Right there with you brother. 2 years dealing with it. When it happens, tell your brain that that is a good thing and it makes you happy. Next try to recognize when she opens her door. That way you can anticipate. Wear ear plugs. White noise machine. Place foam pads under your bed and chairs. Huge foam pads. Enough to absorb the shock. Melatonin and prayer my dude
I would say be petty and stomp around but I literally did that and if you’re a good person just makes it so much worse. Number one thing is respond. Don’t react. Plan for it next time because it will happen again. Plan to just start praising God or plan on turning on your favorite song when the slam happens again. It’s a dance with insanity but I believe in you homie
Oh I have been petty, when it gets really bad (some days are worse than others) I will get a 10 pound weight ball and slam it on the floor 😬I know it’s bad, but sometimes I just can’t deal with it anymore.. I could be petty all day and stomp around, but I just don’t have the energy for all that… I really don’t even make a lot of noise.
That’s what I find wild, you’re really going to mess with your upstairs neighbor? I totally get it tho and bless you for not doing anything drastic because legit it caused my anxiety to spike every single day because it scares the shit out of me. But I, in a way got used to it. As used to the fight or flight response as you can get. It’s a crazy life. This is the test for reaching out for peace and making your mind up how you respond to situations is what I decided. And lit a fire under me to have better things
I’m sorry you’re dealing with it too, no one should have to get used to living like this…people may think I’m overreacting but it’s really affected my quality of life.. I’m not at peace in my own home, I’m just tired of it.
Can fully attest you’re not overreacting. I fully hated my neighbor then made a vow with myself to not live in anger. Then bought her flowers and gave her a gift card my work gave me expressing I’m sorry and it’s all good it just freaks me tf out and if they really can’t control how they close the door then I’ll deal. Didn’t do anything but the heat died down and i genuinely think her door is stuck or something. Because it’s completely unnecessary. So idk maybe hers is stuck too. I really just pray about it and practice changing my brains reactions to things. I also work from home so you have to make yourself get tf out of there. I go on walks and to the lake often.
I tired to be cordial, it didn’t work. But you’re right, I don’t want to live with anger either, that’s why I’ve tried to just brush it off, but sometimes it’s just too much and completely unnecessary. I know her door isn’t stuck, she’s just being a bitch, she’s not a very pleasant person.
Every complex and apt building has that one asshole. Do with this information what you will....
I just get a travel sized spray bottle and fill it with 1 part sea salt to 3 parts warm water. Let it dissolve and nonchalantly spray a few times in their door lock every time I walk past their door.
Jams the lock up with salt crystals when it dries. They won't be able to get the key in to unlock it after a while.
You can be slam free for at least a few hours while they call and wait for maintenance to change the lock. The cussing and struggle is pretty entertaining and satisfying 🤷😁🫡
I have this same issue with the assholes next door. Unfortunately I’m no help because my notes about being mindful about the door have done nothing to stop them
Unfortunately living in an apartment does come with being willing to accept that you won’t have pure peace & quiet all the time.. however this does sound beyond what anyone should accept as a normal noise level.
Definitely get the camera that captures sounds. And make a compilation you can send in to your landlord. If they’re actually seriously *slamming* the door deliberately to make excess noise, then the camera should see that and action needs to be taken from the landlord. If it’s just a normal way of closing a door and it’s making that sound, then it’s not the neighbors fault but the landlord needs to fix/replace the door and door frame so that Normal shutting of the door doesn’t do that.
Your neighbors might say something about the camera, but just tell them it’s so that the landlord can see how noisy the door is so they can fix it.
Thank you, I agree, and this is definitely beyond the normal noise level. I have 7 other apartments surrounding me and I don’t have this problem with any of my other neighbors, except them. I know they do it out of spite. 😣
one of the mods suggested a non violent restrainjng order, get the damned evidence first though. if its that loud you should be able to get footage with clear audio if you set it on the ground (the iphones seem to have gotten a little better because they were not capturing bass before but now they catch my downstairs neighbor slamming shit). DO IT. lawyer up if management cannot do shit or wont. I believe my downstairs is moving out because she keeps going outside every 15 minute and she never went outside before.
I’ve tried to capture it on my iPhone, but it happens randomly and so quickly, it’s just like a loud bang, I don’t have enough time to pull out my phone to record when im working. Thank you for the suggestion, I might look into that non violent restraining order.
Is it possible they are not actually slamming the door shut and that is has an automatic closer?
Ask the property manager to adjust the automatic closer.
Why not get some silicone caulk and use it around the open gap of the door but not so much as to caulk the door shut, but it might add a rubber surface to the edge there and give it some bumpers
Hi, I came to reddit searching for answers because I have the exact same problem. Our landlord basically said they maintenanced the door but the girl next to us still makes it a point to slam that door as hard as she can. I also work from home. This girl is up and door slamming from 530am on all day taking her dogs out for walks. We have been putting up with this for almost a year and complained 3 times. They've asked the tenant to be more mindful of the door but Ive listened to how ghetto and loud this girl is fighting people she's on the phone with or anyone she's dating that's visiting and I told our landlord I can assure you that's she is not a kind person who wants to be courteous to her neighbors based on everything Ive heard through the walls. We have leased another year as we dont have the funds to move right now but I don't see why nothing can be done to help us. If it's not us they'll have problems with the next tenants as well I'm certain.
Right there with you brother. 2 years dealing with it. When it happens, tell your brain that that is a good thing and it makes you happy. Next try to recognize when she opens her door. That way you can anticipate. Wear ear plugs. White noise machine. Place foam pads under your bed and chairs. Huge foam pads. Enough to absorb the shock. Melatonin and prayer my dude
I would say be petty and stomp around but I literally did that and if you’re a good person just makes it so much worse. Number one thing is respond. Don’t react. Plan for it next time because it will happen again. Plan to just start praising God or plan on turning on your favorite song when the slam happens again. It’s a dance with insanity but I believe in you homie
Oh I have been petty, when it gets really bad (some days are worse than others) I will get a 10 pound weight ball and slam it on the floor 😬I know it’s bad, but sometimes I just can’t deal with it anymore.. I could be petty all day and stomp around, but I just don’t have the energy for all that… I really don’t even make a lot of noise.
That’s what I find wild, you’re really going to mess with your upstairs neighbor? I totally get it tho and bless you for not doing anything drastic because legit it caused my anxiety to spike every single day because it scares the shit out of me. But I, in a way got used to it. As used to the fight or flight response as you can get. It’s a crazy life. This is the test for reaching out for peace and making your mind up how you respond to situations is what I decided. And lit a fire under me to have better things
I’m sorry you’re dealing with it too, no one should have to get used to living like this…people may think I’m overreacting but it’s really affected my quality of life.. I’m not at peace in my own home, I’m just tired of it.
Can fully attest you’re not overreacting. I fully hated my neighbor then made a vow with myself to not live in anger. Then bought her flowers and gave her a gift card my work gave me expressing I’m sorry and it’s all good it just freaks me tf out and if they really can’t control how they close the door then I’ll deal. Didn’t do anything but the heat died down and i genuinely think her door is stuck or something. Because it’s completely unnecessary. So idk maybe hers is stuck too. I really just pray about it and practice changing my brains reactions to things. I also work from home so you have to make yourself get tf out of there. I go on walks and to the lake often.
I tired to be cordial, it didn’t work. But you’re right, I don’t want to live with anger either, that’s why I’ve tried to just brush it off, but sometimes it’s just too much and completely unnecessary. I know her door isn’t stuck, she’s just being a bitch, she’s not a very pleasant person.
Don't talk to the neighbors. Do keep sending complaints to management.
Yea, I’m not doing that again, I don’t want it to escalate any further.
Every complex and apt building has that one asshole. Do with this information what you will.... I just get a travel sized spray bottle and fill it with 1 part sea salt to 3 parts warm water. Let it dissolve and nonchalantly spray a few times in their door lock every time I walk past their door. Jams the lock up with salt crystals when it dries. They won't be able to get the key in to unlock it after a while. You can be slam free for at least a few hours while they call and wait for maintenance to change the lock. The cussing and struggle is pretty entertaining and satisfying 🤷😁🫡
🤣🤣interesting, I just might do that lol
If they ask you about your door and if it's doing the same thing, say "nope, I don't slam my door" 🤷
I have this same issue with the assholes next door. Unfortunately I’m no help because my notes about being mindful about the door have done nothing to stop them
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this too, have you spoken to the property manager about it?
We’re condos and the Hoa is pretty much useless unfortunately
Unfortunately living in an apartment does come with being willing to accept that you won’t have pure peace & quiet all the time.. however this does sound beyond what anyone should accept as a normal noise level. Definitely get the camera that captures sounds. And make a compilation you can send in to your landlord. If they’re actually seriously *slamming* the door deliberately to make excess noise, then the camera should see that and action needs to be taken from the landlord. If it’s just a normal way of closing a door and it’s making that sound, then it’s not the neighbors fault but the landlord needs to fix/replace the door and door frame so that Normal shutting of the door doesn’t do that. Your neighbors might say something about the camera, but just tell them it’s so that the landlord can see how noisy the door is so they can fix it.
Thank you, I agree, and this is definitely beyond the normal noise level. I have 7 other apartments surrounding me and I don’t have this problem with any of my other neighbors, except them. I know they do it out of spite. 😣
one of the mods suggested a non violent restrainjng order, get the damned evidence first though. if its that loud you should be able to get footage with clear audio if you set it on the ground (the iphones seem to have gotten a little better because they were not capturing bass before but now they catch my downstairs neighbor slamming shit). DO IT. lawyer up if management cannot do shit or wont. I believe my downstairs is moving out because she keeps going outside every 15 minute and she never went outside before.
I’ve tried to capture it on my iPhone, but it happens randomly and so quickly, it’s just like a loud bang, I don’t have enough time to pull out my phone to record when im working. Thank you for the suggestion, I might look into that non violent restraining order.
Wait until they leave for a day or more and generously apply liquid nails all around the door frame.
Is it possible they are not actually slamming the door shut and that is has an automatic closer? Ask the property manager to adjust the automatic closer.
No, they don’t have a door closer. It’s them purposely doing it, none of my other surroundings neighbors slam the door like this.
Why not get some silicone caulk and use it around the open gap of the door but not so much as to caulk the door shut, but it might add a rubber surface to the edge there and give it some bumpers
Hi, I came to reddit searching for answers because I have the exact same problem. Our landlord basically said they maintenanced the door but the girl next to us still makes it a point to slam that door as hard as she can. I also work from home. This girl is up and door slamming from 530am on all day taking her dogs out for walks. We have been putting up with this for almost a year and complained 3 times. They've asked the tenant to be more mindful of the door but Ive listened to how ghetto and loud this girl is fighting people she's on the phone with or anyone she's dating that's visiting and I told our landlord I can assure you that's she is not a kind person who wants to be courteous to her neighbors based on everything Ive heard through the walls. We have leased another year as we dont have the funds to move right now but I don't see why nothing can be done to help us. If it's not us they'll have problems with the next tenants as well I'm certain.