Something a lot of people have lost sight of. You don't have to stay with anyone you don't want to, but if you love someone you should try to find a compromise with them before going the nuclear option
People have become lazy and apply consumerist thinking to everything, even other people
When a product goes bad you don't find a way to doctor it up, you throw it away and move on to the next
I know that all too well. Except it was a 23 year marriage with no sex for 15 years. And he drank himself to death 6 months ago. When he was hammered, he wasn’t nice to me and shamed me for not having sex too, but I was basically shouting out that it’s emotional for me. The more you expect sex after every little kiss, hug, date, the further away I go. This made me not want to touch him because there was always an expectation. Then he’d get angry and take it out on me. I’ve learned that if I’m treated as an equal and communication is open, I will be drawn to you more and sexually too. I’m done with games , I just want honesty, even if it hurts, being honest goes a long way with me.
I agree. I will say that romantic chemistry and sexual chemistry can be different. But if they align, it’s incredible.
Open communication is always key. People aren’t mind readers. Sure, absorb body language and continue to implement things they like sexually, but telling each other what you; love doing, cum hardest to, desire doing in the future etc. is worthwhile.
It’s very common in Scandinavia for people to have sex before they start dating. It’s why the area is known for being the ONS capital of the world. But it’s not that people are being super promiscuous, when they do click with someone they tend to begin dating and have a serious relationship.
It’s just that when the compatibility is not there - they move on.
With sex.
Communication too. You're a lot more likely to get your needs met if you can articulate and share them with your partner.
But at the end of the day, there's no substitute for simply fucking and seeing how it goes.
I can't handle it for more than 20 seconds after. My knob gets super sensitive. My legs kick. I'm worried I will hurt her accidentally after she has just done me such a great service.
Based on my personal experience, men find it very sexy when you spit on their pickle when you give them head! Sloppy top is generally a huge turn on, at least in my experience. So it really turns them on when you give them that Hawk Tuah! Lol
Not just that, often men are in relationships with women who only do things when asked, so for a woman to make the decision to not only please their partner but to put in extra effort, that is a major turn on!
Sometimes it's hard to remember what I was doing when I'm going up and down left and right on that clit . She says just like that and I was just ravaging like a starving lion
This!! Yes!
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It does _not_ mean "what you're doing right now is so good that you must be a genius, and thus you should explore a bunch of really different things that you just know I will love." That will be fun, BUT NOT RIGHT NOW, DAMMIT!
On the other hand when he says it, and you increase rhythm, and force, that's gonna kill him in the nicest way... We humans give pleasure as we understand it. That's why men change everything and women don't change a thing.
*Ooooh my neglected-since-childhood self wants to say soooo much but won’t because I’ve learned my words don’t matter and I’m better off tamping everything down BUT with a smile on my face so I can still take care of what’s expected of me and not upset anyone else*.
I mean, hug 🫂❤️🩹
Also from what little we’ve interacted, you are lovely AF 🖤🖤
I try to always make sure she finishes before I even consider putting it in her. It makes it much better and is also the best way to make sure that you're actually going to get it in there.
- Communication is key! Learn what she likes, how she likes it, what type of stimulation she responds to the most.
- sometimes less is more! Don’t rub the clit on full speed, thinking a genie will appear to grant you 3 wishes!
- don’t drill your fingers inside the pussy at high speed. Not too slow, not too fast!
- learn where the clit actually is! Don’t rub the labia thinking you are stimulating her g spot like a sex god!
- finger her while eating her out. It feels really freaking good!
- don’t press too hard on the clit, it is really sensitive and it can hurt, specially if she is already turned on and all the blood has rushed to the clit nerve endings.
- build anticipation. Don’t try to get it over and done with. Start slow, tease, play, etc.
- stay consistent and keep a rhythm. Don’t constantly change the pace.
- when fingering, start with one finger and keep your rhythm steady.
- some women need deeper stimulation, and reach climax by having their A-spot stimulated, which is deeper in, 4-6 inches. Other women need their G-spot stimulated, which is about 2 inches deep inside.
This isn’t expert advice! This is my personal experience based on the way my own body reacts and what we talk about with my other girlfriends!
My boyfriend will spend an entire episode of a show just rubbing my body and when I tell you it makes me literal putty in that man's hands. It's beautiful.
Please her and you have no idea what might be possible. Fuck it's opened up so many things. Perhaps this goes both ways but when you go above and beyond to please a partner in a healthy relationship it should pay dividends.
Women decide what category you fall into very quickly. And once that’s decided your status will rarely change. If she sees you as sexually attractive you’ll know it within a few days. If not, you are not.
Which is why first impressions are important.
I disagree. I didnt really like one of my fwb at first but gave him a chance and discovered silent waters run deeeeep. I was NOT expecting him to be so good in bed haha
Another example; One of my colleagues was not my type but I fell in love with him because he was really smart and ambitious and it turned me on massively when we working together.
Communicate, there is no "mood" that you can ruin, even if someone doesn't cum it can be good, not every time will be perfect. Be human. Things will happen. Be real and authentic. Enjoy each other's bodies. Praise each other.
Sex is supposed to be fun. Everyone involved should enjoy it. You made a queef? You had an accidental fart? Your stomach decided to express itself? So what? Human bodies are weird, you will make weird noises at some point, just laugh about it and keep going. Don't stress out over little things. And if you can't laugh about that weird noise with your partner, you have the wrong partner.
vulva owner here -- Remember to always pee after sex, even if you really don't want to get up. Do it anyway. (After solo too if you're very prone to UTIs)
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And why did no one mention this to me until a decade after it would have started to be helpful info?!
Doesnt matter if youre married, dating, fwb’s, random hook up, or whatever: ALWAYS fuck as if you want to be “invited back” / impress your partner! No one likes a selfish lover
My ex teaching me about edging. I would always cum every day until I met her and she told me about this thing called edging. I found this out in my late 20s
I had a few criers in the past, my wife likes it if she's been warmed up. Sadly last week it poked too far and she screamed "I felt that in the back of my skull" .
It's not anybodies advice. It's my advice to myself ... so I am chubby, tallish gal, nowhere near beauty standards .As you can imagine, I have low self-esteem... I used feel unfuckable, if had sex I'd feel so gross ... So because I think all people deserve sex not just beautiful skinny people...
When I am having sex I tell myself this: I know you hate your body , I know you don't feel sexy, but this guy wants to have sex with you. He's kissing you and touching you , so let's pretend you're goddess! I tell myself don't cover up, don't be shy, you want it , he wants it , go get it , be the biggest slut ever, enjoy!!
When tell myself this I have incredibly sex.
In the winter season always wear socks before having sex. one study found that couples who wore socks in bed were more likely to orgasm during sex. The study reportedly investigated brain responses during sex and found that cold feet put people off.
It is good to talk about what you like and how you like it. The basics.
Someone said they received the advice "Keep sucking after he finishes." Yes, but it's not for everyone and it's okay to say "Hey, so this instead. Stroke in that day, touch in this way."
If the orgasm is a safe, you can just give your partner the combination to yours. Especially long term partners.
Afterwards, you are \*less\* likely to regret at least trying something when you got the opportunity to do it. You are \*more\* likely to regret \*not\* doing it.
On giving oral sex to a woman:
'Land gently on the clit, like a bee landing on a flower. Finish like a dog with his head stuck in a jumbo jar of mayonnaise'
First: don’t be afraid to talk about what you like and don’t like. Be honest. And if it’s not working, smile, shake hands, and wish each other well.
Second: if you just want fun, find a newly single mom. They will fuck your brains out and send you home with snacks.
Sexual incompatibility is a good reason to break up.
But please talk to them and try to find a compromise first. A lot of people use this as an excuse to just not communicate.
Something a lot of people have lost sight of. You don't have to stay with anyone you don't want to, but if you love someone you should try to find a compromise with them before going the nuclear option
I didn't think it was this hard to think through until I found Reddit.
People have become lazy and apply consumerist thinking to everything, even other people When a product goes bad you don't find a way to doctor it up, you throw it away and move on to the next
❤️
I'm referring to my 15 year marriage where he rarely wanted sex and he shamed me for wanting it.
Well that was kind of a general statement and people are going to just read it wrong
I know that all too well. Except it was a 23 year marriage with no sex for 15 years. And he drank himself to death 6 months ago. When he was hammered, he wasn’t nice to me and shamed me for not having sex too, but I was basically shouting out that it’s emotional for me. The more you expect sex after every little kiss, hug, date, the further away I go. This made me not want to touch him because there was always an expectation. Then he’d get angry and take it out on me. I’ve learned that if I’m treated as an equal and communication is open, I will be drawn to you more and sexually too. I’m done with games , I just want honesty, even if it hurts, being honest goes a long way with me.
I agree. I will say that romantic chemistry and sexual chemistry can be different. But if they align, it’s incredible. Open communication is always key. People aren’t mind readers. Sure, absorb body language and continue to implement things they like sexually, but telling each other what you; love doing, cum hardest to, desire doing in the future etc. is worthwhile.
So fucking true
And how do you check sexual compatibility
It’s very common in Scandinavia for people to have sex before they start dating. It’s why the area is known for being the ONS capital of the world. But it’s not that people are being super promiscuous, when they do click with someone they tend to begin dating and have a serious relationship. It’s just that when the compatibility is not there - they move on.
With sex. Communication too. You're a lot more likely to get your needs met if you can articulate and share them with your partner. But at the end of the day, there's no substitute for simply fucking and seeing how it goes.
Keep sucking, even if he cums 🙊
Whoever gave that advice…is doing the world a favor
My partner actually hates it. It’s not for everyone. 😅
It’s cause it gets so fuckin sensitive after, sometimes I make my girl stop
I can't handle it for more than 20 seconds after. My knob gets super sensitive. My legs kick. I'm worried I will hurt her accidentally after she has just done me such a great service.
I agree. However, there sometimes it would be okay. Just, listen out if they ask you to continue.
"You gotta give them that *HAWK TUAH* and spit on that thang!"
We knew it was coming.
Someone had to give the correct answer 🤷🏻♂️
That's what she said.
We know something is coming
Most original answer ever
Ymmv here. If anyone spits on my dick like that, I'll barf.
But... why? I don't get it
Based on my personal experience, men find it very sexy when you spit on their pickle when you give them head! Sloppy top is generally a huge turn on, at least in my experience. So it really turns them on when you give them that Hawk Tuah! Lol
Live and learn :) I suppose I owe that girl then
Not just that, often men are in relationships with women who only do things when asked, so for a woman to make the decision to not only please their partner but to put in extra effort, that is a major turn on!
When she says "don't stop" Literally don't stop what you're doing, it isn't a release phrase to go as fast as you can
And it means don't change ANYTHING. For the love of god and my orgasm, do not change anything. Same angle, same rhythm, same force.
For the love of my orgasm 😂
Am I wrong?
Nope! Sometimes when I say that, it seems as if they go into a stupor, and can’t compute.
Eh. Sometimes y'all be bucking all kinds of crazy and it's hard to keep doing the same thing though
Sometimes it's hard to remember what I was doing when I'm going up and down left and right on that clit . She says just like that and I was just ravaging like a starving lion
This!! Yes! . It does _not_ mean "what you're doing right now is so good that you must be a genius, and thus you should explore a bunch of really different things that you just know I will love." That will be fun, BUT NOT RIGHT NOW, DAMMIT!
That's exactly it like why when they hear that they either go messily faster or actually STOP like bro
On the other hand when he says it, and you increase rhythm, and force, that's gonna kill him in the nicest way... We humans give pleasure as we understand it. That's why men change everything and women don't change a thing.
Wow -- this is actually a great insight! (to many things, not just climaxing)
Lol I searched comments for this reference
It's literal translation is keep doing it exactly as you are until I say otherwise 😜
Yessss! 👏
Thank you!! Not a cue to start pounding!
u/flower_b0y_ 👀
Thanks for the tip, but have you considered that it might be one of the many ways I punish you for your bratty behaviour? 🙄
Booo👎😾
“If you don’t fuck him , someone else will. Don’t complain if someone else is“.
Same with her
Agree, but communicate first. If it ain't changing, then go looking for something
Stop overthinking! And communicate even if it feels awkward to at first
This is excellent LIFE advice. Too bad I’ll overthink and not communicate though. 🙃🖤 ^Why ^am ^I ^like ^this?
I’m the same way. My therapist says it’s due to my traumatic upbringing being around loud people and never being able to get a word in.
*Ooooh my neglected-since-childhood self wants to say soooo much but won’t because I’ve learned my words don’t matter and I’m better off tamping everything down BUT with a smile on my face so I can still take care of what’s expected of me and not upset anyone else*. I mean, hug 🫂❤️🩹 Also from what little we’ve interacted, you are lovely AF 🖤🖤
Haha 😅 why thank you! I’ll try and take the compliment.
🙌🙌🙌
Every Irish child has entered the conversation
Oh hey how did you know of my Irish catholic upbringing!?!?
Lol, we ALL know it.
Communication is a skill!!! If it feels awkward it’s *BECAUSE* you need to practice!
This!!!
Make sure she finishes before you finish.
"Ladies first."
That's the way it should be.
I try to always make sure she finishes before I even consider putting it in her. It makes it much better and is also the best way to make sure that you're actually going to get it in there.
Always. My personal rule: In the end at least a 2:1 rate (her 2, me 1 ofc)
In our case it runs at about 25:1, she likes to have fun.
110% true!!
Don't let a $20 sundress cost you $100,000 in child support.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🔥🔥🔥🔥👍🏿
How to rub a pussy. A very patient woman taught me how to masterbate her to completion. The lessons worked for many other women.
Now you need to make a separate post about that I'm afraid.
Yeah, I demand an explanation.
- Communication is key! Learn what she likes, how she likes it, what type of stimulation she responds to the most. - sometimes less is more! Don’t rub the clit on full speed, thinking a genie will appear to grant you 3 wishes! - don’t drill your fingers inside the pussy at high speed. Not too slow, not too fast! - learn where the clit actually is! Don’t rub the labia thinking you are stimulating her g spot like a sex god! - finger her while eating her out. It feels really freaking good! - don’t press too hard on the clit, it is really sensitive and it can hurt, specially if she is already turned on and all the blood has rushed to the clit nerve endings. - build anticipation. Don’t try to get it over and done with. Start slow, tease, play, etc. - stay consistent and keep a rhythm. Don’t constantly change the pace. - when fingering, start with one finger and keep your rhythm steady. - some women need deeper stimulation, and reach climax by having their A-spot stimulated, which is deeper in, 4-6 inches. Other women need their G-spot stimulated, which is about 2 inches deep inside. This isn’t expert advice! This is my personal experience based on the way my own body reacts and what we talk about with my other girlfriends!
Love the advice, highly appreciated
Five star advice
Thank you for the tips!!
Drop the lore
It’s not a race. Take your time. Don’t be afraid to say what you like.
Golden retriever energy says it’s a race and it starts at 5:00am.
Hey it’s the best advice . Doesn’t mean I take it
You can’t help yourself, you’re all the same! 😂
We are but simple creatures lmao.
I know but so easy to please! For that I’m grateful!!
Lmaooo I hate to admit that you’re right
You’ve got to lick it before you stick it
If she wants it. Somehow my wife doesnt like it, but my previous partners didn't complain about it
It’s okay to laugh. You can take a break.
Pampering and aftercare goes a long way 😬
My boyfriend will spend an entire episode of a show just rubbing my body and when I tell you it makes me literal putty in that man's hands. It's beautiful.
Word 🤜
> women are born with a pussy, they don't want another one ### my father
Lesbians would disagree?
So would many straight women considering the definition of pussy was any man showing emotions.
He is a wise man.
Make her the center of attention. Whatever she wants, she gets, and she's going to want you to be satisfied.
Please her and you have no idea what might be possible. Fuck it's opened up so many things. Perhaps this goes both ways but when you go above and beyond to please a partner in a healthy relationship it should pay dividends.
Women decide what category you fall into very quickly. And once that’s decided your status will rarely change. If she sees you as sexually attractive you’ll know it within a few days. If not, you are not. Which is why first impressions are important.
I disagree. I didnt really like one of my fwb at first but gave him a chance and discovered silent waters run deeeeep. I was NOT expecting him to be so good in bed haha
Another example; One of my colleagues was not my type but I fell in love with him because he was really smart and ambitious and it turned me on massively when we working together.
Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else!
Communicate, there is no "mood" that you can ruin, even if someone doesn't cum it can be good, not every time will be perfect. Be human. Things will happen. Be real and authentic. Enjoy each other's bodies. Praise each other.
> whether you're with her for an hour, or the rest of your life, make her feel like she's the only one ### my mother
Sex is supposed to be fun. Everyone involved should enjoy it. You made a queef? You had an accidental fart? Your stomach decided to express itself? So what? Human bodies are weird, you will make weird noises at some point, just laugh about it and keep going. Don't stress out over little things. And if you can't laugh about that weird noise with your partner, you have the wrong partner.
The only way to love someone else is by loving yourself first. Be honest with yourself first and being honest with everyone else becomes natural
Ive been working so hard on loving myself. Its a constant struggle for me.
Wishing you the best of luck and strength on your journey
Aww thx
It’s a life long struggle, but I hope you find some ways and people who make it a little easier 💐
It is so hard. Fucking trauma and doubt! I need a fairy godmother!
You got this bro/sis
Forget what you look like and do what feels good
Dont freak about trying new things, but only if you have the right partner
vulva owner here -- Remember to always pee after sex, even if you really don't want to get up. Do it anyway. (After solo too if you're very prone to UTIs) . And why did no one mention this to me until a decade after it would have started to be helpful info?!
Doesnt matter if youre married, dating, fwb’s, random hook up, or whatever: ALWAYS fuck as if you want to be “invited back” / impress your partner! No one likes a selfish lover
My ex teaching me about edging. I would always cum every day until I met her and she told me about this thing called edging. I found this out in my late 20s
My Dad told me “Don’t take it out of your pants till you can support it.” Best advice ever.
Wow, that advice should be definitely more popular :(
The “come here” motion. IYKYK
Give her an hour full body sensual massage with touching her down there beforehand makes for great sex.
If a guy is being too aggressive during a blow job, gently grab him by the balls and pull.
But some of us like that 🤔
I'm not kink shaming. Just communicating a possible action if a situation feels off.
It's when a man's defenses are at their lowest.
Not so deep
My girl and I don't agree. She actually likes it when I knock into her cervix 🤷♀️
Some like it and others dont, cervix jousting isnt for everyone apparently
Certainly not. My wife hated it.
I had a few criers in the past, my wife likes it if she's been warmed up. Sadly last week it poked too far and she screamed "I felt that in the back of my skull" .
Just communicate what you like/dislike clearly
Put your lips around your teeth.
Always use contraception and never believe a partner who claims you don’t need to.
That Nina Hartley video on how to eat pussy. Best education I've ever had.
It's not anybodies advice. It's my advice to myself ... so I am chubby, tallish gal, nowhere near beauty standards .As you can imagine, I have low self-esteem... I used feel unfuckable, if had sex I'd feel so gross ... So because I think all people deserve sex not just beautiful skinny people... When I am having sex I tell myself this: I know you hate your body , I know you don't feel sexy, but this guy wants to have sex with you. He's kissing you and touching you , so let's pretend you're goddess! I tell myself don't cover up, don't be shy, you want it , he wants it , go get it , be the biggest slut ever, enjoy!! When tell myself this I have incredibly sex.
Hell yeah, sounds beautiful to me though! Glad you can look past your self doubt and enjoy it!
It's an adventure, not a race. So take you're time, work together, and make some memories finding trouble.
It's not all about you!
If she’s enjoying it, you’re enjoying it
Confucius say. Lick it before you stick it
It's all in the hips.
Sex toys are teammates, not competition
If any party refuses to use protection walk away. It's not worth it.
Learn how to give your wife/ gf excellent oral and be very generous! It will pay back in spades
Try to approach every session as if it was the last time you had sex.
Don't be afraid to communicate and listen.
Well you've heard the joke about the young bull and the old bull - yeah probably not that 🤭
What did Frankie goes to Hollywood say?
If 99 girls say no and 1 says yes, then you’ve scored.
In the winter season always wear socks before having sex. one study found that couples who wore socks in bed were more likely to orgasm during sex. The study reportedly investigated brain responses during sex and found that cold feet put people off.
Have fun
Try new things. But, discuss them, first.
Go slow
The best way to get over one is to get under another.
It is good to talk about what you like and how you like it. The basics. Someone said they received the advice "Keep sucking after he finishes." Yes, but it's not for everyone and it's okay to say "Hey, so this instead. Stroke in that day, touch in this way." If the orgasm is a safe, you can just give your partner the combination to yours. Especially long term partners.
Telling my ex fiance how to suck my cock decently. She was the best cock sucker after that. & she swallowed my cum everytime she sucked me
Breathe through your orgasm rather than holding your breath. It makes it more intense and last longer
Nell’ufficio e nel palazzo non metterci mai il cazzo. Translate : don’t have sex with someone in your job place or in your neighborhood.
Afterwards, you are \*less\* likely to regret at least trying something when you got the opportunity to do it. You are \*more\* likely to regret \*not\* doing it.
"Don't let your dick run your life."-my Father.
1. Talk - about what you like and don't like and what feels good (before during and after) 2. Look at him. Eye contact matters.
Use more lube than you think you'll need.
On giving oral sex to a woman: 'Land gently on the clit, like a bee landing on a flower. Finish like a dog with his head stuck in a jumbo jar of mayonnaise'
The best sex you’ll ever have is right now … (if in a long term relationship or marriage).
Id that red river be gushing, let him take it up the brown pathway.
Why does this sound like "on your period? Then peg him"
Fully relax and feel everything 😈
First: don’t be afraid to talk about what you like and don’t like. Be honest. And if it’s not working, smile, shake hands, and wish each other well. Second: if you just want fun, find a newly single mom. They will fuck your brains out and send you home with snacks.
Communicate, be vocal, be yourself
Don’t stop.
If she’s enjoying it, don’t change what you’re doing.. keep the rythm
Not forgeting to breathe right help you last longer
Women are like a kamado, start slowly, give it some time and you’ll be good for a couple of hours.
Don't fucking change speeds
Never waste a hard on
Don’t rush. Take your time, make her cum first and often
Enjoy!
Clean her up afterwards
Be vocal and have fun
Use protection, because abortions are expensive
not every girl is the same so ask her what she likes specifically
Keep sucking after he finishes.
Communication is key
When she says she likes it that way, do not go faster or try to improve it. Go forward with doing exactly the same.
Tell your partner what you like and listen to them when they tell you what they like.
Best ? Stop getting sex advice from Reddit.
Listen to your partner
communication is the key
"Up the bum, no harm done!" 😅😅😅
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Simple, if you go in with the sole intention of enjoying each other's company the rest will come naturally
Communication is key.
Always talk to the hottest girl in the club, chances are she’s lonely cause no one talks to her
Never have sex with anyone who isn’t as excited about it as you are.
“Your orgasm matters. You deserve orgasm”
Make her cum before before putting your cock in her. And always have a towel ready