Sounds like she wanted to keep her options open, and not necessarily because she still cares about you, so much as (it seems fairly obvious) she’s insecure. Once she got that security (which, she did tell him she was still talking to you, maybe to test him? Seems she wasn’t sure she wanted to be just friends, imho), she used blocking you as a way to perform commitment to him.
Bullet dodged, even as a friend. You deserve better than being jerked around.
believe whatever she is doing is for selfish reasons and not to protect your feelings, from the breakup onwards. whatever happens in her life after that is no more of any concern to you. focus on your own well being
Literally the exact same thing happened to me 2 weeks ago and it hurts ik it does but you just have to try and distract yourself until one day you won't need to distract yourself anymore. Focus on the good and not the bad and try to be your best self or else its just gona get worse and worse for you. Good luck brother!
She's having a rebound. I'm going to assume she wanted to work on herself then freaked out and jumped into another relationship to avoid having to deal with anything. 2 months is not enough time to heal.
I've lost track of the number of times this has happened with friends of mine, I've done it in the past. I'm not trying to give you a false hope of reconciliation, but I can say with some certainty that she's trying really hard to convince herself that she's happy. Dealing with pain and trauma is hard - most people take a few attempts of starting therapy to really take the plunge. I'd say it's a rebound because 2 months isn't enough time to do any of that - if she's with someone new after so little time and wanting validation for her behavior by sharing it on social media, it sounds like she's trying to convince herself what she's doing is ok. Her telling you you should work on yourself while telling you how happy she is smacks of delusion.
You two broke up, months ago, and she’s officially moving on with her life.
I think the reality of the break up is just that, becoming a reality. She was already poised for this transition hence her performing the break.
There’s two sides to this event, the pain from the realization, and the classic closing/opening of doors.
It will take some time to shake the pain side, and fully comprehend that the door for that relationship is closed.
The peace will come when you eventually understand that the door to your next relationship/adventure is opening. For the first time in a year and change, you now have absolute undeniable control of where your own life takes you. You don’t have to check in, or be convenient, or get permission, or worry about anyone else but you. That’s a potential worth embracing.
This is normal. You really don't want to see her kissing and having fun with another guy. Just be glad she saved you from that and find a way to move on.
Sounds like she wanted to keep her options open, and not necessarily because she still cares about you, so much as (it seems fairly obvious) she’s insecure. Once she got that security (which, she did tell him she was still talking to you, maybe to test him? Seems she wasn’t sure she wanted to be just friends, imho), she used blocking you as a way to perform commitment to him. Bullet dodged, even as a friend. You deserve better than being jerked around.
believe whatever she is doing is for selfish reasons and not to protect your feelings, from the breakup onwards. whatever happens in her life after that is no more of any concern to you. focus on your own well being
Dude I'm going through something similar and it just takes time focus on yourself and try to be a better you and you will feel better trust me
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Literally the exact same thing happened to me 2 weeks ago and it hurts ik it does but you just have to try and distract yourself until one day you won't need to distract yourself anymore. Focus on the good and not the bad and try to be your best self or else its just gona get worse and worse for you. Good luck brother!
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It was a year for when me and my ex broke up and it still hurts bro it's just something we have to live with. Chin up and stay strong
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She's having a rebound. I'm going to assume she wanted to work on herself then freaked out and jumped into another relationship to avoid having to deal with anything. 2 months is not enough time to heal.
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I've lost track of the number of times this has happened with friends of mine, I've done it in the past. I'm not trying to give you a false hope of reconciliation, but I can say with some certainty that she's trying really hard to convince herself that she's happy. Dealing with pain and trauma is hard - most people take a few attempts of starting therapy to really take the plunge. I'd say it's a rebound because 2 months isn't enough time to do any of that - if she's with someone new after so little time and wanting validation for her behavior by sharing it on social media, it sounds like she's trying to convince herself what she's doing is ok. Her telling you you should work on yourself while telling you how happy she is smacks of delusion.
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You two broke up, months ago, and she’s officially moving on with her life. I think the reality of the break up is just that, becoming a reality. She was already poised for this transition hence her performing the break. There’s two sides to this event, the pain from the realization, and the classic closing/opening of doors. It will take some time to shake the pain side, and fully comprehend that the door for that relationship is closed. The peace will come when you eventually understand that the door to your next relationship/adventure is opening. For the first time in a year and change, you now have absolute undeniable control of where your own life takes you. You don’t have to check in, or be convenient, or get permission, or worry about anyone else but you. That’s a potential worth embracing.
This is normal. You really don't want to see her kissing and having fun with another guy. Just be glad she saved you from that and find a way to move on.