"you can't add days to your life but you can add life to your days". Basically: live and enjoy every moment; MAKE your life happy and fun.
people will treat you *how you allow them* to treat you.
you learn that exercise isn't about vanity; it's about longevity. If you look fantastic in a bikini, great! but once you hit peri/menopause, it ain't about that; it's about preventing osteoporosis and sarcopenia, improving/maintaining your balance and flexibly and keeping your mental health stable. If you make healthy living part of your lifestyle now, it will be SO MUCH better for you when you this this phase of life.
life goes on so don't let those opportunities pass you by because in 1, 3, 5 years do you want to look back and find yourself in the same spot or somewhere better?
nothing worth having comes easy. You have to work hard to get what you want because if you dont, someone else will.
I find myself not wanting to give all of me in frienships. I find two of my friendships to be very one sided which I have had hard conversations about. Things change for a little then go back to me reaching out first. Me having to keep the conversation going. I realized I don't find comfort or feel support from these friends which I'm working through. Im not begging for their attention anymore. I give the same amount of energy. I don't go out of my way to check in all the time. I am not ready to cut them off as then id have no one but being okay with things changing and not just blaming myself for for being a bad friend. I've tried and I'm tired. Being okay with wanting more and holding to hope that I'll find my tribe and it won't feel like so much work. That it wont leave me confused emotionally after we hang out.
A job is not where my worth is. I'm tired of min wage jobs that treat their employees crappy. That won't work with me part time and no weekends. Where time off is impossible. I don't mind not getting paid time off but I do need a few days off a year which shouldn't be impossible to work with. That can't handle stress and take it out on employees. Who yell at you in front of customers and employees. I won't put up with it. Where multiple people call off daily. Where all the work falls on the good employees where others slack off and don't show up. Don't know what's next but taking a break for a bit. Not going to settle and trust that yes there will be some issues but it doesn't have to be toxic. It doesn't have to all fall on a few employees. That there are jobs that are fun and management semi cares.
* It's ok to make mistakes. We will always live and learn.
* There's more than just love; it's important to have someone who communicates to be understood and shares the same respect.
* Talk about what makes them happy, not what they do for a living.
- You never know what someone is going through.
- Tens of millions of people are on anti-depressants/anti-anxiety, don't assume people are happy and you're an unlucky minority.
- Drinking a lot is a symptom of an emotional problem.
- Think of all the times you made a mistake in traffic, multiply that by every driver on the road and assume someone made a mistake instead of being reckless or doing it on purpose.
- Explore a lot with sex and trying new things, most couples will get bored of the same routine. Get to know every inch of your partners body, do role-play, keep things fresh and a little dirty.
- Don't expect a promotion and a raise, most raises and promotions come from job hopping, job loyalty is for suckers. Having 20 years at one company on your resume is a big turn off to future employers, mix it up every 5 years, if possible.
- Couples need to be working towards a shared goal to keep the relationship healthy. The more separate you are, the easier it is to drift away and become strangers. Always be working towards some sort of shared goal, big or small.
- Almost everything worth doing is either hard or scary. Being comfortable is a fools game and will lead you to unhappiness. The pursuit of happiness is more about the pursuit than it is the happiness.
I have dozens more, but those are some of them. I certainly don't know much but I do think I have learned a fair amount, through pain and misery.
"you can't add days to your life but you can add life to your days". Basically: live and enjoy every moment; MAKE your life happy and fun. people will treat you *how you allow them* to treat you. you learn that exercise isn't about vanity; it's about longevity. If you look fantastic in a bikini, great! but once you hit peri/menopause, it ain't about that; it's about preventing osteoporosis and sarcopenia, improving/maintaining your balance and flexibly and keeping your mental health stable. If you make healthy living part of your lifestyle now, it will be SO MUCH better for you when you this this phase of life. life goes on so don't let those opportunities pass you by because in 1, 3, 5 years do you want to look back and find yourself in the same spot or somewhere better? nothing worth having comes easy. You have to work hard to get what you want because if you dont, someone else will.
I find myself not wanting to give all of me in frienships. I find two of my friendships to be very one sided which I have had hard conversations about. Things change for a little then go back to me reaching out first. Me having to keep the conversation going. I realized I don't find comfort or feel support from these friends which I'm working through. Im not begging for their attention anymore. I give the same amount of energy. I don't go out of my way to check in all the time. I am not ready to cut them off as then id have no one but being okay with things changing and not just blaming myself for for being a bad friend. I've tried and I'm tired. Being okay with wanting more and holding to hope that I'll find my tribe and it won't feel like so much work. That it wont leave me confused emotionally after we hang out. A job is not where my worth is. I'm tired of min wage jobs that treat their employees crappy. That won't work with me part time and no weekends. Where time off is impossible. I don't mind not getting paid time off but I do need a few days off a year which shouldn't be impossible to work with. That can't handle stress and take it out on employees. Who yell at you in front of customers and employees. I won't put up with it. Where multiple people call off daily. Where all the work falls on the good employees where others slack off and don't show up. Don't know what's next but taking a break for a bit. Not going to settle and trust that yes there will be some issues but it doesn't have to be toxic. It doesn't have to all fall on a few employees. That there are jobs that are fun and management semi cares.
* It's ok to make mistakes. We will always live and learn. * There's more than just love; it's important to have someone who communicates to be understood and shares the same respect. * Talk about what makes them happy, not what they do for a living.
Much more liberal and accepting of people and their behavior.
- You never know what someone is going through. - Tens of millions of people are on anti-depressants/anti-anxiety, don't assume people are happy and you're an unlucky minority. - Drinking a lot is a symptom of an emotional problem. - Think of all the times you made a mistake in traffic, multiply that by every driver on the road and assume someone made a mistake instead of being reckless or doing it on purpose. - Explore a lot with sex and trying new things, most couples will get bored of the same routine. Get to know every inch of your partners body, do role-play, keep things fresh and a little dirty. - Don't expect a promotion and a raise, most raises and promotions come from job hopping, job loyalty is for suckers. Having 20 years at one company on your resume is a big turn off to future employers, mix it up every 5 years, if possible. - Couples need to be working towards a shared goal to keep the relationship healthy. The more separate you are, the easier it is to drift away and become strangers. Always be working towards some sort of shared goal, big or small. - Almost everything worth doing is either hard or scary. Being comfortable is a fools game and will lead you to unhappiness. The pursuit of happiness is more about the pursuit than it is the happiness. I have dozens more, but those are some of them. I certainly don't know much but I do think I have learned a fair amount, through pain and misery.