I took a class about 10 years ago on how to do threat assessments. We did a field exercise where we needed to test the vulnerabilities af a public building. My team was assigned to an aquarium. We got clipboard, hard hats and safety vest. Walked all through this aquarium including the water treatment area where hazardous chemicals are stored. No one challenged us.
Amateur.
You're such a a noob that you don't even know how to look annoyed. The annoying look goes on the outside for others to see, not inside to be solely burdened by you. /s
When I was stationed in Germany I held a few different “roles” or jobs within our brigade HQ unit. I was damn good at my jobs and was holding positions a few ranks above my pay grade. Short staffed where they were supposed to be and I had it handled so they let me be. Well, I used that freedom to my advantage as any good military individual would do. Always, and I mean always have a pressed uniform, highly shined boots and couple it with just looking like you are busy and on a mission, no one messes with you. I would walk around with a few folders with some paper in it everywhere. Walk with a purpose. Finally after about a year and a half of this we got a SSG in to take over two of the roles I was filling. As an E4. I came into the office one day towards the beginning of our time training him up and he opened one of the folders. Asked about the blank papers. He was a super cool guy and I liked him a lot so explained that as long as you looked official and busy everyone left you alone. All I did was spend 3/4’s of my day walking around base chatting with people. He about died laughing.
I have worked in construction for 4 years now , and I have learned to just walk around with a tool or material in your hand and nobody bats an eye… haven’t don any actual work in years now
Being nice/fair to people that usually get a lot of shit (front desk workers, service workers, customer service etc etc) they will mostly take that extra step if you actually need their help sometime. Walk for their boss, run for the person that treats them fairly.
We got flight tickets back back home after being out of the country, and we're given seats reserved for sterwardesses, all because we were the first nice people at customer service. We waited 4 hours to find out we weren't getting on the second flight after our delay, and by not being a dick, we got to sleep in fully reclining chairs with a privacy curtain lol
Not as good of a story as yours but I once got a $50 Bath and Body works gift card for being "The first person who didn't yell at the customer service agent the week" Kindness pays off!
My adopted dad taught me this in the form of lunch ladies (cafeteria workers).
“Take care of them and they will take care of you.”
At camp, there was the angelic being named gladys, God rest her soul.
She could cook some friend chicken. Like for real. She would also have the kitchen on lock down.
So i would see how she was and if she needed anything. Eventually, she would fill up more on your plate or leave out extra food when i was a staff member.
I would also like to share my wisdom gathered.
What started out as advice, turned into a means of getting better and more food.
However, now I have learned a very valuable lesson.
Being kind and content. I grew to love building relationships with those who work in service and even more of saying no to extra when i was content with what was on my plate. It began to be more than what i can get and now just knowing that relationships help brighten both our days.
Love and peace.
This is key. I've done this because I've seen people go unappreciated. After all, others thought they were better than said person. Not only is it the decent thing to do, but holy shit, they go out of their way to keep you informed and help you out. I wasn't expecting a payback, but that's what I got.
An old boss used to say that mistakes were the best opportunity to show your customers who you are. Mistakes are inevitable, and your competitors are also making their own mistakes, so just making a mistake doesn’t reflect too poorly on you. Own your mistake, apologize, and then do the best you can to fix it. Keep the customer informed, be responsive to their inquiries, be proactive with updates, and you’ll come out at the end smelling like roses.
My old mentor said That he Made more deals Fixing mistakes than he did getting everything right. That letting them see how you acted in a time of crisis made them much more comfortable doing business with you.
Yes, learned this the hard way. It’s difficult to walk up to someone and tell them what’s happened, but harder still when they realise your mistake _and_ you kept it from them.
Took a drama class in high school and when we were rehearsing some scene and someone messed up, the teacher told us that "if you flub a line, just say it again. The less attention you bring to it, the less attention it will get". Basically don't apologize profusely because it looks weaker.
Got let go from a job for owning my mistakes and colleagues with some mistake level or more mistakes were kept because they were sillet bout their mistakes till cornered. But i still believe owing my mistaken was right choice
this. ive seen people get stuck at the most simple things just because theyre a pein in the ass, and conversely, people with huuuuge situations getting they way just because manners
Make sure if you’re going to compliment appearances, make it about the thing and not the person. “You look nice.” can be taken the wrong way from/by the wrong person. Instead use “That’s a nice shirt/cool haircut/good looking shoes.” This compliments the person’s tastes and is less of a potential HR issue.
I just had a guy at my work lose his job because of something like this.
This is a straight up sales tactic for building credibility. “I don’t know but I’ll find out for you by X date” can work far better than BSing the answer.
The issue is people confuse themselves because the fact is intelligent people have knowledge, so they assume lack of any form of knowledge is lack of intelligence. Bonus, the cherry pick with knowledge is worthy of making you intelligent.
Cook your spices in the oil briefly before adding the main dish you’re cooking.
It wakes up the spices and adds more flavor.
I find it’s better than cooking the dish then adding the spices as you go.
UNLESS you are browning the onions! If you add the spices first, I think they might burn\* before the onions brown. (\* might depend on which spices) So if you are browning onions, I like the following sequence:
Saute onions until starting to brown
Add garlic and spices and saute for a 2-3 minutes (or until whole spices start to crackle and pop)
Then add the other ingredients.
shutting the F up. Dont tell people you are going to do something. Do the thing and let them find out about it.
Having accomplishments that you dont feel the need to flaunt is power. nobody is impressed by what youre *going* to do
I agree halfway, but nothing wrong about talking with friends about what you thinking of doing or telling them what you are working on right now. Otherwise people feel left out and they feel like they have to draw everything out of your nose
If you do a big project and the fail rate high, not talking about it, is probably a good idea
Some people damage passively their self worth talking about such stuff
Figure it out for yourself
100%
If you say good things about people behind their back, you come across as genuinely thinking these things and as a really positive person. It works in everyone’s favour and will boost your image! In my experience it’s helped me be more well-liked and fit in better in the workplace as well.
Just doing the first step of any task is usually enough to ensure you follow through to completion. This could be as trivial as packing your exercise bag or changing into your exercise clothes, or even just showing up at work.
Treat everyone with dignity and respect. The lower rung on the ladder or service, the better you treat them. You will be amazed at how well your life will improve
Well, the interest rates are high for everyone now, so it was more about being lucky to take low interest debt a few years ago.
But even someone that's poor can prioritize paying off higher interest debts first by saving more. When I was in bad credit card debt and unemployed, I lied about having income and got a new 0% promotional intro(first 12 months) credit card then transferred my debt for 3%. When I got a job in a few months, I could pay off the new credit card debt quickly with no new interest accrued.
Even if someone has a payday loan(ideally they don't), they can use a credit card to pay it off to lower their interest rate.
And sometimes you can use personal loans to pay off a credit card debt to save on the interest.
In summary, there are always options to save on the interest. But yes, it's harder when you're poor and you have to break the cycle with less money.
And once you're free of high interest debts like credit card, you can invest in index funds every month and start getting interest on your money even if it's $100 a month, interest adds up.
One of my local breakfast places charges like $8 for a single biscuit and gravy; but I can order a side of 2 biscuits and side of gravy for like $6 total.
My work tip would be to seize opportunities if that suits your needs. My manager said this one woman in my department is retiring in the next year. I decided I can learn what she does and then when her position opens up I’d be a shoe in.
Or they’ll have you do her work without giving you the position. Unless you have to learn face to face then keep it secret, otherwise they’ll just expect you to do the work since you already know it.
God, I worked at a firm that did this in the worst way. Lawyers typically get "billable bonuses" if they bill more hours than they're required to in a year. This firm pitched itself as work/life balance oriented, and capped bonuses at a certain number of hours to encourage people to actually take vacations.
Except for one woman, a good friend of mine. Capped out her bonus every year, so they just kept dumping work on her for the free hours while all the rest of us were so starved for work we could barely meet the minimum requirement, and often didn't.
I’m a doctor and if I could put exercise in a pill, people will be busting down my office door begging for it as a miracle cure for so many of their issues
This is going to be a dumb question, but one I don’t want to ask a doctor face to face due to how dumb it sounds in my head.
Does strenuous work activity for an 8 hour day count as exercise? I walk 10-15 miles 5 days a week while also lifting heavy things continuously.
You don’t even have to work out, just staying active is enough. I hate the gym but I try to go biking, rock climbing and bowling as much as I can and I have way more fun than doing curls in the gym.
Yup. I hit a rut after a 3 week run and I almost was wondering why I'm feeling so depressed. I'm like.. oh, I haven't been to the gym or been active this week...
If something happens, and you can't get it off your mind, sit in quiet for a while. No phone, no games, maybe a walk. Your brain will work it out, just give it time
1. Be grateful for what you have before buying anything new.
2. Practice replacing “I should” with “I can/will”
3. Communicate your emotions to friends/partners and ask them about theirs.
4. Learn to ask for support when you need it.
I see this one all the time
Must be some shitty companies and people redditors work with.
Every place I worrked there was maybe one or two aholes in the bunch.
Everyone else?
Still pals with so many of them, over many decades.
Thank god for all the great people I worked with.
Note that that doesn't really apply in jobs with a low barrier of entry. Most people don't give a fuck about the job and are just trying to get a paycheck at the end of the month.
I work in the film industry. This comment does not relate as some of my co-workers are real friends outside of work. It's great not working with dicks 👍
I’ve learned from experience and made the habit of telling each coworker something completely unique about me and seeing what info gets back to me via rumors.
I then dictate who can and can’t be trusted based on this info. I don’t go on the attack but I just accept that those people can’t be told anything unless I’m okay with it being public info.
Personally, I can not stand people who can’t keep things to themselves, especially the ones that blow it out of proportion just so they can have an exciting story to tell others.
My religious cousin at university was in the room when all his friends were talking about sex, and he was cooking. Then they asked for his opinion and he said this.
Eating whole foods is the "secret" diet hack to better health. Literally stick to veggies, fruits, nuts, tubers, and meat and you will feel better. Eat the junk if you must but instead of 5 or 6 oreos just eat 1 or 2 and enjoy them lil thangs. Moderate paced walks are incredibly good for you. 2 or 3 ten min walks a day fantastic for you. If you work an office job and can't find the time to hit the gym start "greasing the groove" and do lil exercises here and there strewn about the day. Pushups, pullups, squats, planks whatever! If you can consistently eat whole foods and do little exercises here and there your quality of life will improve.
If you want people to think you are smart, shut up. Don’t say anything. Just listen to what other people are saying, and look like you are deeply concentrating on stuff.
Best thing I’ve found that’s a real life cheat code is turning your head when you’re walking in busy areas.
You know all those times that get the pedestrian rage going I.e when people walk straight into you or push you out of your ideal walking line.
The solution is you just LOOK at the direction you’re going to go and 99% of peoples brains see it unconsciously (or actively see it) and get out of your way or move in a way that’s more accessible for you. Look it up it’s surprisingly a real thing!!
I learned this when I lived in central London. I always look over the person walking towards me’s left shoulder (my right). It is amazing how people just instinctively move out of your way.
If it doesn’t look like they are moving, I’ll make a face like I’m excited to see someone behind them and then they move, but 99% of the time, people just move over.
The reddit app has a history that saves every single post you interact with including just visiting it. Clear it often because this is reddit. You shouldn't have to explain how you wound up seeing posts about dragons fucking cars.
Don't volunteer information, EVER. Stranger, over the phone customer service, cop, etc. Don't say nothin' until specifically asked. I work in a call center and people give waaaaay too much before I even say 'hello', that's how accounts get compromised.
If you are on Hold and no options get you to a human SWEAR LOUDLY into the phone. The F word seems to work the best. A lot of times there is a machine listening to your responses and swearing will get you to a person WAY faster than wasting your time just waiting. I have about an 85 percent success ratio at getting a human operator this way, I SWEAR it works.
I live my life by trying to increase the purchasing power of my dollars. In everything you do find a way to make your 1$ worth more than just a 1$.
Some suggestions.
Opening a new credit card for any big purchases for the introductory lump sum cash back deal. Instead of paying full purchase price you basically get a $200+ discount. Only works or is beneficial if you immediately pay the credit card off.
Never use a debit card. You’re losing 1-5% on cashback by not using a credit card. Set it up like this: have a savings account where your paychecks go to. Have a checking account that auto drafts from the savings whenever you reach a minimum amount in the checking (the minimum should be enough to pay all of your bills if they hit at once, including if you maxed out the credit card). Have the credit card set to auto pay the entire monthly balance from your checking. Now never make a purchase without your credit card. Have your monthly bills draft from your credit card. All purchases start with the credit card. This protects you from carrying a balance on your credit card which is a nono, limits possible access for theft from your savings account since you’ll never use it, and you get 1-5% back on every purchase till you die, which adds up.
If you’re in college and pull out student loans, use the suggestion above but use a HYSA. The %interest your loans earn while sitting in the account will partially offset the %interest the loans are costing you over time.
Stack price modifiers on all purchases. So use the c.c. cashback + c.c. intros on purchases + plus promo codes which can be found on a google search + cashback rebates by using programs like honey/microsoft bing.
Never ever let money just sit in a savings account (except for emergency fund and enough to cover your bills), its losing value at a minimum of 2% a year due to inflation. Once you are financially stable, invest invest invest. Investing, at the very least to maintain the value of your money, should be the default for everyone. You can be boring with it and stick it all into some index funds and forget about it. Just do anything but let the guaranteed 2% a year eat away at your savings.
Also if you somehow get a fixed rate loan under 3% for whatever, don’t try to pay that off early. Ride that out as long as possible, your money is more valuable today in other places than it will be tomorrow. And at those rates there is an opportunity cost of not investing, like the S&P500 to earn on average 6.6% a year, as opposed to paying off early to avoid <3%.
Ever had the tap dance scenario when you come across a person and when you go left, he also goes left. The easy life hack is avoid eye contact and look to the direction you want to go.
Clearing your cookies or using a VPN can sometimes reveal lower prices on airline tickets and hotel bookings, as companies often adjust prices based on your browsing history.
Airline revenue management is one of the dark arts of the travel industry.
Users of the Safari browser have also been known to be shown higher prices for travel bookings.
What sort of problem? You get the ticket in your name with your card, just for the non-biased price that's not based on your location or browsing behavior.
Credit card churning: get a good rewards card, pay everything with the card, pay it off every month, get free money. I get a few hundred dollars every year just by paying for stuff I'd pay for anyway.
United Club card, every bill and every expense. Pay off every Friday. Family flies free a couple of times a year, usually 1 first class trip per year. 2 free checked bags each, Premier Access check-in, and United Club access.
Yuup. Don't ever run a balance. I honestly never look at the "terms", other than what they will give me for rewards. I don't care if its 35% apr or whatever. I'm never holding a balance. I buy EVERYTHING on my card and pay a single bill every month (other than house/car), so it's convenient and I get free money out of it. no brainer
Fairly niche: if you have a loved one/friend/whatever that has substance abuse problems, and they went to rehab and are just getting out…you will obviously wonder if they are better and if they will stay sober. Very easy way to tell: if they come out and are super excited and telling you about how great their life is going to be and all the grand plans they have, 99% chance they will use again within a month. If they come out scared, nervous, and kinda clueless about what they’re going to do, those are the ones that have a chance and are actually trying to stay sober
My dad always told me you should learn to cook at least one meal really well so you can whip out that meal when you need to impress someone. Doesn’t need to be fancy just something people typically like.
A very niche one but:
If you're dealing with the death of a loved one, be candid (but not overly emotional if you can manage) about it when dealing with people. They're often willing to be kind in small (and sometimes large) ways that are helpful. Anything that can make your life a little less stressful during such a time adds up.
I walk super fast everywhere I go ( I'm a principal and I'm tall so my long strides mean business). Everyone assumes I'm always on a mission and usually I am but sometimes I'm just going to grab a snack from the cafeteria.
You’d be *amazed* how far you can get with charisma. And it’s a science and a legit skill that you can learn. If you can cut through all the BS gurus and find the actual real stuff, such as Dale Carnegie to name a more well known example, it’s incredibly helpful.
40 years ago when I started my career in computer science a mentor at my first real job told me this. This is especially relevant for salaried positions.
"Never answer calls or emails after work hours or on the weekend. Why? Because if you're so critical to the organization that they need to call you after hours or on the weekend, then they need to pay you a lot more! And if you're *not* so critical to the organization that they *aren't* willing to pay you more... then why the fuck are they calling you after hours?"
Every boss I have ever had, when they've asked me if they can call me on the weekend or if I'm out of the office, and my standard reply is, "Yes, of course you can call... I won't answer, but you can certainly call."
Be nice to people. Our quality of life depends on people working together. If you are an A-hole to everyone, then you have to just make due by yourself. Hint - that's a bad thing.
When a random person starts talking to you in public and you don't feel like talking to them, respond in a language they won't expect. Learning a few sentences in Danish spared me a lot of nerves.
On almost every microwave I've encountered, there's a power level button. It may read as "PL 1-10." Use it. You'll have to do some trial runs to figure things out, but I reheat leftovers around 2 minutes on PL-5. It seems to evenly heat the food a lot more than the full PL-10 and no ice-cold center. Dig?
There's an arrow on your petrol gauge in your car that points to what side of the car the fuel cap is on.
The clothes tag on the inside seam of tops is on the left hand side.
Ask subordinates at work questions you know the answer to. How they respond will let you know ahead of time what to think when you don’t know the answer.
Traveling by air can be frustrating. Do not make an enemy of your gate agent. Simple things that they appreciate include: not yelling or being openly bigoted, letting them have a minute to set up their station when they first arrive, asking if they are working your flight to begin with (sometimes you show up early but the agent behind the desk might be finishing up from the previous flight and your agent for your flight has not arrived yet). Pro-level-if you are the kind of traveler that brings candy/gifts for the flight crew, have an extra 1 or 2 for the gate agent. They may find an upgrade for you. Do not expect an upgrade, but know that your chances skyrocket with tokens of appreciation for an often thankless and frustrating job.
Be genuinely friendly with places you regularly go to, you can get away with more than the average person.
The gym, be friendly with the staff, I get to bring my friends in for free without paying for a guest pass. You get into an argument with a meathead, guess who’s on your side.
Food servers, they hook it up since you’re being a human and not a piece of shit.
If you are American, marry a person with a passport for a country with public healthcare. If you get sick, you won't go bankrupt. Also nice to have the option to easily go live in another country when the opportunity presents itself.
If you want people to think you are a good listener and want to *be* a good listener then don't listen to someone talk so you can respond to them. Listen to what they say and pause to think about it. Don't immediately rush the response out. Take your time. Pick your words carefully. Listen to the statement to listen to the statement, and then formulate your conclusion afterwards. I hope that made sense. Listen to listen, not to respond, and you'll find yourself coming up with more thoughtful responses to problems and people will think of you as a more insightful individual.
Doing this always feels like a cheat or a hack to me because it works so well:
If you're in a crowded place, say a grocery store, people buzzing all around, focus your eyes on where you are going and walk in a straight line there. People instinctively look at each others' eyes when navigating and if you're looking around as people naturally do, that's how you get into those awkward standstills where you and a stranger keep trying to get out of each others' way. But if you maintain your eyes at where you are heading, people will subconsciously move because they'll see in your eyes your assumed destination and thus be able to alter their path to avoid either of you being disrupted, and they won't even think about it.
It sounds psychotic, but honestly most people don't even consciously connect what's up, it's just like you're distracted. You've absolutely done the same thing as them and moved out of the way when someone else has done it to you.
Also, when I've brought this up before people always act like peripheral vision doesn't exist. No, you are still very aware of your surroundings and won't bump into anyone who isn't paying attention. Once you get used to it it feels totally natural.
This 100% does not work at my local walmart. No one there has any awareness outside of their own body and it makes my skin burn. Headphones and podcasts make it bearable
Forgive, apologize, and/or don't stay angry.
Not doing these things will cause YOU stress. There's a cost to holding grudges, even if you're right - you're punishing yourself!
Much better to let it go, say you're sorry, and be ok with being wrong.
Go to Chili’s at Happy Hour when they are serving free chips & salsa. Order a “fajita setup” with no meat or peppers, and a side of rice and black beans.
You have just ordered a vegetarian burrito with enough food to easily feed two people, plus you get free chips and salsa, and the bill will be approximately $2.60.
Please leave *at least* that much as a tip for your server, who just served you a regular-sized meal.
My wife and I stumbled into this trick once when we were out of town and couldn’t get to our favorite burrito joint. In the last 15 years, we’ve ordered this dozens of times across Tennessee, Georgia, Texas, and Florida. Has worked every time.
1. Show up and be engaged. Pretty simple but 99% of the population seem to struggle with this. Not showing up or just coasting.
2. Understand that you’re not entitled to anything, nobody owes you anything.
I learned how to instantly get rid of hiccups over a decade ago.
Breathe in through nose. Hold. Swallow twice. Sharp exhale through mouth. It only fails when I’m drunk for some reason.
A good line if there’s a lull in conversation to get things going again:
“How many owls would you need to see in the run of a day before you realized something was wrong?”
Got this from George Costanza. At work, if you look annoyed, people will think you’re busy and leave you alone.
If I'm ever bored and want to walk around for a bit at work I bring a folder with me. It looks like you're on your way to showing someone something.
That’s like the grown up version of the hall pass
I thought the grown up hall pass involved sex?
Maam, this is a Wendys.
Can I get a frosty and a baked potato?
Same but with a clipboard. A clipboard in the hand is worth two in the bush 🙏
Read about someone who's job it was to break into corporations and show them their security weaknesses. A clipboard was their favorite low tech tool.
I took a class about 10 years ago on how to do threat assessments. We did a field exercise where we needed to test the vulnerabilities af a public building. My team was assigned to an aquarium. We got clipboard, hard hats and safety vest. Walked all through this aquarium including the water treatment area where hazardous chemicals are stored. No one challenged us.
Darknet Diaries covers this on their episode “Deviant” from 6/6/23 - Thanks for making me look this up, it’s a great listen
Make sure it’s the Penske file
Include a pen and a note book if possible.
In today's society, I carry my laptop. Bonus points if it is open as it makes it look like you can't look away for a second
Doesn't work. I AM always annoyed and people still don't leave me alone. Which is why I'm always annoyed.
Amateur. You're such a a noob that you don't even know how to look annoyed. The annoying look goes on the outside for others to see, not inside to be solely burdened by you. /s
When I was stationed in Germany I held a few different “roles” or jobs within our brigade HQ unit. I was damn good at my jobs and was holding positions a few ranks above my pay grade. Short staffed where they were supposed to be and I had it handled so they let me be. Well, I used that freedom to my advantage as any good military individual would do. Always, and I mean always have a pressed uniform, highly shined boots and couple it with just looking like you are busy and on a mission, no one messes with you. I would walk around with a few folders with some paper in it everywhere. Walk with a purpose. Finally after about a year and a half of this we got a SSG in to take over two of the roles I was filling. As an E4. I came into the office one day towards the beginning of our time training him up and he opened one of the folders. Asked about the blank papers. He was a super cool guy and I liked him a lot so explained that as long as you looked official and busy everyone left you alone. All I did was spend 3/4’s of my day walking around base chatting with people. He about died laughing.
When I worked retail I did this, carrying something helps too.
I have worked in construction for 4 years now , and I have learned to just walk around with a tool or material in your hand and nobody bats an eye… haven’t don any actual work in years now
Being nice/fair to people that usually get a lot of shit (front desk workers, service workers, customer service etc etc) they will mostly take that extra step if you actually need their help sometime. Walk for their boss, run for the person that treats them fairly.
We got flight tickets back back home after being out of the country, and we're given seats reserved for sterwardesses, all because we were the first nice people at customer service. We waited 4 hours to find out we weren't getting on the second flight after our delay, and by not being a dick, we got to sleep in fully reclining chairs with a privacy curtain lol
Not as good of a story as yours but I once got a $50 Bath and Body works gift card for being "The first person who didn't yell at the customer service agent the week" Kindness pays off!
A friend of mine rode in the cockpit on the jump seat on an otherwise full flight.
My adopted dad taught me this in the form of lunch ladies (cafeteria workers). “Take care of them and they will take care of you.” At camp, there was the angelic being named gladys, God rest her soul. She could cook some friend chicken. Like for real. She would also have the kitchen on lock down. So i would see how she was and if she needed anything. Eventually, she would fill up more on your plate or leave out extra food when i was a staff member. I would also like to share my wisdom gathered. What started out as advice, turned into a means of getting better and more food. However, now I have learned a very valuable lesson. Being kind and content. I grew to love building relationships with those who work in service and even more of saying no to extra when i was content with what was on my plate. It began to be more than what i can get and now just knowing that relationships help brighten both our days. Love and peace.
This is key. I've done this because I've seen people go unappreciated. After all, others thought they were better than said person. Not only is it the decent thing to do, but holy shit, they go out of their way to keep you informed and help you out. I wasn't expecting a payback, but that's what I got.
Admit your mistakes quickly and without undue apologies. Not only will people trust you more, you’ll usually move on from the mistake much faster.
An old boss used to say that mistakes were the best opportunity to show your customers who you are. Mistakes are inevitable, and your competitors are also making their own mistakes, so just making a mistake doesn’t reflect too poorly on you. Own your mistake, apologize, and then do the best you can to fix it. Keep the customer informed, be responsive to their inquiries, be proactive with updates, and you’ll come out at the end smelling like roses.
My old mentor said That he Made more deals Fixing mistakes than he did getting everything right. That letting them see how you acted in a time of crisis made them much more comfortable doing business with you.
Yes, learned this the hard way. It’s difficult to walk up to someone and tell them what’s happened, but harder still when they realise your mistake _and_ you kept it from them.
If you must eat crow, then eat the crow while it is young and tender, or surely you will have to eat it when it is old and tough.
Took a drama class in high school and when we were rehearsing some scene and someone messed up, the teacher told us that "if you flub a line, just say it again. The less attention you bring to it, the less attention it will get". Basically don't apologize profusely because it looks weaker.
Bad news doesn’t age well!
Yep. Also I’d rather people hear about my mistakes from me first, it’s a better look
Got let go from a job for owning my mistakes and colleagues with some mistake level or more mistakes were kept because they were sillet bout their mistakes till cornered. But i still believe owing my mistaken was right choice
you're better off not working for boeing
Integrity is better, and a job that values it is a better job.
Being polite to the people at the help desk makes it more likely they'll help you solve your problem.
this. ive seen people get stuck at the most simple things just because theyre a pein in the ass, and conversely, people with huuuuge situations getting they way just because manners
Sincerely complimenting people when you notice they look nice or did something well is key <3
Make sure if you’re going to compliment appearances, make it about the thing and not the person. “You look nice.” can be taken the wrong way from/by the wrong person. Instead use “That’s a nice shirt/cool haircut/good looking shoes.” This compliments the person’s tastes and is less of a potential HR issue. I just had a guy at my work lose his job because of something like this.
“Nice tits!” = OH NO! “That shirt makes your tits look great!” = WIN
How about a skirt? "That's a cute skirt! Where do you get it from ? A middle schooler?" Is that appropriate? I don't want to risk it.
Just explain you specifically meant a sexy middle schooler, so they don't get the wrong idea and think you're calling their clothing childish.
Just say "I don't know" if you have zero idea about something.
This is a straight up sales tactic for building credibility. “I don’t know but I’ll find out for you by X date” can work far better than BSing the answer.
"That's a good question; I don't know. Here's a suggestion on how we could find out."
And if people get offended or snarky by the answer, you know they’re an idiot.
Likewise, "I don't know how to do this, can you show me?" I feel like we're getting out of the era of *"figuring it out."*
The issue is people confuse themselves because the fact is intelligent people have knowledge, so they assume lack of any form of knowledge is lack of intelligence. Bonus, the cherry pick with knowledge is worthy of making you intelligent.
Cook your spices in the oil briefly before adding the main dish you’re cooking. It wakes up the spices and adds more flavor. I find it’s better than cooking the dish then adding the spices as you go.
UNLESS you are browning the onions! If you add the spices first, I think they might burn\* before the onions brown. (\* might depend on which spices) So if you are browning onions, I like the following sequence: Saute onions until starting to brown Add garlic and spices and saute for a 2-3 minutes (or until whole spices start to crackle and pop) Then add the other ingredients.
Add salt to onions when first put into pan
I also add a tiny amount a brown sugar. The richness of light brown sugar added to caramelizing onions is inane
lol inane
Some recommend roasting the spices before grinding them and then adding it to the oil. Though nothing beats fresh fresh spices.
Wear sunscreen
shutting the F up. Dont tell people you are going to do something. Do the thing and let them find out about it. Having accomplishments that you dont feel the need to flaunt is power. nobody is impressed by what youre *going* to do
My grandpa would always say “smile and make people wonder what you’re up to.”
Indeed, telling people you're going to do something is the best way to make sure it doesn't happen
I agree halfway, but nothing wrong about talking with friends about what you thinking of doing or telling them what you are working on right now. Otherwise people feel left out and they feel like they have to draw everything out of your nose If you do a big project and the fail rate high, not talking about it, is probably a good idea Some people damage passively their self worth talking about such stuff Figure it out for yourself
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"Why wouldn't you say that to her Michael?"
“Why wouldn’t you say that to her face?!”
Bro I swear I saw these exact comments a couple days ago… The dead internet theory is becoming more and more apparent
These are quotes from The Office, of course they are "exact", fishbulb.
100% If you say good things about people behind their back, you come across as genuinely thinking these things and as a really positive person. It works in everyone’s favour and will boost your image! In my experience it’s helped me be more well-liked and fit in better in the workplace as well.
Goes with my rule in life: if someone is talking shit about another person to you behind their back, they will talk shit about you behind your back.
Just doing the first step of any task is usually enough to ensure you follow through to completion. This could be as trivial as packing your exercise bag or changing into your exercise clothes, or even just showing up at work.
Treat everyone with dignity and respect. The lower rung on the ladder or service, the better you treat them. You will be amazed at how well your life will improve
“The best response is no response” Know when to use it
Compound interest
And how compound interest in debt can work massively against you
Pay low interest on debt, and get paid high interest on investments and you'll retire sooner. Keep doing the opposite and you'll be stuck forever.
I just wish I was rich enough to be able to leverage like that.
Well, the interest rates are high for everyone now, so it was more about being lucky to take low interest debt a few years ago. But even someone that's poor can prioritize paying off higher interest debts first by saving more. When I was in bad credit card debt and unemployed, I lied about having income and got a new 0% promotional intro(first 12 months) credit card then transferred my debt for 3%. When I got a job in a few months, I could pay off the new credit card debt quickly with no new interest accrued. Even if someone has a payday loan(ideally they don't), they can use a credit card to pay it off to lower their interest rate. And sometimes you can use personal loans to pay off a credit card debt to save on the interest. In summary, there are always options to save on the interest. But yes, it's harder when you're poor and you have to break the cycle with less money. And once you're free of high interest debts like credit card, you can invest in index funds every month and start getting interest on your money even if it's $100 a month, interest adds up.
One of my local breakfast places charges like $8 for a single biscuit and gravy; but I can order a side of 2 biscuits and side of gravy for like $6 total.
Finally, something that will work for the masses.
Brush your teeth and floss
Praise publicly. Criticize in private.
The reward for working hard is more work. *at corporations.
My work tip would be to seize opportunities if that suits your needs. My manager said this one woman in my department is retiring in the next year. I decided I can learn what she does and then when her position opens up I’d be a shoe in.
Or they’ll have you do her work without giving you the position. Unless you have to learn face to face then keep it secret, otherwise they’ll just expect you to do the work since you already know it.
Businesses lean on competency
God, I worked at a firm that did this in the worst way. Lawyers typically get "billable bonuses" if they bill more hours than they're required to in a year. This firm pitched itself as work/life balance oriented, and capped bonuses at a certain number of hours to encourage people to actually take vacations. Except for one woman, a good friend of mine. Capped out her bonus every year, so they just kept dumping work on her for the free hours while all the rest of us were so starved for work we could barely meet the minimum requirement, and often didn't.
And government work. Some corporations will give you bonuses, though.
Pressing “4231” on a lot of vending machines still opens up the sub-menu where you can change the price of the items inside.
Working out If you do it, all aspects of your life will be better. Romantic relationships, mental health, physical health, etc.
I’m a doctor and if I could put exercise in a pill, people will be busting down my office door begging for it as a miracle cure for so many of their issues
I read somewhere that getting everyone to achieve the recommended exercise levels would increase life expectancy by more than curing cancer would.
I don't doubt that for a second
This is going to be a dumb question, but one I don’t want to ask a doctor face to face due to how dumb it sounds in my head. Does strenuous work activity for an 8 hour day count as exercise? I walk 10-15 miles 5 days a week while also lifting heavy things continuously.
Not a doctor. Yes. This is much healthier than sitting at a desk all day.
You’re doing the right things
Cool…now I just have to change my eating habits and get rid of a nicotine and alcohol addictions.
You don’t even have to work out, just staying active is enough. I hate the gym but I try to go biking, rock climbing and bowling as much as I can and I have way more fun than doing curls in the gym.
5 minutes of daily exercise is better than 0 minutes. Just get the blood going damnit!
Yup. I hit a rut after a 3 week run and I almost was wondering why I'm feeling so depressed. I'm like.. oh, I haven't been to the gym or been active this week...
>a 3 week run A *what* now?
not taking anyone's side until you hear both sides of the story.
If something happens, and you can't get it off your mind, sit in quiet for a while. No phone, no games, maybe a walk. Your brain will work it out, just give it time
I find that working out helps process things better/faster... Even a quick walk.
1. Be grateful for what you have before buying anything new. 2. Practice replacing “I should” with “I can/will” 3. Communicate your emotions to friends/partners and ask them about theirs. 4. Learn to ask for support when you need it.
Your co workers are not your friends. Be careful how much personal information you share. And HR is there to protect the company not you.
I see this one all the time Must be some shitty companies and people redditors work with. Every place I worrked there was maybe one or two aholes in the bunch. Everyone else? Still pals with so many of them, over many decades. Thank god for all the great people I worked with.
I wish one of my coworkers would remember this before she started talking loudly all the time about her love life.
Note that that doesn't really apply in jobs with a low barrier of entry. Most people don't give a fuck about the job and are just trying to get a paycheck at the end of the month.
I work in the film industry. This comment does not relate as some of my co-workers are real friends outside of work. It's great not working with dicks 👍
I’ve learned from experience and made the habit of telling each coworker something completely unique about me and seeing what info gets back to me via rumors. I then dictate who can and can’t be trusted based on this info. I don’t go on the attack but I just accept that those people can’t be told anything unless I’m okay with it being public info. Personally, I can not stand people who can’t keep things to themselves, especially the ones that blow it out of proportion just so they can have an exciting story to tell others.
That sounds exhausting.
Gotta break up the day somehow. There's only so many hours of typing before it's time to start some workplace drama to spice the day up.
This certainly doesn’t apply to all companies. Sometimes having strong relationships with colleagues makes work more bearable/easier to navigate.
Spread your cheeks before sitting, you'll wipe less.
Diarrhea is the best excuse to get out of anything. No one questions it and no one expects you to go to a doctor for it.
...When your walkin' down the hall, and you feel something fall...
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Last time I did that, I got in trouble for assault.
Well sure, you hit them with a fuckalanche
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My religious cousin at university was in the room when all his friends were talking about sex, and he was cooking. Then they asked for his opinion and he said this.
Don't use oil when cooking the pasta, it will make it so the sauce won't stick to the pasta and slides off. Salt is SOOO much better.
Eating whole foods is the "secret" diet hack to better health. Literally stick to veggies, fruits, nuts, tubers, and meat and you will feel better. Eat the junk if you must but instead of 5 or 6 oreos just eat 1 or 2 and enjoy them lil thangs. Moderate paced walks are incredibly good for you. 2 or 3 ten min walks a day fantastic for you. If you work an office job and can't find the time to hit the gym start "greasing the groove" and do lil exercises here and there strewn about the day. Pushups, pullups, squats, planks whatever! If you can consistently eat whole foods and do little exercises here and there your quality of life will improve.
If you want people to think you are smart, shut up. Don’t say anything. Just listen to what other people are saying, and look like you are deeply concentrating on stuff.
Best thing I’ve found that’s a real life cheat code is turning your head when you’re walking in busy areas. You know all those times that get the pedestrian rage going I.e when people walk straight into you or push you out of your ideal walking line. The solution is you just LOOK at the direction you’re going to go and 99% of peoples brains see it unconsciously (or actively see it) and get out of your way or move in a way that’s more accessible for you. Look it up it’s surprisingly a real thing!!
I learned this when I lived in central London. I always look over the person walking towards me’s left shoulder (my right). It is amazing how people just instinctively move out of your way. If it doesn’t look like they are moving, I’ll make a face like I’m excited to see someone behind them and then they move, but 99% of the time, people just move over.
The reddit app has a history that saves every single post you interact with including just visiting it. Clear it often because this is reddit. You shouldn't have to explain how you wound up seeing posts about dragons fucking cars.
Joining r/dragonsfuckingcars was probably a mistake then
Don't volunteer information, EVER. Stranger, over the phone customer service, cop, etc. Don't say nothin' until specifically asked. I work in a call center and people give waaaaay too much before I even say 'hello', that's how accounts get compromised.
Treat people with respect and they'll almost always be friendly towards you.
This simple trick seems near impossible for a lot of people
Bidet, even just a cheap portable one. No looking back
What about when you use it?
As long as you don't look back.
Then it becomes an eye wash station.
If you are on Hold and no options get you to a human SWEAR LOUDLY into the phone. The F word seems to work the best. A lot of times there is a machine listening to your responses and swearing will get you to a person WAY faster than wasting your time just waiting. I have about an 85 percent success ratio at getting a human operator this way, I SWEAR it works.
This is either a lifehack or the longest con to have people swearing loudly in public for no reason.
I live my life by trying to increase the purchasing power of my dollars. In everything you do find a way to make your 1$ worth more than just a 1$. Some suggestions. Opening a new credit card for any big purchases for the introductory lump sum cash back deal. Instead of paying full purchase price you basically get a $200+ discount. Only works or is beneficial if you immediately pay the credit card off. Never use a debit card. You’re losing 1-5% on cashback by not using a credit card. Set it up like this: have a savings account where your paychecks go to. Have a checking account that auto drafts from the savings whenever you reach a minimum amount in the checking (the minimum should be enough to pay all of your bills if they hit at once, including if you maxed out the credit card). Have the credit card set to auto pay the entire monthly balance from your checking. Now never make a purchase without your credit card. Have your monthly bills draft from your credit card. All purchases start with the credit card. This protects you from carrying a balance on your credit card which is a nono, limits possible access for theft from your savings account since you’ll never use it, and you get 1-5% back on every purchase till you die, which adds up. If you’re in college and pull out student loans, use the suggestion above but use a HYSA. The %interest your loans earn while sitting in the account will partially offset the %interest the loans are costing you over time. Stack price modifiers on all purchases. So use the c.c. cashback + c.c. intros on purchases + plus promo codes which can be found on a google search + cashback rebates by using programs like honey/microsoft bing. Never ever let money just sit in a savings account (except for emergency fund and enough to cover your bills), its losing value at a minimum of 2% a year due to inflation. Once you are financially stable, invest invest invest. Investing, at the very least to maintain the value of your money, should be the default for everyone. You can be boring with it and stick it all into some index funds and forget about it. Just do anything but let the guaranteed 2% a year eat away at your savings. Also if you somehow get a fixed rate loan under 3% for whatever, don’t try to pay that off early. Ride that out as long as possible, your money is more valuable today in other places than it will be tomorrow. And at those rates there is an opportunity cost of not investing, like the S&P500 to earn on average 6.6% a year, as opposed to paying off early to avoid <3%.
Ever had the tap dance scenario when you come across a person and when you go left, he also goes left. The easy life hack is avoid eye contact and look to the direction you want to go.
But I like looking at them. That's what's great about it—making eye contact with a complete stranger and usually making them crack a smile.
Travel light, you dont need 80% of the stuff you carry with yourself.
Be born rich or extremely attractive. Basically life on easy mode.
You can go anywhere as long as you confidently act like you're supposed to be there.
Unless it's protected by a swipe card and biometric scanner with a 6 digit code , you're not getting into my office by looking confident.
A hi-vis jacket doesn't hurt either
Bring a clipboard too
And a hard hat.
Clearing your cookies or using a VPN can sometimes reveal lower prices on airline tickets and hotel bookings, as companies often adjust prices based on your browsing history.
Airline revenue management is one of the dark arts of the travel industry. Users of the Safari browser have also been known to be shown higher prices for travel bookings.
That's just hilarious lol.
I thought this was debunked
And there is no problem when I buy the ticket with a other vpn?
What sort of problem? You get the ticket in your name with your card, just for the non-biased price that's not based on your location or browsing behavior.
Credit card churning: get a good rewards card, pay everything with the card, pay it off every month, get free money. I get a few hundred dollars every year just by paying for stuff I'd pay for anyway.
Capital One platinum card 1%-5% cashback on everything... Christmas pays for itself this year
United Club card, every bill and every expense. Pay off every Friday. Family flies free a couple of times a year, usually 1 first class trip per year. 2 free checked bags each, Premier Access check-in, and United Club access.
Yuup. Don't ever run a balance. I honestly never look at the "terms", other than what they will give me for rewards. I don't care if its 35% apr or whatever. I'm never holding a balance. I buy EVERYTHING on my card and pay a single bill every month (other than house/car), so it's convenient and I get free money out of it. no brainer
If you get a call center in India, tell them you need someone who speaks Spanish and they will transfer you to Texas.
But then won't I have to speak Spanish? Puedo hacerlo por un rato, pero no sufficiente para resolvar mi problema.
Fairly niche: if you have a loved one/friend/whatever that has substance abuse problems, and they went to rehab and are just getting out…you will obviously wonder if they are better and if they will stay sober. Very easy way to tell: if they come out and are super excited and telling you about how great their life is going to be and all the grand plans they have, 99% chance they will use again within a month. If they come out scared, nervous, and kinda clueless about what they’re going to do, those are the ones that have a chance and are actually trying to stay sober
Acting stupid can save you.It also helps during arguments that you are most likely not going to win.
When I know something but I also know the person who I’m talking to won’t accept they’re wrong I just nod and smile.
My dad always told me you should learn to cook at least one meal really well so you can whip out that meal when you need to impress someone. Doesn’t need to be fancy just something people typically like.
A very niche one but: If you're dealing with the death of a loved one, be candid (but not overly emotional if you can manage) about it when dealing with people. They're often willing to be kind in small (and sometimes large) ways that are helpful. Anything that can make your life a little less stressful during such a time adds up.
I walk super fast everywhere I go ( I'm a principal and I'm tall so my long strides mean business). Everyone assumes I'm always on a mission and usually I am but sometimes I'm just going to grab a snack from the cafeteria.
If you are nice to people they will give you free things
You’d be *amazed* how far you can get with charisma. And it’s a science and a legit skill that you can learn. If you can cut through all the BS gurus and find the actual real stuff, such as Dale Carnegie to name a more well known example, it’s incredibly helpful.
100%.watched the below podcast recently. Very insightful. https://youtu.be/iApkwoskJkc?si=rxVpAvIeMPeefFOU
Actually try at things, put the effort in. Study, work, exercise, even relationships.
40 years ago when I started my career in computer science a mentor at my first real job told me this. This is especially relevant for salaried positions. "Never answer calls or emails after work hours or on the weekend. Why? Because if you're so critical to the organization that they need to call you after hours or on the weekend, then they need to pay you a lot more! And if you're *not* so critical to the organization that they *aren't* willing to pay you more... then why the fuck are they calling you after hours?" Every boss I have ever had, when they've asked me if they can call me on the weekend or if I'm out of the office, and my standard reply is, "Yes, of course you can call... I won't answer, but you can certainly call."
Be nice to people. Our quality of life depends on people working together. If you are an A-hole to everyone, then you have to just make due by yourself. Hint - that's a bad thing.
When a random person starts talking to you in public and you don't feel like talking to them, respond in a language they won't expect. Learning a few sentences in Danish spared me a lot of nerves.
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On almost every microwave I've encountered, there's a power level button. It may read as "PL 1-10." Use it. You'll have to do some trial runs to figure things out, but I reheat leftovers around 2 minutes on PL-5. It seems to evenly heat the food a lot more than the full PL-10 and no ice-cold center. Dig?
Work cant contact you if phone is off!
There's an arrow on your petrol gauge in your car that points to what side of the car the fuel cap is on. The clothes tag on the inside seam of tops is on the left hand side.
Ask subordinates at work questions you know the answer to. How they respond will let you know ahead of time what to think when you don’t know the answer.
Had an executive once tell me, if you are walking around the plant, always carry something. Never go empty-handed.
Your home should always be your safe place.
Up, up, down, down, left, right, left, right, B, A, and Start
Just because we use cheats doesn't mean we're not smart 🎶🎵
Traveling by air can be frustrating. Do not make an enemy of your gate agent. Simple things that they appreciate include: not yelling or being openly bigoted, letting them have a minute to set up their station when they first arrive, asking if they are working your flight to begin with (sometimes you show up early but the agent behind the desk might be finishing up from the previous flight and your agent for your flight has not arrived yet). Pro-level-if you are the kind of traveler that brings candy/gifts for the flight crew, have an extra 1 or 2 for the gate agent. They may find an upgrade for you. Do not expect an upgrade, but know that your chances skyrocket with tokens of appreciation for an often thankless and frustrating job.
Be genuinely friendly with places you regularly go to, you can get away with more than the average person. The gym, be friendly with the staff, I get to bring my friends in for free without paying for a guest pass. You get into an argument with a meathead, guess who’s on your side. Food servers, they hook it up since you’re being a human and not a piece of shit.
If you are American, marry a person with a passport for a country with public healthcare. If you get sick, you won't go bankrupt. Also nice to have the option to easily go live in another country when the opportunity presents itself.
If you want people to think you are a good listener and want to *be* a good listener then don't listen to someone talk so you can respond to them. Listen to what they say and pause to think about it. Don't immediately rush the response out. Take your time. Pick your words carefully. Listen to the statement to listen to the statement, and then formulate your conclusion afterwards. I hope that made sense. Listen to listen, not to respond, and you'll find yourself coming up with more thoughtful responses to problems and people will think of you as a more insightful individual.
Regular exercise and good sleep boost overall well-being and productivity.
Doing this always feels like a cheat or a hack to me because it works so well: If you're in a crowded place, say a grocery store, people buzzing all around, focus your eyes on where you are going and walk in a straight line there. People instinctively look at each others' eyes when navigating and if you're looking around as people naturally do, that's how you get into those awkward standstills where you and a stranger keep trying to get out of each others' way. But if you maintain your eyes at where you are heading, people will subconsciously move because they'll see in your eyes your assumed destination and thus be able to alter their path to avoid either of you being disrupted, and they won't even think about it. It sounds psychotic, but honestly most people don't even consciously connect what's up, it's just like you're distracted. You've absolutely done the same thing as them and moved out of the way when someone else has done it to you. Also, when I've brought this up before people always act like peripheral vision doesn't exist. No, you are still very aware of your surroundings and won't bump into anyone who isn't paying attention. Once you get used to it it feels totally natural.
This 100% does not work at my local walmart. No one there has any awareness outside of their own body and it makes my skin burn. Headphones and podcasts make it bearable
Forgive, apologize, and/or don't stay angry. Not doing these things will cause YOU stress. There's a cost to holding grudges, even if you're right - you're punishing yourself! Much better to let it go, say you're sorry, and be ok with being wrong.
“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”
Go to Chili’s at Happy Hour when they are serving free chips & salsa. Order a “fajita setup” with no meat or peppers, and a side of rice and black beans. You have just ordered a vegetarian burrito with enough food to easily feed two people, plus you get free chips and salsa, and the bill will be approximately $2.60. Please leave *at least* that much as a tip for your server, who just served you a regular-sized meal. My wife and I stumbled into this trick once when we were out of town and couldn’t get to our favorite burrito joint. In the last 15 years, we’ve ordered this dozens of times across Tennessee, Georgia, Texas, and Florida. Has worked every time.
1. Show up and be engaged. Pretty simple but 99% of the population seem to struggle with this. Not showing up or just coasting. 2. Understand that you’re not entitled to anything, nobody owes you anything.
Networking Events: Always carry business cards and practice a few conversation starters to make meaningful connections quickly.
Make sure it's off white, tastefully thick, and don't forget the watermark.
I learned how to instantly get rid of hiccups over a decade ago. Breathe in through nose. Hold. Swallow twice. Sharp exhale through mouth. It only fails when I’m drunk for some reason.
Never say never, and never say always.
Just be kind. You never know what is going on in someone's life.
A good line if there’s a lull in conversation to get things going again: “How many owls would you need to see in the run of a day before you realized something was wrong?”
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Work overseas. Wherever you're born, the money is overseas.
Waiting more than three days to repost a popular question so you can karma farm
If you kill someone you get free room and board