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PositiveRainCloud

I'd carry on as normal, and don't do anything silly in the future. If you run into the neighbours, just apologize. Time is a great mender, and people do and will forget, as long as it was only the once. I had my neighbour get the police phoned on her for being drunk and disorderly, and it was the first and last time it happened. It didn't define my opinion of her as she's been very pleasant since.


brimpss

I will continue to but it’s so embarrassing to think about. I wonder if I apologize to the guy he will leave me alone.


lamejokesalways

I would just say to that one neighbor that you apologize and hope it can be put in the past. No explanation or anything more to carry it on. And leave it at that . We all make mistakes. Don’t dwell on this 💕 Life happens.


rchart1010

You should have apologized the first time he brought it up. It may be why he keeps bringing it up.


Bammalam102

I got real drunk and when my tv stopped working i was yelling inherently at it and smashing tf out of it. Not sure why cops did not show up tbh, did not seem to affect neighbours


brimpss

I was shocked they didn’t call the cops on me either!


Bammalam102

Yeah id just accept it happened and try to forget. If they bring it up just say sorry i must have had too much to drink that night, i don't remember that at all. I mean thats what id do


KittyTB12

Prob wants to get u drunk again and help you be “not lonely” 😜 it’s the equivalent of pulling your pigtails is what I’m thinking..


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brimpss

Y’all are so funny 😂


wodsey

r/stopdrinking


HeftyCommunication66

If you’re inclined to downvote this, why? Some people are prone to immoderate drinking. OP might be one of them.


wodsey

thanks friend! kind of weird to me that everyone is normalizing op’s behavior here as well. this is not me judging. just saying spontaneous yelling/blackout fits are not normal and may mean you have an unhealthy relationship with drinking!


brimpss

You’re absolutely right I know I have a problem and ppl are trying to make light of it because Im so embarrassed which I appreciate but you’re also right as well. Im not drinking anymore


wodsey

omg amazing response! im almost 3 months myself and this post reminded me a lot of my own patterns and experiences. that community has helped me a lot as well. good luck and youre doing awesome!


brimpss

Thank you so much!


justkeepswimming39

I got drunk and knocked on my neighbor's door angry accused them of knocking the cup of cigarette butts I had off the railway where I was smoking. They moved lol


brimpss

😂😂😂


tytyoreo

😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣


starberry4

Ngl, if this was a one-off and you otherwise behave in a socially acceptable way, this incident would probably make me like you more. Nothing like catching a glimpse of someone’s crazy to put you at ease with your own.


Educational-Band3812

This. If it’s a one off I also may find it endearing. Nothing like letting the freak flag fly, in moderation, respectfully of others lol.


starberry4

#PROUDWEIRDO (Sorry if it’s too soon OP 😆)


brimpss

It’s not 😂😂. Its so embarrassing but I can’t help but laugh


brimpss

Thank you so much this made me feel better.


[deleted]

Hear hear!


KittyTB12

Ok…we all have been *there*….its an awful, shamey icky feeling. However, I absolutely guarantee that you are putting more thoughts and emotion into this than they are think about it. This way you know somebody who’s gotten drunk and who has said some dumb things or has done some stupid things or has done both at the same time you get what I’m saying? How much thought how much emotional investment have you put into their shenanigans? You just chalk it up to old Billy Bob was being a drunk fool and you just let it go right? Well, that’s what they’re doing to you one night you were Billy Bob, who knows maybe at the Fourth of Julyneighborhood barbecue get together block party. Somebody else is gonna be old Billy Bob it happens happens to all of us. I say, just mind your drunkenness a little bit better try not to let it happen again and you should be fine.


brimpss

Thank you so much Im definitely putting way too much thought into this.


KittyTB12

I love the idea of making it a yearly thing. lol that’s the best comment imo you’ll be ok


I_truly_am_FUBAR

Get a furries costume to wear


brimpss

😂


Present_Yak_6169

Ask them if they’ve seen your crazy twin anywhere nearby.


No_Enthusiasm_318

😂😂😂


Far_Boysenberry1933

Tell that one neighbor you are sorry and you are just happy it wasn’t a psychotic break like the one that happened with your last neighbor then stare off into space like you are lost deep in thought then very quickly change the subject to something super happy and laugh. He will probably leave you alone after that


brimpss

I just might 😂. I want him to leave me alone so bad!


apaw1129

"I had a few the other night, sorry if I bothered you." And keep it moving. Don't give it any more attention. Lead by example. And hey, shit happens. Try not to ruminate on it. I know, easier said than done.


brimpss

Thank you


Educational_Bag_7201

Good answer 👍


c-_-Second_Last

One time I couldn't get into my apartment bc I was drunk and was using the wrong key. It happens, just make sure it rarely happens


KittyTB12

One time somebody was trying to get into my apartment and they were drunk, I was telling them through the door “ you don’t live here “ and the guy was outside going. “Why are you in my apartment, and how’d you change the locks so fast?” It was scary at the time but right now as I’m saying it, I am literally laughing my ass off.


NoLongerATeacher

My drunk across the hall neighbor tried to get into my apartment by mistake. His lock was on the right, and mine was on the left. I heard scratching on the right side of my door for about 30 minutes while he tried to get his key into a lock that wasn’t there. He eventually stopped, fell partway down the stairs, and ended up getting taken in by his downstairs neighbor.


certain-sick

If your drunk behavior unearthed some things that need discussing maybe find a therapist so that the next time you won't feel as great a need to unburden yourself in front of strangers?


brimpss

Your absouletly right I am going to find one.


Empty-Code-5601

It's not to bad as long as you didn't threaten anyone, break anything or fight anyone. One night of yelling isn't that bad. If your neighbor hasn't gotten over it they need to get a life. I know how you feel though because I've been there many times. It's definitely a bad feeling, but you just have to move on from it.


brimpss

Thank you.


19467098632

To make you feel better, I got absolutely shithoused one night, microwaved something for 30 mins instead of 3, woke up to the house on fire. Whole building was outside, my mom came over cause she heard I was blacked out. I was screaming and crying in front of all my neighbors, we have 12 units so it was a crowd. Then, I apparently saw a raccoon go into the trash can so amidst all the chaos I was climbing in the trash to save a fucking raccoon. Absolutely mortified but all my neighbors still say hi and never acted differently to me lol we’re human things happen and they’re just neighbors not friends so don’t put too much weight into how they think of you


brimpss

Im so sorry this happened. I think at one point I tried to become friends with them even though we were arguing which is so embarrassing to me. But you’re right Im not going to keep putting weight into it.


19467098632

I have a hugggge embarrassment complex so it was sooo hard to get past but I think sharing this and seeing the responses hopefully you feel better cause you’re not alone in your situation, it happens to the best of us so keep sharing with people and know it’s totally okay


brimpss

Thank you so much


knoguera

Haha hey 👋🏼 are you me? Been there done that. Have had some pretty embarrassing late night fights with my ex in my apt and have done some similar drunk things. Don’t worry about it. Ppl are usually too involved with their own problems to think of it for too long.


brimpss

I hope so and I can't wait until I forget ughhh.


AbleMonkeyBrain

I did this before at my apartment. Not once. Not twice. Three times! Calling people out to fight. Making a fool out of myself. Singing at the top of my ugly lungs. Calling people out for talking smack. To be honest, they did back off. However, that wasn’t the way to represent myself. I embarrassed myself and I don’t embarrass easy. It’s been awhile and seems like things are easing up. As long as I don’t have that episode again, I should be fine. If this were a weekly occurrence, they would hate you. You don’t need to apologize. Just don’t apologize. Don’t do that again. If you’re embarrassed, that means that isn’t you. Be yourself consistently and you’ll be fine. They’ll just forget.


brimpss

Thank you I sing at the top of my lungs too when Im drunk lol. Im just going to let it go and hopefully everyone just forgets and move on with their lives. I definitely don’t need to drink like that anymore.


flightwatcher45

Apologize and laugh it off, invite them over for drinks lol. Lifes short, enjoy it.


Freeluna16

Try not to beat yourself up over it, many of us have been there. Maybe it wasn’t as bad as you think it was and I’m sure your neighbors really don’t care. I got extremely drunk while on a layover flight a few months ago, apparently I was yelling on the plane saying “we’re all going to die” and some other stupid shit that I have no recollection of, whatsoever. The last thing I remember was taking a double shot of whiskey. 🤦🏻‍♀️I was so embarrassed for weeks and I kept beating myself up about it. Now I’m just grateful that it wasn’t so much worse, like driving drunk and killing someone.


brimpss

Yes! And I didn’t get evicted or something so much worse. It’s better to look at the good things.


Freeluna16

Absolutely, you’re alive and well (I hope) and you still have your apartment. You’re good. ❤️


brimpss

Yes thank you so much


kiikii51

I embarrassed myself in front of my neighbors in March and I was so crippled with shame I didn’t leave the house for 4 days. I don’t even think about it anymore. As someone else said, time will be your best friend. Also, they’re probably not thinking about it as much as you are. Everyone has their own shit going on.


brimpss

Your right I can not wait for this nightmare to be over!


WiseStandard9974

Talk to the neighbor who’s bullying you with this. Start by asking about things he has done that he is ashamed of. Then ask him how he would feel if someone he regularly saw brought it up every time they met no matter who else was listening. Then explain that you can understand it makes him feel better about himself because you screwed up but you would like to move past it because it was an unusual day. Tell him if he continues to bully you with this event that you will do him the same favor by talking about things that embarrass him, and if you don’t know any, make them up. After all, you don’t remember what you did while drunk. He could be making things up.


brimpss

You’re right thank you


CapitalParallax

Just keep doing it and they'll write you off as some weird drunk.


[deleted]

This is kinda great to be fair. Say you are sorry about their inconvenience and thank them for their patience. Feel proud. You needed that right then and there. Accept that and they have no other choice than to accept it too.   Everybody needs such a situation. This will make you better, make you grow. Enjoy this trip and embrace it.


Environmental-Egg893

Me thinks alcohol is not your bag. Perhaps switch to marijuana


ImpressionKind9187

I got drunk and promised to pay for my neighbor to get a bbl when I get my tummy tuck... she asked me about it the next day and I had to remind her that I always tell everyone not to believe a word I say when I drink.


brimpss

Same 😂.


MandaLyn1107

Speaking from experience as someone who has made an ass out of himself on several occasions. Don't apologize, your actions will speak louder than words. You can always be a drunk crazy neighbor, but being a good neighbor will show accountability. Try lending a helping hand when needed. They will notice and they will say things like, " you sure have changed for the better." Let you actions do the talking.


Dat_Speed

Being mentally ill is the new normal. Breaking the law is not normal tho.


withoutwingz

Hey. Almost all of us have been there. Chances are they have too or this isn’t their first time witnessing the rodeo. Just carry on like normal. The sooner everyone forgets about it the better. So you go first. And you’re gonna be ok.


brimpss

Thank you so much


Any_Ad3693

If it happens once, you’re just a person who accidentally got smashed. If it keeps happening, you become the apartment drunk, and there’s not really any coming back from that. As long as it was just the once, I don’t think your neighbors will care that much. You should still apologize if you run into them. I personally would find it easy to relate to someone in your shoes 😂


brimpss

😂😂 thank you I definitely will if I run into them.


demonskeet

Be nice and just act as if nothing ever happened. They are so consumed with their own lives there is no chance they are thinking about anything you said as much as you are.


Shak3sp3ar3Ghost

Look we all do it. It is embarrassing but you just need to kind of accept it. I’ve done it. She’s done it we have all done it. Just accept the fact that for the rest of your life you will think about this moment and be a little embassed


brimpss

Thank you it’s hard to get over but I will eventually I hope.


this_chi_cooks

As long as you didnt hurt anyone, threaten, expose your self, vomit or get the cops involved its gonna be okay.


emailman123

Brutal


Turdposter777

I would absolutely do nothing about it. Lol Maybe this comes with age but I had embarrassing moments that would keep me awake at night. Now those intrusive thoughts just make me laugh.


Purple-Gold824

They aren’t perfect themselves so don’t feel too judged. Everyone has a bad day bro. Sh*t happens. Life goes on.


SciFiEmma

least said, soonest mended. If you are really bothered, be a good neighbour - litter pick, put the bins out, mow a lawn if you have the mower out anyway, shovel snow; whatever works for your locale.


MakeItAll1

Don’t drink.


Used_Marzipan5360

Honestly everyone knows people are different creatures when they’re drunk. Most of the time people shrug it off as nothing more than “that guy had a few too many that one night”. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Everyone who’s ever consumed alcohol will tell you a story like this. That’s just how it be.


AppropriateExcuse868

Honestly unless you live by straight edge Puritans (or maybe I'm an outlier here) they probably don't put a lot of stock into it. We've all been in a bad place before and done things we're not proud of and I'd chalk it up to that if you did it to me.


brimpss

You are so kind thank you


AppropriateExcuse868

Oh and I somehow missed the part about the one neighbor. That person is what we call "an asshole" and they should be ashamed. The worst response a normal person would have to having an interaction with a neighbor like this is that they would just never interact with you again. That would be my probable response. Not hold it against you, just figure the relationship is poisoned so no sense in bothering any more.


brimpss

I agree he hasn't said anything in a while so I think he let it go. 


sunflowertroll

lol. Don’t worry about it. This happens on every neighborhood. This happened on my street a lot. Everyone just pretends nothing happened.


rchart1010

Did you ever apologize? Other than that you just have to ride it out I think.


According-Ad5312

Stop drinking.


brimpss

I have thank you


Educational_Bag_7201

Everyone blows it when they’ve had a few at least once. Don’t trip on it.


Mundane-Guidance-678

OP has not done something unforgivable, people may giggle about it but eventually they’ll stop talking about it. My neighbor was drunk and came over on Christmas Eve a couple years ago. She ended up telling my 9 year old about Santa not being real. I was mortified and should have kicked her out in that moment. I was nice and tried not to make a big deal out of it, but I ended up crying myself to sleep that night because she stole some of that precious childhood magic from my daughter. We were friends before that, still can’t bring myself to socialize with her ever again.


brimpss

Omg this is awful hopefully she apologized.


Mundane-Guidance-678

Nope, she’s never acknowledged it. Either she doesn’t remember or she does, doesn’t matter to me anymore.


skankcottage

time heals all


VipaSully

If I saw u do this I'd respect it The world is crazy and if things were really that bad, you'd have worse consequences


brimpss

Thank you so much


PaleMinute3768

Yesterday i had an episode. puffed some rolled up substance from my younger cousin's friend and i went bonkers. over 3 hours straight, couldn't get myself. was totally naked, tried running out of our house, was screaming the blood of Jesus and prayers over and over and had to be tied down by several neighbours and my cousin. i got several injured and myself too, and really said lots of STUPIIID things. Today, i've just been indoor, as i do not have the heart to face these people. what do i say, how do i react. i actually do hate myself right now truthfully, cause i really embarrassed myself and brothers yesterday.


brimpss

Dont beat yourself up. Everyone has moments and you will start to feel better. Take it day by day if anyone says anything you could explain to them you werent in the right state of mind and not yourself at all in the moment. If they continue to be negative than they can fuck off.


RolexandDickies

Move


lai4basis

It sucks but not surprising. The person still talking about it is probably like that after a drink or doesn't drink at all. When I still partied like that I would have told you don't sweat it, booze happens, go to bed.


brimpss

Apparently I was crying because I wanted to be his baby mama at one point??? Like embarrassment is not even the word I absoulutley can not believe this


lai4basis

Just remember this. You will be a lot harder on yourself and remember this far longer than anyone. Unless you are tied to your neighbors forever, at some point someone will move. It sucks but booze happens. I'm not diminishing your embarrassment I promise. Just a little preceptive from someone whose job it was to party. It happens.


brimpss

Thank you so much


lai4basis

No worries. Not sure what you drank that night but I would suggest choosing something different.


brimpss

Yes I'm never drinking again.