My ex-wife cheated on me with a guy with a foot fetish. He was her PT (which I paid for) and while I was away at work, he was getting footjobs from her in our bed.
They’re still together, and I’ve moved on. But the day I found out about the affair and how she tried to rub in my face how much this new guy loved her feet really pissed me off for a long time
Don't physiotherapists lose their license for having those kind of relations ?
Possibly criminal charges where I'm from
Guess you were nice enough to not report him to the college/board
Could maybe be something lost in translation. I’m based in the UK, and a PT is a personal trainer. I understand why you may be confused though.
He was an asshole though!
Damn bro. I’ve never been through anything as fucked as that but my first breakup was terrible aswell, only similarity is she was ok with my FF. But the relationship did end in flames. It still sucks tbh. Sorry you had to go through this type of thing, but you just gotta remember not everyone is a POS. While there are genuinely bad individuals in this world, there are also genuinely good ones.
I had a messy time with one particular GF. Long story short, she was most definitely cheating on me towards the last few months of our relationship. This was even confirmed by a friend of hers whom she didnt know I had links to.
NGL, I started seeing another girl on the side too.. why did I hold on? Well this damn fetish was a huge chunk of it.. honestly her feet were quite average but she wasnt shy with them, which made things hot. She would give me footjobs under tables, stick her sweaty toes under my nose/in my mouth, her socks too, etc. she was really dominant with it, and I loved that.. the sex was great too.
Things finally got too toxic and we finally ended it and moved on with other people.. Ive had some amazing relationships/hook ups since, and of course.. many beautiful pairs of feet. Though, I randomly found my EXs FB page a couple years after we split, and one of her profiles pictures was her foot. Just a single pedicured and freshly polished foot. Coincidence much?
When me and my ex broke up we decided to stay roommates until she could get a place. This was my first love and I tried to get back with her right away but she got with a new guy the same day I broke up with her, it was a new side to her as we were each other's first
She would use my fetish against me and ask for rides to and from her new bfs place with the promise of letting me massage her feet. It got bad a couple weeks in when he couldn't please her so she manipulated me into sex by telling me she planned on breaking up with him after his work shift
All she had to do was point to her bare feet and say "well start rubbing my feet then" and ofcourse she had her way with me only to back out of her plan to breakup with him. I was angry but I didn't have the heart to kick her out we were also trying to co-parent a dog.
She had been sleeping on the living room couch, but eventually I made a deal with her that she can have my bed as long as she keeps her feet dangled off the bed for me to do whatever I want with them. I would pretty much pull all nighters at her feet those were some of the best nights. After days of this, the sexual tension was insane and I ended up eating her out and she repaid me with a FJ.
This went on for a couple more weeks until I couldn't take it anymore and ruined it by messaging her man and telling him what had been going on. He gave her an ultimatum and she moved out, I was heartbroken but it was a wild ride while it lasted.
Present day me would do just that. 19 year old me was far more timid and simping. I have a lot more confidence and self respect these days, I look back at my younger self and cringe
Another story but not as brutal
3 years ago there was a girl I used to fuck who loved feet stuff (giving footjobs, when I sucked on her toes during sex etc). I'll call her Carly for this story. I had no interest in dating her (she was a single mom, older than me, definitely gave off 304 vibes etc) but I absolutely loved the sex and I really liked her feet. I would go to her place 2 or 3 times a week and we would have sex all night long.
Even though she didn't say anything, I feel that Carly wanted a relationship with me but I made it clear I wouldn't commit to her because of her aforementioned red flags (obviously I didn't tell her that) but also because I was a player and wanted to sleep with other women too- I guess I have red flags of my own. Our entanglement lasted around 3 months before we mutually stopped.
Strangely, soon after our entanglement, Carly set her FB profile to a picture of her feet. Nothing else, just the pedicured tops of her feet. Maybe she had been more hurt by me than she let on.
I actually remained good friends with Carly for quite a while after our entanglement, we dated other people, things were ok. A little part of me always had feelings for her but the feelings were nothing more than what you normally feel towards a girl you used to sleep with, particularly when I saw her barefoot. No matter how much time went on, there was always an "elephant in the room" when I was alone with Carly and she was barefoot but I valued her friendship enough to look past it.
I could tell that my best friend (I'll call Dave for this story) in that city where I was living at the time also liked her but I didn't think she liked him back. We often hung out as a trio and other friends would even joke that I was the father, Carly was the mom and Dave was the son (he was younger, smaller and more shy than me). Even my next girlfriend became friendly with Carly and we sometimes hung out as a 4.
About 2 years after mine and her entanglement, Carly confessed to me as a friend that she had been sleeping with Dave for several weeks and felt guilty because he had a girlfriend (which she already knew about the entire time) but he told her she loved him. Basically Carly was happy to be Dave's sidepiece but suddenly grew a conscience when Dave got feelings for her.
Dave hadn't told me, as my best friend in that city, we had spoken about everything in our lives including my story in this OP and the fact that I wasn't cool with sleeping with friend's ex lovers as a result of it. I may be a sexual deviant but friend's ex lovers are off limits to me.
I couldn't help but feel betrayed even if I didn't have the right to be. Carly wasn't my girlfriend and it had been 2 years since our entanglement. I lashed out at both her and Dave. And she got mad at me for getting mad at her.
Dave called me and seemed genuinely remorseful for not telling me sooner and didn't know I would have taken it so badly. He also told me that Carly had told him about my FF (I've no idea how that casually pops up in conversation but there we go) and he confessed to me that he also has a FF.
I ended up forgiving Dave but we never spoke about the Carly situation again.
I also made amends with Carly after a while but I couldn't help but feel an awkward pang of jealousy knowing that Dave had also worshipped her feet.
I still have Carly's feet pics in my portfolio but have never been able to look at them without being reminded of the whole debacle.
I ended up falling out with Carly over an unrelated situation and we never spoke since. I'm still friends with Dave though.
To be honest sounds like the best thing that could have happened to you. Yeah it probably hurt at the time seeing them together but you gotta look at the bigger picture. She showed her true colours and you got an easy out away from what is potentially two toxic people. Situations like that you just have to laugh off and move on to something better.
My ex-wife cheated on me with a guy with a foot fetish. He was her PT (which I paid for) and while I was away at work, he was getting footjobs from her in our bed. They’re still together, and I’ve moved on. But the day I found out about the affair and how she tried to rub in my face how much this new guy loved her feet really pissed me off for a long time
How do you know she gave him footjobs?
Because she was vindictive and decided to tell me all about it when I dumped her in order to make me jealous.
Damn man. Well shes a bullet dodged.
Don't physiotherapists lose their license for having those kind of relations ? Possibly criminal charges where I'm from Guess you were nice enough to not report him to the college/board
Could maybe be something lost in translation. I’m based in the UK, and a PT is a personal trainer. I understand why you may be confused though. He was an asshole though!
In the US, possibly a physical therapist.
Man. This was rough to hear. I'm so fucking sorry for you dude. Hope you've become stronger since this and got better feet not attached to a CHEAT
I have moved on. My fiancé is incredible and has even sexier feet than my ex-wife. Sometimes you just gotta wait until you find the one
Ouch, that sounds horrendous
Damn bro. I’ve never been through anything as fucked as that but my first breakup was terrible aswell, only similarity is she was ok with my FF. But the relationship did end in flames. It still sucks tbh. Sorry you had to go through this type of thing, but you just gotta remember not everyone is a POS. While there are genuinely bad individuals in this world, there are also genuinely good ones.
I had a messy time with one particular GF. Long story short, she was most definitely cheating on me towards the last few months of our relationship. This was even confirmed by a friend of hers whom she didnt know I had links to. NGL, I started seeing another girl on the side too.. why did I hold on? Well this damn fetish was a huge chunk of it.. honestly her feet were quite average but she wasnt shy with them, which made things hot. She would give me footjobs under tables, stick her sweaty toes under my nose/in my mouth, her socks too, etc. she was really dominant with it, and I loved that.. the sex was great too. Things finally got too toxic and we finally ended it and moved on with other people.. Ive had some amazing relationships/hook ups since, and of course.. many beautiful pairs of feet. Though, I randomly found my EXs FB page a couple years after we split, and one of her profiles pictures was her foot. Just a single pedicured and freshly polished foot. Coincidence much?
The profile picture of a pedicured foot is exactly the same thing one of my ex lovers did after we ended things too
When me and my ex broke up we decided to stay roommates until she could get a place. This was my first love and I tried to get back with her right away but she got with a new guy the same day I broke up with her, it was a new side to her as we were each other's first She would use my fetish against me and ask for rides to and from her new bfs place with the promise of letting me massage her feet. It got bad a couple weeks in when he couldn't please her so she manipulated me into sex by telling me she planned on breaking up with him after his work shift All she had to do was point to her bare feet and say "well start rubbing my feet then" and ofcourse she had her way with me only to back out of her plan to breakup with him. I was angry but I didn't have the heart to kick her out we were also trying to co-parent a dog. She had been sleeping on the living room couch, but eventually I made a deal with her that she can have my bed as long as she keeps her feet dangled off the bed for me to do whatever I want with them. I would pretty much pull all nighters at her feet those were some of the best nights. After days of this, the sexual tension was insane and I ended up eating her out and she repaid me with a FJ. This went on for a couple more weeks until I couldn't take it anymore and ruined it by messaging her man and telling him what had been going on. He gave her an ultimatum and she moved out, I was heartbroken but it was a wild ride while it lasted.
I would have to fight “Mike “ at that party just to make myself feel better honestly its not mature but we’re men we have pride
Present day me would do just that. 19 year old me was far more timid and simping. I have a lot more confidence and self respect these days, I look back at my younger self and cringe
I get it man if me and you were friends at that party I would’ve done it for you lol just because how messy this shit is
Another story but not as brutal 3 years ago there was a girl I used to fuck who loved feet stuff (giving footjobs, when I sucked on her toes during sex etc). I'll call her Carly for this story. I had no interest in dating her (she was a single mom, older than me, definitely gave off 304 vibes etc) but I absolutely loved the sex and I really liked her feet. I would go to her place 2 or 3 times a week and we would have sex all night long. Even though she didn't say anything, I feel that Carly wanted a relationship with me but I made it clear I wouldn't commit to her because of her aforementioned red flags (obviously I didn't tell her that) but also because I was a player and wanted to sleep with other women too- I guess I have red flags of my own. Our entanglement lasted around 3 months before we mutually stopped. Strangely, soon after our entanglement, Carly set her FB profile to a picture of her feet. Nothing else, just the pedicured tops of her feet. Maybe she had been more hurt by me than she let on. I actually remained good friends with Carly for quite a while after our entanglement, we dated other people, things were ok. A little part of me always had feelings for her but the feelings were nothing more than what you normally feel towards a girl you used to sleep with, particularly when I saw her barefoot. No matter how much time went on, there was always an "elephant in the room" when I was alone with Carly and she was barefoot but I valued her friendship enough to look past it. I could tell that my best friend (I'll call Dave for this story) in that city where I was living at the time also liked her but I didn't think she liked him back. We often hung out as a trio and other friends would even joke that I was the father, Carly was the mom and Dave was the son (he was younger, smaller and more shy than me). Even my next girlfriend became friendly with Carly and we sometimes hung out as a 4. About 2 years after mine and her entanglement, Carly confessed to me as a friend that she had been sleeping with Dave for several weeks and felt guilty because he had a girlfriend (which she already knew about the entire time) but he told her she loved him. Basically Carly was happy to be Dave's sidepiece but suddenly grew a conscience when Dave got feelings for her. Dave hadn't told me, as my best friend in that city, we had spoken about everything in our lives including my story in this OP and the fact that I wasn't cool with sleeping with friend's ex lovers as a result of it. I may be a sexual deviant but friend's ex lovers are off limits to me. I couldn't help but feel betrayed even if I didn't have the right to be. Carly wasn't my girlfriend and it had been 2 years since our entanglement. I lashed out at both her and Dave. And she got mad at me for getting mad at her. Dave called me and seemed genuinely remorseful for not telling me sooner and didn't know I would have taken it so badly. He also told me that Carly had told him about my FF (I've no idea how that casually pops up in conversation but there we go) and he confessed to me that he also has a FF. I ended up forgiving Dave but we never spoke about the Carly situation again. I also made amends with Carly after a while but I couldn't help but feel an awkward pang of jealousy knowing that Dave had also worshipped her feet. I still have Carly's feet pics in my portfolio but have never been able to look at them without being reminded of the whole debacle. I ended up falling out with Carly over an unrelated situation and we never spoke since. I'm still friends with Dave though.
I had some pretty nasty breakups too. However, not only from the foot fetish.
To be honest sounds like the best thing that could have happened to you. Yeah it probably hurt at the time seeing them together but you gotta look at the bigger picture. She showed her true colours and you got an easy out away from what is potentially two toxic people. Situations like that you just have to laugh off and move on to something better.