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Isn’t is ridiculous that collecting Lego as a teen or adult is more acceptable than dolls? Why? Both are creative outlets, originally made for kids but now have sets, dolls specially for adults as well as a vast amount of adults who buy the toys for themselves l adults have replaced the preschool aged kids in toy sales. The only difference between Lego and dolls is misogyny imo.
I recently told someone in a completely different sub the same thing. When someone calls me weird I say thank you. Because I have no desire to be normal. What’s normal? Another word for average. Why would I want to be average instead of doing what I like and what brings me joy? If that’s weird, so be it.
Famous author Erich Kästner ( probably most known in the states because his book „das doppelte Lottchen „ about twin girls being seperated after the parents divorce and each parent took one was made into lots of movies in the USA but he has many books for adults and more kids books as well , the Nazis burned his books ) said this:
Only who grows to be an adult but remains part child is truly human.
Normal is an illusion. What is normal to the spider is chaos to the fly.
Weird is a good thing. If someone shuns you, are they truly people you would want to be friends with anyway? I was bullied, quite severely. Through therapy I learned that the mourning of those friendships was not real- I mourned something fake because truly being friends with people who would treat others like that... I could never. Better no friends than bad friends I say.
Now, this is so much easier to say on the other side with a fortune spent on psychologist, I know. But trust me when I say you will find great people who will like you because of what others deem "weird"
You'll get confidence by being yourself and clearly expressing your needs. It will feel weird at first but practice it and it will get easier.
If a friend said they wanted to look at the toy cars because it made them happy you would be like ok cool. Say you want to look at the dolls.
I'll tell you what my psych told me: self hate and self love are habits. The brain believe what it hears most and it hears nothing more than your own thoughts.
If you keep saying to yourself 'collecting is not childish or weird, I am allowed to enjoy this' every time doubt creeps un, eventually you will believe it too
Now is the best time to start positive affirmations, your brain is still devolping and easier to form. Doing that work of the habit of self love will help you a lot as you become an adult. It is a lot harder to do as an adult - doable but takes more effort, use the fact that your brain is still super adaptable
You're never too old to have fun and enjoy things. And anyone who believes you have to outgrow fun? They're the immature ones.
Grandparents used to collect porcelain dolls, and that was just see as normal. But plastic ones are weird? Make it make sense.
My dad used to collect lava lamps. Then Pez. Neither he ever "used"/did anything with, they just say on his shelf and looked nice. Dolls aren't any different (At least how I collect them, Lol. I don't play, I just like smiling at them.)
OH! And let's not forget the ULTIMATE "Kid toy collection", Beanie Babies!!
Dolls are made to be admired and desired. And teens and adults can admire and desire, just as much as a kid.
If anyone says anything negative, (And you won't get in trouble for it), just reply "I hope you remember how to have fun one day."
Legit, my grandmother's collection of porcelain dolls was what kickstarted me collecting them as a kid. I don't anymore but i had a huge collection until I was a tween and my parents got rid of it alongside my barbies
I am willing to bet there are other people your age you know who have held back or saved their favorite dolls.
I don't have foolproof advice for not being teased because you like dolls as a teen. I guess I will say this. Once you get to college or have work friends after high school you actually form frienfships with people who are more like you, or appreciative of you, or share similar interests. You actually form a truer peer group and lifelong friends. I know at this point this seems like forever from now. Just know that there are other people out there like you and that you will find them.
Doll conventions might be a good place to meet new friends. Maybe save up to attend one. Perhaps there are other social media platforms to help you find friends with similar interests. Just know that in a few years you will probably feel more comfortable admitting it and not care if someone else is not. By continuing to put it out there you will find other people who share your interests.
Yes, doll conventions, and don’t forget doll clubs and groups either. Most of us are always happy to see and welcome young collectors, you are what keeps doll collecting, the conventions, and the clubs alive.
Also, while it’s great to find fellow doll collectors close to your age, please be open to making some older doll friends as well.
Doll collecting spans multiple generations. Many of us were in the same boat you are when we were your age, so you’re sure to find several sympathetic and supportive Dolly big Sisters, Aunts, and Grandmas.🙂
Not to mention quite a few Dolly big Brothers, Uncles, and even Grandpas, as well.😉
I think it's just been so long that I've been confident about liking toys that I just go "hahaha" and give them my best fake, most forced smile to know that I disapprove of their judgement. Give them no ammo, no embarrassment or explaination, nothing that they can grab and continue to be mean. A blank stare and a "ok." also works, signaling you don't care and that you're not looking for any further input.
I started collecting as a teen, and the judgment from other teens is the worst, so once I got over that, nothing has been as hard lol. I think I used to just shrug and be like "I like them", and pretend it didn't bother me. I probably faked it until I made it.
In my imagination, I like to think one day I'll be like "why?" And pretend I don't understand why they're saying that's weird, and I'll keep pushing until they get to the root of why (usually they think it's childish), and basically make them talk themselves through the irrational line of thought. Just him them with the "why" and the "and?..." Until they realize their weirdness is unfounded.
Tbh I don't really have any advice, but at freshly 18, armed with my birthday money, I luckily found the Monster High ss1 series on clearance for $20 each at my Kmart, which I bought the 4 I didn't have yet before thinking about how the only bag I had on me was my fully packed schoolbag...
To make matters worse, I was also headed to EB Games to buy a... Somewhat large Kirby plush. And between trying to shove the seemingly massive boxes in the paper bag I bought at EB, the girls at the register asked about the dolls! They recognised it was monster high and asked if they had any new ones, which they actually did, the monster ball ones! And then I struggled with an almost ripping bag as I took the bus home.
So, uh, yeah! These cool looking people who were probs only a few years older than me also liked monster high dolls! It made me feel less weird about looking in the kids section as a (now) adult (to be fair, that's also where they keep the gimmick paint(glow in the dark, fabric, etc)), which I'm really only uncomfortable when there's some kids or whatever around and I'm loitering while trying to decide which doll to get, cus my friends also do dumb shit in the kids section (STOP BOUNCING THE BALLS-) And I'd say it's a lot better to just be open about the stuff you like rather than stepping on eggshells. Even if they think it's weird, if they can't bite their tongue for your friendship, then you shouldn't have to hide your interests for them either.
Also plenty of people collect shit, childish or otherwise. My dad collects video games he doesn't play and model and diecast cars, my younger brother still occasionally buys WWE figures (which I find cute cus he's been getting them since he was like, 6, even if he has to get them online now) and while my mum and older brother don't collect a specific 'thing' like the rest of us, I think having three different limited edition walking dead posters in the hallway, and buying anime DVDs when you already buy the subscription services counts :). People like what they like, and that's alright. (Also my goddamn room has been painted pink for like 9 years, you can pry my Draculauras and Kirbys from my dead hands. Pink is life.)
As an adult that bought 3 dolls for herself today, along with a bunch of other school supplies for where I work, i had the worker at the cash register think it was for my kids (i have none). When I pointed out that “naaa this is all for me and work” she looked at the dolls and was like “cool”.
Having the confidence to just buy and not care what others think takes time to build. And it helps a lot with having supportive people in your life. My friends support me, and even if they think its “weird” they will never bash on my interests because they are good people. I keep people in my life that care about me.
If anyone has negative comments about it, i shrug it off cause “oh no! I have a hobby that interests me and keeps my imagination and creativity running without harming anyone else! How terrible!(/s here)” i enjoy looking at my dolls and dressing them up and displaying them in my private office as much as I enjoy finding pieces of art and one of a kind pieces to display in my home.
Collecting things that brings you joy should be something everyone is allowed to do. I’m 30 and just started collecting this year. I felt that it wasn’t for me and I was too old. But something clicked, and I asked why not? I’m not hurting anyone. It’s a wholesome hobby. And I don’t need to justify that to anyone.
People are always going to have something to say about any given topic. Don’t worry about what they feel about it. I never stopped window shopping dolls, adults are in the toy isles a ton, you’re okay to browse! I hope you end up grabbing yourself one too 🥰
Look into the BJD hobby and see what adults spend on well crafted dolls
Not just that but it could in the future go towards a collage fund or something if the dolls are kept in good condition people go nuts for nostalgia
But yeah there is nothing wrong or “to old” about [doll collecting](https://www.agirlforalltime.com/blogs/francess-blog/a-beginners-guide-to-doll-collecting-history-types-of-collectors-and-tips-to-get-started)
I stopped collecting as a teenager because family said I'm too old to still like dolls.
I really regret it! All the early 2000s dolls I would have bought back then cost a fortune now 😭
I started collecting again in my 30's because I don't care if people think Im weird anymore. My family still thinks it's weird so I just don't talk about dolls with them.
You don't have to explicitly go out of your way to tell anyone anything. Just do what you want to do. You can explain yourself if directly asked about it, but you can also just... Buy yourself your dolls. It's only a big deal if you make it one. Just breathe in, breathe out, and if someone gets snippy or rude with you about it then keep your answers short (one to three words per sentence), they don't want a long explanation anyway.
Lots of kind and helpful advice here.
I just wanted to add in, I’m late 30s now and have more dolls than I’ve ever had.
I did go through a phase same as you when I was younger, I was embarrassed and wanted to be cool and fit in, and gave away my dolls and secretly admired them. I never ended up fitting in anyway lol and hated that I gave my precious dolls away, especially my Novi Stars they’re so freaking expensive now.
You should do whatever makes you happy, and if people love you they’ll never judge you.
Just think of how yourself, and how you’d support someone else or just not mind it at all if it was a hobby they loved and enjoyed.
If it makes you nervous, take it slow and remember to keep yourself and your feelings first. Wishing you luck!
You’re welcome ☺️
Also wanted to add in, if you’re still nervous I’d suggest just sharing your hobby with close friends and family you trust, not everyone has to know. When you feel more confident and don’t care, you can slowly let it out or be not worried about keeping it from others. It’s not the best advice, but I sort of did it when I slowly started collecting again at 21. As I got older I just stopped caring lol, comes with time m, and your comfort level with your hobbies and your self confidence as a person
Just like any other hobby, there are going to be people who don't understand because THEY don't feel passion about it -- but if they love you, they should respect your passion, maybe ask a few questions, and then just continue loving you. If they act weird about it, that's a them problem, not a you problem. If someone insists Lego is an acceptable hobby for an adult, but dolls are not, that's an assumption they have to examine within themselves. Lego brings some people joy, and dolls bring other people joy (like you!).
If you're worried your parent might take your dolls from you and donate them, or your sibling might play with them and ruin them, or your friends are the type of people to shun you, then it makes total sense to want to keep your collection hidden. But if you're worried about questions that are hard to answer, or weird comments, the best thing you can do is just say "because I like them" and move on without justifying. There's nothing to justify! Dolls make you happy, so you collect them.
I hope you can find people to share your passion with.
Isn’t it funny how Lego is more socially acceptable… I don’t know but it feels like misogyny to me.
Try and find times to shop on your own. I am pretty new to doll collecting but shopping and killing time at malls? Long time addict. Go on your own, get an iced coffee or whatever, take a book, and sneak the dolls home?
When I was a teenager I dressed like a pirate and had a purple Mohawk and still collected dolls, and anyone who had something to say about any of it got told to fuck right off.
I know it can be difficult as a teen to just smile, enjoy what you enjoy, and let other people be dicks if that’s their thing. However, that’s the answer, as a mid 40s person with a doll collection.
I protect and value my own harmless joys and people who don’t want to let me be happy, who don’t value my joy, aren’t my friends.
The best advice I have is to be unapologetically joyful. Good people will love that for you, if it they don’t get it. Meanwhile, make sure that you are defending and appreciating what brings your friends joy, even if it isn’t your thing. Bands you don’t like? Listen and try to see what your friend likes about it, be gentle in expressing when you don’t get it. Let your people enjoy what they enjoy and expect the same respect in return.
Anyone who is going to be mean to you about a harmless hobby doesn’t have an opinion worth respecting enough to get hurt by. (Also easier said than felt, I’m sorry. But I promise that it’s more their problem than yours.)
I am over 30 and I collect dolls. My partners can deal with it and my friends don’t care. Just be you and if you need to hide it do it in your off time or eBay :)
I stopped playing with dolls when I waa 15, but I'm 21 now and wanna get dolls again there's nothing wrong with it at all. Anyone who judges u is projecting their insecurity onto you, any normal healthy person won't care because they are confident in themselves.
In my case, I did come up with a reason that is actually tru and I think it might help others perception of the hobby(even tho this is a completely normal hobby that requires no justifications than you just like it). I've never got to use it, cuz the people I interact with usually accept my hobby with little questions. BUT i still want to share.
The main reason I state is that I'm an artist and I love visual stuff, and collecting dolls is like collecting miniature art sculpture that are also interactive. I also have an interest in fashion, so by extension an interest in dolls makes a lot of sense, they can help give you ideas for clothes and styling or even practice how to make clothes.
That's the more geniuene in depth explanation one can give. Or you could be firey and confrontational and say is just a collecting hobby just as normal as collecting stamps or coins, and there's nothing weird abt it and call them rude in their face :))) only do this if you are sure is safe.
That's all. Hope this perspective helps.
It takes time. You are at an age right now that other's opinions matter to you, and THATS OK. We ALL have gone through it. It is a NORMAL stage of development, and I promise you, if you keep working at it, it will get better.
Here is some advice:
* Don't let anyone stop you from enjoying what you like. Don't have regrets because of others. It is not worth it. You only have ONE life. Live it. Buy those dolls. Collecting dolls is a very acceptable hobby, btw!!!
* Surround yourself with like minded people. Trust me, there are plenty. Find an online local doll group!!
Feeling accepted with do wonders for your confidence.
* Give yourself grace. You are right, it is not like you can flip a switch and no longer care. It will come with time and practice. Also that "be you" part... finding out who you are takes time AND it changes over time and you need to find you again and again. And that's life;)
* Every time you think you need to hide something, think of what THAT person is hiding or white-lying about ;) trust me, EVERYONE around you is doing it to an extend ;)
* Lastly, trust me... you are 110% NOT TOO OLD to like dolls ;)
I would say to just share it with the people closest to you. If they ask you, "Why?" Just say, "It makes me happy!"
I don't have any advice about school peers. I was heavily bullied throughout school until I quit and got my GED. That helped me not to care what people thought of me as an adult. If people judge you, then it just shows how insecure they are about themselves. You have to love yourself more than you care about the opinions of others. Easier said than done, but it just takes practice.
I wish you luck on your doll journey! It really is fulfilling and rewarding! 🖤
Back in the 2000s I used my graduation gift money to buy my first BJD, my friends refused to enter my room after I bought it.
But they didn't flinch with my anime figures and American Girl dolls, so what gives??
Those friends eventually left my life, but I've still kept collecting. They don't hurt anyone and they make me happy. I can dress them as I please and take photos at the park and not give a dang what strangers walking by might think.
I think growing up is pretty neat. I really love not caring. ♥
Tell your friends where you're going next time, you never know, maybe one of them comes with you and falls in love with Draculaura or a cute plush!
And if they have anything negative to say just respond with "Well, I'm gunna die eventually sooo....No regrets!!" and then skip to the checkout line!!
If I’m interested in something that isn’t “normal” to most people, I remind myself of how many people grow old and say they wish they had done xyz but didn’t have the guts to when they were younger. Do what makes you happy. Don’t look back when you’re older and wish you’d done something because other people didn’t like it or it wasn’t on trend. People will say things about you your entire life that may or may not be true. You might as well embrace who you are and not give the meanness back to them.
That said, if you’re in school and worried about what others will say, just don’t tell them or show anyone. You don’t have to show your classmates your collection or let them know about it. If they’re your friends you want to have over, perhaps test the waters of how they’ll feel and proceed from there, choosing to let them know or not.
All these answers are much more mature than my go to response, which is “at least I’m not snorting coke,” (I’m in college, coke is much more prominent than I would have ever guessed). But seriously, if people can’t get behind having unique hobbies, they’re boring. As long as you aren’t overspending, doll collecting hurts no one.
It’s my go-to reaction, especially to my mom. She’s really supportive of my American Girl hobby, but also gets a little concerned sometimes. I have 50. They’re bigger than fashion dolls so much more difficult to display and store.
I'm 41 and I give you permission to look at they toys. If I could bottle up my lack of Fs I would and give it to you. I'm married and when we are at the store we joke about the forbidden aisles. We make jokes, but she also supports me. You don't know who will support you if you don't talk to them. And it may take time, but they will see how happy you are being able to show this part of you and not have to hide, the important people will come around. My family sends me photos from the toy aisle to ask if I need this doll or that one cause they know what I collect and how happy it makes me. You don't need to tell everyone at school, but the important people to you are a good place to start. The hardest part is telling them. If they make fun of you it will hurt, but then they aren't your friend and you should drop them rather than waste time on someone who won't have your back.
There's no such thing as too old for dolls. Adults are currently the largest demographic for toy shopping (we beat out preschoolers for the first time recently). So you're actually just more mature than other teenagers if you're embracing doll collecting. It sure beats wasting time picking on someone over a hobby they enjoy! You can tell anyone who thinks you're weird about your cool older doll collecting friends online. Also, classmates are temporary. After a couple of years, you'll never have to talk to them again if you don't want to.
I have a much younger sister(18 yrs) & because I grew up with only a couple of Barbie’s, I started buying her ALL the Barbies.
I would go to visit and hang out with her and play with her dolls, but soon discovered she wasn’t that interested in them, so I started buying them for myself.
I have about 50 collectors boxed Barbies & an equal number of cheaper dolls I bought for customising.
Had a Bratz customising faze & now in my 50’s it’s Blythe & Monster High with a bit of handmade cloth dolls in there.
It’s a skill I am perfecting & it can become a money making side hustle. People spend a lot on their dolls.
You do you.
If people ask, say there is a whole community of people who collect dolls, just like LEGO, or vintage toys, baseball & Pokemon cards, etc.
And tell your parents/other adults : at least I’m spending my money on dolls and not booze and drugs!
Shopping companion: "Why are you heading to the toy aisle?"
You: "I'm going to look at the collectibles. See if there are any I need for my collection"
I don’t really have any advice.. you / they just get used to it. I never stopped collecting / having dolls so pretty much everyone in my family knows. I remember when I was around 10/11 getting comments about it from family and even getting made fun of in school. But I guess overtime my family has just gotten used to it and is supportive. There are lots of ppl who have / collect dolls. It’s not that weird anymore. I think past a year - 2 they’ll get over it and probably not care.
Normal is so overrated. I’m 59 and collect all the Barbies I wanted when I was little. My grandmother collected baby dolls, just average baby dolls, everyone in the family bought them for her and nobody said anything. You will find your tribe.
I've been there, eventually I let go of my "fear" and I no longer care about what ppl think but I'll be real w u, it only happened after I became an adult
Start with people closer to you. Start with a friend, or a parent. Or start with someone who is just an acquaintance.
I like dolls, I'm thinking about maybe taking up collecting a few.
That was an example of things to say, I'm a confident adult collector. Below is most of my dolls. But not all.
For me, I was weird, even when trying to fit in what society wanted me to be, I always went in a bit sideways. My mom is kinda like, well she also likes taxidermied animals and skeletons and bugs and snakes, Dolls are just fine.
My husband is like, eh. It's not the most expensive hobby ever.
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Isn’t is ridiculous that collecting Lego as a teen or adult is more acceptable than dolls? Why? Both are creative outlets, originally made for kids but now have sets, dolls specially for adults as well as a vast amount of adults who buy the toys for themselves l adults have replaced the preschool aged kids in toy sales. The only difference between Lego and dolls is misogyny imo. I recently told someone in a completely different sub the same thing. When someone calls me weird I say thank you. Because I have no desire to be normal. What’s normal? Another word for average. Why would I want to be average instead of doing what I like and what brings me joy? If that’s weird, so be it. Famous author Erich Kästner ( probably most known in the states because his book „das doppelte Lottchen „ about twin girls being seperated after the parents divorce and each parent took one was made into lots of movies in the USA but he has many books for adults and more kids books as well , the Nazis burned his books ) said this: Only who grows to be an adult but remains part child is truly human.
Yeah, I have no idea why Lego is seen as so adult, but your explanation makes sense. Girls are forced to grow up too fast. Thanks for the advice!!
Normal is an illusion. What is normal to the spider is chaos to the fly. Weird is a good thing. If someone shuns you, are they truly people you would want to be friends with anyway? I was bullied, quite severely. Through therapy I learned that the mourning of those friendships was not real- I mourned something fake because truly being friends with people who would treat others like that... I could never. Better no friends than bad friends I say. Now, this is so much easier to say on the other side with a fortune spent on psychologist, I know. But trust me when I say you will find great people who will like you because of what others deem "weird"
You’re so right, I just lack confidence
You'll get confidence by being yourself and clearly expressing your needs. It will feel weird at first but practice it and it will get easier. If a friend said they wanted to look at the toy cars because it made them happy you would be like ok cool. Say you want to look at the dolls.
I'll tell you what my psych told me: self hate and self love are habits. The brain believe what it hears most and it hears nothing more than your own thoughts. If you keep saying to yourself 'collecting is not childish or weird, I am allowed to enjoy this' every time doubt creeps un, eventually you will believe it too Now is the best time to start positive affirmations, your brain is still devolping and easier to form. Doing that work of the habit of self love will help you a lot as you become an adult. It is a lot harder to do as an adult - doable but takes more effort, use the fact that your brain is still super adaptable
I love this!!!!
Thank you! My psych was the bomb, so many insights and tough truths, brilliant woman
You're never too old to have fun and enjoy things. And anyone who believes you have to outgrow fun? They're the immature ones. Grandparents used to collect porcelain dolls, and that was just see as normal. But plastic ones are weird? Make it make sense. My dad used to collect lava lamps. Then Pez. Neither he ever "used"/did anything with, they just say on his shelf and looked nice. Dolls aren't any different (At least how I collect them, Lol. I don't play, I just like smiling at them.) OH! And let's not forget the ULTIMATE "Kid toy collection", Beanie Babies!! Dolls are made to be admired and desired. And teens and adults can admire and desire, just as much as a kid. If anyone says anything negative, (And you won't get in trouble for it), just reply "I hope you remember how to have fun one day."
Legit, my grandmother's collection of porcelain dolls was what kickstarted me collecting them as a kid. I don't anymore but i had a huge collection until I was a tween and my parents got rid of it alongside my barbies
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I am willing to bet there are other people your age you know who have held back or saved their favorite dolls. I don't have foolproof advice for not being teased because you like dolls as a teen. I guess I will say this. Once you get to college or have work friends after high school you actually form frienfships with people who are more like you, or appreciative of you, or share similar interests. You actually form a truer peer group and lifelong friends. I know at this point this seems like forever from now. Just know that there are other people out there like you and that you will find them. Doll conventions might be a good place to meet new friends. Maybe save up to attend one. Perhaps there are other social media platforms to help you find friends with similar interests. Just know that in a few years you will probably feel more comfortable admitting it and not care if someone else is not. By continuing to put it out there you will find other people who share your interests.
Yes, doll conventions, and don’t forget doll clubs and groups either. Most of us are always happy to see and welcome young collectors, you are what keeps doll collecting, the conventions, and the clubs alive. Also, while it’s great to find fellow doll collectors close to your age, please be open to making some older doll friends as well. Doll collecting spans multiple generations. Many of us were in the same boat you are when we were your age, so you’re sure to find several sympathetic and supportive Dolly big Sisters, Aunts, and Grandmas.🙂 Not to mention quite a few Dolly big Brothers, Uncles, and even Grandpas, as well.😉
DOLL CONVENTIONS?!? Oh I’m excited!
Adults design and create these dolls. They're toys AND they're art!
So true!
I think it's just been so long that I've been confident about liking toys that I just go "hahaha" and give them my best fake, most forced smile to know that I disapprove of their judgement. Give them no ammo, no embarrassment or explaination, nothing that they can grab and continue to be mean. A blank stare and a "ok." also works, signaling you don't care and that you're not looking for any further input. I started collecting as a teen, and the judgment from other teens is the worst, so once I got over that, nothing has been as hard lol. I think I used to just shrug and be like "I like them", and pretend it didn't bother me. I probably faked it until I made it. In my imagination, I like to think one day I'll be like "why?" And pretend I don't understand why they're saying that's weird, and I'll keep pushing until they get to the root of why (usually they think it's childish), and basically make them talk themselves through the irrational line of thought. Just him them with the "why" and the "and?..." Until they realize their weirdness is unfounded.
Thank you sosososo much!
Tbh I don't really have any advice, but at freshly 18, armed with my birthday money, I luckily found the Monster High ss1 series on clearance for $20 each at my Kmart, which I bought the 4 I didn't have yet before thinking about how the only bag I had on me was my fully packed schoolbag... To make matters worse, I was also headed to EB Games to buy a... Somewhat large Kirby plush. And between trying to shove the seemingly massive boxes in the paper bag I bought at EB, the girls at the register asked about the dolls! They recognised it was monster high and asked if they had any new ones, which they actually did, the monster ball ones! And then I struggled with an almost ripping bag as I took the bus home. So, uh, yeah! These cool looking people who were probs only a few years older than me also liked monster high dolls! It made me feel less weird about looking in the kids section as a (now) adult (to be fair, that's also where they keep the gimmick paint(glow in the dark, fabric, etc)), which I'm really only uncomfortable when there's some kids or whatever around and I'm loitering while trying to decide which doll to get, cus my friends also do dumb shit in the kids section (STOP BOUNCING THE BALLS-) And I'd say it's a lot better to just be open about the stuff you like rather than stepping on eggshells. Even if they think it's weird, if they can't bite their tongue for your friendship, then you shouldn't have to hide your interests for them either. Also plenty of people collect shit, childish or otherwise. My dad collects video games he doesn't play and model and diecast cars, my younger brother still occasionally buys WWE figures (which I find cute cus he's been getting them since he was like, 6, even if he has to get them online now) and while my mum and older brother don't collect a specific 'thing' like the rest of us, I think having three different limited edition walking dead posters in the hallway, and buying anime DVDs when you already buy the subscription services counts :). People like what they like, and that's alright. (Also my goddamn room has been painted pink for like 9 years, you can pry my Draculauras and Kirbys from my dead hands. Pink is life.)
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As an adult that bought 3 dolls for herself today, along with a bunch of other school supplies for where I work, i had the worker at the cash register think it was for my kids (i have none). When I pointed out that “naaa this is all for me and work” she looked at the dolls and was like “cool”. Having the confidence to just buy and not care what others think takes time to build. And it helps a lot with having supportive people in your life. My friends support me, and even if they think its “weird” they will never bash on my interests because they are good people. I keep people in my life that care about me. If anyone has negative comments about it, i shrug it off cause “oh no! I have a hobby that interests me and keeps my imagination and creativity running without harming anyone else! How terrible!(/s here)” i enjoy looking at my dolls and dressing them up and displaying them in my private office as much as I enjoy finding pieces of art and one of a kind pieces to display in my home.
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Collecting things that brings you joy should be something everyone is allowed to do. I’m 30 and just started collecting this year. I felt that it wasn’t for me and I was too old. But something clicked, and I asked why not? I’m not hurting anyone. It’s a wholesome hobby. And I don’t need to justify that to anyone. People are always going to have something to say about any given topic. Don’t worry about what they feel about it. I never stopped window shopping dolls, adults are in the toy isles a ton, you’re okay to browse! I hope you end up grabbing yourself one too 🥰
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Look into the BJD hobby and see what adults spend on well crafted dolls Not just that but it could in the future go towards a collage fund or something if the dolls are kept in good condition people go nuts for nostalgia But yeah there is nothing wrong or “to old” about [doll collecting](https://www.agirlforalltime.com/blogs/francess-blog/a-beginners-guide-to-doll-collecting-history-types-of-collectors-and-tips-to-get-started)
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I stopped collecting as a teenager because family said I'm too old to still like dolls. I really regret it! All the early 2000s dolls I would have bought back then cost a fortune now 😭 I started collecting again in my 30's because I don't care if people think Im weird anymore. My family still thinks it's weird so I just don't talk about dolls with them.
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You don't have to explicitly go out of your way to tell anyone anything. Just do what you want to do. You can explain yourself if directly asked about it, but you can also just... Buy yourself your dolls. It's only a big deal if you make it one. Just breathe in, breathe out, and if someone gets snippy or rude with you about it then keep your answers short (one to three words per sentence), they don't want a long explanation anyway.
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Lots of kind and helpful advice here. I just wanted to add in, I’m late 30s now and have more dolls than I’ve ever had. I did go through a phase same as you when I was younger, I was embarrassed and wanted to be cool and fit in, and gave away my dolls and secretly admired them. I never ended up fitting in anyway lol and hated that I gave my precious dolls away, especially my Novi Stars they’re so freaking expensive now. You should do whatever makes you happy, and if people love you they’ll never judge you. Just think of how yourself, and how you’d support someone else or just not mind it at all if it was a hobby they loved and enjoyed. If it makes you nervous, take it slow and remember to keep yourself and your feelings first. Wishing you luck!
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You’re welcome ☺️ Also wanted to add in, if you’re still nervous I’d suggest just sharing your hobby with close friends and family you trust, not everyone has to know. When you feel more confident and don’t care, you can slowly let it out or be not worried about keeping it from others. It’s not the best advice, but I sort of did it when I slowly started collecting again at 21. As I got older I just stopped caring lol, comes with time m, and your comfort level with your hobbies and your self confidence as a person
Just like any other hobby, there are going to be people who don't understand because THEY don't feel passion about it -- but if they love you, they should respect your passion, maybe ask a few questions, and then just continue loving you. If they act weird about it, that's a them problem, not a you problem. If someone insists Lego is an acceptable hobby for an adult, but dolls are not, that's an assumption they have to examine within themselves. Lego brings some people joy, and dolls bring other people joy (like you!). If you're worried your parent might take your dolls from you and donate them, or your sibling might play with them and ruin them, or your friends are the type of people to shun you, then it makes total sense to want to keep your collection hidden. But if you're worried about questions that are hard to answer, or weird comments, the best thing you can do is just say "because I like them" and move on without justifying. There's nothing to justify! Dolls make you happy, so you collect them. I hope you can find people to share your passion with.
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Isn’t it funny how Lego is more socially acceptable… I don’t know but it feels like misogyny to me. Try and find times to shop on your own. I am pretty new to doll collecting but shopping and killing time at malls? Long time addict. Go on your own, get an iced coffee or whatever, take a book, and sneak the dolls home?
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When I was a teenager I dressed like a pirate and had a purple Mohawk and still collected dolls, and anyone who had something to say about any of it got told to fuck right off.
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I know it can be difficult as a teen to just smile, enjoy what you enjoy, and let other people be dicks if that’s their thing. However, that’s the answer, as a mid 40s person with a doll collection. I protect and value my own harmless joys and people who don’t want to let me be happy, who don’t value my joy, aren’t my friends. The best advice I have is to be unapologetically joyful. Good people will love that for you, if it they don’t get it. Meanwhile, make sure that you are defending and appreciating what brings your friends joy, even if it isn’t your thing. Bands you don’t like? Listen and try to see what your friend likes about it, be gentle in expressing when you don’t get it. Let your people enjoy what they enjoy and expect the same respect in return. Anyone who is going to be mean to you about a harmless hobby doesn’t have an opinion worth respecting enough to get hurt by. (Also easier said than felt, I’m sorry. But I promise that it’s more their problem than yours.)
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I am over 30 and I collect dolls. My partners can deal with it and my friends don’t care. Just be you and if you need to hide it do it in your off time or eBay :)
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I stopped playing with dolls when I waa 15, but I'm 21 now and wanna get dolls again there's nothing wrong with it at all. Anyone who judges u is projecting their insecurity onto you, any normal healthy person won't care because they are confident in themselves.
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In my case, I did come up with a reason that is actually tru and I think it might help others perception of the hobby(even tho this is a completely normal hobby that requires no justifications than you just like it). I've never got to use it, cuz the people I interact with usually accept my hobby with little questions. BUT i still want to share. The main reason I state is that I'm an artist and I love visual stuff, and collecting dolls is like collecting miniature art sculpture that are also interactive. I also have an interest in fashion, so by extension an interest in dolls makes a lot of sense, they can help give you ideas for clothes and styling or even practice how to make clothes. That's the more geniuene in depth explanation one can give. Or you could be firey and confrontational and say is just a collecting hobby just as normal as collecting stamps or coins, and there's nothing weird abt it and call them rude in their face :))) only do this if you are sure is safe. That's all. Hope this perspective helps.
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It takes time. You are at an age right now that other's opinions matter to you, and THATS OK. We ALL have gone through it. It is a NORMAL stage of development, and I promise you, if you keep working at it, it will get better. Here is some advice: * Don't let anyone stop you from enjoying what you like. Don't have regrets because of others. It is not worth it. You only have ONE life. Live it. Buy those dolls. Collecting dolls is a very acceptable hobby, btw!!! * Surround yourself with like minded people. Trust me, there are plenty. Find an online local doll group!! Feeling accepted with do wonders for your confidence. * Give yourself grace. You are right, it is not like you can flip a switch and no longer care. It will come with time and practice. Also that "be you" part... finding out who you are takes time AND it changes over time and you need to find you again and again. And that's life;) * Every time you think you need to hide something, think of what THAT person is hiding or white-lying about ;) trust me, EVERYONE around you is doing it to an extend ;) * Lastly, trust me... you are 110% NOT TOO OLD to like dolls ;)
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I would say to just share it with the people closest to you. If they ask you, "Why?" Just say, "It makes me happy!" I don't have any advice about school peers. I was heavily bullied throughout school until I quit and got my GED. That helped me not to care what people thought of me as an adult. If people judge you, then it just shows how insecure they are about themselves. You have to love yourself more than you care about the opinions of others. Easier said than done, but it just takes practice. I wish you luck on your doll journey! It really is fulfilling and rewarding! 🖤
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Back in the 2000s I used my graduation gift money to buy my first BJD, my friends refused to enter my room after I bought it. But they didn't flinch with my anime figures and American Girl dolls, so what gives?? Those friends eventually left my life, but I've still kept collecting. They don't hurt anyone and they make me happy. I can dress them as I please and take photos at the park and not give a dang what strangers walking by might think. I think growing up is pretty neat. I really love not caring. ♥ Tell your friends where you're going next time, you never know, maybe one of them comes with you and falls in love with Draculaura or a cute plush! And if they have anything negative to say just respond with "Well, I'm gunna die eventually sooo....No regrets!!" and then skip to the checkout line!!
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If I’m interested in something that isn’t “normal” to most people, I remind myself of how many people grow old and say they wish they had done xyz but didn’t have the guts to when they were younger. Do what makes you happy. Don’t look back when you’re older and wish you’d done something because other people didn’t like it or it wasn’t on trend. People will say things about you your entire life that may or may not be true. You might as well embrace who you are and not give the meanness back to them. That said, if you’re in school and worried about what others will say, just don’t tell them or show anyone. You don’t have to show your classmates your collection or let them know about it. If they’re your friends you want to have over, perhaps test the waters of how they’ll feel and proceed from there, choosing to let them know or not.
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All these answers are much more mature than my go to response, which is “at least I’m not snorting coke,” (I’m in college, coke is much more prominent than I would have ever guessed). But seriously, if people can’t get behind having unique hobbies, they’re boring. As long as you aren’t overspending, doll collecting hurts no one.
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It’s my go-to reaction, especially to my mom. She’s really supportive of my American Girl hobby, but also gets a little concerned sometimes. I have 50. They’re bigger than fashion dolls so much more difficult to display and store.
I'm 41 and I give you permission to look at they toys. If I could bottle up my lack of Fs I would and give it to you. I'm married and when we are at the store we joke about the forbidden aisles. We make jokes, but she also supports me. You don't know who will support you if you don't talk to them. And it may take time, but they will see how happy you are being able to show this part of you and not have to hide, the important people will come around. My family sends me photos from the toy aisle to ask if I need this doll or that one cause they know what I collect and how happy it makes me. You don't need to tell everyone at school, but the important people to you are a good place to start. The hardest part is telling them. If they make fun of you it will hurt, but then they aren't your friend and you should drop them rather than waste time on someone who won't have your back.
There's no such thing as too old for dolls. Adults are currently the largest demographic for toy shopping (we beat out preschoolers for the first time recently). So you're actually just more mature than other teenagers if you're embracing doll collecting. It sure beats wasting time picking on someone over a hobby they enjoy! You can tell anyone who thinks you're weird about your cool older doll collecting friends online. Also, classmates are temporary. After a couple of years, you'll never have to talk to them again if you don't want to.
I remember hearing something about 1/4 of doll purchases are from collectors, not sure on the source
It sure isn't little kids buying all the collector dolls off Mattel Creations that sell out within minutes! There's tons of adult collectors.
I am almost 50....and you all have some great advice. I feel like it is so relevant...and girl.....you go look at them dolls!!!
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I have a much younger sister(18 yrs) & because I grew up with only a couple of Barbie’s, I started buying her ALL the Barbies. I would go to visit and hang out with her and play with her dolls, but soon discovered she wasn’t that interested in them, so I started buying them for myself. I have about 50 collectors boxed Barbies & an equal number of cheaper dolls I bought for customising. Had a Bratz customising faze & now in my 50’s it’s Blythe & Monster High with a bit of handmade cloth dolls in there. It’s a skill I am perfecting & it can become a money making side hustle. People spend a lot on their dolls. You do you. If people ask, say there is a whole community of people who collect dolls, just like LEGO, or vintage toys, baseball & Pokemon cards, etc. And tell your parents/other adults : at least I’m spending my money on dolls and not booze and drugs!
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Shopping companion: "Why are you heading to the toy aisle?" You: "I'm going to look at the collectibles. See if there are any I need for my collection"
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I don’t really have any advice.. you / they just get used to it. I never stopped collecting / having dolls so pretty much everyone in my family knows. I remember when I was around 10/11 getting comments about it from family and even getting made fun of in school. But I guess overtime my family has just gotten used to it and is supportive. There are lots of ppl who have / collect dolls. It’s not that weird anymore. I think past a year - 2 they’ll get over it and probably not care.
Hopefully one day we won’t be judged
Why are some people so judgemental,Just ignore the haters.
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Normal is so overrated. I’m 59 and collect all the Barbies I wanted when I was little. My grandmother collected baby dolls, just average baby dolls, everyone in the family bought them for her and nobody said anything. You will find your tribe.
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I've been there, eventually I let go of my "fear" and I no longer care about what ppl think but I'll be real w u, it only happened after I became an adult
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Be your True Self no matter what. Shame is holding back your inner child. Embrace your Happiness 💛🌻💛 Be*you*til*full
Start with people closer to you. Start with a friend, or a parent. Or start with someone who is just an acquaintance. I like dolls, I'm thinking about maybe taking up collecting a few.
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That was an example of things to say, I'm a confident adult collector. Below is most of my dolls. But not all. For me, I was weird, even when trying to fit in what society wanted me to be, I always went in a bit sideways. My mom is kinda like, well she also likes taxidermied animals and skeletons and bugs and snakes, Dolls are just fine. My husband is like, eh. It's not the most expensive hobby ever. https://preview.redd.it/bsq2ku09gt9d1.jpeg?width=3327&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a570db17485c0684fd1c907b1c34ce9dfb7b8d05
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