Had a shit first marriage in my 20’s due to parental and peer pressure. After years of misery, my brain cells finally woke up one day and I was done. Dated for the first time in my late 30’s/early 40’s and then have an amazing 2nd marriage.
Married at 36, so not as late as in your question. Wife was 32 then. We had been dating for 2 years by then.
In hindsight, I'd have looked at marrying in my late 20's. IMO it works out better in building financial stability (assuming both are working) and in having uncomplicated pregnancies. Also helps to get in there before both get too set in their ways.
As age creeps up, the chances of getting pregnant in the first place, then chances of miscarriages (and subsequent associated health/mental stresses) etc go up rapidly.
Sorry did you just say it helps having uncomplicated pregnancy if you have them late in life? Good that things worked out for you, but let's keep it logical and scientific here.
My SIL did at 38. Her husband was 40+. They are very happy and it seems worth the wait as they seem made for each other. Things have worked out well and they are each financially well off too. Do things on your own time line and find the right person! Good luck!
It can be difficult at any age. Fitness impacts the chances, and the probability of lower fitness is higher in 30s. Also the chances of pregnancy complications increase in mid-30s.
Only thing I would recommend (just local wisdom, not medical advice) is to NOT delay kids too long after marriage. Take maybe 6-9months to enjoy your marriage and then go for kids. The more you delay after marriage, the tougher conceiving seems to get.
Birth control, abortions, etc overall take a toll on the body and create havoc with the hormones. The more you delay, the more chances you have abused your body, also with smoking, alcohol, junk food, etc.
I am 30 completely depressed suffering from rage attacks, loneliness and daily parental pressure. No one to vent out even not to the doctor. On medicines by the way.
Although, I find out generally people feel if they are married to compatible partners but they have to worry about kids at such age.
Biological age is a very real thing if the perspective includes the kids.
All the best.
Thanks.
My cousin isn't married at 37 but he has hobbies and has made a good support system around himself with friends and family, his parents nag too but it's one of those things that happens and you can avoid so don't think much about it.
Anyway, It's not a guarantee that you won't feel lonely after getting, marriage itself is a gamble, even for love marriages, it is different after marriage so if you r lucky then great but if not then you have loneliness plus other shit load of problems.
Parental pressure can be tackled by taking a job in a different city, love is so oversold that if someone does not have a partner they directly jump to lonely status, I mean there has to be something in between.being Alone is not a problem but not having any interest or hobby does make it a problem. Reconnect your old friends you never know who valued you more than who you thought did.
Well I cannot leave my parents as they are emotionally fragile. Especially my mother, she needs a person who can help her emotionally. As she is fragile after suffering in the long run. Also I want kids as well but dont wish to get married as it triggers me a lot. I feel bad when my parents play with other people's kids. It's natural and important in their age.
They have sacrificed almost everything they had. Now in their old age they want to see their grand kids. So this hurts me a lot. As I have always been an average student. I was fired from a company for poor performance as well. All Thanks to my mental health issues. These days i am working on an average package that is low but decent as per our situation.
My friends are here but no one is mature enough to understand the issues. They are helpful though but non emotionally. Also I never relied on anyone emotionally. Even during my college days when my father used to drink alcohol after suffering from financial backslash or court issues and make our night black as hell. Even at that time i used to sit in the temple and used to cry without tears and voice.
Now I am becoming like my father without alcohol and drugs.
Dude, even I have my fair share of experience with family toxicity hence I am telling you with experience, save yourself first if you want to help your mom, have some consideration for your own life too as I am not sure if you know that you will be alive even after them. At least try taking a small trip or something.
Journaling can only keep you sane. That's it. It doesn't uplift. Not for long atleast. Trust me, journaling is pretty much all I had for a long and imp time in my life.
Thanks for being concerned, I used to write my diary almost everyday on my iPad. But the most painful part is having a rage attack. I feel like I am going to do the same with my wife as well. Therefore I want time for healing. I had medicines for a year in 2021 but now all those things are coming back.
My parents are pressuring me and i can't say no to any opportunity they bring to me. Till now luck favors my side and all the ladies have rejected me.
I want time to heal and my mother says take medicines and you will be fine in 1-2 months.
As time passes, so is their anxiety. My mother has crying faces as she herself suffered from domestic violence for 15 years. My father is also suffering from depression and on medicines.
When I see my parents in pain as they want to see their grand children ASAP. I feel so terrible.
No idea what to do. I told them to get me married to any lady.
Let's see what happens.
Thanks.
Please don't ruin some woman's life. First fix your issues and then get married. But then again, there is no obligation to get married and neither is there any obligation to have kids after marriage. Your parents' wishes be damned. Just because they want grandkids, it doesn't mean you have to give it to them. Don't overburden yourself with that crap. Ultimately, you will be the one on the hook to raise those kids and provide them the very best. If you can't provide them at par with what your friends and relatives are providing, you will get depressed again when your kids start comparing you with other fathers. Trust me, this BS never ends. So be happy with yourself and don't worry about satisfying anyone else.
Bro, just saying fuckoff will only be going to build a wrong perception. My parents have sacrificed a lot and when I say a lot it means a lot.
My father was raised in an extremely toxic environment where they worked as a daytime labourer as well during their school days. In my school days at least I was living with luxury because I can afford a good bed and good school where no one is going to beat me just because I haven't cleaned the toilets. So you can understand the people who could just think about roti kapda and makaan also managed to arrange a good education for their kids.
My father bought a second hand car and some jewellery and even a small piece of land till the age of 45. All of them were sold when he was fired by his boss due to toxic environment in the office.
So you can understand how much is difficult for them to arrange things for me in those situation.
During that time they also used to feel the same way just I am feeling but the bad part was alcohol that turns them into a monster. That's why I hate alcohol.
Today my parents always feel blessed that I am their son.
Their own mental health is not like the strong minded people.
The struggle for roti kapda and makaan ruins so many people's mental capability.
Hope you might understand where I am standing and why I believe my parents are not wrong expecting to see their grand kids!!!!
Its me who has issues not them....
Hey, I might not be very experienced with stuff like this, but i know what it feels like to be in a bad situation on your own. Listen, I don't know what rage attacks are like, but please tread carefully. Your parents will not be good if something happens that tears apart your new marriage either. I understand how tensed you are and it's justified to feel for your parents. That's what responsible people do. I wont give you a specific opinion on what you should do as I think only you know what the actual gravity and consequences of your decisions would be. Wish you luck ✌️ keep us posted if you like
38 not married, I laugh at all the divorces all around me and all kinds of drama. Indian culture is the most toxic culture on the face of the planet. Peer pressuring each other into marriage and having children is a trap. Children reduce your quality of life and eventually they leave and you're left with a shit past. This country, it's people the culture, the weather, the religions, the rampant environmental destruction and unsustainable development going on, the pathetic intelligence of people, total lack of objectivity, lack of civic sense, why increase the population? the incompetent ones are unfortunately producing babies like machines and very soon this country is gonna be filled with chapris. I mean I'm not surprised have you guys seen the cost of a good education for children in this country? hell I can do a better job of raising the kid and preventing them from cultural bullshit using chat gpt and teaching then economics and how money works to prevent them from falling into the fiat currency ponzi scheme.
True that ! 34F here. Can't see why people are so obsessed about marriage! I am single, not dating, not getting married and not wanting kids ever. Reasons: as of you and also the fact that I love being family with my parents and I am happy in my own company. Always. I watch movies alone, dine alone.. nothing makes me feel lonely honestly. I read a lot and watch movies and series, eat good food.. that's enough! Nothing is going to pressure me into marrying any Tom, Dicky, Harry.. nobody could till date, nobody can. Plus my parents never put pressure on me, my colleagues and toxic relatives and neighbours did which I shook off !! That's it !!
Here's my full comment if anybody's interested:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskIndia/s/6ppQJFnC26
No OP. He is 100% wrong. No point replying to him but since you asked the question, i believe you'd be more receptive of the views. Economics and numbers defies his claim. We are growing at 8% GDP. That's phenomenal. Population is plateauing because of our development. Population is also minds not stomachs to feed. Look at how our cities are growing. That's development. It is not doom and gloom. It is doom only on social media.
Traffic and civic sense are problems. I acknowledge that. But with education and jobs that will get better. What we are not seeing is how it has gotten better in 77 years of independence. Our democracy works. Bureaucracy is slow. There is corruption but we are not a military state or communist state. There is still a lot going well in this country. No one should get carried away by cesspool bullshit.
Buddy. You are actually wrong about one thing. The population is what that’s complicating everything in the first place. It is also the reason why we are being paid peanuts despite being qualified and skilled compared the the west. We are becoming the worlds’ backend office. And worse, the population is keeping our salaries to stay low - cos if you decide to quit there are 1000 people in line to do your job at even lower salary. We are being exploited to the core! At this rate, the economy would stay the same way, and we will keep being exploited in the foreseeable future as well! Welcome to modern colonialism!! I am seriously scared how India is going to be in the future as I lack trust in the current government as well!
You have to create value, unless India creates manufacturing jobs which will create an internal economy there won't be very high paying jobs ever. China is an example
Again wrong. Do you know how Chinese labourers are exploited in the manufacturing industry? And worse they even employ children. Read reports on Apple, Nike and many other brands do. They run sweatshops and even employ children. The poorest man in China would comparatively be making lower wages than the poor in India. And given the rate, China is the manufacturing hub with just finite resources, I’m not sure how long can China sustain in the long run.
The actual solution would be for us to get into innovation. And try to develop the products within india in a sustainable way rather than outsourcing production to China. We have so many talents within the country despite the huge brain drain. We should rather use the talents than letting them be some slave to a global corporation. But sadly our corrupt government will never do that cos innovation and R&D costs a lot and less prone to scams. Rather than spending on useless stuff like statues and temples, let’s start innovating and develop our own in-house solutions. That’s the only way forward!
I largely disagree to the sweeping generalisation that you are propagating in your comment. As a parent, my child has enriched my life, emotionally and otherwise. We can agree to disagree but this sweeping generalisation speaks volumes of the bitterness you have towards everything. And if the country is so terrible, I wish you the best in finding refuge elsewhere. Happy immigration!
So thats where the bitterness is emanating from. I get it. I was mildly peeved at first but I understand now. Problematic parental baggage, possible traumatic childhood, add to that you’re gay so can’t even marry, or have children. I’m sorry life has been hard for you and you can’t find joy in anything cos you havent experienced it maybe, but life is wonderful. I hope you find light at the end of the tunnel. Wishing you the best.
The indian govt has banned darwins theories from school text books so don't try to peddle your antinational western theories from antinational person in the past. You are the danger to this country. Find a true indian scholar and then talk. Your children is growing up reading all this western propaganda!!!!
I didn't talk about Indian govt. Don't let them live rent free in your mind.
Better you man up, grow some balls and stop blaming everything around you for your failures
Impotents / low testosterone males or woke women speak like this. They are kids in an adult body. Cannot take responsibility of raising kids so they put blame on everything around them
>Indian culture is the most toxic culture on the face of the planet.
I totally disagree, if it doesn't workout for some people around u, that doesn't mean the culture is stupid or toxic, it's like if Indian cricket doesn't perform well, that doesn't make cricket is a toxic or stupid sport.
Yea getting into peer pressure is obviously wrong. But again my point.
Look at the urban slums around you and look at the air and water quality measures. Look at the old and weak on the streets abandoned by the govt and our culture. The true measure of a society and its culture is by how it treats its weak and helpless, how it treats its environment and its cleanliness. how they support one another. We fail en-mass on each of these kpi. Just gdp means nothing. Just buildings being erected by unsustainable development means nothing. Just amassing wealth means nothing. The govt is a representation of the people and given how corrupt and criminal loaded our govts are, it paints a very sorry and scary and sad picture for our culture.
That was a really good rant about govt and corrupt politicians, and I totally agree, but I m sorry but I missed the part where it was related marriages which is the core topic of discussion here.
My uncle did. It was a marriage of convenience....they hardly have a smile on their face. They always look grumpy. I hate that thing man. If you live 40+years alone, you don't need any companion...believe me...you are better off alone.....don't try to marry someone and bring their emotional baggage home...it's disgusting...
PS: WHEN YOUNG: JAATH, PAATH, GOTRA etc.
WHEN OLD( 35+): SUDDENLY LIBERALS....
Don't fall for this trap.
34F here. Can't see why people are so obsessed about marriage! I am single, not dating, not getting married and not wanting kids ever. Government servant and very good looking as per others. Got proposals from NRIs, DSPs, Top level engineers and doctors. But I never accepted any. Reasons: I hate the misogyny in India and the toxic expectations people have of married women, whether working or not. I am extremely upright to deal with these kinds of bs, ever. Also as a single child I love being family with my parents, and taking care of them and my 12 stray fur babies and I am happy in my own company(which is most important). Always. When not with my parents (as they are aged now to accompany me at times), I watch movies alone, dine alone in restaurants.. nothing makes me feel lonely honestly. I have been doing these since I was in college. I read a lot and watch movies and series, eat good food.. that's enough! Nothing is going to pressure me into marrying any Tom, Dicky, Harry.. nobody could till date, nobody can. I won't marry for money, I can even marry a tea seller if I like him. My bars are mine and they are non-negotiable.Plus my parents never put pressure on me. My colleagues and toxic relatives and neighbours did which I shook off !! That's it !! Learn to love your own company.. it's simple.
For people who might ask, "Who will take care of you after your parents?", my answer is: God. If God's with me, he is and will see me through thick and thin. If not, even marriage and kids can't guarantee a lonely death. Alone. Nobody to attend to at the last minute. Thus be good and do good. God will handle it all.
Ignore his rude troll. I completely get you. I'm 24 and also have the qualities you listed about yourself, since I get approached both for LM & AM, but not going for marriage right now. I'm not going to do it just for the sake of it especially when life is good now. Only when it's meant to be and I really feel mature will I consider it.
That's maturity !! It's the same for me, after all marriage is a life changing decision, just can't do it for the society!
If after marriage I feel uncomfortable, the same society which pressurized me into getting married will sneer at me for not coping well in my married life! What's the point then in giving so much importance to WHAT OTHERS THINK?! Ultimately we are our own saviours. It's our lives.
qiittaatha munthiri pulikkum, that's what you meant right? No, it's not the "grapes are sour" case.. and from the next time try not to be cryptic and write in a language which is understood by all in the forum.. Grow up and heal. Stop being sarcastic towards others and start loving yourself.
I married at 38 after dating for 3 years. After going through 10 years of Bull shit if shaadi.com. I am glad I did it this way and did not scummed to family pressure and married someone crazy or I did. It love
Seem's like am left out of certain Life goals. Conceiving becomes a big problem in late marriages. I have been fit and fine all my twenties. Worked out great but nearing to 30's there is a need for partner. And in india if you are staying with in your culture. It's hard to find one. If you find one,compatibilty shall be an issue. I would suggest "25 year's " an ideal age for getting married and settled.
Late marriages carry their own challenges. Kids can then get born very late. Then kids education continues to the couple ageing at 58-60 which is the "income stopping age". It is still recommended to get married at the correct age in the 20's.
Does this sub doesn’t have anything to talk other than marriage and sex . Like gtfo your room and touch grass. Not everything revolves around women and sex ffs. No wonder people of outside India seeing us sex deprived and undesirable. Yikes
Had a shit first marriage in my 20’s due to parental and peer pressure. After years of misery, my brain cells finally woke up one day and I was done. Dated for the first time in my late 30’s/early 40’s and then have an amazing 2nd marriage.
This is me as well.
Well done.
Congrats & proud of you
Thank you!
Kudos to your brain cells! Just kidding 😂 Happy 2nd marriage 🤞
Married at 36, so not as late as in your question. Wife was 32 then. We had been dating for 2 years by then. In hindsight, I'd have looked at marrying in my late 20's. IMO it works out better in building financial stability (assuming both are working) and in having uncomplicated pregnancies. Also helps to get in there before both get too set in their ways.
Nice.
Uncomplicated pregnancies? I hope all is well, but would you mind elaborating if it’s not a sensitive topic?
As age creeps up, the chances of getting pregnant in the first place, then chances of miscarriages (and subsequent associated health/mental stresses) etc go up rapidly.
Sorry did you just say it helps having uncomplicated pregnancy if you have them late in life? Good that things worked out for you, but let's keep it logical and scientific here.
He is saying it would have been better in his late 20s, he isn't talking about current scenario.
The comment was edited later.
What are you smoking? 😂
Poor reading comprehension
Damn had you commented in vernacular i would have understood but damn poor comprehension skills
Kuch likh rhi thi?
Nhi dikh rha i guess dumb sissy can’t even type
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This will be me in 35 years.
So hilarious but also scary because this will be me in 3 years
😅
My SIL did at 38. Her husband was 40+. They are very happy and it seems worth the wait as they seem made for each other. Things have worked out well and they are each financially well off too. Do things on your own time line and find the right person! Good luck!
Awesome!
This!! Its giving me hope
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>getting married late is trouble having kids. You can have mine. If you take two, I'll even give you some of their clothes
Cool.
No it's not cool
I wrote 'cool' before the 'edit'.
Bro had to justify one word
I'm planning to marry late as well. What is the age range from where on having children becomes difficult?
For women 30+ and after 35 they even make u take a test for deformity. That’s scary
It can be difficult at any age. Fitness impacts the chances, and the probability of lower fitness is higher in 30s. Also the chances of pregnancy complications increase in mid-30s. Only thing I would recommend (just local wisdom, not medical advice) is to NOT delay kids too long after marriage. Take maybe 6-9months to enjoy your marriage and then go for kids. The more you delay after marriage, the tougher conceiving seems to get.
Birth control, abortions, etc overall take a toll on the body and create havoc with the hormones. The more you delay, the more chances you have abused your body, also with smoking, alcohol, junk food, etc.
How old was your gf at the time?
I am 30 completely depressed suffering from rage attacks, loneliness and daily parental pressure. No one to vent out even not to the doctor. On medicines by the way. Although, I find out generally people feel if they are married to compatible partners but they have to worry about kids at such age. Biological age is a very real thing if the perspective includes the kids. All the best. Thanks.
My cousin isn't married at 37 but he has hobbies and has made a good support system around himself with friends and family, his parents nag too but it's one of those things that happens and you can avoid so don't think much about it. Anyway, It's not a guarantee that you won't feel lonely after getting, marriage itself is a gamble, even for love marriages, it is different after marriage so if you r lucky then great but if not then you have loneliness plus other shit load of problems. Parental pressure can be tackled by taking a job in a different city, love is so oversold that if someone does not have a partner they directly jump to lonely status, I mean there has to be something in between.being Alone is not a problem but not having any interest or hobby does make it a problem. Reconnect your old friends you never know who valued you more than who you thought did.
Well I cannot leave my parents as they are emotionally fragile. Especially my mother, she needs a person who can help her emotionally. As she is fragile after suffering in the long run. Also I want kids as well but dont wish to get married as it triggers me a lot. I feel bad when my parents play with other people's kids. It's natural and important in their age. They have sacrificed almost everything they had. Now in their old age they want to see their grand kids. So this hurts me a lot. As I have always been an average student. I was fired from a company for poor performance as well. All Thanks to my mental health issues. These days i am working on an average package that is low but decent as per our situation. My friends are here but no one is mature enough to understand the issues. They are helpful though but non emotionally. Also I never relied on anyone emotionally. Even during my college days when my father used to drink alcohol after suffering from financial backslash or court issues and make our night black as hell. Even at that time i used to sit in the temple and used to cry without tears and voice. Now I am becoming like my father without alcohol and drugs.
Dude, even I have my fair share of experience with family toxicity hence I am telling you with experience, save yourself first if you want to help your mom, have some consideration for your own life too as I am not sure if you know that you will be alive even after them. At least try taking a small trip or something.
Your issue isn’t age. It is enmeshment. You need to live for yourself first.
Try therapy? Journaling also works.
Journaling can only keep you sane. That's it. It doesn't uplift. Not for long atleast. Trust me, journaling is pretty much all I had for a long and imp time in my life.
Thanks for being concerned, I used to write my diary almost everyday on my iPad. But the most painful part is having a rage attack. I feel like I am going to do the same with my wife as well. Therefore I want time for healing. I had medicines for a year in 2021 but now all those things are coming back. My parents are pressuring me and i can't say no to any opportunity they bring to me. Till now luck favors my side and all the ladies have rejected me. I want time to heal and my mother says take medicines and you will be fine in 1-2 months. As time passes, so is their anxiety. My mother has crying faces as she herself suffered from domestic violence for 15 years. My father is also suffering from depression and on medicines. When I see my parents in pain as they want to see their grand children ASAP. I feel so terrible. No idea what to do. I told them to get me married to any lady. Let's see what happens. Thanks.
Please don't ruin some woman's life. First fix your issues and then get married. But then again, there is no obligation to get married and neither is there any obligation to have kids after marriage. Your parents' wishes be damned. Just because they want grandkids, it doesn't mean you have to give it to them. Don't overburden yourself with that crap. Ultimately, you will be the one on the hook to raise those kids and provide them the very best. If you can't provide them at par with what your friends and relatives are providing, you will get depressed again when your kids start comparing you with other fathers. Trust me, this BS never ends. So be happy with yourself and don't worry about satisfying anyone else.
this is what I say about indian culture being toxic. parents should fuck off.
Bro, just saying fuckoff will only be going to build a wrong perception. My parents have sacrificed a lot and when I say a lot it means a lot. My father was raised in an extremely toxic environment where they worked as a daytime labourer as well during their school days. In my school days at least I was living with luxury because I can afford a good bed and good school where no one is going to beat me just because I haven't cleaned the toilets. So you can understand the people who could just think about roti kapda and makaan also managed to arrange a good education for their kids. My father bought a second hand car and some jewellery and even a small piece of land till the age of 45. All of them were sold when he was fired by his boss due to toxic environment in the office. So you can understand how much is difficult for them to arrange things for me in those situation. During that time they also used to feel the same way just I am feeling but the bad part was alcohol that turns them into a monster. That's why I hate alcohol. Today my parents always feel blessed that I am their son. Their own mental health is not like the strong minded people. The struggle for roti kapda and makaan ruins so many people's mental capability. Hope you might understand where I am standing and why I believe my parents are not wrong expecting to see their grand kids!!!! Its me who has issues not them....
speaking from experience, tomorrow your father might die, who will you please then? your life would be FUCKED.
Hey, I might not be very experienced with stuff like this, but i know what it feels like to be in a bad situation on your own. Listen, I don't know what rage attacks are like, but please tread carefully. Your parents will not be good if something happens that tears apart your new marriage either. I understand how tensed you are and it's justified to feel for your parents. That's what responsible people do. I wont give you a specific opinion on what you should do as I think only you know what the actual gravity and consequences of your decisions would be. Wish you luck ✌️ keep us posted if you like
38 not married, I laugh at all the divorces all around me and all kinds of drama. Indian culture is the most toxic culture on the face of the planet. Peer pressuring each other into marriage and having children is a trap. Children reduce your quality of life and eventually they leave and you're left with a shit past. This country, it's people the culture, the weather, the religions, the rampant environmental destruction and unsustainable development going on, the pathetic intelligence of people, total lack of objectivity, lack of civic sense, why increase the population? the incompetent ones are unfortunately producing babies like machines and very soon this country is gonna be filled with chapris. I mean I'm not surprised have you guys seen the cost of a good education for children in this country? hell I can do a better job of raising the kid and preventing them from cultural bullshit using chat gpt and teaching then economics and how money works to prevent them from falling into the fiat currency ponzi scheme.
True that ! 34F here. Can't see why people are so obsessed about marriage! I am single, not dating, not getting married and not wanting kids ever. Reasons: as of you and also the fact that I love being family with my parents and I am happy in my own company. Always. I watch movies alone, dine alone.. nothing makes me feel lonely honestly. I read a lot and watch movies and series, eat good food.. that's enough! Nothing is going to pressure me into marrying any Tom, Dicky, Harry.. nobody could till date, nobody can. Plus my parents never put pressure on me, my colleagues and toxic relatives and neighbours did which I shook off !! That's it !! Here's my full comment if anybody's interested: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskIndia/s/6ppQJFnC26
Man you are 100% correct.
No OP. He is 100% wrong. No point replying to him but since you asked the question, i believe you'd be more receptive of the views. Economics and numbers defies his claim. We are growing at 8% GDP. That's phenomenal. Population is plateauing because of our development. Population is also minds not stomachs to feed. Look at how our cities are growing. That's development. It is not doom and gloom. It is doom only on social media. Traffic and civic sense are problems. I acknowledge that. But with education and jobs that will get better. What we are not seeing is how it has gotten better in 77 years of independence. Our democracy works. Bureaucracy is slow. There is corruption but we are not a military state or communist state. There is still a lot going well in this country. No one should get carried away by cesspool bullshit.
I'll just leave this here. 😚 https://preview.redd.it/sh0m5t0c3q9d1.jpeg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=81020a9348f0ee3b90e199854af9532ed0cceccb
This is stupid graph that economic illiterates bring up without context. Lot more involved than just exchange rates.
yes, usd is toilet paper. Bitcoin is the hardest asset in the world that's why I stack it and not triple strength toilet paper which is our inr.
Why USD value matters Poverty has decreased after that so called steep hike in USD Post the 90s reforms
I don't disagree with you that Bitcoin is the hardest asset and will go to the moon
finally a smart person !
Never argue with an imbecile - only rule in social media. Let them be :)
Buddy. You are actually wrong about one thing. The population is what that’s complicating everything in the first place. It is also the reason why we are being paid peanuts despite being qualified and skilled compared the the west. We are becoming the worlds’ backend office. And worse, the population is keeping our salaries to stay low - cos if you decide to quit there are 1000 people in line to do your job at even lower salary. We are being exploited to the core! At this rate, the economy would stay the same way, and we will keep being exploited in the foreseeable future as well! Welcome to modern colonialism!! I am seriously scared how India is going to be in the future as I lack trust in the current government as well!
lol he's drunk from the chaddi infused koolaid
You have to create value, unless India creates manufacturing jobs which will create an internal economy there won't be very high paying jobs ever. China is an example
Again wrong. Do you know how Chinese labourers are exploited in the manufacturing industry? And worse they even employ children. Read reports on Apple, Nike and many other brands do. They run sweatshops and even employ children. The poorest man in China would comparatively be making lower wages than the poor in India. And given the rate, China is the manufacturing hub with just finite resources, I’m not sure how long can China sustain in the long run. The actual solution would be for us to get into innovation. And try to develop the products within india in a sustainable way rather than outsourcing production to China. We have so many talents within the country despite the huge brain drain. We should rather use the talents than letting them be some slave to a global corporation. But sadly our corrupt government will never do that cos innovation and R&D costs a lot and less prone to scams. Rather than spending on useless stuff like statues and temples, let’s start innovating and develop our own in-house solutions. That’s the only way forward!
China is the manufacturing hub Few reports don't change the fact of how China became Rich by doing manufacturing
Agree with this. Lot of depressed people projecting their view here. Medical help needed
So much bitterness, I’m glad you aren’t procreating. 🤦🏻♂️
Nothing bitter about truth. Truth is ugly, you can choose to be objective about it, or be ignorant or apathetic towards it. I choose the former.
I largely disagree to the sweeping generalisation that you are propagating in your comment. As a parent, my child has enriched my life, emotionally and otherwise. We can agree to disagree but this sweeping generalisation speaks volumes of the bitterness you have towards everything. And if the country is so terrible, I wish you the best in finding refuge elsewhere. Happy immigration!
So thats where the bitterness is emanating from. I get it. I was mildly peeved at first but I understand now. Problematic parental baggage, possible traumatic childhood, add to that you’re gay so can’t even marry, or have children. I’m sorry life has been hard for you and you can’t find joy in anything cos you havent experienced it maybe, but life is wonderful. I hope you find light at the end of the tunnel. Wishing you the best.
+1 darwinism is helping weed out the doomers
The indian govt has banned darwins theories from school text books so don't try to peddle your antinational western theories from antinational person in the past. You are the danger to this country. Find a true indian scholar and then talk. Your children is growing up reading all this western propaganda!!!!
I didn't talk about Indian govt. Don't let them live rent free in your mind. Better you man up, grow some balls and stop blaming everything around you for your failures
damn you totally fell for that 🤣 so angsty, so fragile 😢 🤣🤣🤣
Right, the buck gladly stops here. 😆
how many divorces have you seen?
Impotents / low testosterone males or woke women speak like this. They are kids in an adult body. Cannot take responsibility of raising kids so they put blame on everything around them
People like you are the reason for overpopulation in India
You must be fun to hang out with
>Indian culture is the most toxic culture on the face of the planet. I totally disagree, if it doesn't workout for some people around u, that doesn't mean the culture is stupid or toxic, it's like if Indian cricket doesn't perform well, that doesn't make cricket is a toxic or stupid sport. Yea getting into peer pressure is obviously wrong. But again my point.
Look at the urban slums around you and look at the air and water quality measures. Look at the old and weak on the streets abandoned by the govt and our culture. The true measure of a society and its culture is by how it treats its weak and helpless, how it treats its environment and its cleanliness. how they support one another. We fail en-mass on each of these kpi. Just gdp means nothing. Just buildings being erected by unsustainable development means nothing. Just amassing wealth means nothing. The govt is a representation of the people and given how corrupt and criminal loaded our govts are, it paints a very sorry and scary and sad picture for our culture.
That was a really good rant about govt and corrupt politicians, and I totally agree, but I m sorry but I missed the part where it was related marriages which is the core topic of discussion here.
My uncle did. It was a marriage of convenience....they hardly have a smile on their face. They always look grumpy. I hate that thing man. If you live 40+years alone, you don't need any companion...believe me...you are better off alone.....don't try to marry someone and bring their emotional baggage home...it's disgusting... PS: WHEN YOUNG: JAATH, PAATH, GOTRA etc. WHEN OLD( 35+): SUDDENLY LIBERALS.... Don't fall for this trap.
Haha.
34F here. Can't see why people are so obsessed about marriage! I am single, not dating, not getting married and not wanting kids ever. Government servant and very good looking as per others. Got proposals from NRIs, DSPs, Top level engineers and doctors. But I never accepted any. Reasons: I hate the misogyny in India and the toxic expectations people have of married women, whether working or not. I am extremely upright to deal with these kinds of bs, ever. Also as a single child I love being family with my parents, and taking care of them and my 12 stray fur babies and I am happy in my own company(which is most important). Always. When not with my parents (as they are aged now to accompany me at times), I watch movies alone, dine alone in restaurants.. nothing makes me feel lonely honestly. I have been doing these since I was in college. I read a lot and watch movies and series, eat good food.. that's enough! Nothing is going to pressure me into marrying any Tom, Dicky, Harry.. nobody could till date, nobody can. I won't marry for money, I can even marry a tea seller if I like him. My bars are mine and they are non-negotiable.Plus my parents never put pressure on me. My colleagues and toxic relatives and neighbours did which I shook off !! That's it !! Learn to love your own company.. it's simple. For people who might ask, "Who will take care of you after your parents?", my answer is: God. If God's with me, he is and will see me through thick and thin. If not, even marriage and kids can't guarantee a lonely death. Alone. Nobody to attend to at the last minute. Thus be good and do good. God will handle it all.
That's great if that's your choice.
I'm pretty much in the same boat as you and love your comment so much! Here's to our solitude and contentment 🥂
Heyy, that's awesome !! Good to find someone like-minded 🥂
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Same lol, are you me? :P I'm relatively younger, but you resonate pretty much what I feel wrt to why I think marriage is a trap.
Heyy, that's cool !! 😃❤️
You should get out of your head a little more.
If I'm comfortable in my own head and living my happy life, then I think that's enough. It's my life after all. You do you. 😊
Ignore his rude troll. I completely get you. I'm 24 and also have the qualities you listed about yourself, since I get approached both for LM & AM, but not going for marriage right now. I'm not going to do it just for the sake of it especially when life is good now. Only when it's meant to be and I really feel mature will I consider it.
That's maturity !! It's the same for me, after all marriage is a life changing decision, just can't do it for the society! If after marriage I feel uncomfortable, the same society which pressurized me into getting married will sneer at me for not coping well in my married life! What's the point then in giving so much importance to WHAT OTHERS THINK?! Ultimately we are our own saviours. It's our lives.
Your comment reminds me of a Malayalam saying "കിട്ടാത്ത മുന്തിരി പുളിക്കും"
qiittaatha munthiri pulikkum, that's what you meant right? No, it's not the "grapes are sour" case.. and from the next time try not to be cryptic and write in a language which is understood by all in the forum.. Grow up and heal. Stop being sarcastic towards others and start loving yourself.
The only one this is applicable to is you. Your life sucks so you cant see anyone else happy.
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You will also marry someone else's crush.
my parents are in 40s currently💀
Marriage is just a scam
I married at 38 after dating for 3 years. After going through 10 years of Bull shit if shaadi.com. I am glad I did it this way and did not scummed to family pressure and married someone crazy or I did. It love
At least some imp facilities are available at home even late maarid.
Seem's like am left out of certain Life goals. Conceiving becomes a big problem in late marriages. I have been fit and fine all my twenties. Worked out great but nearing to 30's there is a need for partner. And in india if you are staying with in your culture. It's hard to find one. If you find one,compatibilty shall be an issue. I would suggest "25 year's " an ideal age for getting married and settled.
Not sure why u r getting downvoted. Truth is indeed bitter.
Absolutely
This is the truth.
Pata nahi 18 saal ka hokar mai kiyu comments padh rha hu :)
Knowledge yehi toh upsc mein aiga sociology mein.
You don't even have to think if above 40,it's a well thought decision.Maturity does matter...
my father (42)
soon you will be their slave
Late marriages carry their own challenges. Kids can then get born very late. Then kids education continues to the couple ageing at 58-60 which is the "income stopping age". It is still recommended to get married at the correct age in the 20's.
All is well but taking care of kids, spending time with them, and actively participating in their activities may become a tough task in my opinion!
Does this sub doesn’t have anything to talk other than marriage and sex . Like gtfo your room and touch grass. Not everything revolves around women and sex ffs. No wonder people of outside India seeing us sex deprived and undesirable. Yikes