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I wish more people from the Gen X era know that its not okay to give in sa pressure ng having a timeline for having a family. My parents had me in less than a year of dating, just because they were 27-28 at the time, both financially ready, and felt like it was the right age to start a family.
They were together for only 8 years and separated after. They both said they felt like they rushed into it. They kept reassuring me they don't regret having me though, but I know they do.
Mine was like, my mom just finish a 2 year course sa college. Umuwi sa lugar nila to help my lola, then my father met him. Then decided na gusto siya pakasalan (out of excitement lang dahil maganda), people who knew him sa work said na mabait siya (dahil lang lagi nang lilibre 🙄 people pleaser) at um oo nalang siya. Even the elders kept bothering her na pakasalan siya.
So she said yes. Then, 13 years later of physical, emotional and verbal abuse... they separated. Ang masaklap pa, yung lola ko who trusted them, ipinangalan kila mama lahat sana ng ari arian niya. It became a conjugal property.
My father claimed it was him who worked hard for all those properties when in fact kahit 6 digits ang sahod niya, iisang lote lang talaga ang pundar niya dahil sa kakalibre, inuman, sugal, sabong at pang babae niya.
Meanwhile, my lolo died without tasting the comfort of life. My lola at the age of 60, nangangatulong pa kasi ayaw umasa sa mga anak nila. 🥲
I feel so hurt and heart broken. Kung totoo lang talaga ang time machine, I myself will beg my mom na wag siyang pakasalan or tatambangan ko pa father ko para lang bantaan na wag siyang lapitan 😭😭😭
Mag-therapy muna kayo bago magpakasal kasi naipasa niyo na ang generational trauma.
Sa tingin ko, I'm meant to be your child kaya ako nabuhay sa mundong to. that if things were dealt differently, I just know that I'll be able to find my way to you guys. Because I'm meant to walk this earth with you. I love you guys. Karamihan ng mga ginagawa ko dinededicate ko sa inyo dahil inalagaan niyo ko at pinakita niyo sa akin kung hanggang saan ang kaya ng isang taong gawin para sa mahal niya. Madami akong natutunan mula sa inyo. Pero I just wish that things were different. Sana naging supportive kayo sa mga pangarap namin. Sana wala kayong favoritism. Sana nagkaron kami ng space para mapakinggan nung bata pa kami para hindi kami naging adults na clueless kung may karapatan ba kami makaramdam o hindi.
Hala ambilis ng ikot, ang taas pa ng tagay. Charot.
If you're not financially ready, just ab0rt me instead of raising me as your retirement plan. I'm f-- overdosed on all the pressure that I'm experiencing.
Invest, save money, wag sasama sa mga kaibigan na puro utang ang alam para hindi mahawa. Wag kang magdali, kunin mo yung gusto mong pangarap para hindi ang mga anak mo ang aabot ng gusto mo para sayo. Give them a freedom to choose what they want to do and make sure that they are in the right path. At please lang ma namili ka ng mabait na mapapangasawa.
I am not a pet to be raised and compared to other people's children for your silly status games. I am not a puppet commanded for your amusement. I am not free child labor. My intelligence must be nurtured, not stifled because of your insecurities. You are not omniscient, my opinions matter too.
You don't need me. Pursue your dreams. Do what you want. Be financially and mentally ready. Learn how to communicate. Be present. Let your future child enjoy their childhood. Do not hold them back. It's okay if you make mistakes. Support them.
isali niyo ko sa maraming extracurricular activities pls, wag niyo ko hayaan mabulok sa bahay. Isalang niyo ko sa acting workshop, swimming lessons, etc.
Be successful and have a family plan first before giving birth to a child. Base on my own experience as a child. My parents gave birth to us when they were still finding out which field they were stepping onto. As they continue to walk and find their right path, we were already growing up and getting what they can give. It was enough but JUST enough for us to live the present but not for the future. Their perspective: is once they reach the end it’s our turn to find our own way without any help from the people who started our path.
+ Pursue your dreams first.
+ Learn how to communicate.
+ Tough love is not the best route in disciplining your children. Do not invalidate their feelings.
I'd want them to enjoy their life as a married couple and better their lives first. I don't want to see them suffering the consequences of raising children while they're financially unstable. I love them so much no matter what I'm willing to not exist just so there's less mouth for them to feed.
Better to be selfish to the families that you were born into rather than the family that you are building.
It is not your obligation to support them in everything that they need and want since you have your own family now.
in the end, it’s not those families that will move mountains to help you in your old age.
Mi, gumamit kayo ng condom para hindi ako mabuo. And please, ‘wag na si dadi kasi marami syang panganay sa siquijor. ‘Wag na rin step father ko kasi bata pa sya and hindi nya kayang buhayin ‘yung 3 siblings ko.
Please abort me, you have 4 more kids to take care of anyways. You're too old to have another one, it only puts your life at risk. Lalaki lang akong mag-isa kasi I'm too young to have fun with my siblings or cousins and I'm too old to play with my nieces and nephews. I'll only become the center of your worries dahil sa mental health ko.
And also to the doctors - please prioritize the health of my mother first, don't try to save me, don't insist on saving me. I was thankful that we both survived the birth, but the baby you refused to give up continues to wish that she never survived that day.
Mom. You saw the red flag already. Don’t walk, run. Marriage won’t fix him. He won’t be a better man after. You’ll be a battered wife, your kids will suffer later on.
To my mom, PLEASE DO NOT ENGAGE OR MARRY THAT FCKING SPERMCELL DONOR GUY. RUUUUUN! HE'S NOT WORTH IT. HE'S SO FCKING DISGUSTING AND MANIPULATIVE SHT ASSHOLE. CHOOSE A MAN THAT WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU AND LOVE YOU FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
I want you to achieve your goals and be happy. I want you to live for yourself and love your youth more. To be more financially stable, travel and enjoy your life. I want you to look after yourself and not obligated to work to feed your lazy relatives and being a breadwinner is so hard too. Do not abandoned your child to hunger-money people and be more affectionate.
I wish to make you happy and if I got reincarnated, I will choose to be your mother so I can spoil, pamper and give you everything in this world.
I will tell them to go to school and make sure to have a nice future. I want my mom to finished her college degree and to enjoy her life before she become a mom. Save money and be financially ready
I will tell my dad to fix his life. Wag magtanim ng sama ng loob sa pamilya niya. Alam kong magaling siya sana alamin niya yung career na papasukin niya para hindi na siya palaging nabibigo sa mga desisyon na ginagawa niya. Sana maging wise na siya sa pera at iwasan niya na ang pangungutang.
I would tell my dad to save himself and choose another woman even if it means not being able to be born in this world. My dad has been through a lot. Kung hindi lang dahil sa akin, hindi nya papakasalan ang cheater na nanay ko. Abusive, manipulative, lahat na ng masamang description na sa kanya na. Cheater sya even before pa sila ikasal. Pero gaya ng sabi ko, kung hindi dahil sa akin, kung hindi sana ako nabuo, hindi sana magdudusa ang tatay ko sa pagsasama nila. Winaldas lahat ng nanay ko lahat ng pera ng tatay ko na pinaghirapan niya. Binaboy nya ang mga bahay na pinatayo ni daddy para sa pamilya namin sa pagdadala ng ibat ibang lalaki. My dad, kahit hindi nya sabihin at kahit hindi ko sya makitang umiyak sa harap ko kahit ngayon na matanda na ako (24), alam kong dinadamdam pa din nya ang sakit ng nakaraan. I couldn't help not to cry while typing this. Haha tanginang relapse to.
This kind of stories are the reason why I wanted to become a better father to my kids. I have bad upbringing too but not close to yours. I just want to become a better parent and a good person in this world.
Be financially stable before planohing magpamilya pls lang...19 pa kayo non, oo napaaral mo lahat ng kapatid ko pero ako na bunso wala na kayong funds pampaaral sa akin ngayon...kahit nga mga essentials like laptop di nyo kaya provide sa akin, not shaming my parents pero mahirap tanggapin sa side ko na lahat ng kapatid ko nakapagtapos sa magandang university tas ako eh gusto nyo dito nalang sa probinsya kasi wala na kayong pampaaral sa akin at iaasa nyo pa sa mga kapatid ko....tas gusto nyo rin eh(kasama mga kapatid ko)vocational graduate ako tas sila lahat bachelor....in the end ako na magaadjust sa lahat.....tsaka wag nyo na sana dagdagan after si ate ko para lang mabalance ang 2 lalake at 2 Babae sa pamilya ang babaw na rason yun......tapos na sana pamomroblema nyo sa edukasyon ng mga anak nyo kung di kayo nagdagdag ng isa(ako)
You're better off living alone with a thriving business than marrying my dad and having us, your kids, by your side. In short, huwag. Wag mong ituloy. Wag kang magpapatinag sa mga kilos ni daddy. Build your empire, mommy. Continue building yourself.
To my mother:
Don't marry him. Huwag ka magpadala sa dinidikta ng society na you should marry kasi natanda ka na. Huwag ka magpadala kasi ang bait ng in-laws mo ngayong ligawan stage. You wouldn't have a chance to enjoy life, if you'd choose to marry him.
Sana di nyo na lang ako ginawa. Hahaha I cant give them advice kasi too many to mention e. But yeah, sana di nyo na lang ako hinabol at the age of 40(mother) and 48(father)
maaga nyong binuo sa isipan ko na dapat intindihin/kaya mo lahat kasi panganay ka. Malaki tiwala nyo sa akin na kakayanin ko lahat, pero ako mismo walang tiwala sa sarili ko.
Payagan/suportahan nyo ako sa course na gusto ko 🥹
Don't marry my father, I'll teach her or guide her to go far away. I don't mind being born anymore. as long as my mom is in a good situation with a complete happiness and loved by her husband and their child.
Mama sana nagsumikap kang mag-aral at nag-college ka pa din. Humanap ka ng scholarships at itaguyod mo ang sarili mo kahit hindi ka kayang paaralin nila Lolo.
Mag-aaway kayo palagi at di niyo na mamahalin isa't isa sa future, pero sana huwag niyo hayaan mangyari yun. Piliin niyo pa rin ang isa't isa hanggang sa huli.
Also wag niyo na ako ipanganak, or patayin niyo na lang ako kung nabuhay ako na sanggol. Di ko naman ginustong mabuhay in the first place, ang mahalaga masaya kayo.
Enjoy your youth first before getting married. Don't get married just to get out from your nagging parents. And please plan first before having a child. Para hindi napupunta sa panganay na anak ang responsibilidad na magbantay ng kapatid. Ginawa namang batang ina yong panganay. Imagine the trauma. The anger issue, the trust issues. So many more. Pero yan na muna. Kapagod mag type..🤣
Don't get together; you both deserve better. Marry someone na ka-faith nyo, or else you will give each other and your children a lot of heartache and misery.
For context, parents have different religious beliefs.
Wag nyo akong ipaalaga sa Lola ko sa mother side kase narcissistic sya. Sana sa grandparents ko na lang kay papa nyo ako pinaalaga habang nag-aaral kayo para hindi ako nagka trauma. Kahit mahirap ang buhay sa side ni papa nuon at least hindi nila isusumbat sakin na may utang na loob ako sa pagpapalaki nila sakin, unlike sa Lola ko sa mother side.
just abort it. kesa sinasabi mo laging "sana inabort na lang kita". just do it. there is consent na just do it.
do it. yesterday you said tomorrow now tomorrow is today. just. do it.
\*puts thing in palm an closes the palm\* there do it!
Mom don't marry dad. Okay lang naman kahit wala kami basta di ka mapunta sa pamilya nyang puro tanggap lang ang alam at mga walang utang na loob tsaka as much as I love my dad mama he is not good for you. You are a good person and also daddy but its best if you don't end up together.
mom wag po kayo paka blind. ket na ang yayaman nila dad, hindi nakapag tapos si dad dahil “tinatamad” sya pumasok and umasa lng sa business(di lumago). find someone who matches your traits as being goal-driven.
Salamat Pa, pero huwag mo na po ituloy yung CAP College plan nyo po sa akin. Ma babankrupt sila, at hindi nyo po makukuha yung ininvest nyo. Ok lng naman po kasi makakapag college pa rin ako dahil sa sipag nyo po. Salamat po
practice safe sex! nasasayangan ako sa future sana nila both, parehas na silang pa-graduate kaso nabuo si kuya, then me. sayang lang kasi they're both smart and siguro if hindi sila agad nag-family ibang-iba takbo ng buhay nila.
Papa magtapos ka ng pag-aaral at wag magpakalulong sa sugal, dahil sa mga ginawa mong yan hindi ka tuloy naging good provider. Mama humanap ka ng ibang mapapangasawa, or better yet wag ka na mag-asawa mag-enjoy ka na lang sa buhay at career mo.
wag niyo akong pilitin makipagkaibigan sa mga mapagmataas. kasi kahit anong pilit niyo, hindi ko tlga sila magiging kaibigan. oo magkakamali din ako sa pagpili pero malinaw na pagkakamali pa rin ng ipagtulakan ako sa kanila.
You will have a rational child who would have high aspirations. She would most often come off as “pasaway” but trust in her, as she knows exactly how she wants to live her life. Don’t worry, wherever life takes her, she will always come back home to you. She will always look after you no matter how old she becomes. At the age of 23, she will get you both insurance policies to secure your life and all that you will leave behind once you passed this life.
Ma, Pa. Sana nag-invest kayo noon stock market lalo na sa $JFC o nag-franchise man lang ng Jollibee. 😂
Bumili rin sana kayo ng lupa sa Maynila o Makati at nagpatayo ng apartment ganon na rin sa may bandang Tagaytay. Hehe
"MA, hindi totoo na mabait siyang tao dahil lang halos namimigay siya ng pera kaka libre! He is only a people pleaser who will only give you, your children and your parents a sever heartache and suffering. Wag mo siyang pakasalan dahil lang sinabi nila na mabait siya, parang awa mo na! You and lola deserve so much better. Sana piliin mong mag aral para ikaw ang unang degree holder sa mga anak ni lola. Mag aral ka, maging career woman ka, mag travel tapos saka ka mag asawa kapag handa ka na. Okay lang kami na wala kami."
“Mom staying with someone out of pity is not the same as loving them, also your standards were good, bakit ka nagpadala sa awa? He’s a smoker and he drinks, pity is not even in the equation if I were in your position..”
Kung bubuo ng sariling pamilya, h'wag na magbigay sa mga kapatid. Kung bubuo ng sariling pamilya, Learn how to prioritize your own family. Imbes na ang gaan na ng pamumuhay niyo in the future, hanggang tumanda kayo nangangarap pa rin kayo kakaprovide sa mga batugang kapatid ni papa na wala namang utang na loob.
Sana inalagaan niyo din yung anak niyo sa mga una niyo. Kahit papaano lucky kami na we got to be your last kids but knowing na may na neglect kayo, it sucks. May ate at kuya nga kami, pero di kami makapag connect ng maayos kasi disconnected sila sa inyo. Hay.
Mag anak ng dalawa at wag nang maganak pa. Tutal yung dalawa lang na yun yung paborito eh hahaha (at ayaw ko rin naman mabuhay lol)
At magtake muna ng anger management therapy bago mag anak
Wag pakasalan ni mama si papa hays. Tas sasabihin ko na hindi tanggap ng mga anak ni papa si mama kahit anong gagawin niya para sa kanila. For context: 2nd family kasi kami ni papa, patay na una niyang asawa bago pa sila magkakilala ni mama. Kaso ang problema, si papa kasi hindi man lang pinakilala si mama sa kanila ng maayos. Yan tuloy lagi nilang inaaway si mama kahit 30 years na nakakalipas. Kesyo inaagaw daw ni mama yung papa nila or yung bahay na mama daw nila yung tunay na may ari. Di naman inaagaw ni mama eh, gusto niya nga makisama sa kanila para kay papa. Kaso sinisiraan nila kami sa ibang tao hahahah
Sorry nagkwento na hahahahha
I would talk to my mom and tell her she won't be a good parent. Infact I won't be nice about it. I'll tell her she's manipulative and abusive and she would choose to be a woman than a mother.
I would talk to my mother na huwag nyang gamitin lang si Papa, dahil si Papa mahal na mahal sya. Even if it meant di ako mabuhay since panganay ako, atleast hindi masaktan tatay ko. Malay ko baka anak pa din ako ng tatay ko pero atleast baka sa ibang babae na at iba ang nanay ko which is baka mas okay pa.
Shit i feel this so much.
The greatest gift parents can give us is their health.
Si mama grabe kayod para samin nuon na kahit may nararamdaman na sya hindi nagpapatingin sa doktor. Ayan nastroke with complications.
Nandito pa sya pero she's now just a shadow of the person she once was. Hard pill to swallow, but the truth is instead of nakatulong yung kayod to the max nya nuon, naging burden na sya samin ngayon. Kasi nga naging cause ng sakit nya ( and opkors...Financial burdens due to meds etc.)
There are also so many times na i wish na healthy si mama para makasama ko sya sa mga little things and ganaps ko. Like pili ng gown for prom, grad ko, etc.
How i wish i can tell them all this.
Dalawang anak lang ang gawin nyo. Kahit sabihin nyong walang favoritism kawawa yung nasa gitna.
Sa nanay ko, suportahan mo lagi yung ginagawa ni erpats lalo na sa kabuhayan wag laging maghanap ng mali. Kapag ikaw nangunguna sa pagiging pessimistic kesa suporta, titigil talaga yan, kontrabida ka eh.
Sa tatay ko, wag ka maging under para lang sa peace. Wala nang makakapagpamukha sa ginagawa ng asawa mong mali lungdi ikaw.
Hmmm I guess I’d advise my dad not to take that flight… otherwise, he’d still be alive today…
To my mom… sometimes, it’s better to let your kids go out into the world, instead of keeping them overprotected.
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Sa tatay ko: sana di nalang kayo nagpakasal ni mama kung iiwan mo lang pala sya. My mom doesn't deserve you.
To my father: Please kung hindi mo talaga mahal yung nanay ko, huwag na lang kayo magpakasal. Sana tinuloy mo na lang yung pagiging pari mo.
wag mag anak kung hnd nyo kaya subaybayan paglaki nila
Nothing. Having that much power comes at a great cost.
I wish more people from the Gen X era know that its not okay to give in sa pressure ng having a timeline for having a family. My parents had me in less than a year of dating, just because they were 27-28 at the time, both financially ready, and felt like it was the right age to start a family. They were together for only 8 years and separated after. They both said they felt like they rushed into it. They kept reassuring me they don't regret having me though, but I know they do.
Mine was like, my mom just finish a 2 year course sa college. Umuwi sa lugar nila to help my lola, then my father met him. Then decided na gusto siya pakasalan (out of excitement lang dahil maganda), people who knew him sa work said na mabait siya (dahil lang lagi nang lilibre 🙄 people pleaser) at um oo nalang siya. Even the elders kept bothering her na pakasalan siya. So she said yes. Then, 13 years later of physical, emotional and verbal abuse... they separated. Ang masaklap pa, yung lola ko who trusted them, ipinangalan kila mama lahat sana ng ari arian niya. It became a conjugal property. My father claimed it was him who worked hard for all those properties when in fact kahit 6 digits ang sahod niya, iisang lote lang talaga ang pundar niya dahil sa kakalibre, inuman, sugal, sabong at pang babae niya. Meanwhile, my lolo died without tasting the comfort of life. My lola at the age of 60, nangangatulong pa kasi ayaw umasa sa mga anak nila. 🥲 I feel so hurt and heart broken. Kung totoo lang talaga ang time machine, I myself will beg my mom na wag siyang pakasalan or tatambangan ko pa father ko para lang bantaan na wag siyang lapitan 😭😭😭
Mag-therapy muna kayo bago magpakasal kasi naipasa niyo na ang generational trauma. Sa tingin ko, I'm meant to be your child kaya ako nabuhay sa mundong to. that if things were dealt differently, I just know that I'll be able to find my way to you guys. Because I'm meant to walk this earth with you. I love you guys. Karamihan ng mga ginagawa ko dinededicate ko sa inyo dahil inalagaan niyo ko at pinakita niyo sa akin kung hanggang saan ang kaya ng isang taong gawin para sa mahal niya. Madami akong natutunan mula sa inyo. Pero I just wish that things were different. Sana naging supportive kayo sa mga pangarap namin. Sana wala kayong favoritism. Sana nagkaron kami ng space para mapakinggan nung bata pa kami para hindi kami naging adults na clueless kung may karapatan ba kami makaramdam o hindi. Hala ambilis ng ikot, ang taas pa ng tagay. Charot.
To my biological parents, sana nung lumandi kayo nag condom kayo edi sana hindi ako nahihirapan. Gagawa kayo ng bata ipapaampon nyo pala.
Kilalanin mo muna yang lalake na yan bago ka magpabuntis. Hindi porket sayo umuuwi e wala nang sabit.
If you're not financially ready, just ab0rt me instead of raising me as your retirement plan. I'm f-- overdosed on all the pressure that I'm experiencing.
Invest, save money, wag sasama sa mga kaibigan na puro utang ang alam para hindi mahawa. Wag kang magdali, kunin mo yung gusto mong pangarap para hindi ang mga anak mo ang aabot ng gusto mo para sayo. Give them a freedom to choose what they want to do and make sure that they are in the right path. At please lang ma namili ka ng mabait na mapapangasawa.
Don't have children. Live your lives.
Invest in Microsoft Stocks kahit hindi ganoong kalaki
Kung gagawin nyo lang din pala kaming retirement plan sana nag apply nalang kayo ng life insurance
I am not a pet to be raised and compared to other people's children for your silly status games. I am not a puppet commanded for your amusement. I am not free child labor. My intelligence must be nurtured, not stifled because of your insecurities. You are not omniscient, my opinions matter too.
Teach your kids how to use finances properly.
Mag aral na muna kayo ng financial literacy at wag gawing investment portfolio ang anak. Mag ipon, kumuha ng insurance at wag mamigay ng pera
mom, pls run as fast you can! do not marry that guy! it's ok if i won't exist. i just want you to live a better life.
Wag kayong malandi! hahahaha! 😂
Ma wag kang sumama kay tatay dahil lang tumatakas ka sa hirap. Tay sana nagsawa ka muna sa babae bago mo tinanan ang mama ko.
your rotting relationship can't be fixed by having me.
Enough with 4 kids, you're too old to raise another one.
ma wag ma dakilang ama, iresponsable yang putang inang yan
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WAG PLS
Wag
You don't need me. Pursue your dreams. Do what you want. Be financially and mentally ready. Learn how to communicate. Be present. Let your future child enjoy their childhood. Do not hold them back. It's okay if you make mistakes. Support them.
isali niyo ko sa maraming extracurricular activities pls, wag niyo ko hayaan mabulok sa bahay. Isalang niyo ko sa acting workshop, swimming lessons, etc.
Be successful and have a family plan first before giving birth to a child. Base on my own experience as a child. My parents gave birth to us when they were still finding out which field they were stepping onto. As they continue to walk and find their right path, we were already growing up and getting what they can give. It was enough but JUST enough for us to live the present but not for the future. Their perspective: is once they reach the end it’s our turn to find our own way without any help from the people who started our path.
Even if this means, them not giving a life to a human like me
I would tell my mom not to marry my dad even if that means I won't exist in this lifetime anymore.
Be present. Be there for your child. Don't let her have both mommy and daddy issues. You don't want that to happen.
+ Pursue your dreams first. + Learn how to communicate. + Tough love is not the best route in disciplining your children. Do not invalidate their feelings.
Sabihin ko sa nanay ko ok lang di niya kailangan pakasalan tatay ko, tumuloy na siya mag migrate, piliin ang sarili. Kaya niya mag isa malakas siya.
I'd want them to enjoy their life as a married couple and better their lives first. I don't want to see them suffering the consequences of raising children while they're financially unstable. I love them so much no matter what I'm willing to not exist just so there's less mouth for them to feed.
Better to be selfish to the families that you were born into rather than the family that you are building. It is not your obligation to support them in everything that they need and want since you have your own family now. in the end, it’s not those families that will move mountains to help you in your old age.
Mi, gumamit kayo ng condom para hindi ako mabuo. And please, ‘wag na si dadi kasi marami syang panganay sa siquijor. ‘Wag na rin step father ko kasi bata pa sya and hindi nya kayang buhayin ‘yung 3 siblings ko.
Please use condom
Ipunas niyo nalang po ako sa kumot, please. Ako din naman ang sasalo ng lahat. Pagod na po ako 🥲
sending hugs w/ consenttt! kaya mo yannn! 🤗🫂
Both of you ain’t fit to raise a child. I’d rather not be born than have these childhood traumas me and my brother have to endure.
Please abort me, you have 4 more kids to take care of anyways. You're too old to have another one, it only puts your life at risk. Lalaki lang akong mag-isa kasi I'm too young to have fun with my siblings or cousins and I'm too old to play with my nieces and nephews. I'll only become the center of your worries dahil sa mental health ko. And also to the doctors - please prioritize the health of my mother first, don't try to save me, don't insist on saving me. I was thankful that we both survived the birth, but the baby you refused to give up continues to wish that she never survived that day.
Sending hugs 🥺
Mom. You saw the red flag already. Don’t walk, run. Marriage won’t fix him. He won’t be a better man after. You’ll be a battered wife, your kids will suffer later on.
#MA, WAG SI PAPA, AYAW KONG MABUHAY SA MUNDO, CHAR
Not him. U guys are better off as friends. Don't ruin your lives.
To my mom, PLEASE DO NOT ENGAGE OR MARRY THAT FCKING SPERMCELL DONOR GUY. RUUUUUN! HE'S NOT WORTH IT. HE'S SO FCKING DISGUSTING AND MANIPULATIVE SHT ASSHOLE. CHOOSE A MAN THAT WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU AND LOVE YOU FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. I want you to achieve your goals and be happy. I want you to live for yourself and love your youth more. To be more financially stable, travel and enjoy your life. I want you to look after yourself and not obligated to work to feed your lazy relatives and being a breadwinner is so hard too. Do not abandoned your child to hunger-money people and be more affectionate. I wish to make you happy and if I got reincarnated, I will choose to be your mother so I can spoil, pamper and give you everything in this world.
Don't vaccinate me.
Make sure you are well off and can provide for your family before even thinking about making a child
I will tell them to go to school and make sure to have a nice future. I want my mom to finished her college degree and to enjoy her life before she become a mom. Save money and be financially ready I will tell my dad to fix his life. Wag magtanim ng sama ng loob sa pamilya niya. Alam kong magaling siya sana alamin niya yung career na papasukin niya para hindi na siya palaging nabibigo sa mga desisyon na ginagawa niya. Sana maging wise na siya sa pera at iwasan niya na ang pangungutang.
Mag-aral muna instead magpamilya
I would tell my dad to save himself and choose another woman even if it means not being able to be born in this world. My dad has been through a lot. Kung hindi lang dahil sa akin, hindi nya papakasalan ang cheater na nanay ko. Abusive, manipulative, lahat na ng masamang description na sa kanya na. Cheater sya even before pa sila ikasal. Pero gaya ng sabi ko, kung hindi dahil sa akin, kung hindi sana ako nabuo, hindi sana magdudusa ang tatay ko sa pagsasama nila. Winaldas lahat ng nanay ko lahat ng pera ng tatay ko na pinaghirapan niya. Binaboy nya ang mga bahay na pinatayo ni daddy para sa pamilya namin sa pagdadala ng ibat ibang lalaki. My dad, kahit hindi nya sabihin at kahit hindi ko sya makitang umiyak sa harap ko kahit ngayon na matanda na ako (24), alam kong dinadamdam pa din nya ang sakit ng nakaraan. I couldn't help not to cry while typing this. Haha tanginang relapse to.
Sending hugs 🫂 naiyak ako. Ur dad is one in a million.
that’s sad.
Haha yeah story of my life
This kind of stories are the reason why I wanted to become a better father to my kids. I have bad upbringing too but not close to yours. I just want to become a better parent and a good person in this world.
I am in no position to say this pero this kind of thought is already a step on becoming a better person.
Be financially stable before planohing magpamilya pls lang...19 pa kayo non, oo napaaral mo lahat ng kapatid ko pero ako na bunso wala na kayong funds pampaaral sa akin ngayon...kahit nga mga essentials like laptop di nyo kaya provide sa akin, not shaming my parents pero mahirap tanggapin sa side ko na lahat ng kapatid ko nakapagtapos sa magandang university tas ako eh gusto nyo dito nalang sa probinsya kasi wala na kayong pampaaral sa akin at iaasa nyo pa sa mga kapatid ko....tas gusto nyo rin eh(kasama mga kapatid ko)vocational graduate ako tas sila lahat bachelor....in the end ako na magaadjust sa lahat.....tsaka wag nyo na sana dagdagan after si ate ko para lang mabalance ang 2 lalake at 2 Babae sa pamilya ang babaw na rason yun......tapos na sana pamomroblema nyo sa edukasyon ng mga anak nyo kung di kayo nagdagdag ng isa(ako)
Wag maghabol ng lalaking anak.
Learn financial education :-)
to my mom, please don't marry that man! i'd rather be a part of someone else's life than see you suffer.
DONT HAVE KIDS AND STOP DRINKING
Dont
To achieve their dreams first before entering into parenthood.
Contraception LOL I didn't sign up for this shit
please name me "Ariana"
You're better off living alone with a thriving business than marrying my dad and having us, your kids, by your side. In short, huwag. Wag mong ituloy. Wag kang magpapatinag sa mga kilos ni daddy. Build your empire, mommy. Continue building yourself.
practice safe sex
Purchase a lot of land
Let go of casinos.. and take good care of your health
Buy as much bitcoin as you can
guys have u ever heard of this amazing invention made in the 1860's that will save ur lives called the condom? 😀👍
advice: be ready, kind, and understanding if ur kids are or aren’t lgbt
Don't let me eat seafood I will have a cancer
To my mother: Don't marry him. Huwag ka magpadala sa dinidikta ng society na you should marry kasi natanda ka na. Huwag ka magpadala kasi ang bait ng in-laws mo ngayong ligawan stage. You wouldn't have a chance to enjoy life, if you'd choose to marry him.
Wag.
Plain and simple. Wag.
Sana di nyo na lang ako ginawa. Hahaha I cant give them advice kasi too many to mention e. But yeah, sana di nyo na lang ako hinabol at the age of 40(mother) and 48(father)
Wag kayong gumawa ng maraming anak, kami mahihirapan.
Spend your money wisely and think first before having more children (if you can really provide their basic needs)
Mag usap kayo about sa pera kasi kailangan yan sa buhay mag-asawa.
Tanggapin nyo na yung inalok na bitcoin!!!
Having more children will not fix your marriage. Especially hindi kayo prepared mag anak. You are good providers but bad parents.
Mag-invest sa Educational Insurance
Goodluck 😅🙂
Focus on me please
Save and invest.
Sanayin niyo ko manhood ng English wag puro son goku at mr bean
maaga nyong binuo sa isipan ko na dapat intindihin/kaya mo lahat kasi panganay ka. Malaki tiwala nyo sa akin na kakayanin ko lahat, pero ako mismo walang tiwala sa sarili ko. Payagan/suportahan nyo ako sa course na gusto ko 🥹
I don't wanna be born🫠
I don't wanna be born🫠
Don't marry my father, I'll teach her or guide her to go far away. I don't mind being born anymore. as long as my mom is in a good situation with a complete happiness and loved by her husband and their child.
Mama sana nagsumikap kang mag-aral at nag-college ka pa din. Humanap ka ng scholarships at itaguyod mo ang sarili mo kahit hindi ka kayang paaralin nila Lolo.
Wag kayo bili nanv bili ng mga abubot anliit ng bahay natin
I hope you don't regret having me, cause I'm kind of a spoiled piece of work. Thanks for everything!
Use contraception. Or rather just get sterilized. Also, mom should have worked not just a housewife. You should have pursued your dreams instead.
Wag kayo magkatuluyan. Hindi lang kayo magdudusa. Pati kami 🥲
Mag-aaway kayo palagi at di niyo na mamahalin isa't isa sa future, pero sana huwag niyo hayaan mangyari yun. Piliin niyo pa rin ang isa't isa hanggang sa huli. Also wag niyo na ako ipanganak, or patayin niyo na lang ako kung nabuhay ako na sanggol. Di ko naman ginustong mabuhay in the first place, ang mahalaga masaya kayo.
Have only one kid, or at least two.
To ma, Please wag kang sumama sa nakabuntis sayo. Alagaan at itaguyod mo si kuya mag isa. Wag mo na ring pakasalan si papa, may ibang pamilya na siya.
I hope you think through before making such decisions. ❤️🩹
Mahirap lang kayo, isang anak lang gawin nyo
Enjoy your youth first before getting married. Don't get married just to get out from your nagging parents. And please plan first before having a child. Para hindi napupunta sa panganay na anak ang responsibilidad na magbantay ng kapatid. Ginawa namang batang ina yong panganay. Imagine the trauma. The anger issue, the trust issues. So many more. Pero yan na muna. Kapagod mag type..🤣
Dont ever play favorites because it can ruin the unfavored child 💯
Don't get together; you both deserve better. Marry someone na ka-faith nyo, or else you will give each other and your children a lot of heartache and misery. For context, parents have different religious beliefs.
Don't marry dad instead pursue your dreams.
Don't have a child unless your financially stable
Wag nyo akong ipaalaga sa Lola ko sa mother side kase narcissistic sya. Sana sa grandparents ko na lang kay papa nyo ako pinaalaga habang nag-aaral kayo para hindi ako nagka trauma. Kahit mahirap ang buhay sa side ni papa nuon at least hindi nila isusumbat sakin na may utang na loob ako sa pagpapalaki nila sakin, unlike sa Lola ko sa mother side.
Ma, sana pinatuloy mo na lang yung teaching mo... Wag ka sanang nakinig kay papa. Yun lang tsaka wag puro sugal
just abort it. kesa sinasabi mo laging "sana inabort na lang kita". just do it. there is consent na just do it. do it. yesterday you said tomorrow now tomorrow is today. just. do it. \*puts thing in palm an closes the palm\* there do it!
Mom don't marry dad. Okay lang naman kahit wala kami basta di ka mapunta sa pamilya nyang puro tanggap lang ang alam at mga walang utang na loob tsaka as much as I love my dad mama he is not good for you. You are a good person and also daddy but its best if you don't end up together.
mom wag po kayo paka blind. ket na ang yayaman nila dad, hindi nakapag tapos si dad dahil “tinatamad” sya pumasok and umasa lng sa business(di lumago). find someone who matches your traits as being goal-driven.
Please don’t get married.
I hope you were ready to have me and you’re financially prepared to raise me
Salamat Pa, pero huwag mo na po ituloy yung CAP College plan nyo po sa akin. Ma babankrupt sila, at hindi nyo po makukuha yung ininvest nyo. Ok lng naman po kasi makakapag college pa rin ako dahil sa sipag nyo po. Salamat po
Enjoyin nyo na pagkabinata bago magpakasal. Hindi yung magbibigay kayo ng trauma sa anak nyo dahil sa di nyo matigil tigil na pambabae.
practice safe sex! nasasayangan ako sa future sana nila both, parehas na silang pa-graduate kaso nabuo si kuya, then me. sayang lang kasi they're both smart and siguro if hindi sila agad nag-family ibang-iba takbo ng buhay nila.
Sana openminded kayo
Papa magtapos ka ng pag-aaral at wag magpakalulong sa sugal, dahil sa mga ginawa mong yan hindi ka tuloy naging good provider. Mama humanap ka ng ibang mapapangasawa, or better yet wag ka na mag-asawa mag-enjoy ka na lang sa buhay at career mo.
tangina bat niyo pinamigay savings niyo
Wag kayong mag aanak kung iiwanan nyo lang din naman.
one kid is enough, (bunso here)
Wag nyo po akong gawing investment.
Abort me please.
wag niyo akong pilitin makipagkaibigan sa mga mapagmataas. kasi kahit anong pilit niyo, hindi ko tlga sila magiging kaibigan. oo magkakamali din ako sa pagpili pero malinaw na pagkakamali pa rin ng ipagtulakan ako sa kanila.
Abort me.
Heal before you start a family
JUST DON’T
Ma, wag si papa ang piliin mong mapangasawa. Pa, matuto kang mag-sumikap sa buhay.
Iputok nyo nalang ako sa kumot.
Ginagawa niyo? Abort niyo na ko mga beh
You will have a rational child who would have high aspirations. She would most often come off as “pasaway” but trust in her, as she knows exactly how she wants to live her life. Don’t worry, wherever life takes her, she will always come back home to you. She will always look after you no matter how old she becomes. At the age of 23, she will get you both insurance policies to secure your life and all that you will leave behind once you passed this life.
BUY BITCON…now!!!
BUY BITCOiN…now!!!
Enjoy life, be happy, and live healthy.
Abort me.
Ma, Pa. Sana nag-invest kayo noon stock market lalo na sa $JFC o nag-franchise man lang ng Jollibee. 😂 Bumili rin sana kayo ng lupa sa Maynila o Makati at nagpatayo ng apartment ganon na rin sa may bandang Tagaytay. Hehe
Ma, wag ka na mag volleyball. Jan mo makukuha ung bukol mo na intime magiging cancerous 😢
Plan b
Dad shouldn’t cheated on mom. Dad wanted a normal family however it really doesn’t work. You should be better.
Wear condoms
never have kids
"MA, hindi totoo na mabait siyang tao dahil lang halos namimigay siya ng pera kaka libre! He is only a people pleaser who will only give you, your children and your parents a sever heartache and suffering. Wag mo siyang pakasalan dahil lang sinabi nila na mabait siya, parang awa mo na! You and lola deserve so much better. Sana piliin mong mag aral para ikaw ang unang degree holder sa mga anak ni lola. Mag aral ka, maging career woman ka, mag travel tapos saka ka mag asawa kapag handa ka na. Okay lang kami na wala kami."
You don't have to let me live. He's a monster who violated you. I would have understood.
“Mom staying with someone out of pity is not the same as loving them, also your standards were good, bakit ka nagpadala sa awa? He’s a smoker and he drinks, pity is not even in the equation if I were in your position..”
You should've chosen the man you were in love at that time because you are just going to cheat with him anyway. Lol
iputok mo sa labas pa
to everyone who wanted to be skipped or not live. ya'll have no imagination. I'll them the lotto numbers for specific dates.
Make sure you're financially stable before building a family.
Para kay mama, sana piliin mo makapagtapos kesa kay papa
Engage in safe sex. If I really had the chance, I'd tell my mom to not get involved with my dad.
Don’t meet my dad and stay in the U.S.
Abort my sister
pumili ka ng maayos na tatay para sa magiging anak mo ma. kasi ikaw yung may choice, ako wala.
No, Mama. Not that man.
Same. I'll tell her that he's a walking red flag.
Kung bubuo ng sariling pamilya, h'wag na magbigay sa mga kapatid. Kung bubuo ng sariling pamilya, Learn how to prioritize your own family. Imbes na ang gaan na ng pamumuhay niyo in the future, hanggang tumanda kayo nangangarap pa rin kayo kakaprovide sa mga batugang kapatid ni papa na wala namang utang na loob.
Wag na kayo mag-anak. Please lang. Tama na si kuya at ate. Wag niyo ng gawin 5 ang anak niyo.
"Your first born is right. Force all your kids to have proper education. No matter what it takes."
Sana inalagaan niyo din yung anak niyo sa mga una niyo. Kahit papaano lucky kami na we got to be your last kids but knowing na may na neglect kayo, it sucks. May ate at kuya nga kami, pero di kami makapag connect ng maayos kasi disconnected sila sa inyo. Hay.
Wear fucking condoms! Kapag nakalusot pa rin, ABORT! You both know you don't know how to be parents. Save me the misery of being your only child.
Sana nag family planning kayo. 2 is enough, 12 is too much.
Mag anak ng dalawa at wag nang maganak pa. Tutal yung dalawa lang na yun yung paborito eh hahaha (at ayaw ko rin naman mabuhay lol) At magtake muna ng anger management therapy bago mag anak
Wag pakasalan ni mama si papa hays. Tas sasabihin ko na hindi tanggap ng mga anak ni papa si mama kahit anong gagawin niya para sa kanila. For context: 2nd family kasi kami ni papa, patay na una niyang asawa bago pa sila magkakilala ni mama. Kaso ang problema, si papa kasi hindi man lang pinakilala si mama sa kanila ng maayos. Yan tuloy lagi nilang inaaway si mama kahit 30 years na nakakalipas. Kesyo inaagaw daw ni mama yung papa nila or yung bahay na mama daw nila yung tunay na may ari. Di naman inaagaw ni mama eh, gusto niya nga makisama sa kanila para kay papa. Kaso sinisiraan nila kami sa ibang tao hahahah Sorry nagkwento na hahahahha
I would talk to my mom and tell her she won't be a good parent. Infact I won't be nice about it. I'll tell her she's manipulative and abusive and she would choose to be a woman than a mother.
I would talk to my mother na huwag nyang gamitin lang si Papa, dahil si Papa mahal na mahal sya. Even if it meant di ako mabuhay since panganay ako, atleast hindi masaktan tatay ko. Malay ko baka anak pa din ako ng tatay ko pero atleast baka sa ibang babae na at iba ang nanay ko which is baka mas okay pa.
Use condom
Leave each other, end the relationship.
please wag kayong mag segs on this month
Skip me
Make sure to be responsible as parents.
Finish school, graduate and find a decent job.
u shouldve accepted that job abroad, but hey, it is what it is.
Wag niyo ituloy ang kasal. Magiging toxic kayo sa isat isa.
"Please, pigilan niyo sila lolo at lola na mag-invest sa Malaysian scammer na 'yoooooon."
ipaampon nalang nila ako sa mayaman please.
Wag na kayo mag-anak
they should have marry each other’s first love :)
Please look after your health and don’t work too much. I know iniisip niyo ang kapakanan namin, but we want you with us pagtanda namin.
Shit i feel this so much. The greatest gift parents can give us is their health. Si mama grabe kayod para samin nuon na kahit may nararamdaman na sya hindi nagpapatingin sa doktor. Ayan nastroke with complications. Nandito pa sya pero she's now just a shadow of the person she once was. Hard pill to swallow, but the truth is instead of nakatulong yung kayod to the max nya nuon, naging burden na sya samin ngayon. Kasi nga naging cause ng sakit nya ( and opkors...Financial burdens due to meds etc.) There are also so many times na i wish na healthy si mama para makasama ko sya sa mga little things and ganaps ko. Like pili ng gown for prom, grad ko, etc. How i wish i can tell them all this.
I-abort nila yung pangatlong anak nila (which is ako). Hindi ko gustong mabuhay.
Hugs with consent. 🥹 Still, thank you for existing. Laban lang, pahinga kung kinakailangan.
Was gonna type this. Save me the misery.
Yakap sa atin! Ang hirap mag exist 🥹
Mag condom para di ka na sinilang?
DON'T SELL THE DAMN HOUSE! FIND ANOTHER WAY >.<
Dalawang anak lang ang gawin nyo. Kahit sabihin nyong walang favoritism kawawa yung nasa gitna. Sa nanay ko, suportahan mo lagi yung ginagawa ni erpats lalo na sa kabuhayan wag laging maghanap ng mali. Kapag ikaw nangunguna sa pagiging pessimistic kesa suporta, titigil talaga yan, kontrabida ka eh. Sa tatay ko, wag ka maging under para lang sa peace. Wala nang makakapagpamukha sa ginagawa ng asawa mong mali lungdi ikaw.
I'll warn my mom not to marry my womanizer dad.
to mom: run away to dad: you should know better
I would ask them to not get meet at all, I would ask my mom to find an afam and my papa to fuck himself.
Teach your children how to love and love them back as well.
Hmmm I guess I’d advise my dad not to take that flight… otherwise, he’d still be alive today… To my mom… sometimes, it’s better to let your kids go out into the world, instead of keeping them overprotected.
Be friends first and please have a family business here