Same here in Norway. I only heard about this even being a thing first time last year. I think only some americans do this.
I would consider it ruder than spitting on my floor. At least the spit would be isolated to one place instead of all over my home.
I had never heard of people wearing shoes inside. I grew up watching some american shows and thought they only did it on TV because it seemed so stupid lol.
Pretty sure it’s a thing in places with regular snowfall. Since if you didn’t take off your shoes for half the year you would be tracking in slush, snow, and road salt.
I'm Canadian too. I don't think this situation has ever come up. We always take our shoes off when we go in someone's house. It is considered very rude to leave your shoes on if you go in someone's home.
This was going to be my comment. Like it’s not even a question of if someone doesn’t take them off if they are just coming over.
There is one exception… if we are having a party inside and outside the house (none winter times) I would tell people to keep their shoes because we are going in and out of the house.
This is so strange, that we have encountered the exact opposite here in the US: everyone keeps their shoes on; I sometimes wonder if they wear them to bed.
We request our guests to take their shoes off , but we also take our shoes off when we visit others, totally unasked, and invariably have been told "you don't need to". Sometimes they act affronted, as if we insulted them by taking our shoes off.
Where in the US do you live? I've lived all over the midwest, a little in the deep south, a good while in the southwest, and most recently in Texas.
In none of those places have I worn shoes in my home, in other people's homes, and I never asked guests to take their shoes off when entering my home, they just did it.
Maybe put a shoe rack and a mat for shoes next to the door? I can't think of any other explanation for you having problems while I never have.
Florida: nobody takes shoes off unless specifically asked, and gotta be polite at that, or else they get huffy. And yes, whenever I have visited people in their homes, I have seen them walk around in shoes, and insist that I shouldn't take mine off either.
Phoenix, Arizona: one host got upset when I took off my shoes: he demanded I put them back on. "Nobody wants to see others' ugly toes" is how he explained it.
Minneapolis, same deal.
Florida: agreed. I have never asked nor asked anyone. For me it’s a level of comfort, best friends house, shoes off. House party in which I’m a friend of a friend shoes on
My house is shoes off. I had a small house warming, 12 guests, and specifically didnt clean my floors before the party and told people to leave thier shoes on if they preferred. Guests were split pretty evenly for shoes on or off. I have no carpet and only 2rugs one of which is in the bedroom
You know it's a Canadian party when the front hallway is full of soaking wet shoes and boots.
Only had my shoes taken once because somebody else had the same shoes.. poor dude would have been walking funny the rest of the night because my feet were three sizes larger than his.
The only exception is if you just need to take a few steps in to grab something and even then you ask for explicit permission and never when your shoes might be dirty.
I live in Canada too and I work as a maintenance guy for appartments. I have to leave my boots on for safety. I always apologize before I enter and explain myself. Shoes off inside it's just how it is
I don't understand people who allow shoes in the house. In Canada you don't even have to ask. I don't have to ask guests to take off their dirty outdoor shoes any more than I have to ask them to close the bathroom door or not spit on the floors.
We live in the US, and my SO is having a little house party for his friend group and he’s stressing about me being upset if his friends wear their shoes in the house. I don’t wanna be controlling but it’s literally the one rule I have 😔
It is not an unfair request that everyone takes their shoes off, but sometimes we have parties where the rules are bent for the occasion.
Like when people are dressed up to the nines for a special occasion where men are wearing dress-shoes and women are wearing high-heels, then I wouldn't ask people to take their shoes off.
But my question was intended to gauge whether OP was the one expected to clean before and after his party. It was a trick question ;-)
It's 100% dirtier no matter how hard anyone tries to justify it.
Simple test - I moved into a brand new construction apt. Obviously people who walked through to view it had their shoes on, with the unit being vacant for about a month only. When i moved in, it took about seven moppings with a heat steam mop before i stopped getting black marks on the mop fabric. After it was CLEANED, and have been living shoe-free indoors, each subsequent mopping yields little to no black on the mop.
I imagine people who argue shoes are the same as no shoes are in the same portion of the venn diagram who think not washing hands after peeing is fine because the rest of the bathroom is dirty too.
Haha agree. Like they are living in delusions. How can being in socks at home the same as being in shoes that u use for ages on different environment( snow, rain, mud, sand etc).
for me personally, if its one or two people ill ask them to take shoes off, but if its a party then it just is what it is and i expect people will wear shoes.
Oh I ask every person who comes in to take their shoes off. Eventually, you get a nice pile by the door and virtually everyone just takes it off automatically upon seeing that.
Can you put up a sign that says please remove your shoes? Doesn’t seem like a lot to ask, but I’m also Canadian so I don’t get the whole shoes in house thing.
The only thing that looks bad is if he says, "my S.O. wants everyone to take off their shoes."
It should be a united front, just put up a simple sign, "please take off your shoes." And make sure there is a clear place for people to put their shoes, and ideally a bench to sit while they remove them.
I have friends come over all the time. They take one step in, see the bench and the shoes and say, "oh, should I remove my shoes?" And I say "yes please." And they do, because they are my friends, and they are considerate and kind.
Because he’s very passive and usually doesn’t want to be confrontational towards his friends. He doesn’t want them to tease him about being an afraid of his gf. We’ve talked about this and he said his friends like to tease him and they joke a lot
Say anything with a smile and say please, you can make it non confrontational. But this is a non confrontational topic to start with. This comment makes him sound like a door mat, which is topical to this conversation, lol. It also gives a bit of context. Where I'm from in America, shoes inside are a preference item. Polite people either take them off or ask about it.
>Can you put up a sign that says please remove your shoes?
Absolutely not. If you're going to make people take off their shoes, you need to tell them that before they come. Otherwise, it will be very uncomfortable for people if they:
* Don't wear socks
* Wear embarrassing socks
* Wear shoes that were part of the outfit
* Have smelly feet
* Wear shoes that are hard to take on/off
* Get cold easily
With the information early, these people can wear better shoes/socks, or bring an extra pair of socks/slippers.
It's perfectly normal to get to a home where the expectation is to take off your shoes. If you ask as they come in, you won't get any more than "oh, okay" and they'll pop em off.
You can always get a pack of nice disposable slippers for the guests while they are over. It communicates that the rule is strict but you are considerate
I don't think wanting that is controlling. You don't want your floors/carpets to get dirty. Makes sense to me. But, I also live in Canada, where people just take their shoes off anyway. Unless told we can keep them on. Even then, I usually take them off.
I feel like most people will understand. I live in the US as well and it’s 50/50. I have shoes off at the door. The only people I regularly have to tell to take their shoes off is my husband and brother. All my guest see shoes at the front and ask do I want them to do the same or just do it take them off themselves.
It’s situational though; I’m Canadian and shows in the house is a no-go but when we rented a house in Phoenix that had rock hard tile floors and no dust anywhere we were all wearing house shoes on the second day
My wife is Asian so this would get someone murdered. I usually always take my shoes off at mine or someone else's house except my parents because their floor is filthy.
No kidding! I definitely live in the gray area here. We take our shoes off but don’t hassle guests, plumbers, etc about it. And then we just clean the floors as needed. But I also don’t wash my car every 3 days like some people on here.
Weirdest thing to me is the idea of asking or demanding someone to take their shoes off when you've invited them over. Growing up it was always about letting the visitor do whatever was comfortable for them, with the expectation (because back then we did live in a society) that the visitor would match their host's shoe situation.
My mom was strict about no shoes in the house for our family, but when we had people over and they went to take their shoes off she'd jump to assure them that they didn't have to if they didn't want to (but they'd usually take them off because that was the polite thing to do).
For real: if it's just one or two guests coming over and we won't be going outside again, yes I'd prefer they take off their shoes--i have guest slippere (extras taken from hotels) that I offer. If I'm throwing a party though then absolutely not, they should keep their shoes on and I make plans to wash the floor accordingly. During a party people will be going in and out regularly to smoke or just get some air, glass breaks on occasion, and typically people are dressed up and their shoes are a part of their outfit they put thought into--nobody looks their best in a big social setting in just their socks or barefoot.
It really isn't a big deal when it comes to hardwood, and besides in most of the US few people aren't slogging through forests and fields or down miles of road to get to your place. They drive, which means they walked outside for a grand total of 30 seconds to get to their car, and another 30 seconds going from their car to your front door.
The good ones will. Some time back, I bought a house and the wood floor treatment wasn't fully cured yet, so I had some tarp down for the internet guy to walk on because I didn't expect him to take his shoes off but he ended up walking off the tarp instead even after telling him to do so. He was just there to activate the node for the fiber internet. Then he asked if he can use the bathroom so I told him he has to take his shoes off. He rolled his eyes and let out a big sigh but he did it. The nerve of some of these clowns.
We have three dogs. Unless your shoes are absolutely filthy, the dogs have tracked in worse. Leaving them on is fine unless dripping wet or covered in mud.
No. Most of the time the back door is open and we’re all going in and out, grilling on the patio and what not. I’m not going to make my guests take their shoes on and off 50 times a night. The floor is the floor, it’s dirty when guests are over. It gets vacuumed and mopped after and it’s back to normal.
Couldn’t agree more. As someone who also has guests over to entertain we are often outside partying and drinking. To ask someone to take their shoes off and put them back on anytime they come inside to use the restroom is wild. I personally am either barefoot or have shoes on I cannot stand walking around in socks because I’m a weirdo. Plus, I just mop and clean up the next day. Really no big deal.
Agreed. I’m 46 and have never been to a party in my entire life where the host made people take shoes on & off to go inside & outside, nor were any of the other guests doing that. It’s just unnecessary. As the host you do what needs to be done to clean properly once people leave, and that is it.
>To ask someone to take their shoes off and put them back on anytime they come inside to use the restroom is wild.
This is just how it is in Canada as the norm and it really is not wild lol. How long is it taking you to take off your shoes?
I could see it in a place where there’s snow and all the crap you bring in with it on your shoes so totally get it. And to be fair yeah it’s takes like 30 seconds. I probably shouldn’t have used the word “wild” but I do get that each person and household has their preferences. I would of course take my shoes off if asked. It’s just not my first go to amongst my friends and family.
Every time. It's expected. Although my step dad keeps his shoes on because he's missing 3 toes and it's hard to walk without them. Sooo exceptions on occasions
I mean, if they use the bathroom, they're already tracking toilet particles, whether it's shoes or socks, and what "street gunk" would they be tracking in?
But yeah, I have tile, I have cats (who are tracking litter box particles everywhere anyway), I don't eat off my floors, and our streets aren't terribly "gunky." Barring a storm or something, the most people usually track in is dust.
I have kids and pets. Feel free to keep your shoes on and if I need to take mine off at your house, it better be clean enough to not ruin my socks or stain them. Cheers.
I went to meet my girlfriends parents for the first time and ofcourse I took my shoes off as soon as I came in, and a few days later I find out that her mom saw that and basically said "Yeah you can marry him, he has manners". Always take off your shoes when coming into someones house, only leave them on if they say you can (even though you shouldn't)
It's not hard at all, it's just not that deep of a cultural norm in some places like the US. Some people grow up wearing shoes all day around the house and it doesn't cross their mind at all.
Do they take off their shoes in the bedroom or what happens when they are on bed after walking barefoot in a shoes on house? The idea of dirty feet on bed is beyond gross to me
It’s not hard, just unnecessary. I have no problem taking off my shoes if the host asks me, but I have no problem keeping my shoes on in my own home and don’t ask others to.
Nobody takes their shoes off here in the Netherlands. Nobody ever expected me to.
I would worry more about smelly feet than dirty shoes, so please keep them on.
Yeah this. I don’t see the problem. The floor is dirty regardless, and the floors are easily mopped regularly.
I’m more concerned about sweaty feet/socks. Now that’s a real problem.
Im surprised to realize there are parts of the world where people leave their shoes on in the house. Even in dry environments so cleanliness isnt the issue it just feels so uncomfortable. Do people like wearing shoes 100% of the time? Do they just take them off before bed? Do they put shoes on their couch or ottomon?
I'm a woman, and I keep my shoes on. I'm from the south. Taking shoes off was not a thing for me growing up, and it's still not. I keep shoes on until I'm ready to go to bed or change shoes. If I'm putting my feet up on the couch, then no shoes. But if I'm just sitting on the couch, I'll leave my shoes on.
I'm confused about how you try on outfits without different shoes? Are all the shoes outside? Mine are in the closet.
Fellow southerner who wears shoes like 80% of the time, even at home. My shoes are also in my closet. That being said, I don't just automatically put shoes on when I wake up but I do put them on as soon as I need to go outside and then they stay on until bedtime.
This is a certain part of the US thing, right? Anywhere I've travelled it's normal to take your shoes off. Some cultures keep the shoes outside, some inside. Some have indoor shoes or sandals to wear, but visiting my friend in Texas was the first time I experienced this.
So, it wouldn't bother me but it's the norm where I'm from. I have a hard time seeing it rude to follow that request of your host.
While I'll let it go on occasion if someone's just picking a thing up or stopping by for a minute and wants a glass of water, if someone is sticking around and actually hanging out they better take those damn shoes off. It's disgusting to me to wear the shoes you walked to my house in, probably through the grass and dirt at some point (or a puddle) and track that shit in past my entryway, especially if you're gonna walk on the carpet.
I truly struggle to believe that some people walk into their home and leave their shoes on, and some people even wear them and put their feet up on a couch or bed.
I'm not even anything of a 'clean freak' and it's just the most negligent and disgusting habit I've ever heard lol.
Midwesterner here. They come off asamfp. I don't live in a big city, so I think it comes from usually having some sort of filth on your shoes. Even if I havw brand new shoes on I'm not walking through the place to grab something 😂
Even if you live in a city, shoes are disgusting. They're trampling on homeless piss residue from the sidewalk all day and then tracking it through the house? People who wear their shoes in bed are extra disgusting.
I actually find shoes MUCH more comfortable than bare feet. I have crocs that I wear around the house (they don't go outside) because my Dr specifically told me that it would help my plantar fasciitis to NOT walk barefoot on all my tile floor all the time.
I 100% find shoes more comfortable, I barely even wear slides or sandals and I hardly even go to the beach because I absolutely hate walking on sand barefoot.
That being said I have sensory issues and the feeling of anything touching the bottom of my feet gets me all fucky.
It depends for me. Is it going to be indoors and outdoors? Then no, shoes on is completely fine.
Is it only indoors? Then I don't see why we need to wear shoes.
100%.
My parents wear shoes in the house. I get dirty feet in minutes if I go barefoot.
I take shoes off at the door and I've never had dirty feet at my own house.
I live in the SE US and no one takes their shoes off when coming inside. I have family in the Midwest US and I always take my shoes off before entering their homes. It’s a cultural thing.
I’m not going to force people to take their shoes off, is not part of the culture in the states, plus is not like I live in some kind of castle, guests should feel welcome and at home where hopefully they don’t feel like they have to take their shoes off too
Funny that the top three comments are all about how if you don’t take shoes off you get slapped meanwhile I’ve never noticed or cared if one of my friends wore shoes inside
I don't mind people insisting on taking their shoes, but you should provide slippers or covers as an alternative.
People's house floors are not as clean as they like to think, and the idea of my socks or feet coming into contact with it is gross.
I'm Australian, we walk around barefoot when we can. You only need to take them off if they're visibly dirty and you're going to track mud, water, bindis or something else into the house. Even then, if I've got a tradesperson working and they need to come in and out it's going to be easier to just keep boots on and clean up later. 99% of the time you're good with shoes on in my opinion
I have laminate floors and two huskies. If you take your shoes off you’re leaving with fuzzy socks and it doesn’t matter if I swept right before you came over. Husky hair doesn’t give two fucks about man nor broom alike.
They dont take it off in my house, have a friend where we have to take it off sometimes but I think his parents were more into it
I myself always take my shoes off If asked
Very important. But I’m also Asian.
Wearing your outdoor shoes *inside* the house is fucking disgusting.
Your outdoor shoes have literally walked in literal shit and piss, and you’re bringing all of that indoors. Your outdoor shoes have been to public bathrooms where there’s piss and fecal matter on the floors. Your outdoor shoes have been outside in nature, where you’ve most likely walked over dried bird shit and are now carrying those pathogens indoors. Your outdoor shoes have been everywhere outside and are riddled with germs, bacteria, and viruses.
Nasty.
#Take off your damn shoes. Clean your houses.
When I got my first house - I even went so far as to put a little tray of water and lemon juice, towel and odd socks for the stinky foot mandem. Had spent grands on my carpet and underlay and any spillage pre my first spill was a £20 fine straight away. To this day no shoes in any property and if you a workman and 'health & safteying' it then you got the blue overboot things.
If you're going to ask guests to take off their shoes for a party, you **MUST** tell them that when inviting them. Sometimes people don't wear socks, or they wear shoes that are difficult to take on/off, or they wear shoes that are part of their outfit, or they wear socks that they'd be embarrassed to be seen in, or they have sweaty feet and would bring slippers to wear.
Personally, I think it's bad form to have that requirement for a party unless it's raining/snowing. But it's your house, so if it's important to you, that's fine. But you need to communicate it early.
I don't care either way. Dont track in mud and keep your shoes off the furniture, but other than that, it doesn't bother me. I mop once a week anyways and its not like I'm taking my meals on the floor.
People who get weird about bringing outside germs into their house grossly underestimate how much they bring in on their clothes, groceries, etc. Just clean your damn house and it won't be a problem
I make an exception for house parties myself.
The point of not wearing shoes in the house, at least for me, is to keep it clean for longer, so I have to clean it less often. I hate cleaning.
But after a house party, you usually have to clean anyway, so might as well let people keep their shoes on. Plus, I have two dogs. I own a few pairs of slippers for myself and guests, but definitely not enough for a group. I don't want people stepping on dog hair with socks on, or even barefeet.
I avoid hosting parties at my home like the devil avoids the cross, but sometimes, you gotta take one for the team. It's fine, no one's gonna die.
It just doesn't work. One person doesn't take their shoes off or forgets to take them back off when they come back inside. Then the floors are covered in snow, mud, and water and everyone's feet get wet. I usually have bonfires and most of the party is in the garage, so everyone is in and out of the house all day/night using the bathroom and kitchen. It just isn't feasible to expect everyone to take their shoes off and once one person doesn't no one can without getting wet socks.
I don’t care or pay attention to what my guests do with their shoes when they come in my house. I’m always barefoot in my house for my own comfort, my guests are free to do whatever they want
Shoes are only allowed in the kitchen because it has a wood floor.
Everywhere else, it's slippers or socks, or else my wife will usher you to a kitchen chair.
My wife insists that we do not wear shoes in the house. She insists that all guests remove their shoes when entering the house. We have tile floors throughout the ENTIRE house. She insisted that once I removed the carpets and broke my back installing all that tile, that she wouldn't be so neurotic about if I had to walk across the floor in my shoes real quick (Like if I forgot something on the way out the door or something), but she's still absolutely neurotic about it.
Having said all of that....when we do have a party (we usually have a big Halloween party every year) people are coming in and out too frequently for the shoe issue to be worth it. We suck it up and everyone just leaves them on for the whole night. The whole place gets cleaned, including mopping the floors, the next day.
I prefer it. I even provide slippers all wrapped up for them.
Will I die if they wear shoes? No. But have a slippers only household and prefer it with guests.
As someone who lives in the US, I don't really care, I can clean the floors the next day. But, if it's wet or raining, I'll ask politely. That said, I do myself, but since it's not as deep a cultural norm around here, I don't make too big a deal about it. I DO have an issue if you keep your shoes on, and put them on my furniture. To be honest, most people ask or just have enough common sense to see a pile of shoes at the door and make the connection themselves to take them off.
TLDR, it's not a big deal. That said I always take them off or at least ask when visiting others.
It irks me when my friends don't take their shoes off (despite the shoe rack, disposable slippers, and a bench to sit down on in my entryway) but it also feels rude to demand that they do so, so I just suck it up and seethe internally
My house my rules no shoes and no smoking inside if they are my friends they know but even strangers very rare will have to leave their shoes I am Asian and we don’t do shoes in the house period
It’s not weird to want guests to remove their shoes. Heck, I’ve had to remove my shoes at estate sales before!
I do not wear shoes in my house. However, if I had a large party I would be probably more lenient knowing that I’ll be giving the house a deep clean afterward anyway. However, I also have laminate wood and concrete floors that can handle it without risk of damaging or staining them; if I had carpet or real wood, I probably would still ask them to remove their shoes. Unless it’s an indoor/outdoor party.
Everyone I know already takes their shoes off at the door.
This is not a conversation that happens often, but if people outside the social circle show up, I simply say, "Shoes off at the door, please." and they do it.
During the winter and spring when it gets wet and/or muddy outside, we usually ask people to take their shoes off on the porch (it's enclosed). During dryer times of the year we generally don't sweat it, especially for large gatherings with people going in and out.
I wouldn't make a big deal about it. My wife and I generally don't wear shoes in our apartment and the bench with shoes by the entrance gives a pretty clear indication of standard practice.
Most guests I have ask me if they should take their shoes off anyways and I generally say sure. But I don't really mind it someone doesn't want to for some reason. That's one of the reasons I have machine washable rugs.
My fiancé is Vietnamese and she has gotten me into the idea of leaving my outside shoes at the front and wearing house shoes otherwise but for our guests we don’t ever ask them to do that. We have hardwood floors so it’s much less of a big deal than if we had carpet.
I don't want to say anything about it bc I don't care. My wife really cares though bc she is the one who cleans the house so she will say something almost every time and if she says something then I have to say something and I really don't want to do that so please just take them off.
I would prefer it but I understand that I live in a place where a lot of people don’t. Thankfully mostly wood floor that’s easy to clean, but if huh step on my carpet them shoes better come off.
I'll gladly remove my shoes if visiting a friend's house, assuming they're dirty. If they're not dirty (as in muddy) and they still ask, then, pound sand, and I'm out.
Same with my house. If your shoes aren't muddy (or full of oil/grease), then **please** don't take them off. Don't want to look at your holy socks and smell your dirty feet.
It's the polite thing to do.
If I go up to a house and I see shoes at the front door I'll take mine off too. But if they tell me I do not need to bother then I do what they ask. When in Rome...
I grew up shoes in the house, only converted when I got my own house (imagine that). I’d have my shoes off when guests came over, but it’s not so ingrained in me to make a thing of it when people come over. I wouldn’t take offense.
I dont have carpeting so shoes on doesn't bother me especially during warmer months when all are going in and out to the decj. Quick vaccum and a mop after and all is good. If someone wants shoes off when visiting I oblige.
As a second note, if someone has pets and wants shoes off I have a hard time with it because no one washes there dog clean after they come in from outside, and cats track litter, urine, and feces from their boxes no matter what you use for litter or a box.
If spending time definitely, I will say tho last time I visited my brother he insisted we take off our shoes ~each~ time we come in out out when packing/unpacking, it felt as much about power and boundaries about dirt
I work on a ranch. I also have a prosthetic lower leg. If you come to my house, you come as you are, and come on in.
If I'm going to visit you, I'll have clean clothes and shoes on. But, It's not going to be easy to get that one shoe off and back on. So, I'll stand on the porch and visit you through the door.
Though I've modified ALL of my footwear to just be able to put them on or remove them, it's much easier to pull the leg off.
Oh, I don't have carpet anywhere, so it's easy to cleanup. And please don't mind the baby calves or goats that come to the screen door to chat. I'm still working on their manners.
I live in Sweden. Here we take off our shoes when we step inside. It applies to all.
Same here in Norway. I only heard about this even being a thing first time last year. I think only some americans do this. I would consider it ruder than spitting on my floor. At least the spit would be isolated to one place instead of all over my home.
I had never heard of people wearing shoes inside. I grew up watching some american shows and thought they only did it on TV because it seemed so stupid lol.
Pretty sure it’s a thing in places with regular snowfall. Since if you didn’t take off your shoes for half the year you would be tracking in slush, snow, and road salt.
I live in Canada, if someone didn’t take off their shoes in my house I’d slap them, and then say sorry.
I'm Canadian too. I don't think this situation has ever come up. We always take our shoes off when we go in someone's house. It is considered very rude to leave your shoes on if you go in someone's home.
No one would ever consider keeping their shoes on here. The original question just seems absurd.
This was going to be my comment. Like it’s not even a question of if someone doesn’t take them off if they are just coming over. There is one exception… if we are having a party inside and outside the house (none winter times) I would tell people to keep their shoes because we are going in and out of the house.
This wasn’t part of my life until I moved to upstate NY. Your shoes stay outside, or you do. Choose wisely.
Oh, Canada.
Our home and native land
This is so strange, that we have encountered the exact opposite here in the US: everyone keeps their shoes on; I sometimes wonder if they wear them to bed. We request our guests to take their shoes off , but we also take our shoes off when we visit others, totally unasked, and invariably have been told "you don't need to". Sometimes they act affronted, as if we insulted them by taking our shoes off.
Where in the US do you live? I've lived all over the midwest, a little in the deep south, a good while in the southwest, and most recently in Texas. In none of those places have I worn shoes in my home, in other people's homes, and I never asked guests to take their shoes off when entering my home, they just did it. Maybe put a shoe rack and a mat for shoes next to the door? I can't think of any other explanation for you having problems while I never have.
Florida: nobody takes shoes off unless specifically asked, and gotta be polite at that, or else they get huffy. And yes, whenever I have visited people in their homes, I have seen them walk around in shoes, and insist that I shouldn't take mine off either. Phoenix, Arizona: one host got upset when I took off my shoes: he demanded I put them back on. "Nobody wants to see others' ugly toes" is how he explained it. Minneapolis, same deal.
Florida: agreed. I have never asked nor asked anyone. For me it’s a level of comfort, best friends house, shoes off. House party in which I’m a friend of a friend shoes on
My house is shoes off. I had a small house warming, 12 guests, and specifically didnt clean my floors before the party and told people to leave thier shoes on if they preferred. Guests were split pretty evenly for shoes on or off. I have no carpet and only 2rugs one of which is in the bedroom
I will always follow house rules but unless the house rule is shoes off mine will stay on. Inside my own apartment I usually wear socks of flip flops.
what if it rain that day? Do you they bring all the water and mud inside?
My mom used to move us take off our shoes and put them in the hallway. But she had beige carpeting. I never did it in my own house.
So disgusting to not take off your shoes. First thing we do at any house I’ve been to in Canada since I can remember.
You know it's a Canadian party when the front hallway is full of soaking wet shoes and boots. Only had my shoes taken once because somebody else had the same shoes.. poor dude would have been walking funny the rest of the night because my feet were three sizes larger than his.
The only exception is if you just need to take a few steps in to grab something and even then you ask for explicit permission and never when your shoes might be dirty.
I live in Canada too and I work as a maintenance guy for appartments. I have to leave my boots on for safety. I always apologize before I enter and explain myself. Shoes off inside it's just how it is
Whenever I’ve had someone in maintenance or home repair in my place they have little shoe covers they put on. Do you not have those?
I don't understand people who allow shoes in the house. In Canada you don't even have to ask. I don't have to ask guests to take off their dirty outdoor shoes any more than I have to ask them to close the bathroom door or not spit on the floors.
We live in the US, and my SO is having a little house party for his friend group and he’s stressing about me being upset if his friends wear their shoes in the house. I don’t wanna be controlling but it’s literally the one rule I have 😔
If you don’t want them to wear shoes in the house, he should support you and enforce that. It’s not a big deal to have people take their shoes off.
INFO: is he the one cleaning before and after his party?
Doesn’t matter. No shoes in the house is not an unreasonable request. SO should back OP’s preference and enforce it.
It is not an unfair request that everyone takes their shoes off, but sometimes we have parties where the rules are bent for the occasion. Like when people are dressed up to the nines for a special occasion where men are wearing dress-shoes and women are wearing high-heels, then I wouldn't ask people to take their shoes off. But my question was intended to gauge whether OP was the one expected to clean before and after his party. It was a trick question ;-)
I am sorry but isnt dirty to be in shoes ( that you use for walking on street etc) at home? I will never understand that thing.
It's 100% dirtier no matter how hard anyone tries to justify it. Simple test - I moved into a brand new construction apt. Obviously people who walked through to view it had their shoes on, with the unit being vacant for about a month only. When i moved in, it took about seven moppings with a heat steam mop before i stopped getting black marks on the mop fabric. After it was CLEANED, and have been living shoe-free indoors, each subsequent mopping yields little to no black on the mop. I imagine people who argue shoes are the same as no shoes are in the same portion of the venn diagram who think not washing hands after peeing is fine because the rest of the bathroom is dirty too.
Haha agree. Like they are living in delusions. How can being in socks at home the same as being in shoes that u use for ages on different environment( snow, rain, mud, sand etc).
I mean yeah that's why I clean the floors everyday.
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They must not live in a place with scorpions
humans shouldn't share living space with goddamn SCORPIONS what the heck 😭 are y'all living in an indiana jones movie set?
for me personally, if its one or two people ill ask them to take shoes off, but if its a party then it just is what it is and i expect people will wear shoes.
Oh I ask every person who comes in to take their shoes off. Eventually, you get a nice pile by the door and virtually everyone just takes it off automatically upon seeing that.
Can you put up a sign that says please remove your shoes? Doesn’t seem like a lot to ask, but I’m also Canadian so I don’t get the whole shoes in house thing.
I can yes, but that would absolutely offend my SO. He doesn’t want to look bad in front of his friends
That seems like a larger problem than people wearing shoes in your house 🤷🏼♂️
The only thing that looks bad is if he says, "my S.O. wants everyone to take off their shoes." It should be a united front, just put up a simple sign, "please take off your shoes." And make sure there is a clear place for people to put their shoes, and ideally a bench to sit while they remove them. I have friends come over all the time. They take one step in, see the bench and the shoes and say, "oh, should I remove my shoes?" And I say "yes please." And they do, because they are my friends, and they are considerate and kind.
I don't understand why that would be offensive or make him look bad?
Because he’s very passive and usually doesn’t want to be confrontational towards his friends. He doesn’t want them to tease him about being an afraid of his gf. We’ve talked about this and he said his friends like to tease him and they joke a lot
He’s hanging out with the wrong group of people if they have a problem when asked to remove their shoes at the door
Say anything with a smile and say please, you can make it non confrontational. But this is a non confrontational topic to start with. This comment makes him sound like a door mat, which is topical to this conversation, lol. It also gives a bit of context. Where I'm from in America, shoes inside are a preference item. Polite people either take them off or ask about it.
>Can you put up a sign that says please remove your shoes? Absolutely not. If you're going to make people take off their shoes, you need to tell them that before they come. Otherwise, it will be very uncomfortable for people if they: * Don't wear socks * Wear embarrassing socks * Wear shoes that were part of the outfit * Have smelly feet * Wear shoes that are hard to take on/off * Get cold easily With the information early, these people can wear better shoes/socks, or bring an extra pair of socks/slippers.
All those things apply to Canadians. We still take our shoes off in the house.
It's perfectly normal to get to a home where the expectation is to take off your shoes. If you ask as they come in, you won't get any more than "oh, okay" and they'll pop em off.
You can always get a pack of nice disposable slippers for the guests while they are over. It communicates that the rule is strict but you are considerate
I don't think wanting that is controlling. You don't want your floors/carpets to get dirty. Makes sense to me. But, I also live in Canada, where people just take their shoes off anyway. Unless told we can keep them on. Even then, I usually take them off.
I feel like most people will understand. I live in the US as well and it’s 50/50. I have shoes off at the door. The only people I regularly have to tell to take their shoes off is my husband and brother. All my guest see shoes at the front and ask do I want them to do the same or just do it take them off themselves.
Outside shoes inside is gross, if they can't handle that they should go to a bar.
It’s situational though; I’m Canadian and shows in the house is a no-go but when we rented a house in Phoenix that had rock hard tile floors and no dust anywhere we were all wearing house shoes on the second day
Just saw a guy casually empty his nostrils on the sidewalk. How can anyone walk inside their home with all that nasty shit on their shoes?
My wife is Asian so this would get someone murdered. I usually always take my shoes off at mine or someone else's house except my parents because their floor is filthy.
Man there’s no inbetween in this crowd.
No kidding! I definitely live in the gray area here. We take our shoes off but don’t hassle guests, plumbers, etc about it. And then we just clean the floors as needed. But I also don’t wash my car every 3 days like some people on here.
Weirdest thing to me is the idea of asking or demanding someone to take their shoes off when you've invited them over. Growing up it was always about letting the visitor do whatever was comfortable for them, with the expectation (because back then we did live in a society) that the visitor would match their host's shoe situation. My mom was strict about no shoes in the house for our family, but when we had people over and they went to take their shoes off she'd jump to assure them that they didn't have to if they didn't want to (but they'd usually take them off because that was the polite thing to do).
Leaving shoes on is bringing dirt and mud and feces and who knows what else into my home. It's much ruder than me asking someone NOT TO.
I think it’s regional. Snowy/muddy towns where boots are normal & cities with grime vs car-to-door suburbia & people with big dogs
For real: if it's just one or two guests coming over and we won't be going outside again, yes I'd prefer they take off their shoes--i have guest slippere (extras taken from hotels) that I offer. If I'm throwing a party though then absolutely not, they should keep their shoes on and I make plans to wash the floor accordingly. During a party people will be going in and out regularly to smoke or just get some air, glass breaks on occasion, and typically people are dressed up and their shoes are a part of their outfit they put thought into--nobody looks their best in a big social setting in just their socks or barefoot. It really isn't a big deal when it comes to hardwood, and besides in most of the US few people aren't slogging through forests and fields or down miles of road to get to your place. They drive, which means they walked outside for a grand total of 30 seconds to get to their car, and another 30 seconds going from their car to your front door.
I ask everyone to take their shoes off regardless if I’m hosting a party or not. Only people I don’t ask are handymen, plumbers, etc.
And they'll usually put on booties anyways. At least where I'm from.
The good ones will. Some time back, I bought a house and the wood floor treatment wasn't fully cured yet, so I had some tarp down for the internet guy to walk on because I didn't expect him to take his shoes off but he ended up walking off the tarp instead even after telling him to do so. He was just there to activate the node for the fiber internet. Then he asked if he can use the bathroom so I told him he has to take his shoes off. He rolled his eyes and let out a big sigh but he did it. The nerve of some of these clowns.
They take them off at the door, or they don't enter.
Dudes walking on our carpet with shoes on don’t get invited back.
We have three dogs. Unless your shoes are absolutely filthy, the dogs have tracked in worse. Leaving them on is fine unless dripping wet or covered in mud.
No. Most of the time the back door is open and we’re all going in and out, grilling on the patio and what not. I’m not going to make my guests take their shoes on and off 50 times a night. The floor is the floor, it’s dirty when guests are over. It gets vacuumed and mopped after and it’s back to normal.
Couldn’t agree more. As someone who also has guests over to entertain we are often outside partying and drinking. To ask someone to take their shoes off and put them back on anytime they come inside to use the restroom is wild. I personally am either barefoot or have shoes on I cannot stand walking around in socks because I’m a weirdo. Plus, I just mop and clean up the next day. Really no big deal.
Agreed. I’m 46 and have never been to a party in my entire life where the host made people take shoes on & off to go inside & outside, nor were any of the other guests doing that. It’s just unnecessary. As the host you do what needs to be done to clean properly once people leave, and that is it.
>To ask someone to take their shoes off and put them back on anytime they come inside to use the restroom is wild. This is just how it is in Canada as the norm and it really is not wild lol. How long is it taking you to take off your shoes?
I could see it in a place where there’s snow and all the crap you bring in with it on your shoes so totally get it. And to be fair yeah it’s takes like 30 seconds. I probably shouldn’t have used the word “wild” but I do get that each person and household has their preferences. I would of course take my shoes off if asked. It’s just not my first go to amongst my friends and family.
Yeah for real, or very likely in spring and summer, sandals that easily slip on and off
Wait, people are supposed to visit me? When did this start?
No idea. They just started to appear one day.
Sounds weird and awkward :-)
Yeah, Mormons turn up once. I opened my door wearing a mankini.
It’s important. I don’t feel comfortable when people walk all over my home with their outside shoes personally.
Every time. It's expected. Although my step dad keeps his shoes on because he's missing 3 toes and it's hard to walk without them. Sooo exceptions on occasions
“Step” dad. 7 toes. Shoes on indoors…. Damnit there’s gotta be a joke in there somewhere. I’m hoping Reddit comes through on this one.
I live in Arizona. You leave your damn shoes on, please. My house isn't the place to ventilate your sweaty hooves and their moist sheathes.
So you prefer people walking around your house with their shoes that contain toilet particles and street gunk?
Arizona streets self-sterilize at 180°F (82°C)
I mean, if they use the bathroom, they're already tracking toilet particles, whether it's shoes or socks, and what "street gunk" would they be tracking in? But yeah, I have tile, I have cats (who are tracking litter box particles everywhere anyway), I don't eat off my floors, and our streets aren't terribly "gunky." Barring a storm or something, the most people usually track in is dust.
*high five*
Unless it has been raining or snowing, I don’t make guests remove their shoes. I just clean up after they leave.
Of zero importance. Petting the dog is mandatory, though.
My dog doesn’t give you a choice about it.
Shoes in the house are disgusting
I have kids and pets. Feel free to keep your shoes on and if I need to take mine off at your house, it better be clean enough to not ruin my socks or stain them. Cheers.
I went to meet my girlfriends parents for the first time and ofcourse I took my shoes off as soon as I came in, and a few days later I find out that her mom saw that and basically said "Yeah you can marry him, he has manners". Always take off your shoes when coming into someones house, only leave them on if they say you can (even though you shouldn't)
I live in Canada so the idea of not taking them off in the house is weird to me.
Not at all.
I wouldn't care in the slightest and I surely wouldn't expect a full party full of people to take their shoes off.
It’s not that hard to take off your shoes when entering someone’s house. Never understood why it’s so hard for some people
It's not hard at all, it's just not that deep of a cultural norm in some places like the US. Some people grow up wearing shoes all day around the house and it doesn't cross their mind at all.
Do they take off their shoes in the bedroom or what happens when they are on bed after walking barefoot in a shoes on house? The idea of dirty feet on bed is beyond gross to me
You take your shoes off before you get on the bed and leave them on the floor
No idea, I take my shoes off at home. That said, I know people that wear shoes on the couch and such
That's gross
It’s not hard, just unnecessary. I have no problem taking off my shoes if the host asks me, but I have no problem keeping my shoes on in my own home and don’t ask others to.
We had big dogs, shoes aren't doing anything to the floor.
Nobody takes their shoes off here in the Netherlands. Nobody ever expected me to. I would worry more about smelly feet than dirty shoes, so please keep them on.
If you don't take your shoes off, you aren't coming in my house. Pretty simple.
I could not possibly care less if people take their shoes off when they come over. We don’t eat off the floor and the robo vacuum cleans twice a week.
What a weird thing to call your dog.
Ok that was funny.
I prefer they don't. I have wooden floors and I don't eat off them. Shoes are fine.
Yeah this. I don’t see the problem. The floor is dirty regardless, and the floors are easily mopped regularly. I’m more concerned about sweaty feet/socks. Now that’s a real problem.
Absolutely important.
Depends if they actually wanna step into the house.
Im surprised to realize there are parts of the world where people leave their shoes on in the house. Even in dry environments so cleanliness isnt the issue it just feels so uncomfortable. Do people like wearing shoes 100% of the time? Do they just take them off before bed? Do they put shoes on their couch or ottomon?
I'm a woman, and I keep my shoes on. I'm from the south. Taking shoes off was not a thing for me growing up, and it's still not. I keep shoes on until I'm ready to go to bed or change shoes. If I'm putting my feet up on the couch, then no shoes. But if I'm just sitting on the couch, I'll leave my shoes on. I'm confused about how you try on outfits without different shoes? Are all the shoes outside? Mine are in the closet.
Fellow southerner who wears shoes like 80% of the time, even at home. My shoes are also in my closet. That being said, I don't just automatically put shoes on when I wake up but I do put them on as soon as I need to go outside and then they stay on until bedtime.
This is a certain part of the US thing, right? Anywhere I've travelled it's normal to take your shoes off. Some cultures keep the shoes outside, some inside. Some have indoor shoes or sandals to wear, but visiting my friend in Texas was the first time I experienced this. So, it wouldn't bother me but it's the norm where I'm from. I have a hard time seeing it rude to follow that request of your host.
Leave the shoes on, remove the pants. I don’t get many visitors.
I really don’t care at all.
I truly dont care as long as they didn't just step in poop.
In my country taking off shoes is a default behaivour unless it's some emergency.
I don't give a shit but my wife would have an issue.
While I'll let it go on occasion if someone's just picking a thing up or stopping by for a minute and wants a glass of water, if someone is sticking around and actually hanging out they better take those damn shoes off. It's disgusting to me to wear the shoes you walked to my house in, probably through the grass and dirt at some point (or a puddle) and track that shit in past my entryway, especially if you're gonna walk on the carpet. I truly struggle to believe that some people walk into their home and leave their shoes on, and some people even wear them and put their feet up on a couch or bed. I'm not even anything of a 'clean freak' and it's just the most negligent and disgusting habit I've ever heard lol.
I have 2 dogs, 2 cats, and 2 kids. I can guarantee your shoes agent the dirtiest thing to touch the floor just today.
Midwesterner here. They come off asamfp. I don't live in a big city, so I think it comes from usually having some sort of filth on your shoes. Even if I havw brand new shoes on I'm not walking through the place to grab something 😂
Even if you live in a city, shoes are disgusting. They're trampling on homeless piss residue from the sidewalk all day and then tracking it through the house? People who wear their shoes in bed are extra disgusting.
Mandatory. Who the hell finds shoes more comfortable than bare feet. I don’t invite in psychopaths.
people with foot pain
I actually find shoes MUCH more comfortable than bare feet. I have crocs that I wear around the house (they don't go outside) because my Dr specifically told me that it would help my plantar fasciitis to NOT walk barefoot on all my tile floor all the time.
This. I feel like I am the only sane person here. Sometimes I don’t even where shoes outside because how comfortable it is to be barefoot
I 100% find shoes more comfortable, I barely even wear slides or sandals and I hardly even go to the beach because I absolutely hate walking on sand barefoot. That being said I have sensory issues and the feeling of anything touching the bottom of my feet gets me all fucky.
I find shoes way more comfortable than bare feet, as do lots of folks.
It depends for me. Is it going to be indoors and outdoors? Then no, shoes on is completely fine. Is it only indoors? Then I don't see why we need to wear shoes.
100%. My parents wear shoes in the house. I get dirty feet in minutes if I go barefoot. I take shoes off at the door and I've never had dirty feet at my own house.
You want to break into my house and rob me? Better do it with your shoes off first, or else I’m raising hell.
Not at all important. I don't care if people wear shoes in my house.
I live in the SE US and no one takes their shoes off when coming inside. I have family in the Midwest US and I always take my shoes off before entering their homes. It’s a cultural thing.
I’m not going to force people to take their shoes off, is not part of the culture in the states, plus is not like I live in some kind of castle, guests should feel welcome and at home where hopefully they don’t feel like they have to take their shoes off too
Funny that the top three comments are all about how if you don’t take shoes off you get slapped meanwhile I’ve never noticed or cared if one of my friends wore shoes inside
I don't mind people insisting on taking their shoes, but you should provide slippers or covers as an alternative. People's house floors are not as clean as they like to think, and the idea of my socks or feet coming into contact with it is gross.
I don’t care. Most people don’t.
I'm Australian, we walk around barefoot when we can. You only need to take them off if they're visibly dirty and you're going to track mud, water, bindis or something else into the house. Even then, if I've got a tradesperson working and they need to come in and out it's going to be easier to just keep boots on and clean up later. 99% of the time you're good with shoes on in my opinion
I have laminate floors and two huskies. If you take your shoes off you’re leaving with fuzzy socks and it doesn’t matter if I swept right before you came over. Husky hair doesn’t give two fucks about man nor broom alike.
I have a dog, and I walk around my yard barefoot a lot. It's not important to me that people take off their shoes, but also most people do.
They dont take it off in my house, have a friend where we have to take it off sometimes but I think his parents were more into it I myself always take my shoes off If asked
Don’t come in unless they’re off no matter who you are. I swear on my mother I will tackle you
Very important. But I’m also Asian. Wearing your outdoor shoes *inside* the house is fucking disgusting. Your outdoor shoes have literally walked in literal shit and piss, and you’re bringing all of that indoors. Your outdoor shoes have been to public bathrooms where there’s piss and fecal matter on the floors. Your outdoor shoes have been outside in nature, where you’ve most likely walked over dried bird shit and are now carrying those pathogens indoors. Your outdoor shoes have been everywhere outside and are riddled with germs, bacteria, and viruses. Nasty. #Take off your damn shoes. Clean your houses.
When I got my first house - I even went so far as to put a little tray of water and lemon juice, towel and odd socks for the stinky foot mandem. Had spent grands on my carpet and underlay and any spillage pre my first spill was a £20 fine straight away. To this day no shoes in any property and if you a workman and 'health & safteying' it then you got the blue overboot things.
Aside from Americans, most of the globe takes their shoes off. Imagine dragging all the street shit into someone else's house. Yikes.
If you're going to ask guests to take off their shoes for a party, you **MUST** tell them that when inviting them. Sometimes people don't wear socks, or they wear shoes that are difficult to take on/off, or they wear shoes that are part of their outfit, or they wear socks that they'd be embarrassed to be seen in, or they have sweaty feet and would bring slippers to wear. Personally, I think it's bad form to have that requirement for a party unless it's raining/snowing. But it's your house, so if it's important to you, that's fine. But you need to communicate it early.
Best answer. If you expect shoes off, I would decline the invite. So massively preferable if you tell people upfront.
I don't care either way. Dont track in mud and keep your shoes off the furniture, but other than that, it doesn't bother me. I mop once a week anyways and its not like I'm taking my meals on the floor. People who get weird about bringing outside germs into their house grossly underestimate how much they bring in on their clothes, groceries, etc. Just clean your damn house and it won't be a problem
I make an exception for house parties myself. The point of not wearing shoes in the house, at least for me, is to keep it clean for longer, so I have to clean it less often. I hate cleaning. But after a house party, you usually have to clean anyway, so might as well let people keep their shoes on. Plus, I have two dogs. I own a few pairs of slippers for myself and guests, but definitely not enough for a group. I don't want people stepping on dog hair with socks on, or even barefeet. I avoid hosting parties at my home like the devil avoids the cross, but sometimes, you gotta take one for the team. It's fine, no one's gonna die.
I always prefer my guests to take off their shoes. I frequently vacuum my house and would like it to stay clean
It just doesn't work. One person doesn't take their shoes off or forgets to take them back off when they come back inside. Then the floors are covered in snow, mud, and water and everyone's feet get wet. I usually have bonfires and most of the party is in the garage, so everyone is in and out of the house all day/night using the bathroom and kitchen. It just isn't feasible to expect everyone to take their shoes off and once one person doesn't no one can without getting wet socks.
Growing up, my mom would skin the asses of grown ass men if they went stomping through the house with shoes on. Personally, I just vacuum and such.
For a party: keep those things on. Just regular: I don't care either way.
I don’t care or pay attention to what my guests do with their shoes when they come in my house. I’m always barefoot in my house for my own comfort, my guests are free to do whatever they want
Shoes are only allowed in the kitchen because it has a wood floor. Everywhere else, it's slippers or socks, or else my wife will usher you to a kitchen chair.
My wife insists that we do not wear shoes in the house. She insists that all guests remove their shoes when entering the house. We have tile floors throughout the ENTIRE house. She insisted that once I removed the carpets and broke my back installing all that tile, that she wouldn't be so neurotic about if I had to walk across the floor in my shoes real quick (Like if I forgot something on the way out the door or something), but she's still absolutely neurotic about it. Having said all of that....when we do have a party (we usually have a big Halloween party every year) people are coming in and out too frequently for the shoe issue to be worth it. We suck it up and everyone just leaves them on for the whole night. The whole place gets cleaned, including mopping the floors, the next day.
Very important. My friends take off their shoes at the door.
I’m in Canada so nobody is allowed to wear shoes in anybody’s house.
I would feel so awkward If some ody asked me to take me shoes off. I'd straight up leave
I'm in Canada your shoes are gross take them off. Especially in the winter
If I ask you to remove your shoes and you refuse, you will never be invited back.
I prefer it. I even provide slippers all wrapped up for them. Will I die if they wear shoes? No. But have a slippers only household and prefer it with guests.
As someone who lives in the US, I don't really care, I can clean the floors the next day. But, if it's wet or raining, I'll ask politely. That said, I do myself, but since it's not as deep a cultural norm around here, I don't make too big a deal about it. I DO have an issue if you keep your shoes on, and put them on my furniture. To be honest, most people ask or just have enough common sense to see a pile of shoes at the door and make the connection themselves to take them off. TLDR, it's not a big deal. That said I always take them off or at least ask when visiting others.
It irks me when my friends don't take their shoes off (despite the shoe rack, disposable slippers, and a bench to sit down on in my entryway) but it also feels rude to demand that they do so, so I just suck it up and seethe internally
Depends on the length of the stay. Coming to drop something off? Sure, keep them on. Movie night? Best take them off.
I have tile / hardwood floors so I don't care unless it's been raining...
Not that important. We have wood floors that get cleaned easily and regularly
My house my rules no shoes and no smoking inside if they are my friends they know but even strangers very rare will have to leave their shoes I am Asian and we don’t do shoes in the house period
It’s not weird to want guests to remove their shoes. Heck, I’ve had to remove my shoes at estate sales before! I do not wear shoes in my house. However, if I had a large party I would be probably more lenient knowing that I’ll be giving the house a deep clean afterward anyway. However, I also have laminate wood and concrete floors that can handle it without risk of damaging or staining them; if I had carpet or real wood, I probably would still ask them to remove their shoes. Unless it’s an indoor/outdoor party.
To me, not important. To my wife, Very important
Everyone I know already takes their shoes off at the door. This is not a conversation that happens often, but if people outside the social circle show up, I simply say, "Shoes off at the door, please." and they do it.
During the winter and spring when it gets wet and/or muddy outside, we usually ask people to take their shoes off on the porch (it's enclosed). During dryer times of the year we generally don't sweat it, especially for large gatherings with people going in and out.
I don't care.
I wouldn't make a big deal about it. My wife and I generally don't wear shoes in our apartment and the bench with shoes by the entrance gives a pretty clear indication of standard practice. Most guests I have ask me if they should take their shoes off anyways and I generally say sure. But I don't really mind it someone doesn't want to for some reason. That's one of the reasons I have machine washable rugs.
My fiancé is Vietnamese and she has gotten me into the idea of leaving my outside shoes at the front and wearing house shoes otherwise but for our guests we don’t ever ask them to do that. We have hardwood floors so it’s much less of a big deal than if we had carpet.
Doesn‘t really matter if it‘s a party or not… Shoes are outdoor clothing. They don‘t belong indoors (apart from the entry to the apartment / house).
Not at all. I don't have carpet in my house, so I don't care unless your shoes are filthy.
I don't want to say anything about it bc I don't care. My wife really cares though bc she is the one who cleans the house so she will say something almost every time and if she says something then I have to say something and I really don't want to do that so please just take them off.
I would prefer it but I understand that I live in a place where a lot of people don’t. Thankfully mostly wood floor that’s easy to clean, but if huh step on my carpet them shoes better come off.
I don't care at all
0% important for me
Keep shoes on house here.
I'll gladly remove my shoes if visiting a friend's house, assuming they're dirty. If they're not dirty (as in muddy) and they still ask, then, pound sand, and I'm out. Same with my house. If your shoes aren't muddy (or full of oil/grease), then **please** don't take them off. Don't want to look at your holy socks and smell your dirty feet.
My house is 90% carpet so it’s mandatory no shoes
It's the polite thing to do. If I go up to a house and I see shoes at the front door I'll take mine off too. But if they tell me I do not need to bother then I do what they ask. When in Rome...
I grew up shoes in the house, only converted when I got my own house (imagine that). I’d have my shoes off when guests came over, but it’s not so ingrained in me to make a thing of it when people come over. I wouldn’t take offense.
I solve this issue with shoe booties. Buy them on Amazon. Shoes off or shoe booties arrr you decide!!!
Im fine taking them off but your floor better be so clean I could eat off of it because I don't feel like stepping in your dirt and grime.
I dont have carpeting so shoes on doesn't bother me especially during warmer months when all are going in and out to the decj. Quick vaccum and a mop after and all is good. If someone wants shoes off when visiting I oblige.
I don't have friends
As a second note, if someone has pets and wants shoes off I have a hard time with it because no one washes there dog clean after they come in from outside, and cats track litter, urine, and feces from their boxes no matter what you use for litter or a box.
If spending time definitely, I will say tho last time I visited my brother he insisted we take off our shoes ~each~ time we come in out out when packing/unpacking, it felt as much about power and boundaries about dirt
A must as I have nice rugs
Very serious
I work on a ranch. I also have a prosthetic lower leg. If you come to my house, you come as you are, and come on in. If I'm going to visit you, I'll have clean clothes and shoes on. But, It's not going to be easy to get that one shoe off and back on. So, I'll stand on the porch and visit you through the door. Though I've modified ALL of my footwear to just be able to put them on or remove them, it's much easier to pull the leg off. Oh, I don't have carpet anywhere, so it's easy to cleanup. And please don't mind the baby calves or goats that come to the screen door to chat. I'm still working on their manners.