When I got married my wife's family "took" over our day, until I snapped and just said fuck enough is enough. We're getting married here ( a beautiful park in the city we lived in). Come if you want, don't if you don't want". They came to the ceremony but not the dinner afterwards. That was almost 20 years ago now. You guys should do what you want to do, an fuck the future in laws. But that's my opinion.
Right, I mean it would of been nice had they celebrated the entire day with us but it's done with now. An honestly it was a fuck show of a day, but it's one day. What counts the the rest of the days you're together with that person.
When I got married my wife's family "took" over our day, until I snapped and just said fuck enough is enough. We're getting married here ( a beautiful park in the city we lived in). Come if you want, don't if you don't want". They came to the ceremony but not the dinner afterwards. That was almost 20 years ago now. You guys should do what you want to do, an fuck the future in laws. But that's my opinion.
Wholeheartedly agree. Do your own thing!
Right, I mean it would of been nice had they celebrated the entire day with us but it's done with now. An honestly it was a fuck show of a day, but it's one day. What counts the the rest of the days you're together with that person.
I just feel bad for our moms lol - and his aunt seems to think she IS his mom. I just made another post, which maybe sheds some more light, but he's told me that he hasn't told ANYONE in his family besides his mom about how Di (she's from dad's side) makes him feel. I'm like "Why not tell them?" and he gets so like panicked that they will all turn on him if he betrays Di. I think this woman perhaps planted some seeds of "never tell your dad or other aunt" or whatever. My fiancé has no memories before the age of 12, and I think something happened he can't remember (or refuses to). IDK. But I have now told him, I am not even going to try and pretend like I'm going to the dinner where Di will be. I've told him if he wants to go, that's his prerogative, but I will not be going to that dinner if she is there. If his family asks, he can say it was either I come celebrate with them, or they can pander to Di's feelings, but I refuse to allow her access to my emotional wellbeing. It took my dad 17 years to make me feel like killing myself, and this woman made me feel that way in less than 48hrs. My fiance understands, even if he's not excited about how that might go down. He's worried they'll hate me, but I am standing firm. I said "if they hate me for not wanting to have to be stuck in the same house with the woman who bullied me for 4 days straight, because her feelings are more important, then they can celebrate OUR marriage with her there and me not, as she is clearly the most important one to them". I have no issues telling his family she's a sicko and makes me physically ill even just thinking of being near her.