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I regret believing a lie about,
"Don't be selfish to others"
Yes. That phrase is what I believe in, most of my childhood, and it affects me the most.
I regret believing that phrase, because it made me believe that self-sacrifice is very good for my mental health, until reality shows its "black mask".
I'll never forget how people that I've helped with that phrase, turned against me. Really, reality helped me open my eyes for the first time.
In my head, this is a total ruin (severe mental breakdown). Still, I managed to be sane, for my sake.
To reclaim for my own redemption, I start to be selfish, and whoever the fuck told me not to be selfish, I ask people to go help others first before I do. I am now too smart for that bullshit.
I learn to invest for myself first, and I will decide whoever I would like to help to, and this is not for people telling me to just help, and how about for myself? Nothing in return?
I will only help people whenever I please, and I owe nothing to everyone.
In this 2024 shit, learn to help yourselves first, and you should decide, for yourselves, if you want to help, because, you owe nothing to everyone to begin with, so, in case you would rather help yourself all the way, then, you will get the best of your lives imaginable. You won't regret being called as "selfish" when you benefit the most of it, at least, to the extent, that you are now building your own lives, for the better.
to have a baby at this point. mahal na mahal ko anak ko pero napapaisip ako na kung wala akong anak ngayon hind sana ako ngayon drain na drain, both mentally and financially.
Having a wife na hindi mo ka level ng pagiisip and masyadong priority ang relatives miski na after we were married.Been warned about it by my mom baka masyado priority yung relatives nya coz she experienced it with my dad. At dami namin miscommunications, iba upbringing nya sa upbringing ko.nagkaka conflict kami.
Kaya pls kung magaasawa pagaralan muna lahat ng aspeto ng magiging asawa mo.
being selfless, nakakadrain pero things will change pag tinigil mo and di mo kakayanin consequences if tinigil mo kasi dun ka na din sa situation na yon nasanay
To starve yourself just to look 'pretty'. Crash dieting gave me IBS. Dati para kumasya ang mga dress, iinom ng laxative tapos fad diets. There was this one date na oatmeal lang kinakain ko for three days before kami magkita. Oh well bata pa ko nun. Pero if that person really is for you, walang magiging issue.
Walang issue sa weightloss, yung healthy na paraan lang yung sundan niyo.
Alam kong may hopeless romantic pa din sa inyo, pero please huwag niyo sayangin yun oras niyo kapag may nagsabi sa inyo na babalik sila or kailangan lang nila hanapin sarili nila.
Pakawalan niyo na, huwag niyo ireserve ang sarili niyo sa taong yun. 99% of the time, sure na magsisi lang kayo na ginawa niyo yun.
Ouch. Double Ouch. Naramdaman ko yan, kasi kahit hindi ko responsibility, ginagawa ko if para sakin mababa yung quality ng work. I hate that about myself.
Wag papatol or makipag-argue sa mga bobo, matapang lang yan magparinig sa social media pero i-confront mo nang harapan, tingnan mo, taob yan. they're all bark, no bite.
I was harsh on my mother during my angry days as a teenager. Now that I am on my 20s, and my mother was no longer here, I regret all those things a lot. Sometimes it keeps me up at night.
Depending on a family member na nasa abroad.
Ito ang common mistake ng mga pinoy, base sa experience ko. Naging dependent family ko sa Tito at tita ko nasa abroad hindi na nag Sikap parents ko, like for example hindi na sila nag trabaho kahit madaming opportunity na lumalapit sa kanila,
Ngayun mag reretire na tito ko at uuwi na ng pilipinas hindi na sya nakakapag Padala habang ung tita konaman, wala na ng trabaho.
Madalang nalang Padala, at kaming mga anak inasa na lahat saamin, lahat.
Kaya wag kayong aasa sa iba mag sikap kayo. Cguro iba Hindi magegets sinasabe ko today but one day, malalaman at ma rereliaze nyo yan.
Almost the same scenario but opposite lng. Si papa ang nagpapadala pero ngaun retired na sya. Mukhang saming mga anak na aasa mga tita/tito namin 🙂 laging minemention salary ng mgabkapatid ko na malaki daw kasi nakapag abroad na 🙂
I think not exactly a bad decesion but do not do drugs, do not lend money to a family member or friends and do cut off people in your life if it keeps you sane.
Lowering my standards to accommodate my so called partner. No, don’t put your guards and standards below. The right person will always go over and beyond.
Enjoy your own life before getting into a relationship.
I think yung lagi mong sasaluhin? Lagi mong pagbibigyan. Basically enabler na ng not so nice just because blinded sa concept ng love na you fill in kung saan kulang?
you realize when you are awake na kaya pala kinukulang kasi the other person does not make any effort to be better. Nasanay given lahat or somebody remedies everything for them.
even with bad attitude, nakaka lusot lagi.
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Letting the opinion of people around me gets inside my heard
Doing drvgs .
being available always (tangible/intangible)
If nagsinungaling sa inyo about their age, wag niyo na patulan.
I regret believing a lie about, "Don't be selfish to others" Yes. That phrase is what I believe in, most of my childhood, and it affects me the most. I regret believing that phrase, because it made me believe that self-sacrifice is very good for my mental health, until reality shows its "black mask". I'll never forget how people that I've helped with that phrase, turned against me. Really, reality helped me open my eyes for the first time. In my head, this is a total ruin (severe mental breakdown). Still, I managed to be sane, for my sake. To reclaim for my own redemption, I start to be selfish, and whoever the fuck told me not to be selfish, I ask people to go help others first before I do. I am now too smart for that bullshit. I learn to invest for myself first, and I will decide whoever I would like to help to, and this is not for people telling me to just help, and how about for myself? Nothing in return? I will only help people whenever I please, and I owe nothing to everyone. In this 2024 shit, learn to help yourselves first, and you should decide, for yourselves, if you want to help, because, you owe nothing to everyone to begin with, so, in case you would rather help yourself all the way, then, you will get the best of your lives imaginable. You won't regret being called as "selfish" when you benefit the most of it, at least, to the extent, that you are now building your own lives, for the better.
went straight to family business. mas ok magtrabaho muna sa labas. expand your network while you're young.
Not taking any risk or playing safe! at pag stay sa low paying jobs!
Mga inner thoughts na nagsasabi na "Okay lang yan, deserve mo yan" there will come a time na babalik sayo lahat hehe.
to have a baby at this point. mahal na mahal ko anak ko pero napapaisip ako na kung wala akong anak ngayon hind sana ako ngayon drain na drain, both mentally and financially.
Let them get away with everything kasi "mabait" ka. Kahit mabait, may sungay.
being a martyr in any form of relationship
be in a relationship
Having a wife na hindi mo ka level ng pagiisip and masyadong priority ang relatives miski na after we were married.Been warned about it by my mom baka masyado priority yung relatives nya coz she experienced it with my dad. At dami namin miscommunications, iba upbringing nya sa upbringing ko.nagkaka conflict kami. Kaya pls kung magaasawa pagaralan muna lahat ng aspeto ng magiging asawa mo.
True, sakin naman yung asawa ko, prio nya mga barkada nya. 🥲 Sobrang sise talaga.
3 years working and I didn’t bother to save money, bought things I didn’t need. series of bad financial decisions
being selfless, nakakadrain pero things will change pag tinigil mo and di mo kakayanin consequences if tinigil mo kasi dun ka na din sa situation na yon nasanay
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cheat
To starve yourself just to look 'pretty'. Crash dieting gave me IBS. Dati para kumasya ang mga dress, iinom ng laxative tapos fad diets. There was this one date na oatmeal lang kinakain ko for three days before kami magkita. Oh well bata pa ko nun. Pero if that person really is for you, walang magiging issue. Walang issue sa weightloss, yung healthy na paraan lang yung sundan niyo.
As much as I enjoyed the feeling (and still am 😉) ummm, wag mag aagree makipag sex ng basta basta hehehe
Being so selfless you’ve forgotten how to treat yourself with respect.
Trust a stranger online. Especially when every gut feeling told me not to.
Impulsively accepted a job when you're mentally unprepared.
Magpauto sa kachat
Alam kong may hopeless romantic pa din sa inyo, pero please huwag niyo sayangin yun oras niyo kapag may nagsabi sa inyo na babalik sila or kailangan lang nila hanapin sarili nila. Pakawalan niyo na, huwag niyo ireserve ang sarili niyo sa taong yun. 99% of the time, sure na magsisi lang kayo na ginawa niyo yun.
loving someone that hasn't been treated right. promise istg you'll learn the hard way!
Hits hard :')))
not being able to identify that i have been lovebombed earlier on the relationship🙄😨
Choosing a hobby course in college.
Magpalowball sa recruitment.
don't enter relationship if you're mentally unstable.
Yup! it will ruin ya!
This is the thing that I regret the most.
Not setting boundaries
spending the money i haven't earned yet. wala pa ngang sahod tambak na yang nasa cart mo neng!
Perfectionism and doing it all.
Dang sameee. How to change this 😢
True. Unlearning is the hardest part. Kaya if someone can avoid it, the better.
Ouch. Double Ouch. Naramdaman ko yan, kasi kahit hindi ko responsibility, ginagawa ko if para sakin mababa yung quality ng work. I hate that about myself.
True. Hirap to unlearn it.
Sobra. Kasi kahit pa sabihin mo na iiwasan mo na, hindi mo maiwasang bumalik balik sa ganon. Kasi nakaka stress kapag hindi mo nagagawa.
Take care of your health. Wag pawalwal at babalik sayo ang mga sakit sakit
Giving up something impulsively.
Wag papatol or makipag-argue sa mga bobo, matapang lang yan magparinig sa social media pero i-confront mo nang harapan, tingnan mo, taob yan. they're all bark, no bite.
I was harsh on my mother during my angry days as a teenager. Now that I am on my 20s, and my mother was no longer here, I regret all those things a lot. Sometimes it keeps me up at night.
Don’t get fat. Easy to put the weight on, hardest and longest to lose.
True. Eat in portions and remember the food is only to fuel your body, and eating is not a hobby to be good at.
Wag kayo masyadong mag invest sa social media, maraming bagay ang mas makabuluhan gamitan ng oras kesa magmindless scrolling sa social media.
Investing myself so much into someone that will eventually leave me.
Depending on a family member na nasa abroad. Ito ang common mistake ng mga pinoy, base sa experience ko. Naging dependent family ko sa Tito at tita ko nasa abroad hindi na nag Sikap parents ko, like for example hindi na sila nag trabaho kahit madaming opportunity na lumalapit sa kanila, Ngayun mag reretire na tito ko at uuwi na ng pilipinas hindi na sya nakakapag Padala habang ung tita konaman, wala na ng trabaho. Madalang nalang Padala, at kaming mga anak inasa na lahat saamin, lahat. Kaya wag kayong aasa sa iba mag sikap kayo. Cguro iba Hindi magegets sinasabe ko today but one day, malalaman at ma rereliaze nyo yan.
Almost the same scenario but opposite lng. Si papa ang nagpapadala pero ngaun retired na sya. Mukhang saming mga anak na aasa mga tita/tito namin 🙂 laging minemention salary ng mgabkapatid ko na malaki daw kasi nakapag abroad na 🙂
cut ties. cut communication. wag i-sacrifice ang future para sa walang pakialam sa future. immediate family lng.
I think not exactly a bad decesion but do not do drugs, do not lend money to a family member or friends and do cut off people in your life if it keeps you sane.
Always available to friends while they aren't doing the same thing to me.
I would have to agree on this one too.
Lowering my standards to accommodate my so called partner. No, don’t put your guards and standards below. The right person will always go over and beyond. Enjoy your own life before getting into a relationship.
for you, what does it mean to go over and beyond?
I think yung lagi mong sasaluhin? Lagi mong pagbibigyan. Basically enabler na ng not so nice just because blinded sa concept ng love na you fill in kung saan kulang? you realize when you are awake na kaya pala kinukulang kasi the other person does not make any effort to be better. Nasanay given lahat or somebody remedies everything for them. even with bad attitude, nakaka lusot lagi.
yes!!
Changing your limits/boundaries/standards and finding excuses for your partner's behaviours in hopes that they will change someday.
Maging available lagi sa mga plano ng kaibigan mo, na hindi ka kasama sa plano.
That moment na inuuna ko yung happiness ng ibang tao na nakalimutan ko na kung ano yung nag papasaya sakin talaga 😥
Made myself too available to that person. Don't. Just don't.