I went on a date with a girl with a really big Instagram following once (somewhere north of 100k followers iirc). She was really nice, fun, and generally very polite, but Jesus christ, she was glued to her stupid phone. She legitimately must've taken 200 pictures/selfies in the in the 3 hours we were on the date and was constantly doing God knows what else. She was constantly apologizing for being on her phone so much, and her excuse was that it was her job, but it was just hard to get past that. Made me feel like she didn't want to be there, even though she stated otherwise and even suggested going to a bar after dinner, but she was on her phone the whole time there too. Idk it was pretty depressing because up until that point I was really interested.
FWIW, I’ve dated one as well, and had the same experience. I understood that it was her job, so I gave her a lot of space to “influence” when we were together.
I finally realized that to her, relationships *are* a disconnected engagement. So, to be around her while she’s focused on herself is what she thinks a relationship is. The same disconnect that exists between her and her followers…I was just another follower.
Damn bro that's deep. The majority of us experience it the other way around. I guess once you go so far down that hole real life people become the disconnect from your new virtual reality.
Well said. It really smacks of narcissism to treat someone like that in person. Your job should have set hours, don’t bring it on a date, whatever it is. No one would think it’s cool if I had papers to grade over drinks. Have some consideration ffs.
I was thinking the same thing! If I'm out with a girl, and I'm taking calls from shareholders or writing emails, there's no way I'd get a second date, lol.
The trouble I see is that people take days off from work. So there's no reason why they can't do the same. Not that I think being an influencer is a real job, anyhow. But still ...
Because the algorithm punishes taking time off. it is a cycle of having to remain consistent so everything becomes content or potential content- especially if you don’t have a skill or product. It is draining though NGL
Some, a minority, but some influences net 6 figures or more easily. A lot can pull down 50-70k without too much trouble if you know how to approach it.
Its a real job, I think we have to admit that much. Its a questionable job in terms of a career opportunities or longevity but it certainly is a job.
as soon as you are able to start taking money , it only takes a few 1000 dollar promos a month to make like total normal earnings 2 a month is 24k ( pre tax) pretty sure that's more then min wage.
honestly I find twitch/yt/patreon to be interesting just I'm how small/niche a person's audience can be and still make a living.
In a previous iteration of my career I was a bartender. I took this job because I was a moderately-functioning alcoholic and this was one of the few jobs I could hold down and also be drinking at work. As many servers and bartenders can attest, drinking on the job was and still is part of the (absolutely awful) restaurant "culture". The point is, I took a job serving alcohol because I was addicted to alcohol and could feed my addiction while making money. This is exactly what influencers are - they are addicts. Their job is their addiction and their addiction is their job. Having been there myself, I see influencers in the wild and I am filled with a profound sense of sadness. These people are incapable of realizing how insufferable they are (just as I was when I was on a bender) because they are completely in the thrall of their addiction.
>As many servers and bartenders can attest, drinking on the job was and still is part of the (absolutely awful) restaurant "culture".
As a server I can attest that... this absolutely is dependent on where you are working and that only one of my jobs was like this
So what if “it’s her job?” A lot of people work office jobs but you don’t see them whip out their laptops and start working on a date. She is 100% capable of putting down the phone for a few hours
The amazing thing about [most] social media platforms is that you don't need to share anything live. If you went out with friends on Friday evening, you can choose to post those photos the next day, or even the next week. None of your followers will know... or care.
You mean like the 1000s of girls that go on a modeling trip to Mykonos or Tulum and post a couple of pics from there every 2-3 months to make it seem like they're on lavish vacations year-round?
Seems like the compromise here would be "Hey, sorry to be weird, but can I just take a few photos of the restaurant for 10 minutes, and then a few photos of the food when it comes out?"
She doesn't need to also edit the photos, post them, and respond to comments in real time! It's the internet, it works 24/7, she can do that when she gets home.
but that's not the sell,
it's look at my outfit
here's me in the car
here's me at the restaurant
here's the food
look.at the city!
look at us, vip somewhere else!
you can't do 1 photo, it's the whole night. selling a life style.
it's reasonable to.ask.yiur girlfriend that, but a date is office hours for an influencer.
Yeah, a lot of people struggle with work/life balance. “I have to be accessible all day, every day, or something horrible will happen!”
This isn’t just influencers. A lot of guys in high level positions convince themselves that they’re indispensable. They do the same thing - any buzz of their phone (because they could never turn it off) and they’re descending into 10 minutes of work and emails while their dates/friends are sitting there.
When your bosses constantly like your work, tell you you’re good, constantly being validated by thousands of followers, being offered thousands of dollars , unlimited opportunities for travel, work, sex .
You tell me. Wouldn’t you be addicted to your “job”?
Being an influencer just makes you narcissistic for sure. And then your life as it stands is screwd.
>Being an influencer just makes you narcissistic for sure.
OP said his date was really sweet and polite. She was just stuck in her phone. Lots of people are like this without even being influencers.
Yeah but you are comparing a 9-5 job to a freelance job. Outside of a 9-5 it's the wild wild west to earn money aside from every 2 weeks. Not saying I agree, but that's how it goes if you want to not be broke.
The irony of it all is so funny to me.
Her job is basically to report an exciting life. But that job makes her unable to actually live the exciting life she is reporting.
It's funny to me, if someone WFH and was on their phone all dinner, most would think it's crazy. But if you're an infuencer, the thing I've noticed is "the work doesn't stop" because the work is literally your actual life, the "normal" things you do. Those people are constantly on their phones and they don't see how it's a problem even though it's identical in nature to someone working all the damn time in any other job. It's like they approach every situation thinking "what content can I make from this" rather than "let me just have fun and enjoy my day for once". It's exausting really.
I bet there's good money if you've got that many followers, but this comment makes me wonder what the math is in terms of hourly pay rate. Like if she made $100k last year but worked 80 hours per week that's $24/hr
2m ig followers. We dated for 3 months, she had a room in her house that was there for the photos, and the rest of the house it was your normal home, nothing extreme, etc. She was "working" one day a week, she was taking all the photos for the week that day, and the rest of the week just chilling and uploading. She was fit, but she is showing everything in her profile, her content is mostly make up, hair-face-body products and lotions. We traveled a bit, and again she took 2 days to take all her photos and the rest of the vacation it was for us. She wasn't a golddigger, she was making enough to feed a couple of families
Feels super disappointing we let these folks live the high life mainly because they’re good-looking, though. Why is what she doing worth the money they get from it? Sounds bogus.
She has 2 million instagram followers. It's worth money to know you have the attention of that many people. You have .... influence.
Sure it's vain but c'mon man, at some point we just gotta accept that attractiveness is just another type of currency that matters to people. It's not the only one and there's no sense in envying what others have more of than us.
Yeah, and tbh i thought that's how the majority of them work, until i met a girl with 20k followers and she told me that she needs to take perfect pics every day, etc basically what the other comments are saying. I was shocked
I would imagine there's a big difference in the mindset of someone with 2mil and 20k followers. The 20k influencers is probably trying waaay too hard to reach thoose 2 mil followers, and thus burning themself out because they wanted thoose 2 mil yesterday, so today they have to worker even harder to get them. And the 2 mil ones have already been trough that phase, and have found a healthy balance between sharing so much of their privacy, and keeping some of that privacy private (probably trough trial and error to an extend)
Just like how many new hires in a workplace will work themselves to near death before they realise their bosses doesnt value their hard work as much as they themselves tought it would (not getting raise, no praise or such a small amount it isnt fitting with the extra work they've put in)
It’s funny, because I used to work as a sound/video technician and worked with many big names in the movie and music industry. The massive stars were typically pretty decent to work with. It’s was always the mid-tier type talent that had the biggest egos and was the most difficult to work with.
I would agree. I used to build custom homes for the ultra wealthy and famous. B-list celebrities were a massive pain in the ass. People like Harrison Ford were chill as fuck and easy to work for. Little money millionaires were the worst. Doctors and Lawyers. They have money, but they are trying tokeep up or beat the Jones down the street, but the Jones are billionaires and they don't care about the cost to move a light, but the doc will argue about paying for it for a week.
I dated a 30k followers kind of girl. Although she wasn't on her phone during dates, like if we were watching a mvoie or eating dinner she'd give me her attention but if i was driving or, there was any situatuon where she thought she didn't need to give me her full attention she'd be on her phone.
Pictures of everything, though. Every meal. Every outfit. Every location.
We split for different reasons, the biggest of which was that her followers would find out she was upset with me before I did.
Honestly it sounds like your ex was one of the ones who already made it, and then got to dial it back. Do you happen to know if she always had this schedule, or did she need to invest a lot more time and effort when she was first rising?
I imagine it gets easier when you've been doing it for a while, have an audience built up, and a lot of experience in how to do things in the most efficient way possible. Whereas someone just coming up has none of those things, so they hustle constantly.
Now that I think about it, kind of like a corporate career tbh.
She had a normal 9-5 job, and the weekends she was taking some photos and posting them the whole week. Maybe she was spending 2 days instead of one each week.
But she came from a decent family (financially), so she wouldn't worry about the basics. She had a nice house, a nice car, no debt, she studied. And she followed her passion/hobby. She is a nice person, and not arrogant at all. Even our break was nice 😂
Part of it sounds like the the difference between someone who turned this into a career and found work life balance, and someone who made it their personality since it’s their hobby (or hope to make it a career).
Similarly know someone in the 200k follower range. She’s very down to earth, does content days, otherwise doesn’t let it infiltrate her other days, and gets to do cool things.
I dated someone with a huge following on tik tok. She has over 100k followers I think. Enough that she was paid to post regular gym-girl/funny content by third parties. She would wear certain clothes in her videos and make a $100. Or a preworkout paid her to talk about how it’s the only one she used.
The money was never worth the effort she put into it. She wished she could take a break from going to the gym every single day. People at her gym gave her crap for videoing. She was kind of miserable about the entire thing.
I knew she was popular, but her being an “influencer” didn’t even occur to me until someone told me that’s exactly what she is.
I guess I’d say that I didn’t enjoy how much external validation she sought in every day life. I think she was constantly searching for acceptance or praise for everything she did, and she was never really happy with herself. Other than that, it was meh. I don’t even know what her account name is, just that the whole thing made her unhappy. Which in turn made our relationship a half degree more difficult.
Problem is 100k on tiktok is basically nothing. 1 million views of a video is like $50 for most people on the platform, where it would be 3k+ on youtube.
So yeah, getting $100 to promote a brand is a huge step up for most tiktok 'influencers'
Glued to her phone all the time, friends would message her about distasteful comments all day. She did take me along to some incredible gatherings/ parties/ events. I occasionally got messages after we "ended" to join her at stuff and I did. Met some really cool people but 75% of the folks at these things were insufferable goofs. 500k or so followers.
Edit: no idea she was an "influencer." She sent a friend to let me know she thought I was cute. She offered to take me out on a date, restaurant was UNREASONABLY priced for a guy like me, we never got a bill, she took ALOT of pictures. I asked and she explained it was all free if she documented her visit online. Also went on a trip to Spain for free, first class, resort was free, everything was literally free.
How long did you guys stay together? How did it end?
So 500k followers is enough these days for free first class trips and fancy restaurants? That kind of blows me away how normalised it is now
This was a couple years back she had 500k, and we were together for two months. We hung out another two months after, it was after we were officially over at the end of the first two that we went to Spain. We ended because she was extremely jealous. She started looking at my face if other woman were checking me out and accuse me of smiling at them. I called it quits and dealt with her in stalker form for another month.
I ended up in a with an aspiring singer immediately after her who had six figure YouTube subscribers. Sent me a drink at a jazz club, I learned she was a heavy coke user and I made my way out after a month.
Also all the free stuff at that level that attractive woman got blew my mind up until about a decade ago. You could have no social media but if the right rich guy notices you and finds you attractive, he will pay big bucks just to have you in the same room. As a guy who has no social media, I think that world is poisonous honestly. Too much drama, jealousy, insecurities, and detachment from the real world.
>We ended because she was extremely jealous. She started looking at my face if other woman were checking me out and accuse me of smiling at them.
Don't get me wrong, but considering most of her popularity was because of the attention she got and the fact that you trusted her with all of that, I'd expect that she'd extend you the courtesy of trusting you as well!
I was together with a micro-influencer(10-20k followers) for around 2-3 years. Very pretty girl with a bubbly and lovely personality. but Jesus Christ. Every little thing had to be documented. Just taking a walk through a public botanical garden she was constantly taking photos and we absolutely had to stop and spend 20 minutes propping up her phone to take a self timer photo of us. Which in itself is a nice thought but when it’s like that every time you’re out and about it gets extremely tiring.
Didnt really date but we had a small thing going on for years. She gave up her job as a cam girl to be with me. Turned into an influencer. I knew it was doomed the moment she recorded her self giving the dilvery driver a "big tip" which was like 50 bucks and wanted to see his reaction.
The whole thing was really demeaning and awful and i had a conversation with her about it. We split cause things got out of hand when she couldnt leave me out of the picture when it came to her social media.
Edit: the social media was one part of the problem, we hadnalot of normal relationship issues that lead up to just seperating. It was a little difficult to describe since we were more than friends less thab lovers
>I knew it was doomed the moment she recorded her self giving the dilvery driver a "big tip" which was like 50 bucks and wanted to see his reaction.
I don't know why reading this specifically made me think differently about this whole scenario, whether it's big tipping or answering the door naked, but it did. I agree with you about the "demeaning and awful" aspect of it. Imagine the delivery driver - a camera pointed at him and a girl (or guy in other situations) giving him a $50 with a big smile on their face and a "surprise! This is for you!" comment, and him mostly likely understanding in the back of his mind that this is all just a publicity stunt and he's going to be paraded on somebody's social media feed. His poverty is going to be exploited for someone else's gain.
This is precisely the problem that many have with a lot of the feel good content on the internet a la Mr. Beast.
One the one hand, it makes you feel happy that someone in need is getting the help they may need...but it you really think about the situation, it is kind of gross.
This is a philosophical question that has been around for a very long time.
Is someone who only does good things for profit a good person?
One side of it says yes because it's a net positive even if the person is doing it for the wrong reasons.
The other side says no because it isn't exactly charitable if you expect something out of it.
IMO it's wrong to shove a camera in anyone's face for clout. If you want to be helpful, be helpful.
isn’t the only reason Mr Beast has enough money to give so much away BECAUSE he generates revenue from vids?people with less money can’t pay for others’ vision treatments because we need to feed ourselves
Everyone I know loves Mr. Beasts videos and always says how nice and generous he is. But all the videos Ive seen where is is shown to do something generous like that always have that same feeling, like as if he's tying to say "HEY! LOOK AT ME GIVING A SANDWICH TO THIS HOMELESS DUDE AND TIPPING A DRIVER 100$. LOOK HOW GOOD OF A PERSON I AM! LOOK AT ME, EVERYONE!"
I dunno, I've always gotten Elon Musk-type narcissist vibes from the dude - who is putting on a well crafted facade of generosity to cover for it. Plus I always get the vibe his friends are merely nothing more than props for his videos.
Won't be surprised in the slightest if we find out in the future that the dude is a scumbag.
I saw in the news that he's currently facing backlash about when he does videos like, "survive this thing and take away all this money." People have started to look at that and feel like he's torturing people, and whoever is able to withstand the torture the longest wins the money.
More than 2 million followers. Dated for a year. I became the guy I hated seeing taking 1000 pictures from every different angle. Not one photo posted with me in it. She maybe caught my hand in there once.
Food has to be perfect and photographed. Like all the others said. Glued to the phone. Constantly disengaged. She ruined dating for me. To the point where if I'm out in a dinner date with a girl and shes stuck on her phone I'll just call it a night.
This is what’s annoying to me… it’s her job. So stage photos during work hours an set family and friend time aside. There’s a time and a place for everything and it’s not worth a relationship.
My husband's friend proposed to his girlfriend on a beach a few years ago and she made him do it again after the genuine one and stage photos.
She spoiled what should have been an intimate moment that he chose for them (he's a very private person) and made it superficial.
The sex was hot because she was HOT - she lived on her phone though so there was essentially no relationship, we were just going through the motions for the camera.
Every once in a while she would cuddle up to me when she needed that "partner comfort" - but for all intents and purposes it was like living with a Cat. You don't exist until they need something from you. and you never get their attention unless they come to you.
tldr: 4/10 - Empty relationship, sex was hot tho.
I was married to a 40k+ instagram influencer (enough to qualify as micro-influncer). Vacation (every 2 months) is not for the experience but for the gram. Waking up at 5am to take pictures of empty cities, attractions, etc at 6am is hell. Carrying a professional-grade camera, a bunch of lenses, and a drone anywhere you go (even if you're just going to grab a coffee in your town). Every time you get to stay in a hotel for free you feel like a beggar. You can't say no to being in a photo that was intended for the feed. Even our house was renovated not for the convenience but for instagramabilty. Records and books are hidden because they don't look good in the frame.
I strongly, strongly discourage anyone from even looking at anyone with over 10k subscribers. Your life will be a living hell.
At this volume of subscribers, you don't make much money, and she had a pretty successful full-time career.
She occasionally got invited by smaller brands to collaborate, but it was basically free stuff in exchange for a post. She got invited by a certain south Asian country to travel and stay there for free for 10 days (all-inclusive). There's a good chance you won't get a no, if you reach out to 4-5 star hotels to collaborate (meaning staying for free). But in terms of actual income — there's none.
That's why a lot of under 100k influencers start their own small business: tour guides, apps, etc.
Edit: sorry, reddit is bugging out for me.
So not worth remodeling the house for. I’ve dated some 10k-20kish follower girls and all they ever got was free merch mostly, and it never seemed worth the effort they put into it. The main problem was they couldn’t separate it from their life like you should with a job and that seems pretty common
That's 100% on point.
In post-modern philosophy, there's a concept of the Spectacle, and these people essentially make their own life a commodity that should be shared. All of it is fake smiles and fake trips. A lot of our evenings were essentially her staring at her phone even if I'm talking. So yeah. Not great.
The sad part is it doesn’t have to be that way, they could easily schedule an hour in the morning for pics, one in the evening, etc and avoid it the rest of the time. Like a normal job. Or take work trips and actual vacations. A couple commenters here were with women like that which sounds refreshing
But the FOMO gets them and they can’t compartmentalize
Truth is I was a victim of female to male abuse and I felt lucky a girl that hot paid any attention to me. Some years of therapy later I realize how fucked I really was.
I wonder how much of it is running out of content, and how much of it is that the time it takes to run out of content lines up with when instagrammers are having babies just like any other woman
My SIL makes 10-15k/yr as a side gig doing local touristy videos (think Rick Steve’s in 1 minute chunks) and this sounds like her life. She works remotely in software so she’s got time to do it.
An old friend of mine is a “manifest your life” sort now, so not really a friend anymore, but she and her husband had the same sort of relationship. He was basically her unpaid photographer, and they wound up getting divorced pretty quickly. She doesn’t have kids, so I’m assuming it’s not you. Just wanted to say you’re definitely not alone on that one.
Def not me, but there are people out there like me. I have a friend (who is now getting a divorce too), who went through the same and more with 100k+ influencer.
Back in the day I used to make fun of that one video poking fun at “insta-husbands”. The more I think about it now, the worse it gets.
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Talking about this vid here: https://youtu.be/fFzKi-o4rHw?si=r63wXHLvsccq8D4_
I get up before sunrise when I travel to take pictures with my DSLR and tons of lenses, but never post anything. I wake up at 4am every day though so to each their own.
You do it at your own will because that’s the hobby you enjoy. I did it because I was forced, and if the result was not good enough, the day was ruined. I forgot to mention I carried a reflector as well 😂
Tried dating someone who wanted to be an influencer. Had a couple of thousand followers and thought she'd made it.
Everything was about aesthetics. Wouldn't do anything that wasn't instagramable.
Spend her life doing things for Instagram and counting likes.
Went on a few trips and didn't have any fun because she just wanted to find landmarks to take pictures with.
Did not go well, replaced me with a fan 2000 miles away that had rich parents, at her moms recommendation. She’d only been doing it a few months when it all crumbled. I wouldn’t even date somebody who’s strongly considered doing it now. Seems to me that’s a huge red flag you’re obsessed with attention from strangers.
I made friends with this cookie while she was streaming games and thought he was a decent dude. He’s addicted to Kratom and doesn’t leave the house so they didn’t make it very long. Now she’s got a couple fuck trophy’s from the guy after that guy. Baby daddy already abandoned one kid on the other side of the country before she got there so I’m sure it’s been going well for her.
I am assuming you mean the Instagram models, because there are many different type of influencers. I dated a woman with 300k followers but she was one of the fashion haul / makeup tutorial vloggers. Nothing out of the ordinary happened in our relationship outside of her constantly being online, Fedex & UPS delivering stuff daily, and changing outfits 8 times a day.
So i went out with this girl who has like 12k followers on insta l, not so big but a considerable amount of followers. She was really gorgeous and had a great physique. Her content mainly evolved around that like wearing different clothes dancing and such.
In the beginning i was not so much bothered but eventually it engulfed her whole life she will always be on her phone engaging with her "fans". She also became highly self centred, you are looking beautiful today kind of compliments did bot cut it anymore for her, she literally would post and say she wants princess treatment nothing less, dont know what that means. Basically she stopped being a normal human being but a caricature. Thank god i am not with her anymore
Yup same. Soon after my ex downloaded Tik Tok and started making videos, she became a very different person. It’s been a couple days of being single after I had to break it off after seven years. I’m very at peace right now. Shame.
I understand the “shame” because of the time lost but rn I’m grateful for the lessons. It sounds like you made the right decision. Wish you the best
I’m pretty young (19) and this is my first breakup, we were together for a little under 2 years and it hasn’t affected me at all. Idk if it’ll hit me later on but I’ve been nothing but happy since.
First of all, despite how little it may seem what you said to me was the most empathetic or sympathetic (I have no idea what the difference is) response I’ve gotten in years, not just online but irl. I appreciate that. Thank you dude.
It’s not just the time lost that hits me, it’s how I feel like I look towards my friends and family because I ended a relationship. I never shared what I was going through with any of them until like a week prior so everyone was shocked. I don’t talk about myself a lot.
I’m just glad I escaped with no kids.
Keep looking ahead man, you have a good mindset. Don’t stray from it. Embrace the solidarity.
What a warning lol. I had that recently in a lighter version, but it was already annoying me that she couldn’t enjoy a few hours of quality time without constantly checking her phone and being obsessed about who reacted how to what story… it’s sad
I've been in same to same situation buddy! After our breakup she had blocked me. Later after almost a year she suddenly calls me up to talk and then suddenly asks me why am I not following her anymore. I was stunned. Anyways, now we follow each other on insta and lately her stories are mostly about how her zodiac signs, quotes about toxic relationships, etc. Now it's purely entertainment for me. I just find it hilarious that this person who is an epitome of toxicity is posting stories about toxic relationships.
Imagine 12000 people outside your house telling you that you're so hot. You would get crazy in no time.
For girls, they have a span from 16 to 35 where their life is heavily influenced by this.
You get accustomed, and then your ego grows exponentially. You don't realize that you're not doing anything for the praise, you're just born that way.
Then, in a few years, it all ends and you're a second class citizen again. That's when you start writing feminist papers about how society doesn't treat middle aged women good and the like.
Princess treatment is entitlement, although they don't even know it yet. You can't treat them right. It's a validation dependence. 1 person is not enough. Nothing you could do there.
I was in an LDR with someone who needed validation constantly. The moment that I had to pull back on that because I got busy with work, she got upset and started lashing out at me. It got exhausting by the end. Yes she was hot and I had the best sex ever (I literally lived every fantasy I had) but that's all it was. Beyond that, she was selfish and only cared about what she wanted. She used TikTok heavily and expected a lot of princess treatment. She got mad that I didn't open the door for her every time on our first date and she constantly gave me grief for the shoes I wore on our first date too.
My wife’s friend who she has known since childhood has over 300k followers on insta and over 250k subscribers on YouTube. She does make up tutorials in Spanish. She is super down to earth. Her husband is too when we go out she is her, she doesn’t bring her work with her. And
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I agree with you. Partners shouldn't be used as a way to fix your life. I mean, obviously, having a relationship can and should be a net positive to your life, but no one should be with someone just to fix them. If you're not that into someone to help them spend potentially years on "learning" to be a good or better person or fix their life in some way, that's a doomed relationship from the start. No one should be shamed for refusing to be with someone who others would deem as a project person.
People deserve to have a committed relationship with someone who generally has their lives/personality together. Obviously, life is hard, and if you've been with someone for a long time and something bad happens, obviously be there for them and help them through the situation. But if you've only gone on a few dates with someone and they seem like a hot mess of a person, walk away.
Not me but my son dated one for around 6 months. She had like 160k followers.
She had a new york accent irl, but when making her videos, she put on this kind of LA-Kardashian accent. She was completely upfront about how fake everything she did was. She lied to her followers constantly, laughed at how gullible they were, created scenarios which weren't true at all. It was honestly funny to see just how *in* on the joke she was, like she knew how insane and ridiculous her social media presence was.
Unfortunately it also meant that she had to constantly go to 'events' that sucked so she could make herself seem active and popular. She would go to galleries and parties just to take one single fashionable photo and then leave. Even if she was in on the joke, it was still a *job* for her.
I'm in a 3 year relationship with a YT content creator(~50k subs) Edit: the girlfriend wants me to correct it's 60k now
Idk man it's pretty normal except once a week i need to mind the noise for an hour or two because she's recording.
Oh and she streams 2-3 times a week, but if we have something planned it can easily be canceled.
I guess her attitude with it is much more laid back than what I hear from the Instagram influencers of the same size.
I’m married to one (+500K followers IG). She didn’t become an influencer until about a year after we got married and I’m now leaving my corp job to help her full time. Honestly, it’s been a pretty incredible journey. It’s allowed us to travel freely, spend more time with family, and live life on our own terms. I certainly had to get used to the camera frequently being on, but we’ve made some good boundaries and compromises where it doesn’t cause disagreements anymore. More to her credit, it hasn’t changed her from the woman I fell in love with. She’s still the same sweet person I met several years ago and our love and relationship continues to grow and thrive.
I have a good friend of my one seeing someone who has a decent insta and tik tok following (over a million tik tol and I think 500k insta).
I genuinely feel so bad for him the comments on all the videos with him involved on her profiles are vile and tearing him down, he says it doesn’t get to him but when you know someone as long as we have you see through the bs. Apparently she has an only fans (I have no clue what the handle is) and people will send him personal dms rubbing it in his face, ironically he said he was always ok with it and didn’t care if someone he saw was into that but I think he’s opinion may have changed now on that matter.
On top of that it sounds like she was recently divorced and they started dating shortly after that was finalized. My friends already moved to the city she’s in and they are moving in together. He always goes 2 feet waist deep into everything he does but it almost always blows up in his face. I expect this to be the same but really really hope I’m wrong.
One of my good friends growing up turned into an influencer and we dated in college during the time she was gaining her following. The influencer stuff didn't really get in the way other than people stopping us on the street for a picture and sometimes even starting to recognize me alone as "that instafamous girl's boyfriend." She was/is very down to earth, absolutely stunning, easy to have a conversation with and other than occasionally feeling like she was on her phone too much I really had no issues. The perks of free stays at nice hotels/ free meals at nice restaurants were nice. Half my wardrobe to this day are nice clothes that she was given for free to give to me if the brand had a mens line and wanted me in the photo too. Maybe because it was the earlier days of "influencers" (2013-15) she didn't have the all-consuming influencer personality that I see today. We broke up for entirely unrelated reasons, she wanted a family ASAP after college and I wasn't ready, and we remain close friends. She's pivoted her page into being a "mom" influencer as she has 3 kids now, and to this day remains very grounded and normal. It really is just a job (and a well-paying one) to her.
went on one date she kept telling me how pretty she is and how i’m lucky to be even going out with her.
I Made her buy me dinner AND drop me home then i just never asked her out again.
I dated a girl with 250k insta followers and an of. She and I were both in open relationships, so it was mostly light dating/hookups. I really enjoyed it and spent a lot of time feeling like I couldn’t believe my good luck.
Both our relationships blew up at the same time as open relationships tend to. I decided to go back to monogamy, so while the influencer was awesome, I basically decided she was too wild for me.
It was a good experience though.
I went out with someone who has like 300k followers on tik tok a few times. She was nice enough. Insanely attractive. But my god she filmed every single thing in her life. Couldn’t get a cocktail without a photo session. It was hard to get to know who she actually was as a person. Just not for me.
My wife has become one. She loves it, honestly it is kind of annoying as I am her de-facto photographer. I am proud of her though, she is accomplishing things that seem to make her happy.
Get her a tripod and a wireless remote to record! I’m not a influencer but play with photography has a hobby. I promise you she will loveeeeeeeee doing it herself when she learns how because she will know how to get the angles she wants. She can record a videos and take photos from the video if she wants multiple shots from different angels. It’s amazing.
Took her out for her birthday 🎂 .
I take a few pics of her and the cake 🎂
Afterwards she asks for the pics.
Next day or ends up on her sm with some quote
as if she eating alone.
another example: go on a trip. she dissappears at times or asks me to get a drink for us or something. I return and find her posing and a stranger she had asked to take her pics, is the photographer. I'm like 😠
Pics from the trip on sm are of her only. Like she traveled solo.
Dated a 25k-ish instagram model/influencer. I was her photographer for a lot of the photos and things were pretty breezy for a while. Then the offers for business started coming in and it got hectic. Eventually things started getting so hectic that she felt I was holding her back from making it big and she dumped me.
Currently dating a girl 50k followers, have known her since we were 14. Pretty normal relationship. Definitely spends a lot of time making videos but she's also a journalist so im use to her spending a lot of time on the computer or phone.
Good perks, get to go to cool events, lots of free holidays.
She's great.
Didn't exactly date one, but rather matched with two of them on separate occasions. First one was hella compliment hungry, always requiring my admiration with any comment. . . a modern day gram princess.
Second one told me right before our first date that she's an influencer, brings her camera everywhere, needed me to be part of her reels and I had to be cool with it. Noped out of both them pretty quick. Too naturally introverted for that shit.
Idk if she'd count as an influencer but I dated a chick once that I later found out has a big Instagram following. Mostly guys in our little town. I thought it was cool at first and made me feel good that so many guys thought my GF was hot.
However, it only took a few weeks to start seeing problems with it. She was *always* on her phone and there were multiple occasions where men came up to us in public and started fucking with her. We were at the park one day when a group of guys walked up, one was filming and they're just telling her to dump the guy she's with (me) and to come home with them. She just sat there and talked to them like they were old friends and only told them to go away when they started talking about beating my ass. The only reason it didn't happen was because another group of guys walked up and told them to fuck off. Then those guys flirted with her in front of me too while she played along.
A few days later we were in a K-Mart when some dipshit walked up and did the same stuff. "Why you with him? You know I can take care of you". She still just talked to him like they were friends. He even put his hands on her at one point but he fucked off shortly after.
The last straw was one night when we are laying in my bed while she was messaging guys on Instagram, ignoring me for the most part. We were about to have sex when she TOOK A CALL from one of them and talked for 15-20 minutes. I kind of grumbled when she took the call and once she hung up, she bitched at me for being jealous. I ended up taking her back home that night and broke up with her in the morning.
She was so pretty and I thought she was really nice at first but I just couldn't deal with the constant men trying to get between us and I hated how she acted like that was normal. Her entire personality seemingly revolved around her being cute. I ended up feeling terrible every time we were together and just couldn't do it any longer.
Didn't date her properly, but while I was in high school, I was really close to Amouranth. She set the rules that I had to get a six-pack in order for us to date (which I stupidly agreed to) lmao.
While I can't attest to how she is nowadays off-stream, it's absolutely wild how she did a complete 180° on her personality and behavior for the sake of getting that bag. She's almost nothing like she was 10-12 years ago.
Went on a date with one. Of course she had all the right answers and made me feel valued and appreciated but in the back of my mind there was always this feeling of how often she had done a date just like mine. I just couldn’t get a feel of whether she was actually interested in me or just another amazing presentation.
Anyways, we text each other every so often but never went on another date. Wonderful person but in a weird hallow way.
It's how I met her. Was drunk one night and slid up in her DMs. Two days later she's deep in love.
Between the filters and makeup and the angles she was a different person IRL. She was still attractive but nowhere near the same.
Personality-wise she was the same person on and off social media.
Lasted about a year before I got sober enough to realize she was definitely NOT the one. It was new and fun at first. But having a bunch of thirsty dudes wanting me dead was tiring.
It was the same as dating any vain person. It was annoying having to take 20 pictures of anything mildly interesting that we saw.
You realize how fake everything is. She once spent two weeks in Miami, but spread out posting her pics from that trip over about a year and a half. The pics all had very clever costume changes of course.
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I dated a fitness influencer before. I knew that she was prominent on social media. She had won Miss Teen (Insert my state here) and kind of used that to start her influencing.
I was about to say that it was horrible, but im going to correct myself. It honestly wasn't bad. We had a deal (That I insisted) that she could talk about me vaguely, but I didn't want any sort of attention, so no pictures and no name drops. She respected it the entire way, That girl loved the shit out of me though. But I was kind of a piece of shit at the time so it didn't work out.
I will say that a big wedge between us were her conspiracy theories. I had introduced her into conspiracy and she just spiraled out of control. She really went to the deep end. We stopped talking for like 5 years and I hit her up out of the blue one day and she responded with some of the craziest shit I have ever heard. The FBI was after her for finding something out and her life is in danger and she can hear them in her house at night. Like the kind of stuff that makes me think that she got into hard drugs.
ya, I was young. One of my many life's regrets. At the time, it was all about sex for me. Id come around when I wanted to get laid and then id dip out. She wanted a bond so bad, but I wasn't in the right headspace for that. She would send me these long love letters where she would just pour her heart out to me. They were hand written and she would put them in an envelop and spray her perfume on them and seal the envelope with a kiss with her lipstick. Honestly, thinking back, I only feel worse about it.
I can only hope that she's doing better. She really was such a kind and understanding person. She was just lost and I think that we were both kind of experiencing the same feelings of inadequacy from our families.
I dated one for about a week. She was more of a quasi influencer had 20K followers on instagram. She flew out to the city I lived in after we had messaged for about a month. Seemed like a normal girl, but was constantly on her phone and what I thought was going to be a nice extended period to get to know each other turned into me being her camera man. Constantly making stories, tiktoks, reels whatever they are. Every meal and outing was photographed and much of our down time was her editing posts and thinking of captions. It was like she had to work 24/7. It made me feel more like a part of her staff than a potential romantic interest. She left, I called it off, and she made like six social media posts about how love is a waste of time, chase your dreams not people etc.
My now wife is a reluctant influencer. She is a physician and her and her colleague started a podcast early during the pandemic to help parents be better parents and help educate against misinformation.
As part of their podcasting they decided to post a bit on Insta and TikTok. They got a lot of traction on TikTok (now over 750,000 followers).
My wife usually isn’t thrilled to make videos but does it because the information she imparts helps thousands of children and their parents. It’s kind of wild that some of their videos reach more people than they would ever get to treat in their entire careers and that’s part of what keeps them going. In the first year they put 10k into it and made $0. This year they will be in the 6 figures. While their day job pays them far more the additional cash is nice to pay for trips to conferences and buy new technology.
It rarely affects me - podcasts were probably more noticeable as they’d be an hour or two at a time. TikTok is a quick couple minutes and a bit of time editing.
Only noticeable difference in our home is a desk setup with a nicer camera, a proper microphone and necessary lighting.
Met one local influencer on the brink of going big. She got from 10k to 100k in about a month, which is huge because she's not doing international content. I had no idea who she was - she is certainly beautiful but not omg beautiful, it just so happened that she ticked all my boxes. We hit it off as she is outstandingly cultured and we could talk for hours about psychology, philosophy, art, science, whatever. Her content is also pretty damn good (no thirst traps, legit showing off her skills as an actress and artist) so there's that.
Problem was, she was an absolute mess. She had just broke up after a loooong relationship, had huge radiating anxiety, a wildly abusive past, depression, attachment issues, addicted to marijuana, the whole shtick. I didn't make a move, I even turned down sex because I could tell she was doing it for validation and I didn't want to be a part of that. So she got back with her ex after a month, disappeared for another month, then came back and told me all about her shitty life and her ex.
I tried to pull her through for months with close to zero progress, then she got back with her ex again and invited me to her birthday. Nobody but her boyfriend and me showed up. I didn't know him. We went out for some fun and when we got back to her home, he stayied the night. Confronted her about it, she got defensive as fuck, I simply shut down the conversation and moved on. She messaged me a week later with "nothing ever happened between me and you blabla why are you mad blabla" and I'm like "look, I really like you and I'm not mad because you're rejecting me nor for dating another guy, I'm mad because you talk shit about your ex and keep going back for him, and I can't let a person who gets off her own desperation in my life, besides nothing happened because I didn't want to make it happen"
And so the gates opened. We argued for 3 days straight, I stood my ground and ultimately told her off.
I dated a Youtuber over 10 years ago. She wasn't huge; but she was big enough to be lumped in with someone who was big in the gaming community back then (he no longer is).
She was extremely... moody and at times full of herself. We dated for 4 years and I visited her twice a year since we lived in different states. Ended up cheating on me with multiple men and the straw that broke the camels back was when she slept with her best friends husband, and we all found out.
From the other side, I have a pretty decent following and my wife and I had to have a pretty serious talk about how much time I was spending on my phone while trying or make it all work. I now make a conscious effort to put the phone away when we’re together
I was always a guy that insisted on paying for everything and kind of taking charge when it came to dates and hanging out. But this lady was different. When we met I thought she was beautiful so I asked her out and she liked me immediately. She flew us out to NYC and booked one of the most expensive hotels I’ve seen. The only thing though was the HEAVY drug usage. I mean she was constantly drinking, smoking, and doing cocaine. She would constantly pass out everywhere we went. She wanted to have sex EVERYWHERE. I think she liked the thrill of maybe getting caught
I was seeing this woman for a while with 70k followers on instagram, at the time I had 40k on Tik Tok, so I was kind of an influencer myself.. but, we differed on a lot, she basically wanted to keep me out of her public life completely, was worried she’d lose followers. She didn’t want to do things like hold hands, kiss in public (even a peck), just generally not playful and it left me feeling unwanted. She put a lot of effort into her content. Perhaps it was just her personality. We split after I brought up some of these issues, last I heard she went to a psych ward and stopped posting entirely, haven’t heard from her since.
Now I have 120k followers and I just live life normally, I don’t give a shit about all that fancy videography stuff, I got a tripod but that’s it, I’m a shitposter and a welder at the end of the day. I put the bare amount of effort into my content.. and if I were to date someone, I would have absolutely no problem with them being on my profile.
In the future, I’d have no problem dating an influencer, they’ve just gotta be cool
I went on a date with a girl with a really big Instagram following once (somewhere north of 100k followers iirc). She was really nice, fun, and generally very polite, but Jesus christ, she was glued to her stupid phone. She legitimately must've taken 200 pictures/selfies in the in the 3 hours we were on the date and was constantly doing God knows what else. She was constantly apologizing for being on her phone so much, and her excuse was that it was her job, but it was just hard to get past that. Made me feel like she didn't want to be there, even though she stated otherwise and even suggested going to a bar after dinner, but she was on her phone the whole time there too. Idk it was pretty depressing because up until that point I was really interested.
FWIW, I’ve dated one as well, and had the same experience. I understood that it was her job, so I gave her a lot of space to “influence” when we were together. I finally realized that to her, relationships *are* a disconnected engagement. So, to be around her while she’s focused on herself is what she thinks a relationship is. The same disconnect that exists between her and her followers…I was just another follower.
Damn bro that's deep. The majority of us experience it the other way around. I guess once you go so far down that hole real life people become the disconnect from your new virtual reality.
Everybody becomes an NPC
Dealing with this but with a musician. I never felt so validated
This was well-written
Well said. It really smacks of narcissism to treat someone like that in person. Your job should have set hours, don’t bring it on a date, whatever it is. No one would think it’s cool if I had papers to grade over drinks. Have some consideration ffs.
I was thinking the same thing! If I'm out with a girl, and I'm taking calls from shareholders or writing emails, there's no way I'd get a second date, lol.
The trouble I see is that people take days off from work. So there's no reason why they can't do the same. Not that I think being an influencer is a real job, anyhow. But still ...
Because the algorithm punishes taking time off. it is a cycle of having to remain consistent so everything becomes content or potential content- especially if you don’t have a skill or product. It is draining though NGL
Some, a minority, but some influences net 6 figures or more easily. A lot can pull down 50-70k without too much trouble if you know how to approach it. Its a real job, I think we have to admit that much. Its a questionable job in terms of a career opportunities or longevity but it certainly is a job.
as soon as you are able to start taking money , it only takes a few 1000 dollar promos a month to make like total normal earnings 2 a month is 24k ( pre tax) pretty sure that's more then min wage. honestly I find twitch/yt/patreon to be interesting just I'm how small/niche a person's audience can be and still make a living.
Whether or not you think it’s a real job, it is. People make money at it, it’s a job.
In a previous iteration of my career I was a bartender. I took this job because I was a moderately-functioning alcoholic and this was one of the few jobs I could hold down and also be drinking at work. As many servers and bartenders can attest, drinking on the job was and still is part of the (absolutely awful) restaurant "culture". The point is, I took a job serving alcohol because I was addicted to alcohol and could feed my addiction while making money. This is exactly what influencers are - they are addicts. Their job is their addiction and their addiction is their job. Having been there myself, I see influencers in the wild and I am filled with a profound sense of sadness. These people are incapable of realizing how insufferable they are (just as I was when I was on a bender) because they are completely in the thrall of their addiction.
>As many servers and bartenders can attest, drinking on the job was and still is part of the (absolutely awful) restaurant "culture". As a server I can attest that... this absolutely is dependent on where you are working and that only one of my jobs was like this
Well OblongRectum, maybe I just worked at awful places 😂
Being on your phone a tenth as much as that is already an absolute insult to you. Another captured mind.
So what if “it’s her job?” A lot of people work office jobs but you don’t see them whip out their laptops and start working on a date. She is 100% capable of putting down the phone for a few hours
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The amazing thing about [most] social media platforms is that you don't need to share anything live. If you went out with friends on Friday evening, you can choose to post those photos the next day, or even the next week. None of your followers will know... or care.
You mean like the 1000s of girls that go on a modeling trip to Mykonos or Tulum and post a couple of pics from there every 2-3 months to make it seem like they're on lavish vacations year-round?
Seems like the compromise here would be "Hey, sorry to be weird, but can I just take a few photos of the restaurant for 10 minutes, and then a few photos of the food when it comes out?" She doesn't need to also edit the photos, post them, and respond to comments in real time! It's the internet, it works 24/7, she can do that when she gets home.
but that's not the sell, it's look at my outfit here's me in the car here's me at the restaurant here's the food look.at the city! look at us, vip somewhere else! you can't do 1 photo, it's the whole night. selling a life style. it's reasonable to.ask.yiur girlfriend that, but a date is office hours for an influencer.
Yeah, a lot of people struggle with work/life balance. “I have to be accessible all day, every day, or something horrible will happen!” This isn’t just influencers. A lot of guys in high level positions convince themselves that they’re indispensable. They do the same thing - any buzz of their phone (because they could never turn it off) and they’re descending into 10 minutes of work and emails while their dates/friends are sitting there.
When your bosses constantly like your work, tell you you’re good, constantly being validated by thousands of followers, being offered thousands of dollars , unlimited opportunities for travel, work, sex . You tell me. Wouldn’t you be addicted to your “job”? Being an influencer just makes you narcissistic for sure. And then your life as it stands is screwd.
>Being an influencer just makes you narcissistic for sure. OP said his date was really sweet and polite. She was just stuck in her phone. Lots of people are like this without even being influencers.
Yeah but you are comparing a 9-5 job to a freelance job. Outside of a 9-5 it's the wild wild west to earn money aside from every 2 weeks. Not saying I agree, but that's how it goes if you want to not be broke.
Her phone being her job is really a poor excuse for her. I don't go on a date and suddenly start to compile Excel tables.
The irony of it all is so funny to me. Her job is basically to report an exciting life. But that job makes her unable to actually live the exciting life she is reporting.
Now that's the irony
It's like ten thousand followers and all you need is a life
Oh...so that's just a "me" thing then?
You should. Women love a man that can excel
Aw man, I thought it was "women love a man who knows Excel". I've wasted two years learning how to make spreadsheets.
It is her job. But she should be able to take a break. If she's doing it on a date it's a signal to you that you are not important.
I wouldn't even bother dating one because everyone knows this is exactly how it would be
Oh wow even i dont bring my forklift with me on dates my dates😅 Otherwise my game would be too strong😂
It's funny to me, if someone WFH and was on their phone all dinner, most would think it's crazy. But if you're an infuencer, the thing I've noticed is "the work doesn't stop" because the work is literally your actual life, the "normal" things you do. Those people are constantly on their phones and they don't see how it's a problem even though it's identical in nature to someone working all the damn time in any other job. It's like they approach every situation thinking "what content can I make from this" rather than "let me just have fun and enjoy my day for once". It's exausting really.
I bet there's good money if you've got that many followers, but this comment makes me wonder what the math is in terms of hourly pay rate. Like if she made $100k last year but worked 80 hours per week that's $24/hr
Seems like any 25+ girl I dated in the past seven years who were not influencers.
2m ig followers. We dated for 3 months, she had a room in her house that was there for the photos, and the rest of the house it was your normal home, nothing extreme, etc. She was "working" one day a week, she was taking all the photos for the week that day, and the rest of the week just chilling and uploading. She was fit, but she is showing everything in her profile, her content is mostly make up, hair-face-body products and lotions. We traveled a bit, and again she took 2 days to take all her photos and the rest of the vacation it was for us. She wasn't a golddigger, she was making enough to feed a couple of families
She sounds like she was doing it the right way
Feels super disappointing we let these folks live the high life mainly because they’re good-looking, though. Why is what she doing worth the money they get from it? Sounds bogus.
She has 2 million instagram followers. It's worth money to know you have the attention of that many people. You have .... influence. Sure it's vain but c'mon man, at some point we just gotta accept that attractiveness is just another type of currency that matters to people. It's not the only one and there's no sense in envying what others have more of than us.
...but why male models?
They sell ads, and have lots of guranteed eyes on them.
That sounds like the way to do it. One or two days of HARD work, then chill out and do the posts through the week.
Yeah, and tbh i thought that's how the majority of them work, until i met a girl with 20k followers and she told me that she needs to take perfect pics every day, etc basically what the other comments are saying. I was shocked
I would imagine there's a big difference in the mindset of someone with 2mil and 20k followers. The 20k influencers is probably trying waaay too hard to reach thoose 2 mil followers, and thus burning themself out because they wanted thoose 2 mil yesterday, so today they have to worker even harder to get them. And the 2 mil ones have already been trough that phase, and have found a healthy balance between sharing so much of their privacy, and keeping some of that privacy private (probably trough trial and error to an extend) Just like how many new hires in a workplace will work themselves to near death before they realise their bosses doesnt value their hard work as much as they themselves tought it would (not getting raise, no praise or such a small amount it isnt fitting with the extra work they've put in)
I would think the same, but the 2m girl was the same way through her whole journey. Working her normal job and the weekend investing on her hobby
She probably had real talent, skills or something that people were actually interested in. Or she just got lucky.
It’s funny, because I used to work as a sound/video technician and worked with many big names in the movie and music industry. The massive stars were typically pretty decent to work with. It’s was always the mid-tier type talent that had the biggest egos and was the most difficult to work with.
I would agree. I used to build custom homes for the ultra wealthy and famous. B-list celebrities were a massive pain in the ass. People like Harrison Ford were chill as fuck and easy to work for. Little money millionaires were the worst. Doctors and Lawyers. They have money, but they are trying tokeep up or beat the Jones down the street, but the Jones are billionaires and they don't care about the cost to move a light, but the doc will argue about paying for it for a week.
I dated a 30k followers kind of girl. Although she wasn't on her phone during dates, like if we were watching a mvoie or eating dinner she'd give me her attention but if i was driving or, there was any situatuon where she thought she didn't need to give me her full attention she'd be on her phone. Pictures of everything, though. Every meal. Every outfit. Every location. We split for different reasons, the biggest of which was that her followers would find out she was upset with me before I did.
Honestly it sounds like your ex was one of the ones who already made it, and then got to dial it back. Do you happen to know if she always had this schedule, or did she need to invest a lot more time and effort when she was first rising? I imagine it gets easier when you've been doing it for a while, have an audience built up, and a lot of experience in how to do things in the most efficient way possible. Whereas someone just coming up has none of those things, so they hustle constantly. Now that I think about it, kind of like a corporate career tbh.
She had a normal 9-5 job, and the weekends she was taking some photos and posting them the whole week. Maybe she was spending 2 days instead of one each week. But she came from a decent family (financially), so she wouldn't worry about the basics. She had a nice house, a nice car, no debt, she studied. And she followed her passion/hobby. She is a nice person, and not arrogant at all. Even our break was nice 😂
Part of it sounds like the the difference between someone who turned this into a career and found work life balance, and someone who made it their personality since it’s their hobby (or hope to make it a career). Similarly know someone in the 200k follower range. She’s very down to earth, does content days, otherwise doesn’t let it infiltrate her other days, and gets to do cool things.
that sounds like the smart way to do it, kudos to her
People again acting like photography, modeling, media management, and marketing aren't work.
I dated someone with a huge following on tik tok. She has over 100k followers I think. Enough that she was paid to post regular gym-girl/funny content by third parties. She would wear certain clothes in her videos and make a $100. Or a preworkout paid her to talk about how it’s the only one she used. The money was never worth the effort she put into it. She wished she could take a break from going to the gym every single day. People at her gym gave her crap for videoing. She was kind of miserable about the entire thing. I knew she was popular, but her being an “influencer” didn’t even occur to me until someone told me that’s exactly what she is. I guess I’d say that I didn’t enjoy how much external validation she sought in every day life. I think she was constantly searching for acceptance or praise for everything she did, and she was never really happy with herself. Other than that, it was meh. I don’t even know what her account name is, just that the whole thing made her unhappy. Which in turn made our relationship a half degree more difficult.
Oh man, dopamine
If she's doing this thing on the regular and still feels miserable, it might as well be a copamine hit.
Problem is 100k on tiktok is basically nothing. 1 million views of a video is like $50 for most people on the platform, where it would be 3k+ on youtube. So yeah, getting $100 to promote a brand is a huge step up for most tiktok 'influencers'
Glued to her phone all the time, friends would message her about distasteful comments all day. She did take me along to some incredible gatherings/ parties/ events. I occasionally got messages after we "ended" to join her at stuff and I did. Met some really cool people but 75% of the folks at these things were insufferable goofs. 500k or so followers. Edit: no idea she was an "influencer." She sent a friend to let me know she thought I was cute. She offered to take me out on a date, restaurant was UNREASONABLY priced for a guy like me, we never got a bill, she took ALOT of pictures. I asked and she explained it was all free if she documented her visit online. Also went on a trip to Spain for free, first class, resort was free, everything was literally free.
How long did you guys stay together? How did it end? So 500k followers is enough these days for free first class trips and fancy restaurants? That kind of blows me away how normalised it is now
This was a couple years back she had 500k, and we were together for two months. We hung out another two months after, it was after we were officially over at the end of the first two that we went to Spain. We ended because she was extremely jealous. She started looking at my face if other woman were checking me out and accuse me of smiling at them. I called it quits and dealt with her in stalker form for another month. I ended up in a with an aspiring singer immediately after her who had six figure YouTube subscribers. Sent me a drink at a jazz club, I learned she was a heavy coke user and I made my way out after a month. Also all the free stuff at that level that attractive woman got blew my mind up until about a decade ago. You could have no social media but if the right rich guy notices you and finds you attractive, he will pay big bucks just to have you in the same room. As a guy who has no social media, I think that world is poisonous honestly. Too much drama, jealousy, insecurities, and detachment from the real world.
>We ended because she was extremely jealous. She started looking at my face if other woman were checking me out and accuse me of smiling at them. Don't get me wrong, but considering most of her popularity was because of the attention she got and the fact that you trusted her with all of that, I'd expect that she'd extend you the courtesy of trusting you as well!
I was together with a micro-influencer(10-20k followers) for around 2-3 years. Very pretty girl with a bubbly and lovely personality. but Jesus Christ. Every little thing had to be documented. Just taking a walk through a public botanical garden she was constantly taking photos and we absolutely had to stop and spend 20 minutes propping up her phone to take a self timer photo of us. Which in itself is a nice thought but when it’s like that every time you’re out and about it gets extremely tiring.
Didnt really date but we had a small thing going on for years. She gave up her job as a cam girl to be with me. Turned into an influencer. I knew it was doomed the moment she recorded her self giving the dilvery driver a "big tip" which was like 50 bucks and wanted to see his reaction. The whole thing was really demeaning and awful and i had a conversation with her about it. We split cause things got out of hand when she couldnt leave me out of the picture when it came to her social media. Edit: the social media was one part of the problem, we hadnalot of normal relationship issues that lead up to just seperating. It was a little difficult to describe since we were more than friends less thab lovers
>I knew it was doomed the moment she recorded her self giving the dilvery driver a "big tip" which was like 50 bucks and wanted to see his reaction. I don't know why reading this specifically made me think differently about this whole scenario, whether it's big tipping or answering the door naked, but it did. I agree with you about the "demeaning and awful" aspect of it. Imagine the delivery driver - a camera pointed at him and a girl (or guy in other situations) giving him a $50 with a big smile on their face and a "surprise! This is for you!" comment, and him mostly likely understanding in the back of his mind that this is all just a publicity stunt and he's going to be paraded on somebody's social media feed. His poverty is going to be exploited for someone else's gain.
This is precisely the problem that many have with a lot of the feel good content on the internet a la Mr. Beast. One the one hand, it makes you feel happy that someone in need is getting the help they may need...but it you really think about the situation, it is kind of gross.
This is a philosophical question that has been around for a very long time. Is someone who only does good things for profit a good person? One side of it says yes because it's a net positive even if the person is doing it for the wrong reasons. The other side says no because it isn't exactly charitable if you expect something out of it. IMO it's wrong to shove a camera in anyone's face for clout. If you want to be helpful, be helpful.
isn’t the only reason Mr Beast has enough money to give so much away BECAUSE he generates revenue from vids?people with less money can’t pay for others’ vision treatments because we need to feed ourselves
Everyone I know loves Mr. Beasts videos and always says how nice and generous he is. But all the videos Ive seen where is is shown to do something generous like that always have that same feeling, like as if he's tying to say "HEY! LOOK AT ME GIVING A SANDWICH TO THIS HOMELESS DUDE AND TIPPING A DRIVER 100$. LOOK HOW GOOD OF A PERSON I AM! LOOK AT ME, EVERYONE!" I dunno, I've always gotten Elon Musk-type narcissist vibes from the dude - who is putting on a well crafted facade of generosity to cover for it. Plus I always get the vibe his friends are merely nothing more than props for his videos. Won't be surprised in the slightest if we find out in the future that the dude is a scumbag.
I saw in the news that he's currently facing backlash about when he does videos like, "survive this thing and take away all this money." People have started to look at that and feel like he's torturing people, and whoever is able to withstand the torture the longest wins the money.
More than 2 million followers. Dated for a year. I became the guy I hated seeing taking 1000 pictures from every different angle. Not one photo posted with me in it. She maybe caught my hand in there once. Food has to be perfect and photographed. Like all the others said. Glued to the phone. Constantly disengaged. She ruined dating for me. To the point where if I'm out in a dinner date with a girl and shes stuck on her phone I'll just call it a night.
This is what’s annoying to me… it’s her job. So stage photos during work hours an set family and friend time aside. There’s a time and a place for everything and it’s not worth a relationship.
My husband's friend proposed to his girlfriend on a beach a few years ago and she made him do it again after the genuine one and stage photos. She spoiled what should have been an intimate moment that he chose for them (he's a very private person) and made it superficial.
The sex was hot because she was HOT - she lived on her phone though so there was essentially no relationship, we were just going through the motions for the camera. Every once in a while she would cuddle up to me when she needed that "partner comfort" - but for all intents and purposes it was like living with a Cat. You don't exist until they need something from you. and you never get their attention unless they come to you. tldr: 4/10 - Empty relationship, sex was hot tho.
Most accurate description of a cat I've ever read.
Cats are Libertarians. Absolutely convinced of their fierce independence while utterly dependent on a system they don't appreciate or understand.
Cats are perfectly capable of surviving without us, and it was our need to eradicate pests that led to their domestication.
5000+ years ago. Now they’re living the dream!
God damn that makes so much sense when you put it that way.
Even the sex part?
Especially the sex part.
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sadly you described my ex, thankfully you didn't describe my cat lol, good analogy tho
I was married to a 40k+ instagram influencer (enough to qualify as micro-influncer). Vacation (every 2 months) is not for the experience but for the gram. Waking up at 5am to take pictures of empty cities, attractions, etc at 6am is hell. Carrying a professional-grade camera, a bunch of lenses, and a drone anywhere you go (even if you're just going to grab a coffee in your town). Every time you get to stay in a hotel for free you feel like a beggar. You can't say no to being in a photo that was intended for the feed. Even our house was renovated not for the convenience but for instagramabilty. Records and books are hidden because they don't look good in the frame. I strongly, strongly discourage anyone from even looking at anyone with over 10k subscribers. Your life will be a living hell.
God damn that sounds exhausting 😂
How much money did she make from it?
At this volume of subscribers, you don't make much money, and she had a pretty successful full-time career. She occasionally got invited by smaller brands to collaborate, but it was basically free stuff in exchange for a post. She got invited by a certain south Asian country to travel and stay there for free for 10 days (all-inclusive). There's a good chance you won't get a no, if you reach out to 4-5 star hotels to collaborate (meaning staying for free). But in terms of actual income — there's none. That's why a lot of under 100k influencers start their own small business: tour guides, apps, etc. Edit: sorry, reddit is bugging out for me.
So not worth remodeling the house for. I’ve dated some 10k-20kish follower girls and all they ever got was free merch mostly, and it never seemed worth the effort they put into it. The main problem was they couldn’t separate it from their life like you should with a job and that seems pretty common
That's 100% on point. In post-modern philosophy, there's a concept of the Spectacle, and these people essentially make their own life a commodity that should be shared. All of it is fake smiles and fake trips. A lot of our evenings were essentially her staring at her phone even if I'm talking. So yeah. Not great.
The sad part is it doesn’t have to be that way, they could easily schedule an hour in the morning for pics, one in the evening, etc and avoid it the rest of the time. Like a normal job. Or take work trips and actual vacations. A couple commenters here were with women like that which sounds refreshing But the FOMO gets them and they can’t compartmentalize
To this point you've stated nothing positive about the experience, so I'm guessing the primary drive was her being physically attractive? lol
Truth is I was a victim of female to male abuse and I felt lucky a girl that hot paid any attention to me. Some years of therapy later I realize how fucked I really was.
That seems like a shit ton of effort for something that only boosts your ego.
You said "was" so not anymore?
Correct. She cheated, and now uses her new children as instagram feed material.
Omg I have been seeing lately instagrammers getting pregnant and having babies when they run out of content🥴
that’s the move of a certain OG social media klan
Absolutely
I wonder how much of it is running out of content, and how much of it is that the time it takes to run out of content lines up with when instagrammers are having babies just like any other woman
Gross. Hope they aren’t your kids. That’s fucked up to use kids like that.
Thank god they’re not
My SIL makes 10-15k/yr as a side gig doing local touristy videos (think Rick Steve’s in 1 minute chunks) and this sounds like her life. She works remotely in software so she’s got time to do it.
An old friend of mine is a “manifest your life” sort now, so not really a friend anymore, but she and her husband had the same sort of relationship. He was basically her unpaid photographer, and they wound up getting divorced pretty quickly. She doesn’t have kids, so I’m assuming it’s not you. Just wanted to say you’re definitely not alone on that one.
Def not me, but there are people out there like me. I have a friend (who is now getting a divorce too), who went through the same and more with 100k+ influencer. Back in the day I used to make fun of that one video poking fun at “insta-husbands”. The more I think about it now, the worse it gets. Edit: Talking about this vid here: https://youtu.be/fFzKi-o4rHw?si=r63wXHLvsccq8D4_
I get up before sunrise when I travel to take pictures with my DSLR and tons of lenses, but never post anything. I wake up at 4am every day though so to each their own.
You do it at your own will because that’s the hobby you enjoy. I did it because I was forced, and if the result was not good enough, the day was ruined. I forgot to mention I carried a reflector as well 😂
Tried dating someone who wanted to be an influencer. Had a couple of thousand followers and thought she'd made it. Everything was about aesthetics. Wouldn't do anything that wasn't instagramable. Spend her life doing things for Instagram and counting likes. Went on a few trips and didn't have any fun because she just wanted to find landmarks to take pictures with.
Did not go well, replaced me with a fan 2000 miles away that had rich parents, at her moms recommendation. She’d only been doing it a few months when it all crumbled. I wouldn’t even date somebody who’s strongly considered doing it now. Seems to me that’s a huge red flag you’re obsessed with attention from strangers.
How did it crumble?
Turns out the last guy they replaced him with was, in fact, a cookie.
I made friends with this cookie while she was streaming games and thought he was a decent dude. He’s addicted to Kratom and doesn’t leave the house so they didn’t make it very long. Now she’s got a couple fuck trophy’s from the guy after that guy. Baby daddy already abandoned one kid on the other side of the country before she got there so I’m sure it’s been going well for her.
Annoying. She discussed personal things publicly and wouldn't get off the damn phone. Lol
I am assuming you mean the Instagram models, because there are many different type of influencers. I dated a woman with 300k followers but she was one of the fashion haul / makeup tutorial vloggers. Nothing out of the ordinary happened in our relationship outside of her constantly being online, Fedex & UPS delivering stuff daily, and changing outfits 8 times a day.
I always thought that Instagram models were dating sugar daddies cause they seem expensive to go out with.
I mean, nothing in his comment suggests that he's NOT a sugar daddy.
If you ever see an insta model out in Dubai, they paid a very high, non-monetary price for the trip.
Exactly. They all end up in Dubai eventually.
Need a sugar daddy to pay the water bill for doing laundry for 8 outfits per day.
They're dry clean only.
So i went out with this girl who has like 12k followers on insta l, not so big but a considerable amount of followers. She was really gorgeous and had a great physique. Her content mainly evolved around that like wearing different clothes dancing and such. In the beginning i was not so much bothered but eventually it engulfed her whole life she will always be on her phone engaging with her "fans". She also became highly self centred, you are looking beautiful today kind of compliments did bot cut it anymore for her, she literally would post and say she wants princess treatment nothing less, dont know what that means. Basically she stopped being a normal human being but a caricature. Thank god i am not with her anymore
I could’ve written that myself. I just got out of a very similar relationship last month, Such a relief.
Yup same. Soon after my ex downloaded Tik Tok and started making videos, she became a very different person. It’s been a couple days of being single after I had to break it off after seven years. I’m very at peace right now. Shame.
I understand the “shame” because of the time lost but rn I’m grateful for the lessons. It sounds like you made the right decision. Wish you the best I’m pretty young (19) and this is my first breakup, we were together for a little under 2 years and it hasn’t affected me at all. Idk if it’ll hit me later on but I’ve been nothing but happy since.
First of all, despite how little it may seem what you said to me was the most empathetic or sympathetic (I have no idea what the difference is) response I’ve gotten in years, not just online but irl. I appreciate that. Thank you dude. It’s not just the time lost that hits me, it’s how I feel like I look towards my friends and family because I ended a relationship. I never shared what I was going through with any of them until like a week prior so everyone was shocked. I don’t talk about myself a lot. I’m just glad I escaped with no kids. Keep looking ahead man, you have a good mindset. Don’t stray from it. Embrace the solidarity.
For me it's been a year but glad i am way farther from her.
What a warning lol. I had that recently in a lighter version, but it was already annoying me that she couldn’t enjoy a few hours of quality time without constantly checking her phone and being obsessed about who reacted how to what story… it’s sad
I've been in same to same situation buddy! After our breakup she had blocked me. Later after almost a year she suddenly calls me up to talk and then suddenly asks me why am I not following her anymore. I was stunned. Anyways, now we follow each other on insta and lately her stories are mostly about how her zodiac signs, quotes about toxic relationships, etc. Now it's purely entertainment for me. I just find it hilarious that this person who is an epitome of toxicity is posting stories about toxic relationships.
Imagine 12000 people outside your house telling you that you're so hot. You would get crazy in no time. For girls, they have a span from 16 to 35 where their life is heavily influenced by this. You get accustomed, and then your ego grows exponentially. You don't realize that you're not doing anything for the praise, you're just born that way. Then, in a few years, it all ends and you're a second class citizen again. That's when you start writing feminist papers about how society doesn't treat middle aged women good and the like. Princess treatment is entitlement, although they don't even know it yet. You can't treat them right. It's a validation dependence. 1 person is not enough. Nothing you could do there.
I was in an LDR with someone who needed validation constantly. The moment that I had to pull back on that because I got busy with work, she got upset and started lashing out at me. It got exhausting by the end. Yes she was hot and I had the best sex ever (I literally lived every fantasy I had) but that's all it was. Beyond that, she was selfish and only cared about what she wanted. She used TikTok heavily and expected a lot of princess treatment. She got mad that I didn't open the door for her every time on our first date and she constantly gave me grief for the shoes I wore on our first date too.
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The only thing worse than dating an influencer is dating someone that wants to be one.
My wife’s friend who she has known since childhood has over 300k followers on insta and over 250k subscribers on YouTube. She does make up tutorials in Spanish. She is super down to earth. Her husband is too when we go out she is her, she doesn’t bring her work with her. And
And what? Dont leave me on a cliffhanger
…and she’s Dora
Carmen San Diego
Lmfao. That and was accidental. Haha.
Missed a golden opportunity there. But
Pick up where I left off! Lol
When “true crime” influencers go too far.
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I agree with you. Partners shouldn't be used as a way to fix your life. I mean, obviously, having a relationship can and should be a net positive to your life, but no one should be with someone just to fix them. If you're not that into someone to help them spend potentially years on "learning" to be a good or better person or fix their life in some way, that's a doomed relationship from the start. No one should be shamed for refusing to be with someone who others would deem as a project person. People deserve to have a committed relationship with someone who generally has their lives/personality together. Obviously, life is hard, and if you've been with someone for a long time and something bad happens, obviously be there for them and help them through the situation. But if you've only gone on a few dates with someone and they seem like a hot mess of a person, walk away.
Not me but my son dated one for around 6 months. She had like 160k followers. She had a new york accent irl, but when making her videos, she put on this kind of LA-Kardashian accent. She was completely upfront about how fake everything she did was. She lied to her followers constantly, laughed at how gullible they were, created scenarios which weren't true at all. It was honestly funny to see just how *in* on the joke she was, like she knew how insane and ridiculous her social media presence was. Unfortunately it also meant that she had to constantly go to 'events' that sucked so she could make herself seem active and popular. She would go to galleries and parties just to take one single fashionable photo and then leave. Even if she was in on the joke, it was still a *job* for her.
I'm in a 3 year relationship with a YT content creator(~50k subs) Edit: the girlfriend wants me to correct it's 60k now Idk man it's pretty normal except once a week i need to mind the noise for an hour or two because she's recording. Oh and she streams 2-3 times a week, but if we have something planned it can easily be canceled. I guess her attitude with it is much more laid back than what I hear from the Instagram influencers of the same size.
I’m married to one (+500K followers IG). She didn’t become an influencer until about a year after we got married and I’m now leaving my corp job to help her full time. Honestly, it’s been a pretty incredible journey. It’s allowed us to travel freely, spend more time with family, and live life on our own terms. I certainly had to get used to the camera frequently being on, but we’ve made some good boundaries and compromises where it doesn’t cause disagreements anymore. More to her credit, it hasn’t changed her from the woman I fell in love with. She’s still the same sweet person I met several years ago and our love and relationship continues to grow and thrive.
Good for you both. Happy it’s making you how happy and successful.
I have a good friend of my one seeing someone who has a decent insta and tik tok following (over a million tik tol and I think 500k insta). I genuinely feel so bad for him the comments on all the videos with him involved on her profiles are vile and tearing him down, he says it doesn’t get to him but when you know someone as long as we have you see through the bs. Apparently she has an only fans (I have no clue what the handle is) and people will send him personal dms rubbing it in his face, ironically he said he was always ok with it and didn’t care if someone he saw was into that but I think he’s opinion may have changed now on that matter. On top of that it sounds like she was recently divorced and they started dating shortly after that was finalized. My friends already moved to the city she’s in and they are moving in together. He always goes 2 feet waist deep into everything he does but it almost always blows up in his face. I expect this to be the same but really really hope I’m wrong.
He needs to leave that person. It sounds awful.
One of my good friends growing up turned into an influencer and we dated in college during the time she was gaining her following. The influencer stuff didn't really get in the way other than people stopping us on the street for a picture and sometimes even starting to recognize me alone as "that instafamous girl's boyfriend." She was/is very down to earth, absolutely stunning, easy to have a conversation with and other than occasionally feeling like she was on her phone too much I really had no issues. The perks of free stays at nice hotels/ free meals at nice restaurants were nice. Half my wardrobe to this day are nice clothes that she was given for free to give to me if the brand had a mens line and wanted me in the photo too. Maybe because it was the earlier days of "influencers" (2013-15) she didn't have the all-consuming influencer personality that I see today. We broke up for entirely unrelated reasons, she wanted a family ASAP after college and I wasn't ready, and we remain close friends. She's pivoted her page into being a "mom" influencer as she has 3 kids now, and to this day remains very grounded and normal. It really is just a job (and a well-paying one) to her.
went on one date she kept telling me how pretty she is and how i’m lucky to be even going out with her. I Made her buy me dinner AND drop me home then i just never asked her out again.
You *made* her buy you dinner? You sound like a match tbh.
tbh i had just moved to the country, she said once you get your first salary your taking me to a fancy dinner. not a match just a POS :(
Briefly dated someone who wanted to be one, she was pretty vain and self centered as one might imagine
I dated a girl with 250k insta followers and an of. She and I were both in open relationships, so it was mostly light dating/hookups. I really enjoyed it and spent a lot of time feeling like I couldn’t believe my good luck. Both our relationships blew up at the same time as open relationships tend to. I decided to go back to monogamy, so while the influencer was awesome, I basically decided she was too wild for me. It was a good experience though.
I went out with someone who has like 300k followers on tik tok a few times. She was nice enough. Insanely attractive. But my god she filmed every single thing in her life. Couldn’t get a cocktail without a photo session. It was hard to get to know who she actually was as a person. Just not for me.
My wife has become one. She loves it, honestly it is kind of annoying as I am her de-facto photographer. I am proud of her though, she is accomplishing things that seem to make her happy.
Get her a tripod and a wireless remote to record! I’m not a influencer but play with photography has a hobby. I promise you she will loveeeeeeeee doing it herself when she learns how because she will know how to get the angles she wants. She can record a videos and take photos from the video if she wants multiple shots from different angels. It’s amazing.
That's wholesome! Good for you man!
Took her out for her birthday 🎂 . I take a few pics of her and the cake 🎂 Afterwards she asks for the pics. Next day or ends up on her sm with some quote as if she eating alone. another example: go on a trip. she dissappears at times or asks me to get a drink for us or something. I return and find her posing and a stranger she had asked to take her pics, is the photographer. I'm like 😠 Pics from the trip on sm are of her only. Like she traveled solo.
You're just her personal escort lol
Dated a 25k-ish instagram model/influencer. I was her photographer for a lot of the photos and things were pretty breezy for a while. Then the offers for business started coming in and it got hectic. Eventually things started getting so hectic that she felt I was holding her back from making it big and she dumped me.
Currently dating a girl 50k followers, have known her since we were 14. Pretty normal relationship. Definitely spends a lot of time making videos but she's also a journalist so im use to her spending a lot of time on the computer or phone. Good perks, get to go to cool events, lots of free holidays. She's great.
Didn't exactly date one, but rather matched with two of them on separate occasions. First one was hella compliment hungry, always requiring my admiration with any comment. . . a modern day gram princess. Second one told me right before our first date that she's an influencer, brings her camera everywhere, needed me to be part of her reels and I had to be cool with it. Noped out of both them pretty quick. Too naturally introverted for that shit.
Idk if she'd count as an influencer but I dated a chick once that I later found out has a big Instagram following. Mostly guys in our little town. I thought it was cool at first and made me feel good that so many guys thought my GF was hot. However, it only took a few weeks to start seeing problems with it. She was *always* on her phone and there were multiple occasions where men came up to us in public and started fucking with her. We were at the park one day when a group of guys walked up, one was filming and they're just telling her to dump the guy she's with (me) and to come home with them. She just sat there and talked to them like they were old friends and only told them to go away when they started talking about beating my ass. The only reason it didn't happen was because another group of guys walked up and told them to fuck off. Then those guys flirted with her in front of me too while she played along. A few days later we were in a K-Mart when some dipshit walked up and did the same stuff. "Why you with him? You know I can take care of you". She still just talked to him like they were friends. He even put his hands on her at one point but he fucked off shortly after. The last straw was one night when we are laying in my bed while she was messaging guys on Instagram, ignoring me for the most part. We were about to have sex when she TOOK A CALL from one of them and talked for 15-20 minutes. I kind of grumbled when she took the call and once she hung up, she bitched at me for being jealous. I ended up taking her back home that night and broke up with her in the morning. She was so pretty and I thought she was really nice at first but I just couldn't deal with the constant men trying to get between us and I hated how she acted like that was normal. Her entire personality seemingly revolved around her being cute. I ended up feeling terrible every time we were together and just couldn't do it any longer.
This sounds like a stupid idea to me personally. Especially if they tend to broadcast details about their personal life.
Didn't date her properly, but while I was in high school, I was really close to Amouranth. She set the rules that I had to get a six-pack in order for us to date (which I stupidly agreed to) lmao. While I can't attest to how she is nowadays off-stream, it's absolutely wild how she did a complete 180° on her personality and behavior for the sake of getting that bag. She's almost nothing like she was 10-12 years ago.
Just the word “Influencer” makes my skin crawl 🤮
Went on a date with one. Of course she had all the right answers and made me feel valued and appreciated but in the back of my mind there was always this feeling of how often she had done a date just like mine. I just couldn’t get a feel of whether she was actually interested in me or just another amazing presentation. Anyways, we text each other every so often but never went on another date. Wonderful person but in a weird hallow way.
> Wonderful person but in a weird hallow way. Bruh, I think you found the holy spirit.
It's how I met her. Was drunk one night and slid up in her DMs. Two days later she's deep in love. Between the filters and makeup and the angles she was a different person IRL. She was still attractive but nowhere near the same. Personality-wise she was the same person on and off social media. Lasted about a year before I got sober enough to realize she was definitely NOT the one. It was new and fun at first. But having a bunch of thirsty dudes wanting me dead was tiring.
It was the same as dating any vain person. It was annoying having to take 20 pictures of anything mildly interesting that we saw. You realize how fake everything is. She once spent two weeks in Miami, but spread out posting her pics from that trip over about a year and a half. The pics all had very clever costume changes of course.
I don't recommend it.
I would rather masturbate with an unlubed cheese grater.
This implies the existence of a lubed cheese grater, which has grabbed my attention strangely
If you think that’s wild, consider that every item in the known universe can be classified as lubricated or unlubricated.
If you can prove lube can be lubricated, I'll eat my own head
There’s a few ways to achieve this: - You could suspend liquid lube between layers of denser and less dense lubes to achieve a lubricated lube. - In a zero gravity environment, a dollop of lube can be encased in a sphere of a different lube with either higher or lower density. - You could also freeze lube and cover a solid piece of frozen lube with liquid lube.
Your bones are lubricated.
Your attention isn’t the only thing the lubed cheese grater is gonna grab strangely.
Record it and post it online and you could be an influencer.
I dated a fitness influencer before. I knew that she was prominent on social media. She had won Miss Teen (Insert my state here) and kind of used that to start her influencing. I was about to say that it was horrible, but im going to correct myself. It honestly wasn't bad. We had a deal (That I insisted) that she could talk about me vaguely, but I didn't want any sort of attention, so no pictures and no name drops. She respected it the entire way, That girl loved the shit out of me though. But I was kind of a piece of shit at the time so it didn't work out. I will say that a big wedge between us were her conspiracy theories. I had introduced her into conspiracy and she just spiraled out of control. She really went to the deep end. We stopped talking for like 5 years and I hit her up out of the blue one day and she responded with some of the craziest shit I have ever heard. The FBI was after her for finding something out and her life is in danger and she can hear them in her house at night. Like the kind of stuff that makes me think that she got into hard drugs.
damn sounds like you were a great influence on that girl bro
ya, I was young. One of my many life's regrets. At the time, it was all about sex for me. Id come around when I wanted to get laid and then id dip out. She wanted a bond so bad, but I wasn't in the right headspace for that. She would send me these long love letters where she would just pour her heart out to me. They were hand written and she would put them in an envelop and spray her perfume on them and seal the envelope with a kiss with her lipstick. Honestly, thinking back, I only feel worse about it. I can only hope that she's doing better. She really was such a kind and understanding person. She was just lost and I think that we were both kind of experiencing the same feelings of inadequacy from our families.
Don’t do it nothing but annoying self obsessed stupidity. However she was stunning so you always pay a price
They used to just be called attention whores.
God dam it your right you know
Dating an “influencer” sounds absolutely terrible
This sounds like a nightmare.
I dated one for about a week. She was more of a quasi influencer had 20K followers on instagram. She flew out to the city I lived in after we had messaged for about a month. Seemed like a normal girl, but was constantly on her phone and what I thought was going to be a nice extended period to get to know each other turned into me being her camera man. Constantly making stories, tiktoks, reels whatever they are. Every meal and outing was photographed and much of our down time was her editing posts and thinking of captions. It was like she had to work 24/7. It made me feel more like a part of her staff than a potential romantic interest. She left, I called it off, and she made like six social media posts about how love is a waste of time, chase your dreams not people etc.
My now wife is a reluctant influencer. She is a physician and her and her colleague started a podcast early during the pandemic to help parents be better parents and help educate against misinformation. As part of their podcasting they decided to post a bit on Insta and TikTok. They got a lot of traction on TikTok (now over 750,000 followers). My wife usually isn’t thrilled to make videos but does it because the information she imparts helps thousands of children and their parents. It’s kind of wild that some of their videos reach more people than they would ever get to treat in their entire careers and that’s part of what keeps them going. In the first year they put 10k into it and made $0. This year they will be in the 6 figures. While their day job pays them far more the additional cash is nice to pay for trips to conferences and buy new technology. It rarely affects me - podcasts were probably more noticeable as they’d be an hour or two at a time. TikTok is a quick couple minutes and a bit of time editing. Only noticeable difference in our home is a desk setup with a nicer camera, a proper microphone and necessary lighting.
Met one local influencer on the brink of going big. She got from 10k to 100k in about a month, which is huge because she's not doing international content. I had no idea who she was - she is certainly beautiful but not omg beautiful, it just so happened that she ticked all my boxes. We hit it off as she is outstandingly cultured and we could talk for hours about psychology, philosophy, art, science, whatever. Her content is also pretty damn good (no thirst traps, legit showing off her skills as an actress and artist) so there's that. Problem was, she was an absolute mess. She had just broke up after a loooong relationship, had huge radiating anxiety, a wildly abusive past, depression, attachment issues, addicted to marijuana, the whole shtick. I didn't make a move, I even turned down sex because I could tell she was doing it for validation and I didn't want to be a part of that. So she got back with her ex after a month, disappeared for another month, then came back and told me all about her shitty life and her ex. I tried to pull her through for months with close to zero progress, then she got back with her ex again and invited me to her birthday. Nobody but her boyfriend and me showed up. I didn't know him. We went out for some fun and when we got back to her home, he stayied the night. Confronted her about it, she got defensive as fuck, I simply shut down the conversation and moved on. She messaged me a week later with "nothing ever happened between me and you blabla why are you mad blabla" and I'm like "look, I really like you and I'm not mad because you're rejecting me nor for dating another guy, I'm mad because you talk shit about your ex and keep going back for him, and I can't let a person who gets off her own desperation in my life, besides nothing happened because I didn't want to make it happen" And so the gates opened. We argued for 3 days straight, I stood my ground and ultimately told her off.
I dated a Youtuber over 10 years ago. She wasn't huge; but she was big enough to be lumped in with someone who was big in the gaming community back then (he no longer is). She was extremely... moody and at times full of herself. We dated for 4 years and I visited her twice a year since we lived in different states. Ended up cheating on me with multiple men and the straw that broke the camels back was when she slept with her best friends husband, and we all found out.
From the other side, I have a pretty decent following and my wife and I had to have a pretty serious talk about how much time I was spending on my phone while trying or make it all work. I now make a conscious effort to put the phone away when we’re together
I was always a guy that insisted on paying for everything and kind of taking charge when it came to dates and hanging out. But this lady was different. When we met I thought she was beautiful so I asked her out and she liked me immediately. She flew us out to NYC and booked one of the most expensive hotels I’ve seen. The only thing though was the HEAVY drug usage. I mean she was constantly drinking, smoking, and doing cocaine. She would constantly pass out everywhere we went. She wanted to have sex EVERYWHERE. I think she liked the thrill of maybe getting caught
I was seeing this woman for a while with 70k followers on instagram, at the time I had 40k on Tik Tok, so I was kind of an influencer myself.. but, we differed on a lot, she basically wanted to keep me out of her public life completely, was worried she’d lose followers. She didn’t want to do things like hold hands, kiss in public (even a peck), just generally not playful and it left me feeling unwanted. She put a lot of effort into her content. Perhaps it was just her personality. We split after I brought up some of these issues, last I heard she went to a psych ward and stopped posting entirely, haven’t heard from her since. Now I have 120k followers and I just live life normally, I don’t give a shit about all that fancy videography stuff, I got a tripod but that’s it, I’m a shitposter and a welder at the end of the day. I put the bare amount of effort into my content.. and if I were to date someone, I would have absolutely no problem with them being on my profile. In the future, I’d have no problem dating an influencer, they’ve just gotta be cool