He proposed on my 20th birthday and we were married 8 months later. He treated me so respectfully, lovingly, and after only knowing him for 8 months prior to proposal, was already starting to facilitate healing from my past. Almost 12 years and 2 kids later and he is still the absolute love of my life who treats me like a queen and is showing our kids what it means to find someone who loves and respects you.
I could’ve written this. Exactly what happened to me. Married at 23, divorced 11 years later and I think it was because I was too young he he was way older than me. Don’t recommend
I wouldn’t tell anyone what age they should or shouldn’t marry. I got married at 22 because it made sense to me. I was with the guy I planned on spending forever with so we got married. That was 28 years ago.
We met when I was 21 and I moved in after a fight with my mother. We had actually been broken up . We married 3 years later. It was 43 years together this month.
My 18 year old just started in on me tonight “who gets married at 21?!? You were basically a child bride, except you groomed him! He was 9 months younger than you! Mother!” She finds the very thing absurd and judges me harshly lol.
My mom was moving back in with her ex and I didn’t want to be around him because he was an alcoholic and we didn’t have a good relationship. I didn’t want to live with my then boyfriend without being married either. We’ll celebrate 12 years this year, I’m so grateful that he’s always been someone I could trust and turn to. Love him to pieces.
He proposed at 23, officially wed at 24 & divorced at the ripe age of 26. No regrets leaving or even entering. The only thing I’d “tweak” is not waiting on potential, only marry when the man has everything you want right then & there. I’m the definition of standing on business lol so once a promise wasn’t kept I left. Im just happy I left child free!
Because i had a bad life I didn't want to go back to and I figured I would love him eventually enough to get married... so why not do it now?
We were 19 and 20. We are 31 and 32 now. Life is ok.
Mine has worked out so far, he helped me work through a lot of childhood trauma mental health stuff. In our 40s now and three youngish kids. As happy as we can be at this stage I think (kids are exhausting and one of ours has special needs). I do wonder what it would be like to date someone else, but I have a good thing. I know he loves me and I trust him.
My parents were part of a religion that basically forced the young people to get married when they were around 17. They did not approve of dating or premarital sex. If you showed any interest in someone they coerced you very strongly to marry. My ex's father threatened to disown him if we didn't marry.
We got married when we were 21. At the time, his college decided to suddenly go back to in-person classes. He was having to move back up in the summer and both of us didn't want to be in a long distance relationship. We realized during a snow storm earlier in the year, (It was a really bad storm that had us stuck in the same apartment for a week) we realized that we were extremely comfortable with each other and knew that we couldn't live without the other one, it was as if we had a hole in our chests when we were apart.
We're about to hit our three year anniversery soon.
We both agreed that we did marry young, but we don't regret our decision. We both think it was the best decision we ever made.
Got together when we were 19/20, married at 25/26 which is young in my circles, we had the first wedding out of our friend group. We basically lived together from week one and like I just knew. I never imagined marrying young - used to say I wouldn’t marry at all - but really happy I did. Our marriage is so good. 7 years married, 12 years together rn 🥰
I was in love.
He was my first boyfriend. We married when I was 18, and he was 23. This year, we will be celebrating 16 years married (18 together), and we have 4 kids together. We've had our bumps, but he's my safe place.
I got married at 23. I'm still happily married. Don't get me wrong. It hasn't always been happily ever after, but it worked for us because we were best friends, not just lovers. We still go through life as best friends. We remind each other every day that we have each other's backs and we're on the same team.
Why do it? Filing jointly got us bigger tax returns. I could more easily take over his finances because he was up to his eyeballs in debt and really disorganized about it. We could advocate for each other if one of us was sick or injured. We could put the other one on our health benefits at work if necessary. We loved eachother and knew we were compatible and wanted the same things in life.
Marrying young (or getting married at all) isn't for everyone. Don't marry someone just to get married. If your focus is on the wedding itself and not on the person you're getting married to and what happens after, you're doing it wrong. The person you're marrying should want compatible things in life, which means you both need to know what you each want from your own lives. Not everyone knows that by 23 and that's ok.
I got married at 24. I don't think that's crazy young or anything, but it depends who you ask. Anyways, it was very much not rushed because we'd been dating since I was 17. I'm 31 now and he is still very much my person. It's hard to put into words because we'd been living together for 2 years prior to getting married, but somehow it just felt more secure after getting married and like we had solidified the fact that we are a team no matter what.
I love this! I’m in my 3rd relationship right now and this feels so real and right. We’re planning to move in together early next year and I know the pieces are falling into place. This is an inspiration and I wish you guys a long and happy marriage!
This is almost my story exactly, except I'm only 26 now. I was 24 when we got married, after 6 years together, the last 2 of them owning a house together.
We knew pretty early on we wanted go get married, but after we were secure in life. It also gave us enough time to be sure, since we know getting married young can be a risk since your brain is literally still developing.
We both wanted to and felt so sure of it. Plus where we grew up it was the social norm to be married before 25 and it was heavily encouraged too. So we didn’t know anything different really. We’re divorced now though, was married for six years and had a kid. I have no regrets as it taught me so much about love, risks, and marriage itself.
He was my first boyfriend and he got me pregnant. I was barely 20 years old. We got married when I was 6 months pregnant with our son. We are still married and that was 18 years ago. I wish I had waited longer to better establish myself but here I am. It’s worked out in my case.
We got together when I was 16 and he was 15. He moved in to my parents house with me at the beginning of the pandemic and we figured if we could survive that together without getting sick of each other, we must be doing something right. We'll both be 23 by the time we get married in July.
I did it because I had issues with my parents and my self esteem was extremely low. I was so afraid of being alone because I felt that I was at my core, unlovable. And he loved me, so what's there to th nk about? He was a bit older and I was stupid, not understanding that I had to figure out a way to love myself first. It's the biggest regret in my life. Because the thing is, we didn't have to get married. We could have just lived together, and then I could have been so much more free to leave. But the spite-marriage at 21 sort of sealed the deal. That's what I try telling people who want to get married super young, that there is NO point before you have kids (and in many countries litte point after, too). You can still live together without being married. God, I want to kick myself when I think about it. Threw my whole goddamn life away.
We’d been together for 8 years prior, since we were sixteen. So we got married at 23. Had lived together for 5 years. I thought it would be funny to get married on April fools day, he was down! So we did. And it made sense! Within the following years, we bought a house and got on the same insurance policy. Being married made those much easier. Just celebrated our 5 year wedding anniversary in London!
I got married at 22. In the culture I grew up in, that was the expectation. The year I got married, all of my bridesmaids also had weddings. I would have felt left out had I not been getting married, too. I was under the impression that getting married was the thing to do. It's what my parents did.
Looking back, I am sad for my misguided and naive former self. But I do understand it was due to very strong cultural pressures. I've accepted that mistake.
Married at around age 19/20ish. We had been together for a couple of years already, thought being good friends and companions was enough to make a good marriage, and we both wanted to reach escape velocity to exit our home communities, so we joined forces.
That last part worked. We both left together and over time grew into the people we truly wanted to be, but it turned out that those people were not compatible for a long term relationship or marriage, so we eventually divorced and moved on with our lives separately.
We met when I was 16 and got married when I was 20. It was a sort of love at first sight thing (for him, he says. I took a little more time) and it worked out for us financially. I also couldn't wait to get out of the house. Lol I was immature, for sure, and wish I did several things different but I don't regret marrying young. It's not for everyone but in rare occasions it works. We did wait to have kids though and I think that was smart. I definitely wasn't ready and needed time to grow as a person. Fourteen years and two kids later we are still happily married! 😊 Have we had a lot of rough moments? For sure. But it's also helped us grow together and I'm pretty hopeful of the future.
Because my parents made me. They married me off to a church member when I was 17. They didn’t care that I did not want to get married or that I did not love him. My dad told me I will learn to love him.
I got married because I was in love and couldn't see myself with anyone else. 20 years later we're still rockin. I was 21 and he was 32 when we got married. It's for sure not for everyone, but for myself, I would marry him again everyday. While age is a factor, it's a miniscule one compared to the actual relationship and the maturity of the people in said relationship.
Initially, I did not plan to marry so young (22). When we met, he had a lot of bad habits, yet I was very much drawn to him. At one point, he just suddenly changed his bad habits and wanted to become a better person (he's Muslim and became practising around a year, something into the relationship) and asked to stop anything physical we were doing and wait until marriage. This was the first time I met a man who "wanted to stop anything physical so he could value me properly". I loved him and admired him for everything he did, so of course I agreed.
Another year and a half later, he proposed. Of course, I agreed to that as well. Zero regrets. I think a relationship should be inspiring us both to become better with each passing day and that's how I've been feeling with him.
I got married at 20, he was 22. I was pretty certain that he was the love of my life at the time. And, thankfully its been true. We have gone through so much together, grown up together. I love him with all that I am and I know he loves me to the ends of the earth. I think it helps that we talk through everything and are able to listen to each other (most of the time). We have been together for 14 years, married for 11 this year. We are currently pregnant with our 4th girl. We are happy.
Is this for everyone? No, certainly not. And that's ok. But, I'm excited to see where life brings us and our family.
Met him at 18; he was 21. Got married when I was 22. We’ve been married 15 years now.
Why? Because we love each other. Our values mesh. We wanted to be married and all that entails (commitment, being a family, etc.) If anything, I wish we would have gotten married younger (maybe between my sophomore and Junior years of college).
I'm not sure what your criteria is for "young" but I got married at 25. To me I think that was pretty young. I was in love, and my relationship was great. We started our relationship at age 20 for me and 21 for him. It was just the natural progression of our relationship.
If you want a family and you have the opportunity, get married and have kids sooner in your life (20s or 30s) as your circumstances might change in the future and you might not have the same options.
In my 40s, my long-term partner had a midlife crisis and no longer wanted to remain attached, and I became ill and no longer could carry a baby to full term. I waited too long.
You might not marry the right person and get divorced later... that's fine, men will come and go, but your kids are yours for life. Don't wait too long if you want kids.
Being from two different countries put the pressure on us real fast but I lucked out. I married a good one and doing life together has been great. He’s my partner and very best friend and we’ve learned how to love each other over and over as we grow and evolve. We’ve been tested many times but we always come out the other side understanding each other so much more. We just celebrated our 9th anniversary. Additionally, having two incomes has really set us ahead compared to a lot of our single friends. That being said, I would always recommend waiting until you’re at least 25 to get married. Most people’s brains are still developing and there’s a lot of maturing that must happen before then. I’m a very different person than I was when I got married at 23.
I got married at 23 (I’m now 28, he’s 30), had been with my partner for 7 years already. We’re still married, have been together for 12 years in August. I stuck with him through cancer treatment, we’ve encouraged each other to chase our dreams, and we have very healthy communication. Not perfect, but way better than we started. I don’t regret marrying young at all.
I think I did it because I knew this was the life I wanted with my person. He gets me like no one else and I feel safe and comfortable with him. We’re very much in love.
I know some people are probably wondering now:
No, we do not have children, we do not want children, and we both love the childfree life. It’s kept the sex life alive, we’re always involved with each other, and everyday feels like we just started dating.
We got married at 22 and 24. We had been together since high school. Went to colleges about an hour apart from each other. It was nice because we never lived together in college so I felt like I got to have an independent experience. After college, we started having serious discussions about if one of us would move somewhere for the other for a job and stuff like that. I said I would, but I would only do it for someone I was married to.
We are still together over 7 years later and going strong!
I knew he was the one - simple as that! We met when I was 19, got married when I was 20! Still married 10 years later ❤️ it’s weird, when they are the one you I just know. It’s different than everyone before even if you thought they were also the ones, this time around it was a totally different feeling - cosmic. Like we knew each other for lifetimes before
Mormonism. I was 19 almost 20 when we met and started dating. It was going really well and we obviously couldn't live together without being married, so that's what we did about a year after we met. We got lucky and we're still really happy 6 years later.
Well I say don’t do it, because you change so much in your 20s. At least I certainly did, however at the time it was the right thing to do and I did marry a good man.
I was 21 and he was still 20. Been married over 2 years now. We’d been together since we were 16ish. We both grew up Mormon, so that’s kinda just what you do. No regrets tho, it’s worked out well for us!! I do think it’s wild when people date for less than a year before getting married tho
We met our senior year of college at 21 and got married at 26. I don’t know if that counts as young. I’ll be 35 in about a month (he’s 35) and although we are having a rough go of it right now, he always supports me and makes me laugh. I quit my job and things are a bit stressful right now but it’ll be ok.
Married at 24 so I could sponsor him to move to my country. We were engaged but didn’t plan on marrying until a couple years later but we had a change of plans. I don’t regret it at all because now we have more time together
I started dating my husband at 18 so when I got married at 22 we’d been together 4 years so it didn’t seem too young.
We also grew up in a culture where it isn’t unusual to get married at that age. So our families didn’t have any problems with it either.
We’ve been together 9 years now and are really happy 😊
We met in high school and started dating when I left for college at 17 (he was 20). He moved across the country for me which was very special. He proposed to me when I was 22 (he was 25) because he was accepting a new job on the west coast and had to move. We knew immediately that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. I finished nursing school and then we married at 24/27. We’ve been married almost 9 years now :)
My husband is my best friend and I love him so much.
I'm not like legally married but I've been in a partnership with my boyfriend since I was 18 (30f). A few reasons for it,
1. I was desperate to move forward in life, I just graduated high school and couldn't get a job and didn't do any of the required stuff to get into college. So financial security sounded really nice
2. I left high school with zero friends or connections and it was nice have someone show interest in me
We had been together for 5 years and I had just graduated college with plans to move to another state with him to start our careers. We had already thoroughly discussed marriage and our future lives together, and planned to get married and move in together after we both graduated college. We got married when I was 23 and he was 24, he turned 25 on our honeymoon a week later. We’re now coming up on our 3rd anniversary
I had just turned 21 when I got married. My husband was 19.
I had grown up with abusive parents. My father was a violent drunk and my mother was the most vicious woman I’ve ever known. Both parents targeted me—they made it clear that they would never have stayed married had my mother not become pregnant with me.
My father tried to kill me when I was 15 years old.
I met my husband at college, and I was drawn to his stability. I needed someone I could depend on. In retrospect, I think I also needed an ally—someone who was on my side.
We have been married 50 years. Both my parents are gone, thank God. They weren’t good people. The best I can say about them is that they were deeply disturbed.
I got married at 21. I'd known my bf as a friend since 18, started dating at 19, moved in together at 20, and were ready to share the rest of our lives together once living together went so well. We've been married 17 yrs this August, no kids, more in love than ever.
My husband and I were together for 5 years before we got married at 24. We're about to have our 5th anniversary. I churned through boys in my teens and while I was obviously still a kid I knew my (now) husband did and would always treat me better than those bros. We've had an incredible life so far and I have no regrets.
I was 22 and it was the only decision I ever made that left me feeling 100% certain with no doubts whatsoever, despite knowing what everyone would think. 12 years later I still feel the exact same way
I got married a month after my 23rd birthday. I knew in my gut he was it for me on our first date. He was the person I wanted to build my life with and 17 years later and he is still that person and so much more.
I got married at 21. My husband and I were together for 7 years at that point. We now have 2 kids and are 12 years in.
Why do it? Why not? 🤷♀️ If you know hes the one, you know hes the one. If you are questioning it, then don't do it.
Got married at 23, 25 now and still happily married. I’ve known him since I was 12 and we’ve been best friends since then, I couldn’t imagine my life without him
I got married at 20. My mom had spent four years pushing me to date anyone who asked, without regard to my feelings. I married the first one who asked, and moved 2000 miles away, then divorced him less than a year later. Then I started my life.
I married at 21 because I was young, in love, and it would qualify me for university grants. I got divorced 7 years later. It was not the happiest of marriages, and ended up very toxic. I’m much happier now
young and dumb lol I mean what other answer is there? I was 22 and married someone 5 years older who assumed he knew better than I did. didn't even make it a year. I got married again at 29, which seems much more reasonable and we've been together 12 years and married for 7 this year. I'm not saying people in their early 20s that marry are making a mistake but for me I was a vastly different person at 29 than 21/22.
I got married at 23. We had only been together for two years. I knew he was the person I wanted to grow old with. I'm 37 now, and we've been through some rough patches but we're still in love.
At 22. He was objectively a good choice and I love him. I wanted to have my children earlier than the current societal expectations of mid 30’s. I was an only child and I wanted to be part of my own family not wandering through a bunch of boyfriend situations. I had finished my M.S. This decision was 42 years ago. Decided and made it work. This was my best choice.
Started dating when I was 16 and married when I was 20. We had learned a lot about our relationship and what we wanted by then so while it seems young we were ready for that step. Next year will be 25 years together, married for 20. He’s still my best friend and every day is better than the last.
On the flip side. I had friends that started dating at same time. Married a couple years after us and everyone had bets on when they would divorce because they had clear relationship issues they hadn’t dealt with.
I think it’s less about the age and more about the maturity of the relationship before taking that step and having the foundation and fundamentals for keeping a strong successful relationship.
Because I was a teen with a lifelong medical condition and a family who had walked away from my care and education. It ended up as bad as you would think. Although it was better than homeless or in the violence of my mothers home. I have so many strong emotions about it. I live in a state fighting to keep it legal to marry minors. To this day (now more than 20 years later) I feel trafficked. I divorced and married again young. This time at 23 and so I could get medical insurance through his job. Before Obama my pre existing condition made young adulthood hard. We have been together for 19 years now and I am loved and happy.
21. We were together since I was 17, I was graduating college and his job was taking him states away. I grew up in a low income household and had no money or job lined up. It seemed like the next step or break up. We were amicably divorced at 26. It's easy to say I shouldn't have done it in retrospect, but no one was saying to my face don't do it at the time and I was naive. I don't regret it.
We met when I was 16, dated for 6 years got married right before I turned 22. We have been married now for almost 8 years. We just never second guessed it and he’s my best friend. It’s cliche, but when you know you know.
I got married at 23 , to my husband, who I proposed to, that was about 25 years ago. Honestly, it was a good decision at a bad time. Ideally we’d have gotten married a few years later when we both were more mature.
We started dating at 16 and got married at 22. We felt it was a little early (we felt young, we were varely adults) but we knew we wanted to be to gether so we got married and moved to a different country together, started our new life we cellebrated 7 years of marriage this year and are very much in love still.
My parents forced me to marry my first husband when I was 20. They said they would cut me out of their will and never speak to me again if I didn't. Biggest mistake I ever made was marrying that loser.
Married my wife at 23. We’ve been best friends since we were 17 and 18. We got married because we love each other. It’s not complicated. Now that we both have fully developed pre frontal cortexes or whatever, no regrets ever.
Married about 3 months after I turned 20 years old, and have been married for 16 years now.
Why? Because I knew I found my person. When we started seeing each other, he was very clear that marriage wasn’t something he wanted. He was totally down for a monogamous long term relationship, but didn’t want marriage. Then 9 months later he broke down in tears and asked me to marry him. I was shocked! We both were excited, and ran off to elope about a month after that.
Got married at 21 and honestly no regrets. Just had our 11th anniversary. I just knew it was right when I couldn't envision a life without him in it. We were married 9 years before having kids though and those years were crucial to help us learn to communicate before adding the stress of kids into the mix.
We just continue to choose each new version of each other, I've never trusted someone more in my life.
We met my freshman year of college and after dating for two years, I got married at 20, he was 22! He was the best guy I had ever dated, kind, caring, loves people and serving the community and loved Jesus! I also didn’t want to be a ten year girlfriend who suddenly gets dumped so we committed to each other and got engaged, then married after two years.
We celebrate our 20-year anniversary this summer and he’s amazing. We’ve matured together and cheered each other on through grad school and our careers. We have teenagers now and love our kids so much. We laugh now about how young we were, but no regrets. I love my husband beyond words!
I was 19. We’d met 10 months earlier.
I finally felt safe and secure for the first time in my life.
We’ve been divorced for 15 years and he still makes me safer than anyone.
I don’t ever regret marrying young but we are way better divorced.
I married my husband when I was 18 and he was 19. For our specific situation, we married young because we both joined the military and wanted to be stationed together. He is the only man I have been with and our relationship started when I was 15 years old. I wouldn't change anything for the world! There have been very hard years but we just decided to continue growing together rather than apart. We are completely different people now, 10 years later, but we are still the perfect match for eachother.
I got married at 18 to a guy I had only been dating for 3 months. In my case, it was a huge mistake, and I ended up filing for divorce at 24. But it all depends on your individual relationship.
Married at 25— because he had been my best friend for 9 years before we got together romantically, so we know each other inside and out. Also I critically assessed if we had matching goals, lifestyle desires, and complementary prospects; because, in the long run, love is not enough to sustain a marriage if you have diverging life goals—you need love AND all the practical stuff.
For example, I knew I wanted to be a homemaker/stay at home mom (if we ever had a child), so I needed to make sure he was on board and could not only financially provide for our family, but actively wanted the same lifestyle. His degree is one with very high earning potential and we had discussed how he had always wanted a partner who was a homemaker. We both wanted a traditional relationship.
I also was brutally honest about what his ‘negatives’ were and if I would be willing to live with them long term— I am, and to me they are not a problem. Everyone has some degree of issues, so it’s important to be honest with yourself on if you’re willing to live with them *as is* for the long haul and not delude yourself into thinking “oh, I can change them”.
We had talked openly and honestly about our desires for the future and we each knew what the ‘cons’ for each of us were. So there weren’t really any surprises in terms of what we would be getting out of our marriage. I also knew I could count on him when the chips are down and that he is extremely loyal and honest. We also recognize the importance of ongoing open communication, and we always assume the best of each other. It’s always us vs the problem, not us vs each other.
We have the best relationship of anyone I’ve met and we’re madly in love.
I got married at 22. I didn’t intend to but I met my husband and we just started hanging out and never stopped.
I am lucky that he is a person who has grown with me and has been willing to be a partner. I tell people all the time that was fully luck and thank god we ended up having more in common than college parties, sports, and sex 😂😂😂
I’m 36 and we are still going strong- one kid. Super happy 🎉 it can happen it just takes the right people and circumstances I think.
I truly believe everyone is different. I was always mature for my age and more of an old soul, I was never into partying or the usual high school/college type stuff. I met my husband at 21 and we were married when I was 24, granted he’s 8 years older which also helped because he was ready too. We’ve been together ten years now and married for almost 7. But I’m the type of gal that’s always wanted to be a wife and mother so it’s worked for me and I never felt like I missed out on anything in my twenties or anything like that. I think it just works for some personalities and not for others
I had my reasons for doing it that were maybe not the best (the only way my parents would let me move out was if I was married) reasons, granted things worked out for me. Would I do it again? I think no? I’d still have been with my husband. Probably married him still, but later, after we had time to see what living together was like.
But mostly I wouldn’t have done it because I know now that I wouldn’t even talk to my parents anymore within a few years of getting married! Thier opinions shouldn’t have held all the weight that it did. Sometimes I get sad about the life that I missed out on by getting married at 22 and having a child so soon after. But at the same time I don’t regret my choices because my child is the reason I finally had the guts to stand up to my parents abuse and not let it continue another generation and I couldn’t imagine my life without her. She is the greatest thing that ever happened to me and she has forced me to heal and grow in ways I’m not sure I would’ve if I hadn’t had her when I did. Which wouldn’t have happened if I didn’t marry her dad when I did.
However “why do it?” I don’t know that I would suggest it to anyone. But I also wouldn’t tell someone who’s planning on getting married young not to. It’s not my business, and like everything else, people have their reasons for doing things and you can rarely change their mind about it.
In college I fell in love with a man who needed a green card and we eloped. He turned out to be abusive, but I was so starved for love due to emotionally neglectful parents that I stayed for six years. It took another four years to divorce him because he fought it tooth and nail.
My husband and I met at 17, bought a house together at 21, and got married at 24. We've been together 15 years now and have two children.
When we first got together, we were very much a 'let's go with the flow, and see where this takes us', our relationship has never been the only focus, we have both pursued careers, hobbies, and have friendship groups outside of eachother. I think that has helped us suceed, we're deeply in love, but there is and always has been more than our relationship in our lives.
He's always been my best friend, he still makes me laugh harder than anyone else, he supports me unconditionally and he sets a wonderful example of what love is, for our children.
My favourite thing is how much we've grown together, all the milestones we've hit together, we are 100% a team. We've spent nearly half of our lives together at this point, and I honestly don't know who I am/would be without him. If I believed in soul mates, he is mine.
I was 19 when I met my husband, it was early September. We moved in together in November and were married in August just 2 months shy of my 21st birthday. There was something about him that truly clicked, we’ve talked about this over the years and have both been unable to truly explain it but we both just knew we were meant to tackle life together for the long haul. Our individual strengths balanced our individual flaws and maybe that’s the reason we both had the deep gut feeling of being together and getting married so young.
We’ve been together 25 years this September and will be married for 24 this August. We also opted to have kids young too so we’re almost empty nesters with a 21, 19, and 17 year old. We’ve gotten some looks and asked if we were teen parents more times than I can count.
We’ve had ups and downs but we’ve always committed to doing the work and focused on ways we can continue to improve our communication through all of the stages of life. It’s been a magical experience and I truly couldn’t imagine tackling the world with any other person.
I was very much in love, he was the most amazing respectful smart guy, and we had the best chemistry as well… When I was 20 I wanted to buy a condo. I was heads over heels in love, and my boyfriend told me we should buy it together. I told him I would never merge my life with someone without marriage and we decided to get married. We got married at 22 and bought our first home together. We are together for 15y now, married for 13.
He is my best friend, and we both changed in the past few years, we got lucky we changed together and not apart. It’s a risk, but it’s a risk you have at any age, since we are continuously learning and evolving.
But yeah, for me, if I find myself in the future in another relationship again, I would have the same view. I would not merge my life financially with someone if I am not married to them.
I knew I was infertile and had bad health problems from 13 years old. My timeline for everything has been sped up exponentially due to my health problems. I even had to graduate early from homebound schooling due to my health.
When a potential partner, that had the same goals as I did, came around when I was 16 years old, we were both brazenly honest. We knew my life would not happen the way we wanted or on the timeline we wanted, but we knew if we took certain actions, I could live most of my life and do most of the things I wanted to.
I got very lucky. I had a hysterectomy at 27 years old. I’m 32 years old now, fully in menopause and my last ovary is definitely not gonna make it.
Had anything in my life not happened on the timeline that it did, I likely would either not be alive today, or I certainly would not be happy AND have a family.
Early marriage gave me freedom and protection. It also allowed me a support net to chase my goals and fulfill all of my dreams for my life. Plus, built in best friend for life.❤️
fell in love in my adolescence and while he was not a good person for me, nothing else in life ever came close to the fulfillment of sharing that bond with someone. after a few years with him I knew myself well and knew what I wanted out of a lifelong partner. met my now husband at 19, married him at 20, and have had the happiest years of my life since <33
I personally think hookup culture is misrepresented and is disproportionately dangerous and damaging to women. I wish it weren't so taboo to marry and start a family young.
Got tons of money from the government to go to school because I was no longer considered a dependent on my parents. (Like 900 to 3000$ per month depending on the month. I have to specify a semester cost at most 2000$ if you include books and everything here). The relationship didn’t survive but I am still greatful for what it allowed me to do! I was 19 yo the day we got married.
Met my husband when I was 23 and we are still together 20 years later.
I knew he was the one for me, just knew it in my bones. I didn't want anyone else. We just clicked. I was so much happier with him and with our relationship than I was being single. Plus, my oma loved him.
18 my mother pushed me to marry a guy I wasn’t dating at the time by telling me no one would ever love me. 2 kids later and 3 pregnancies, in 3 years he cheated and left. Which worked out. Don’t be pressured into marrying someone you don’t even like…but imo you shouldn’t get married until your mid twenties. By 21 I was with an abusive alcoholic who hated my existence. Now I’m in a better situation.
My Mom married my dad young. My dad had had his fill of parties and recklessness when he fell in love with my mom. He was ready to settle down and have some kids. My mom had come from a really bad relationship and wasn't looking for anything. But she agreed to a date with my dad because he was "so hot on his motorcycle". She fell in love with him and they matched so beautifully, that my dad was sure she was the one after a few months. But he waited for a year or two for he asked her even though she was ready to marry him after 3 months. They have been married for almost 25 years now and it was a match made in heaven.
When I was 16 I met my husband. It was live at first sight, truly.
I was abused by my stepfather at home (sexually, even though it was lighter than other cases, he would “only” touch me and be very possessive of me. I never told my mom.)
When he found out about him, he went crazy. Tried to keep me from seeing him. His family saved me. They took me in at 17. I lived with his family, we shared his room for 3 years. And after that we got an apartment together.
We’ve been together for 9 years.
I don’t regret it all. I can’t imagine a different life. He is the love of my life. He loves and respects me. He takes care of me. He still gives me butterflies to this day. I’m 26 now and he’s 29. We live together, we have two cats and stable careers and we’ve been trying for a baby for about 6 months. We are very hopeful to be parents by the end of the year. But I know that this is not the case for everyone. And if I could give young people advice, I would tell them to date for at least two years before deciding to get married or anything. I know many people who went for the same path than me and got into very toxic relationships.
Getting married at 17 was the right choice for me, because I found true love and also because my situation at home was desperate.
If you feel like you can wait a little longer, please do. And don’t get pregnant very young. Wait until you are financially stable and be sure your partner is there for you.
I married at 18 because I live in Utah.
We've together since I was 13 or 14. I'm 25 now, and its tough at times, but its all I've known lol we have a bond unlike many, we practically raised eachother since we have shit families growing up. He is truly my life partner, through thick and thin.
He proposed when I was 17 in high school, and I got married 3 months after my 18th birthday. He didn’t need any time from me, he knew he wanted me as his wife, and I knew I wanted him as my husband. We were sure of it. And here we are today. Madly in love.
I was 20. My dad was dying and fiancé was getting sent over seas. We've been married 8 years now and he's still my bet friend. I can't imagine life without him. I wouldn't recommend it for most people, but it worked out for us.
Ignorance.
ETA: Met my soon to be ex husband at 23, married by 26. Getting divorced at 36 and wishing I had seen all of the signs beforehand. Wishing I had listened to close family and friends who tried to tell me that I didn’t deserve the treatment I was receiving all of these years. Now I have two young children that will have a broken family. Not what I wanted in life.
Don't do it.
I got married 4 days after turning 18 and divorced the day after turning 24. I did it to escape my crappy home life (not that I recognized that at the time), but I just ended up with a different kind of crappy.
Met him at 19 (he was 20). He proposed 3 months later. I didn’t think I’d find anyone I liked better, so I said yes.
29 years next month. Still happy.
I don’t advocate that most people get married that young. We are an odd case, because we just knew we were right for each other. For me, it was love at first sight. He said he knew three days later.
I was 17 and my husband was 20 when we got married. He was friends with my brother and at 11 years old wrote in my diary that I wanted to marry him. We started dating when I was 16. My Mom remarried the next year and I didn't want to move since I was a senior in high school. I lived with my Grandma until December. We got married during Christmas break I was 17 and he was 20. Finished high school a married lady. Celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary this past December. Still so much in love with 3 children and 2 grandkids. He is patient, kind, and we laugh together a lot. Kids tease us for still kissing and hugging no matter who is around. Love him so much!
Met when we were 19 and both fell HARD 💕 Married at 21. Have 3 kids. Been together 30 years!! Definitely ups & downs but we've worked hard and it's paid off. No one I'd rather be with! ***And the sex has always been 🔥🔥🔥
He’s my best friend. Plus he was in the military so we would get more money once married haha. We’ve only been married five years but we are doing great so far 😊
I was 22, he was 21. I graduated college and had to decide stay in the town I was, or follow him where the military took him. We married the day after I graduated and it’s been as close to a fairy tale as it could be. That was 15 years ago ❤️
We (21f, 20m) were in love. We had fun! Shared similar interests. Lived in a studio apartment and enjoyed each other’s company. Married at 24,23. But as time passed, he was stuck in it whereas I changed. Just divorced this year after 35 years, although it really should have happened many years ago. I wish him no ill will and hope his dreams come to fruition.
As for me? Met a man that has shown me that my next life chapter is gonna be fabulous!
I was married by 21 and had been dating since 19. We practically grew up together and were so in tune with each other because of it. We’re the same generation so we have the same likes in a lot of areas. We’re going on 20
Years of marriage this Sept.
He's the love of my life, and I knew it even then.
Our first date was my Senior Prom, and we've been inseparable, since.
It sounds stupid, but our souls just match. There's no one else for me. I've never doubted that. He's stepped up to prove that over and over throughout our +20 years together.
Engaged at 20 married at 21 (right after my birthday) now I’m pregnant at 23. I think what I was searching for more than anything was stability. And a place where I belonged. He was, and is, my safe place. I’m still not sure if it was the right choice in that who knows what my life would or wouldn’t be if I hadn’t married when I did but I don’t think that’s something worth thinking about tbh. I’m happy enough with how things are going, I think I’m better off for it, I can’t imagine not being with my best friend every day even if we aren’t perfect. And I don’t see it as “the end” as I’m sure many people do.
One serious pitfall I have seen women in my life fall into is marrying young and becoming too overly dependent on a partner who doesn’t or won’t have their best interest at heart, and they end up screwed. I knew going in my husband was not capable of being the kind of person who holds power or money or anything over me.
I got married when I was 23. My husband and I had been together for almost 5 years and had survived being long distance, the pandemic, and both of us doing our student-teaching. We love, each other, are happy together, and make a great time. Why wait until we're older?
I knew he was the one, quickly, and I remember thinking, What are you doing here? You’re early. Way early.”
But I also didn’t think I could ask him to go away and come back in five years. And I realized he respected me and would never try to keep me from doing anything I wanted to do with my life. I wasn’t limiting my life by marrying him. I was getting to live my life with him by my side.
I was 20 when we got married and in college. He was 25 and had already graduated. That was 40 years ago.
Funny think — my college professors, even my own parents I found out later, just assumed I would drop out of college after we got married. I never even considered it. The man I was marrying never imagined it, never expected it. I guess it was a generational thing, but really surprising. I thought those people knew me, knew what I wanted for my life. They didn’t, but the man I married did.
Met at 17 and 22. Married less than a year later. I got my divorce at 21. I married that young because I had highly low self-esteem. I left because I found my worth.
I had been abused my whole childhood,
So i had been through it all.
When the rt guy came along, We got married young been 36 yrs.
3 awesome kids. I love my life
I got married at 22- now 24 and we just had our first baby two weeks ago. We just wanted to. There was literally no other reason besides that. We got married on a beach with only a few friends and did everything on our terms. I’m incredibly happy with our decision!
I got married at 23! Best decision I've ever made! When you meet someone you can make it work with, get married and make it work. That is what marriage is designed for, not for waiting around for the perfect person. No one is perfect and people change but marriage is a covenant and a journey and it is absolutely beautiful!
Grandmother wouldn't get off my ass about having a baby out of wedlock. Now I'm in the middle of getting divorced and a cps case because he started abusing my son. 🙃
I got married at 25 ( not sure if that’s the young you’re looking for) but I proposed after 8 months, she was pregnant, been together 7 years married for 6
I got married at 18 because they were going into the military and we had been dating for 2 years already. We knew we’d get married so we figured it should be done before they left so I was covered (insurance and money) and no extra waiting to be together when they were out of training. Definitely too eager. I think I was ready though. Not smart enough or old enough for sure but I did know that marriage was for real and the biggest commitment ever. Plus, I loved them so much and I had no reason to believe they would ever hurt me.
I got cheated on multiple times (Army culture I think) and after 3 years of sooo much stupid back and forth, I had to call it. I got divorced at the ripe age of 22. No regrets at all. I finally came to the realization that someone who was willing to cheat (and multiple times) did not love me the way I deserved. And I just couldn’t be with someone who would do that to me.
I’m still young now, 24. But I wanna be married to my current partner so bad. He is everything I’ve ever dreamed of and the most honest man. I know the time will come and not to force it because it will make it all the more special when it actually does happen for us. I’m just grateful to have finally found my person.
We got together when I was 17, engaged at 21, married at 23. We actually “rushed” our wedding because we did a secret elopement that coincided with a trip we were taking to see a concert half way around the world. Looking back, I have no regrets!! However I realize just how young we were! Lol we didn’t know 💩
I got married at 19, mostly because it was the thing to do as a Mormon freshman at BYU. My husband and I have more than passed the 5 year mark and have no big red flags in our relationship. I wouldn't recommend it to anyone, but I am so relieved it has worked for us. I think it has worked only because we have allowed each other to change and grow, and we've been lucky to grow in a similar direction.
Got married right before I turned 25. We’ve now married 4 years and together for 8. While I realize that isn’t a long time by any means, I still get butterflies looking at him.
He’s my biggest cheerleader, he supported me through pharmacy school and a grueling year of post-graduate residency, and now my career that I worked so hard for. I’ve been with him through his time as a military officer, and now finding his way back into the civilian world.
I know that I am SO fortunate to have such a kind, caring, loving partner by my side. He is the love of my life and I can’t imagine life without him. I could get really mushy with all the emotion I feel for him but I’ll just say that while our lives aren’t perfect, there’s nothing I’d change about him or our life together.
Why not? I had dated him at 13 and him 15. Only man I have ever dated and it stood the time. So we married whe I we 23 and have never looked back. We both wanted marriage but couldn't because we wanted a home before it.
Honestly - because I was raised in a very abusive household. I wanted out and I thought marrying that guy was going to be my "happily ever after". I had only known him for 4 months and he ended up being just like my father, nearly unaliving me less than a year later. Good times 🙃
He proposed on my 20th birthday and we were married 8 months later. He treated me so respectfully, lovingly, and after only knowing him for 8 months prior to proposal, was already starting to facilitate healing from my past. Almost 12 years and 2 kids later and he is still the absolute love of my life who treats me like a queen and is showing our kids what it means to find someone who loves and respects you.
It's so wonderful hearing love stories like this! Gives me hope! Let's clone him and make millions!!
That last sentence is the best part. Your marriage will set your kids expectations for future relationships.
I got married at 23. 10 years later I divorced. Why? Because my pre frontal cortex wasn't fully developed yet I'd say.
So relatable honestly
I got married at 21 and made it until 33. I just couldn’t do it anymore after that. We were completely different people.
I could’ve written this. Exactly what happened to me. Married at 23, divorced 11 years later and I think it was because I was too young he he was way older than me. Don’t recommend
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Looks like you mighta touched a nerve
I wouldn’t tell anyone what age they should or shouldn’t marry. I got married at 22 because it made sense to me. I was with the guy I planned on spending forever with so we got married. That was 28 years ago.
Long live mama
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We met when I was 21 and I moved in after a fight with my mother. We had actually been broken up . We married 3 years later. It was 43 years together this month.
Congratulations! Always love hearing love stories like this!
For some reason we thought we knew what we were doing. 29 years together and I think we were right.
This is exactly us. 26 years together and still going.
My 18 year old just started in on me tonight “who gets married at 21?!? You were basically a child bride, except you groomed him! He was 9 months younger than you! Mother!” She finds the very thing absurd and judges me harshly lol.
My mom was moving back in with her ex and I didn’t want to be around him because he was an alcoholic and we didn’t have a good relationship. I didn’t want to live with my then boyfriend without being married either. We’ll celebrate 12 years this year, I’m so grateful that he’s always been someone I could trust and turn to. Love him to pieces.
He proposed at 23, officially wed at 24 & divorced at the ripe age of 26. No regrets leaving or even entering. The only thing I’d “tweak” is not waiting on potential, only marry when the man has everything you want right then & there. I’m the definition of standing on business lol so once a promise wasn’t kept I left. Im just happy I left child free!
Right. Do not marry potential. Marry actuality.
🎶when you know you know🎶
Immediately thought of this song lol
Because I am very in love with the man and he is the kind of romantic match that I never thought it was possible to find.
Because i had a bad life I didn't want to go back to and I figured I would love him eventually enough to get married... so why not do it now? We were 19 and 20. We are 31 and 32 now. Life is ok.
This a little sad but hopefully all is well!
Because I had such low self-esteem that I married the first man who paid me attention.
Thats sad 😞
…dang that might’ve been me too shoot
Mine has worked out so far, he helped me work through a lot of childhood trauma mental health stuff. In our 40s now and three youngish kids. As happy as we can be at this stage I think (kids are exhausting and one of ours has special needs). I do wonder what it would be like to date someone else, but I have a good thing. I know he loves me and I trust him.
It was an if-you-know-you-know situation. He and I were positive we wanted to get married eventually, so why wait?
My parents were part of a religion that basically forced the young people to get married when they were around 17. They did not approve of dating or premarital sex. If you showed any interest in someone they coerced you very strongly to marry. My ex's father threatened to disown him if we didn't marry.
Thats sad. I hope it gets better for you <3
Something similar happened to me.
We got married when we were 21. At the time, his college decided to suddenly go back to in-person classes. He was having to move back up in the summer and both of us didn't want to be in a long distance relationship. We realized during a snow storm earlier in the year, (It was a really bad storm that had us stuck in the same apartment for a week) we realized that we were extremely comfortable with each other and knew that we couldn't live without the other one, it was as if we had a hole in our chests when we were apart. We're about to hit our three year anniversery soon. We both agreed that we did marry young, but we don't regret our decision. We both think it was the best decision we ever made.
so heartwarming! all the best for you both :)
My parents got married at 23 because they were already together for 7 years. Now they’ve been married for 24 years, together for 31!
Got together when we were 19/20, married at 25/26 which is young in my circles, we had the first wedding out of our friend group. We basically lived together from week one and like I just knew. I never imagined marrying young - used to say I wouldn’t marry at all - but really happy I did. Our marriage is so good. 7 years married, 12 years together rn 🥰
I was in love. He was my first boyfriend. We married when I was 18, and he was 23. This year, we will be celebrating 16 years married (18 together), and we have 4 kids together. We've had our bumps, but he's my safe place.
I got married at 23. I'm still happily married. Don't get me wrong. It hasn't always been happily ever after, but it worked for us because we were best friends, not just lovers. We still go through life as best friends. We remind each other every day that we have each other's backs and we're on the same team. Why do it? Filing jointly got us bigger tax returns. I could more easily take over his finances because he was up to his eyeballs in debt and really disorganized about it. We could advocate for each other if one of us was sick or injured. We could put the other one on our health benefits at work if necessary. We loved eachother and knew we were compatible and wanted the same things in life. Marrying young (or getting married at all) isn't for everyone. Don't marry someone just to get married. If your focus is on the wedding itself and not on the person you're getting married to and what happens after, you're doing it wrong. The person you're marrying should want compatible things in life, which means you both need to know what you each want from your own lives. Not everyone knows that by 23 and that's ok.
Underrated comment right here.
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I got married at 24. I don't think that's crazy young or anything, but it depends who you ask. Anyways, it was very much not rushed because we'd been dating since I was 17. I'm 31 now and he is still very much my person. It's hard to put into words because we'd been living together for 2 years prior to getting married, but somehow it just felt more secure after getting married and like we had solidified the fact that we are a team no matter what.
I love this! I’m in my 3rd relationship right now and this feels so real and right. We’re planning to move in together early next year and I know the pieces are falling into place. This is an inspiration and I wish you guys a long and happy marriage!
This is almost my story exactly, except I'm only 26 now. I was 24 when we got married, after 6 years together, the last 2 of them owning a house together. We knew pretty early on we wanted go get married, but after we were secure in life. It also gave us enough time to be sure, since we know getting married young can be a risk since your brain is literally still developing.
I got married at 19. Why you ask? Because I was stupid, dumb, fool, naive, any adjective that has the same meaning.
We both wanted to and felt so sure of it. Plus where we grew up it was the social norm to be married before 25 and it was heavily encouraged too. So we didn’t know anything different really. We’re divorced now though, was married for six years and had a kid. I have no regrets as it taught me so much about love, risks, and marriage itself.
He was my first boyfriend and he got me pregnant. I was barely 20 years old. We got married when I was 6 months pregnant with our son. We are still married and that was 18 years ago. I wish I had waited longer to better establish myself but here I am. It’s worked out in my case.
And ur advice to lil boys to wear condoms
Married at 20 because I was madly in love with him. We celebrate 30 years in May.
We got together when I was 16 and he was 15. He moved in to my parents house with me at the beginning of the pandemic and we figured if we could survive that together without getting sick of each other, we must be doing something right. We'll both be 23 by the time we get married in July.
I did it because I had issues with my parents and my self esteem was extremely low. I was so afraid of being alone because I felt that I was at my core, unlovable. And he loved me, so what's there to th nk about? He was a bit older and I was stupid, not understanding that I had to figure out a way to love myself first. It's the biggest regret in my life. Because the thing is, we didn't have to get married. We could have just lived together, and then I could have been so much more free to leave. But the spite-marriage at 21 sort of sealed the deal. That's what I try telling people who want to get married super young, that there is NO point before you have kids (and in many countries litte point after, too). You can still live together without being married. God, I want to kick myself when I think about it. Threw my whole goddamn life away.
We’d been together for 8 years prior, since we were sixteen. So we got married at 23. Had lived together for 5 years. I thought it would be funny to get married on April fools day, he was down! So we did. And it made sense! Within the following years, we bought a house and got on the same insurance policy. Being married made those much easier. Just celebrated our 5 year wedding anniversary in London!
My mom told me that no man would ever want me or love me, so I'd better take the offer since it was my only chance.
She sounds nice. Grrr.
Do we have the same mom? I ended up later going NC with my mom because of this
I got married at 22. In the culture I grew up in, that was the expectation. The year I got married, all of my bridesmaids also had weddings. I would have felt left out had I not been getting married, too. I was under the impression that getting married was the thing to do. It's what my parents did. Looking back, I am sad for my misguided and naive former self. But I do understand it was due to very strong cultural pressures. I've accepted that mistake.
Because I had dependency issues and I latched on to anyone that I even slightly romantically connected with. 😬
Married at around age 19/20ish. We had been together for a couple of years already, thought being good friends and companions was enough to make a good marriage, and we both wanted to reach escape velocity to exit our home communities, so we joined forces. That last part worked. We both left together and over time grew into the people we truly wanted to be, but it turned out that those people were not compatible for a long term relationship or marriage, so we eventually divorced and moved on with our lives separately.
We met when I was 16 and got married when I was 20. It was a sort of love at first sight thing (for him, he says. I took a little more time) and it worked out for us financially. I also couldn't wait to get out of the house. Lol I was immature, for sure, and wish I did several things different but I don't regret marrying young. It's not for everyone but in rare occasions it works. We did wait to have kids though and I think that was smart. I definitely wasn't ready and needed time to grow as a person. Fourteen years and two kids later we are still happily married! 😊 Have we had a lot of rough moments? For sure. But it's also helped us grow together and I'm pretty hopeful of the future.
Married ten years in October and he's my soul mate. I just got lucky and knew it.
High school sweethearts, we had already been together 6 years and marriage was a priority for us
Because my parents made me. They married me off to a church member when I was 17. They didn’t care that I did not want to get married or that I did not love him. My dad told me I will learn to love him.
I got married because I was in love and couldn't see myself with anyone else. 20 years later we're still rockin. I was 21 and he was 32 when we got married. It's for sure not for everyone, but for myself, I would marry him again everyday. While age is a factor, it's a miniscule one compared to the actual relationship and the maturity of the people in said relationship.
Initially, I did not plan to marry so young (22). When we met, he had a lot of bad habits, yet I was very much drawn to him. At one point, he just suddenly changed his bad habits and wanted to become a better person (he's Muslim and became practising around a year, something into the relationship) and asked to stop anything physical we were doing and wait until marriage. This was the first time I met a man who "wanted to stop anything physical so he could value me properly". I loved him and admired him for everything he did, so of course I agreed. Another year and a half later, he proposed. Of course, I agreed to that as well. Zero regrets. I think a relationship should be inspiring us both to become better with each passing day and that's how I've been feeling with him.
I got married at 20, he was 22. I was pretty certain that he was the love of my life at the time. And, thankfully its been true. We have gone through so much together, grown up together. I love him with all that I am and I know he loves me to the ends of the earth. I think it helps that we talk through everything and are able to listen to each other (most of the time). We have been together for 14 years, married for 11 this year. We are currently pregnant with our 4th girl. We are happy. Is this for everyone? No, certainly not. And that's ok. But, I'm excited to see where life brings us and our family.
Met him at 18; he was 21. Got married when I was 22. We’ve been married 15 years now. Why? Because we love each other. Our values mesh. We wanted to be married and all that entails (commitment, being a family, etc.) If anything, I wish we would have gotten married younger (maybe between my sophomore and Junior years of college).
I'm not sure what your criteria is for "young" but I got married at 25. To me I think that was pretty young. I was in love, and my relationship was great. We started our relationship at age 20 for me and 21 for him. It was just the natural progression of our relationship.
If you want a family and you have the opportunity, get married and have kids sooner in your life (20s or 30s) as your circumstances might change in the future and you might not have the same options. In my 40s, my long-term partner had a midlife crisis and no longer wanted to remain attached, and I became ill and no longer could carry a baby to full term. I waited too long. You might not marry the right person and get divorced later... that's fine, men will come and go, but your kids are yours for life. Don't wait too long if you want kids.
Being from two different countries put the pressure on us real fast but I lucked out. I married a good one and doing life together has been great. He’s my partner and very best friend and we’ve learned how to love each other over and over as we grow and evolve. We’ve been tested many times but we always come out the other side understanding each other so much more. We just celebrated our 9th anniversary. Additionally, having two incomes has really set us ahead compared to a lot of our single friends. That being said, I would always recommend waiting until you’re at least 25 to get married. Most people’s brains are still developing and there’s a lot of maturing that must happen before then. I’m a very different person than I was when I got married at 23.
I got married at 23 (I’m now 28, he’s 30), had been with my partner for 7 years already. We’re still married, have been together for 12 years in August. I stuck with him through cancer treatment, we’ve encouraged each other to chase our dreams, and we have very healthy communication. Not perfect, but way better than we started. I don’t regret marrying young at all. I think I did it because I knew this was the life I wanted with my person. He gets me like no one else and I feel safe and comfortable with him. We’re very much in love. I know some people are probably wondering now: No, we do not have children, we do not want children, and we both love the childfree life. It’s kept the sex life alive, we’re always involved with each other, and everyday feels like we just started dating.
Met when we were teens together for 6 years already lived together had a dog figured why not we are and always have been two peas in a pod.
Because I was 21, young, and naive. But since we’ve been married over 30 years I guess it’s worked out so far.
We got married at 22 and 24. We had been together since high school. Went to colleges about an hour apart from each other. It was nice because we never lived together in college so I felt like I got to have an independent experience. After college, we started having serious discussions about if one of us would move somewhere for the other for a job and stuff like that. I said I would, but I would only do it for someone I was married to. We are still together over 7 years later and going strong!
I knew he was the one - simple as that! We met when I was 19, got married when I was 20! Still married 10 years later ❤️ it’s weird, when they are the one you I just know. It’s different than everyone before even if you thought they were also the ones, this time around it was a totally different feeling - cosmic. Like we knew each other for lifetimes before
Mormonism. I was 19 almost 20 when we met and started dating. It was going really well and we obviously couldn't live together without being married, so that's what we did about a year after we met. We got lucky and we're still really happy 6 years later.
Because I was in deep from trauma and ignoring red flags of mental abuse
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Well I say don’t do it, because you change so much in your 20s. At least I certainly did, however at the time it was the right thing to do and I did marry a good man.
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I was 21 and he was still 20. Been married over 2 years now. We’d been together since we were 16ish. We both grew up Mormon, so that’s kinda just what you do. No regrets tho, it’s worked out well for us!! I do think it’s wild when people date for less than a year before getting married tho
We met our senior year of college at 21 and got married at 26. I don’t know if that counts as young. I’ll be 35 in about a month (he’s 35) and although we are having a rough go of it right now, he always supports me and makes me laugh. I quit my job and things are a bit stressful right now but it’ll be ok.
To get out of the household that I grew up in. Ex was doing the same.
Married at 24 so I could sponsor him to move to my country. We were engaged but didn’t plan on marrying until a couple years later but we had a change of plans. I don’t regret it at all because now we have more time together
I started dating my husband at 18 so when I got married at 22 we’d been together 4 years so it didn’t seem too young. We also grew up in a culture where it isn’t unusual to get married at that age. So our families didn’t have any problems with it either. We’ve been together 9 years now and are really happy 😊
We met in high school and started dating when I left for college at 17 (he was 20). He moved across the country for me which was very special. He proposed to me when I was 22 (he was 25) because he was accepting a new job on the west coast and had to move. We knew immediately that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. I finished nursing school and then we married at 24/27. We’ve been married almost 9 years now :) My husband is my best friend and I love him so much.
I'm not like legally married but I've been in a partnership with my boyfriend since I was 18 (30f). A few reasons for it, 1. I was desperate to move forward in life, I just graduated high school and couldn't get a job and didn't do any of the required stuff to get into college. So financial security sounded really nice 2. I left high school with zero friends or connections and it was nice have someone show interest in me
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We had been together for 5 years and I had just graduated college with plans to move to another state with him to start our careers. We had already thoroughly discussed marriage and our future lives together, and planned to get married and move in together after we both graduated college. We got married when I was 23 and he was 24, he turned 25 on our honeymoon a week later. We’re now coming up on our 3rd anniversary
I had just turned 21 when I got married. My husband was 19. I had grown up with abusive parents. My father was a violent drunk and my mother was the most vicious woman I’ve ever known. Both parents targeted me—they made it clear that they would never have stayed married had my mother not become pregnant with me. My father tried to kill me when I was 15 years old. I met my husband at college, and I was drawn to his stability. I needed someone I could depend on. In retrospect, I think I also needed an ally—someone who was on my side. We have been married 50 years. Both my parents are gone, thank God. They weren’t good people. The best I can say about them is that they were deeply disturbed.
I got married at 21. I'd known my bf as a friend since 18, started dating at 19, moved in together at 20, and were ready to share the rest of our lives together once living together went so well. We've been married 17 yrs this August, no kids, more in love than ever.
I wanted to marry him. We been together 2 years when we married and we are still together, celebrating our 19th anniversary soon
Because I loved his family
I got married the first time at 21. I was young and stupid.
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My husband and I were together for 5 years before we got married at 24. We're about to have our 5th anniversary. I churned through boys in my teens and while I was obviously still a kid I knew my (now) husband did and would always treat me better than those bros. We've had an incredible life so far and I have no regrets.
Got pregnant at 17 and my dad told him he was marrying me. Horrible horrible marriage. Don’t ever do it for those circumstances. Ever.
I was 22 and it was the only decision I ever made that left me feeling 100% certain with no doubts whatsoever, despite knowing what everyone would think. 12 years later I still feel the exact same way
I got married a month after my 23rd birthday. I knew in my gut he was it for me on our first date. He was the person I wanted to build my life with and 17 years later and he is still that person and so much more.
I got married at 21. My husband and I were together for 7 years at that point. We now have 2 kids and are 12 years in. Why do it? Why not? 🤷♀️ If you know hes the one, you know hes the one. If you are questioning it, then don't do it.
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Got married at 23, 25 now and still happily married. I’ve known him since I was 12 and we’ve been best friends since then, I couldn’t imagine my life without him
I grew up being told disney love was real. I thought it was. It is not.
I got married at 20. My mom had spent four years pushing me to date anyone who asked, without regard to my feelings. I married the first one who asked, and moved 2000 miles away, then divorced him less than a year later. Then I started my life.
I married at 21 because I was young, in love, and it would qualify me for university grants. I got divorced 7 years later. It was not the happiest of marriages, and ended up very toxic. I’m much happier now
I definitely would tell people to wait till at least 28. You do a LOT of growing before that age .
I wanted to get away from my toxic family honestly. It helps that I’m in love with the man I married.
We've been together since we were 16, married at 21, and still happily married in our late 60s.
young and dumb lol I mean what other answer is there? I was 22 and married someone 5 years older who assumed he knew better than I did. didn't even make it a year. I got married again at 29, which seems much more reasonable and we've been together 12 years and married for 7 this year. I'm not saying people in their early 20s that marry are making a mistake but for me I was a vastly different person at 29 than 21/22.
Married at 22. Just celebrated our 22 year anniversary. I made the right choice.
I got married at 23. We had only been together for two years. I knew he was the person I wanted to grow old with. I'm 37 now, and we've been through some rough patches but we're still in love.
At 22. He was objectively a good choice and I love him. I wanted to have my children earlier than the current societal expectations of mid 30’s. I was an only child and I wanted to be part of my own family not wandering through a bunch of boyfriend situations. I had finished my M.S. This decision was 42 years ago. Decided and made it work. This was my best choice.
Started dating when I was 16 and married when I was 20. We had learned a lot about our relationship and what we wanted by then so while it seems young we were ready for that step. Next year will be 25 years together, married for 20. He’s still my best friend and every day is better than the last. On the flip side. I had friends that started dating at same time. Married a couple years after us and everyone had bets on when they would divorce because they had clear relationship issues they hadn’t dealt with. I think it’s less about the age and more about the maturity of the relationship before taking that step and having the foundation and fundamentals for keeping a strong successful relationship.
Because I was a teen with a lifelong medical condition and a family who had walked away from my care and education. It ended up as bad as you would think. Although it was better than homeless or in the violence of my mothers home. I have so many strong emotions about it. I live in a state fighting to keep it legal to marry minors. To this day (now more than 20 years later) I feel trafficked. I divorced and married again young. This time at 23 and so I could get medical insurance through his job. Before Obama my pre existing condition made young adulthood hard. We have been together for 19 years now and I am loved and happy.
21. We were together since I was 17, I was graduating college and his job was taking him states away. I grew up in a low income household and had no money or job lined up. It seemed like the next step or break up. We were amicably divorced at 26. It's easy to say I shouldn't have done it in retrospect, but no one was saying to my face don't do it at the time and I was naive. I don't regret it.
We met when I was 16, dated for 6 years got married right before I turned 22. We have been married now for almost 8 years. We just never second guessed it and he’s my best friend. It’s cliche, but when you know you know.
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I got married at 23 , to my husband, who I proposed to, that was about 25 years ago. Honestly, it was a good decision at a bad time. Ideally we’d have gotten married a few years later when we both were more mature.
We started dating at 16 and got married at 22. We felt it was a little early (we felt young, we were varely adults) but we knew we wanted to be to gether so we got married and moved to a different country together, started our new life we cellebrated 7 years of marriage this year and are very much in love still.
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I was 16 he was way older, got me pregnant and my parents really liked him and didn’t want him to go to jail. Worse decision of my life.
My parents forced me to marry my first husband when I was 20. They said they would cut me out of their will and never speak to me again if I didn't. Biggest mistake I ever made was marrying that loser.
Married my wife at 23. We’ve been best friends since we were 17 and 18. We got married because we love each other. It’s not complicated. Now that we both have fully developed pre frontal cortexes or whatever, no regrets ever.
Married about 3 months after I turned 20 years old, and have been married for 16 years now. Why? Because I knew I found my person. When we started seeing each other, he was very clear that marriage wasn’t something he wanted. He was totally down for a monogamous long term relationship, but didn’t want marriage. Then 9 months later he broke down in tears and asked me to marry him. I was shocked! We both were excited, and ran off to elope about a month after that.
Got married at 21 and honestly no regrets. Just had our 11th anniversary. I just knew it was right when I couldn't envision a life without him in it. We were married 9 years before having kids though and those years were crucial to help us learn to communicate before adding the stress of kids into the mix. We just continue to choose each new version of each other, I've never trusted someone more in my life.
We met my freshman year of college and after dating for two years, I got married at 20, he was 22! He was the best guy I had ever dated, kind, caring, loves people and serving the community and loved Jesus! I also didn’t want to be a ten year girlfriend who suddenly gets dumped so we committed to each other and got engaged, then married after two years. We celebrate our 20-year anniversary this summer and he’s amazing. We’ve matured together and cheered each other on through grad school and our careers. We have teenagers now and love our kids so much. We laugh now about how young we were, but no regrets. I love my husband beyond words!
I was 19. We’d met 10 months earlier. I finally felt safe and secure for the first time in my life. We’ve been divorced for 15 years and he still makes me safer than anyone. I don’t ever regret marrying young but we are way better divorced.
I married my husband when I was 18 and he was 19. For our specific situation, we married young because we both joined the military and wanted to be stationed together. He is the only man I have been with and our relationship started when I was 15 years old. I wouldn't change anything for the world! There have been very hard years but we just decided to continue growing together rather than apart. We are completely different people now, 10 years later, but we are still the perfect match for eachother.
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I was in a cult that banned premarital sex
I got married at 18 to a guy I had only been dating for 3 months. In my case, it was a huge mistake, and I ended up filing for divorce at 24. But it all depends on your individual relationship.
Because we're each other's person, and we knew that then. 18 years in and we still do.
Married at 25— because he had been my best friend for 9 years before we got together romantically, so we know each other inside and out. Also I critically assessed if we had matching goals, lifestyle desires, and complementary prospects; because, in the long run, love is not enough to sustain a marriage if you have diverging life goals—you need love AND all the practical stuff. For example, I knew I wanted to be a homemaker/stay at home mom (if we ever had a child), so I needed to make sure he was on board and could not only financially provide for our family, but actively wanted the same lifestyle. His degree is one with very high earning potential and we had discussed how he had always wanted a partner who was a homemaker. We both wanted a traditional relationship. I also was brutally honest about what his ‘negatives’ were and if I would be willing to live with them long term— I am, and to me they are not a problem. Everyone has some degree of issues, so it’s important to be honest with yourself on if you’re willing to live with them *as is* for the long haul and not delude yourself into thinking “oh, I can change them”. We had talked openly and honestly about our desires for the future and we each knew what the ‘cons’ for each of us were. So there weren’t really any surprises in terms of what we would be getting out of our marriage. I also knew I could count on him when the chips are down and that he is extremely loyal and honest. We also recognize the importance of ongoing open communication, and we always assume the best of each other. It’s always us vs the problem, not us vs each other. We have the best relationship of anyone I’ve met and we’re madly in love.
I got married at 22. I didn’t intend to but I met my husband and we just started hanging out and never stopped. I am lucky that he is a person who has grown with me and has been willing to be a partner. I tell people all the time that was fully luck and thank god we ended up having more in common than college parties, sports, and sex 😂😂😂 I’m 36 and we are still going strong- one kid. Super happy 🎉 it can happen it just takes the right people and circumstances I think.
I truly believe everyone is different. I was always mature for my age and more of an old soul, I was never into partying or the usual high school/college type stuff. I met my husband at 21 and we were married when I was 24, granted he’s 8 years older which also helped because he was ready too. We’ve been together ten years now and married for almost 7. But I’m the type of gal that’s always wanted to be a wife and mother so it’s worked for me and I never felt like I missed out on anything in my twenties or anything like that. I think it just works for some personalities and not for others
I had my reasons for doing it that were maybe not the best (the only way my parents would let me move out was if I was married) reasons, granted things worked out for me. Would I do it again? I think no? I’d still have been with my husband. Probably married him still, but later, after we had time to see what living together was like. But mostly I wouldn’t have done it because I know now that I wouldn’t even talk to my parents anymore within a few years of getting married! Thier opinions shouldn’t have held all the weight that it did. Sometimes I get sad about the life that I missed out on by getting married at 22 and having a child so soon after. But at the same time I don’t regret my choices because my child is the reason I finally had the guts to stand up to my parents abuse and not let it continue another generation and I couldn’t imagine my life without her. She is the greatest thing that ever happened to me and she has forced me to heal and grow in ways I’m not sure I would’ve if I hadn’t had her when I did. Which wouldn’t have happened if I didn’t marry her dad when I did. However “why do it?” I don’t know that I would suggest it to anyone. But I also wouldn’t tell someone who’s planning on getting married young not to. It’s not my business, and like everything else, people have their reasons for doing things and you can rarely change their mind about it.
In college I fell in love with a man who needed a green card and we eloped. He turned out to be abusive, but I was so starved for love due to emotionally neglectful parents that I stayed for six years. It took another four years to divorce him because he fought it tooth and nail.
Got married at 19. I at the time thought that’s what I wanted. Divorced after 241/2 years and 3 adult kids.
My husband and I met at 17, bought a house together at 21, and got married at 24. We've been together 15 years now and have two children. When we first got together, we were very much a 'let's go with the flow, and see where this takes us', our relationship has never been the only focus, we have both pursued careers, hobbies, and have friendship groups outside of eachother. I think that has helped us suceed, we're deeply in love, but there is and always has been more than our relationship in our lives. He's always been my best friend, he still makes me laugh harder than anyone else, he supports me unconditionally and he sets a wonderful example of what love is, for our children. My favourite thing is how much we've grown together, all the milestones we've hit together, we are 100% a team. We've spent nearly half of our lives together at this point, and I honestly don't know who I am/would be without him. If I believed in soul mates, he is mine.
Because I was dumb and thought I was in love and saw him as my ticket out of that ghetto trash home town of mine.
I was 19 when I met my husband, it was early September. We moved in together in November and were married in August just 2 months shy of my 21st birthday. There was something about him that truly clicked, we’ve talked about this over the years and have both been unable to truly explain it but we both just knew we were meant to tackle life together for the long haul. Our individual strengths balanced our individual flaws and maybe that’s the reason we both had the deep gut feeling of being together and getting married so young. We’ve been together 25 years this September and will be married for 24 this August. We also opted to have kids young too so we’re almost empty nesters with a 21, 19, and 17 year old. We’ve gotten some looks and asked if we were teen parents more times than I can count. We’ve had ups and downs but we’ve always committed to doing the work and focused on ways we can continue to improve our communication through all of the stages of life. It’s been a magical experience and I truly couldn’t imagine tackling the world with any other person.
I was very much in love, he was the most amazing respectful smart guy, and we had the best chemistry as well… When I was 20 I wanted to buy a condo. I was heads over heels in love, and my boyfriend told me we should buy it together. I told him I would never merge my life with someone without marriage and we decided to get married. We got married at 22 and bought our first home together. We are together for 15y now, married for 13. He is my best friend, and we both changed in the past few years, we got lucky we changed together and not apart. It’s a risk, but it’s a risk you have at any age, since we are continuously learning and evolving. But yeah, for me, if I find myself in the future in another relationship again, I would have the same view. I would not merge my life financially with someone if I am not married to them.
I knew I was infertile and had bad health problems from 13 years old. My timeline for everything has been sped up exponentially due to my health problems. I even had to graduate early from homebound schooling due to my health. When a potential partner, that had the same goals as I did, came around when I was 16 years old, we were both brazenly honest. We knew my life would not happen the way we wanted or on the timeline we wanted, but we knew if we took certain actions, I could live most of my life and do most of the things I wanted to. I got very lucky. I had a hysterectomy at 27 years old. I’m 32 years old now, fully in menopause and my last ovary is definitely not gonna make it. Had anything in my life not happened on the timeline that it did, I likely would either not be alive today, or I certainly would not be happy AND have a family. Early marriage gave me freedom and protection. It also allowed me a support net to chase my goals and fulfill all of my dreams for my life. Plus, built in best friend for life.❤️
I had a horrible family life growing up, so all I really wanted was an actual family. I got married at 17.
I married at 19. I would not recommend!
fell in love in my adolescence and while he was not a good person for me, nothing else in life ever came close to the fulfillment of sharing that bond with someone. after a few years with him I knew myself well and knew what I wanted out of a lifelong partner. met my now husband at 19, married him at 20, and have had the happiest years of my life since <33 I personally think hookup culture is misrepresented and is disproportionately dangerous and damaging to women. I wish it weren't so taboo to marry and start a family young.
Got tons of money from the government to go to school because I was no longer considered a dependent on my parents. (Like 900 to 3000$ per month depending on the month. I have to specify a semester cost at most 2000$ if you include books and everything here). The relationship didn’t survive but I am still greatful for what it allowed me to do! I was 19 yo the day we got married.
Met my husband when I was 23 and we are still together 20 years later. I knew he was the one for me, just knew it in my bones. I didn't want anyone else. We just clicked. I was so much happier with him and with our relationship than I was being single. Plus, my oma loved him.
18 my mother pushed me to marry a guy I wasn’t dating at the time by telling me no one would ever love me. 2 kids later and 3 pregnancies, in 3 years he cheated and left. Which worked out. Don’t be pressured into marrying someone you don’t even like…but imo you shouldn’t get married until your mid twenties. By 21 I was with an abusive alcoholic who hated my existence. Now I’m in a better situation.
My Mom married my dad young. My dad had had his fill of parties and recklessness when he fell in love with my mom. He was ready to settle down and have some kids. My mom had come from a really bad relationship and wasn't looking for anything. But she agreed to a date with my dad because he was "so hot on his motorcycle". She fell in love with him and they matched so beautifully, that my dad was sure she was the one after a few months. But he waited for a year or two for he asked her even though she was ready to marry him after 3 months. They have been married for almost 25 years now and it was a match made in heaven.
Kinda just went with the plan, and it was better than being home any longer.
When I was 16 I met my husband. It was live at first sight, truly. I was abused by my stepfather at home (sexually, even though it was lighter than other cases, he would “only” touch me and be very possessive of me. I never told my mom.) When he found out about him, he went crazy. Tried to keep me from seeing him. His family saved me. They took me in at 17. I lived with his family, we shared his room for 3 years. And after that we got an apartment together. We’ve been together for 9 years. I don’t regret it all. I can’t imagine a different life. He is the love of my life. He loves and respects me. He takes care of me. He still gives me butterflies to this day. I’m 26 now and he’s 29. We live together, we have two cats and stable careers and we’ve been trying for a baby for about 6 months. We are very hopeful to be parents by the end of the year. But I know that this is not the case for everyone. And if I could give young people advice, I would tell them to date for at least two years before deciding to get married or anything. I know many people who went for the same path than me and got into very toxic relationships. Getting married at 17 was the right choice for me, because I found true love and also because my situation at home was desperate. If you feel like you can wait a little longer, please do. And don’t get pregnant very young. Wait until you are financially stable and be sure your partner is there for you.
I married at 18 because I live in Utah. We've together since I was 13 or 14. I'm 25 now, and its tough at times, but its all I've known lol we have a bond unlike many, we practically raised eachother since we have shit families growing up. He is truly my life partner, through thick and thin.
Met my best friend at 14 and married him at 24 , now in our 30s , two kids and he’s the only non stressful , easy part of my life!
He proposed when I was 17 in high school, and I got married 3 months after my 18th birthday. He didn’t need any time from me, he knew he wanted me as his wife, and I knew I wanted him as my husband. We were sure of it. And here we are today. Madly in love.
I was 20. My dad was dying and fiancé was getting sent over seas. We've been married 8 years now and he's still my bet friend. I can't imagine life without him. I wouldn't recommend it for most people, but it worked out for us.
Ignorance. ETA: Met my soon to be ex husband at 23, married by 26. Getting divorced at 36 and wishing I had seen all of the signs beforehand. Wishing I had listened to close family and friends who tried to tell me that I didn’t deserve the treatment I was receiving all of these years. Now I have two young children that will have a broken family. Not what I wanted in life.
Don't do it. I got married 4 days after turning 18 and divorced the day after turning 24. I did it to escape my crappy home life (not that I recognized that at the time), but I just ended up with a different kind of crappy.
Met him at 19 (he was 20). He proposed 3 months later. I didn’t think I’d find anyone I liked better, so I said yes. 29 years next month. Still happy. I don’t advocate that most people get married that young. We are an odd case, because we just knew we were right for each other. For me, it was love at first sight. He said he knew three days later.
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I was 17 and my husband was 20 when we got married. He was friends with my brother and at 11 years old wrote in my diary that I wanted to marry him. We started dating when I was 16. My Mom remarried the next year and I didn't want to move since I was a senior in high school. I lived with my Grandma until December. We got married during Christmas break I was 17 and he was 20. Finished high school a married lady. Celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary this past December. Still so much in love with 3 children and 2 grandkids. He is patient, kind, and we laugh together a lot. Kids tease us for still kissing and hugging no matter who is around. Love him so much!
I met my husband when I was 17 and we married at 23. This year will be 20 years together. Why wait 🤷🏻♀️
Met when we were 19 and both fell HARD 💕 Married at 21. Have 3 kids. Been together 30 years!! Definitely ups & downs but we've worked hard and it's paid off. No one I'd rather be with! ***And the sex has always been 🔥🔥🔥
He’s my best friend. Plus he was in the military so we would get more money once married haha. We’ve only been married five years but we are doing great so far 😊
I was 22, he was 21. I graduated college and had to decide stay in the town I was, or follow him where the military took him. We married the day after I graduated and it’s been as close to a fairy tale as it could be. That was 15 years ago ❤️
We (21f, 20m) were in love. We had fun! Shared similar interests. Lived in a studio apartment and enjoyed each other’s company. Married at 24,23. But as time passed, he was stuck in it whereas I changed. Just divorced this year after 35 years, although it really should have happened many years ago. I wish him no ill will and hope his dreams come to fruition. As for me? Met a man that has shown me that my next life chapter is gonna be fabulous!
I was married by 21 and had been dating since 19. We practically grew up together and were so in tune with each other because of it. We’re the same generation so we have the same likes in a lot of areas. We’re going on 20 Years of marriage this Sept.
He's the love of my life, and I knew it even then. Our first date was my Senior Prom, and we've been inseparable, since. It sounds stupid, but our souls just match. There's no one else for me. I've never doubted that. He's stepped up to prove that over and over throughout our +20 years together.
Engaged at 20 married at 21 (right after my birthday) now I’m pregnant at 23. I think what I was searching for more than anything was stability. And a place where I belonged. He was, and is, my safe place. I’m still not sure if it was the right choice in that who knows what my life would or wouldn’t be if I hadn’t married when I did but I don’t think that’s something worth thinking about tbh. I’m happy enough with how things are going, I think I’m better off for it, I can’t imagine not being with my best friend every day even if we aren’t perfect. And I don’t see it as “the end” as I’m sure many people do. One serious pitfall I have seen women in my life fall into is marrying young and becoming too overly dependent on a partner who doesn’t or won’t have their best interest at heart, and they end up screwed. I knew going in my husband was not capable of being the kind of person who holds power or money or anything over me.
I got married when I was 23. My husband and I had been together for almost 5 years and had survived being long distance, the pandemic, and both of us doing our student-teaching. We love, each other, are happy together, and make a great time. Why wait until we're older?
I knew he was the one, quickly, and I remember thinking, What are you doing here? You’re early. Way early.” But I also didn’t think I could ask him to go away and come back in five years. And I realized he respected me and would never try to keep me from doing anything I wanted to do with my life. I wasn’t limiting my life by marrying him. I was getting to live my life with him by my side. I was 20 when we got married and in college. He was 25 and had already graduated. That was 40 years ago. Funny think — my college professors, even my own parents I found out later, just assumed I would drop out of college after we got married. I never even considered it. The man I was marrying never imagined it, never expected it. I guess it was a generational thing, but really surprising. I thought those people knew me, knew what I wanted for my life. They didn’t, but the man I married did.
married at 21. typical military reasons lol, and i fell for his manipulation and tricks
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Met at 17 and 22. Married less than a year later. I got my divorce at 21. I married that young because I had highly low self-esteem. I left because I found my worth.
I had been abused my whole childhood, So i had been through it all. When the rt guy came along, We got married young been 36 yrs. 3 awesome kids. I love my life
I got married at 22- now 24 and we just had our first baby two weeks ago. We just wanted to. There was literally no other reason besides that. We got married on a beach with only a few friends and did everything on our terms. I’m incredibly happy with our decision!
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I got married at 23! Best decision I've ever made! When you meet someone you can make it work with, get married and make it work. That is what marriage is designed for, not for waiting around for the perfect person. No one is perfect and people change but marriage is a covenant and a journey and it is absolutely beautiful!
i got married at 19. best advice i can give is to wait.
My father arranged it.
Grandmother wouldn't get off my ass about having a baby out of wedlock. Now I'm in the middle of getting divorced and a cps case because he started abusing my son. 🙃
I got married at 25 ( not sure if that’s the young you’re looking for) but I proposed after 8 months, she was pregnant, been together 7 years married for 6
I got married at 18 because they were going into the military and we had been dating for 2 years already. We knew we’d get married so we figured it should be done before they left so I was covered (insurance and money) and no extra waiting to be together when they were out of training. Definitely too eager. I think I was ready though. Not smart enough or old enough for sure but I did know that marriage was for real and the biggest commitment ever. Plus, I loved them so much and I had no reason to believe they would ever hurt me. I got cheated on multiple times (Army culture I think) and after 3 years of sooo much stupid back and forth, I had to call it. I got divorced at the ripe age of 22. No regrets at all. I finally came to the realization that someone who was willing to cheat (and multiple times) did not love me the way I deserved. And I just couldn’t be with someone who would do that to me. I’m still young now, 24. But I wanna be married to my current partner so bad. He is everything I’ve ever dreamed of and the most honest man. I know the time will come and not to force it because it will make it all the more special when it actually does happen for us. I’m just grateful to have finally found my person.
We got together when I was 17, engaged at 21, married at 23. We actually “rushed” our wedding because we did a secret elopement that coincided with a trip we were taking to see a concert half way around the world. Looking back, I have no regrets!! However I realize just how young we were! Lol we didn’t know 💩
Because we had been together since we were 15 and we were growing together and very in love? Still together so not a bad choice imo
I got married at 19, mostly because it was the thing to do as a Mormon freshman at BYU. My husband and I have more than passed the 5 year mark and have no big red flags in our relationship. I wouldn't recommend it to anyone, but I am so relieved it has worked for us. I think it has worked only because we have allowed each other to change and grow, and we've been lucky to grow in a similar direction.
Got married right before I turned 25. We’ve now married 4 years and together for 8. While I realize that isn’t a long time by any means, I still get butterflies looking at him. He’s my biggest cheerleader, he supported me through pharmacy school and a grueling year of post-graduate residency, and now my career that I worked so hard for. I’ve been with him through his time as a military officer, and now finding his way back into the civilian world. I know that I am SO fortunate to have such a kind, caring, loving partner by my side. He is the love of my life and I can’t imagine life without him. I could get really mushy with all the emotion I feel for him but I’ll just say that while our lives aren’t perfect, there’s nothing I’d change about him or our life together.
Why not? I had dated him at 13 and him 15. Only man I have ever dated and it stood the time. So we married whe I we 23 and have never looked back. We both wanted marriage but couldn't because we wanted a home before it.
Honestly - because I was raised in a very abusive household. I wanted out and I thought marrying that guy was going to be my "happily ever after". I had only known him for 4 months and he ended up being just like my father, nearly unaliving me less than a year later. Good times 🙃