This isn't BDSM specific, and there are plenty of people who choose not to ever be monogamous.
There are several ways people ethically do multiple relationships. You should check out r/nonmonogamy and r/polyamory to read up on things and see what flavor might work for you.
You're not doing anything wrong. You're not in a monogamous relationship or dating any of them and they all know about this. Since you're non-monogamous with any of them, I doubt that they are. Just have fun, be safe, and don't over think it.
This doesn't make you evil. You are all good. Enjoy the time with your fwb and just be transparent and honest with 1) what you want and 2) what you can offer :)
Don’t worry! I have 3+ sub boys too 🤭 and a few doms as I am a switch. I am happy with all of them and they with me and their other partners/fwb. It’s just nonmonogamy, just keep it ethical > everyone knows it’s not monogamous, use protection and considerate
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This isn't BDSM specific, and there are plenty of people who choose not to ever be monogamous. There are several ways people ethically do multiple relationships. You should check out r/nonmonogamy and r/polyamory to read up on things and see what flavor might work for you.
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You're not doing anything wrong. You're not in a monogamous relationship or dating any of them and they all know about this. Since you're non-monogamous with any of them, I doubt that they are. Just have fun, be safe, and don't over think it.
Use protection?
Of course lol, I'm not looking to get pregnant (we all don't carry anything)
If everyone consents I don't understand what the issue is?
This doesn't make you evil. You are all good. Enjoy the time with your fwb and just be transparent and honest with 1) what you want and 2) what you can offer :)
The term I have heard used for multiple males as you are referring to as a reverse harem is a stable.
You are correct, lemme fix that
Enjoy it, them, all.
What's the problem? If you feel bad about it, you can stop.
Don’t worry! I have 3+ sub boys too 🤭 and a few doms as I am a switch. I am happy with all of them and they with me and their other partners/fwb. It’s just nonmonogamy, just keep it ethical > everyone knows it’s not monogamous, use protection and considerate
My advice would be to have fun.
What if your ideal outcome? Which partner is best for a long term relationship and with one for a short term?
Who says they need to end up in a mono, closed relationship?? 😅 Ethical non-monogamy is a thing 😅