and a large majority of them aren’t douches who will ignore you, play games and then be verbally abusive towards you (words carefully chosen) when their game isn’t exciting enough to keep you awake when you’re exhausted. YTA to yourself if you stay with this guy. Otherwise NTA.
"The girlfriend who won't let their boyfriend play video games," is just how men who don't want to ever give anything in their relationship talk about women who have expectations. Anyway, NTA but you have wasted 2 years of your youth in a guy who yelled at you for falling asleep while watching him game (which, IMO is extremely fucking boring.) He is not going to change. Do you want to keep doing this?
NTA Dump his ass He can’t yell at you for falling asleep. Falling asleep is a natural thing people do. He will continue to argue and fight you over petty shit. He isn’t your future
This is abuse. Leave him
Never never never date someone who expects you to watch them play games. Also, never date someone who wants to play the guitar for you over the phone, but that's another story. You're NTA unless you stay with this childish person.
NTA *But first* let's talk about your relationship. He has kept you hanging on for two years through a verbally abusive relationship. My guess is that this is a fairly normal cycle for you. You know you need to get away from this guy. Please do it before he sucks you into living with him.
NTA. i fall asleep on call with my friends and partners all the time bevause i feel comfortable with them. If he treats you so horribly over something so small you should leave because you never know how he would react to a big problem.
NTA. This is an abusive relationship and you need to leave. Love is not supposed to be hard. Especially not when you're so young. You have your whole life ahead of you. Spend it being happy, not being yelled at by some asshole. I'm in my 30s and married to a wonderful guy. I spent my teenage years and 20s with verbally and emotionally abusive men like this one. I promise you they are not worth it. Run. You will find someone who treats you well.
NTA for falling asleep and don’t stay with someone who curses you out all the time. This is not a healthy relationship.
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