Adding to this: Lack of taking an action ultimately will become your action and decides things for you. Its better to make a choice and own up to it sooner.
I always laugh when younger people on here say "it's going to end badly". It ends badly for everybody. All I hope for as an old geezer is to go quick and as painlessly as possible. And not become a burden on my wife.
That's not a terrible fact that's a beautiful thing. Embrace it. But damn you live. Don't just exist live. The Sequoia lives for 3 thousand years. The eagle for just for 20. But the eagle lived. It embraced the sky it rode the winds and knew the thrill of the hunt. The Sequoia only existed.
The sequoia was witness to life. The sequoia was a giver of life. The sequoia was a sustainer of life. Who is to say the sequoia did not embrace its living the same as the eagle? It touched the sky, it filtered the winds, it sheltered the weary and gave shade to the tired. Its roots reached into the earth and stretched to seek water…
I’d say they do greatly impact your value as a person in the world. You can make a career out of being good looking, people are more likely to listen to you, you’re more likely to advance in your career, you’re more likely to get help when you’re in trouble, there has been a ton of studies showing that just being good looking is a huge advantage.
Should it affect your *self* worth? No, but I don’t think it’s realistic to say it doesn’t add value.
It impacts perceived value as a person.
More attractive people tend to have easier time in every element of life that is social in slightest way.
Thats a fact. Its life on easier mode.
I would say don't count on Karma to even out the playing field. Bad people do get ahead and often get away with it.
On the other hand I see a lot of posts in this sub where people wallow in self pity, but refuse to make the hard choices that would detach them from the bad lot they've got.
I can never take those types seriously. I dealt with someone who wanted to complain about their situation but they didn’t want to leave. They essentially just wanted to have a safety net to talk to in the form of me while remaining where they were.
I started by saying stuff like save your money and get out of there, go back home to your family and they’ll help, and hell you could crash with me for a bit until the dust cleared but they just kept saying they couldn’t leave.
Eventually I just gave up and every time they messaged me to complain, which was the main reason they messaged me, I just said straight up, “I don’t want to to hear about it anymore. You’ve told me your concerns and your dislike for your situation, now either sack up and leave it or sit there and quit complaining. I’m done listening to this.” And suddenly I’m the bad guy.....
Honestly by the end I just felt used. That person never asked me how I was doing or anything, it was like anytime they wanted to talk, it was about that.
There’s also a difference between airing feelings and concerns and just complaining. The complaints were always about what other people were doing to piss this person off, or what they weren’t doing and it would piss this person off. Eventually it sounded like everyone else was the asshole and not them and they’re refused to own their part in any of it or do anything about it.
This is true, but I often see it used as an excuse to continue unfair practices.
To me, this should be isolated to things outside of human control, like cancer and storms.
Used to think the same but there is actually women like that who really really like you but still plays a bit of games thinking she can get you like that, it’s up to the guy if wants or just move on and let her be her lost for being stupid as hell
If you’re already dating or acquainted, true. In the beginning stage, it is unfortunately drilled into us repeatedly to do that and when you’re young you buy into it.
"Don't worry You'll find someone" - that is not a guarantee, no one in this life has to like/love you and people die on a daily basis from random occurrences. The "persons" that are best suited for you may be among those that died prematurely. A lot of us will be unlucky in that department.
Karma - it's a nice concept that that people rely on to make themselves feel better when justice isn't served immediately but there are tons of bad people living great lives and likely equal numbers of good people living awful lives
>Karma - it's a nice concept that that people rely on to make themselves feel better when justice isn't served immediately but there are tons of bad people living great lives and likely equal numbers of good people living awful lives
It's so fucked to think about though. I guess it just proves that life is random.
I do like instant karma, though. Like when someone who thinks they’re immune from speed limits and safe driving is pulled over within a minute. Doesn’t happen often, but it’s great when it does.
Some people like the song, too. I’m not one of them.
The original meaning of karma in the various Indian religions is related to the cycle of rebirth. Good karma leads to a better next life, while bad karma leads to a worse next life.
Its adoption into the western world has changed karma to mean good deeds should reward you in this life, rather the next, as western religions don't follow rebirth cycles, but rather heaven/hell.
This one is unfortunately very true. People always tell others who are in those situations "keep going" "you got this" "it'll get better" "hang in there" "it could always be worse". Yet there are some scenarios that really truly could not be worse, and it's almost impossible for the human brain to not go to that "fuck this I'm out" place.
I lived with chronic pain from a disc injury, and will alwaays have issues, but the worst 4 years were horrendous. Couldn't move without pain shooting down both legs and was surrounded by people telling me to hang in there. People didn't understand and were shocked when I attempted to snuff out my candle so to speak, but in reality, when you're in that much pain your brain takes over and does what it wants with your body to make it comfortable. It finds it can't do this in some scenarios and chooses death sometimes. People got a taste of it when covid hit or when they have an injury that lasts a while, and they get that insight into the isolation and the pain involved, but even then they can't fathom that being an all day every day thing for years. Some situations really truly do make life not worth living.
Because most people don't have this kind of empathy. If you never experienced it you can't possibly imagine it. Healthy people can't imagine being sick/crippled. Pretty people don't understand the struggle od being ugly and smart poeple don't know the struggles of stupid ones. Maybe it's intentional by nature. We can't really be empathising with everybody 24/7. I know that kids are dying from cancer or from hunger in Africa but I can't really think and be sad about that all the time and I can't possibly know how they feel. Most of us have enough of our own struggles to keep us busy. However I think that we all should be more understanding. My theory is that If you have been througj enough shit in life you become much more understanding because you know what it is to struggle.
Oh for sure. Perfect example is people see someone in a store who is ultra stressed and maybe taking it out on someone else, and your first response is to think what an asshole. In reality that person might have some horrendous shit going on and they might be on the verge of a mental breakdown or panic attack. You just never know. So I've learned to be more patient with others and more understanding of others. I've had days where I had to go pick up a prescription, while unable to stand up straight, having spasms, and sweating my ass off cause my body is in so much pain, and at the same time had my sick parent at home I was run down from helping every day, and some people will say don't take that out on others, but at that point you just don't care about anyone else or anything else but getting your shit and getting home. The brain is on auto pilot at that point.
Before my injury I was of course completely ignorant of how injuries worked and how long term illness and disabilities worked. I said and did all the things I hate others doing now, so it puts it into perspective. As much as I hated this injury, I actually gained a lot from it and am borderline happy it happened some days.
Ive thought about this philosophy numerous times and i can already hear the apologizing person saying "but i said im sorry" and "your being selfish for not forgiving". I always wondered how you go about rejecting an apology and telling them "i dont forgive you" without it turning into a fight.
If it turns into a fight, odds are they aren't that sorry. They're only sorry about the consoqunces, not the actions. That being said, acknowledging the apology and focusing on your feelings usually disarms people.
"Thank you for apologising, I know that can't have been easy for you. I appriciate the effort but I'm not in a place where I can forgive you yet. I'm still hurt and I don't want to repay your honesty with a lie by pretending in over it"
>That you are responsible for your own outcomes
Not necessarily. If some stranger randomly murders you, that isn't really your responsibility. Someone else decided on your outcome and you had no say in the matter.
Mainly that the vast majority of people will live a very average life. You won't be rich, you won't be famous, you won't do anything that will put yourself in the history books.
You're not going to get everything you want or need in life or what you think you deserve
You can't be whatever you want
Hard work doesn't pay off 100% of the time
Nobody owes you understanding of whatever your situation is
>You're not going to get everything you want or need in life or what you think you deserve
This one is just obvious though. Of course you won't get *everything* you want. There hasn't been a single human being in history who has gotten every single thing they wanted.
After a major injury and helping a parent who was sick for a couple years, I learned the hard way how to not judge people based on their external actions, because you really have zero clue what they have going on behind closed doors. You see someone being impatient and rude in a store, and people just think what a miserable prick, when in reality there's a chance that person is living in pain and just needs to get out of there to relieve that pain, or is overtired from being a care taker for a loved one. Your situation is a perfect example where people judge you, having zero idea what you're actually doing in life and where your priorities are.
That you can live your life how you want to, as long as you're not disturbing other people. Don't expect anybody else to go along with what you think or feel.
Its meaningless, purposeless and hopeless.
But, if you learn how to make the best of what you have instead of always wanting stuff you can't have, you can live a decently pleasant life.
In the grand scheme of eternity you are no one. At some point, everyone and everything you have ever known will be forgotten and not a single being in the universe will have known of their existence. You are nothing but bacteria on a spec of dust lost in hurricane speed winds.
I think this one is wrong. I think there are genuinely good people in this world, and I think that there are absolute cunts. And i think that neither believes that the other exists.
I've had conversations with good people who cannot believe that someone went out of their way to harm someone else. They don't understand why anyone would do that, and insist it was some kind of misunderstanding. The fact that some people just enjoy being cunts and hurting others is so foreign to their thinking that they can't accept it.
I've had conversations with cunts who cannot believe that someone would go out of their way just to help someone else. That there must be some kind of ulterior motive; they're playing some obscure "long game" where ultimately they get some advantage over the other person.
that life isn't fair and that everyone in this life will experience some kind of trauma, be it physical or mental. Barring the most extreme circumstances, those experiences are valid growth experiences.
Unfortunately for a lot of people, the political discourse in America at present is attempting to mislead people into a mindset of ignorance. Instead of preparing people for the inevitable struggles, these organizations and movements are attempting to lull people into a false sense of security by promising them vanities of no suffering and no ills in society. Which is hardly ever the case.
A strong individual is one that overcomes their struggles and their obstacles, not one who relies on others to do the fighting for them.
Since the pandemic, I've thought about this often for some reason. Here is what the pandemic has demonstrated about people and things that just won't accept.
Mortality: The inevitability of death can be a difficult concept for many people to accept, as it forces us to confront our own mortality and the mortality of our loved ones.
Suffering: Pain and suffering are unavoidable aspects of life. No matter how much we try to prevent or minimize them, everyone will experience hardships at some point in their lives.
Inequality: Despite our desire for a fair and equal society, disparities in wealth, opportunity, and resources persist around the world, often leading to systemic injustice and social unrest.
Loneliness: Even though humans are social creatures, loneliness is a common and painful experience that can affect people at any stage in their lives.
Unpredictability: Life is inherently unpredictable, and even the best-laid plans can be upended by unforeseen circumstances or random events.
Limited control: We often overestimate the extent to which we can control our lives and the world around us. The realization that we have limited control over many aspects of life can be challenging to accept.
Impermanence: Nothing lasts forever, including relationships, possessions, and achievements. This can be difficult to accept, as we often invest significant time and emotional energy into these aspects of our lives.
You have to work to live and no one owes anything to you. Worse yet, productivity is actually a significant contributor to your personal dignity and identity.
We all start at a different position in life, but we're in control of where we go, and how far we go, from there. That doesn't mean you'll be a billionaire, but you can chart a path to be fulfilled.
Parenting is becoming objectively horrible and its doing a serious disservice to kids. The best educators with unlimited funding can not achieve results when kids go home to self-absorbed parents that don't really care about them. This is the quiet part that needs to be said out loud about education in the USA.
Sometimes it is your fault. It's okay. Own the consequences and move on.
The lifestyle you can afford is wildly different than the lifestyle you think you deserve. Debt will steal your happiness over time much more than going without a luxury/convenience today.
There's so many more.
Your circumstances are not an excuse to treat people poorly.
Your diagnosis is not anyone else's problem unless they choose to make it so. No matter what you've been through or what you're dealing with, if you make it other people's issue, you're a cunt.
Actions have consequences.
The world does not owe you anything.
Because of those two, the best thing you can do is accept responsibility for your own actions and look for the things you can do in any situation rather than waiting for someone else to figure it out for you.
Life is guaranteed to be a struggle and you are guaranteed to fail
Struggle with purpose, attempt to grow, learn from failure, and get stronger. The struggle becomes easier and rewards manifest.
Avoid struggle and failure will find you. You will still struggle, but you will be weak, and the rewards will always be out of reach.
We still live in the jungle. What I mean by that is: we still live in a cruel violent world and we could be fighting with sticks and rocks again tomorrow. At the end of the day the threat of violence is the only thing that holds the world together. It sucks, I don’t like it. But it’s true
There isn't someone out there for everyone. Lots of people live their entire adult lives alone and then die alone and that's never going to change. If you have the misfortune of having not been born into wealth or having been born without traditionally attractive features you're WAY more likely to stay alone.
That life has no meaning in itself. It's up to you to give your own meaning to life. The universe is not ordered, neat and tidy and neither is Nature. It's all chaos, always in flux, always changing. There's no THERE there. Life is a stream and not in anyone's control. Everything is headed ultimately for destruction. (and renewal).
Life is just a series of compromises and then you die. Just fucking enjoy the little things, let your ego go and accept we’re all headed for the some place.
Your opinions don't actually matter. Whether it be political, sociological, religious, professional, if you feel so strongly about it that you absolutely have to try and cram it down someone's throat, I have news for you: No one is going to take you seriously or care about what you have to say.
Spending 90% of your money monthly income; on either rent, a financed car, clothes on your credit card and drink/drugs to impress people is going to make you very depressed later in life.
You have a lot less control over matters than you think. It's important to be pro-active but there are things about ourselves and the external world that are beyond our influence. From our own personality, our likes and dislikes, our tendencies to life patterns to the world, culture, our job and our environment, we are very very much bound and parametered by aspects of our lives that are almost set in stone. You learn this with time and being honest with yourself.
You have to fight for things in life that you want, such as in relationships, you have to fight to keep it, you can’t just think it’ll be fine and work out, sometimes it will, but you have to do your part
Life is not fair, nor is it a competition.
Not everyone will (or has to) like you.
Respect is earned.
Opinions are often more about perspective and experience than actual facts.
It is possible to disagree within someone without thinking less of them.
One day all the people you love will disappear. I'm a man in my mid 30's and I'm finding it difficult to accept the fact that my mom might be gone soon. I remember when I found out people do die, I was probably around 8 years old, and I would always tell my mom that one day she can be a robot and live forever... Even if that were possible, it just wouldn't be the same mom I know today. But that is life... Just have to learn to embrace that
You are and will be a bad guy in someone else’s story and no matter what anybody says goes for you family as well no body wants you to succeed for then them and my last one trust by verify
I'll do one to test it:
Trans people make up less than 0.5% of the population and literally no societal issues are caused by them because there are so few of them in general.
It's fine if you don't understand why they do it or think it's weird. But politics focusing on them is just a distraction from actual issues that affect people's lives.
Death: One of the hardest realities of life is that it will eventually come to an end. Death is something that nobody can escape, yet many people refuse to accept it or talk about it. Accepting the reality of death can be liberating and help us appreciate the time we have.
Uncertainty: Life is inherently unpredictable, and no matter how much we plan or prepare, things can always change unexpectedly. Many people find it difficult to accept the uncertainty of life and may struggle with anxiety and fear as a result.
Failure: Failure is a natural part of life, and everyone experiences it at some point. However, many people have a hard time accepting failure and may view it as a personal defeat rather than an opportunity to learn and grow.
Impermanence: Nothing in life is permanent, and everything is constantly changing. People may struggle with accepting the impermanence of life, particularly when it comes to relationships, possessions, and even their own identity.
Inequality: Inequality is a harsh reality of life, and not everyone is born with the same opportunities or privileges. Many people may resist this reality, believing that everyone should have an equal chance at success and happiness.
Pain and suffering: Life is not always easy, and everyone will experience pain and suffering at some point. People may resist this reality, hoping to avoid or escape from pain rather than confronting it head-on.
When it all boils down to it , we guys are "expected" to have everything together and situated in life. Financially , mentally , physically , and socially. There's times where we struggle too but the harsh reality is nobody really cares what we go through. It's been like that for so long it's to the point if anyone asks , it's almost an involuntary reaction to say " I'm good " or "I'm alright" . Why even bother. Come to think of it I can't think of anyone I would even call or talk to if I was at my lowest in life. I'm a man and I'm supposed to have it all worked out at all times. And that's the harsh reality.
Once you step into the real world the only person you can rely on is yourself. No one is going to help you and save you from a bad situation. You've got to be strong and learn to control your fear.
I haven't read all of the comments so someone has already said this I'm certain but...
Most of us are told that if you work hard enough, you will be rewarded somehow. This isn't true.
A lot of people seem to have at least a subconscious expectation that when something bad happens, it's probably something you did (ie what were you wearing/was your car locked/if you manage your money you won't have a problem). The truth is you can do everything "right" and bad things can still happen to you.
Sometimes you’re just in the grind and it’s uninspiring and not exciting and not fun and you have to just slog it out. It’s the negotiation of life. You get to have some fun / exciting / good times, and you have to finance those with lots of mundane, boring, repetitive times.
That you get old, friends come and go. Also getting fat is your own fault unless you have medical condition. You are in charge of your own reality. A lot of people are in their own way.
You aren't owed anything in life
You are wrong. I own you an happy birthday on this day.
Tyty
happy birthday to you, GBU.
Happy birthday frozen forger
Tyty
We have nothing from your tyty. Gimme some CAKE, dude!
^(passes a slice of cake)
That's the spirit!
Well you're owed a happy cake day!
Tyty
Happy Birthday!
Happy Birthday frozone
Actions have consequences. You need to stop making excuses for yourself.
Adding to this: Lack of taking an action ultimately will become your action and decides things for you. Its better to make a choice and own up to it sooner.
What we do in life echos in eternity
Not true, but it sounds nice.
It ends.
It ends, and we personalize it to ourselves. Its just a fact of life.
I always laugh when younger people on here say "it's going to end badly". It ends badly for everybody. All I hope for as an old geezer is to go quick and as painlessly as possible. And not become a burden on my wife.
I hope to die in my sleep. My passengers on the other hand will be screaming.
How do you want to die? "In my own bed, with a belly full of wine and a maiden's mouth around my cock, at the age of eighty."
We’re all on our way out; conduct yourself accordingly.
That's not a terrible fact that's a beautiful thing. Embrace it. But damn you live. Don't just exist live. The Sequoia lives for 3 thousand years. The eagle for just for 20. But the eagle lived. It embraced the sky it rode the winds and knew the thrill of the hunt. The Sequoia only existed.
The sequoia was witness to life. The sequoia was a giver of life. The sequoia was a sustainer of life. Who is to say the sequoia did not embrace its living the same as the eagle? It touched the sky, it filtered the winds, it sheltered the weary and gave shade to the tired. Its roots reached into the earth and stretched to seek water…
And that doesn't have to be a bad thing. To the well ordered mind death is nothing to fear.
Have you looked around recently? It’s an absolute shit show and ain’t nobody got a well ordered mind.
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Is this Steven Pinker's alt account?
Yes I agree that sitting in traffic is much better than having orgies with concubines.
I’d bet a good number of the concubines would trade places with you.
looks very much matter
If the women don’t find you handsome, they should at least find you handy.
Have you ever seen the Handyman Corner where Red makes a 4 room house out of a rotating dumpster? Trying to settle a long-running mystery.
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I’d say they do greatly impact your value as a person in the world. You can make a career out of being good looking, people are more likely to listen to you, you’re more likely to advance in your career, you’re more likely to get help when you’re in trouble, there has been a ton of studies showing that just being good looking is a huge advantage. Should it affect your *self* worth? No, but I don’t think it’s realistic to say it doesn’t add value.
It impacts perceived value as a person. More attractive people tend to have easier time in every element of life that is social in slightest way. Thats a fact. Its life on easier mode.
Life isn't fair, you don't always get what you deserve.
I would say don't count on Karma to even out the playing field. Bad people do get ahead and often get away with it. On the other hand I see a lot of posts in this sub where people wallow in self pity, but refuse to make the hard choices that would detach them from the bad lot they've got.
I can never take those types seriously. I dealt with someone who wanted to complain about their situation but they didn’t want to leave. They essentially just wanted to have a safety net to talk to in the form of me while remaining where they were. I started by saying stuff like save your money and get out of there, go back home to your family and they’ll help, and hell you could crash with me for a bit until the dust cleared but they just kept saying they couldn’t leave. Eventually I just gave up and every time they messaged me to complain, which was the main reason they messaged me, I just said straight up, “I don’t want to to hear about it anymore. You’ve told me your concerns and your dislike for your situation, now either sack up and leave it or sit there and quit complaining. I’m done listening to this.” And suddenly I’m the bad guy.....
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Honestly by the end I just felt used. That person never asked me how I was doing or anything, it was like anytime they wanted to talk, it was about that. There’s also a difference between airing feelings and concerns and just complaining. The complaints were always about what other people were doing to piss this person off, or what they weren’t doing and it would piss this person off. Eventually it sounded like everyone else was the asshole and not them and they’re refused to own their part in any of it or do anything about it.
Yep, but you can try sometimes and get what you need.
I’d say the universe isn’t going to coddle you, but it isn’t out to get you either.
This is true, but I often see it used as an excuse to continue unfair practices. To me, this should be isolated to things outside of human control, like cancer and storms.
Or you want or need.
And sometimes you get what you don't deserve.
She’s not playing hard to get, she just doesn’t like you
Used to think the same but there is actually women like that who really really like you but still plays a bit of games thinking she can get you like that, it’s up to the guy if wants or just move on and let her be her lost for being stupid as hell
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If you’re already dating or acquainted, true. In the beginning stage, it is unfortunately drilled into us repeatedly to do that and when you’re young you buy into it.
Something you work your ass off to obtain will be literally placed on the the lap of someone else. Life isn’t fair.
and also something you work your ass off to obtain may just turn out to be just what you didn’t want after all.
Also, someone else had to work their ass off to get something that was placed right in your lap. Don't take things for granted.
Other people do not owe you anything really, not their time, not their attention, not respect
"Don't worry You'll find someone" - that is not a guarantee, no one in this life has to like/love you and people die on a daily basis from random occurrences. The "persons" that are best suited for you may be among those that died prematurely. A lot of us will be unlucky in that department. Karma - it's a nice concept that that people rely on to make themselves feel better when justice isn't served immediately but there are tons of bad people living great lives and likely equal numbers of good people living awful lives
>Karma - it's a nice concept that that people rely on to make themselves feel better when justice isn't served immediately but there are tons of bad people living great lives and likely equal numbers of good people living awful lives It's so fucked to think about though. I guess it just proves that life is random.
I do like instant karma, though. Like when someone who thinks they’re immune from speed limits and safe driving is pulled over within a minute. Doesn’t happen often, but it’s great when it does. Some people like the song, too. I’m not one of them.
The original meaning of karma in the various Indian religions is related to the cycle of rebirth. Good karma leads to a better next life, while bad karma leads to a worse next life. Its adoption into the western world has changed karma to mean good deeds should reward you in this life, rather the next, as western religions don't follow rebirth cycles, but rather heaven/hell.
That there are many situations you can find yourself in which life is really not worth living
This one is unfortunately very true. People always tell others who are in those situations "keep going" "you got this" "it'll get better" "hang in there" "it could always be worse". Yet there are some scenarios that really truly could not be worse, and it's almost impossible for the human brain to not go to that "fuck this I'm out" place. I lived with chronic pain from a disc injury, and will alwaays have issues, but the worst 4 years were horrendous. Couldn't move without pain shooting down both legs and was surrounded by people telling me to hang in there. People didn't understand and were shocked when I attempted to snuff out my candle so to speak, but in reality, when you're in that much pain your brain takes over and does what it wants with your body to make it comfortable. It finds it can't do this in some scenarios and chooses death sometimes. People got a taste of it when covid hit or when they have an injury that lasts a while, and they get that insight into the isolation and the pain involved, but even then they can't fathom that being an all day every day thing for years. Some situations really truly do make life not worth living.
Because most people don't have this kind of empathy. If you never experienced it you can't possibly imagine it. Healthy people can't imagine being sick/crippled. Pretty people don't understand the struggle od being ugly and smart poeple don't know the struggles of stupid ones. Maybe it's intentional by nature. We can't really be empathising with everybody 24/7. I know that kids are dying from cancer or from hunger in Africa but I can't really think and be sad about that all the time and I can't possibly know how they feel. Most of us have enough of our own struggles to keep us busy. However I think that we all should be more understanding. My theory is that If you have been througj enough shit in life you become much more understanding because you know what it is to struggle.
Oh for sure. Perfect example is people see someone in a store who is ultra stressed and maybe taking it out on someone else, and your first response is to think what an asshole. In reality that person might have some horrendous shit going on and they might be on the verge of a mental breakdown or panic attack. You just never know. So I've learned to be more patient with others and more understanding of others. I've had days where I had to go pick up a prescription, while unable to stand up straight, having spasms, and sweating my ass off cause my body is in so much pain, and at the same time had my sick parent at home I was run down from helping every day, and some people will say don't take that out on others, but at that point you just don't care about anyone else or anything else but getting your shit and getting home. The brain is on auto pilot at that point. Before my injury I was of course completely ignorant of how injuries worked and how long term illness and disabilities worked. I said and did all the things I hate others doing now, so it puts it into perspective. As much as I hated this injury, I actually gained a lot from it and am borderline happy it happened some days.
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Ive thought about this philosophy numerous times and i can already hear the apologizing person saying "but i said im sorry" and "your being selfish for not forgiving". I always wondered how you go about rejecting an apology and telling them "i dont forgive you" without it turning into a fight.
If it turns into a fight, odds are they aren't that sorry. They're only sorry about the consoqunces, not the actions. That being said, acknowledging the apology and focusing on your feelings usually disarms people. "Thank you for apologising, I know that can't have been easy for you. I appriciate the effort but I'm not in a place where I can forgive you yet. I'm still hurt and I don't want to repay your honesty with a lie by pretending in over it"
That you are responsible for your own outcomes even if the circumstances are not your fault.
>That you are responsible for your own outcomes Not necessarily. If some stranger randomly murders you, that isn't really your responsibility. Someone else decided on your outcome and you had no say in the matter.
Yes.
Financial backing (usually parental) is a huge reason people are able to become successful in life.
Money opens door at positions of power and people treat you much better if you have money. People treat you like garbage if you ever want a loan
Depends on the size and reason for the loan. The Bigger the loan the better in most cases.
Mainly that the vast majority of people will live a very average life. You won't be rich, you won't be famous, you won't do anything that will put yourself in the history books.
And that’s okay
I actually find it quite comforting
You're not going to get everything you want or need in life or what you think you deserve You can't be whatever you want Hard work doesn't pay off 100% of the time Nobody owes you understanding of whatever your situation is
>You're not going to get everything you want or need in life or what you think you deserve This one is just obvious though. Of course you won't get *everything* you want. There hasn't been a single human being in history who has gotten every single thing they wanted.
You matter to your friends, family and loved ones. To the rest of the world you don’t.
For majority of people life fucking sucks and they die sad and unfulfilled.
Luck is a major contributor to success.
We all gonna get old, Nothing lasts forever.
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After a major injury and helping a parent who was sick for a couple years, I learned the hard way how to not judge people based on their external actions, because you really have zero clue what they have going on behind closed doors. You see someone being impatient and rude in a store, and people just think what a miserable prick, when in reality there's a chance that person is living in pain and just needs to get out of there to relieve that pain, or is overtired from being a care taker for a loved one. Your situation is a perfect example where people judge you, having zero idea what you're actually doing in life and where your priorities are.
That you can live your life how you want to, as long as you're not disturbing other people. Don't expect anybody else to go along with what you think or feel.
The government is not your friend.
Mental health is not your fault, but it is your responsibility
Its meaningless, purposeless and hopeless. But, if you learn how to make the best of what you have instead of always wanting stuff you can't have, you can live a decently pleasant life.
Don’t expect everybody to like you. Not everyone is genuine. And sometimes life isn’t fair.
No one else is gonna wash them dishes, get to it.
In the grand scheme of eternity you are no one. At some point, everyone and everything you have ever known will be forgotten and not a single being in the universe will have known of their existence. You are nothing but bacteria on a spec of dust lost in hurricane speed winds.
Do we have to be bacteria? We probably are. I was hoping for dust mote.
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You're not special. You're average
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And life is nasty, brutish, and short.
My dad always said “life’s a bitch, then you die”
Nobody but your mother cares about your problems and even she may not give a crap.
All people are not equal. Some people can't be helped, it's painful, it's futile but true. Alas
Nobody who doesn't seek for help cannot be helped.
Inoccence really is the greatest illusion of life. We are all, to an extent, cunts.
I think this one is wrong. I think there are genuinely good people in this world, and I think that there are absolute cunts. And i think that neither believes that the other exists. I've had conversations with good people who cannot believe that someone went out of their way to harm someone else. They don't understand why anyone would do that, and insist it was some kind of misunderstanding. The fact that some people just enjoy being cunts and hurting others is so foreign to their thinking that they can't accept it. I've had conversations with cunts who cannot believe that someone would go out of their way just to help someone else. That there must be some kind of ulterior motive; they're playing some obscure "long game" where ultimately they get some advantage over the other person.
Joint pain when your fat. Im all about body positivity but my knees fucking hurt and i wish someone had pushed me harder as a kid to be more fit
that life isn't fair and that everyone in this life will experience some kind of trauma, be it physical or mental. Barring the most extreme circumstances, those experiences are valid growth experiences. Unfortunately for a lot of people, the political discourse in America at present is attempting to mislead people into a mindset of ignorance. Instead of preparing people for the inevitable struggles, these organizations and movements are attempting to lull people into a false sense of security by promising them vanities of no suffering and no ills in society. Which is hardly ever the case. A strong individual is one that overcomes their struggles and their obstacles, not one who relies on others to do the fighting for them.
Since the pandemic, I've thought about this often for some reason. Here is what the pandemic has demonstrated about people and things that just won't accept. Mortality: The inevitability of death can be a difficult concept for many people to accept, as it forces us to confront our own mortality and the mortality of our loved ones. Suffering: Pain and suffering are unavoidable aspects of life. No matter how much we try to prevent or minimize them, everyone will experience hardships at some point in their lives. Inequality: Despite our desire for a fair and equal society, disparities in wealth, opportunity, and resources persist around the world, often leading to systemic injustice and social unrest. Loneliness: Even though humans are social creatures, loneliness is a common and painful experience that can affect people at any stage in their lives. Unpredictability: Life is inherently unpredictable, and even the best-laid plans can be upended by unforeseen circumstances or random events. Limited control: We often overestimate the extent to which we can control our lives and the world around us. The realization that we have limited control over many aspects of life can be challenging to accept. Impermanence: Nothing lasts forever, including relationships, possessions, and achievements. This can be difficult to accept, as we often invest significant time and emotional energy into these aspects of our lives.
You have to work to live and no one owes anything to you. Worse yet, productivity is actually a significant contributor to your personal dignity and identity. We all start at a different position in life, but we're in control of where we go, and how far we go, from there. That doesn't mean you'll be a billionaire, but you can chart a path to be fulfilled. Parenting is becoming objectively horrible and its doing a serious disservice to kids. The best educators with unlimited funding can not achieve results when kids go home to self-absorbed parents that don't really care about them. This is the quiet part that needs to be said out loud about education in the USA. Sometimes it is your fault. It's okay. Own the consequences and move on. The lifestyle you can afford is wildly different than the lifestyle you think you deserve. Debt will steal your happiness over time much more than going without a luxury/convenience today. There's so many more.
Your circumstances are not an excuse to treat people poorly. Your diagnosis is not anyone else's problem unless they choose to make it so. No matter what you've been through or what you're dealing with, if you make it other people's issue, you're a cunt.
Good things happen to bad people
You’re going to be the villain in somebody’s story
If I’m lucky!
Human societies are built on a form of hierarchical oppression inherent to our nature.
That it's not fair and nobody will look out for you except yourself.
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Sad... but true.
In all the darkness you described, I agree for pineapple!
Actions have consequences. The world does not owe you anything. Because of those two, the best thing you can do is accept responsibility for your own actions and look for the things you can do in any situation rather than waiting for someone else to figure it out for you.
You won't always get hard all the way to the tip.
Wait wut
Sometimes you will be pushing rope, it happens and it is okay.
The most potent weapon of an oppressor is the minds of the oppressed. Ideological subversion.
Life is not fair. Never has been. Whining about it doesn’t help.
Someone will always have it better than you.
If you don't make shit happen, nobody will do it for you and you'll die in a loop of work - bills - work - bills
That if they are part of Reddit, they will have to answer this question at least 4-5 times a week depending on how many subreddits they belong to.
It's more than likely not going to turn out the way you invisioned it.
More often than not, you’re going to be screwed over
Literally or metaphoricy?
Religion is an entirely man made concept.
And it needs to be taxed like a mofo lmfao
But how will I ever find a way not to hate myself if Sky Daddy isn’t there???!1!1!1
Life is guaranteed to be a struggle and you are guaranteed to fail Struggle with purpose, attempt to grow, learn from failure, and get stronger. The struggle becomes easier and rewards manifest. Avoid struggle and failure will find you. You will still struggle, but you will be weak, and the rewards will always be out of reach.
We still live in the jungle. What I mean by that is: we still live in a cruel violent world and we could be fighting with sticks and rocks again tomorrow. At the end of the day the threat of violence is the only thing that holds the world together. It sucks, I don’t like it. But it’s true
There isn't someone out there for everyone. Lots of people live their entire adult lives alone and then die alone and that's never going to change. If you have the misfortune of having not been born into wealth or having been born without traditionally attractive features you're WAY more likely to stay alone.
That life has no meaning in itself. It's up to you to give your own meaning to life. The universe is not ordered, neat and tidy and neither is Nature. It's all chaos, always in flux, always changing. There's no THERE there. Life is a stream and not in anyone's control. Everything is headed ultimately for destruction. (and renewal).
For 99.9% of us, we will be totally forgotten in three generations.
After a certain age, no one is going to step in and fix your life problems. And ignoring them will only make them worse.
Life is just a series of compromises and then you die. Just fucking enjoy the little things, let your ego go and accept we’re all headed for the some place.
That you are a debt slave, and there’s nothing you can do about it.
You're not as good as you think you are, and you're not innocent at all. No one is.
Just because your intentions aren’t bad, perception still matters
That you could have found a post just like this if you searched.
Nothing is deserved. It is earned.
Your opinions don't actually matter. Whether it be political, sociological, religious, professional, if you feel so strongly about it that you absolutely have to try and cram it down someone's throat, I have news for you: No one is going to take you seriously or care about what you have to say.
Then why bother to comment this at all? It applies to you too.
Religion is a hoax and we'll never know the true origin of humans.
Sex dolls are too expensive....I don't know about you, but it is hard to accept for me. Lol
Spending 90% of your money monthly income; on either rent, a financed car, clothes on your credit card and drink/drugs to impress people is going to make you very depressed later in life.
You have a lot less control over matters than you think. It's important to be pro-active but there are things about ourselves and the external world that are beyond our influence. From our own personality, our likes and dislikes, our tendencies to life patterns to the world, culture, our job and our environment, we are very very much bound and parametered by aspects of our lives that are almost set in stone. You learn this with time and being honest with yourself.
You have to fight for things in life that you want, such as in relationships, you have to fight to keep it, you can’t just think it’ll be fine and work out, sometimes it will, but you have to do your part
Nobody owes you anything.
Just because you don’t like it, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s wrong.
Life is not fair, nor is it a competition. Not everyone will (or has to) like you. Respect is earned. Opinions are often more about perspective and experience than actual facts. It is possible to disagree within someone without thinking less of them.
No, I don't have to forgive you just because you said "I'm sorry." This is toxic bullshit that we really need to stop teaching kids.
One day all the people you love will disappear. I'm a man in my mid 30's and I'm finding it difficult to accept the fact that my mom might be gone soon. I remember when I found out people do die, I was probably around 8 years old, and I would always tell my mom that one day she can be a robot and live forever... Even if that were possible, it just wouldn't be the same mom I know today. But that is life... Just have to learn to embrace that
nothing changes if nothing changes
That sometimes you’re really just all alone and that it’s okay.
You are and will be a bad guy in someone else’s story and no matter what anybody says goes for you family as well no body wants you to succeed for then them and my last one trust by verify
Everything is not meant to last
She's never yours, it's just your turn
Being overweight is not "Body positive". It's unhealthy and unattractive. Pretty privilege is a thing
most of your problems are probably your fault
Will I get banned if I say something about trans
I'll do one to test it: Trans people make up less than 0.5% of the population and literally no societal issues are caused by them because there are so few of them in general. It's fine if you don't understand why they do it or think it's weird. But politics focusing on them is just a distraction from actual issues that affect people's lives.
Say it anyways, who gives af
Your partner isn't [insert beautiful actress / crush ] and never will be
For most of us, the most important thing you’ll do in your life is raise kids.
It's not fair.
You aren’t special
You aren't the exception
Death: One of the hardest realities of life is that it will eventually come to an end. Death is something that nobody can escape, yet many people refuse to accept it or talk about it. Accepting the reality of death can be liberating and help us appreciate the time we have. Uncertainty: Life is inherently unpredictable, and no matter how much we plan or prepare, things can always change unexpectedly. Many people find it difficult to accept the uncertainty of life and may struggle with anxiety and fear as a result. Failure: Failure is a natural part of life, and everyone experiences it at some point. However, many people have a hard time accepting failure and may view it as a personal defeat rather than an opportunity to learn and grow. Impermanence: Nothing in life is permanent, and everything is constantly changing. People may struggle with accepting the impermanence of life, particularly when it comes to relationships, possessions, and even their own identity. Inequality: Inequality is a harsh reality of life, and not everyone is born with the same opportunities or privileges. Many people may resist this reality, believing that everyone should have an equal chance at success and happiness. Pain and suffering: Life is not always easy, and everyone will experience pain and suffering at some point. People may resist this reality, hoping to avoid or escape from pain rather than confronting it head-on.
Very few people that you know who are successful are going to take you with them on their rise or even give you a hand.
It's very unlikely that you are special.
That we get old, wither away, die. No matter who you are, what you are. You're gonna die.
nobody really cares
This question being asked daily. We have to accept that posters are either lazy or bored and that's why they do it.
Not everyone will be successful, not everything is possible, and your dreams might not come true no matter what you do
People lie
It’s not a schools job to teach you about taxes, budgeting and how do be a functioning adult, its your parents and then your own.
That there ARE only two sexes...
That some people will experience heartbreak and misfortune no matter what they do
True power is to control the flow of what comes from within ourselves. Directing our focus to a point that expands our manifestations.
When it all boils down to it , we guys are "expected" to have everything together and situated in life. Financially , mentally , physically , and socially. There's times where we struggle too but the harsh reality is nobody really cares what we go through. It's been like that for so long it's to the point if anyone asks , it's almost an involuntary reaction to say " I'm good " or "I'm alright" . Why even bother. Come to think of it I can't think of anyone I would even call or talk to if I was at my lowest in life. I'm a man and I'm supposed to have it all worked out at all times. And that's the harsh reality.
The government is a criminal organization.
If you’re born in the west you’re more lucky than 90% in the world, stop looking at the 1% above you as an excuse for your unhappiness.
Once you step into the real world the only person you can rely on is yourself. No one is going to help you and save you from a bad situation. You've got to be strong and learn to control your fear.
I haven't read all of the comments so someone has already said this I'm certain but... Most of us are told that if you work hard enough, you will be rewarded somehow. This isn't true. A lot of people seem to have at least a subconscious expectation that when something bad happens, it's probably something you did (ie what were you wearing/was your car locked/if you manage your money you won't have a problem). The truth is you can do everything "right" and bad things can still happen to you.
Good guys die. Bad guys win. No one really gives a fuck about you.
Sex with wives, most likely,drastically reduces after kids, has a high chance of stopping at 50.
Hard work doesn’t pay off for most people.
Being an ugly woman is like being a man. You’re gonna have to work hard.
That humans have to work for their existence the same as every other animal.
Everything we do all means nothing in the end.
That the people are the problem and not the guns.
No one is obligated to do anything for you, especially past the age of 18. If you want something, you have to work for it
Sometimes you’re just in the grind and it’s uninspiring and not exciting and not fun and you have to just slog it out. It’s the negotiation of life. You get to have some fun / exciting / good times, and you have to finance those with lots of mundane, boring, repetitive times.
Hypergamy is real. Your looks, height, and weight matter when it comes to dating and finding love.
That you get old, friends come and go. Also getting fat is your own fault unless you have medical condition. You are in charge of your own reality. A lot of people are in their own way.