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I moved from the Scottish Highlands to Edinburgh for uni but it probably isn’t really the same situation.
Some dating apps like bumble have a “friends” area if that helps.
Bumble is a good option.
Uni is a different story as everyone is open to meeting new people, no children etc. It is a perfect time for a move to a new place tbh.
Loved it. But then I moved to London so things to do is high.
From London I moved to Nottingham which was almost a pin in the map and then I moved back to Sheffield where I'm originally from.
Since we're small, I don't think moving across the UK is as huge as US or other large countries unless it's from big city to remote. From London, we had Cornwall as a potential place and regret not moving there because it's beautiful down there. I would like to live in Scotland for a bit, especially Glasgow which I prefer to Edinburgh (which I know is an unpopular opinion).
As for your real post "I'm bored" then doing whatever is going on in your local area is probably first step.
For example, last weekend there was a vegan festival going off what my wife saw on instagram and although I had plan to stay in and watch sport, decided to go on a whim, had some food, bought some goodies, supported some local business - all the good stuff. But I saw someone drinking out of a coconut which I realised I've never done that in my 40-odd years of life. So I did a life first that probably most here have done and although I'm sure Casual UK (I'm banned) would have a field day spending £7 on a drink, I enjoyed it.
They'll be lots of creators and niche business stuff going off in Hampshire that are a cycle or short drive away so I would suggest starting there.
I've done this twice now at two different life stages.
I moved from the Midlands to Brighton after uni. I couldn't face the idea of growing old in the same dead end town I grew up in. Brighton always looked so much fun on TV and I loved it the few times I visited. So I found a grad job, a room in the first house share I could find and moved. The house share was a disaster (two fruit loop sisters who were breeding chihuahuas without the landlord knowing so we couldn't get a plumbing issue fixed for weeks).
But I was young and looking for an adventure. I made friends at work and met my future husband. I was more careful with my second house share and ended up with two very like minded people who knew the city very well and were lovely.
Last year, we moved from Sussex to the Highlands. I'm a lot older now but we deliberately picked a quiet but friendly village where everyone has been so welcoming. Local social media has lots of clubs and groups to join. It's so beautiful up here that all I want to do is go out walking all the time.
I've moved again and again trying to make something of my screwed-up education and career. Edinburgh, Dundee, back to Edinburgh again, Scottish Borders, West Yorkshire, back to the Borders, Paisley, now Ayrshire, and I'll be moving again soon, who knows where exactly. Every time I feel like I'm putting down roots and getting to know folk circumstances conspire to cause me to move again. I have kind of given up trying to make friends or socialise and just feel utterly rootless. The only place I could call home is Galloway, but I wouldn't live there for anything. You need a car apart from anything else. In all honesty my "friends" over the past nearly 20 years have been social media and booze. It's a sad state of affairs but mostly unavoidable IMO. This is what happens when parents don't give a shit about their kid's future and drive them away at an age where they are too young to stand on their own two feet properly.
I moved from one UK country to another but for lifestyle, not for work. Left suburban London for a rural area with more green and we have more space in our home too.
I did find a great job that turned out very well but it doesn't earn as much as I was earning previously, but I'm OK with that.
I moved with my husband and we're pretty self-sufficient in terms of spare time but we do have one set of friends not too far away. To be honest, our close friends have always been scattered across the UK so we see them all about as often as we did before.
Family is the one aspect that we don't see quite as often as we used to but try and visit a few times a year, and they come to us as well.
I'm quite active online which has allowed me to more readily connect with new friends in my new neighbourhood, so that's been great too.
I lived in Winchester, worked in Southampton, then was promoted and moved to Nottingham. I joined the Civic Society, taking people around the city to view the architecture and talk about the history. I met some great people from so many places and made some great friends.
I moved from Southwest to Northwest, knowing nobody. Things were a little tough to begin with but I joined some Meetup groups and have a few groups of friends now, been up here a few years and loving it. You'll manage!
We moved from Watford to Hampshire in 2020. Cheaper housing and lovely area. Partner has made some acquaintances through work and occasionally goes to the pub. Same with me. Neither of us have made proper friends. Both in our 30’s. We just have friends visit us or we visit them. We generally just look after our pets, go for walks, to the pub, watch Netflix. I would like to meet actual friends but it’s difficult, especially with no children.
Whereabouts are you in Hampshire?
I'm house sharing with a few other people and sometimes we're all out for work. I wouldn't want to leave a dog all alone :(
I'd only really get a dog if I had a place of my own + someone able to keep it company whilst I'm working.
moved from the south to t'north . i was quite busy with work and doing traveling which was good. but weekends were a bit boring. dated a bit , tried to make work friends, made lots of phone calls to arrange things. eventually sorted itself out. 20 years later and half a dozen of those work friends are now my besties.
I moved from outer London to Aberdeen then to Edinburgh then back to outer London. I then moved to the Midlands for work and also more affordable housing. Been in the Midlands now 6 years, my job is actually remote so I can be wherever really but I'm tied by whatever my partner does workwise and our 2 kiddos.
Adjusting was fine, a part of me does really miss city life, as I'm in the middle of nowhere in a really dull village. There are no nice farmers markets here or decent cafes. I haven't actually bothered with making friends, I have a couple here but I prefer my own company and well a lot of the women here my age are SAHM who are boring as fuck and super cliquey. My time is spent working, taking the kids out at the weekend with or without my partner, sometimes I go and check out a new town or city and try out restaurants and keeping in touch with old friends as at least the Midlands is pretty central to most places.
I’m originally from N Wales, moved up to Aberdeen for a few years, then to Edinburgh, now back in N Wales. It’s hard, and I find it’s a bit harder the older you get. I’ve been really blessed with incredible neighbours, so have always had some kind of social support even if not necessarily people of my age. It usually takes me a good 4 to 6 months to really make friends and feel settled.
Hobbies, clubs, and work are going to be your best bet for meeting people. For just checking out new places, I’m usually pretty happy doing that alone.
Moved to the country, discovered that my survey was done by a blind bloke and i had bought a money pit ruin, with a huge garden met loads of people and found out stuff going on due to trades people.
So spare time is filled with lots of diy, gardening, projects and local events.
Playstation still packed away in a moving box in the garage.
I've moved country several times and then internally in UK a few times.
In my experience there's a couple of things that stand out:
1. Even when you're completely sure about moving you often get huge feelings of doubt, worry etc prior to doing it. It's a weird feeling knowing a lot of things you do, see and people you interact with will be the last time you'll ever do or see ever again. The last bus or train leaving a place I've lived in are some of my most vivid memories.
2. Building a new life for yourself each time isn't easy. Comes with isolation and loneliness at times, particularly in other countries. Unless you're incredibly lucky with work colleagues nothing will make this better other than constantly putting yourself out your comfort zone doing things, meeting people etc. I've experienced quite a few people over the years who turned up somewhere, didn't make much effort then left moaning it's a bad place with cold people etc
By being open minded, getting involved in stuff (sports, interests, etc, locally)*
Genuinely think it could be short-med term struggle if not involved in something where there isn't necessarily the pressure to get to know people.
* moved 5 times all over with no connection and always done fine. I am however an extrovert.
Edit: wouldn't ever use apps to meet anyone, despite the above. Feels to forced to me.
I got in an awful relationship with someone who was just as lonely and disenfranchised as I was. It felt like trying to fill a void with an even deeper void.
The day after I eventually dumped them I walked to work as usual, but this time listening to the free spotify - instead of talking with them on the phone - and finally heard the sound of freedom.
No problem for me. I moved from Manchester to London in 2005 to live with my girlfriend (later wife) that I'd only met a couple of months before. Folks thought it was a bit sudden but it was fab. I didn't really miss home at all. There was always something to see and do and I had hobbies that didn't rely on others.
Later moved from London to the west country and that was an even better move. Clean air, 15 minutes drive to the coast. There's loads of places to visit and enjoy here. I love the coast in winter, often having a whole promenade to yourself on a bleak day.
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I moved from the Scottish Highlands to Edinburgh for uni but it probably isn’t really the same situation. Some dating apps like bumble have a “friends” area if that helps.
Bumble is a good option. Uni is a different story as everyone is open to meeting new people, no children etc. It is a perfect time for a move to a new place tbh.
Loved it. But then I moved to London so things to do is high. From London I moved to Nottingham which was almost a pin in the map and then I moved back to Sheffield where I'm originally from. Since we're small, I don't think moving across the UK is as huge as US or other large countries unless it's from big city to remote. From London, we had Cornwall as a potential place and regret not moving there because it's beautiful down there. I would like to live in Scotland for a bit, especially Glasgow which I prefer to Edinburgh (which I know is an unpopular opinion). As for your real post "I'm bored" then doing whatever is going on in your local area is probably first step. For example, last weekend there was a vegan festival going off what my wife saw on instagram and although I had plan to stay in and watch sport, decided to go on a whim, had some food, bought some goodies, supported some local business - all the good stuff. But I saw someone drinking out of a coconut which I realised I've never done that in my 40-odd years of life. So I did a life first that probably most here have done and although I'm sure Casual UK (I'm banned) would have a field day spending £7 on a drink, I enjoyed it. They'll be lots of creators and niche business stuff going off in Hampshire that are a cycle or short drive away so I would suggest starting there.
That last part sounds nice, I just have no idea how to find them. I live in the middle of nowhere so there's nothing in walking distance to explore.
I've done this twice now at two different life stages. I moved from the Midlands to Brighton after uni. I couldn't face the idea of growing old in the same dead end town I grew up in. Brighton always looked so much fun on TV and I loved it the few times I visited. So I found a grad job, a room in the first house share I could find and moved. The house share was a disaster (two fruit loop sisters who were breeding chihuahuas without the landlord knowing so we couldn't get a plumbing issue fixed for weeks). But I was young and looking for an adventure. I made friends at work and met my future husband. I was more careful with my second house share and ended up with two very like minded people who knew the city very well and were lovely. Last year, we moved from Sussex to the Highlands. I'm a lot older now but we deliberately picked a quiet but friendly village where everyone has been so welcoming. Local social media has lots of clubs and groups to join. It's so beautiful up here that all I want to do is go out walking all the time.
I've moved again and again trying to make something of my screwed-up education and career. Edinburgh, Dundee, back to Edinburgh again, Scottish Borders, West Yorkshire, back to the Borders, Paisley, now Ayrshire, and I'll be moving again soon, who knows where exactly. Every time I feel like I'm putting down roots and getting to know folk circumstances conspire to cause me to move again. I have kind of given up trying to make friends or socialise and just feel utterly rootless. The only place I could call home is Galloway, but I wouldn't live there for anything. You need a car apart from anything else. In all honesty my "friends" over the past nearly 20 years have been social media and booze. It's a sad state of affairs but mostly unavoidable IMO. This is what happens when parents don't give a shit about their kid's future and drive them away at an age where they are too young to stand on their own two feet properly.
I moved from one UK country to another but for lifestyle, not for work. Left suburban London for a rural area with more green and we have more space in our home too. I did find a great job that turned out very well but it doesn't earn as much as I was earning previously, but I'm OK with that. I moved with my husband and we're pretty self-sufficient in terms of spare time but we do have one set of friends not too far away. To be honest, our close friends have always been scattered across the UK so we see them all about as often as we did before. Family is the one aspect that we don't see quite as often as we used to but try and visit a few times a year, and they come to us as well. I'm quite active online which has allowed me to more readily connect with new friends in my new neighbourhood, so that's been great too.
Moved from Yorkshire to Winchester. I joined the rugby club.
I lived in Winchester, worked in Southampton, then was promoted and moved to Nottingham. I joined the Civic Society, taking people around the city to view the architecture and talk about the history. I met some great people from so many places and made some great friends.
I moved from Southwest to Northwest, knowing nobody. Things were a little tough to begin with but I joined some Meetup groups and have a few groups of friends now, been up here a few years and loving it. You'll manage!
We moved from Watford to Hampshire in 2020. Cheaper housing and lovely area. Partner has made some acquaintances through work and occasionally goes to the pub. Same with me. Neither of us have made proper friends. Both in our 30’s. We just have friends visit us or we visit them. We generally just look after our pets, go for walks, to the pub, watch Netflix. I would like to meet actual friends but it’s difficult, especially with no children. Whereabouts are you in Hampshire?
Currently living in Binsted, I thought I lived somewhere quiet in Wales, this is the middle of nowhere 🤣
That does look quiet. Lovely though!!! I’d get a dog. Gets you out and you get to know people. Especially in the pub 🙂
I'm house sharing with a few other people and sometimes we're all out for work. I wouldn't want to leave a dog all alone :( I'd only really get a dog if I had a place of my own + someone able to keep it company whilst I'm working.
Oh that sucks. Maybe look into something like Borrowmydoggy?
Work normally. Or the pub. Sometimes neighbours. But I’ve done it frequently enough to just be used to it. Ironically I had kids and came home though
moved from the south to t'north . i was quite busy with work and doing traveling which was good. but weekends were a bit boring. dated a bit , tried to make work friends, made lots of phone calls to arrange things. eventually sorted itself out. 20 years later and half a dozen of those work friends are now my besties.
I moved from outer London to Aberdeen then to Edinburgh then back to outer London. I then moved to the Midlands for work and also more affordable housing. Been in the Midlands now 6 years, my job is actually remote so I can be wherever really but I'm tied by whatever my partner does workwise and our 2 kiddos. Adjusting was fine, a part of me does really miss city life, as I'm in the middle of nowhere in a really dull village. There are no nice farmers markets here or decent cafes. I haven't actually bothered with making friends, I have a couple here but I prefer my own company and well a lot of the women here my age are SAHM who are boring as fuck and super cliquey. My time is spent working, taking the kids out at the weekend with or without my partner, sometimes I go and check out a new town or city and try out restaurants and keeping in touch with old friends as at least the Midlands is pretty central to most places.
I’m originally from N Wales, moved up to Aberdeen for a few years, then to Edinburgh, now back in N Wales. It’s hard, and I find it’s a bit harder the older you get. I’ve been really blessed with incredible neighbours, so have always had some kind of social support even if not necessarily people of my age. It usually takes me a good 4 to 6 months to really make friends and feel settled. Hobbies, clubs, and work are going to be your best bet for meeting people. For just checking out new places, I’m usually pretty happy doing that alone.
Moved to the country, discovered that my survey was done by a blind bloke and i had bought a money pit ruin, with a huge garden met loads of people and found out stuff going on due to trades people. So spare time is filled with lots of diy, gardening, projects and local events. Playstation still packed away in a moving box in the garage.
I've moved country several times and then internally in UK a few times. In my experience there's a couple of things that stand out: 1. Even when you're completely sure about moving you often get huge feelings of doubt, worry etc prior to doing it. It's a weird feeling knowing a lot of things you do, see and people you interact with will be the last time you'll ever do or see ever again. The last bus or train leaving a place I've lived in are some of my most vivid memories. 2. Building a new life for yourself each time isn't easy. Comes with isolation and loneliness at times, particularly in other countries. Unless you're incredibly lucky with work colleagues nothing will make this better other than constantly putting yourself out your comfort zone doing things, meeting people etc. I've experienced quite a few people over the years who turned up somewhere, didn't make much effort then left moaning it's a bad place with cold people etc
By being open minded, getting involved in stuff (sports, interests, etc, locally)* Genuinely think it could be short-med term struggle if not involved in something where there isn't necessarily the pressure to get to know people. * moved 5 times all over with no connection and always done fine. I am however an extrovert. Edit: wouldn't ever use apps to meet anyone, despite the above. Feels to forced to me.
Yea I'm with you on the apps thing, I don't like forcing things. It's just a struggle trying to find places / activities to actually attend
I got in an awful relationship with someone who was just as lonely and disenfranchised as I was. It felt like trying to fill a void with an even deeper void. The day after I eventually dumped them I walked to work as usual, but this time listening to the free spotify - instead of talking with them on the phone - and finally heard the sound of freedom.
No problem for me. I moved from Manchester to London in 2005 to live with my girlfriend (later wife) that I'd only met a couple of months before. Folks thought it was a bit sudden but it was fab. I didn't really miss home at all. There was always something to see and do and I had hobbies that didn't rely on others. Later moved from London to the west country and that was an even better move. Clean air, 15 minutes drive to the coast. There's loads of places to visit and enjoy here. I love the coast in winter, often having a whole promenade to yourself on a bleak day.
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