Careful with anniversaries and such. I find keeping busy doing anything at all helps me best. Counting makes it worse for me as it’s an auto reminder of her and how much I miss her.
Tell me about it. 😢
I noticed you are in finance and banking. Me too. I’m the head trader at a European bank who focuses mostly on fixed income trading. What do you do ?
Sometimes you need to. Nothing is bringing that person back and even if they do it’s not the same most times. It’s like mourning a dead person. Should you not try and move on as quickly as possible because there is no real point. I believe so after the usual few weeks of mourning.
Sure, but staying busy will postpone all these grieving emotions. It’s fine to acknowledge and accept these won’t last forever and life will go on. I feel like it’s best to sit with those emotions, not ignore them, but understand them.
My journey is not easy or linear either, I feel like I’m over the breakup one day and then the other I’m at ground 0 again
Agreed. Time away is the only real path. I don’t know what I would do if it was like high school where you have to see that person every single day. My girl moved away 1000 miles and in re started the misery all over again and I feel lonelier than ever even though she was already not a part of my life. I thought I would feel better but I just don’t.
This is why you have to feel comfort in all spectrum of emotions and not categorize feeling sad or lonely as a bad emotion. Everything you’re feeling is normal, however it won’t last forever. This is the beauty of the human mind and how easily controllable your life can be
Damn what app is that. And yeah blindsides hurt a lot because you never know the true reasoning. Best to move on and find someone worth your time and effort you know. You got this don’t worry, good things come to those that wait.
To claim you love someone for three years and just walk away that easily might be the most evil thing someone has ever done to me. I cannot fathom it like I still cannot process it in my head because that how much trust I put into her. I’ll be real I prob will have to be alone for a while man because to this day I still can’t look at girl…I feel emotionless but 100% time heals
Mine did the same thing and it's been around 6-7 months now, it's funny how I just found out she got with her "friend". One of the things she said when breaking up is she wasn't ready for a relationship, I can't believe how I got betrayed like that.
Ahhhhh the “dw he’s just a friend” type beat. Some women really truly evil man and it’s the ones you never expect to do you dirty like that. I hope you heal man and they will get what’s coming for them to be honest. Shit like that never ends well for them
It’s hard man. I still can’t get my head around it. Together 7 years. She’d say I love you so much. And then nothing. I don’t think she really knew what love was. Interesting I’ve come across this today, I’ve been going on dates and it’s just hit me today, I feel emotionless to them. Even when it goes well and they’re interested I feel nothing.
I know mine does. She tired to come back an say she wants me but it was even more messed up as she went with a coworker. And she was still seeing the coworker. She said she would stop if I said I would give it another go. It could never work. I hate how she ruined it all for nothing.
I’d say they all think about it when you’re such a significant part of their lives.
As someone who went through something similar, except she hasn't returned yet, you deserve better.
She would have some seriously 'splaining to do before I'd even consider it.
I was in a relationship for over 15 years. She suddenly told me that I was no longer attracted to her as a man. She was texting with her sleaze coworker on Telegram the entire New Year's Eve. The next day I texted her on Telegram when I saw she was online, after which she angrily asked me on Viber why I was writing her on Telegram and said that she hated that app. Immediately after that, she turned off online visibility on Telegram. About week later she said she likes her coworker, but that nothing has happened between them and that it won't happen, and that she doesn't want to waste 15 years. Then she became cold and started ghosting me, even though we hadn't officially broken up. The last time we saw each other was at the theater (January 31st), when she was checking her phone every 5 minutes. After the show, she told me that she couldn't do it anymore and that "it's not fair to me or to her that she limits herself to not texting him while he's out with me." Btw, she admitted how that sleaze brought cocaine for the two of them to a company party near the end of the year. The thing is, she and I are both former addicts, clean since 2011, but we both have Hepatitis C. When I told her that I can't start a relationship with anyone while I have Hep C (which I got from her) and while I'm on buprenorphine, she told me that it doesn't have to be said in the beginning, which shocked me. She said she wasn't sure what she wanted - whether she want to start a relationship with him or just want to f*ck someone. Ironic, since she's been telling me for years how she lost her sex drive, even though we always had amazing sex. Two days ago she sent me some random post on Instagram. Maybe she finally told that Omega sleaze that she has Hep C, maybe she just misses me, but I'm not sure I could get over that kind of betrayal.
I dont even know how their mind works. I mean how can one reason like that.
Mine said that if she gets into a relationship with someone by the time I close the distance (It was ldr and she broke up a day after our 2nd anniversary due to distance) then she will leave the other guy for me instantly..... (After I close the distance)
Yes!! This!!! I just posted saying something similar. How do you go from “I can’t live without you, you’re my everything” to “don’t call me again”? It doesn’t make sense. Hurt people hurt people I guess. That’s the conclusion I’ve come to.
Mine did that too, hell she even cheated on her way out, too. We said I love you every single day for the whole relationship.
It's been 8 months since, and I'm doing fine-ish overall, but a part of me definitely died. I've lost the relationship weight, but I feel like my body dysmorphia is back.
It happened to me after almost 10 years you’ll get
to a point during the anger stage where you’ll realize that anyone worth being in your life would never abandon you like that, sending you 🖤 I know it’s a horrible feeling
Exactly this. I've had abusive relationships, they were a relief to get out of. The last one was a relationship with the most wholesome, goody two shoes I've ever known, at times in the 3yrs before we got together his goody-two-shoes-ness would put me off, as being the girl from wrong side of the tracks, I didn't (still dont) believe I was good enough for him, and once he figured that out, he'd run for the hills.
Two years of bliss. Never any clue. His daughter went from loving me to hating me the second she found out we were together, and treating him like shit for a year for it. Then he organised to suddenly move in with the woman his daughter had been trying to set him up with to get him away from me. And ghosted. I was stupid enough to also financially support him while he went thru a hell of a period in his life too, and now I'm the biggest bitch on earth for turning against him for moving in with another woman and ghosting me, and raising the money issue 3m after he did that.
I'll never understand how anyone can fake and manipulate so long.
But the idea of anyone else makes me want to vomit.
In fact, the idea of myself makes me want to steer into a truck at 100kmh.
15 years, but without kids. She just said that I'm not attracted to her anymore and that it's not fair to me or to her that she restricts herself from texting with a sleaze coworker while she's out with me. It seems only fair that she should dump me like a bag of garbage. I'm aware I'm guilty of stopping being adventurous, I stopped seducing her and let us fall into a rut, but both partners need to be invested, and she didn't even give me a chance to even try to reignite the spark again. Whenever I asked her what was wrong and how to fix it, she would say that everything was fine and that I was tripping.
This is exactly why I learned to never give 100% my heart anymore. When you date someone do NOT ever throw all your cards on the table. It’s only a matter of time. It usually is the unexpected things to. Like you’ve known her for YEARS and never thought this is something she would do. Take it as a learning experience. ATLEAST now you may know the signs.
This is a smart idea but eventually I would stop tracking the days, because if you continue to keep tracking; you’re still gonna technically be thinking of them and never move on fully.
Might as well put days since:
I had sex
Was hugged
Lol
Was able to talk 2 somes my day
Went to the movies
Had a great sleep
Kissed
Watched romantic movies
Got home excited
Wasn’t a hater
Felt purpose
Didn’t feel like a loser
Didn’t think about love all day
Wished it was the past
Planned holidays
And it goes on and on…. 😔
i was blindsided two weeks ago by the person i stood by for six years. completely blindsided, told me he loved me and appreciated me until the very end when i’ve been going through serious stuff with him and then with me for two straight years. i stopped counting the days and eventually i’ll stop counting the weeks but if they left us like that it means they checked out a long time ago and didn’t have an issue betraying our trust at the end of the day. sending much healing ❤️🩹
Just be thankful yall don't have any kids , my son is a constant reminder of my trauma and horrible break up with his mom. My Dating life also sucks , I was recently blindsided by a chick I started to date at my job.
Everything was fine for a month and I thought the girl really liked me, she showed high interest, brought me food to work and we had sex consistently. Then out of nowhere she did a 180 and started to avoid me at work.
We are cordial now 2 months later (just hi/bye)but if I'm being honest I get annoyed everytime I see her because she could have just been honest with me if she wasnt feeling it , but instead she waited until after a expensive dinner date to act funny.
You'll get over this bro , time heals Everything so stay strong 💪 🙏.
We have the same breakup anniversary (+1 year) friend! :)
Getting blindsighted definitely hurts.. a lot. Just be careful with counters like this, it worked for me as a coping method in the beginning but recently got more obsessive. Continuing to hold onto hope is torturous. I hope you have better experience with therapy - it just did not work for me and very costly out-of-pocket.
I’m on day 205 since break up, have not seen her since September 3 2023, have not heard her voice since September 5th and got dumped via a voicemail September 28 2023
I'm proud of you, bud. I know it's going to feel bittersweet in the beginning, especially when getting over someone may feel guilty, but you're doing okay. I suggest meeting new people as in friends. Or try something you've always wanted to do. Once you stop counting the days and giving them weight is when you'll truly move on. In the back of your mind, you'll always be "tomorrow makes it 150 days" or something like that. It's best to walk your own path without any outside conflict. You're doing good. You're not alone.
Clearly I have a ways to go, but I was dumped by text after 18 months of seeing each other each week… no call, no “we need to talk”, nothing.. Just a short, “I can’t see you anymore”… and crickets to everything I did & said, except for a short “I’ve just had a change of heart”… WTF… doesn’t anybody act like adults anymore???…
What I’ve discovered in the last month is that she’s on the avoidant spectrum, mostly likely dismissive, and that explains much of what happened. It does not change the emotional brutality and trauma, it’s the crickets factor that makes me the most crazy…. Because it is SO FAR Outside of my communication ethics, it’s not even in the same solar system.
The chemistry was and has been sensational, but the lesson to me is that you can’t live by chemistry alone, but character is what defines us… a VERY painful lesson…. T
I just have a mark on my calendar of the day we last spoke. I prefer it rather than counting it since it reminds me of her so whenever I want to see I just look at it.
Just for my curiosity, what purpose does these tally’s serve. I have seen a trend of this and genuinely how it helps in terms of healing etc. thank you.
I feel the same way bro. My ex gf broke up with me back in December after a 2.5 year relationship. I knew her for 4 years and we talked literally all day everyday. What would’ve been our three year anniversary of dating was last Thursday and that day absolutely destroyed me. I felt miserable. Her bday is in exactly one week and that day will also make me miserable
Oh wow, same timeline. Last saw Nov 29th and last spoke Dec 19th I think.
I’ve since met someone! But found out yesterday when his Ex broke NC trying to come back into his life that he also is newly single and on the same timeline as us. Now idk what’s going on in the atmosphere but I haven’t heard from mine and sure it’s done for good this time. I hope things continue with me and new guy.
That’s mad! Surprisingly when my relationship ended I had I noticed other people were going through the same thing as well! I’m glad you met someone and hopefully I heal enough to do the same one day….i feel so empty and I don’t think it would be fair on the next girl I speak to. Keep going :)
You’re doing so well now. I’m telling you, when I met this new guy, I was not expecting anything. Neither was he. We met while both traveling somewhere. Both with our own lives and stress and rushing to get somewhere. I forgot about my whole life for the hour or so we spent together waiting to board our flight. And ever since, we’ve not gone a single day without talking.
You won’t think you’re ready when it finally happens. But you’ll have an experience and realize, “oh wow, maybe I CAN do this!”
I’m wishing you the best!
I know this is difficult to believe but I promise whoever is going through this, it will get better and then at some point it will be great. You WILL get over them. I know it feels like you will never like or love someone as much as you like or love them but I promise you, you will, and it will feel even stronger than what you felt for the person prior. We just have to go through the motions. When you get into the tunnel it always feels like there won’t be a light at the end of it but I promise you, there will be. You just need time and…start or keep up with self-improvement habits. They truly help.🫶🏻
Hey what’s this app called I honestly need it! Also I’m sorry you’re going through this but it’s probably best for you in long term because something wasn’t working and I’ll be honest me and my ex fiancé broke up October 20th, 2023 so 7 months later yesterday and it was hard I thought I couldn’t breathe the first day especially when I realized he had really left me and blocked me. I realize now that the entire 2 year engagement and relationship was just a honeymoon phase but then we crashed and burned because we finally broke the phase not even intentionally it’s like one day we were happy and the next boom all gone.
You'll never get over it if you keep giving the memories tied to these tallies a place to exist in your mind. I struggle even after trashing any remnants of my ex. It definitely made it easier, and I'm glad I did it, but I don't see how I could have started healing if I was tracking things like this. Keep your mind on your future and the present, and not so focused on the past. No reason to be worried about how long it's been since you talked to someone you likely won't ever talk to again, and someone meant to have a permanent place in your life could be overlooked if you can't get over someone that wasn't meant to have a place in your life. I'm entertaining enough to myself to where I don't really ever get lonely and I'm honestly not in a rush to meet anyone, and ok with there never being someone, as long as I'm not with my ex , that is all that matters. Sure, there's a lot of great memories, but that should never cause you to overlook the damage they caused, even if it was only abandonment. That still outweighs anything good and is proof that you only thought you knew who they were. Hard to feel anything for someone I never really knew.
I feel your pain completely. It's crazy how someone who you share the most incredible and intimate times with become absolute strangers. This is something I will never understand or be able to comprehend.
I too am in a similar mind if situation but much earlier on. Proud of you for coming this far. I can feel the road ahead for me is long and painful. It's hard to keep hope, but reading stories like this from others makes me feel less lonely.
So thank you for sharing this ❤️
I feel you man i have a relationship for almost 2 years and i got blindsided then turns out she went back to her ex. The constant reminder of being worthless and disposable hurts a lot but the betrayal is even more.
It's crazy how u go from doing almost everything together then being total strangers next. I conclude it never was love on their part. Coz how can u avoid someone u claim to love like that? It couldn't be real.
Careful with anniversaries and such. I find keeping busy doing anything at all helps me best. Counting makes it worse for me as it’s an auto reminder of her and how much I miss her.
Good point man
This
I wish he missed me ..
I would walk a million miles to know she even thought of me.
that makes both of us :/ . If only you were him saying all these things & i was her saying all these things huh ..
Tell me about it. 😢 I noticed you are in finance and banking. Me too. I’m the head trader at a European bank who focuses mostly on fixed income trading. What do you do ?
Staying busy often means neglecting your emotions
Sometimes you need to. Nothing is bringing that person back and even if they do it’s not the same most times. It’s like mourning a dead person. Should you not try and move on as quickly as possible because there is no real point. I believe so after the usual few weeks of mourning.
Sure, but staying busy will postpone all these grieving emotions. It’s fine to acknowledge and accept these won’t last forever and life will go on. I feel like it’s best to sit with those emotions, not ignore them, but understand them. My journey is not easy or linear either, I feel like I’m over the breakup one day and then the other I’m at ground 0 again
Agreed. Time away is the only real path. I don’t know what I would do if it was like high school where you have to see that person every single day. My girl moved away 1000 miles and in re started the misery all over again and I feel lonelier than ever even though she was already not a part of my life. I thought I would feel better but I just don’t.
This is why you have to feel comfort in all spectrum of emotions and not categorize feeling sad or lonely as a bad emotion. Everything you’re feeling is normal, however it won’t last forever. This is the beauty of the human mind and how easily controllable your life can be
I have to work with my ex partner almost every single day and we are completely no contact It's hell
As long as if he's not checking those days every day, then it's okay.
I somehow think he is. I would.
Damn what app is that. And yeah blindsides hurt a lot because you never know the true reasoning. Best to move on and find someone worth your time and effort you know. You got this don’t worry, good things come to those that wait.
To claim you love someone for three years and just walk away that easily might be the most evil thing someone has ever done to me. I cannot fathom it like I still cannot process it in my head because that how much trust I put into her. I’ll be real I prob will have to be alone for a while man because to this day I still can’t look at girl…I feel emotionless but 100% time heals
Mine did the same thing and it's been around 6-7 months now, it's funny how I just found out she got with her "friend". One of the things she said when breaking up is she wasn't ready for a relationship, I can't believe how I got betrayed like that.
It’s funny cause they always say this. “i’m not ready for a relationship” just means that they are not willing to be with you lmao.
Ahhhhh the “dw he’s just a friend” type beat. Some women really truly evil man and it’s the ones you never expect to do you dirty like that. I hope you heal man and they will get what’s coming for them to be honest. Shit like that never ends well for them
Hope so. I can't imagine what kind of thing would make it feel better, but I'm sure something's coming.
Hope so. I can't imagine what kind of thing would make it feel better, but I'm sure something's coming.
It’s hard man. I still can’t get my head around it. Together 7 years. She’d say I love you so much. And then nothing. I don’t think she really knew what love was. Interesting I’ve come across this today, I’ve been going on dates and it’s just hit me today, I feel emotionless to them. Even when it goes well and they’re interested I feel nothing.
I always wonder if they regret it….how is a human capable of doing that and not regret it? Like blindsiding you and not hiding
I know mine does. She tired to come back an say she wants me but it was even more messed up as she went with a coworker. And she was still seeing the coworker. She said she would stop if I said I would give it another go. It could never work. I hate how she ruined it all for nothing. I’d say they all think about it when you’re such a significant part of their lives.
As someone who went through something similar, except she hasn't returned yet, you deserve better. She would have some seriously 'splaining to do before I'd even consider it.
I was in a relationship for over 15 years. She suddenly told me that I was no longer attracted to her as a man. She was texting with her sleaze coworker on Telegram the entire New Year's Eve. The next day I texted her on Telegram when I saw she was online, after which she angrily asked me on Viber why I was writing her on Telegram and said that she hated that app. Immediately after that, she turned off online visibility on Telegram. About week later she said she likes her coworker, but that nothing has happened between them and that it won't happen, and that she doesn't want to waste 15 years. Then she became cold and started ghosting me, even though we hadn't officially broken up. The last time we saw each other was at the theater (January 31st), when she was checking her phone every 5 minutes. After the show, she told me that she couldn't do it anymore and that "it's not fair to me or to her that she limits herself to not texting him while he's out with me." Btw, she admitted how that sleaze brought cocaine for the two of them to a company party near the end of the year. The thing is, she and I are both former addicts, clean since 2011, but we both have Hepatitis C. When I told her that I can't start a relationship with anyone while I have Hep C (which I got from her) and while I'm on buprenorphine, she told me that it doesn't have to be said in the beginning, which shocked me. She said she wasn't sure what she wanted - whether she want to start a relationship with him or just want to f*ck someone. Ironic, since she's been telling me for years how she lost her sex drive, even though we always had amazing sex. Two days ago she sent me some random post on Instagram. Maybe she finally told that Omega sleaze that she has Hep C, maybe she just misses me, but I'm not sure I could get over that kind of betrayal.
I dont even know how their mind works. I mean how can one reason like that. Mine said that if she gets into a relationship with someone by the time I close the distance (It was ldr and she broke up a day after our 2nd anniversary due to distance) then she will leave the other guy for me instantly..... (After I close the distance)
Yeah it’s wild. I genuinely think at this point they have some kind of mental disorder and don’t see any wrong in their actions.
Yes!! This!!! I just posted saying something similar. How do you go from “I can’t live without you, you’re my everything” to “don’t call me again”? It doesn’t make sense. Hurt people hurt people I guess. That’s the conclusion I’ve come to.
Mine did that too, hell she even cheated on her way out, too. We said I love you every single day for the whole relationship. It's been 8 months since, and I'm doing fine-ish overall, but a part of me definitely died. I've lost the relationship weight, but I feel like my body dysmorphia is back.
It happened to me after almost 10 years you’ll get to a point during the anger stage where you’ll realize that anyone worth being in your life would never abandon you like that, sending you 🖤 I know it’s a horrible feeling
Thank you so much ❤️
Exactly this. I've had abusive relationships, they were a relief to get out of. The last one was a relationship with the most wholesome, goody two shoes I've ever known, at times in the 3yrs before we got together his goody-two-shoes-ness would put me off, as being the girl from wrong side of the tracks, I didn't (still dont) believe I was good enough for him, and once he figured that out, he'd run for the hills. Two years of bliss. Never any clue. His daughter went from loving me to hating me the second she found out we were together, and treating him like shit for a year for it. Then he organised to suddenly move in with the woman his daughter had been trying to set him up with to get him away from me. And ghosted. I was stupid enough to also financially support him while he went thru a hell of a period in his life too, and now I'm the biggest bitch on earth for turning against him for moving in with another woman and ghosting me, and raising the money issue 3m after he did that. I'll never understand how anyone can fake and manipulate so long. But the idea of anyone else makes me want to vomit. In fact, the idea of myself makes me want to steer into a truck at 100kmh.
Imagine 14 years and 3 children and boom gone like I never existed
15 years, but without kids. She just said that I'm not attracted to her anymore and that it's not fair to me or to her that she restricts herself from texting with a sleaze coworker while she's out with me. It seems only fair that she should dump me like a bag of garbage. I'm aware I'm guilty of stopping being adventurous, I stopped seducing her and let us fall into a rut, but both partners need to be invested, and she didn't even give me a chance to even try to reignite the spark again. Whenever I asked her what was wrong and how to fix it, she would say that everything was fine and that I was tripping.
I don't know what it is, but someone else posted here a while ago using an app called Nomo and I find it really great!
Days Since is the app
I hope you get to the point where you won't feel the need to keep track
This is exactly why I learned to never give 100% my heart anymore. When you date someone do NOT ever throw all your cards on the table. It’s only a matter of time. It usually is the unexpected things to. Like you’ve known her for YEARS and never thought this is something she would do. Take it as a learning experience. ATLEAST now you may know the signs.
This is a smart idea but eventually I would stop tracking the days, because if you continue to keep tracking; you’re still gonna technically be thinking of them and never move on fully.
Might as well put days since: I had sex Was hugged Lol Was able to talk 2 somes my day Went to the movies Had a great sleep Kissed Watched romantic movies Got home excited Wasn’t a hater Felt purpose Didn’t feel like a loser Didn’t think about love all day Wished it was the past Planned holidays And it goes on and on…. 😔
“Wished it was the past” I hear u.
i was blindsided two weeks ago by the person i stood by for six years. completely blindsided, told me he loved me and appreciated me until the very end when i’ve been going through serious stuff with him and then with me for two straight years. i stopped counting the days and eventually i’ll stop counting the weeks but if they left us like that it means they checked out a long time ago and didn’t have an issue betraying our trust at the end of the day. sending much healing ❤️🩹
Just be thankful yall don't have any kids , my son is a constant reminder of my trauma and horrible break up with his mom. My Dating life also sucks , I was recently blindsided by a chick I started to date at my job. Everything was fine for a month and I thought the girl really liked me, she showed high interest, brought me food to work and we had sex consistently. Then out of nowhere she did a 180 and started to avoid me at work. We are cordial now 2 months later (just hi/bye)but if I'm being honest I get annoyed everytime I see her because she could have just been honest with me if she wasnt feeling it , but instead she waited until after a expensive dinner date to act funny. You'll get over this bro , time heals Everything so stay strong 💪 🙏.
What app is that on?
Days since
We have the same breakup anniversary (+1 year) friend! :) Getting blindsighted definitely hurts.. a lot. Just be careful with counters like this, it worked for me as a coping method in the beginning but recently got more obsessive. Continuing to hold onto hope is torturous. I hope you have better experience with therapy - it just did not work for me and very costly out-of-pocket.
Keep going !!!!!!!!!! You got this
Thank you man
I have these on my phone too. Sad 😔
I’m on day 205 since break up, have not seen her since September 3 2023, have not heard her voice since September 5th and got dumped via a voicemail September 28 2023
That bad to have been hard over voicemail what a cowardly way to end things. Hope you got rid of the recording.
I did, got rid of everything I saved some photos on a thumb drive but don’t look at them, it was a cowardly way to end it
I'm proud of you, bud. I know it's going to feel bittersweet in the beginning, especially when getting over someone may feel guilty, but you're doing okay. I suggest meeting new people as in friends. Or try something you've always wanted to do. Once you stop counting the days and giving them weight is when you'll truly move on. In the back of your mind, you'll always be "tomorrow makes it 150 days" or something like that. It's best to walk your own path without any outside conflict. You're doing good. You're not alone.
Bro i know it hurts but delete that app of the days you been counting and forget about that bihhh trust me and go find another girl
Clearly I have a ways to go, but I was dumped by text after 18 months of seeing each other each week… no call, no “we need to talk”, nothing.. Just a short, “I can’t see you anymore”… and crickets to everything I did & said, except for a short “I’ve just had a change of heart”… WTF… doesn’t anybody act like adults anymore???… What I’ve discovered in the last month is that she’s on the avoidant spectrum, mostly likely dismissive, and that explains much of what happened. It does not change the emotional brutality and trauma, it’s the crickets factor that makes me the most crazy…. Because it is SO FAR Outside of my communication ethics, it’s not even in the same solar system. The chemistry was and has been sensational, but the lesson to me is that you can’t live by chemistry alone, but character is what defines us… a VERY painful lesson…. T
App name?
TheDayBefore is pretty nice too if you like widgets
Days since
congrats man! so proud of you although this note thingy might cause more temptations for you to text her and make you think about her still
Thank you bro it’s been very hard but I learned so much about myself! I was thinking that as well…might delete it soon
Hope you find happiness 🙏🏻
I just have a mark on my calendar of the day we last spoke. I prefer it rather than counting it since it reminds me of her so whenever I want to see I just look at it.
What app is that?
:(
Just for my curiosity, what purpose does these tally’s serve. I have seen a trend of this and genuinely how it helps in terms of healing etc. thank you.
Genuinely for me it’s more of a thing of seeing how far I’ve come. At the beginning of my breakup I fully could not function a day without her
Got it. Thanks.
I feel the same way bro. My ex gf broke up with me back in December after a 2.5 year relationship. I knew her for 4 years and we talked literally all day everyday. What would’ve been our three year anniversary of dating was last Thursday and that day absolutely destroyed me. I felt miserable. Her bday is in exactly one week and that day will also make me miserable
Her birthday was in Feb and it was very tough for me but she made her intentions clear and all I can do is respect it. Youll be fine bro ❤️
Oh wow, same timeline. Last saw Nov 29th and last spoke Dec 19th I think. I’ve since met someone! But found out yesterday when his Ex broke NC trying to come back into his life that he also is newly single and on the same timeline as us. Now idk what’s going on in the atmosphere but I haven’t heard from mine and sure it’s done for good this time. I hope things continue with me and new guy.
That’s mad! Surprisingly when my relationship ended I had I noticed other people were going through the same thing as well! I’m glad you met someone and hopefully I heal enough to do the same one day….i feel so empty and I don’t think it would be fair on the next girl I speak to. Keep going :)
You’re doing so well now. I’m telling you, when I met this new guy, I was not expecting anything. Neither was he. We met while both traveling somewhere. Both with our own lives and stress and rushing to get somewhere. I forgot about my whole life for the hour or so we spent together waiting to board our flight. And ever since, we’ve not gone a single day without talking. You won’t think you’re ready when it finally happens. But you’ll have an experience and realize, “oh wow, maybe I CAN do this!” I’m wishing you the best!
One day you’ll stop caring about how many days and it feels so good once you delete the app. You’re doing good
Awe man, I think mi es do e now too. I tried though and that should make it ok. I'll miss him.
Pray and forgive it helps with your peace 🙏🏼 and mental health
I know this is difficult to believe but I promise whoever is going through this, it will get better and then at some point it will be great. You WILL get over them. I know it feels like you will never like or love someone as much as you like or love them but I promise you, you will, and it will feel even stronger than what you felt for the person prior. We just have to go through the motions. When you get into the tunnel it always feels like there won’t be a light at the end of it but I promise you, there will be. You just need time and…start or keep up with self-improvement habits. They truly help.🫶🏻
What app is this? 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hey what’s this app called I honestly need it! Also I’m sorry you’re going through this but it’s probably best for you in long term because something wasn’t working and I’ll be honest me and my ex fiancé broke up October 20th, 2023 so 7 months later yesterday and it was hard I thought I couldn’t breathe the first day especially when I realized he had really left me and blocked me. I realize now that the entire 2 year engagement and relationship was just a honeymoon phase but then we crashed and burned because we finally broke the phase not even intentionally it’s like one day we were happy and the next boom all gone.
Which app is that?
If you are counting and looking at it every single day, you don't get any progress bruh
Don't keep track of that. Track your days in the gym, learning new skills and making plans for projects. Shift your focus on you, not on on her
Don't do this to yourself.
What worked for me after nasty breakup, is going gym, working on my passion, and connecting with old connections.
What app is that??
I think it's good to keep busy but to definitely make sure to process what you feel. I don't know if having a counter is helping
You'll never get over it if you keep giving the memories tied to these tallies a place to exist in your mind. I struggle even after trashing any remnants of my ex. It definitely made it easier, and I'm glad I did it, but I don't see how I could have started healing if I was tracking things like this. Keep your mind on your future and the present, and not so focused on the past. No reason to be worried about how long it's been since you talked to someone you likely won't ever talk to again, and someone meant to have a permanent place in your life could be overlooked if you can't get over someone that wasn't meant to have a place in your life. I'm entertaining enough to myself to where I don't really ever get lonely and I'm honestly not in a rush to meet anyone, and ok with there never being someone, as long as I'm not with my ex , that is all that matters. Sure, there's a lot of great memories, but that should never cause you to overlook the damage they caused, even if it was only abandonment. That still outweighs anything good and is proof that you only thought you knew who they were. Hard to feel anything for someone I never really knew.
can i message you? gone through something similar and would be nice to bounce off each other for support
Sure
Keep this up and block her on social media. So one day you will be like me, thinking why the fuck am i crying on a girl last year ewww disgusting 😂😂😂😂
I feel your pain completely. It's crazy how someone who you share the most incredible and intimate times with become absolute strangers. This is something I will never understand or be able to comprehend. I too am in a similar mind if situation but much earlier on. Proud of you for coming this far. I can feel the road ahead for me is long and painful. It's hard to keep hope, but reading stories like this from others makes me feel less lonely. So thank you for sharing this ❤️
I feel you man i have a relationship for almost 2 years and i got blindsided then turns out she went back to her ex. The constant reminder of being worthless and disposable hurts a lot but the betrayal is even more.
It's crazy how u go from doing almost everything together then being total strangers next. I conclude it never was love on their part. Coz how can u avoid someone u claim to love like that? It couldn't be real.