Yes! I'm very fortunate in that I get to message my partner all day long.
He also likes to pic out my underwear (usually matching) - he gets up about 45 min before I do, so it's usually sitting on my vanity chair. And then he gets to think about that all day long until we see each other at home and then he gets to see it on for real. I love this little routine of ours.
Start it before you’re both leaving the house for awhile. Do some kissing and some light touching and then go your separate ways. Then all day stay in cute flirty contact, share little snippets of fantasies and whatnot, maybe even some lewd photos if you’re about that life. Just let your mind get worked up. Then when you see each other again, have it!
Constant flirting with your special someone. Letting them know what you are thinking about without outright saying it. Keeps tension up and certain moments can be relived later on once the real deal is happening.
Is it worth seeing again? Maybe I was just depressed when I saw it and didn't feel good from it. I remember thinking it was better than the rebooted series but not like amazing compared to the original seasons?
Real talk the descending order of quality is:
Bender's Big Score
Into The Wild Green Yonder
(power gap)
Beast With a Billion Backs
(another gap)
Bender's Game
BWaBB was okay, bordering on good, but not great. It could've been a lot worse though.
Oooo, see I have a soft spot for Bender’s Game. For me it’s Bender’s Big Score, Bender’s Game, Into the Wild Green Yonder and then Beast with a Billion Backs. Your list is good too, I’m a bit of a super fan. Crocheted Nibbler and all.
I know exactly what you mean. Once I experienced that it ruined random hook up bullshit. It’s not worth it to me. I’d rather jerk off. It’s less hassle. The ex wife and I had this. I’ve never experienced it again with anyone else.
Both physically and emotionally. When you feel truly comfortable and loved by your partner, and reciprocate that, you truly open yourself up to being vulnerable in a way you wouldn't with a partner you don't have those connections with.
You ever get where the world just stops? And it's just you two and all I wanna do is be here. Then you kinda shiver cuz you realize you're in a moment that's always gonna be with you. Yea
Same here. We were broken up and not in contact for seven years. Now we’ve been married for a few months and the joy/desire/companionship/love is too good to try and describe. Truly a dream come true.
Really happy for you guys.
The guy in my situation was either lying, faking it, or is too broken to understand we had something special, and betrayed me. Shockingly, he reached back out recently after years, and instead of apologizing, wanted to fuck. I told him to get lost.
Wow, screw him. He’s an asshole and you deserve someone who will love you the same way that you love them. Maybe one day he’ll get his head on straight and realize what he lost. A betrayal like that is so hard to recover from, but it’s not impossible. Learning to forgive is a lifelong journey. Idk you but I’m really proud of you for telling him to back off. Because that means you know your worth and his true nature enough to not fall for his games.
Oh jeez...having my second date tomorrow...the first one was quite some weeks ago. And it stopped just short of everything. We have an intense connection. Tomorrow will be great!
Take your time. Enjoy every inch of your partner. Eye contact. Focus on partners breathing and reactions. Make it all about giving pleasure not receiving it.
Integrity and connection to that person.
I still have sex like when we dated 16 years ago. People told us it would fade in marriage.
That things would change in your sex life and after having children that your body wouldnt be the same...
but all i've found is different ways to admire my wife and stuff that strengtens my bond with her. She knows my favorite things and so do i.
In sickness and in health, in money and poverty
Sex always comes as a good therapy for us.
Mutual desire and knowing your partner mostly. Good sex doesn't usually come from someone who just has great skills. It's more having sexual chemistry with the person you're fucking in particular and knowing what turns them on. Like honestly I've had girlfriends that make me feel like a god of sex and girlfriends that make me feel like the most inadequate man on Earth. It's all about how you guys vibe. I'd rather be with an okay looking chick I totally vibe with sexually than a gorgeous chick who just starfishes and asks me when I'm going to cum.
Enthusiasm
Slightly stressful day that's finally over
Rainy and cold outside
Sexting all day
*Enthusiasm*
Good pacing
Only people in the house so we can be loud
ENTHUSIASM
A hard thing to explain… but when the other person is so horny they just get overtaken by it.
My GF was giving me a blowjob one time and as i manoeuvred to get involved she looked me right in the eye, threw me back in my chair and said NO!
She fucking went to town on me. She was shaking with excitement. She was almost cheating on me with my own dick. It was amazing.
It’s literally in like the top three moments of my life.
Getting right to the edge of cumming, slowing down or stopping so it doesn't happen, and then repeating the process so it builds up into a much greater experience.
I had a girlfriend who really really liked my deodorant. One day she was extra frisky, hugged me, smelled me and said: "You smell fantastic. Let's fuck!" Enthusiasm.
My partner made out with me for 30 minutes before we had sex, it was my first time climaxing and I CRIED because it was a release I had never felt before, he got me water, covered me up in a towel, and lid with me until I stopped❤️
I’ve had a similar response, was with a woman who’d had previous relationships but had never climaxed (she thought she had) or had a man pay proper attention to her. She cried a little too, it was really sweet. Plus the look on her face when I told her “that was baseline, it gets better” was priceless. The tsunami of filth that followed over the next month, not so sweet but amazing, she was so happy and I was really happy to have been the cause. So, yeah, that was some of the “mind blowing” sex OP had in mind.
I just don’t get how so many men haven’t figured out you reap what you sow with the ladies. Baffles me.
As someone who's gotten instant Thunderclap headaches during orgasm, and truly thought I was having a ruptured aneurysm, "mind blowing" is accurate. I just wish it was of the sexy, mind blowing variety.
There are no thoughts about anything. You're just in the moment.
Also, when you hit that spot and or get that spot hit. Sex is good, but you find that angle, and suddenly it's 10x better even though you're doing the same thing.
The right dirty talk will also take you places. I was with an ex, and she whispered for me to breed her during our activities. It was like a sensory overload. I just shivered thinking about it.
Being in tune with each other, knowing what makes the toes curl, how much teasing she likes, and what parts of her you should be paying attention to! For me, I knew I could work from the head down, biting and kissing at the neck, hands tracing around the boobs, avoiding the nipples, for now, some light touching. I am working my way down very carefully until nipple/vagina play.
If you both know what you like, play to each other's strengths.
Attention to detail. A light caress or little nuzzle at the right time can do amazing things. Also, lots of oral. If she can still breath, and form coherent sentences, you haven't given her enough.
As a straight guy, I think for men like me the two most important things we can do to have great sex with a woman are:
**1)** Educate yourself on female anatomy and sexual response. Knowledge = Confidence.
**2)** Pay attention and listen to your partner. What does she like? What does she not like? What intensity does she like and when? How does she build towards orgasm? Etc.
Bonus:
**3)** Go down on a woman, get her off first, and be enthusiastic about it.
I’d add:
4) Realize porn isn’t real life. Don’t expect a woman’s reaction to be like it is in porn or to have the same “interests” as the women in porn.
Depending on the women of course oral can make or break you. The first time I had sex with my current girlfriend I nutted in like two pumps since I hadn't had sex in over a year and was so excited to be doing it again. I ate her out like a bulldog eating spaghetti though and she said if I hadn't done that there wouldn't have been a second date. Go down on your girl ladies and gents.
According to researcher Peggy Kleinplatz, as described in her book, “Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers” (2020) There are 8 components:
1. Being completely present in the moment, embodied, focused, absorbed.
2. Connection, alignment, being in sync, merger
3. Deep sexual and erotic intimacy
4. Extra ordinary communication and deep empathy
5. Being genuine, authentic, transparent
6. Vulnerability and Surrender
7. Exploration, Interpersonal Risk-Taking, and Fun
8. Transcendence and Transformation
Sure, but you can also have great sex while spooning. Many basic positions can be made intimate. Even doggy style doesn’t have to be “just fucking”, not to mention that it might be the best position for some women or some penis/vagina combinations. One redditor stated that she really enjoyed doggy style while her partner gave her a back rub. Someone else had a female friend who could only ever cum from anal and didn’t really like vaginal sex.
The bottom line is it’s different for everyone
Yeah you're right in everything. But eye contact is a must at least once. For me no eye contact means ordinary sex, maybe we're fucking only because we're horny, but that's it. When there is eye contact is because the connection needed to reach the mind-blowing sex exists. Maybe during the rest of the act there is spooning and there is anal and we are not face to face anymore until we are done. But at least once we look eachother knowing that we are about to get fucked really good.
Is more related with what's about to come that with the act itself.
Good kissing is a must. Kissing on places like neck, back of shoulders, hands. Being silly enough that if a weird noise happens you can both laugh. Feeling desired is huge. And of course, thinking the other person is amazing and letting them know it.
Honestly I've had guys hyper-fixate on making me orgasm multiple times instead of my general enjoyment. If you are pressuring someone to climax, that can kill the mood.
Sometimes it comes off very much like he wants this as some badge of honor instead of connecting and enjoying each other's pleasures.
Attentiveness/being present. People who give you the feeling that they could be having sex with anyone they are just happy to be having sex are TRASH. Great sex comes from someone who is enjoying having sex with YOU.
It's the connection. My husband and I have mind blowing sex every single time and it's simply because we are so close with one another in every other way. He is literally my best friend and soul mate. We are so intimately connected to one another that it simply couldn't be anything other than mind blowingly amazing. We know each other more than we know ourselves. It's incredible.
Same thing with my husband. Damn, the sex is almost spiritual. Sometimes I think I've left my body, it's so amazing. I feel sorry that not everyone experiences this.
Awww I know what you mean. I felt so comfortable with my boyfriend our first time that the sex was very intimate and also satisfying. Also talking about what we want during.. my boyfriend said once he's glad we can talk to each other during and it isn't embarrassing. It's good to be able to laugh
Yes! We tell each other our dirtiest fantasies and never once have we been embarrassed. And every time the other has been excited to hear the fantasy and play it out with one another. We laugh during sex. We have cried during sex. We just enjoy every second. We both agreed we might be addicted but it's just to each other and we have no intention of quitting this vice.
Foreplay that lasts days, weeks, months. Recently started dating a guy who wanted to wait and build a bit of a connection first. We waited till the 8th date, and let me tell you, three months later we are still having mind blowing sex. Something about trust and intimacy being build up. Blah blah blah. Turns out it works! Lol
Effort and enthusiasm. Guys - act like she's more than just a wet hole to fuck and give her that TLC. Girls - act like you actually want to be there and participate.
If everyone just tried to meet those pretty low bars, sex improves exponentially. This is even true for people with low skill levels for the actual mechanics of things.
ETA: Communication - if you like something, TELL YOUR PARTNER. They're not mind readers.
I've been with multiple partners of both genders. I've had sex so good I've cried afterwards, and sex I couldn't wait to be over. There have been times I felt like I was becoming one being with my partner, and times were we were just kind of masturbating with each other's bodies, no eye contact, just going through the motions. And a lot of these experiences I've had with the same partner! It doesn't matter how long you've been with someone or often you do it.
I think what really makes the difference is getting into the proper headspace. Take the time to admire your partner. Feel that attraction. There have been moments where I've had to stop and thank my lucky stars because my partner is just so damn gorgeous I'm just about to die from desire. Take the time to explore each other. Sex is about the journey, not the destination. There are times where I've been intimate with someone where I didn't come that are still better in my mind that some crappy sex I've had where I did orgasm. The difference being I had a lot of fun and genuinely enjoyed sharing that experience with ny partner. Be enthusiastic. I look forward to sex the same way I look forward to digging into a hot meal after working all day or the same way I look forward to ripping open a present. It should excite you to your core.
I know many married people who derive more joy out of binge watching netfilx than they do having sex with their spouse. No! that's not how it should be! You should crave sex with your partner. You should look forward to it. It should be the highlight of your day, not just a chore to get done. In any relationship, things settle into a routine. Make the effort to spice things up! Buy sexy lingerie, use toys, do it in a place besides your bed. You get to share something as beautiful as the intimacy of your partner's body with them. Treasure it as the privilege it is!
All in all, we want to feel wanted. We want to feel desired, like our parnters want US and not just an orgasm. So if you can give your partner that, and they give that to you in return, it really doesn't matter what you do or who it's with. Now go have some mind blowing sex.
Getting to a place to discuss, share, explore, kinks. Have boundaries ahead of time, discuss hard stops, look into BDSM rules for more info. I'm unsure if people exist without kinks as I don't know if people are sometimes shy or haven't explored or realized them yet. It's incredibly validating and peak of sexual to be in a safe and consenting place with your partner(s) and be able to safely explore yours and their kinks. There is zero rush to explore these, it can take a long long time to build that trust, communication, understanding, etc. Personally I'm of the opinion that life is too short for boring sex if I know I have kinks I'd rather be participating in. For an online quiz for kinks my personal current fave is [kink quiz ](http://bdsmtest.org) . They appreciate helpful feedback and are still trying to improve it but I've used it several times the more honest I am with myself and others. Enjoy and again, if it's not an enthusiastic yes it's a no. Ty and goodnight.
Foreplay! Getting each other wound up enough that your body is craving the other person.
Everything you do since the last time you had sex is foreplay. Too many people think its 5 mins of making out and a hand on the leg. It's more mental.
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Mmmm the way she turns the dial on the radiator. Scandalous.
And not just the 10 minutes before. All day foreplay is the best.
How do you do that ? Edit: ya all those are some amazing Tipps. The only thing missing now is a gf 🙂
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Yes! I'm very fortunate in that I get to message my partner all day long. He also likes to pic out my underwear (usually matching) - he gets up about 45 min before I do, so it's usually sitting on my vanity chair. And then he gets to think about that all day long until we see each other at home and then he gets to see it on for real. I love this little routine of ours.
He picks out your underwear daily?
Couldn't say "Fax" bc I got no f idea
Start it before you’re both leaving the house for awhile. Do some kissing and some light touching and then go your separate ways. Then all day stay in cute flirty contact, share little snippets of fantasies and whatnot, maybe even some lewd photos if you’re about that life. Just let your mind get worked up. Then when you see each other again, have it!
You can play sexy games, or sexting during the day while apart. The key is to be turned on the whole day!
Ah so basically be Horny fucks the whole day got it!
Me and my girlfriend work from home in the same room. D: were never apart!
Sounds like a great opportunity for some office flirting roleplay?
Blowjobs under the desk in each other's breaks.
While on a video call.
Y'all dead making scenerios😭
Sexting all day is the best. By the time I get to her it's boiling over and we're animals.
Great advice pre-Covid but now I’m with my GF 23.9 hours a day
It's like foreplay, but all day.
Constant flirting with your special someone. Letting them know what you are thinking about without outright saying it. Keeps tension up and certain moments can be relived later on once the real deal is happening.
Touch eachouther casually, kisses etc. for starters
As it's said, the best foreplay starts way before the bedroom.
Those times where you're both really horny, both really into each other, and both need it. You become a kind of oneness. It's hard to explain.
The beast with two backs.
The Backasaurus?
I loved that Futurama movie
You're off by about 999,999,998 backs but that's more or less a rounding error.
Well, my sex life is more or less a rounding error, so it seems appropriate for this thread.
2 is to Shakespeare as 1 billion is to Futurama. Got it.
Is it worth seeing again? Maybe I was just depressed when I saw it and didn't feel good from it. I remember thinking it was better than the rebooted series but not like amazing compared to the original seasons?
Real talk the descending order of quality is: Bender's Big Score Into The Wild Green Yonder (power gap) Beast With a Billion Backs (another gap) Bender's Game BWaBB was okay, bordering on good, but not great. It could've been a lot worse though.
Oooo, see I have a soft spot for Bender’s Game. For me it’s Bender’s Big Score, Bender’s Game, Into the Wild Green Yonder and then Beast with a Billion Backs. Your list is good too, I’m a bit of a super fan. Crocheted Nibbler and all.
I know exactly what you mean. Once I experienced that it ruined random hook up bullshit. It’s not worth it to me. I’d rather jerk off. It’s less hassle. The ex wife and I had this. I’ve never experienced it again with anyone else.
When people complain about sex when hooking up, I'm thinking: god,. you're missing the best. Feelings increase the intensity so much.
Simultaneous Orgasms or go home.
That's not simple. None of these are really that simple! What's simple is another 20 seconds.
Her getting close nearly always gets me from ‘ok I could do this a while’ to ‘you’ve got 30 seconds at most, use them well’.
That can be pressure tho. Sometimes your down but if it ain't going to happen it's pressure to have finish
INTIMACY and really caring about making the other person feel desired.
Both physically and emotionally. When you feel truly comfortable and loved by your partner, and reciprocate that, you truly open yourself up to being vulnerable in a way you wouldn't with a partner you don't have those connections with.
You ever get where the world just stops? And it's just you two and all I wanna do is be here. Then you kinda shiver cuz you realize you're in a moment that's always gonna be with you. Yea
I’ve had that with one person in my life.
Me too, haunted our lives so much we ended up back together a decade later. Going pretty great these days
Same here. We were broken up and not in contact for seven years. Now we’ve been married for a few months and the joy/desire/companionship/love is too good to try and describe. Truly a dream come true.
Really happy for you guys. The guy in my situation was either lying, faking it, or is too broken to understand we had something special, and betrayed me. Shockingly, he reached back out recently after years, and instead of apologizing, wanted to fuck. I told him to get lost.
Wow, screw him. He’s an asshole and you deserve someone who will love you the same way that you love them. Maybe one day he’ll get his head on straight and realize what he lost. A betrayal like that is so hard to recover from, but it’s not impossible. Learning to forgive is a lifelong journey. Idk you but I’m really proud of you for telling him to back off. Because that means you know your worth and his true nature enough to not fall for his games.
Intimacy = passion… or some formula like that Gratitude starts everything off and excitement
I would add enthusiasm as well.
This connection is a big thing.
Yes. And to add to that - the will to live!
Chemistry
YEAH SCIENCE BITCH!
It may be blue but it's the bomb.
This actually made me laugh, lol
Waltuh Put your dick away waltuh
I'm not having sex with you rn waltuh
Instructions not clear. Got arrested for cooking meth naked.
Intimacy and actual care. Not just going through the motions like its a job.
Then why don't they call it a Blow Care Sorry I'll show myself out
It’s not a blowjob for me, it’s a blowcareer.
I am now finished with the internet for the night 😂
At least someone finished.
give me ten minutes and a cold beverage and i’ll be right back.
Tease him/her all day and make him/her think about it. Be dirty. All day
So they koolaid man in the front door, yeah that works.
Ah yeah, the true secret. The antici
pation.
The awards bro 💀
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Oh jeez...having my second date tomorrow...the first one was quite some weeks ago. And it stopped just short of everything. We have an intense connection. Tomorrow will be great!
Marinate 🍖
that crockpot puntang
Take your time. Enjoy every inch of your partner. Eye contact. Focus on partners breathing and reactions. Make it all about giving pleasure not receiving it.
I felt the "inch" part
Yeah I bet you did you dirty **slut**
Right you are Ken
Great... Now I wanna watch mxc/takahashi's castle
DONT GET ELIMINATED!
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As a Canadian, I “feel” this comment.
Yep. It’s better to give than to receive. I would say something about “inch” but all y’all beat me to it.
Hey, we can beat the inch together.
I liked every inch of this comment
Enthusiasm
Unbridled enthusiasm!
I think you’ve read one too many Billy Mumphry stories
It is what lead to his downfall.
When both people are participating instead of one doing all the work
Are you saying that you don't like my special move, "the disappointed corpse?"
The deader the better is what I always say
Yeah I hate when people don’t do the little things like *participate*.
"Fuck me like you mean it"
Fuck me like the IRS does
1000% times this and then also actually liking the person
Integrity and connection to that person. I still have sex like when we dated 16 years ago. People told us it would fade in marriage. That things would change in your sex life and after having children that your body wouldnt be the same... but all i've found is different ways to admire my wife and stuff that strengtens my bond with her. She knows my favorite things and so do i. In sickness and in health, in money and poverty Sex always comes as a good therapy for us.
You have renewed my hope in finding a good person!! They are out there just got to find them
Mutual desire and knowing your partner mostly. Good sex doesn't usually come from someone who just has great skills. It's more having sexual chemistry with the person you're fucking in particular and knowing what turns them on. Like honestly I've had girlfriends that make me feel like a god of sex and girlfriends that make me feel like the most inadequate man on Earth. It's all about how you guys vibe. I'd rather be with an okay looking chick I totally vibe with sexually than a gorgeous chick who just starfishes and asks me when I'm going to cum.
My dad always said, “people pass up a lot of good pussy trying to fuck faces”
Weird way of flexing that your mom's ugly but a five star fuck
👏👏👏
Wise words indeed.
The 'ole romantic!
why do peoples' parents give them advice like this??! if my dad said this to me i'd take psychic damage
Lol, definitely a very crude way of saying “looks aren’t everything”
I've heard "It's not the face you fuck, it's the fuck you face."
That sounds like something you say to your wingman 10 drinks in when you need him to take one for the team.
Enthusiasm Slightly stressful day that's finally over Rainy and cold outside Sexting all day *Enthusiasm* Good pacing Only people in the house so we can be loud ENTHUSIASM
A hard thing to explain… but when the other person is so horny they just get overtaken by it. My GF was giving me a blowjob one time and as i manoeuvred to get involved she looked me right in the eye, threw me back in my chair and said NO! She fucking went to town on me. She was shaking with excitement. She was almost cheating on me with my own dick. It was amazing. It’s literally in like the top three moments of my life.
>She was almost cheating on me with my own dick. It was amazing. Not something I expected to hear today 😂. I want to use this line now
Swear to god that is the only thing that made me laugh today, cheers.
Edging
I was going to give you a reward, but not yet.
I was also gonna stop stop stopstop! Don't. Move.
I see what you did there…
Oh no you dont!
I ain’t that cool…
A little fucked in the head
Can someone please explain “edging” in this thread?
Getting right to the edge of cumming, slowing down or stopping so it doesn't happen, and then repeating the process so it builds up into a much greater experience.
That can backfire for women. Sometimes if you stop, it's lost. ☹️
Yes. The struggle is real.
Yeah I learned that the hard way with my ex. She was not impressed. Edit: added the word ex
>Yeah I learned that the hard way with my. ...hand?
Definitely not exclusive to women
I had a girlfriend who really really liked my deodorant. One day she was extra frisky, hugged me, smelled me and said: "You smell fantastic. Let's fuck!" Enthusiasm.
My partner made out with me for 30 minutes before we had sex, it was my first time climaxing and I CRIED because it was a release I had never felt before, he got me water, covered me up in a towel, and lid with me until I stopped❤️
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It was the first time I genuinely enjoyed myself, and his smile gave me everything to say “you’re my soulmate”
I’ve had a similar response, was with a woman who’d had previous relationships but had never climaxed (she thought she had) or had a man pay proper attention to her. She cried a little too, it was really sweet. Plus the look on her face when I told her “that was baseline, it gets better” was priceless. The tsunami of filth that followed over the next month, not so sweet but amazing, she was so happy and I was really happy to have been the cause. So, yeah, that was some of the “mind blowing” sex OP had in mind. I just don’t get how so many men haven’t figured out you reap what you sow with the ladies. Baffles me.
And in the end The love you take Is equal to the love you make
Nearly this exact thing happened to me tonight! It was the best I’d ever had and it just felt so perfect :)
And now we have the expectations of THAT nut😂 it definitely sparks a different kind loyalty for sure
For women, I'm guessing an actual orgasm
I heard those were a myth
Nahh you've just got to activate the klutoris, it's somewhere in the butt.
No dude, you are thinking of That little bald headed baby with that show on PBS
No my guy that's kaioo. Clitoris is the big ass red dog
Ending up completely immobilized afterwards.
An aneurism?
As someone who's gotten instant Thunderclap headaches during orgasm, and truly thought I was having a ruptured aneurysm, "mind blowing" is accurate. I just wish it was of the sexy, mind blowing variety.
There are no thoughts about anything. You're just in the moment. Also, when you hit that spot and or get that spot hit. Sex is good, but you find that angle, and suddenly it's 10x better even though you're doing the same thing. The right dirty talk will also take you places. I was with an ex, and she whispered for me to breed her during our activities. It was like a sensory overload. I just shivered thinking about it. Being in tune with each other, knowing what makes the toes curl, how much teasing she likes, and what parts of her you should be paying attention to! For me, I knew I could work from the head down, biting and kissing at the neck, hands tracing around the boobs, avoiding the nipples, for now, some light touching. I am working my way down very carefully until nipple/vagina play. If you both know what you like, play to each other's strengths.
Attention to detail. A light caress or little nuzzle at the right time can do amazing things. Also, lots of oral. If she can still breath, and form coherent sentences, you haven't given her enough.
“If she can still breath” “You haven’t given her enough”. Police, it was this guy. He chewed the woman’s airway through her vagina.
As a straight guy, I think for men like me the two most important things we can do to have great sex with a woman are: **1)** Educate yourself on female anatomy and sexual response. Knowledge = Confidence. **2)** Pay attention and listen to your partner. What does she like? What does she not like? What intensity does she like and when? How does she build towards orgasm? Etc. Bonus: **3)** Go down on a woman, get her off first, and be enthusiastic about it.
I’d add: 4) Realize porn isn’t real life. Don’t expect a woman’s reaction to be like it is in porn or to have the same “interests” as the women in porn.
Depending on the women of course oral can make or break you. The first time I had sex with my current girlfriend I nutted in like two pumps since I hadn't had sex in over a year and was so excited to be doing it again. I ate her out like a bulldog eating spaghetti though and she said if I hadn't done that there wouldn't have been a second date. Go down on your girl ladies and gents.
“Bulldog eating spaghetti” I am in fucking tears 😂
No.2 can be so hard when she says “don’t stop” then you skip a beat and you’re suddenly off rhythm
Being with someone you think is the most attractive person you have ever known
It sucks when you suddenly find that person is crazy and probably belongs to a cult
Oddly specific
I hate when that happens!
Sometimes you and your hand are really in sync and stroking as one
The amount of bodily fluid excreted Pulse and breathing rate Pulling the bed sheets out of your ass.
Putting the bedsheets into your ass
So u just have to pee on them while u monitor there pulse and breathing all while rubbing their ass with bed sheets. Sound like kinky hospital sex
Connection with the partner. Sex usually gets better after each time, it’s a bit of trial and error, learning each other’s likes and dislikes.
According to researcher Peggy Kleinplatz, as described in her book, “Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers” (2020) There are 8 components: 1. Being completely present in the moment, embodied, focused, absorbed. 2. Connection, alignment, being in sync, merger 3. Deep sexual and erotic intimacy 4. Extra ordinary communication and deep empathy 5. Being genuine, authentic, transparent 6. Vulnerability and Surrender 7. Exploration, Interpersonal Risk-Taking, and Fun 8. Transcendence and Transformation
Eye contact
Sure, but you can also have great sex while spooning. Many basic positions can be made intimate. Even doggy style doesn’t have to be “just fucking”, not to mention that it might be the best position for some women or some penis/vagina combinations. One redditor stated that she really enjoyed doggy style while her partner gave her a back rub. Someone else had a female friend who could only ever cum from anal and didn’t really like vaginal sex. The bottom line is it’s different for everyone
Yeah you're right in everything. But eye contact is a must at least once. For me no eye contact means ordinary sex, maybe we're fucking only because we're horny, but that's it. When there is eye contact is because the connection needed to reach the mind-blowing sex exists. Maybe during the rest of the act there is spooning and there is anal and we are not face to face anymore until we are done. But at least once we look eachother knowing that we are about to get fucked really good. Is more related with what's about to come that with the act itself.
Good kissing is a must. Kissing on places like neck, back of shoulders, hands. Being silly enough that if a weird noise happens you can both laugh. Feeling desired is huge. And of course, thinking the other person is amazing and letting them know it.
It depends... Single people: Intimacy Married people: Enthusiasm
All about what you're not getting ey
I HAVE to say it. Emotions. Seriously. The girl I'm with blows my mind even when we have the most boring vanilla sex. Just the feeling attached to it.
Intimacy
listening to each other’s needs and actually care to pleasure the other person. not being selfish
When she has so many orgasms that she can't move when you're done. Then it's mind-blowing.
Honestly I've had guys hyper-fixate on making me orgasm multiple times instead of my general enjoyment. If you are pressuring someone to climax, that can kill the mood. Sometimes it comes off very much like he wants this as some badge of honor instead of connecting and enjoying each other's pleasures.
Attentiveness/being present. People who give you the feeling that they could be having sex with anyone they are just happy to be having sex are TRASH. Great sex comes from someone who is enjoying having sex with YOU.
It's the connection. My husband and I have mind blowing sex every single time and it's simply because we are so close with one another in every other way. He is literally my best friend and soul mate. We are so intimately connected to one another that it simply couldn't be anything other than mind blowingly amazing. We know each other more than we know ourselves. It's incredible.
Same thing with my husband. Damn, the sex is almost spiritual. Sometimes I think I've left my body, it's so amazing. I feel sorry that not everyone experiences this.
Awww I know what you mean. I felt so comfortable with my boyfriend our first time that the sex was very intimate and also satisfying. Also talking about what we want during.. my boyfriend said once he's glad we can talk to each other during and it isn't embarrassing. It's good to be able to laugh
Yes! We tell each other our dirtiest fantasies and never once have we been embarrassed. And every time the other has been excited to hear the fantasy and play it out with one another. We laugh during sex. We have cried during sex. We just enjoy every second. We both agreed we might be addicted but it's just to each other and we have no intention of quitting this vice.
A real connection
Me as a virgin : 🤓✏📃📃
Foreplay that lasts days, weeks, months. Recently started dating a guy who wanted to wait and build a bit of a connection first. We waited till the 8th date, and let me tell you, three months later we are still having mind blowing sex. Something about trust and intimacy being build up. Blah blah blah. Turns out it works! Lol
A well timed pinky. Edit: first, obviously a joke, second, obviously ASK BEFORE DOING THIS jfc
I immediately pictured Dr. Evil saying "One Million Dollars!". And yep, you are exactly right!
This sounds like it could/should be in a cards against humanity deck
Effort and enthusiasm. Guys - act like she's more than just a wet hole to fuck and give her that TLC. Girls - act like you actually want to be there and participate. If everyone just tried to meet those pretty low bars, sex improves exponentially. This is even true for people with low skill levels for the actual mechanics of things. ETA: Communication - if you like something, TELL YOUR PARTNER. They're not mind readers.
When we lock eyes, there's soft and sweet kisses and when she tells me "harder" or "don't stop".
When both people are in love with each other.
Having to change the sheets afterwards
I've been with multiple partners of both genders. I've had sex so good I've cried afterwards, and sex I couldn't wait to be over. There have been times I felt like I was becoming one being with my partner, and times were we were just kind of masturbating with each other's bodies, no eye contact, just going through the motions. And a lot of these experiences I've had with the same partner! It doesn't matter how long you've been with someone or often you do it. I think what really makes the difference is getting into the proper headspace. Take the time to admire your partner. Feel that attraction. There have been moments where I've had to stop and thank my lucky stars because my partner is just so damn gorgeous I'm just about to die from desire. Take the time to explore each other. Sex is about the journey, not the destination. There are times where I've been intimate with someone where I didn't come that are still better in my mind that some crappy sex I've had where I did orgasm. The difference being I had a lot of fun and genuinely enjoyed sharing that experience with ny partner. Be enthusiastic. I look forward to sex the same way I look forward to digging into a hot meal after working all day or the same way I look forward to ripping open a present. It should excite you to your core. I know many married people who derive more joy out of binge watching netfilx than they do having sex with their spouse. No! that's not how it should be! You should crave sex with your partner. You should look forward to it. It should be the highlight of your day, not just a chore to get done. In any relationship, things settle into a routine. Make the effort to spice things up! Buy sexy lingerie, use toys, do it in a place besides your bed. You get to share something as beautiful as the intimacy of your partner's body with them. Treasure it as the privilege it is! All in all, we want to feel wanted. We want to feel desired, like our parnters want US and not just an orgasm. So if you can give your partner that, and they give that to you in return, it really doesn't matter what you do or who it's with. Now go have some mind blowing sex.
Intimacy, the willingness to try new things and listening to your partner
Getting to a place to discuss, share, explore, kinks. Have boundaries ahead of time, discuss hard stops, look into BDSM rules for more info. I'm unsure if people exist without kinks as I don't know if people are sometimes shy or haven't explored or realized them yet. It's incredibly validating and peak of sexual to be in a safe and consenting place with your partner(s) and be able to safely explore yours and their kinks. There is zero rush to explore these, it can take a long long time to build that trust, communication, understanding, etc. Personally I'm of the opinion that life is too short for boring sex if I know I have kinks I'd rather be participating in. For an online quiz for kinks my personal current fave is [kink quiz ](http://bdsmtest.org) . They appreciate helpful feedback and are still trying to improve it but I've used it several times the more honest I am with myself and others. Enjoy and again, if it's not an enthusiastic yes it's a no. Ty and goodnight.
Actually loving and caring for your partner. It makes a huge difference.
When she pulls out a gun and shoots you in the head
I would literally die if someone did that to me
god i wish that were me
Cocaine
Very true, mdma is good as well. My ex was crazy when on either. I miss her everyday.
And I see you named yourself after why she left
No one's said it yet, so... Drugs. Edit: Should clarify, I mean that orgasms are a lot more intense when you're high. Don't roofie people.