I’m suddenly reminded of the time a couple days ago when I was on my phone and my dad asked what I was doing and I had no idea how to respond because I was looking at the TV Tropes page of the obscure short-lived 1998 cop drama show Brimstone.
Ay ay ay! Yes, I'm a dad. Furthermore, my phone *is* primarily used to Google the absolute most obscure shit imaginable.
Forgot where I was going with this. Let's try a soft reboot.
Hey, "It's the sort of thing Dad's (sic) do on their phone all the time.", I'm Dad!
Nothing. Fuck this, I'm going out to the garage. I'll love you no matter what.
After watching Succession, I just spent about 20 minutes finding the name of the 80s cop parody "Sledge Hammer!"
It should have taken 2 minutes since Karl (David Rasche) from Succession is the star of Sledge Hammer! but I kept getting distracted.
I’m always afraid that will be the exact time a friend who has never done cocaine nor hired a prostitute will randomly decide to text me asking if I want to do hookers and blow. Totally rational fear.
Having a joint credit card was WAY scarier than her knowing my phone password. My ex was a pretty great bargain hunter, but definitely of the “I got this item we will never use on sale! We saved money!” We never used half the crap she got for the kitchen.
I've made my boyfriend an authorized user on both of my credit cards now to try to help his credit, but that happened through trust. The man always wants to buy the most pointless things for us, but I'm SO GRATEFUL he recognizes his terrible financial decision making and doesn't just do it. He's come so far since we first met.
We joke that I'm his "financial advisor," because he calls me before buying just about anything outside of groceries and gas anymore. I've never asked him to, but it makes him feel more comfortable so I'm more than okay with it. This is the first time in his life he's ever had any sort of savings, going on 25, and I'm so damn proud of him. I certainly couldn't say the same at 25.
I've got literally nothing to hide, but it's almost like that irrational fear when going through airport security of "....what if I accidentally brought a gun?"
That or the stupid shit I Google. Not the NSFW stuff, just the mundane "How high can birds fly and what determines the maximum height?" kind of randomness that pops into my idiot brain.
I'd rather my wife go through every single one-on-one text message I've ever sent than a weeks worth of my dude friends group chat. Simply because we're bigger idiots in greater numbers and the stuff we laugh about is... unbelievably stupid.
It's kind of easy, though (I know you're probably just joking). There's nothing in any of my texts that she could read and be offended by. That's because I take the respect I have for her into consideration. I don't need to say shit about other women, or bad mouth her to anyone if I'm currently annoyed with her, etc. I know I wouldn't like that shit.
Golden rule is still golden.
My wife knows she doesn't want to look at that.
I usually just worry she'll see a text about something she's getting for her birthday from one of my parents.
Nah I get nurvous as hell. That's where I keep my search history and gift log. And OFCOURCE she doesn't give a fuck abkut messages and goes streight for those two things.
I hand my phone to my husband all the time to show him my latest collection of SpongeBob memes.
We went so far as to add each other's fingerprints to each others' phones, makes life easier when one is streaming music and the other wants to change it.
Life is way more easy when you're open and not hiding things! ☺️
Plus I'm not interested in all the car and work talk on his phone, and he doesn't care about my cooking and gaming stuff! Win-win.
Been in many relationships, the longest of which was 7 years. Never once picked up her phone, nor her mine. Cause... why would we? We have our own. Reddit shit. Cringey as always.
Real reasons usually range from - her camera was broken on her old phone, using my Amazon prime account, her messaging my buddies while I'm driving for me, her answering the phone when my mom calls and I'm not in the room, I usually take pictures of her on my own phone and she'll send herself the ones she wants while I'm driving us home. I donno, I have other means of privacy and personal space but my phone is just a tool to me. I use hers too for similar things but don't go digging for the same reason I'll borrow her things around the house but don't go tearing through her drawers doing an investigation when she's not home.
Because sometimes you take pictures with your SO’s phone or want to see messages? How is that weird? I been married a while and we use eachothers phones all the time lol.
Yeah, I’m worried that my girl will see a completely innocuous text and begin grilling me about it, or that an idiot friend will text me a joke about “finding bitches”.
Probably. My wife found some random asshole complaining about his marriage on Reddit and decided it was my alt account for some reason. I don’t have an alt account and there were clear demographic indicators that it wasn’t me.
There is nothing bad on my phone. Doesn’t mean someone else can just take it. Doesn’t matter who it is. It’s not only my own privacy, but the people texting me have the right to privacy too.
It always amazes me how people just assume that the texts people receive are like “hey how are you did you hear OJ died?”
The amount of personal and private information people shared with me via text is substantial. My daughter shares a lot of sensitive problems she’s had. If one of my guy friends confides in me, I’m supposed to give my GF unrestricted access to it?
Some people have strange relationships. Personally with my SO, what’s mine is hers and what’s hers is mine, I trust everything she does with anything of mine because why would you do anything potentially harmful to your SO? A friend or stranger yeah no obviously not but a partner? What a strange way to justify strange behavior..
Exactly. For me it's more like, we go somewhere and I take a bunch of pics. "Can you send me the pics from today?" "Meh you do it" Or we did a joint bank account recently and I needed to do a bunch of crap from my end to prove my ID and confirm email etc. I was gaming at the time and was like "I'll do it tomorrow unless you just wanna do it for me" and handed her the phone.
I don't feel like using someone's phone to find another would really be classified as "going through it"... Not sure why you immediately went to 100 there bud.
Or they're referencing the actual post, which is just "when your girl picks up your phone."
Quietus made the logical leap that "picking up your phone = looking through your phone = the relationship is broken."
DNAisjustneuteredRNA just reined that overreach back in to "no, picking up your phone also includes innocuous things like using your phone to look for her phone. It isn't tantamount to a broken relationship."
way to purposefully change what he was saying
unless youre actually that dumb...he meant partner looking for proof of cheating you idiot isnt that obvious
I disagree. I wanted to use my ex’s phone for just looking something up when I didn’t know where my phone was and he got defensive about it. Found out months later he was cheating on me. I wasn’t looking for anything, I just did what I needed to do and gave it back. I didn’t realize he was defensive because he actually had things to hide… yes I’m an idiot (username checks out, I know)
Yep. And there is a difference between picking up to use and looking. If you’re looking for evidence of something it’s too late. I don’t go looking for things I don’t want to find
That's what we call cheating on each other: eating tasty food without the other. My husband will send me pictures if he's out for work and got something, just to taunt me. 😱🤬😭🤭
I don't like people looking at my phone. No one. I don't do anything like cheating or anything that would make anyone mad but I just want my privacy. My phone is an extension of me in a way. I also had parents who were very much snoops and I have always been on the defensive with my things.
I had 2 ex’s who would go on fishing expeditions anytime my phone was unlocked. Demanding to know why I didn’t tell them about a personal or work issue a friend was having that they read going through my texts. It happened so much that now my heart races in prep for an argument anytime someone touches my phone
My husband and I use each others phone a lot but have never gone through one another phones because we trust each other… like I’ll use it to pull up maps, send a text while he is driving or if mine is on the charger and I have to look something up he will let me use it. Same goes for him with my phone. But as many times as we have left eachother with one another’s phones or given the opportunity, we don’t go through it because we trust each other… it doesn’t have to be ‘never look at my phone and if you do then you don’t trust me’ vs ‘ima go through your phone every night to make sure you’re not cheating on me’ there can be a happy medium.
That’s why I wouldn’t snoop. I respect my partner’s privacy, but sometimes want to use their phone for other purposes. I’m not going to purposely snoop. Tbf if I did see a pic of his asshole I wouldn’t judge tho lol
What on a phone is private in a healthy relationship? There is a difference between some people needing occasional distance and solitude, and requiring privacy for things they don't want their partner to know. One can be just fine with some personality types, the other is something that should probably be worked through.
It is probably far less common in younger people, but I promise there are countless couples that are unreservedly comfortable with each other. After enough time, there are no secrets assuming both people are halfway perceptive.
I don't have secrets I need to keep from my SO, if she asks I will answer anything, otherwise I would not be with her. However, other peoples secrets are not mine to share and by extension, our private conversations are exactly that - private. I don't want my private convos shared, so I return the favor. There are more examples, i.e work secrets.
I have even more fun stuff set up that would make reddit instantly claim I am cheater based on threads I've read like self deleting messages with all my homies, regularly cleaning up my email by deleting stuff I don't need and so on...but its normal for me and can be verified, I did so years before being in a relationship so it is not motivated by hiding something from SO.
Is it more healthy to have two people trust each other that nothing fishy is going on and that private conversations are...private. Or needing to constantly check that your partner isn't up to something? You decide
My whole issue is that all of this debate is a flawed premise.
Don't be serious with someone you think they might want to dig through your phone to discover stuff. They didn't sneak up and ambush you into a committed relationship. There was some personal choice in the matter.
Don't be pretend to be in a serious relationship if you want to keep a bunch of yourself secret.
There can still be polite boundaries... Not everyone is comfy taking a messy shit while their partner is brushing their teeth next to them. That same polite "secrecy" could apply to going incognito for a little self-service on occasion. Expecting to keep your partner in the dark over the fact you occasionally blow out the toilet, or scratch that freaky itch is getting into "unhealthy" territory. At minimum, work might need to be done on the relationship.
I'm not an idiot. This debate is not about fears of corporate espionage or finding blackmail material for your friends (still fucked up anyone would pick someone where that is a concern). All the table pounding and declarations of "**WHAT IS RIGHT!!!**" is a bunch of (mostly guys) who want to keep their freaky porn searches and inappropriate (likely creepy) texts to female coworkers secret from the girlfriends they dont have because they see *females* as adversaries.
> I'm not an idiot. This debate is not about fears of corporate espionage or finding blackmail material for your friends (still fucked up anyone would pick someone where that is a concern). All the table pounding and declarations of "WHAT IS RIGHT!!!" is a bunch of (mostly guys) who want to keep their freaky porn searches and inappropriate (likely creepy) texts to female coworkers secret from the girlfriends they dont have because they see females as adversaries.
Holy moly and mother of assumptions. I don't even work somewhere where that would be concern, the most sensitive data is some names and phone numbers I deal with, I just named one example where it can make sense to keep phone a private device. My porn use is about as vanilla as it gets and is non existant right now, because you know, being in a relationship kind of eliminates the need for it. However anyone can feel free to check out my browser history, I don't use private browsing and guess what, that is okay because that would be me willingly sharing
my stuff.
Blackmail material? The most illegal thing discussed is perhaps scoring some weed. But none of these dream scenarios you brought up even crossed my mind, I was more thinking along the lines of my friend confiding to me during hard times or something along these lines, but actually just about anything. Is it really so far fetched to consider that for some people private conversations are private just because, not because you have something to hide? And I don't slide into dms of random girls, I don't even have social media and messaging apps that regular people use for that nor is it something that sounds fun at all(not the most social person, but okay with it). Women as adversaries??? Women are great. The fuck man? Where is that coming from.
I understand my approach is out of the norm when I compare it to people around me, but your conclusions are something else. I wouldn't know how to navigate iphone and my SO would get lost in my android, not to mention we use completely different apps..so there isn't even any practical reason to just randomly start using each others phones
ironic screen name alert
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also, boundaries are part of a healthy relationship
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respect of those boundaries shows waaaay more trust than sharing passcodes
I just can't seem to get anyone to understand my point. Maybe I suck at writing.
*Wanting* your phone to be a private place that excludes your serious partner points to a flawed relationship. Worrying that your partner will go through your phone points to a flawed relationship in a couple ways.
Why just phones? PCs as well? What about home offices, workshops, etc... Everyone on board with private physical places that your partner isn't allowed? How about that padlocked trunk in the garage? That raises no flags? "Oh, I can't lend you our trimmer. Its in my husband's locked work shed. That is his private place and I'm not to go in there. Don't even have a key"
I'm pretty sure what the attitude on reddit would be if someone talked about how their wife being away a couple hours every other week for her "me time" where she refused to say where she went, what she did, and got mad that they would even dare to ask.
The righteously indignant demand for absolute privacy seems very conditional and inconsistent around here.
I'll copy from another reply:
Always assume anything you tell someone in a committed relationship might be shared with their partner. I'm not saying it should be, i'm saying don't assume it isn't.
The most extreme situation I can come up with was when my best friend was going through a crisis. He unloaded a ton of very personal stuff over text. When it was done, I told my partner (who gave me space while I responded to him) that I was deleting the entire history. I said there was a bunch of private info he had shared, and he wouldn't want anyone else to know.
She understood completely, and never once asked.
If that seems like an unrealistic scenario in anyone else's relationship, they need to work on some shit. Just the fucking act of snooping or being concerned they might be snooping means there are serious problems.
>Always assume anything you tell someone in a committed relationship might be shared with their partner. I'm not saying it should be, i'm saying don't assume it isn't.
and this is why i hate couples...youre an asshole if you do this...have some fucking respct for others
>Always assume anything you tell someone in a committed relationship might be shared with their partner.
No, sorry, I expect my friends and family to be trustworthy and not share things I tell them in confidence. I will not walk on eggshells and censor myself as if their partner will read it. That's messed up.
>When it was done, I told my partner (who gave me space while I responded to him) that I was deleting the entire history. I said there was a bunch of private info he had shared, and he wouldn't want anyone else to know.
That's crazy that your partner reads through your private conversations forcing you to delete things like this. There's no reason for her to look through your messages in a healthy relationship. There's no reason for her to look through them to the extent she'd notice something missing. It's crazy you need permission to delete personal conversations on your personal phone. That's not trust. That's surveillance.
Nice judicious cutting of the point I made...
All you fuckers take this adversarial view towards relationships. I didn't ask permission to delete a private text conversation. I felt weird enough deleting stuff off my phone that I felt compelled to say I was doing it and why. I doubt she would have ever run across it if I had left it.
**I deleted it because it was a ton of very personal info that I didn't want existing forever, period!!!** Who are you wackos who leave a bunch of sensitive information FROM OTHER PEOPLE on your devices???
If you have a concern that your partner wants to dig through your phone for juicy tidbits, you suck at picking partners.
>All you fuckers take this adversarial view towards relationships.
Adversarial is having to watch what you say and expecting others to do the same because your partner reads your private conversations. Love and trust is letting them share what they choose to share and having autonomy to do things on their own phone without disclosures.
>I felt weird enough deleting stuff off my phone that I felt compelled to say I was doing it and why
That's the crazy part. I've never had a reason to feel weird or the need to explain doing something *on my own phone*. There's nothing to feel guilty about since it had absolutely nothing to do with your partner.
>I deleted it because it was a ton of very personal info that I didn't want existing forever, period!!! Who are you wackos who leave a bunch of sensitive information FROM OTHER PEOPLE on your devices???
My device is secure. I don't have other people reading through my personal messages. Why would someone expect something they sent to my device to not be on my device?
>If you have a concern that your partner wants to dig through your phone for juicy tidbits, you suck at picking partners.
You literally told people to expect your partner will find out things people text you. I hate to break it to you, but you described that kind of partner.
> You literally told people to expect your partner will find out things people text you. I hate to break it to you, but you described that kind of partner.
I did not. Read better. I said don't expect info to someone with a serious partner to not go to the partner. I didn't endorse it. I am acknowledging real life, not some clean, absolutist, perfect expectation of reality. I don't gossip personal info of friends to my partner. I also don't say anything to good friends that they absolutely must keep secret from the person they have decided are going to be a part of them forever.
You fuckers have too many secrets.
This whole thing started with you asking what on a phone would need to be private in a healthy relationship. You followed it up by saying requiring privacy for something you don't want your partner to know "should probably be worked through" as if it's inappropriate.
>There is a difference between some people needing occasional distance and solitude, and requiring privacy for things they don't want their partner to know. One can be just fine with some personality types, the other is something that should probably be worked through.
My point is there are many things that are reasonable and healthy to keep from your partner. Speaking candidly to your friends/family for advice and/or venting is one of them. It's good to have a safe and private sounding board. Another is friends/family sharing personal information with you. Phones are about as personal as diaries with the amount of data on them. Would you read your partner's diary?
You are free to share everything you want to share; that's healthy. Expecting complete and unfettered access to every conversation of your partner is unhealthy. Going through those conversations is even worse. That's all I'm saying.
As with every reddit debate, people do their best to invent fringe scenarios to prove a technical "gotcha".
Don't be the person with a bunch of secret conversations you don't want your partner to know about.
Don't hook up with a person who you think is going all Sherlock Holmes through your phone looking for argument ammo.
These are not difficult achievements. It is not freakishly abnormal to have a phone that contains zero info that would cause an issue.
If you can't stop yourself from ranting about your SO so much that you have to be texting people about them, fix yourself or get out.
People in this discussion are assuming partners must be restricted and quarantined from all their secrets. Its a fucked up attitude. It is adversarial in its very assumptions.
I don't believe the pushback is over some narrow, manufactured scenario where privacy is technically a reasonable reflex.
I think it is a bunch of guys who want to keep their weird porn searches hidden, and continue to fire off creepy texts/dms to other women.
> I deleted it because it was a ton of very personal info that I didn't want existing forever, period!!! Who are you wackos who leave a bunch of sensitive information FROM OTHER PEOPLE on your devices???
i have adhd motherfucker i forgot...fucking normies acting like everyones like them
This is literally the same argument the government uses when it wants to take away people right to privacy. “If you have nothing to hide then it shouldn’t matter.”
It’s the same argument people use but then literally never ask to see their mom or sisters or coworkers phone and have no fucking clue what their passcodes are.
Why does dating someone entitle you to additional level of invasion of privacy that you literally ask no other human alive for? What could be the motivation? It’s not “because it’s convenient to share memes”.
It’s a control and lack of trust thing. When a woman asks for my phone password i say “no”. My entire life is on my phone, ss cards, tax returns, personal journals, access to all my money and other passcodes.
I don't get it. Not wanting your partner to snoop through your phone seems like normal behavoir in terms of privacy. There doesn't need to be incriminating shit on my phone for me not to want a SO to go through it.
the question is, do you have a SO that likes to look at your private stuff or she/he just allowed to do it if needed?
i don't have any secret about anything, but I would be annoyed if she start regularly checking my browsing history or online payments.
she can do that whenever she wants to, but I would start asking "why do you feel the need to do it"
I would just rather they not, just like I'm not going to go through their stuff. I'd rather they be mature and talk to me if they feel there is a problem. But there is a whole host of very understandable reasons why not everyone does that.
we have each other's password and pin for every account, even bank accounts.
also when she asks "do you have that photo" I just go "I don't know get my phone and look for it"
So you allow your crazy girlfriend to go crazy?
Bruh even if u r not doing something wrong don't let them invade your privacy and disrespect you, thats some simple shit.
Have some self respect.
Yes, but also, while we both have access to each other's phone for convenience reasons, neither of us invade each other's privacy. She can get into my phone to access some billing email that she needs to, I can access hers to look up something when her phone is closer, but neither of us have any interest in looking into each other's private conversations. I trust her, she trusts me. That's the basis of our entire relationship.
Hits different when she looks left and right for signs of cheating, especially once she's proven wrong she convinced herself she just was clever or lucky enough to find it.
Love doesn't mean you're not allowed privacy. I'm not the type to adamantly refuse access, but I would absolutely give someone the side eye if they're just randomly trying to snoop through my phone.
Because sometimes you love them and haven’t done anything wrong but even though they SAY they love you, they’re actually just looking for any little reason to scream at you or hack your phone.
It’s a REALLY long complicated story but this guy literally almost killed me and made leaving almost impossible. The point is that not everyone’s situation is the same and not everyone’s behavior has the same motivation behind it.
I knew an ex of mine was cheating on me because she suddenly stopped letting me use her laptop, even momentarily or just to share a youtube video, when I was over at her place. Meanwhile, my phone was an open book that she often perused as if hunting for an excuse for something, which I now know was an excuse to justify her cheating.
I’m not at all worried, but it’s funny to know that since my GF is Chinese and I can’t read/speak it, she could be talking and texting about all kinds of craziness and I wouldn’t know.
Why can no one agree on this shit!!! It’s so simple, you’re partner shouldn’t be checking your phone looking for something bad and your phone shouldn’t have anything bad anyway!!!
The absolute worst thing on my phone is just the 5 terabytes of stupid ass questions that I unironically google every day.
"How do Cheerios actually lower your cholesterol?"
"Is it weird to crochet on the subway?"
Suuure lol, but theres no need to pick up the phone when you can just save yourself the pain of hope and assume he’s been cheating on you the entire time you’ve been dating. That’s the way I feel about my bf of almost 6 years (and partially why I’ve decided I won’t marry him anymore). Almost everyone crosses the line at some point and he’s also a male so statistically he’s cheating lol.
If a man is generally nice, doesn’t hit or verbally abuse you, and is willing to contribute 50/50 to your household then why not settle for it? Monogamy is a unicorn.
Actual story from when I was dating my now wife 14 years ago. She used my laptop for something and saw that I was looking at cheesesteaks. No euphemism there (I never know these days) just actual Philly cheesesteak locations near me. If it ever comes up- she laughs at me. Rightfully so.
When driving, my phone connects to the car. I chose a song to start and hand my phone to her, so she can skip songs in the playlist she doesn't want to hear.
I was a bit worried the other day because I had some engagement rings saved in my photos and she was looking through my photos for an old photo of us, almost grabbed the phone out of her hand but figured I’d just leave it.
LoL
My girlfriend knows my unlock pattern so she can use my phone to make calls, like calling her phone if she's looking for it or whatever.
It's kind of pathethetic to keeo your primary phone locked awaybfrom your siflgnificant other UNLESS you literally don't trust them, or you are personally untrustworthy.
I’m suddenly reminded of the time a couple days ago when I was on my phone and my dad asked what I was doing and I had no idea how to respond because I was looking at the TV Tropes page of the obscure short-lived 1998 cop drama show Brimstone.
"Im ordering a footlong dildo to try at the weekend" is probably the least embarrasing response in that situation.
>Im ordering adouble sided footlong dildo
I ordered a 20 sided dildo, so I can stick it up my ass during DnD.
So what happens when you roll and crit fail?
why didnt you say "im looking at the TV Tropes page of the obscure short-lived 1998 cop drama show Brimstone."
It’s the sort of thing Dad’s do on their phone all the time.
Ay ay ay! Yes, I'm a dad. Furthermore, my phone *is* primarily used to Google the absolute most obscure shit imaginable. Forgot where I was going with this. Let's try a soft reboot. Hey, "It's the sort of thing Dad's (sic) do on their phone all the time.", I'm Dad! Nothing. Fuck this, I'm going out to the garage. I'll love you no matter what.
“Reading a website about the civil war” Dad bait.
yeah this is the most understandable thing in the world to a dad lol
Should have distracted him away by saying you were looking at a hardcore armpit fetish site
"Which one?"
After watching Succession, I just spent about 20 minutes finding the name of the 80s cop parody "Sledge Hammer!" It should have taken 2 minutes since Karl (David Rasche) from Succession is the star of Sledge Hammer! but I kept getting distracted.
This happened to me but I was looking at some random baseball players stats from the 1910’s.
I loved that show!
I’m always afraid that will be the exact time a friend who has never done cocaine nor hired a prostitute will randomly decide to text me asking if I want to do hookers and blow. Totally rational fear.
Yes lol. Or that some girl from high school I haven't talked to in 15 years will message out of the blue
This!
Fuck that, she picks mine up and orders shit with my Apple Pay. That’s the scary thing to me!
:) Can I borrow your phone then?
Having a joint credit card was WAY scarier than her knowing my phone password. My ex was a pretty great bargain hunter, but definitely of the “I got this item we will never use on sale! We saved money!” We never used half the crap she got for the kitchen.
I've made my boyfriend an authorized user on both of my credit cards now to try to help his credit, but that happened through trust. The man always wants to buy the most pointless things for us, but I'm SO GRATEFUL he recognizes his terrible financial decision making and doesn't just do it. He's come so far since we first met. We joke that I'm his "financial advisor," because he calls me before buying just about anything outside of groceries and gas anymore. I've never asked him to, but it makes him feel more comfortable so I'm more than okay with it. This is the first time in his life he's ever had any sort of savings, going on 25, and I'm so damn proud of him. I certainly couldn't say the same at 25.
This seems healthy, maybe address it?
Chill. He's half joking and couples share money. Nothing to see here Dr. Phil.
This. It’s called married with kids. Glad you got the joke
I've got literally nothing to hide, but it's almost like that irrational fear when going through airport security of "....what if I accidentally brought a gun?"
Tbh, Im just afraid that she'll find the dumb arguments I get into on Reddit. It's a little embarrassing.
That or the stupid shit I Google. Not the NSFW stuff, just the mundane "How high can birds fly and what determines the maximum height?" kind of randomness that pops into my idiot brain.
if "the gun" was sent by a group chat you have no control over it and the police would understand.
I'd rather my wife go through every single one-on-one text message I've ever sent than a weeks worth of my dude friends group chat. Simply because we're bigger idiots in greater numbers and the stuff we laugh about is... unbelievably stupid.
Just wait until she finds your group chat with the boys
Because of all the homo eroticism, right? Right guys?
Ooo-rahrah Forget the hoo-hah!
Got a buddy called gay by his wife over the boys chat
Its happened once.
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Find a better girlfriend if this happens lmao.
You don't check out hot people with your partner?
(despite my profession) i would consider it disrespectful to my husband to discuss dudes i think are hot with a bunch of my girlfriends
It's cool the worst that'll happen is she'll see off color jokes, homo eroticism, or war hammer 40k content.
It's kind of easy, though (I know you're probably just joking). There's nothing in any of my texts that she could read and be offended by. That's because I take the respect I have for her into consideration. I don't need to say shit about other women, or bad mouth her to anyone if I'm currently annoyed with her, etc. I know I wouldn't like that shit. Golden rule is still golden.
Oh it's fine if she does, she and one of the boys share manwha(?) links to eachother. Nothing we say in the chat can surprise her.
She’s gonna wonder who the big black naked man sitting on the couch is.
Just the image I had in my mind when I mentioned the boys group chat
Glad to know I’m not the only one being tormented by the legend of Barry Wood
[pretty much](https://tenor.com/view/zillow-bowenyang-bowen-yang-snl-gif-20337688.gif)
Jokes on you she’s in it
God forbid you have locker room talk with your boys and she sees it.
Diabolical
We just talk about sci-fi and old movies.
Seriously lol
“Wow you guys are so immature” - my wife.
My wife knows she doesn't want to look at that. I usually just worry she'll see a text about something she's getting for her birthday from one of my parents.
Nah I get nurvous as hell. That's where I keep my search history and gift log. And OFCOURCE she doesn't give a fuck abkut messages and goes streight for those two things.
I hand my phone to my husband all the time to show him my latest collection of SpongeBob memes. We went so far as to add each other's fingerprints to each others' phones, makes life easier when one is streaming music and the other wants to change it. Life is way more easy when you're open and not hiding things! ☺️ Plus I'm not interested in all the car and work talk on his phone, and he doesn't care about my cooking and gaming stuff! Win-win.
This is how I am too, we are both in each others Face ID. It’s nice being able to use another phone while yours is charging or lost or whatever.
When she picks up your phone but all she finds are pictures of her... as memes. 😒
Everyone on this sub is single, I'm convinced.
My wife and I use each other's phones all the time. Even my kids know my pin. There's nothing worth knowing on here they don't already know.
same though she doesn't like using my phone because it's not an iphone.
this Hell, my FIL was scrolling through pics on my phone the other day. I had nothing to worry about.
Been in many relationships, the longest of which was 7 years. Never once picked up her phone, nor her mine. Cause... why would we? We have our own. Reddit shit. Cringey as always.
What if you’ve run out of charge or it’s in a different room.?
Seriously, I have used my bfs phone and he used mine too many times to count. That's weird that you never even picked it up wtf.
Yep exactly this.
Real reasons usually range from - her camera was broken on her old phone, using my Amazon prime account, her messaging my buddies while I'm driving for me, her answering the phone when my mom calls and I'm not in the room, I usually take pictures of her on my own phone and she'll send herself the ones she wants while I'm driving us home. I donno, I have other means of privacy and personal space but my phone is just a tool to me. I use hers too for similar things but don't go digging for the same reason I'll borrow her things around the house but don't go tearing through her drawers doing an investigation when she's not home.
Because sometimes you take pictures with your SO’s phone or want to see messages? How is that weird? I been married a while and we use eachothers phones all the time lol.
Mine will sometimes ask me who just texted her and what did they say if she's in a different room. It happens, no big deal. Why so private?
Yeah, I’m worried that my girl will see a completely innocuous text and begin grilling me about it, or that an idiot friend will text me a joke about “finding bitches”.
Probably. My wife found some random asshole complaining about his marriage on Reddit and decided it was my alt account for some reason. I don’t have an alt account and there were clear demographic indicators that it wasn’t me.
C’mon man, we both know the guy code about including red herrings in your alternate Reddit account in case your wife finds it and thinks it’s you.
There is nothing bad on my phone. Doesn’t mean someone else can just take it. Doesn’t matter who it is. It’s not only my own privacy, but the people texting me have the right to privacy too.
It always amazes me how people just assume that the texts people receive are like “hey how are you did you hear OJ died?” The amount of personal and private information people shared with me via text is substantial. My daughter shares a lot of sensitive problems she’s had. If one of my guy friends confides in me, I’m supposed to give my GF unrestricted access to it?
Some people have strange relationships. Personally with my SO, what’s mine is hers and what’s hers is mine, I trust everything she does with anything of mine because why would you do anything potentially harmful to your SO? A friend or stranger yeah no obviously not but a partner? What a strange way to justify strange behavior..
Imagine having no level of privacy in your relationship
Why the fuck are people checking each other's phones? Y'all weird.
When you get to the point of looking through each other's phones, the relationship is already broken.
Bullshit. My relationship isn't "broken" just because my girl uses my phone to find hers when she looses it in the couch.
Exactly. For me it's more like, we go somewhere and I take a bunch of pics. "Can you send me the pics from today?" "Meh you do it" Or we did a joint bank account recently and I needed to do a bunch of crap from my end to prove my ID and confirm email etc. I was gaming at the time and was like "I'll do it tomorrow unless you just wanna do it for me" and handed her the phone.
I don't feel like using someone's phone to find another would really be classified as "going through it"... Not sure why you immediately went to 100 there bud.
redditers...strawman arguments 24/7....or theyre literally that stupid thats what they actually think he was talking about
Or they're referencing the actual post, which is just "when your girl picks up your phone." Quietus made the logical leap that "picking up your phone = looking through your phone = the relationship is broken." DNAisjustneuteredRNA just reined that overreach back in to "no, picking up your phone also includes innocuous things like using your phone to look for her phone. It isn't tantamount to a broken relationship."
way to purposefully change what he was saying unless youre actually that dumb...he meant partner looking for proof of cheating you idiot isnt that obvious
I disagree. I wanted to use my ex’s phone for just looking something up when I didn’t know where my phone was and he got defensive about it. Found out months later he was cheating on me. I wasn’t looking for anything, I just did what I needed to do and gave it back. I didn’t realize he was defensive because he actually had things to hide… yes I’m an idiot (username checks out, I know)
Yep. And there is a difference between picking up to use and looking. If you’re looking for evidence of something it’s too late. I don’t go looking for things I don’t want to find
OR. Or. It shouldn’t be a big deal.
Phone: fine Food: there will be a Fight
That's what we call cheating on each other: eating tasty food without the other. My husband will send me pictures if he's out for work and got something, just to taunt me. 😱🤬😭🤭
me and my gf often forget our phones around the house and use each other's one when we need it, and then we said "hey xxxx wrote/called you".
I don't like people looking at my phone. No one. I don't do anything like cheating or anything that would make anyone mad but I just want my privacy. My phone is an extension of me in a way. I also had parents who were very much snoops and I have always been on the defensive with my things.
People I chat with have a right to privacy. No one picks up my phone.
I had 2 ex’s who would go on fishing expeditions anytime my phone was unlocked. Demanding to know why I didn’t tell them about a personal or work issue a friend was having that they read going through my texts. It happened so much that now my heart races in prep for an argument anytime someone touches my phone
And then she unveils the conspiracy you set up with her parents for her birthday...
But you picked her phone and its divorce time
This is bait right?
My husband and I use each others phone a lot but have never gone through one another phones because we trust each other… like I’ll use it to pull up maps, send a text while he is driving or if mine is on the charger and I have to look something up he will let me use it. Same goes for him with my phone. But as many times as we have left eachother with one another’s phones or given the opportunity, we don’t go through it because we trust each other… it doesn’t have to be ‘never look at my phone and if you do then you don’t trust me’ vs ‘ima go through your phone every night to make sure you’re not cheating on me’ there can be a happy medium.
Great! Now pick hers up to find out if you have a healthy relationship
I wonder: would she be cool if he did the same to her? 🤔
Privacy regardless. I don't mind, but ask first.
How about we just stay off people's stuff? I don't want her to see my gym motivational femboy pics that keep me going.
Or... respect each other privacy?
I mean... Sometimes you need to use your partner's phone?
sure but dont get mad at me when you go to the pictures and randomly see a picture of my asshole... i was checking something...dont judge
That’s why I wouldn’t snoop. I respect my partner’s privacy, but sometimes want to use their phone for other purposes. I’m not going to purposely snoop. Tbf if I did see a pic of his asshole I wouldn’t judge tho lol
Aren't there multiple beans in each edamame? Or does edamame refer to a single bean? Either way, great name - thought provoking.
What on a phone is private in a healthy relationship? There is a difference between some people needing occasional distance and solitude, and requiring privacy for things they don't want their partner to know. One can be just fine with some personality types, the other is something that should probably be worked through. It is probably far less common in younger people, but I promise there are countless couples that are unreservedly comfortable with each other. After enough time, there are no secrets assuming both people are halfway perceptive.
I don't have secrets I need to keep from my SO, if she asks I will answer anything, otherwise I would not be with her. However, other peoples secrets are not mine to share and by extension, our private conversations are exactly that - private. I don't want my private convos shared, so I return the favor. There are more examples, i.e work secrets. I have even more fun stuff set up that would make reddit instantly claim I am cheater based on threads I've read like self deleting messages with all my homies, regularly cleaning up my email by deleting stuff I don't need and so on...but its normal for me and can be verified, I did so years before being in a relationship so it is not motivated by hiding something from SO. Is it more healthy to have two people trust each other that nothing fishy is going on and that private conversations are...private. Or needing to constantly check that your partner isn't up to something? You decide
My whole issue is that all of this debate is a flawed premise. Don't be serious with someone you think they might want to dig through your phone to discover stuff. They didn't sneak up and ambush you into a committed relationship. There was some personal choice in the matter. Don't be pretend to be in a serious relationship if you want to keep a bunch of yourself secret. There can still be polite boundaries... Not everyone is comfy taking a messy shit while their partner is brushing their teeth next to them. That same polite "secrecy" could apply to going incognito for a little self-service on occasion. Expecting to keep your partner in the dark over the fact you occasionally blow out the toilet, or scratch that freaky itch is getting into "unhealthy" territory. At minimum, work might need to be done on the relationship. I'm not an idiot. This debate is not about fears of corporate espionage or finding blackmail material for your friends (still fucked up anyone would pick someone where that is a concern). All the table pounding and declarations of "**WHAT IS RIGHT!!!**" is a bunch of (mostly guys) who want to keep their freaky porn searches and inappropriate (likely creepy) texts to female coworkers secret from the girlfriends they dont have because they see *females* as adversaries.
> I'm not an idiot. This debate is not about fears of corporate espionage or finding blackmail material for your friends (still fucked up anyone would pick someone where that is a concern). All the table pounding and declarations of "WHAT IS RIGHT!!!" is a bunch of (mostly guys) who want to keep their freaky porn searches and inappropriate (likely creepy) texts to female coworkers secret from the girlfriends they dont have because they see females as adversaries. Holy moly and mother of assumptions. I don't even work somewhere where that would be concern, the most sensitive data is some names and phone numbers I deal with, I just named one example where it can make sense to keep phone a private device. My porn use is about as vanilla as it gets and is non existant right now, because you know, being in a relationship kind of eliminates the need for it. However anyone can feel free to check out my browser history, I don't use private browsing and guess what, that is okay because that would be me willingly sharing my stuff. Blackmail material? The most illegal thing discussed is perhaps scoring some weed. But none of these dream scenarios you brought up even crossed my mind, I was more thinking along the lines of my friend confiding to me during hard times or something along these lines, but actually just about anything. Is it really so far fetched to consider that for some people private conversations are private just because, not because you have something to hide? And I don't slide into dms of random girls, I don't even have social media and messaging apps that regular people use for that nor is it something that sounds fun at all(not the most social person, but okay with it). Women as adversaries??? Women are great. The fuck man? Where is that coming from. I understand my approach is out of the norm when I compare it to people around me, but your conclusions are something else. I wouldn't know how to navigate iphone and my SO would get lost in my android, not to mention we use completely different apps..so there isn't even any practical reason to just randomly start using each others phones
ironic screen name alert !!! also, boundaries are part of a healthy relationship … respect of those boundaries shows waaaay more trust than sharing passcodes
I just can't seem to get anyone to understand my point. Maybe I suck at writing. *Wanting* your phone to be a private place that excludes your serious partner points to a flawed relationship. Worrying that your partner will go through your phone points to a flawed relationship in a couple ways. Why just phones? PCs as well? What about home offices, workshops, etc... Everyone on board with private physical places that your partner isn't allowed? How about that padlocked trunk in the garage? That raises no flags? "Oh, I can't lend you our trimmer. Its in my husband's locked work shed. That is his private place and I'm not to go in there. Don't even have a key" I'm pretty sure what the attitude on reddit would be if someone talked about how their wife being away a couple hours every other week for her "me time" where she refused to say where she went, what she did, and got mad that they would even dare to ask. The righteously indignant demand for absolute privacy seems very conditional and inconsistent around here.
We understood your point just fine the first time, and we are telling you that it's fucking crazy.
You seem to conflate secrecy and privacy.
Ok...??? So is my creepy shed nobody is allowed into private, or secret?
>What on a phone is private in a healthy relationship? Things that people close to you share in confidence.
I'll copy from another reply: Always assume anything you tell someone in a committed relationship might be shared with their partner. I'm not saying it should be, i'm saying don't assume it isn't. The most extreme situation I can come up with was when my best friend was going through a crisis. He unloaded a ton of very personal stuff over text. When it was done, I told my partner (who gave me space while I responded to him) that I was deleting the entire history. I said there was a bunch of private info he had shared, and he wouldn't want anyone else to know. She understood completely, and never once asked. If that seems like an unrealistic scenario in anyone else's relationship, they need to work on some shit. Just the fucking act of snooping or being concerned they might be snooping means there are serious problems.
>Always assume anything you tell someone in a committed relationship might be shared with their partner. I'm not saying it should be, i'm saying don't assume it isn't. and this is why i hate couples...youre an asshole if you do this...have some fucking respct for others
>Always assume anything you tell someone in a committed relationship might be shared with their partner. No, sorry, I expect my friends and family to be trustworthy and not share things I tell them in confidence. I will not walk on eggshells and censor myself as if their partner will read it. That's messed up. >When it was done, I told my partner (who gave me space while I responded to him) that I was deleting the entire history. I said there was a bunch of private info he had shared, and he wouldn't want anyone else to know. That's crazy that your partner reads through your private conversations forcing you to delete things like this. There's no reason for her to look through your messages in a healthy relationship. There's no reason for her to look through them to the extent she'd notice something missing. It's crazy you need permission to delete personal conversations on your personal phone. That's not trust. That's surveillance.
Nice judicious cutting of the point I made... All you fuckers take this adversarial view towards relationships. I didn't ask permission to delete a private text conversation. I felt weird enough deleting stuff off my phone that I felt compelled to say I was doing it and why. I doubt she would have ever run across it if I had left it. **I deleted it because it was a ton of very personal info that I didn't want existing forever, period!!!** Who are you wackos who leave a bunch of sensitive information FROM OTHER PEOPLE on your devices??? If you have a concern that your partner wants to dig through your phone for juicy tidbits, you suck at picking partners.
>All you fuckers take this adversarial view towards relationships. Adversarial is having to watch what you say and expecting others to do the same because your partner reads your private conversations. Love and trust is letting them share what they choose to share and having autonomy to do things on their own phone without disclosures. >I felt weird enough deleting stuff off my phone that I felt compelled to say I was doing it and why That's the crazy part. I've never had a reason to feel weird or the need to explain doing something *on my own phone*. There's nothing to feel guilty about since it had absolutely nothing to do with your partner. >I deleted it because it was a ton of very personal info that I didn't want existing forever, period!!! Who are you wackos who leave a bunch of sensitive information FROM OTHER PEOPLE on your devices??? My device is secure. I don't have other people reading through my personal messages. Why would someone expect something they sent to my device to not be on my device? >If you have a concern that your partner wants to dig through your phone for juicy tidbits, you suck at picking partners. You literally told people to expect your partner will find out things people text you. I hate to break it to you, but you described that kind of partner.
> You literally told people to expect your partner will find out things people text you. I hate to break it to you, but you described that kind of partner. I did not. Read better. I said don't expect info to someone with a serious partner to not go to the partner. I didn't endorse it. I am acknowledging real life, not some clean, absolutist, perfect expectation of reality. I don't gossip personal info of friends to my partner. I also don't say anything to good friends that they absolutely must keep secret from the person they have decided are going to be a part of them forever. You fuckers have too many secrets.
This whole thing started with you asking what on a phone would need to be private in a healthy relationship. You followed it up by saying requiring privacy for something you don't want your partner to know "should probably be worked through" as if it's inappropriate. >There is a difference between some people needing occasional distance and solitude, and requiring privacy for things they don't want their partner to know. One can be just fine with some personality types, the other is something that should probably be worked through. My point is there are many things that are reasonable and healthy to keep from your partner. Speaking candidly to your friends/family for advice and/or venting is one of them. It's good to have a safe and private sounding board. Another is friends/family sharing personal information with you. Phones are about as personal as diaries with the amount of data on them. Would you read your partner's diary? You are free to share everything you want to share; that's healthy. Expecting complete and unfettered access to every conversation of your partner is unhealthy. Going through those conversations is even worse. That's all I'm saying.
As with every reddit debate, people do their best to invent fringe scenarios to prove a technical "gotcha". Don't be the person with a bunch of secret conversations you don't want your partner to know about. Don't hook up with a person who you think is going all Sherlock Holmes through your phone looking for argument ammo. These are not difficult achievements. It is not freakishly abnormal to have a phone that contains zero info that would cause an issue. If you can't stop yourself from ranting about your SO so much that you have to be texting people about them, fix yourself or get out. People in this discussion are assuming partners must be restricted and quarantined from all their secrets. Its a fucked up attitude. It is adversarial in its very assumptions. I don't believe the pushback is over some narrow, manufactured scenario where privacy is technically a reasonable reflex. I think it is a bunch of guys who want to keep their weird porn searches hidden, and continue to fire off creepy texts/dms to other women.
> I deleted it because it was a ton of very personal info that I didn't want existing forever, period!!! Who are you wackos who leave a bunch of sensitive information FROM OTHER PEOPLE on your devices??? i have adhd motherfucker i forgot...fucking normies acting like everyones like them
we even shit with open door or when the other is in the bathroom too, all relationships are different, there's no need to judge and label
That’s why I keep a landline /s
I've got nuthin to hide on my phone.
There’s literally nothing on my phone that I wouldn’t have an issue with my wife seeing.
That was probably a typo, but I'm choosing to believe that you meant exactly what you said.
This is literally the same argument the government uses when it wants to take away people right to privacy. “If you have nothing to hide then it shouldn’t matter.”
It’s the same argument people use but then literally never ask to see their mom or sisters or coworkers phone and have no fucking clue what their passcodes are. Why does dating someone entitle you to additional level of invasion of privacy that you literally ask no other human alive for? What could be the motivation? It’s not “because it’s convenient to share memes”. It’s a control and lack of trust thing. When a woman asks for my phone password i say “no”. My entire life is on my phone, ss cards, tax returns, personal journals, access to all my money and other passcodes.
Except a governing body/person relationship is VASTLY different then a person/person relationship
I don't get it. Not wanting your partner to snoop through your phone seems like normal behavoir in terms of privacy. There doesn't need to be incriminating shit on my phone for me not to want a SO to go through it.
the question is, do you have a SO that likes to look at your private stuff or she/he just allowed to do it if needed? i don't have any secret about anything, but I would be annoyed if she start regularly checking my browsing history or online payments. she can do that whenever she wants to, but I would start asking "why do you feel the need to do it"
I would just rather they not, just like I'm not going to go through their stuff. I'd rather they be mature and talk to me if they feel there is a problem. But there is a whole host of very understandable reasons why not everyone does that.
Do people just not lock their phones lol?
Yea but my wife also knows my code because why shouldn’t she
Yeah exactly. I don’t give a shit.
most of the people in this thread are either sus af or haven't been in a healthy relationship to date lmfao
There are certainly a number of us who don't. My wife does but I know her code and absolutely occasionally have to use it.
Old comment, but do you really not lock your phone? If it gets lost or stolen a stranger could have access to all of your personal information.
I do not... I also don't let that shit out of my sight. Lost or stolen doesn't happen to me.
we have each other's password and pin for every account, even bank accounts. also when she asks "do you have that photo" I just go "I don't know get my phone and look for it"
Best feeling and no group chat with the boys added some peace of mind. Lol.
That’s why you put another password on the group chat
So you allow your crazy girlfriend to go crazy? Bruh even if u r not doing something wrong don't let them invade your privacy and disrespect you, thats some simple shit. Have some self respect.
Yes, but also, while we both have access to each other's phone for convenience reasons, neither of us invade each other's privacy. She can get into my phone to access some billing email that she needs to, I can access hers to look up something when her phone is closer, but neither of us have any interest in looking into each other's private conversations. I trust her, she trusts me. That's the basis of our entire relationship.
Now pick up her phone
Hits different when she looks left and right for signs of cheating, especially once she's proven wrong she convinced herself she just was clever or lucky enough to find it.
As a gay man I have learned that being in a straight relationship means being bound in constant fear.
Yet she still goes through it when you’re asleep
Only time I use my wife's phone is when I've misplaced mine and need to call it.
My girl is the only one who has free rein to go through my phone….
Can’t relate anymore hehe 🥲
I never understand why someone would hide their phone from the ones who loves them.
Do you grab your siblings phone and look through everything? Or your parents?
Love doesn't mean you're not allowed privacy. I'm not the type to adamantly refuse access, but I would absolutely give someone the side eye if they're just randomly trying to snoop through my phone.
Because sometimes you love them and haven’t done anything wrong but even though they SAY they love you, they’re actually just looking for any little reason to scream at you or hack your phone.
Who in the fuck have you been with? Lol.
It’s a REALLY long complicated story but this guy literally almost killed me and made leaving almost impossible. The point is that not everyone’s situation is the same and not everyone’s behavior has the same motivation behind it.
I am very sorry to hear that and I hope that you can continue to heal.
Thank you! I’m doing well. My fiancé is amazing and is allowed to touch my phone. Lol.
Didn't get it.. explain?
guys who are cheating or hiding porn on their phones would freak out if their girl picked up their phone.
Oh. Got it
I knew an ex of mine was cheating on me because she suddenly stopped letting me use her laptop, even momentarily or just to share a youtube video, when I was over at her place. Meanwhile, my phone was an open book that she often perused as if hunting for an excuse for something, which I now know was an excuse to justify her cheating.
I wish
I’m not at all worried, but it’s funny to know that since my GF is Chinese and I can’t read/speak it, she could be talking and texting about all kinds of craziness and I wouldn’t know.
Why can no one agree on this shit!!! It’s so simple, you’re partner shouldn’t be checking your phone looking for something bad and your phone shouldn’t have anything bad anyway!!!
The absolute worst thing on my phone is just the 5 terabytes of stupid ass questions that I unironically google every day. "How do Cheerios actually lower your cholesterol?" "Is it weird to crochet on the subway?"
Or you can just leave my phone the fuck alone and trust me, or leave.
But then you will be too boring and there won't be enough drama in the relationship and you are screwed anyway.
Nobody touches my phone, and I don’t touch anyone else’s phone unless they show me something on it.
Suuure lol, but theres no need to pick up the phone when you can just save yourself the pain of hope and assume he’s been cheating on you the entire time you’ve been dating. That’s the way I feel about my bf of almost 6 years (and partially why I’ve decided I won’t marry him anymore). Almost everyone crosses the line at some point and he’s also a male so statistically he’s cheating lol. If a man is generally nice, doesn’t hit or verbally abuse you, and is willing to contribute 50/50 to your household then why not settle for it? Monogamy is a unicorn.
I have nothing to hide but I have nothing to share, either.
Actual story from when I was dating my now wife 14 years ago. She used my laptop for something and saw that I was looking at cheesesteaks. No euphemism there (I never know these days) just actual Philly cheesesteak locations near me. If it ever comes up- she laughs at me. Rightfully so.
... Are the straights okay??? You don't seem okay.
Hey. I'm not a peice of shit....my porn be wierd.
When driving, my phone connects to the car. I chose a song to start and hand my phone to her, so she can skip songs in the playlist she doesn't want to hear.
My photo gallery is most memes 😂😂There’s not much of anything to hide
I was a bit worried the other day because I had some engagement rings saved in my photos and she was looking through my photos for an old photo of us, almost grabbed the phone out of her hand but figured I’d just leave it.
Mine ends up as "why didn't you share these girls pics with me?" And then she still mad...
Don't normalize this lol
When you and your spouse don't touch each others' phones because you understand and trust each other for basic decency and a right for privacy.
Mhhh feet
I sent him this and he said “you know it honey” 😄
LoL My girlfriend knows my unlock pattern so she can use my phone to make calls, like calling her phone if she's looking for it or whatever. It's kind of pathethetic to keeo your primary phone locked awaybfrom your siflgnificant other UNLESS you literally don't trust them, or you are personally untrustworthy.
When your girl picks up your phone but your burner is still in your pocket.
Walter White who?
sometimes i steal my boyfriends phone so i can send pics of his cats to myself lmao