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fartfacemcgeesack

Plot twist: he’s level 9000 IQ, knows you look through his phone, and curates his search history to bamboozle your spying ass.


YVRkeeper

That’s just his Lock Screen image.


bod__beag

Hahahh


peaceblaster68

Then gets drunk and passes out on the futon to celebrate a job well done


[deleted]

"I plan on being an average father, but she don't have to know that"


skaldrir69

Average is also subjective, so he wins any which way!


-CaptainAustralia-

Right? Here's how to be a good partner: don't go through your partner's stuff without consent. Trust goes both ways.


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Final-Dig709

don’t know why u got downvoted. i agree. my partner has bpd. they struggle with boundaries, they struggle with insecurity within relationships. they often worry about me cheating. they worry about me finding someone better. they worry about what i do and who i talk to and if someone else is more worthy of my time. and yet, they talk to me about it every time, we have a discussion, if they need an explanation for something that made them insecure, i explain. if they need to go thru my messages with someone because they’re anxious and their brain won’t leave them alone until they do- they ask me. if i want to i’ll say yes. consent is sexy and even within a relationship you are 100% comfortable with the person (me and my partner hold hands taking a shit. nuff said) you should NEVER go behind their back just because you’re insecure. talk it out. better odds than sneaking around. edit: ty for the award !! don’t make me feel like i’m virtue signalling now 😖 /j


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Majestic-Ad-7393

I'll catch a grenade for you *Proceeds to do a Steve Rogers with a dummy grenade*


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Homie out here laying on grenades for us. Have a free award, soldier.


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![gif](giphy|TNb3Ihssb6T5FpcdOY|downsized) You dropped this king


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Weird. I am a classic BPD but I am not the least bit jealous nor have I ever been one to snoop. I don’t even look in people’s medicine cabinets when I use their bathroom. (I understand that’s common.) I’m so respectful of others privacy that I turn off something in my brain when there’s conversation close to me, like I will it into a white noise sort of thing. I expect the same treatment as well. What I’m trying to say is that BPD people get very attached to a spouse or partner and the idea of losing that attachment is profoundly painful, more so than for mentally healthy people. Snooping is rude, but not necessarily a symptom of BPD. Jealousy isn’t either. Yeah, I’m terribly insecure. I worry all the time that my boyfriend will find someone better, prettier, less weird, but I’m not going to stoop to spying on him to find out. The jealous thing too is not there for me because the very thing that made me BPD was about breaking my self esteem so I assume that I probably don’t deserve him anyway.


AlienNipsAndHips

My experience was much different. Had a kid w a bpd women. She was controlling and would act out a LOT. She abused her medication and alchohol while I was at work and she was "taking care" of our son. I don't know how many times I called my mother to go check on him. She constantly accused me of cheating on her and then would cheat on me. (Many people in my old town confirmed, she was at the bar with men. Left w men) she even admit it when she was mad. Bottom line I wasted at least 10 years of my life trying to keep the "family" I had together thru thick and thin. I've Raised our son for the last 6 years alone and I've never been happier. He's the reason I suffer thru 10hr work days and everything else. He's the best human I could have wished for and I'm happy he hasn't exhibited any bpd behavior. As for my ex she's stuck in a drug addiction that I've tried to help her with 10-20times then finally gave up. I don't wish her negative things, I hope she cleans up....but I do prepare myself for the fact she could be off this mortal coil anytime now and I'll be the 1 who has to tell our son his mom passed away. Anyway just say bpd is no joke and I'm glad some have found ways to cope with it. Wishing had left earlier for my son's sake.


Kooky-Independence16

Iv got bpd and life for me is really fucking hard I don't even have a partner cuz I'm so insecure and I'm constantly paranoid when my ex would go out was he really going to the shops. I don't have any friends I'm all alone I don't go out much when I do I'm crippled with severe anxiety, everything is to much for me . Nobody wants to be friends with me cuz I'm so insecure Im in and out of hospital cuz I'm really struggling to cope, bpd is so fucking hard nobody understands how painful it is to lose somebody you were so close to and they leave cuz they can't deal with your mental illness any more so you get dumped . It's very painful I also have ptsd cuz I was abandoned by my entire family when I was just a baby , I was in foster care cuz my mom neglected me and didn't want anything to do with me so she gave me away. Iv never met my dad cuz he doesn't kno any thing about me he doesn't kno I exist. I lost everything, I grew up in and out of foster care . When I turned 18 I ended up homeless, sleeping on park benches or at the train station , trying to sleep on a cold hard bench with nobody to turn to . I just got my first apartment I'm so alone, every time I make friends they just dump me cuz they can't deal with my illness, I can't fucking deal with it either i was in the hospital recently had a suicide attempt . Bpd is a very painful mental illness and nobody will ever understand the pain and frustration we go thru every day of our lives . Nobody knows the hell of being me before I decide to be the dying proof. There is no agony like trying to be strong when your so mentally ill and no one seems to care if I exist either and it hurts. What's the point of holding on like this when nobody understands or fucking cares about our pain


[deleted]

I’m so sorry you went through all this. You’re a very tough human being and I’m so happy you’re happy now.


BudgieLord

First time I've seen someone, especially on Reddit, who hasn't completely villified someone with BPD. It's nice to see!


banned-ury_month

Fucking Thank You


StarGlitcherZ

dealt with friends who did this shit with their partners, it's so fucking gross, i could somewhat understand if you have genuine reason to believe they're cheating but if you do it on a regular basis then you're a fucking bitch


masha_ahsam

She scrolls a bit further and it says "how to tell your girl to stop going through your search history."


DjennyDjenDjen

Right! I’ve been married for 24 years and would never snoop on my husband. It’s a breach of trust and privacy.


TinyTitch271605

I've been with my husband for 9 years, married for 2 and a half but have never gone through his phone. I seriously struggle with anxiety and MH but would never calm my anxiety by snooping through his phone, though he'd probably let me. And when I have felt a little wobbly, we _speak_. I think people today forget you can just talk to each other. 😅


Zealousideal-Set-592

Together for 4 years, married for 1. We know each other's passcodes, use each other's phones occasionally, never felt the need to go through his stuff


OhNanaaa01

Fr I couldn’t imagine snooping through someone’s stuff like I wouldn’t want someone going through mine


Chrristiansen

Plot twist: the entire photo is staged.


BarryEganPDL

I hope so because it would kind of suck for him to be trying so hard only for his partner to go through his phone while he sleeps


Sufficient_Scale_163

That’s literally what happened - notice how he did not open any links from the google searches. 😂


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[deleted]

Echo


ThatSapphicLesbian

Echo


Naturally-fucked-up1

Double plot twist: it’s not even his phone, it’s her phone, her search history… You know she typed in all of those things literally 30 seconds before she took the photo… Because all females know deep down men would never do this. We all know that our nagging turns into an even bigger porn search history……


Adam_is_Nutz

Triple plot twist: OP and BF are only 16 and haven't told their parents they got pregnant. A new cycle is started.


fishypanda_

Quad plot twist: OP isn’t even pregnant and found this on BF’s phone


Bottle_of_laptops

BLEW MY MIND


tokyo_engineer_dad

It doesn’t even make sense. When my wife was pregnant I wasn’t searching for generic ass stuff like that. My search history was more like: “How to reduce cholesterol while pregnant” “Is sushi safe for pregnancy” “Which sushi is safe for pregnancy” “How to reduce back pain during pregnancy” “Can you go on rollercoasters while pregnant” Or you search for parenting book recommendations or how to prepare your house before the baby is born. This photo looks super staged. Why the same search like 9 times?


[deleted]

Can’t tell if you’re serious for those last two sentences. If so, you could really do with raising your standards for partners and having more faith in men


Firm-Vacation-7060

And getting rid of the internalised misogyny.. "we females are like this but *Men* are like this" 🙄


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Username checks out..


Andrea-Vikt0ria

That's some r/menandfemales worthy comment here


Knot-Today

Double twist: it is his phone BUT she searched it on his phone and left is as "breadcrumbs" for psychological warfare after deleting his enormous porn search history. All to make him think he deep down wants to turn over a new leaf for baby number 3. Edit: the psychological warfare was hyperbole and completely joking.


cinnamondaisies

You really think no man would research ways to be a better person/father? That’s a really sad outlook to have


noninflammatoryidiot

I love when people shitpost for imaginary karma


LuxuryxElite

You'll fit in this subreddit just fine


noninflammatoryidiot

I’ve been here a few times. It’s crazy what people do for karma. I remember someone posting about their dead spouse and spreading their ashes. Well I think it was this sub. But it’s odd behavior


ThrowPeeNMiss

There's a mental health epidemic of attention-starved people with "I'm the main character of Earth" syndrome.


Magenta_Logistic

Earth? Bitch I'm the center of the fucking universe. Well, I'm the center of the perceivable universe... From my perspective.


[deleted]

And repost. This is a repost, and coincidentally the original post was made by a karma farm bot


lmaoschpims

Don't forget the virtue signalling!!


DrDaddyDickDunker

“It’s still real to me, damn it!”😭


wheresmyspaceship

The bar is pretty low on this sub lately. Seriously, what is this low effort shit?


Biggums_

Just saw a post on here about someone making food for the first time in 3 years and it's just... the basic ingredients for a taco


Random_Name_Whoa

One earlier today was someone’s first margarita as a 21 yr old


Biggums_

I saw that too lol, aren't posts on this sub supposed to make YOU smile and not just whoever posts it? Why would someone be smiling at a picture of your first legal drink?


Quacky3three

To be fair, the title is LITERALLY “MadeMeSmile.” Not “MakeYouSmile.”


Biggums_

Yeah you're right, but still I enjoy seeing posts like people's weight loss journey or other big personal accomplishments but just.. some things are so unnecessary


will_ww

Yeah, just saw that one. It's like damn, bro, you cooked ground beef on the stove for 5 minutes. What's next, the post about how you finally wiped your own ass after a decade?


Biggums_

"I stopped pissing in bottles and went to the bathroom for the first time in 7 years!!"


jmbaf

What about 2?


SchneefSchnaef

Hahahaha I saw that shit


PamPooveyIsTheTits

On coffee filters.


delirio91

If it took 3 years to gather taco ingredients, you may be suffering from arrested development.


SuperFluffyVulpix

Just buy a banana, they‘re not that expensive


Indigo-au-naturale

What could it cost, $10?


Grand_Steak_4503

a lot of people are depressed and struggling. these are wins.


SPQR2D2

So you're looking through his phone..? Let's talk about you


NaturalNormal9290

Phew glad to know he uses incognito mode. Stay safe out there, kings


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Dankie_Spankie

I use tor


swastik_rai

r/MadeMeAngry


wildjunkie

Exactly I thought the same when just seeing this if there’s no trust and you gotta go through phones everyday that relationship ain’t worth it dude deserves better


[deleted]

It's not real lol. OP is a karma farm.


clumsykiwi

plot twist: its her other phone and some random dude from tinder


wausmaus3

''How to become a controlling bitch of a mother''.


JoeMiddleage

I love how this is posted in r/mademesmile but the comment section isn’t lovin it


Inddi

Your comment made me crack a grin.


_Conqueeftador

Because it's just mademesmile bait not actual mademesmile


mybigmemes

offensively staged get a life OP


girlymcnerdy0919

Yeah. Only two scenarios here. She is going through his phone while he’s sleep…or he is pretending to sleep so she can take a pic of his phone for internet points. I’m going with the second option.


mybigmemes

just take a picture of your own phone with this shit and get any rando sleeping in the background. Even if this was real it would be disgusting. It's like bad tik-tok meme levels of badness


girlymcnerdy0919

Soo…THREE scenarios.


Psilocybenaudiophile

Shady looking through his phone while he’s sleeping. Maybe search how to be a good wife


Purp1eC0bras

No kidding. Kinda angered me actually. Way to take something private and personal and a genuine way of growth and put it on social media for a reaction. 🖕


SandwichesTheIguana

I like that we're all pretending this is real in the first place.


z3tul

But if it were....oooh, I'd be so angry.


_tidu

she could at least let him post it so that he could get some of this sweet karma


commentsandchill

If he posted it the reactions would be much lesser


Psychological-Ad9640

Lol. Right. He's not likely to do it with her. Good father for the effort. I can't imagine a woman like that would make it easy.


Kdubsep69

Most likely completely setup by both of them anyway, is anything real anymore?


theunbearableone

No, it’s all just cake.


IrishK1324

My significant other and I regularly grab whichever phone is closest to us to do something like a google search or use the calculator, etc. Very much could have just happened to notice his search history and went to the page history simply for the picture. I am in no way claiming you’re wrong or that I’m right, since obviously there is no context, just trying to bring a more optimistic idea to light (:


Otherwise_Ad233

To each their own, I guess. I know couples who share phones and passwords and couples who would consider picking up the other's phone a gross violation. But seeing a partner's phone while they're sleeping is one whole thing and then making it a social media post is a Whole Nother.


rosarosenknobb

Yep. Me and my partner exchange phones all the time but I would be livid if he put a picture of me on the internet, let alone a picture of me sleeping. But seems like OP and her partner know eachother well and share hardships, so I hope she also knows his boundaries and he is okay with it.


Ok-Policy-3998

yeah, such intimacy (you and your partner) is healthy and sweat, but in this post, sneaking to look at the search history while he's asleep means you don't trust them and that you don't respect them. Yeah, there is no context, so we can't say what she was actually doing, but you know what I mean. The intention behind what you do matter, not the deed.


gnarles80

Ahh yes, just click on the four or five buttons required to “just happen” to look at the search history.


tapdncingchemist

I get that, but this is also a photograph of the phone and not a screenshot, so the person taking the photo likely already had their own phone available.


kushkushOG

I need OP to reply… watch her delete the post


Contemplating_Prison

If this isn't staged


Ok-Policy-3998

Came here to say this. Being a wife or husband doesn't mean you have full control over their privacy.


jess_havok

Is... He ok with a picture of him sleeping and shirtless posted online? I feel like... Most people would take issue with that, unless asked. I get you're happy he was trying to do something positive, but it's weird to showcase your snooping to the world, along with the above reason. Self awareness is important.


GentleTurtl

Didn't you hear, the kid is the one braking the cycle of abuse. They are still doing it. This is joke but in every joke there's a bit of truth.


poopooseemepee

How to be an untrustworthy partner.


tomorrowisntpromised

That's what I see. If the person sleeping is the phone being shown, someone has trust issues they need to be working on. Then again, sleeper may know this and prefill search history when phone will be accessible. Duhn duhn dunnnn...


motheroftiddies

I thought the wife was the one sleeping


CurrentPossible2117

Haha that was my first thought too. Wtf. This is why I password protect my phone. Even ppl I love dont get access because I'm a private person. My shit's my own.


Popular-Leg5084

Glad this is said


BitterButterfly4301

Why did he google the same shit 5 times and why you checking his phone 💀


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Probably was looking at multiple pages of the same Google search’s results


StinkybuttMcPoopface

my shit looks like this in my phone's history because google for whatever reason closes the entire fuckin page when i hit back after i search something then click the link. once im done in there i wanna back out and look at an other and its like "fuck you search again" lmao


yawinsomeyachewgum

yea and history would show if he entered those sites too, all this picture shows is someone looked up a bunch of shit one after the other and didn't actually look at anything.


pink__cloudz

Probably because it's staged


Gnemec3

Because it’s poorly set up for likes and internet attention lol


Comprehensive_Try411

Weird


A3per

Let the man sleep in peace, stop posting his shirtless photo online while snooping on him


Heraxi

This is not wholesome or made me smile. Take this shit down and get some therapy


futuredayscan

MadeMeFrown: going through his search history while he was asleep


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And posting it on the internet with him shirtless and sleeping in the background.


somedood567

With his nips on display for all the world to feast 🍗


Beats_By_Neigh

A tip for guys who may need it. My now boyfriend was like this in high school and early college. He was disappointed that there weren't classes geared towards men caring for their pregnant significant others, how to help during periods, etc. One book he said that was a great read for expecting fathers was The Expectant Father by Armin Brott (had to Google the Author). He doesn't need the knowledge because as he got older he doesn't want kids and neither do I. But hopefully this comment helps someone. He's talked well of the book whenever the topic came up.


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Big ups to your mans. Being a father (or potential) while in HS or college would not be easy in any regards.


Beats_By_Neigh

Definitely! But maybe I might have given the wrong idea. He wasn't a father or potential father of anyone. Just was planning ahead for when that day may eventually come 😂.


[deleted]

Haha I hear ya. But still, the fact that he thought ahead just in case it ever did happen is solid.


jimithelizardking

Fucking weirdo looking through his search history


[deleted]

How about you stop snooping


[deleted]

Toxic behavior makes you smile?!


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Im_Not_Impressed19

I second this


[deleted]

Hell nah, if my girl ever goes through my phones like this I’m gone. I don’t need that in my life.


DAHbaddest

And posts it online for validation from strangers


spry_dye

poor guy


gilligan888

Be a good wife and charge the phone for him too


federruchi

This is so plastic


[deleted]

You going through his phone while he’s asleep is not “breaking the cycle”. Do better.


roboo32

This isn’t even OP’s image, I’m pretty sure I’ve seen this a while ago. Edit: [Original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/comments/qlw3cv/these_small_efforts_mean_a_lot_and_can_go_a_long/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)


agoraphobic_anomaly

Don't worry about how to be a good husband cause clearly she doesn't trust you. Just worry about being a present father 👍


TellLoud1894

Thats a porn site actually


Jaker_Jake

*scrolls further down* “red headed milfs”


DaArio_007

Lurking through your bf's phone then post it for Internet points. Might want to google how to be a better person


WackyBones510

Send him to r/daddit


Iamahugememe

So much to unpack here.


Nokhodsiah

step 1: be a healthy man step 2: find a healtht woman step 3: get married step 4: proccess +18 step 5: care (+ avoid buying milk and ciggaret) step 6: stonk


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>step 5: care (+ avoid buying milk and ciggaret) this made me laugh harder than i care to admit


nukacola12

This looks more like someone snooping through their partner's phone while they're sleeping. This isn't wholesome..


PooparinoCrapsalot

LOL the irony you can’t just let that man be and trust him to do good as he’s obviously doing for HISSELF. You should not be so distrustful and go through his phone that’s private property. You’re disgusting.


squirtle6162

let’s maybe wait until the OP clarifies before we start insulting? Maybe he’s completely fine with her using his phone at any time. When I got with my now husband, he regularly encouraged me to use/go through this phone if I wanted bc I got cheated on in the relationship before. I also had a REALLY crappy phone at that time that would die on me all the time, and he was happy to let me use it just like it was mine until I got a new phone. I say all this to say: isn’t the point of this subreddit to see the good in humanity? Maybe we should give them the benefit of the doubt here before we go straight to judging. You might be totally right, but there’s always a chance that you aren’t. I think the world is a better place when we at least give people the chance to explain themselves. (sorry for the long comment.)


ano_hise

That's kinda sweet and you definitely have point. But I guess, OP won't be answering anymore...


BiffBanter

Hmmm how to "Take care" of a pregnant


[deleted]

My friends are directed to delete my history upon my death.


RC104

Doesn't seem genuine if you post on reddit


honkforpie

Is this an example of karma farming ?.


[deleted]

This is weird but aight


OLOWF

Plot twist. He misspelld god father. Now question "How to take care of pregnant woman" does not sems so wholsome, huh?


LiverOfStyx

Major red flag, she is checking his phone while he is sleeping. This is not wholesome moment, this is disturbing.


AOLiens

How is a photo of you going through someone's search history while they're asleep a "wholesome moment".


giantdomo4445

you can start by getting the hell off of his phone, that's only going to make him distrust you and think you're insecure, jealous, and controlling if he realizes you're going through his phone like that


[deleted]

Ooof Tough look.


[deleted]

Hun, as much as I want to believe that you wanted to share this wholesome investigation that turned up on your partner's phone, I have a suspicion that your boyfriend/partner knows you go snooping on his phone and leaves this intentionally on their search history.


BoiDerBois

Wonder who the abuser is? The person who tries to be a better person or the person who looks into the phone of another person and checks their browser history ?


mojis11

First thing i did when i found out i was going to be a dad. Looked for help and good thing i have a good dad to follow


cerikstas

Low effort karma attempt. It's literally the same two searches repeated.


wellwellc

Make sure he’s okay, could be very scared or struggling to cope with all the pressure, or hopefully just doing homework. Ik because I’ve had that exact same search history. I was stressed at the time though.


litocam

Wow Google.com saved my marriage


name_cool4897

This sub is fucked.


Chip-San

Just take this shit down


AdelaideMez

This is a bot isn’t it.


tejanaqkilica

If you have to Google those, you're very probably, a moron.


80hdADHD

Lol then you scroll down a little and it’s nothing but hardcore porn


AlexKorobeiniki

I will say, good on him for trying, but gods help us that his success is partially depending on google


Litra

if you have a half of a brain you will notice that op is karma farming account and this is staged. I don't understand how this is upvoted


JWho1337

Oh I thought this was a joke of a man holding up a phone over the girl he just busted in with this search history


Ld_Slades

Yet you're looking through his phone...


cherrryblosssoms

This is not the great post you thought it would be.


imFraxx

my question is, why the fuck r u going through his history?


Shmooperdoodle

Yeah… There’s nothing wholesome about someone taking their partner’s phone and looking at their search history. No way in hell does someone do that and expect to see this. This invasion of privacy sure doesn’t scream “breaking the cycle of abuse” to me, but ok.


heysamanthaaa

Looks like someone's trying to pirate apps huh


mistermikmak

Get off his phone!


Substantial-Use95

I’m not gonna normalize going through another person’s phone. I don’t care what the intent.


SituationCool2107

How to be an irritating human. Going through his phone while he sleeps. Set your boundaries, learn about each other’s space. When you have child then individual space becomes very very important.


__batterylow__

Op you’re a psychopath


Average_CarLover

Why are you or they looking at his phone? That relationship can’t work without trust. I don’t get why women do that. It’s so stupid


StarBloke123

Now we just need to break the abusive cycle of going through your partners phone when they arent aware and we'll be onto a winner!


NPC_No3178

I'm legit starting to hate this sub ._.


Ihopetheycancelme

Why u looking at his internet history when he’s asleep


ms131313

Should be titled 'being a nosey c*nt while someone is asleep'


Hustla58

No One Google something without at least opening one website.


roskolewis

EVERYTHING about this photo screams 'psycho'.


Initial-Restaurant22

This woman is red flag city


[deleted]

Lovely guy. I feel for him. I guess most parents want to be good but it’s easy to still mess up at times.


Wooden-Trouble1724

The vibes are so off on this


Danton_842

By start by not invading your partners personal space and respecting social boundaries 😑🙄


Astr0Cr33per

Yo if he has to google that, why are we smiling? 😂


Ravenser_Odd

Can we talk about why she makes him sleep on a single mattress on the floor?


Yosemite_Scott

Hey there are a lot of men out there who call themself good dads who wouldn’t even think of asking or looking for help . Great job Dad I’m routing for you


kill_all_pugs

Op should google, "How to let go of your trust issues"