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nawww, he decided to kick me out of his life without any warning. so I'm going to make sure I stay out of it.


MyosotisBleue

I wish I had your mentality, good for you!


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tbh I didn't block him at first, but he sent me some breadcrumbs around valentines day and that opened a bunch of old wounds. so I blocked him. he didn't want to communicate when he ended the relationship, even though I begged him to tell me what the problem was, so he doesn't get to communicate now


fmounts

You're so much stronger than I am. I'm 4 months out and I'd eagerly talk if given the chance even though she refused to at the time. I hope I'll eventually have your attitude.


Same_County_9631

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Euphoric-Guarantee72

Blocking is for them. I didn’t block my ex because I hated her or didn’t love her. I blocked, because I needed to move on. She dumped me and I know she doesn’t care that I blocked her.


Dull-Cricket-9082

My ex dumped me and I blocked her everywhere, because it was too tempting for me having her there and I kept breaking no contact, the only way to stop myself is let things go that way, I've tried to explain this to her but she doesn't seem to understand and I bet she thinks I hate her, but it's just something I need to heal properly.


KingBileygr993

My situation is almost exactly the same as this. Blocking just helps in distancing yourself from that person. Out of sight, out of mind. Otherwise the urge to reconnect would be too tempting.


VoiceMcCracks

Yup. Best to keep those negative feelings away, seal them, don't look back and move on.


Dull-Cricket-9082

There's nothing else I can do to fix the issues that lead to the breaking up, there's only one road ahead and she choose to leave me behind, now I'm trying as hard as I can to choose myself


Island_Mama_bear

I know it’s a year after you wrote this, but this is what has happened to me. We still said I love you at the end, it was amicable and we were still in contact. He said we should be friends and see what happens down the road. Had a month or so N/C then I texted him and asked if we could go on a hike for our birthdays. He said yes and then blocked me on everything. I just wrote him a long letter detailing all of the anxiety and PTSD I was going through when we were dating. 2 months in, I had told him I wasn’t ready to be all-in yet but was falling for him. He wanted a relationship…so I told him I would give him what I could and we stayed together. (he was aware of what I had been through but I didn’t share the insane level of stress I was under and I texted him during an anxiety attack because I felt like it was the only thing I could do to alleviate some of my stress). I’ve been in therapy and processed a ton of that trauma now. I detailed everything that I’ve done since to process and to figure out our issues, or at least what I thought were issues. I told him I made a mistake and want to build a real life with him long term. He’s pretty bullheaded, so he’ll probably never respond but I really hope he does


HenshinMasked

Any updates??? Have you gotten back in contact


Island_Mama_bear

Nope. He never responded. He’s the kind of person who doesn’t change his mind once he’s made it up. Also, I think he knows that while we loved each other, long term we aren’t the perfect fit. :(


HenshinMasked

Things could still change in the future. I wish you the best. Take care of yourself..


Island_Mama_bear

I don’t think they will but I’ve had time to process and while I still miss and love him, I know that something beautiful is in store for me when the time is right. I hope the same for him. I’m lucky that I’m able to find happiness on my own or with somebody. Right now I’m just focusing on my kids, my family, myself and my friends.


HenshinMasked

I wish you the best as well :)


Electronic-Gift-6509

Hi. Any updates?


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Island_Mama_bear

I sent a couple messages in the new year just wondering how he was etc. He had unblocked me and eventually responded but it was pretty cold and formal. He said maybe someday we could have dinner together again, but he wasn’t ready for that yet. Hearing that he wasn’t ready for that made me think there was hope because he still loves me. I basically begged for another chance and he said he thought we shouldn’t talk and move on. He’s severely avoidant but he also promised something to me and didn’t follow through, which led to more anxiety on top of some really crazy life circumstances with my kids and me at the time….so that led to me breaking up…via text. Wish I had sat and talked to him but at least I’ve learned that lesson I guess.


Island_Mama_bear

No response. I don’t believe he ever will.


vegan_gyrl

I think it's fine for the dumpee to block, but the dumper blocking is a whole other story.


Think_Key_6677

Exactly 👌👌👌


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Lightkeeperofhope

I feel you my ex kept looking with her 2nd account 2 months after the break up till I blocked. We weren’t even following each other, but then a week after having it blocked, I wanted to see if she checked if i would undo it & behold i found out she blocked me back…. I never did her wrong & she got with a new guy very quickly after she broke up with, I saw a photo of them 10 days after the break up. It’s been 4 months since.


thetremulant

I blocked my ex on social media after they dumped me because I was driving myself insane. I couldn't stop checking their activity, because it made me feel a little closer to them when I felt so far away. But every time I saw them post something, it was like getting broken up with all over again. So I had to break the cycle, even though it was intensely hard to do so.


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Crypticx13

THIS! All those exes who used him, they were still there. Even the ex who tried and failed to cheat on him was still there. I was curious and checked after I found out about his past relationships. Yet I get dumped and thrown out like garbage for what? I'd like to think it's because of all of them, we were the ones that would've hurt to keep. Because they'd always be wondering if they made the right choice, every time they saw our face.


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CarolAird5

Yeah, had to learn all about personality disorders for the last 2 years after my ex did this to me. It's funny, how I found out was after she brutally discarded me like nothing after being loving right before, I looked up all her symptoms. It was like I had been with a possessed person. Sudden rage outbursts for no reason, verbal, physical and emotional abuse, name calling, mood swings, false accusations against me (like this guy said above "stalking" and so much more I won't even mention here. What came up was Borderline Personality Disorder. It was all right there. Now, my ex has been labeled with it in the past but seems to be in denial or convinced she doesn't have it. And while I was with a Narc in the past and the behaviors were very similar to this one, I looked back on my other exes and break ups and none of them were like this one and the one with the narcissist. They all still hurt like hell but none of them behaved like that or were as unnessarily cruel. Infact, the 2 conditions often come as a package deal. And if someone has both severe enough, it can be outright dangerous to be around them. What the above poster described sounds like his ex may have had a condition like that or similar to. Makes a normal break up feel like a cake walk in comparison.


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TheRR135

I'm the one who got dumped after 5 years. I'm also the one who got blocked. And later heard from a friend that she's deleted most of our pictures together. I feel destroyed.


quantumLoveBunny

It's a devastating blow considering that these were once the closest most connected people we had in our daily lives


ashjinx

I always block after a breakup. If I broke up with them that means they weren’t treating me well and if they broke up with me then I’m going to move on. For some I’m sure it’s for petty reasons and a way to hurt the other person but for others blocking simply helps them heal and be able to move on with their lives. I’m sure this will get downvoted but just wanted to give another perspective. Sometimes it’s what’s best for the ‘blocker’ and has little to do with the other person or relationship overall.


revship

Nope, that's the exact reason i had to block my friend after I shattered the bridge between us.


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I-throw-myself-away-

Hey, I was replaced for someone she knew for one month after being together for 6 years as well. It's been 3 months and I haven't heard a thing from her. No matter how much we loved them or how much they meant to us, we're honestly too good for that. Although I have my problems too, I could *never ever* do that to someone. They suck and we deserve better!


thefatpig

Hey same! Was in ldr for 5 years and I was dropped for a guy she knew two months. It was actually right after I visited her too. Immature as fuck


thehak2020

Took me some time to réalisé something... When we're blocked it means that any message we could have sent would have triggered an emotional response so it's not like we're kicked out of their lives, it's because they can't ignore us. It's not as bad as we imagine and apparently, it's way more common to be unblocked than to stay blocked forever. Be well, my friend.


quantumLoveBunny

I truly hope this is the case but it has rarely happened for me in the past


Goddeshel

I blocked my ex 4 days after my breakup since I cannot accept the fact the he is online and very active on social media but never got the slightest energy to read my messages and say at least “Let’s breakup” or “goodbye”.


Crypticx13

When I hear about how "healthy" blocking is, it's usually from the perspective of someone who was dumped and wants to heal. That's their choice and they're free to make it. I was blocked by my blindsiding dumper right after it happened. All of my friends said "it's better this way! Now you can forget about him!" Frankly, all this "no contact" stuff infuriates me. It's not healthy, it's a slap in the face. I was kicked while I was down and now I can't heal the way I deserve to heal because that decision was taken from me. If you block someone, consider how that person might feel about being blocked. And if you don't care how they feel, stop and consider if you *should* care how they feel. Then make the decision after you've thought it over. Don't just do it on a whim.


I-throw-myself-away-

The mistake lies in assuming that your ex shares the same values as you do. They clearly don't. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to take it too personally. And never think that someone shares the the same beliefs and morals as you do


tryingtohealll22

I feel this so hard. When they do the blocking it feels like such a mindfck


Positiveinsomniac

Yeah I got dumped out of the blue and now blocked lol


Think_Key_6677

yes, true


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My ex blocked me after sending really horrible messages and threatening to tell my secrets. It left me in a state of heart break and anxiety for months. I reached out today after 5 months asking for a simple conversation, the reply I got was “I’m not interested in speaking, please leave me alone”. So I guess I don’t even deserve some form of closure let alone an apology. Some people just aren’t very nice people or have the mental maturity of a child. The effects of blocking someone without closure are devastating and I would never do it to anyone. I hope you find some peace and can learn to be happy without them x


MyosotisBleue

I’m really sorry this happened to you.. It’s truly horrible.. I’m afraid I’ll never get/feel closure :/


Produnce

You and your ex are on extreme ends of the morality spectrum. I feel sad that someone you got close to threatens to hurt you by exposing your secrets. Hope you find someone who treats you well.


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ElianVX

I blocked her for my own sake. Days went by and I still had the reflex of thinking it was her every time I got a notification on my phone. I just blocked and deleted her


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I disagree. Blocking was for my own sanity to help me heal. If i didnt remove them from our shared spaces, i would check up and obsess, and that's not going to help my heart heal.


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>when you block someone they really don’t matter or mean anything to you tbf, he dumped me and wouldn't tell me why, so I clearly don't matter or mean anything to him, so why should he matter or mean anything to me?


MyosotisBleue

That’s hard…. I feel you, and wish you strength with it.. Yes, that’s really like treating the person like a cockroach you can’t be bother with in the slightest


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I see it differently. To me, no contact is the natural end of a romantic relationship. No-contact is inevitable, and whether blocking is part of that is just arguing over semantics. It doesn't mean nothing ever happened. On the other hand, if the relationship had been so insignificant that I do not get emotional over it, then I wouldn't need to block at all. I can put on a smile and act kind to strangers fairly easily.


liam838

I'm sorry you feel that way, it does hurt, it sucks. But dont for one second think it's like nothing existed, we only block the people who cause us hurt and anger. Those feelings can come from so many places, but it's always because that person matters and they cant bare to think about them any more than they are


MyosotisBleue

I don’t think I was blocked out of anger or anything, more so because I’m disgusting


Confused9768

I don’t think that’s the case at all. Blocking after a breakup is either for the person to heal after getting hurt or to stop the other person from harassing you. If you weren’t incessantly reaching out to your ex, they most likely blocked you to help heal the wounds.


Cringe_Normie_

Yup, it made everything 1000 times worse when I saw that she unadded me on social media.


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Hey OP, sometimes blocking someone is not meant to offend the blocked person, but more for protecting yourself from more harm. I myself blocked my ex on insta 1,5 months post breakup, cuz she kept posting pictures and stories on how godd this year will be and how she'll finally be happy again. Also pics of her new boyfriends... Yeah boyfriends, now 4 and counting.... I couldn't handle these photos and stories. Everytime I saw them all the progress I had made just got destroyed and I felt miserable. So I did what I never wanted to do, I blocked her. And it was such a liberating feeling. Now 1 month after this I made real progress and I feel better. But I know I wouldn't be able to handle seeing her insta, so I keep her blocked. If there are any emergencies she can still call me. We separated on good terms (more or less) and I don't want to hurt her with blocking her. I explained it to her beforehand and she seemed to be understanding. Keep your head up!


charltheunicorn

I blocked because that way your not constantly checking your phone waiting for a text/call, always best to block on social media as what you don’t know can’t hurt you …. get them out of your head I was the dumpee


GarnetKane

It is a sucky thing to do, really. But it also does hurt a lot to be constantly reminded of that person when you have them on social media. It’s easy enough to just unfollow/not view their page but the temptation is always there and sometimes the only way to get past that is to just block them. I’m sorry for what you’re going through, stay strong 💪🏼


MyosotisBleue

On social media, I completely agree. I don’t even have it, but I can imagine that being reminded constantly about someone’s face, posing themselves looking happy, could profoundly hurt; It’s more the blockink by messages that is harsh; And thanks!


GarnetKane

Oh yeah then in that case I do agree; unless it was harassing etc. but otherwise it seems pretty unwarranted


skydiver89

I blocked mine because while we broke up I still made him food, gave him gas money, hung out with him..and come to find out hes trashing my name. I confronted him and of course he denied it but what I was told was something he definitely did say. He eventually admitted it and I blocked him. No more access to me. Like why would you say horrible things about a person when they are helping you out? Gross.


chuffingburgers

My ex and I had a complicated, but mostly amicable breakup. I blocked him on everything so I could move on with my life more easily. A piece of advice: don’t read into their motivations, ESPECIALLY on their social media. You’re just telling yourself stories at that point. There is no relationship left, so worry about you - not them.


lilyaintaG

This is why I haven't blocked my ex even though I know I should


Think_Key_6677

You are a human


habrongraecus

I've been through two major breakups, and, I have to say, blocking has been the moment that started the true road to recovery in both cases. The first time it happened to me was a unilateral decision on the part of an ex. To be frank, I wasn't handling the whole thing well and her decision was the kindest one for both of us. Even though it was shocking, I still remember feeling an immense sense of relief after she sent a quick message telling me that she was doing it then immediately blocked me on everything. At least it was over. Going into a recent breakup, I had a lot of hope that things could be more amicable and that I would hold it together a bit more. Again, to be frank, I didn't. Both of the situations I've been in were quite serious relationships with women I love(d) who, in their own ways, still loved me at the end. Coming out of that is obviously very difficult. About a month ago my more recent ex and I decided together that it would be better for both of us to not be in contact for a long time. In some ways, it's devastating. I think we'd both like to be able to speak, in principle, but there's just no way to do that right now that is emotionally fair. In other ways it is freeing though. At least it's over. Now, even if some days are hard, I feel like I'm actually healing in a consistent way without having to worry about the emotional "speed bumps" of our contacts. I speak to ex one again. We got back in touch a few years after our breakup, and it's clear from the way she talks to me that she has a lot of affection and interest toward me as someone who shared a lot of time with her in an important role. It makes me very happy. It also leaves me feeling optimistic for the current thing. I need to heal alone, and even change and grow in a lot of ways, but I think someday I'll get my friend back.


Fire_0x

I blocked because I can't fathom the thought of seeing her with someone else, let alone seeing it.


Tyrannosaurus-trash

You cut off a diseased limb or organ right? Same goes for narcissistic ex bfs Was either that or I wouldn’t still be here typing this. He had to go one way or another


SweetImprovement5496

Based


SparsePizza117

My ex blocked me because my friend mentioned to her that I was gonna ask her to give me space😂. I blocked her right back anyways because she was being an ass. Constant fighting with that one. Was being very invasive as well, even blocking her didn't keep her away from me as she kept hanging out with my friends when I asked her to leave me alone. I really hate her at this point and I wish she would've listened and just left me tf alone back then. She even forced me out of my own friend group. Worst ex I've ever dealt with, she's evil.


vacantly-visible

Nah I blocked the other person because *they* ended it with *me*, and then a while later they proved they weren't worthy of staying in contact with. I should have done it much earlier. My silence will speak more volumes than anything I could say to them about what they did.


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My ex blocked me on and off a lot after our breakup. It was painful. But we have spoke and I’ve come to realize it’s not really a personal offense to you. It’s a protective measure for the other person, to protect them from looking at your stuff, seeing your old tagged photos, etc. It hurts, but try to keep in mind it’s usually about them healing and not about shutting you out.


Kthatten

I know for me when i go through a breakup i’d rather have that person completely out of my mind whether it was a nice breakup or not, although i can imagine being on the receiving end of it does not feel good


Think_Key_6677

Its very cruel. It makes me wonder if he really had a heart at all


Large_Assistance_204

My ex blocked me in the first place because of my family messing with her but then later even though we didn’t really talk we’d message here and there about work, we both have the same job. Now she blocked me again because I brought up that it wasn’t ok for her to seduce me after our breakup while I was vulnerable. I said no because we weren’t together then she started making out with me and we had sex. She says that never happened and got really mean and said I was making things up to feel better. She blocked me after she said what she had to say which was some really mean things. I just made things worse by txting her on a different number that she blocked after a few heated words. for some reason I just couldn’t let her disregard my feelings and say things that weren’t true. It really hurt that she could be so mean and treat me like I’m not a person with feelings. She called me a moron and she said I need to get over myself. I just wanted to tell her how I felt in a long message and all she focused on was what I thought she did wrong. I said many nice things and even explained how I’ve been soul searching and found out the reasons behind my mistakes. I never manipulated her but for some reason she thinks that was what I was doing. I don’t know why she hates me so much. She is basically treating me the way she wants to treat her ex husband that actually did that stuff. I don’t think she’s purposely treating me this way because I’m innocent, I think she actually thinks I’ve made that stuff up and manipulated her


fmounts

I so identify with someone treating you a certain way based on how a previous partner treated them. My ex got way too angry way too quickly at honest mistakes and refused to hear my explanations - she determined the narrative based on previous experiences and refused to budge regardless of what I said. It was such a helpless feeling and left me completely befuddled, but I wanted to work through it with her. Unfortunately, she had no interest in anything that involved working; the relationship was either going to be easy or not exist.


Large_Assistance_204

That’s how I feel I just wish she would have fought for us


Adventurous-Try-9435

I did this. I did it out of fear of rejection and abandonment so I projected that rejection onto the man I was dating…..and of course then my fear came true ie rejection/abandonment.


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My sister sent me abuse, called me a "Narsassist and blocked me.. I had told her shortly before that I had been suffering suicidal thoughts and was going through an extremely hard time, I had also just apologized for actions that she made up in her head I did. I am sick if her now. I can't stand her.


Dank-Yoda

I've been waiting for years to find an opportunity to share something in regards to this actually. I've had a girlfriend and we've lasted 11months, we were our eachothers first and she was the one who broke up with me, and I was the one who blocked her the same day she done it. I'm not sure if it hurt her though, idk. I haven't spoken to her since the 31st of January back in 2018. Thinking back on it I don't know how I am supposed to feel about that decision of mine.


MyosotisBleue

I guess if you’re the dumper it hurts less but still. Depends on the context. It’s been so long I would say it could be nice to unblock and reach out now. No need to be completely cold or even mad at someone you’ve once loved and whom once loved you. Not to rebound, but cordial. After 11months it could be a nice friendly closure


Dank-Yoda

Hey yeah thats a really good point, man she'd probably hate me though. I cut her out of my life right then and there and haven't spoken not one word to her in 4½ years. I found out after that I guess it isn't normal to just *block* your ex after a breakup just cause of being hurt by it. Closure would be neat I'd say


MyosotisBleue

Did you end up reaching out to her?


Adventurous-Try-9435

Wow, that’s a long time


Positiveinsomniac

My ex went cold, stone cold. From sending a good night 😘 and FaceTiming me like nothing was wrong to dumping me at the end of the call. Sent me a note saying I was spiteful and what I said was hurtful (which is confusing because I didn’t do anything so it was really cryptic to me) and then blocked me. I’m the dumpee who got dumped out of the blue. Only person I can think of… Someone posted him on AWDTSG and then messaged me. I told them he was a good guy but to just make sure he had healed from the relationship (posted about 1.5 weeks post breakup). Wished her well and carried on. He sent me a carepackage last week with my stuff and the cryptic note? However I caught him in some lies when the girl messaged me and so idk. Just confused and tired lol. Him blocking me will help me move on I have problems moving on (anxious attachment)


quantumLoveBunny

What did the cryptic note say?


Positiveinsomniac

It said something like “if you thought I was so terrible and did those horrible things to you, why did you date me for so long.” He never did anything bad to me so I was really confused about it what he meant, we always got along well and didn’t fight


quantumLoveBunny

Some people have no idea about what other peoples perceptions are.. Which is why he's attempting this.. This sounds like blame shifting on his part He is consumed by guilt, he does not want to face his own responsibility in this situation Kind of like saying "oh well, if you like chocolate so much, why don't you eat it all the time?!" They're trying to dissolve responsibility by transferring the blame on to you If they presented themselves as legitimate as you have said and are now attempting to push this on to you, they are having their own conversation with you in their head, which of course, will end up with them trying to justify their actions by shifting the blame on to you It's projection and manipulative If you want to cut him down, go straight for the kill and tell him that his mind games don't track, and he was the person that left you for someone else, and to quit the games because you now see his true colors which he was previously hiding IE. You were not aware he would do this previously, but now you can clearly see that he has no intention of taking responsibility for his immature actions It wouldn't surprise me if this guy was a narcissist


Positiveinsomniac

I fell for the trap and replied to his note via Facebook saying that I didn’t know what he meant but he didn’t do anything “terrible to me.” I guess I should have known the warning signs as he had said his ex went crazy post breakup and he had to block her. He blocked me too. But I am in peace now and moving on


quantumLoveBunny

I think it's kind of telling.. ..If you don't feel that at the time he didnt do anything that made him a terrible person, and he's said that he thinks you think he's terrible, that sounds like a guilty consciousness telling on him.. IE. He did the dirty on you, and projected that you thought he had. So, basically, he did you dirty and feels guilty about it


Positiveinsomniac

Whatever did happen I am now at peace and moved on from. It will always be a mystery what he thought but I’ll never know. Thank you for the kind words


sleepyy-starss

Blocking has helped me move on. You should really see it as a gift.


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sleepyy-starss

Yup. I blocked my ex and it was such a positive for my mental health. The only issue is that their socials are on public so it’s easy to just unblock or make an alt account if I get curious. I wish he would just block me and change his username so I can properly move on.


Erythite2023

Being blocked is an awful feeling. I just had that happen to me, although this person was a friend although I had feelings. Time will heal your feelings. Eventually you’ll forget about this person and they’ll become a memory to you.


Pushkin9

Dude I know it hurts, but that's not a healthy way to think about it. Good luck bro. Don't late the anger take over you.


Successful-Feature58

Tbh, him blocking me give me no hope for the relationship so I can move on easier, I think i prefer it ngl


Lust9897

She accused me of rape after I called her out on having feelings for another man. We were engaged and she had just told me she cheated on her ex with me. I was understandably upset when she told me this but it apparently made me “paranoid” in her eyes. She knew drama was gonna happen when she invited him and her friend (who was visually mentally unstable) over which led to a chain reaction in which I witnessed her friend cutting herself deep and I had to use my sweatshirt to put pressure on it until the EMTs arrived. To which my fiancé had told me she wanted to commit suicide to which I (unlike every other time) had a jerk reaction of “please don’t.” I was literally put through a severely traumatic experience. I cried in her arms for hours until I literally cried myself to sleep one night. She claims she didn’t feel she could talk to me anymore and went to him. When we broke up after claiming,” I can’t trust another man”, he moved in within a week after I left. They knew each other for maybe a month and a half. 1. I’m not good with words, so if I said the wrong thing and incriminated myself for something I didn’t do, that’d be fucked especially since I was going for mental health counseling and now for massage therapy. 2. I was close with her sister, her cousins, her parents (though they’re pieces of work themselves). I lost a second family. Her nephew called me “Uncle *insert name*”. I lost my pets. 3. Fuck her and everything she did. She had 100% control of my finances. I gave literally everything to her. She got all the cats, the house, and the dog as well as a new lover. She doesn’t deserve to know how my life is going.


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Think_Key_6677

It doesnt help. You dont know whats best for the other party. Blocking breaks a heart.


cereal_killer_129

I blocked my ex because he was a severe alcoholic who stole my roommate’s alcohol and when I got home from a 12 hour shift at the hospital, I found he had gotten drunk behind my back. He kept saying I need to accept him as he is and I can’t do that when he hangs around “friends” who cheat on their partners, do hard drugs like meth, cocaine, and heroin, and encourage his drinking. Now I’m traumatized and am going to start going to Al-Anon meetings. As the dumper, sometimes blocking is needed for healing


PandaKingpin285

yeah it hurts a little at first, especially if you was dropped like a sack of potatoes but at least you dont see what their up to or if their seeing anyone else. So yeah you wanna be able to reach out to them but at the same time it spares you more pain by seeing them move on and it makes it easier for you just move on as well. edit- in case anyone was wondering i was with my ex for over 3 years and was gonna move in together cause we had a kid on the way, which sadly didn't happen


Larawknd

My ex made me block him…i tried my best to keep no contact but the feeling was unbearable and he said this is the only way to move on. It hurts just as much to block someone as it is to be blocked.


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I was blocked by my dumper because my behaviour was bordering on harassment. It was so embarrassing looking back. All I was doing was tearing into him. He blocked me on WhatsApp and Facebook but nothing else. Idk if my number is blocked but I’m not checking.


Icecream-CONEure

yeah, I reached out a few times to mine trying to look for closure or be friends but he (the dumper) I think just couldn't deal with it and just blocked me. It sucks for sure.


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So, I have just been dumped by my latest partner. We were so good but he’s very depressed and needs time to himself. I got drunk the other day and messaged him. Apologised and said I love and respect you, I’ll give you your space. I have since. Because I’ve learned. And it sucks. But it’s trial and error. This time we just worked, so I’m going to just go ghost without question. I won’t reach out. He wants space and I respect his boundary.


Icecream-CONEure

I’m happy to hear that you are staying strong despite how hard it can be. 🖤


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Thank you 💕 honestly it’s rough either way, but when someone wants space the only thing you can do is nothing. Make them wonder. Make them guess. They always come back. And it’s not necessarily how you want to but they will reach out eventually. Everyone who has dumped me has eventually reached out, the last time he reached out for ego boost. This time I’m 3 days in from him leaving for his mental health and to put himself first. I’m okay if he never reaches out but I know he will because it’s not my fault. We worked so well. It’s just people can’t help how they feel. Give things time and learn from the time you have alone. I hate being alone but I’m with my family. My friends are amazing. I’m amazing. I know this with or without my person. He asked me to be kind to myself, it’s not my fault, he is just depressed and refuses to bring me down with him. Fine. Then I shall see you soon. ☺️


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I blocked mine because my feelings for her hurt me and can hurt her if I relapse and start annoying her again.


fmounts

I didn't block her anywhere, but I did immediately unfriend my ex on Facebook - why would I want to see her beautiful smiling face beaming back at me every time I got on it? Of course when I had a moment of weakness and reached out to her she immediately pointed out that **I** was the one who immediately returned her belongings and unfriended her. What was I supposed to do, keep her underwear and makeup at my house and see her Facebook updates? No thank you. She dumped me, yet somehow turned me into the bad guy.


SweetImprovement5496

I feel this man. Bitches can’t be trusted and that’s all i’ve learned. If theymre gonna make me into the bad guy no matter how nice i am, then I might as well become bad. Fuck them.


zer0toleranze

After breaking up, my ex blocked me everywhere except on messenger and imessage… but i get it where she was getting at with that… i started to be annoying…. she wasn’t going to do that in the first place. But i mean we talked better in person after the break up and we ended in good terms so she said she would unblock me in a few months… i want to text her but ik i shouldn’t i need to give her space


anonbreakupblogger

It does really suck but they only do it because they’re hurting and they wanna move on


Big_Dingo4919

It certainly doesn’t feel nice, but I don’t think it’s necessarily always cruel to do. Some people have to do it for their own healing.


Fast_Advance_3137

I don’t think the blocking is meant for the ex but more for themselves. But I agree it’s mean, but the person needs to look out for themselves. Just like some people will take the route of getting rid of social media all together to stop themselves from looking for that person, that’s what I did to keep myself out of their lives.


busyB_83

I’m so glad I blocked my abusive ex husband. It was the absolute best thing and recommended by lawyers and the courts.


Effective-Rush4416

I am so prone to being blocked by men I want. I am a lonely male, 19y/o at University. I am not really depressed but I liked being alone but sometimes I feel like I do need intimacy and no one cares. At this point I think the only place I belong to is hell. I don’t believe in many things that other guys my age believe in, things like toxic masculinity, having to be strong all the time (Physically strong as if I have life problems that need to be solved all the time) idk what’s wrong with me. I’m not weak, I’m funny, cute, talkative, and interested in doing so many things.


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Misterflipperzs

My ex blocked me on social media even though she was private and we didn’t follow each other. That was super confusing to me. I know I had pushed the idea of getting back together from time to time and she wasn’t open to it at the time. Then asked time apart so when I reached out a few weeks later for some clarification she said let’s cut all communication and move on. Then blocked everywhere. I’m sure Sucks to think you have a friendship with someone to just have it thrown away like it’s nothing.


MeSoNornie01

I blocked 2 of my exes.. 1 time when I was the dumpee, 1 time when I was the dumper. When I was the dumper I blocked my ex after he cheated on me AGAIN and I knew I could no longer forgive. Lost all faith in him. Also, learned from previous times after he cheated that when he kept on reaching out, I ended up forgiving him and ended up trying for the relationship again. And I had this gut feeling, it would end up in me getting hurt again. I needed to break that pattern and blocked him in every single way. When I was the dumpee, I didn't block at first. I did tell him I respected his decision, but I did not want to remain friends. We stopped talking for a month and he started reaching out telling me he missed me a lot. Calling me sweetheart and baby and all them cute nicknames..talked with me daily for weeks all throughout everyday. Insisted on meeting him again. And when I agreed there was so much passion and love and things felt so right for me. I ended up sleeping with him, only for him to call me by my first name the next morning. His entire behaviour towards me shifted overnight. He did want to remain friends and I told him again I dont want it, but that I wish him well and that I wish for him to find what he is looking for. Another 2 months passed of total silence and he reached out again. Telling me he loves me and that he can't get me out of his head. And the exact same thing happened once again. And again he tells me he really does want to remain friends. Apologised for sleeping with me and that from now on it'll be totally platonic. That he does value me and my friendship and doesn't want to lose me. I again told him I'm not interested in being just his friend. That I want him to be happy and that I hope he will find someone he does want to be with. But that I do not want to witness it. However, this time I blocked him. I cannot resist him because I love him too much. And I know his intentions with me no longer serve me well. And again, I knew that if I left him unblocked it would only be a matter of time for him to reach out again. I needed to break that pattern for my own well-being. I never block out of spite and never as first time solution. I only block when I feel I have no other choice and I need to protect myself and break a pattern.