Buy your kid a goddamn UV rashguard and a swim skirt. There. I solved your problem. Plus, more coverage == less skin you need to slather in sunblock (which she probably doesn't do anyway).
Yes, but then they can’t cry persecution. None of this is actually about modesty, it is all about the production of being too pure for the regular world. She admitted there were one piece swimsuit options without cutouts she just didn’t like them. Instead of being a normal person and just going to another store when they don’t like what it is being offered they whine.
[Old Navy sells plenty of girls one-pieces, board shorts, and rashguards.](https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/category.do?cid=45211&nav=hamnav%3AGirls%3AShop%20Girls%20Categories%3ASwimsuits#)
Granted, they're not all available at all stores. But when I checked the stores closest to me in my heathen liberal metro area, they all had more than one one-piece.
I don’t doubt it. I’m not particularly concerned about modesty but I am also Canadian and it is f’king cold here 75% of the year. I’ve never had issues finding clothing with a lot of coverage no matter what time of the year (if you don’t want coverage from the frost bite you want coverage from the mosquitoes. Every store has modest options they just aren’t frumpy and ugly so they can’t boast about how much better they are then the worldly women in them.
Prepubertal girls clothes being cut smaller and shorter and itchier than equivalent boys clothes is 100% an issue. So go to a sports shop rather than fashion shop?
I’m not denying that it isn’t but even she admitted there were useable options there. She just didn’t like them. There are ALWAYS modest options, I have never seen a store that doesn’t offer at least a few options of one piece bathing suits that are perfectly fine. The only point of her post was for her to make a big scene on how modest and better then everyone else she is.
are you able to find long bottoms too? Maybe it's just my area but I have an extremely hard time finding swim shorts/skirts for women and girls that aren't incredibly short.
Yeah I’ve never found a problem. Ive always been able to find swim shorts of varying lengths. Roxy is a good option as they specialise in the surfer look. That being said I don’t find a regular one piece bathing suit all that scandelous.
I don't think it's scandalous either don't get me wrong! It's more just a personal thing, I have a hard time relaxing and enjoying my time swimming when I’m tugging at my swimsuit or feeling like my butt is slipping out lol. I had a really hard time finding a cute youthful swim skirt or shorts that weren't super "cheeky". Everything that was long enough was really clearly designed for older ladies. Nothing wrong with that, but not what I was looking for. I found a skirt at Calypsa eventually, they have a lot of really cute stuff with a big variety of lengths and coverage!
No I totally get wanting it for your own physical comfort. I was more just trying albeit poorly to say that my idea of long shorts probably isn’t going to be a more conservatives person’s version of shorts. I find shorts that are really long to be constricting. I think part of it is I’m short so they are even longer on me but I just feel like I get lost in the legs.
I will never buy my daughter a one piece because it’s a nightmare to take her to pee. We do a long sleeve rash guard and regular bottoms. Those are for sale everywhere. She’s making it out like they are only selling g strings for kids. Good grief.
I just bought my daughter a long sleeve rash guard at the evil Target. And HARD AGREE on taking off one pieces to pee. It's like the kid version of the nightmare of getting stuck forever in a sports bra. Plus then you're sitting entirely naked and exposed when you pee, which also isn't modest.
I suppose we should at least be glad she's not having them swim in long denim skirts and jeans? Good fuck, the bar is in hell.
I went to see Alien with a trans woman wearing a romper, and I made a comment about how I'll never be brave enough to wear one because *I need to pee*. She taught me that trick, but in all fairness, she was cheating.
Apropos of nothing & just cos I love sharing this fact, the infamous scene in *Alien* was the writer's way of trying to describe what it's like to live with Crohn's disease. As someone who's lived with the condition for 30+ years, I find it a great way to visually explain it (& I just love it as a piece of trivia, lol)
I see your trivia and raise you another! HR Giger, the dude who designed the alien was a huge trans ally. He had a life altering sexual encounter with two trans women and based all his future artwork off that experience. And that's why all his paintings look like cyberpunk dicks.
Ooh, I have one too! At least one, and debatably two, of the characters in Alien are canonically trans. Lambert is a trans woman as revealed in the extended cut of Aliens, but Dallas was at least at one point Intended by writers to have been a trans man as well.
Yeah I was a competitive swimmer as a kid and had to wear swimsuits so tight it took 15 minutes just to get it on properly. Taking that thing off when wet and putting it back on would actually be impossible. We all did the crotch move.
This. I have swim capris (I wear something longer because I have had two bad burns on my legs when I was a kid), and a bikini top/swim bra under a rash guard because cover the skin. I wear a sun hat that shades my face plus sunscreen, and this is my outfit for sailing as well. Really, with all we know about skin cancer, the traditional girl's/women's bathing suit seems like a not great choice except for competitive swimming. Competitive swift tends to take place inside, and for when it doesn't, the competitors are not pool side a roasting for very long. I would imagine for outside swim, the coaches are probably adamant about using sunscreen.
Our adult kids still do rash guards and higher coverage swim bottoms. Our grandsons are being raised to do the same.
I've conditioned my kids to always wear UV shirts so much, that my son was *aghast* to see other little boys wearing trunks and no shirt at the pool! Even his dad wears a long sleeve UV shirt.
My daughter actually prefers swim trunks over bikini bottoms. We can get pink polka-dot trunks and matching UV top from Primary. Fantastic coverage, "feminine" colors to choose from, but the fundies would hate them because their whole thing is they don't gender any article of clothing.
Thanks for the reminder that Primary exists! I just hopped on their website & saw their warehouse sale was going on. Great prices & I stocked up on staples in future sizes 😊
Also, I like Primary to check my implicit biases concerning gendered colors & patterns. I realize that I'd buy just about any color and/or pattern for my daughter and niece, but not so for my nephew. Why do I view polka dots or giant circles as feminine?
I actually was at Old Navy for my 5 year old this week, and they have lots of full coverage suits for girls! My daughter is VERY fair, so she needs a long sleeve rash guard.
I’m a ghost and I appreciate that. She’ll appreciate you being diligent when she is older. I grew up on the beach and was burned and tanned more times than I could count. Not by choice my mom was a huge beach bunny.
Now I’m a vampire and avoid the sun. Ha!
💯 My kids are both super active and have sensory issues and the one year I put my daughter in a one piece at the beach she was miserable. I buy my kids two rash guard swim sets each year and it’s worked perfectly for all of us. Bonus - they sell them in SO many colors and patterns. She requested one with the princess from Tangled this year and I was able to find it no problem.
Seriously, all of my kid's swim suits are rash guards and swim skirts or shorts. Not for modesty, but because it means less time putting on sunscreen and she can get outside faster.
I've found them all over, as well. It's really not hard.
I did whine to my friends when I was trying to get a swimsuit for my 3 year old and when she moved from toddler to girls sizes this year the available suits and from rash guard shirt and a bottom (toddler section through size 5T) to crop top rash guard or suits with cut outs and two piece suits like she's showing here. Target had been my go to for suits for her, but their best option was a one piece with long sleeves that wouldn't be easy for her to go to the bathroom in (she would not allow me to put wet sleeves back on her, we're dealing with texture issues with wet stuff just like with my older two kids). I finally found one at Children's Place though that was what I was looking for, so now she's set. The whole point of the bathing suit is to keep her from burning the way I do, and toddlers do not need to be any more slippery with extra sunscreen if you need to grab them for safety reasons in the pool.
Imagine being so in denial that you see all the shitty horror stories about kids being raised as nomads and you’re like “yeah, god’s telling me to do THAT!”
These dumb assholes saw exile in the Bible and thought it was an instruction booklet.
Can you not order things for pick up in stores in America? I'm in England and it's definitely a thing, and it's often free vs paying for home delivery. All they would need to do is know where they'll be in about a week, and order it to a store that is conveniently located near their campsite. Or, you know, even plan a trip to a town or city simply to pick up an order, since their "house" is mobile.
Yep, and if you’re buying from Amazon, you can have it shipped to an Amazon locker. I’m not 100% sure how it works, but you can also arrange to have stuff shipped to a post office or UPS store and pick it up there. There are options!
Thing is?
They don't *have* Whole Foods in the rural back-country types of "off the grid" places they are "staying" (aka those "free" pull-over the trailer for a few days, without getting caught & fined for "camping" in a no-camping area parts of rural America, where they've been lately.)
You can find Old Navy stores in the outlet malls and in medium-sized towns.
But Whole Foods & Amazon Lockers are more likely to be in/near a real city, where they would have to park in an actual *campground* at night, because there are laws against simply "camping" wherever you pull over for the night.
Everywhere has a post office. They could definitely have stuff shipped there if they preplanned, but they seem to be flying by the seat of their pants.
Someone on Reddit actually made a map of all Amazon pickup locations in the U.S. (there are more options besides the lockers). Zoom in on any location and it'll show you hundreds of pickup points, including in very small towns. They have no excuse.
(Also this is just a cool resource!)
[LockerMap](https://lockermap.com/)
This is exactly it.
It makes me so sad that dumb people can’t tell they’re dumb, so they have all the confidence in the world. It’s like if the incompetent people in the Dunning Kruger effect studies got married to each other.
They’ve also learned to be helpless about most things, which is why they’re pretending they’re in The Grapes of Wrath.
Well, when your husband can't find a job, you've got an entire family packed into an RV, and you're trying to scrape by, "camping" in places where you can illegally *dump* your black & greywater tanks, rather than *pay* to dispose of the waste properly?
It *probably* sounds better to lie your kid, saying that "all the Old Navy swim suits are *indecent*!"
Than it is, to be *honest*, and say, "Sorry honey, Mom & Dad can't *afford* to pay for a swimsuit that fits you right now."
Having grown up poor (on welfare, from the time I was in second grade, until I graduated from high school)?
The way they've been "camping" in the posts shared to this subreddit--out in the middle of podunk-nowhere, where it's *highly* unlikely a cop would come along to say, "Hey you can't camp here," and seeing her progression from "Rested but worried Mom," to her appearance in *this* post--looking pretty unwell/unrested? (the bags & dark circles around her eyes, the sallow tone of her skin, and the way her hair looks dried out, reads like she's probably pretty stressed & not eating or sleeping well)
Those things add up--to me at least--to a stressed-out parent, who's *barely* keeping up the facade, to keep their kids from worrying about their dire straits financially.
And I've *definitely* known poor families, where parents would rather "tell a white lie" that put the blame on ridiculously false "other reasons," than being honest with the kids, that "mom and dad just can't afford to buy that for you right now."
Yes, absolutely we have that here. Every time you check out with an online order, it asks if you want home delivery (for an additional charge), or store pick up (free). This woman just lacks even the most basic problem solving skills.
This is one the first things I noticed about these people: they simply can't solve a problem. They just float through life dealing with one issue after another and can't get a grip.
It allows them to scream about PERSECUTION at all times. It must be so exhausting to live that way. My inherent laziness is just another reason why I could never be a fundie.
Oh it’s stupid easy, there‘s plenty of stores she could call or use a website for. If they’re ordering from Amazon or brick and mortar chain store, she wouldn’t even need a week to pick up many items, including children’s swim shirts.
This content is kind of the shopping equivalent of going to someone else’s special event and then loudly starting every conversation with “Oh I’m not drinking because I’m pregnant!! UwU!!”
They always act like finding swimwear is impossible. My oldest likes swimwear with long sleeves. I had no issue finding that for her at Target and Walmart. They just like to complain.
My only complaint tbh about swimwear is the fact society needs to stop thinking that plus sized women are members of the itty bitty titty committy.
I have a modest suit but I still have to wear a shirt because the built-in b-cup bra cannot contain the k-cup monstrosities affixed to my chest, and unfortunately the built in shelf would destroy the suit if i tried to take it out.
This is so real. I also hate that most bathing suits have no real breast support at all, just removable pads that may or may not end up sliding around.
I have a really slay shade and shore (target brand) suit I got several years ago that has underwire and lifts my boobs better than most of my bras ! I would highly recommend their wired collection.
I’ve finally figured out that the retro 50s style halter bikini tops are supportive as all get out. I buy plain bottoms and toss the high waisted bottoms because high waist bottoms always have this weird fabric panel that just makes my mom belly look bigger than it is.
Same but I’ve started buying my bathing suit tops at VS (they have bra sized tops and two of mine from there have underwire). Bare Necessities also sells suits that are bra sized with support.
Bra-sized swimwear is the answer for me - you can get real underwire support in your size! Check out suits made by lingerie brands like Panache, Freya, Elomi, Fantasie. You can find them at online lingerie stores like BareNecessities or Breakout Bras.
I was coming here to make the exact comment! Bra-sized swimwear changed my life. Plus, BareNecessities usually runs good sales. I got a nice bikini top from Panache this year. I wore it on a beach trip a few weeks ago and had zero Ocean Induced Boob Exposures.
And I have the opposite problem, as president of the IBTC, I can never find a one piece that is long enough in the torso, large enough for my enormous hips and booty, yet small enough for my boobs. I always end up with my boobs just kinda floating in the cups.
Not sure if it would fit K-cup (my condolences) but Lane Bryant swim tops are the only ones that fit my 42DDs. They have a top with a 1/4 zip. I've never had a top that fit my boobs and actually kept everything in place. The zipper is amazing. I can get it on and off with ease and still have support? I'll take three.
It's very common. For both boys and girls. All the parents I know like them for their sun protection. I've seen them at every store I've been to so they aren't a rare find.
Yeah I live in a lake town and I see kids in them all the time. I figured they had to be everywhere. Clearly this is just causing drama and controversy for the sake of it.
So easy to find. My kid wears a bathing suit that has long sleeves and long pants. Not because of *modesty* but because of sun protection. It’s not hard to find something that covers up.
My kid has a dinosaur surf-like swimsuit from Primark. It has other more protective, but she loves this one. Almost all kids shops in my city has, at least, a couple of them.
If I can find them, they can find them. US is much bigger, FFS.
I have two little boys and can confirm that, yes, they are super common. In the toddler section, they’re sold as a matching set of swim shirt and trunks. I see plenty of girls at the neighborhood pool wearing them too. Great for sun protection and to help keep kids warm if the water is chilly (my boys are freeze babies).
This is just my personal PSA but if you are sending your kid to summer camp in a swim shirt Please make sure they can get it off themself! Especially if they wear them kind of tight, I swear to god those things vacuum seal to the kid and as someone who worked at a camp where the kids swam every day and we weren’t allowed to help them change I had to bend the rules A Lot because kids would get stuck and start panicking trying to get rash guards off.
Millennial and GenZ I think are generally a lot less concerned with fashion cuteness for kids and more for health and practicality because this kind of swimwear is in a ton of stores besides just sporting good stores. It wouldn't be so popular if it wasn't selling at high percentages. When I was last swimming with my grandsons, easily 75% of the kids on the beach were wearing rash guards and longer swim bottoms.
I will say though I have had a really hard time finding longer swim bottoms for girls and women. Even the swim shorts/skirts at target and old navy are very short.
It's slightly more niche in the UK but you just need to look for clothing aimed at surfing rather than general swimming - not hard now we have the internet 🤷🏼♀️
The irony, that she requires bathing suits that expose JUST ENOUGH of her daughters’ skin.
Can’t cover up too much or she’ll be confused with a boy. Can’t have that!
She looks like she's going to have a nervous breakdown. Didn't she cover girls' swimsuits last summer? Maybe things would be easier if they had a permanent address.
When you're freaking out about children's swimwear and being passive aggressive with a hobby lobby coloring book is all that can console you, you need to sort out your priorities.
Honestly its like a neurotic compulsion instead of coping because shes so stressed. I know this because before I got therapy I had anxious fixations not like this one but they would seriously derail my day. Also with her saying one child is sensitive to the texture and fit of clothes..… otherbussany needs to consider if she may have some coping via obsessions going on for her own sensitivities.
I'm glad you got the support you needed and I hope she will, too. It's normal for some kids to be weird about their clothes. But I would also worry that her kids are picking up on her anxiety/stress and maybe showing it this way.
This is yet another thing that gives me a twinge of "if only." I got help for my anxiety and talked about it with my mom, and now she's being more open about her own anxieties and calling them what they are. They could help each other through it, instead it's....whatever this is.
She covered it a few weeks ago! It was a disgusting post about how her daughter asked for a two-piece and Jake had to sit her down and talk to her about why those kinds of bathing suits are inappropriate and how they make men “stumble.” I’m pretty sure her daughter is 6/7.
I have no doubt that she is stressed the fuck out and it channeling her anger into this bullshit. I really wish they would admit they fucked up and try to find a permanent place to live, but the Struggle Buses are just going to call it “God’s plan.”
I think they're also broke as shit right now, and any shopping for kids' clothing is stressful. She's irritated because Old Navy is super cheap, but the daughter is really picky so she wasn't able to pick up a bathing suit for $10 like she hoped.
Broke as shit and in a hole I'm not sure they can get out of now. Even to rent, you need proof of stable income and enough for a deposit, etc. Buying is now off of the table for them for the foreseeable future. Talk about not thinking this through, at all. They are literally homeless without a permanent address.
I was funny about insisting on wearing modest swimsuits until i was like 14. You can find reasonably modest sporty one pieces at any dicks sporting goods. They will have speedo, Nike, and several other brands of basic, comfortable, athletic swimwear for girls. This is definitely a solved problem!
Same! Took me a while to feel comfortabke in less. Even now I dont like being uncovered. Not just sunburn, just a me thing. and you’re right, Nike has a whole range for hijabi incl swim hijab! At least they used to, I trained martial arts ince upon a time with a woman who wore either nike or adidas sports hijab. Speedo has triathlon clothes that work as swimwear that meet coverage requirements as well as some modest items, and a rashguard and pair of swimming tights are available if you bother to plan. While there are less modesty items for young children because only insane people think young children can be immodest, a rashguard and a pair of rash leggings will do the trick.
Otherbussany just doesnt want to **pay** for a product that is in less demand, she wants the world to cater to her specifically. She wants to act sandalised about swimsuits sexualising young children which, ironically, is actually more sexualising for them.… she posts the same girls all over the internet for any creep to obsess over. Modesty starts by getting them offline!
My daughter wears a long sleeve swimsuit and over that she wears board shorts. She does a lot of physical activities at scouts and that combo is both sun safe and practical for things like kayaking.
Sure, you can buy bikinis for girls in Australia too but most parents will insist on a rash shirt over the top as it’s just not sun safe.
That works too. I’m not opposed to a two piece, but I’ve seen kids at the beach with terrible sunburns on their lower backs where the top has ridden up and no one has realised to put suncream there so I’m a bit hesitant.
Old Navy has always sold out of swimsuits in store fast. If you check online there are lots of one piece options, rashguards and board shorts. She really can’t complain about shipping being difficult when they decided to live in a camper.
It’s also bs because they can definitely order shit online and have it delivered to specific locations so they can pick it up. They’re just looking for reasons to complain.
Honestly, it wouldn’t surprise me if she didn’t know where they’re going or when they’ll get there.
People like her always choose harder and harder lives to live so they can complain about how hard their lives are. They are too unintelligent and cowardly to actually challenge themselves, so they physically self-flagellate by choosing paths that are difficult in a *simple* way.
“Leaving it up to god” beats the hell out of actually confronting your faith/upbringing.
This is actually a bad time of year to buy a swimsuit. Most things will be sold out and won't be restocked. Come 4th of July, people just stop buying summer clothes entirely.
Children have never been more covered during water play than they are now. Everyone has rash guards and wet suits, for boys and girls. This simply wasn’t a thing when I was a child (and fair skinned kids had to wear actual t shirts over their suits in the pool). Most of us do it for sun protection, but it has never been easier to find modest swim wear.
Thanks! But I've learned from my childhood pain, the kids have rash guards and get sprayed with sunscreen every hour and a half when we're outside. So far, nothing worse than a little pink on the cheeks after an impromptu play sesh outside.
She's surprised that Hobby Lobby panders to Christians when HL literally donates to anti LGBTQ agendas...yeah really "bold" and good job seggsualizing kids swimsuits. Are you gonna blame the young girl wearing the "immodest" suit for your husband straying??? I'm so sick of this disgusting purity culture bullshit. Enforcing what little kids wear instead of calling out anyone that would look at your kid in that way in the first place. This is why predators flock to churches and private Christian schools and yes even homeschool groups because they know that most of these places have policies to save face and that the kids are vulnerable and made to be oblivious to what is not appropriate and what is abusive...
If only they were half as outraged about the abusive predators infiltrating their churches and schools and spaces as they were a swimsuit or pride month.
Idk what it is but frogs and mushrooms just seem like bi culture.
Also I just got a little llama keychain and he has a rainbow scarf tied around his neck! It’s the cutest thing and my coworker wants one now.
She’s so insufferable. Even just reading her words and seeing her day to day life makes me want to bang my head against the wall til I pass out. I can’t imagine having to deal with her IRL.
Bethany clearly hasn't learned the poor person's swimsuit: a fucking tshirt and shorts.
I got by with that most of middle school. I'm all for modesty, but this faux outrage over shit like this when fundies fucking parade their children on social media whilst in the bath or in nothing more than a diaper is obnoxious.
The city pools here (lol, the same city buss-any) left, just put out a notice of what is pool appropriate swim wear. One is no string bikini or thongs, and so many comments were thanking them for thinking of the children.
Idk why they dont all just wear rash guards and board shorts. Oh wait, we have to make sure our precious little girls are *properly gendered in a GODLY way*.
How will people know they are little girls if they don't have a one piece on????????? What if someone mistakes them for a BOY because we are NOT conforming to gender clothes???????? Can't have that now can we.
The thing is, they sell rash guards and board shorts for girls! My daughter loves girly shit, and she has several rash guards that are pink and very clearly FOR GIRLS. She has no excuse. She just wants to complain because she’s miserable, but she can’t take it out on her useless husband.
My daughter has that one lol she doesn’t usually show her midsection but went a little wild this summer. I loved that for her. I was just proud she was comfortable in her own skin.
MoBus posted similar nonsense about maternity clothes. They can't get something they want at the single store they go to so they cry 'persecution' - rather than going to the thousands of brick and online stores which stock exactly what they want. Anything for content......
Otherbussany just doesnt want to **pay** for a product that is in less demand, she wants the world to cater to her obsessions, paranoias and sexual obsessions specifically. She wants to act sandalised about swimsuits sexualising young children while, somewhat ironically, sexualising for them.… literally noone other than prurient weirdos is worried about a seven year old having little cut outs or beads on their bathers! Yet this ***Modesty MamaBear*** posts the same girls all over the internet for any creep to obsess over. Modesty starts by getting them offline!
Damn I just took my kid to Sam’s and got her the matching shorts with a rash guard! She hates sunscreen so that works. Why she acting like no store carry modest swim wear?
I will never understand the hatred for bikinis, but I grew up on the beach and took my kids as often as possible when we visited my parents. You ever try to wrangle a potty training toddler out of a wet and sandy one piece in a public bathroom to catch a pee in time? Bikinis or bottoms only in my world.
Even in my most fundie time of my life, I always had bikinis. My dad was practical about that one thing and just had us girls swim in T-shirts at church functions.
As a person who shopped for her and her god daughter swim wear last minute for a beach trip at old navy, Yes Auntie Basket waits to the last minute for everything, this lady can get fucked with her lies. Old navy has a VARIETY of swim wear for both adults and kids that’s modest or not. Maybe the shoppers at her location aren’t about body shaming their 8 year olds or don’t go outdoor swimming a bunch? Also why is she so focused on modest swimwear for the girls but nothing for the boys? Why don’t they have to be modest? She’d flip her shit if she knew as a kid when I visited family on Europe my cousins and I just ran around the back topless
My 12 year old daughter has this exact swimsuit in solid blue. She is not a fan of showing off her body, and she just said yesterday that she loves this swimsuit because it covers just the right places while still looking good. I agree with her!
So, I'm going to guess that Bethany just likes to complain for the sake of hearing her own voice.
I bought my toddler a long sleeved swim suit with shorts halfway to her knees from Old Navy this year, no cut outs, very high neckline. Idk what she’s on about. For older girls they have [this](https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=862763022&cid=45211&pcid=45211&vid=1&cpos=14&cexp=2926&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D45211&cvar=26331&ctype=Listing&cpid=res24061904510902382205660&ccam=34743#pdp-page-content) in three color ways, she could just put shorts over it if she wants more bottom coverage. They also had about fifteen options for like regular traditional 1 piece shapes….
She’s still on about swimsuits. Hopefully not still shaming her daughter for asking for a 2 piece. My daughter only wears two pieces because one piece swimsuits that fit her width wise are too short for her torso so they ride up and hurt her. There’s a lot of real estate between a string bikini and a rashguard or tankini (which are what my kid wears).
I don't like the swimsuit options for little girls either. One piece suits are very hard to use the bathroom in, and my daughter has a body shape that makes them all ride up her butt. A lot of two piece suits show tons of skin, which is a pain for sun protection and make it more difficult for active little girls to play without constantly readjusting the suit. Tbh, women's swimsuits suck as well.
My solution is to buy a rash guard shirt that matches the bathing suit bottom and just have my daughter wear that as the top. Sun protection, covers the shoulders/arms/stomach, no real adjusting needed.
They make swim skirts and shorts for girls, we have a suit like that too. It's literally a short sleeve top and shorts. It covers as much as a typical summer outfit and the neckline is higher than most t-shirts.
There are options for these people. They just like complaining and calling businesses out for not pandering to their wants.
I literally forget she exists sometimes. She is probably the most dour and personally unhappy of all the people on this page. You could never convince me this woman has felt a moment of true joy in her entire life.
Aside from the fake 'it's hard to find good gahdly swimwear for girls' bullshit because bitches like this just HAVE to act like their lives are hard for believing in Jesus, how is Hobby Lobby been brave for continuing to sell the same christ-craft shit they sell all year round? Ffs this woman is pathetic.
The girl on the coppertone bottle has a 2 piece and that was back in the good ole days that she longs for........ anyways there are a lot of kids one pieces and rash guards in major retailers, she just wants to complain and fear monger about stupid stuff. Or she's mad they couldn't afford the one she wanted and need to rage. I'm sure she was an ass to the salespeople.
Ever changed a toddler's diaper in a one piece? I will dress my nieces like Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders if it means I don't have to try to get a wet one piece off and on them.
Also, I recognize every song they play at Hobby Lobby/Chik Fil A from my fundie days *and I hate it*. (I try not to shop at either, but going to Hobby Lobby is the only reason my grandma will visit my side of town, and some days my scumbag ARFID goes "no food is safe except Chik Fil A".)
Just looked on old navy’s website and they had more than 10 one piece options for girls with no cut outs, strings, or beads; all styles available for purchase in stores. She’s full of shit and needs a new hobby or idk maybe a fuckin JOB.
Exactly this- they absolutely offer more options, and while maybe that location was picked over, given her history I’m inclined to think she’s lying so she can whine. Go to another store then? What a jerk.
I will admit, when I took my 10 year old to get a new swimsuit, it was hard finding something she would be comfortable in. A lot of it was two pieces that were missing just a bit too much fabric. Definitely something my little one isn't comfortable in as she's growing into her body. However, she fell in love with the one piece swimsuits with the cutouts. She's transitioning from a kid look to a preteen look and the one piece she went with was a mix of both for her. She got another one, which was a two piece that came with a shirt and shorts, so she can determine her comfort level with that.
Can I talk about this for a second from a seamstress point of view? The reason big corporations have swimsuits that don’t cover little girls like they want is they are scaling down pattern sizes for little girls from womens wear. If I was working for slave wages I would not be making different swimsuits for little girls, I just scale down the pattern and pray I can eat at some point.
Meaning people are upset because they feel it’s predatory; that’s capitalism for you. If you force people to work for no pay, they aren’t going to give you what you want.
It infuriates me to no end that these people sexualize these girls swimsuits but don’t know that’s the consequence of not paying people for their labor.
Stop specializing girls demand more of corporations
I’m a big ol’ immodest atheist, with 3 daughters. I have never had a problem finding them full-coverage swimwear. My 8yo still wears a long sleeve rash guard most of the time, because, sun protection. Of all the clothing I need to get them, swimsuits have easily required the least hunting.
I get not wanting your small child's bits hanging out, but old navy is generally pretty sedate with their kids bathing suits. Also two pieces rock. So much easier to get on and off at any age. Get that child a rash guard and some board shorts. Problem solved. This is just stupid rage bait from her especially with that face she makes.
Nobody wants to look at your daughters Pikachu. How about you keep your kids off the socials, and nobody would know what kids are wearing to swim and have fun. Stop making EVERYTHING about purity. Kids swim, in swimsuits. Get over yourself
I’m failing to see the issue with the cut outs in the swim suit?? Why do fundies seem so overly occupied with people’s bodies? You know who’s sexualizing your kids StruggleBethy?? YOU ARE!
Holy persecution complex. It's not hard to find "modest" kids swimwear. I've bought what they'd consider modest for my son and daughter since year 1, mostly for sun protection but also my personal preference. Wal Mart, Target, Old Navy have always had rash guards for girls and boys and long sleeve/short sleeve one pieces for girls.
There are always suits that I wouldn't choose, sometimes they outnumber the ones I would choose. But it's not hard at all to move to the next rack or check a different store. If it's so important to you, you make the time to go find it. I do it every year, somehow without screeching on Instagram about it.
There’s lots of companies that design swimwear specifically for Muslim women and girls but I sense that she would not appreciate hearing that. What a traffic cone.
I hated shifting through bikinis when my daughter was little too but only because I wanted sun protection!! Now she’s a teen in teeny weeny polka dot bikinis and I just force her to apply sunscreen at least once before she runs off to her friends.
Go to a store that specializes in either swimsuits or outdoor rec store?? They'll have more than Targé. You know you don't like Target, especially during June, so why are you dragging your dumb ass there??
Buy your kid a goddamn UV rashguard and a swim skirt. There. I solved your problem. Plus, more coverage == less skin you need to slather in sunblock (which she probably doesn't do anyway).
Yes, but then they can’t cry persecution. None of this is actually about modesty, it is all about the production of being too pure for the regular world. She admitted there were one piece swimsuit options without cutouts she just didn’t like them. Instead of being a normal person and just going to another store when they don’t like what it is being offered they whine.
[Old Navy sells plenty of girls one-pieces, board shorts, and rashguards.](https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/category.do?cid=45211&nav=hamnav%3AGirls%3AShop%20Girls%20Categories%3ASwimsuits#) Granted, they're not all available at all stores. But when I checked the stores closest to me in my heathen liberal metro area, they all had more than one one-piece.
I don’t doubt it. I’m not particularly concerned about modesty but I am also Canadian and it is f’king cold here 75% of the year. I’ve never had issues finding clothing with a lot of coverage no matter what time of the year (if you don’t want coverage from the frost bite you want coverage from the mosquitoes. Every store has modest options they just aren’t frumpy and ugly so they can’t boast about how much better they are then the worldly women in them.
Lol
Prepubertal girls clothes being cut smaller and shorter and itchier than equivalent boys clothes is 100% an issue. So go to a sports shop rather than fashion shop?
I’m not denying that it isn’t but even she admitted there were useable options there. She just didn’t like them. There are ALWAYS modest options, I have never seen a store that doesn’t offer at least a few options of one piece bathing suits that are perfectly fine. The only point of her post was for her to make a big scene on how modest and better then everyone else she is.
are you able to find long bottoms too? Maybe it's just my area but I have an extremely hard time finding swim shorts/skirts for women and girls that aren't incredibly short.
Yeah I’ve never found a problem. Ive always been able to find swim shorts of varying lengths. Roxy is a good option as they specialise in the surfer look. That being said I don’t find a regular one piece bathing suit all that scandelous.
I don't think it's scandalous either don't get me wrong! It's more just a personal thing, I have a hard time relaxing and enjoying my time swimming when I’m tugging at my swimsuit or feeling like my butt is slipping out lol. I had a really hard time finding a cute youthful swim skirt or shorts that weren't super "cheeky". Everything that was long enough was really clearly designed for older ladies. Nothing wrong with that, but not what I was looking for. I found a skirt at Calypsa eventually, they have a lot of really cute stuff with a big variety of lengths and coverage!
No I totally get wanting it for your own physical comfort. I was more just trying albeit poorly to say that my idea of long shorts probably isn’t going to be a more conservatives person’s version of shorts. I find shorts that are really long to be constricting. I think part of it is I’m short so they are even longer on me but I just feel like I get lost in the legs.
I will never buy my daughter a one piece because it’s a nightmare to take her to pee. We do a long sleeve rash guard and regular bottoms. Those are for sale everywhere. She’s making it out like they are only selling g strings for kids. Good grief.
I just bought my daughter a long sleeve rash guard at the evil Target. And HARD AGREE on taking off one pieces to pee. It's like the kid version of the nightmare of getting stuck forever in a sports bra. Plus then you're sitting entirely naked and exposed when you pee, which also isn't modest. I suppose we should at least be glad she's not having them swim in long denim skirts and jeans? Good fuck, the bar is in hell.
Swimming in drainage ditches in long denim skirts
I guess I'm the only one who figured out how to pull the crotch of my one piece to the side to pee.
I went to see Alien with a trans woman wearing a romper, and I made a comment about how I'll never be brave enough to wear one because *I need to pee*. She taught me that trick, but in all fairness, she was cheating.
Apropos of nothing & just cos I love sharing this fact, the infamous scene in *Alien* was the writer's way of trying to describe what it's like to live with Crohn's disease. As someone who's lived with the condition for 30+ years, I find it a great way to visually explain it (& I just love it as a piece of trivia, lol)
I see your trivia and raise you another! HR Giger, the dude who designed the alien was a huge trans ally. He had a life altering sexual encounter with two trans women and based all his future artwork off that experience. And that's why all his paintings look like cyberpunk dicks.
Ooh, I have one too! At least one, and debatably two, of the characters in Alien are canonically trans. Lambert is a trans woman as revealed in the extended cut of Aliens, but Dallas was at least at one point Intended by writers to have been a trans man as well.
Yeah I was a competitive swimmer as a kid and had to wear swimsuits so tight it took 15 minutes just to get it on properly. Taking that thing off when wet and putting it back on would actually be impossible. We all did the crotch move.
I’ve done that myself for sure but it’s so hard to do that for little kids. You will end up with pee all over their suit, their hand or your hand.
Yeah that makes sense.
Nope I had to learn this for ballet! Life changing.
Today you taught me something!
This. I have swim capris (I wear something longer because I have had two bad burns on my legs when I was a kid), and a bikini top/swim bra under a rash guard because cover the skin. I wear a sun hat that shades my face plus sunscreen, and this is my outfit for sailing as well. Really, with all we know about skin cancer, the traditional girl's/women's bathing suit seems like a not great choice except for competitive swimming. Competitive swift tends to take place inside, and for when it doesn't, the competitors are not pool side a roasting for very long. I would imagine for outside swim, the coaches are probably adamant about using sunscreen. Our adult kids still do rash guards and higher coverage swim bottoms. Our grandsons are being raised to do the same.
I've conditioned my kids to always wear UV shirts so much, that my son was *aghast* to see other little boys wearing trunks and no shirt at the pool! Even his dad wears a long sleeve UV shirt. My daughter actually prefers swim trunks over bikini bottoms. We can get pink polka-dot trunks and matching UV top from Primary. Fantastic coverage, "feminine" colors to choose from, but the fundies would hate them because their whole thing is they don't gender any article of clothing.
My kids also think it’s a crazy idea not to wear at least a short sleeve rash guard!
Thanks for the reminder that Primary exists! I just hopped on their website & saw their warehouse sale was going on. Great prices & I stocked up on staples in future sizes 😊 Also, I like Primary to check my implicit biases concerning gendered colors & patterns. I realize that I'd buy just about any color and/or pattern for my daughter and niece, but not so for my nephew. Why do I view polka dots or giant circles as feminine?
I LOVE the Primary swimwear. We’re prone to burning so we need the coverage, lots of color options, and they’ve held up great to a lot of use.
Yup. Rash guard and bottoms for life. For me as well, because taking myself pee in a one piece is a nightmare too haha
I know they sell rash guards at Old Navy, too. She just didn’t want what they had.
I was going to say, I purchase long sleeve rash guards and bottoms for my daughter at Old Navy because she burns so easily.
I actually was at Old Navy for my 5 year old this week, and they have lots of full coverage suits for girls! My daughter is VERY fair, so she needs a long sleeve rash guard.
I’m a ghost and I appreciate that. She’ll appreciate you being diligent when she is older. I grew up on the beach and was burned and tanned more times than I could count. Not by choice my mom was a huge beach bunny. Now I’m a vampire and avoid the sun. Ha!
I'm a ghost too! I finally found a long sleeve rash guard that fits me (a fat lady)
Persecution fetish
💯 My kids are both super active and have sensory issues and the one year I put my daughter in a one piece at the beach she was miserable. I buy my kids two rash guard swim sets each year and it’s worked perfectly for all of us. Bonus - they sell them in SO many colors and patterns. She requested one with the princess from Tangled this year and I was able to find it no problem.
People just want to act stupid. These options have been out there forever.
These are the people who feel assaulted by the *presence* of pride flags
Seriously, all of my kid's swim suits are rash guards and swim skirts or shorts. Not for modesty, but because it means less time putting on sunscreen and she can get outside faster. I've found them all over, as well. It's really not hard.
Or board shorts. Rash guards and board shorts are available basically everywhere.
I did whine to my friends when I was trying to get a swimsuit for my 3 year old and when she moved from toddler to girls sizes this year the available suits and from rash guard shirt and a bottom (toddler section through size 5T) to crop top rash guard or suits with cut outs and two piece suits like she's showing here. Target had been my go to for suits for her, but their best option was a one piece with long sleeves that wouldn't be easy for her to go to the bathroom in (she would not allow me to put wet sleeves back on her, we're dealing with texture issues with wet stuff just like with my older two kids). I finally found one at Children's Place though that was what I was looking for, so now she's set. The whole point of the bathing suit is to keep her from burning the way I do, and toddlers do not need to be any more slippery with extra sunscreen if you need to grab them for safety reasons in the pool.
"things are hard for us with shipping"
"We're homeless and in denial about it"
Imagine being so in denial that you see all the shitty horror stories about kids being raised as nomads and you’re like “yeah, god’s telling me to do THAT!” These dumb assholes saw exile in the Bible and thought it was an instruction booklet.
Ok I snort laughed, thanks. Ha
Can you not order things for pick up in stores in America? I'm in England and it's definitely a thing, and it's often free vs paying for home delivery. All they would need to do is know where they'll be in about a week, and order it to a store that is conveniently located near their campsite. Or, you know, even plan a trip to a town or city simply to pick up an order, since their "house" is mobile.
You most definitely can! She is dumber than dirt! These people are the most useless, incapable, complaining assholes...
Yep, and if you’re buying from Amazon, you can have it shipped to an Amazon locker. I’m not 100% sure how it works, but you can also arrange to have stuff shipped to a post office or UPS store and pick it up there. There are options!
They even have amazon lockers at some whole foods locations.
Thing is? They don't *have* Whole Foods in the rural back-country types of "off the grid" places they are "staying" (aka those "free" pull-over the trailer for a few days, without getting caught & fined for "camping" in a no-camping area parts of rural America, where they've been lately.) You can find Old Navy stores in the outlet malls and in medium-sized towns. But Whole Foods & Amazon Lockers are more likely to be in/near a real city, where they would have to park in an actual *campground* at night, because there are laws against simply "camping" wherever you pull over for the night.
Everywhere has a post office. They could definitely have stuff shipped there if they preplanned, but they seem to be flying by the seat of their pants.
Someone on Reddit actually made a map of all Amazon pickup locations in the U.S. (there are more options besides the lockers). Zoom in on any location and it'll show you hundreds of pickup points, including in very small towns. They have no excuse. (Also this is just a cool resource!) [LockerMap](https://lockermap.com/)
This is exactly it. It makes me so sad that dumb people can’t tell they’re dumb, so they have all the confidence in the world. It’s like if the incompetent people in the Dunning Kruger effect studies got married to each other. They’ve also learned to be helpless about most things, which is why they’re pretending they’re in The Grapes of Wrath.
Well, when your husband can't find a job, you've got an entire family packed into an RV, and you're trying to scrape by, "camping" in places where you can illegally *dump* your black & greywater tanks, rather than *pay* to dispose of the waste properly? It *probably* sounds better to lie your kid, saying that "all the Old Navy swim suits are *indecent*!" Than it is, to be *honest*, and say, "Sorry honey, Mom & Dad can't *afford* to pay for a swimsuit that fits you right now."
Having grown up poor (on welfare, from the time I was in second grade, until I graduated from high school)? The way they've been "camping" in the posts shared to this subreddit--out in the middle of podunk-nowhere, where it's *highly* unlikely a cop would come along to say, "Hey you can't camp here," and seeing her progression from "Rested but worried Mom," to her appearance in *this* post--looking pretty unwell/unrested? (the bags & dark circles around her eyes, the sallow tone of her skin, and the way her hair looks dried out, reads like she's probably pretty stressed & not eating or sleeping well) Those things add up--to me at least--to a stressed-out parent, who's *barely* keeping up the facade, to keep their kids from worrying about their dire straits financially. And I've *definitely* known poor families, where parents would rather "tell a white lie" that put the blame on ridiculously false "other reasons," than being honest with the kids, that "mom and dad just can't afford to buy that for you right now."
Yes, absolutely we have that here. Every time you check out with an online order, it asks if you want home delivery (for an additional charge), or store pick up (free). This woman just lacks even the most basic problem solving skills.
This is one the first things I noticed about these people: they simply can't solve a problem. They just float through life dealing with one issue after another and can't get a grip.
It allows them to scream about PERSECUTION at all times. It must be so exhausting to live that way. My inherent laziness is just another reason why I could never be a fundie.
Oh it’s stupid easy, there‘s plenty of stores she could call or use a website for. If they’re ordering from Amazon or brick and mortar chain store, she wouldn’t even need a week to pick up many items, including children’s swim shirts. This content is kind of the shopping equivalent of going to someone else’s special event and then loudly starting every conversation with “Oh I’m not drinking because I’m pregnant!! UwU!!”
Doesn't Amazon have those locker locations all over the place?
They always act like finding swimwear is impossible. My oldest likes swimwear with long sleeves. I had no issue finding that for her at Target and Walmart. They just like to complain.
My only complaint tbh about swimwear is the fact society needs to stop thinking that plus sized women are members of the itty bitty titty committy. I have a modest suit but I still have to wear a shirt because the built-in b-cup bra cannot contain the k-cup monstrosities affixed to my chest, and unfortunately the built in shelf would destroy the suit if i tried to take it out.
This is so real. I also hate that most bathing suits have no real breast support at all, just removable pads that may or may not end up sliding around.
I have a really slay shade and shore (target brand) suit I got several years ago that has underwire and lifts my boobs better than most of my bras ! I would highly recommend their wired collection.
This is a problem at every size. I’ve settled on a sports bra and running shorts (with the built in undies) and a rash guard.
I discovered using a sports bra and running shorts for swimming last year and I will never go back. So much more supportive and comfy
I have a smaller chest and this is still a problem
I’ve finally figured out that the retro 50s style halter bikini tops are supportive as all get out. I buy plain bottoms and toss the high waisted bottoms because high waist bottoms always have this weird fabric panel that just makes my mom belly look bigger than it is.
Same but I’ve started buying my bathing suit tops at VS (they have bra sized tops and two of mine from there have underwire). Bare Necessities also sells suits that are bra sized with support.
I wear a cheap skin toned sports bra to keep the girls contained.
I buy my swimwear from Bravissimo. I've just taken a look and they go up to a L cup in some styles.
CupShe is another one that does a decently praised big Chichis swimsuit line.
Bra-sized swimwear is the answer for me - you can get real underwire support in your size! Check out suits made by lingerie brands like Panache, Freya, Elomi, Fantasie. You can find them at online lingerie stores like BareNecessities or Breakout Bras.
I was coming here to make the exact comment! Bra-sized swimwear changed my life. Plus, BareNecessities usually runs good sales. I got a nice bikini top from Panache this year. I wore it on a beach trip a few weeks ago and had zero Ocean Induced Boob Exposures.
And I have the opposite problem, as president of the IBTC, I can never find a one piece that is long enough in the torso, large enough for my enormous hips and booty, yet small enough for my boobs. I always end up with my boobs just kinda floating in the cups.
I’m the exact same! I just have sports bras, rash guards and swim shorts now but I miss wearing cute bathing suits!
Google “cup sized swimwear” it’ll change your life.
Not sure if it would fit K-cup (my condolences) but Lane Bryant swim tops are the only ones that fit my 42DDs. They have a top with a 1/4 zip. I've never had a top that fit my boobs and actually kept everything in place. The zipper is amazing. I can get it on and off with ease and still have support? I'll take three.
This was my thought too. Aren’t swimshirts for kids super common these days??
It's very common. For both boys and girls. All the parents I know like them for their sun protection. I've seen them at every store I've been to so they aren't a rare find.
Yeah I live in a lake town and I see kids in them all the time. I figured they had to be everywhere. Clearly this is just causing drama and controversy for the sake of it.
For engagement
So easy to find. My kid wears a bathing suit that has long sleeves and long pants. Not because of *modesty* but because of sun protection. It’s not hard to find something that covers up.
Almost every kid at swim school (indoor pool) wears a swim shirt. She loves to find things to whine about.
My kid has a dinosaur surf-like swimsuit from Primark. It has other more protective, but she loves this one. Almost all kids shops in my city has, at least, a couple of them. If I can find them, they can find them. US is much bigger, FFS.
I rocked the rash guard as a kid in like 2007, they're definitely an established option in a lot of places
I have two little boys and can confirm that, yes, they are super common. In the toddler section, they’re sold as a matching set of swim shirt and trunks. I see plenty of girls at the neighborhood pool wearing them too. Great for sun protection and to help keep kids warm if the water is chilly (my boys are freeze babies).
This is just my personal PSA but if you are sending your kid to summer camp in a swim shirt Please make sure they can get it off themself! Especially if they wear them kind of tight, I swear to god those things vacuum seal to the kid and as someone who worked at a camp where the kids swam every day and we weren’t allowed to help them change I had to bend the rules A Lot because kids would get stuck and start panicking trying to get rash guards off.
Yeah, every single kids’ clothing store I’ve been in lately has long-sleeved one-piece rashguard swimsuits for girls. They’re not uncommon.
Millennial and GenZ I think are generally a lot less concerned with fashion cuteness for kids and more for health and practicality because this kind of swimwear is in a ton of stores besides just sporting good stores. It wouldn't be so popular if it wasn't selling at high percentages. When I was last swimming with my grandsons, easily 75% of the kids on the beach were wearing rash guards and longer swim bottoms.
I will say though I have had a really hard time finding longer swim bottoms for girls and women. Even the swim shorts/skirts at target and old navy are very short.
It's slightly more niche in the UK but you just need to look for clothing aimed at surfing rather than general swimming - not hard now we have the internet 🤷🏼♀️
Decathlon is good for that sort of thing!
It is all performative pearl clutching in order to gain martyrdom attention. That "Don't lie" part of the 10 commandments is 100% lost on them.
My daughter and I are part of the burns through windows club so we both wear long suits and never have a problem finding them.
Too bad her girls can't wear boys clothes because a rash guard and board shorts cover a lot. But then her outrage wouldn't be performative.
I got cute board shorts with bluey and a pink sun shirt for kiddo to swim in. It’s awesome as I don’t have to constantly slather her in sunscreen
The irony, that she requires bathing suits that expose JUST ENOUGH of her daughters’ skin. Can’t cover up too much or she’ll be confused with a boy. Can’t have that!
I sometimes wore board shorts over my bathing suits as a kid. They were shorter than fundies would prefer, but they covered enough.
Except you can get those for girls too. She has no excuse.
Right! I’m 41 and wore girls board shorts as a teen. 😂
She looks like she's going to have a nervous breakdown. Didn't she cover girls' swimsuits last summer? Maybe things would be easier if they had a permanent address. When you're freaking out about children's swimwear and being passive aggressive with a hobby lobby coloring book is all that can console you, you need to sort out your priorities.
Honestly its like a neurotic compulsion instead of coping because shes so stressed. I know this because before I got therapy I had anxious fixations not like this one but they would seriously derail my day. Also with her saying one child is sensitive to the texture and fit of clothes..… otherbussany needs to consider if she may have some coping via obsessions going on for her own sensitivities.
I'm glad you got the support you needed and I hope she will, too. It's normal for some kids to be weird about their clothes. But I would also worry that her kids are picking up on her anxiety/stress and maybe showing it this way.
Also possible that a kid is neurodivergent and needs more support than she can give them.
This is yet another thing that gives me a twinge of "if only." I got help for my anxiety and talked about it with my mom, and now she's being more open about her own anxieties and calling them what they are. They could help each other through it, instead it's....whatever this is.
She covered it a few weeks ago! It was a disgusting post about how her daughter asked for a two-piece and Jake had to sit her down and talk to her about why those kinds of bathing suits are inappropriate and how they make men “stumble.” I’m pretty sure her daughter is 6/7. I have no doubt that she is stressed the fuck out and it channeling her anger into this bullshit. I really wish they would admit they fucked up and try to find a permanent place to live, but the Struggle Buses are just going to call it “God’s plan.”
I think they're also broke as shit right now, and any shopping for kids' clothing is stressful. She's irritated because Old Navy is super cheap, but the daughter is really picky so she wasn't able to pick up a bathing suit for $10 like she hoped.
Broke as shit and in a hole I'm not sure they can get out of now. Even to rent, you need proof of stable income and enough for a deposit, etc. Buying is now off of the table for them for the foreseeable future. Talk about not thinking this through, at all. They are literally homeless without a permanent address.
I thought this rage bait sounded familiar! You’d think she would have been able to find a solution over the course of a year, but alas!
I was funny about insisting on wearing modest swimsuits until i was like 14. You can find reasonably modest sporty one pieces at any dicks sporting goods. They will have speedo, Nike, and several other brands of basic, comfortable, athletic swimwear for girls. This is definitely a solved problem!
Same! Took me a while to feel comfortabke in less. Even now I dont like being uncovered. Not just sunburn, just a me thing. and you’re right, Nike has a whole range for hijabi incl swim hijab! At least they used to, I trained martial arts ince upon a time with a woman who wore either nike or adidas sports hijab. Speedo has triathlon clothes that work as swimwear that meet coverage requirements as well as some modest items, and a rashguard and pair of swimming tights are available if you bother to plan. While there are less modesty items for young children because only insane people think young children can be immodest, a rashguard and a pair of rash leggings will do the trick. Otherbussany just doesnt want to **pay** for a product that is in less demand, she wants the world to cater to her specifically. She wants to act sandalised about swimsuits sexualising young children which, ironically, is actually more sexualising for them.… she posts the same girls all over the internet for any creep to obsess over. Modesty starts by getting them offline!
OtherBus would explode at being told that she has similar wants as the Muslim community
I went to Christian camp until I was seventeen and I never had an issue finding swimwear - and I’m abnormally tall. Speedo, Nike, TYR, etc.
My daughter wears a long sleeve swimsuit and over that she wears board shorts. She does a lot of physical activities at scouts and that combo is both sun safe and practical for things like kayaking. Sure, you can buy bikinis for girls in Australia too but most parents will insist on a rash shirt over the top as it’s just not sun safe.
I buy my girls bikinis because it’s easier to use the restroom, but the rash guard with spf is always on the top if they are in the sun.
That works too. I’m not opposed to a two piece, but I’ve seen kids at the beach with terrible sunburns on their lower backs where the top has ridden up and no one has realised to put suncream there so I’m a bit hesitant.
Old Navy has always sold out of swimsuits in store fast. If you check online there are lots of one piece options, rashguards and board shorts. She really can’t complain about shipping being difficult when they decided to live in a camper.
It’s also bs because they can definitely order shit online and have it delivered to specific locations so they can pick it up. They’re just looking for reasons to complain.
Honestly, it wouldn’t surprise me if she didn’t know where they’re going or when they’ll get there. People like her always choose harder and harder lives to live so they can complain about how hard their lives are. They are too unintelligent and cowardly to actually challenge themselves, so they physically self-flagellate by choosing paths that are difficult in a *simple* way. “Leaving it up to god” beats the hell out of actually confronting your faith/upbringing.
Yup. Amazon even has pick up locations. If she has 2 day shipping and knows how to plan, that wouldn't even be an issue.
I looked at Old Navy's swim yesterday, most of it is sold out online too now tbh. But that's my own fault for not looking earlier.
This is actually a bad time of year to buy a swimsuit. Most things will be sold out and won't be restocked. Come 4th of July, people just stop buying summer clothes entirely.
Children have never been more covered during water play than they are now. Everyone has rash guards and wet suits, for boys and girls. This simply wasn’t a thing when I was a child (and fair skinned kids had to wear actual t shirts over their suits in the pool). Most of us do it for sun protection, but it has never been easier to find modest swim wear.
Maybe some of y'all wore tee shirts, some of us just burned to a crisp. Thanks mom 🥵
I’m so sorry! ❤️
Thanks! But I've learned from my childhood pain, the kids have rash guards and get sprayed with sunscreen every hour and a half when we're outside. So far, nothing worse than a little pink on the cheeks after an impromptu play sesh outside.
She's surprised that Hobby Lobby panders to Christians when HL literally donates to anti LGBTQ agendas...yeah really "bold" and good job seggsualizing kids swimsuits. Are you gonna blame the young girl wearing the "immodest" suit for your husband straying??? I'm so sick of this disgusting purity culture bullshit. Enforcing what little kids wear instead of calling out anyone that would look at your kid in that way in the first place. This is why predators flock to churches and private Christian schools and yes even homeschool groups because they know that most of these places have policies to save face and that the kids are vulnerable and made to be oblivious to what is not appropriate and what is abusive...
If only they were half as outraged about the abusive predators infiltrating their churches and schools and spaces as they were a swimsuit or pride month.
People like her make me want a bi Pride flag and shirts with frogs in the bi colors.
And bi frog keychains. Etsy knows.
Idk what it is but frogs and mushrooms just seem like bi culture. Also I just got a little llama keychain and he has a rainbow scarf tied around his neck! It’s the cutest thing and my coworker wants one now.
I am curious what she considers 'modest.' I think someone is complaining just to complain.
She’s so insufferable. Even just reading her words and seeing her day to day life makes me want to bang my head against the wall til I pass out. I can’t imagine having to deal with her IRL.
👆🏻same. 😂
Bethany clearly hasn't learned the poor person's swimsuit: a fucking tshirt and shorts. I got by with that most of middle school. I'm all for modesty, but this faux outrage over shit like this when fundies fucking parade their children on social media whilst in the bath or in nothing more than a diaper is obnoxious.
That's what gets me about these people. At what age is your daughter suddenly capable of causing gross adult men to stumble?
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🤢 I don't have the words...
The city pools here (lol, the same city buss-any) left, just put out a notice of what is pool appropriate swim wear. One is no string bikini or thongs, and so many comments were thanking them for thinking of the children.
Idk why they dont all just wear rash guards and board shorts. Oh wait, we have to make sure our precious little girls are *properly gendered in a GODLY way*. How will people know they are little girls if they don't have a one piece on????????? What if someone mistakes them for a BOY because we are NOT conforming to gender clothes???????? Can't have that now can we.
The thing is, they sell rash guards and board shorts for girls! My daughter loves girly shit, and she has several rash guards that are pink and very clearly FOR GIRLS. She has no excuse. She just wants to complain because she’s miserable, but she can’t take it out on her useless husband.
I can’t imagine how they would suffer if they had to buy a one piece bathing suit with *gasp* cheap beading. 😭
My daughter has that one lol she doesn’t usually show her midsection but went a little wild this summer. I loved that for her. I was just proud she was comfortable in her own skin.
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That's awesome, I'm so glad she's doing so much better!!
If you're really so concerned about children, stop pimping your kids for grift Strugglebeth
A 7 year old doesn't need modest swimsuits because, you know, she's 7. Not a woman. Stop sexualising children.
You’re right, they do need sun safe swimsuits though! But I suppose modesty is the real killer to Bethany 🫠
Considering Bethany’s hatred of real cleaners and woo woo bs I would be surprised if she actually believed in sunscreen
To be fair that cut out suit will make the worst tan lines 🤪
Yeah, would be a right pain in the arse to sunscreen as well!
MoBus posted similar nonsense about maternity clothes. They can't get something they want at the single store they go to so they cry 'persecution' - rather than going to the thousands of brick and online stores which stock exactly what they want. Anything for content......
Otherbussany just doesnt want to **pay** for a product that is in less demand, she wants the world to cater to her obsessions, paranoias and sexual obsessions specifically. She wants to act sandalised about swimsuits sexualising young children while, somewhat ironically, sexualising for them.… literally noone other than prurient weirdos is worried about a seven year old having little cut outs or beads on their bathers! Yet this ***Modesty MamaBear*** posts the same girls all over the internet for any creep to obsess over. Modesty starts by getting them offline!
Damn I just took my kid to Sam’s and got her the matching shorts with a rash guard! She hates sunscreen so that works. Why she acting like no store carry modest swim wear?
One of my children still uses baby sunscreen because the texture is more bearable, but rashgurd is even better!
I will never understand the hatred for bikinis, but I grew up on the beach and took my kids as often as possible when we visited my parents. You ever try to wrangle a potty training toddler out of a wet and sandy one piece in a public bathroom to catch a pee in time? Bikinis or bottoms only in my world. Even in my most fundie time of my life, I always had bikinis. My dad was practical about that one thing and just had us girls swim in T-shirts at church functions.
She’s aged like 5 years since her last post
As a person who shopped for her and her god daughter swim wear last minute for a beach trip at old navy, Yes Auntie Basket waits to the last minute for everything, this lady can get fucked with her lies. Old navy has a VARIETY of swim wear for both adults and kids that’s modest or not. Maybe the shoppers at her location aren’t about body shaming their 8 year olds or don’t go outdoor swimming a bunch? Also why is she so focused on modest swimwear for the girls but nothing for the boys? Why don’t they have to be modest? She’d flip her shit if she knew as a kid when I visited family on Europe my cousins and I just ran around the back topless
Go take some pictures dancing outside with your husband to prove how great your life is, that should make you feel better.
Okay but she looks unwell lol.
She's always looked a bit run down, but their living situation seems like it's draining the life out of her. I just hope she doesn't get pregnant
Primary has modest suits but they’re all about being for kids instead of boys or girls so that would make her head explode.
My 12 year old daughter has this exact swimsuit in solid blue. She is not a fan of showing off her body, and she just said yesterday that she loves this swimsuit because it covers just the right places while still looking good. I agree with her! So, I'm going to guess that Bethany just likes to complain for the sake of hearing her own voice.
when i was seven i wasn’t even wearing bikini tops yet, it’s crazy how they sexualise kids
If they didn’t sexualized everything they wouldn’t be so obsessed with sexualizing children. It’s a damn swimsuit!
Maybe if she complains that much she should learn how to effin sew.
I wish they cared as much about their kids as they do ridiculous shit like this.
She could barely afford for them to have costco pizza as a special treat a few weeks ago. Girl you’re not buying swim suits at Old Navy anyways lol
I bought my toddler a long sleeved swim suit with shorts halfway to her knees from Old Navy this year, no cut outs, very high neckline. Idk what she’s on about. For older girls they have [this](https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=862763022&cid=45211&pcid=45211&vid=1&cpos=14&cexp=2926&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D45211&cvar=26331&ctype=Listing&cpid=res24061904510902382205660&ccam=34743#pdp-page-content) in three color ways, she could just put shorts over it if she wants more bottom coverage. They also had about fifteen options for like regular traditional 1 piece shapes….
But did it have…. cheap beading? Because that’s just too much to endure.
It’s too bad fundies are anti-Target because I found lovely one pieces and those with sleeves and shorts for sun protection for my kiddos.
She’s still on about swimsuits. Hopefully not still shaming her daughter for asking for a 2 piece. My daughter only wears two pieces because one piece swimsuits that fit her width wise are too short for her torso so they ride up and hurt her. There’s a lot of real estate between a string bikini and a rashguard or tankini (which are what my kid wears).
I don't like the swimsuit options for little girls either. One piece suits are very hard to use the bathroom in, and my daughter has a body shape that makes them all ride up her butt. A lot of two piece suits show tons of skin, which is a pain for sun protection and make it more difficult for active little girls to play without constantly readjusting the suit. Tbh, women's swimsuits suck as well. My solution is to buy a rash guard shirt that matches the bathing suit bottom and just have my daughter wear that as the top. Sun protection, covers the shoulders/arms/stomach, no real adjusting needed. They make swim skirts and shorts for girls, we have a suit like that too. It's literally a short sleeve top and shorts. It covers as much as a typical summer outfit and the neckline is higher than most t-shirts. There are options for these people. They just like complaining and calling businesses out for not pandering to their wants.
I literally forget she exists sometimes. She is probably the most dour and personally unhappy of all the people on this page. You could never convince me this woman has felt a moment of true joy in her entire life.
Aside from the fake 'it's hard to find good gahdly swimwear for girls' bullshit because bitches like this just HAVE to act like their lives are hard for believing in Jesus, how is Hobby Lobby been brave for continuing to sell the same christ-craft shit they sell all year round? Ffs this woman is pathetic.
The girl on the coppertone bottle has a 2 piece and that was back in the good ole days that she longs for........ anyways there are a lot of kids one pieces and rash guards in major retailers, she just wants to complain and fear monger about stupid stuff. Or she's mad they couldn't afford the one she wanted and need to rage. I'm sure she was an ass to the salespeople.
Ever changed a toddler's diaper in a one piece? I will dress my nieces like Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders if it means I don't have to try to get a wet one piece off and on them. Also, I recognize every song they play at Hobby Lobby/Chik Fil A from my fundie days *and I hate it*. (I try not to shop at either, but going to Hobby Lobby is the only reason my grandma will visit my side of town, and some days my scumbag ARFID goes "no food is safe except Chik Fil A".)
Just looked on old navy’s website and they had more than 10 one piece options for girls with no cut outs, strings, or beads; all styles available for purchase in stores. She’s full of shit and needs a new hobby or idk maybe a fuckin JOB.
Exactly this- they absolutely offer more options, and while maybe that location was picked over, given her history I’m inclined to think she’s lying so she can whine. Go to another store then? What a jerk.
So how's hubby's job search going?? 🦗 🦗
Is Lori her mother? Sincere question. I don’t know who belongs to which family. Thx
In spirit, yes.
No her parents don’t have an online presence AFAIK
Imagine getting triggered at Old Navy about something other than the store being a mess. GTFO. “We walked out empty handed”. The drama!
I will admit, when I took my 10 year old to get a new swimsuit, it was hard finding something she would be comfortable in. A lot of it was two pieces that were missing just a bit too much fabric. Definitely something my little one isn't comfortable in as she's growing into her body. However, she fell in love with the one piece swimsuits with the cutouts. She's transitioning from a kid look to a preteen look and the one piece she went with was a mix of both for her. She got another one, which was a two piece that came with a shirt and shorts, so she can determine her comfort level with that.
Can I talk about this for a second from a seamstress point of view? The reason big corporations have swimsuits that don’t cover little girls like they want is they are scaling down pattern sizes for little girls from womens wear. If I was working for slave wages I would not be making different swimsuits for little girls, I just scale down the pattern and pray I can eat at some point. Meaning people are upset because they feel it’s predatory; that’s capitalism for you. If you force people to work for no pay, they aren’t going to give you what you want. It infuriates me to no end that these people sexualize these girls swimsuits but don’t know that’s the consequence of not paying people for their labor. Stop specializing girls demand more of corporations
I’m a big ol’ immodest atheist, with 3 daughters. I have never had a problem finding them full-coverage swimwear. My 8yo still wears a long sleeve rash guard most of the time, because, sun protection. Of all the clothing I need to get them, swimsuits have easily required the least hunting.
I get not wanting your small child's bits hanging out, but old navy is generally pretty sedate with their kids bathing suits. Also two pieces rock. So much easier to get on and off at any age. Get that child a rash guard and some board shorts. Problem solved. This is just stupid rage bait from her especially with that face she makes.
Didn't she go on the same rant last year about Target's girls' swimsuits?
Nobody wants to look at your daughters Pikachu. How about you keep your kids off the socials, and nobody would know what kids are wearing to swim and have fun. Stop making EVERYTHING about purity. Kids swim, in swimsuits. Get over yourself
I’m failing to see the issue with the cut outs in the swim suit?? Why do fundies seem so overly occupied with people’s bodies? You know who’s sexualizing your kids StruggleBethy?? YOU ARE!
They sell modest swimsuits at Old Navy… they have the one piece rash-guards with long sleeves for kids
Holy persecution complex. It's not hard to find "modest" kids swimwear. I've bought what they'd consider modest for my son and daughter since year 1, mostly for sun protection but also my personal preference. Wal Mart, Target, Old Navy have always had rash guards for girls and boys and long sleeve/short sleeve one pieces for girls. There are always suits that I wouldn't choose, sometimes they outnumber the ones I would choose. But it's not hard at all to move to the next rack or check a different store. If it's so important to you, you make the time to go find it. I do it every year, somehow without screeching on Instagram about it.
I work in aquatics. It is NOT hard to find cute, full coverage swim wear. Maybe if you are being purposely dense...
Walmart has $8 basic one piece suits that are super cute. Someone just wanted to complain about nothing 🙄🙄🙄
There’s lots of companies that design swimwear specifically for Muslim women and girls but I sense that she would not appreciate hearing that. What a traffic cone.
I hated shifting through bikinis when my daughter was little too but only because I wanted sun protection!! Now she’s a teen in teeny weeny polka dot bikinis and I just force her to apply sunscreen at least once before she runs off to her friends.
Go to a store that specializes in either swimsuits or outdoor rec store?? They'll have more than Targé. You know you don't like Target, especially during June, so why are you dragging your dumb ass there??