I think that she used this as a conversation starter just to see how would you respond and maybe chat with you a little bit. My guess is that things with the new guy aren't going so well so she started reminiscing.
Honestly, or maybe it's just me and the people I know, talking to an ex when in a new relationship is an extreme red flag. Like there's no understanding about it. There's no reason. This right here with the order imo is a really dumb excuse to write to you and I can guarantee that her current partner doesn't even know that you're talking. Idk maybe I'm reaching but I've done the same thing once when I was in a relationship with a really bad guy so I used an old pic from memories on Instagram and sent it to my ex and we started talking for a short period of time. I told him that my then boyfriend was aware of our conversation but he sure as hell wasn't since he was a psycho and telling him that would've ended really bad.
When I reached out I guess I was more petty that he also moved on lol. I was really immature back then. I knew he had a girlfriend but I didn't have any ill intentions I just wanted to see if he would engage in a conversation. I sent the pic, he replied and I liked the comment and left it at that. But, after that he started to regularly reply to my stories and we chatted more and more. Most of our chats consisted of sharing memories of each other and also catching up, sharing details about our current lives. He also mentioned that his then gf knew of our chats but the way he wrote to me I highly doubt that the girl knew, because if she really knew she would've left him then and there.
I’m not sure, I’ve accidentally ordered things on Amazon to the wrong address because I have a few family members addresses in there. I think you may be reading too far into it.
When she told you her bf is very understanding that sounds like a stab to you.
You haven’t been together for 4 months. Humans make mistakes. I usually triple check my orders too but every once in a while I ship to the wrong address.
Doesn’t sound like she was being “forced”. She straight up said she wanted to be respectful to her new boyfriend. Also sounds like now the new bf trusts her and doesn’t care about contact. I think you’re reading too far into this.
You said in your post “maybe I’m reading too much into it”. I think that is exactly what you’re doing. It’s been 6 months, she broke up with you, and she is with someone else. It’s time to let go.
I'm in a very similar situation right now. My ex (dumpee) reached out to me last week and told me he still had some of my stuff, and asked if I wanted him to drop it off during the weekend. I responded because a) i would like to have my clothes back and b) i am curious to see where this interaction would go. But my response was neutral and did not indicate any sort of excitement. He sent another message the next day changing it to the following weekend (now this weekend). I responded a day later and told him that would work. He immediately tried calling and I did not pick up because I was busy. I did call back a few hours later because I don't mind catching up over the phone or whatever he had in mind. Never heard back from him and I highly doubt I'm getting those clothes.
Moral of the story is, we'll never know their true intentions. Maybe they were testing the waters and wanted to see how enthusiastic our response would be, and we didn't give into it. Maybe they were lonely and bored and had nobody else. I wish my ex never even reached out, as it slightly got my hopes up and I know I left one of my favorite jackets at his place. Regardless, if she reaches out again, I'd highly recommend not responding ever again. I sure wish I ignored his message.
okay i'm gonna play devils advocate of sorts because i could absolutely see myself doing this on accident. she genuinely might've ordered something by mistake (maybe it's a recurring order and she didn't check the shipping address bc it's an automatic reflex for her) but wanted to use it as a small excuse to talk to you once it happened (bc otherwise i don't think she would've said the thing about her guy being understanding and saying you can reach out to her if you need something). don't get your hopes up or anything though, the package could be real bc i know i'm capable of doing this sort of thing lol, but if she wanted to be together, she would say so. best of luck
i see, that is a little weird. (edit: could still be possible it was a genuine mistake because since i know i can order shit to the wrong place, i try to be careful about checking info twice or thrice over, but sometimes even that can fail me lol). but obviously you and ppl in your life know her better than i do. i'm sorry this happened, it sounds like you were a very considerate partner who tried to create the best relationship for you and this person and it just didn't work out. it's painful and i'm sorry. if she was just trying to do the indirect-direct approach, it's very inconsiderate of your pain, emotions, and continued healing. you're right though: even if things seem bleak rn, they won't always be like that. one day you'll wake up and realize that it doesn't hurt as much anymore, and it'll feel really good :) wishing you light and happiness in your life
My old self would have pulled this. But I’m a changed person. It’s a means of contact. Testing waters to see if you would still talk to her and the way you would. To see if she’s blocked. There would be many different factors. Of course I’m not her but yeah she’s doing it on purpose not by accident.
I feel you. She probably just needed any response from you. And hiding it this way so if her bf found out it wouldn’t look as bad. Don’t worry much. You’ll be healed in time and then someone else will come along and you’ll be totally over her.
Yeah sounds like an indirect direct approach, maybe she dipped the toe, but its just guessing.
I think that she used this as a conversation starter just to see how would you respond and maybe chat with you a little bit. My guess is that things with the new guy aren't going so well so she started reminiscing.
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Honestly, or maybe it's just me and the people I know, talking to an ex when in a new relationship is an extreme red flag. Like there's no understanding about it. There's no reason. This right here with the order imo is a really dumb excuse to write to you and I can guarantee that her current partner doesn't even know that you're talking. Idk maybe I'm reaching but I've done the same thing once when I was in a relationship with a really bad guy so I used an old pic from memories on Instagram and sent it to my ex and we started talking for a short period of time. I told him that my then boyfriend was aware of our conversation but he sure as hell wasn't since he was a psycho and telling him that would've ended really bad.
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When I reached out I guess I was more petty that he also moved on lol. I was really immature back then. I knew he had a girlfriend but I didn't have any ill intentions I just wanted to see if he would engage in a conversation. I sent the pic, he replied and I liked the comment and left it at that. But, after that he started to regularly reply to my stories and we chatted more and more. Most of our chats consisted of sharing memories of each other and also catching up, sharing details about our current lives. He also mentioned that his then gf knew of our chats but the way he wrote to me I highly doubt that the girl knew, because if she really knew she would've left him then and there.
If she’s still with someone I would look the other way.
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Yes it does sound odd but at this point if she wants you then you shouldn’t be an option.
I’m not sure, I’ve accidentally ordered things on Amazon to the wrong address because I have a few family members addresses in there. I think you may be reading too far into it. When she told you her bf is very understanding that sounds like a stab to you.
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You haven’t been together for 4 months. Humans make mistakes. I usually triple check my orders too but every once in a while I ship to the wrong address. Doesn’t sound like she was being “forced”. She straight up said she wanted to be respectful to her new boyfriend. Also sounds like now the new bf trusts her and doesn’t care about contact. I think you’re reading too far into this.
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You said in your post “maybe I’m reading too much into it”. I think that is exactly what you’re doing. It’s been 6 months, she broke up with you, and she is with someone else. It’s time to let go.
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Nah Im with you that’s no coincidence
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Yeah I order a shit load of Uber eats and shit and I’ve never fucked up my address with someone else’s I’ve used
If the package doesn’t arrive then you will know that it was just a ploy.
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Time will tell. I think it was a breadcrumb.
I'm in a very similar situation right now. My ex (dumpee) reached out to me last week and told me he still had some of my stuff, and asked if I wanted him to drop it off during the weekend. I responded because a) i would like to have my clothes back and b) i am curious to see where this interaction would go. But my response was neutral and did not indicate any sort of excitement. He sent another message the next day changing it to the following weekend (now this weekend). I responded a day later and told him that would work. He immediately tried calling and I did not pick up because I was busy. I did call back a few hours later because I don't mind catching up over the phone or whatever he had in mind. Never heard back from him and I highly doubt I'm getting those clothes. Moral of the story is, we'll never know their true intentions. Maybe they were testing the waters and wanted to see how enthusiastic our response would be, and we didn't give into it. Maybe they were lonely and bored and had nobody else. I wish my ex never even reached out, as it slightly got my hopes up and I know I left one of my favorite jackets at his place. Regardless, if she reaches out again, I'd highly recommend not responding ever again. I sure wish I ignored his message.
okay i'm gonna play devils advocate of sorts because i could absolutely see myself doing this on accident. she genuinely might've ordered something by mistake (maybe it's a recurring order and she didn't check the shipping address bc it's an automatic reflex for her) but wanted to use it as a small excuse to talk to you once it happened (bc otherwise i don't think she would've said the thing about her guy being understanding and saying you can reach out to her if you need something). don't get your hopes up or anything though, the package could be real bc i know i'm capable of doing this sort of thing lol, but if she wanted to be together, she would say so. best of luck
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i see, that is a little weird. (edit: could still be possible it was a genuine mistake because since i know i can order shit to the wrong place, i try to be careful about checking info twice or thrice over, but sometimes even that can fail me lol). but obviously you and ppl in your life know her better than i do. i'm sorry this happened, it sounds like you were a very considerate partner who tried to create the best relationship for you and this person and it just didn't work out. it's painful and i'm sorry. if she was just trying to do the indirect-direct approach, it's very inconsiderate of your pain, emotions, and continued healing. you're right though: even if things seem bleak rn, they won't always be like that. one day you'll wake up and realize that it doesn't hurt as much anymore, and it'll feel really good :) wishing you light and happiness in your life
Definitely just a way to speak to you
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My old self would have pulled this. But I’m a changed person. It’s a means of contact. Testing waters to see if you would still talk to her and the way you would. To see if she’s blocked. There would be many different factors. Of course I’m not her but yeah she’s doing it on purpose not by accident.
I feel you. She probably just needed any response from you. And hiding it this way so if her bf found out it wouldn’t look as bad. Don’t worry much. You’ll be healed in time and then someone else will come along and you’ll be totally over her.
Just ignore her msgs till she begs you to take her back
I accidentally ordered something to my old work place, wasn't there for a year. You've told her you'll forward it, leave it at that.
Ask for the shipping tracking number…..just so you don’t “miss” the package arriving.
No i would not reach out anymore, u can still change the adress in minutes, its all quessings