This realization also hit me massively during the wedding of my friend. Specially during the solo dance moment of the husband with their first daughter. It was heart melting.
Agree! From the recent weddings I went too, I always try to create a montage of their weddings on my phone because it’s such a beautiful memory to capture. 🥹 Tapos deep inside, mga when kaya for me? 😅🤣
7 years single, nagkaroon ng sweetest, kindest jowa ever pero ako lagi taya. Hindi naman sya materialistic, never nagpabili ng gadget, motor damit etc, pero ung tipong basic necessities ako na rin ung nagpprovide. Girlll 😭 Hindi naddrain energy ko pag kasama sya, pero naddrain wallet ko. After nito ayoko na muna ulit 😭
Ang mantra ko ngayon, "don't chase, attract". If mamatay akong rich single tita, ok lang, iredirect ko nalang yung energy ko into money-making, nature-seeking, hobby-hording and family-loving self, pero open parin into dating.
>Ang mantra ko ngayon, "don't chase, attract". If mamatay akong rich single tita, ok lang, iredirect ko nalang yung energy ko into money-making, nature-seeking, hobby-hording and family-loving self, pero open parin into dating.
Haha. I'm this but from a male viewpoint. The coolest single tito 😂
Teka, may iba pa ba akong account? Nagcomment n ba ako? Eh parang ako 'to. Hahaha
Seriously, wala nman talagang masama kung gustuhin natin maging single or to be in a relationship. Basta yung pipiliin natin eh yung talagang bukal sa loob natin. Hindi ung niloloko na natin ung iba na masaya tayo, pati pa ba sarili natin?
Kung may makakatagpo ba nman tayo ng partner with same core values and will give us respect, loyalty, and the feeling of peace,(and vice versa) for sure naman na di tayo aarte. Kaso, wala eh 😅🤷✌️
Medyo pareho tayo, pero hindi naman sa financial, imagine mo nonchalant na di umabot sa bare minimum. Free things like random hugs or kisses kailangan pang irequest. Kung hindi ako magtatanong kelan kami magkikita, walang kusa. And the list goes on.
Open din ako sa dating, pero kung wala okay lang din. Dami ko ding ganap sa buhay at andun ang energy ko nowadays.
Mamsh ako diiiin. The thought of being loved and being cared for tapos meron kayong little one na halong mini you and your partner tas sabay nyong papalakihin. Haaaay taga sana all na naman tayoooo 🤣
I want to settle down pero sa kids talaga alanganin ako. I've spent the past 10yrs being a substitute mother to my nieces and nephews dahil hindi kaya ng mga kapatid ko. Yung pagluwal na lang ang hindi ko naexperience, but I think quota nako sa pagpalaki ng bata.
If bibigyan at makakabuo, sige. Kung hindi, mas ok. 😅 anak na rin naman turing ko sa mga pamangkin ko, and I'm already planning para sa mga mana nila kung sakali. But the settling down part with someone na best friend mo na tapos may partner ka pa to fulfill your fantasies, baka naman Lord? Haha!
Yeah, I know what they're saying. Iba talaga yun. Ibang klaseng love yung mararamdaman mo pag unang hawak mo sa kanya. Overwhelming nga raw.
But it doesn't change the fact na nakakapagod at very stressful magpalaki ng bata. You won't understand yung araw araw na hirap physically, financially, and mentally pag hindi ka pa nakapag alaga.
Madaling sabihin na gusto magka anak, pero iba ang reality. Kailangan ready ka sa lahat ng aspeto. If may choice, ayoko na ulit maranasan. But again, if ibigay, tatanggapin ng buo.
I feel you! Ang hirap mag alaga ng mga pamangkin, yung tipong pagluwal palang, ikaw na ang nag alaga. Mga damit, toys and snacks nabibigay ko naman pero iba pa rin pagmamahal ng isang ina. Pero ano kaya feeling ng may sarili ka ding family? Hehe
Hahaha masaya ang dress-up maybe until 6 years old. Pag marunong na sila mamili ng damit makakarinig ka na ng "ayaw ko niyan ih" based on a true story hahaha she's 15 years old now.
ako parang tanggap ko na. haha, nearing my 40s tapos binata na maganda ang trabaho pero dahil siguro sa mga events sa buhay namin nung walang wala kami. nakalimutan at nai-set aside ko na yun lovelife.
sinubukan ko naman pero siguro hindi talaga ako interesting na tao haha.
Paps pareho lang siguro tayo. I'm in my 30s. Almost got married 8 years ago. Pero un nga, life happens. Took some time to recover emotionally and mentally pero in the end you'll find that freedom, peace and solitude. Ngayon I'm very content being the cool ninong/tito my friends' kids. I also go hiking and try new stuff/hobby each year. Maraming interesting na bagay, buhay at kwento sa mundo. Galing din kami sa baba kaya I'm kinda spoiling my parents and cherishing the time I have with them. Wish ko lang na humaba pa buhay ng mga magulang ko and see them experience everything that they deserve.
Hanap na lang kayo ng Russian girl or East European girl(Balkan region) kasi domesticated sila, marunong sila gumawa ng gawaing bahay. Yung current generation kasi ng Filipina women ay lumaki na may katulong. Pero dahil domesticated ang mga Russian women & Balkan women, expected na husband ang breadwinner sa pamilya habang sila ay sa bahay bilang traditional na misis. Di nahawa ang mga bansa nila sa Western concept ng working woman kasi malaking insulto sa pagkalalaki ang pagtrabahuhin ang misis para makihati sa finances, at kung may income man ang misis ay for her personal consumption lang yun(parehas ng mga Muslim women na bawal pag-ambagin ng husband ang misis base sa religion nila).
Feeling the same way bro. Lalo na to the point na ikaw yung breadwinner at may mataas na pangarap sa buhay kasi nanggaling kayo sa wala, pero I do believe when the time is right, everything will fall into place, even finding the right woman. It starts that we are building ourselves to be the right man. So for now cool tito muna sa mga pamangkins and honoring our parents coz they deserved it na suklian ang kanilang pagmamahal na hindi tayo napipilitan o obligasyon pero dahil mahal natin sila at napalaki nila tayo ng tama, may values, respect, with dignity, and principles in life.
Rooting for us brothers, stand tall dear men.
Cheers, bro. Totoo at tama yan lahat ng sinabi mo. I always make sure that my parents are making the right decisions and enjoying themselves, kahit minsan kunsintidor rin sa konting luho, basta reasonable at may purpose. Di kasi natin alam gano pa natin sila katagal makakasama. I will never take it for granted. After all the challenges, failures and rejections in life tapos sila andyan parin para sumuporta at unconditionally accepting us.
Dadating din yan bro kasi kung ano ang puno siya din ang bunga, kung pinalaki tayo ng maayos at tama ng magulang natin, for sure ripple effect will go to our time pag tayo naman, the Universe and Creator will always have the chain of events, thus finding us the right woman. Kaya marahil wala pa tayo sa ngayon kasi hinahanda yung para sa atin na kapareho ng puno natin, so patience lang and let's continue building a life. The right woman will come. Hindi tayo mama's boy or papa's boy, sadyang pinalaki lang tayo ng maayos. Kaya panalangin din nila yan sa atin na tayo ay makatagpo ng akmang nararapat para sa atin. Besides lalake tayo.
Rooting for all single men right here, let's aim to be better and my full support for everyone. In this modern dating world na puro luho at aesthetics lang sukatan ng relationship, we deserved finding the right partner as well. 🫵💪
Hindi naman, you're just passionate. After my falloff 8 years ago, sobrang dami ko nasubukan. Bagay na pinangarap ko lang dati at mga hindi ko naisip na gawin. I did like 5 overseas solo trips with adventures on the side. Talagang eye-opening and life-changing sakin. Especially when I did the 4 day hike sa Inca Trail to Machu Picchu in Peru. Sobrang naiba pananaw ko sa mundo. Some time ago I was asked by older colleagues that I might be missing out kasi nga parang di ko iniisip magkaroon ng sarili kong pamilya. Ang naisagot ko sa kanila is that I'm more than content with all the good things I have, I can die tomorrow with zero regrets sabi ko pa. Pero wala akong balak mamatay anytime soon kasi I still have an endless list of things to experience. Masarap mabuhay at mas masarap ung pakiramdam na nakakatulong.
>Ngayon I'm very content being the cool ninong/tito my friends' kids.
Same here! Kaya ako favorite ng mga pamangkin ko and inaanak, we go out and they are open sa akin kasi they trust me.
>I also go hiking and try new stuff/hobby each year. Maraming interesting na bagay, buhay at kwento sa mundo..
Ang sarap din magdiscover ng bagay bagay and doing things you love, diba?
>Wish ko lang na humaba pa buhay ng mga magulang ko and see them experience everything that they deserve.
Ito yung hope ko talaga eh. While they enjoy their retirement, andun yung fear na mawala sila soon.
>Same here! Kaya ako favorite ng mga pamangkin ko and inaanak, we go out and they are open sa akin kasi they trust me.
Comedy nga minsan ung iba kong inaaanak, pag dumadalaw ako sa bahay nila super clingy sakin. Minsan sanabihan ako ng isamg kumare ko na wag ko daw masyado iniispoil ung mga bata. Eh kaso di ko matiis ung lambing nila sakin 😅
>Ang sarap din magdiscover ng bagay bagay and doing things you love, diba?
Sobra, and developing your passion. Laking bagay rin when you're meeting new people who share the same principles and interests. The best part is learning how big the world is and insignificant some of our worries.
>Ito yung hope ko talaga eh. While they enjoy their retirement, andun yung fear na mawala sila soon.
Keep them busy and occupied. Give them something that they will look forward in the future. Yung parents ko nag bbook na ng mga future holiday trip nila this year and next. Bahala na si Visa at Mastercard 😵🙈🤣
>Keep them busy and occupied. Give them something that they will look forward in the future.
Yung mother ko ok lang mahilig magtravel, yung father ko ayaw maiiwan yung pinakamamahal nyang dog. Gusto lagi uuwi nang maaga pag lumalabas kami. Hahaha
siguro nga , sobrang enjoy ko rin yun freedom, wala akong pag papaalam na kailangan gawin kapag may gusto akong bilhin para sa sarili ko. bili ako ng gaming console, ng mga libro, ng mga hobbies ko.
punta ako sa concerts, nood ng movie mag isa , uwi ng late, tapos wala akong iniintindi na kailangan ko i update na tao bawat kilos ko haha. pero syempre habang nagkaka edad ako minsan nga din naiisip ko yun lalo kapag nakikita ko mga barkada ko na isa isang nag uupload / update ng cover photos nila sa socmed.
pero wala talaga haha, parang ok na rin na wala
Maling app kasi ang gamit mo, majority ng gumagamit ng Tinder ay naghahanap lang ng panandaliang ligaya. Dun ka sa DateinAsia app, pwede mo i-customize kung saang country ang gusto mong hanapin.
Dati, lagi kong sinasabi na hindi ko naman kailangan ng makakasama sa buhay para sumaya. Ngayon, binabawi ko na ang sinabi ko. Masaya pala sa feeling kapag may 'someone' na nandyan para sayo all the time. Yung sabay niyong aabutin mga pangarap niyo, magkaroon ng sariling pamilya, at gumawa ng memories habambuhay. Ang saya lang siguro sa feeling na ganon. Kaya simula nang mapagtanto ko yun, lagi na akong nagpe-pray kay God na mabigyan niya ako ng matinong lalaki at magkaroon ng babies hahahahaha.
Tbh, excited na ako hahahaha. Sana dumating. 🤍
Hoping na dumating dn ako sa ganitong point. Sa ngayon talaga I can't imagine myself having kids... pero ung partner ko gustong gusto nya magkaanak... 30 na ako this year pero wala pa sa heart ko ang baby huhuhu I feel like there's something wrong with me.
Exactly! Diba kung mahal mo Yun tao, nandun din yun desire na may maliit na half mo at half nya. Being married and loving your spouse and little one, you really get out of oneself.
Watching PewDiePie (his vlogs with his family) makes me feel the same way kagaya sa'yo. Really love imagining things with a wife who's supportive, caring, and loving by your side. Hanggang when nalang ako neto😭🙏. Doomed to be lonely ata ako forever (sorry if mali mali grammar ko, first time ko kasi mag comment, super introverted ko kasi).
Omgggg same!!!! Narealize ko rin siya kanina lang! May nakita akong tikt0k vid this morning na super happy yung husband niya kasi sinurprise ni wifey na preggy siya. Tapos umiiyak yung guy and nag-pray silang dalawa. Sobrang pure lang. 😭
Girl oo naman. Sa panahong to, iniisip ko na nga rin. Ayoko rin naman na mag-dating apps bc it never worked well for me in the past. Pero as someone na bahay at work lang everyday, san ba tayo makakahanap
Marami padin na good man who loves to lead, provide, edify you, and loves to take care of a spouse and build a family type of a man. They just not being noticed coz they don't regularly exist or active in social media, you will find them busy doing their purpose coz social media is just showing the facade perception of an ideal man which made the dating market more hard for good man to be noticed. Like for me, I tried apps and social media, but then realized it's not for me and kung ganito lang din ang dating market ng ibang girls, puro katawan at hubog ng katawan ang pinangangalandakan sa internet, better go back and stay focus of building ourselves than to find a date.
You will also find most them in church too. Happy Sunday.
Having a spouse with the same goal and toddler made me realize how selfless I can be. I love my son kaya I make sure na may daily father and son time kami at the same time I make sure I pamper my wife. Nabawi naman si wife through cooking and letting play video games or ride my motorcycle every weekends
It’s a scary thought to be alone at the top. And scarier to know that by the end of the day, you didn’t give it a try and have regrets in the end. Explore more and you’ll eventually relearn a lot it stuffs.
Been there, then suddenly got married, natanggal yung "rich" sa title hahahahaha
Anyway, I feel blessed with a good partner despite the financial challenge, I kinda made sure my partner would share, and not even count his contributions, in all household tasks and errands. Siguro yung mental burden nalang ang challenge with all the planning and bills payment, ako lahat nagssched at nagttransact, nakahawak ng budget (na monthly naglalahong parang bula,, etc.) but hubby is proactive in all the physical input the partnership entails. Walang reklamo, minimal bisyo, just chill daily musings. bonus that he picks me up from work kahit makapag OT from extended meetings and I don't oblige him to do so, and over all companion in everything which is not required or asked from him, and no misogynistic vibe, he's really very supportive.
I see some other couples na napabayaan yung isa ng mga asawa nila, so para silang naging single tito/tita na may palamunin at alalahanin, so I hope you are warned with the difference.
I used to be like that din, self_love, and takot magkaanak. Pero ngayon, i'm the happiest with my husband and child. Especially if very involved ang husband mo sa bahay and sa pag-alaga sa anak, mas lalong masaya. 🥰
Why not tita just go ahead and find that worthy person to build family with.
Ako naman opposite ang effect sakin looking at a small family. Mamsh di ko maimagine maghabol ng bata na sobrang kulit. At magpuyat sa pag-aalaga. Makes my decision to be childfree more firm.
I want to be in a happy childfree marriage.
Last year lang ayaw kong magka-anak. Kuntento na ko na may jowa lang kahit di kami ikasal. Pero dumating yung blessing saming dalawa na sobrang unexpected. Ngayon na kakapanganak ko lang, I wouldn’t trade this moment for anything else. Sobrang fulfillling. Totoo pala yung love at first sight at sa anak ko yun naramdaman. Seeing her smile while sleeping, mapapa- Thank you Lord ka nalang talaga.
We have the same goal haha to become a rich tita. When I also go to ‘that’ park na maraming naglalaro na kids with their rich parents parang gradually nagugustuhan ko na rin to have my own fam. Baka dahil lang they looked stable rin and happy.
I already had this kind of relationship. We were happy. We were building our future together. We dreamt together. But she cheated. 5 years down the drain. What a life.
Used to dream this but… life happens. Gustuhin ko mang maging ama or maging ulirang asawa, sa estadl ng buhay ko ngayon baka isumpa lang ako ng magiging asawa o anak ko.
Sometimes it's the idea of love that we love. Hope you find the right one. It's hard to love the wrong person. It's taxing, it's consuming, and it's damn hard depressing.
Same, OP. At first, I didn't want to have children. But now, I've changed my mind. I actually plan to have three children. I want my firstborn to be a girl and my mini me. It's so heartwarming to watch baby videos on FB. I hope we choose our future husbands wisely because our kids cannot choose their fathers. 🥹😍
Same din, 33[M] here, pagnakakakita ako nang baby nagbubulkan yung puso ko, gusto ko din nang pamilya 😭 Please lang kung nasaan ka future gf to wife magparamdam ka na mamayang lunes! 😂
kahit anong mangyare di talaga ako magsasawa. rich virgin tita talga ako... Makakita pa ng sweet couples and babies.. Di talaga mababago isip ko hahahha yikes
I focused on my career and other priorities and when I reached them during my early 30s, I realize "I have everything but who do I share them with?"
Glad I found my gf not long after that realization.
Masarap may pinaglalabanan ka na tao kasama mo bumuo ng pangarap.
My income increased too when she's here.
Ganito rin mindset ko until I got pregnant accidentally. Kahit pagkapanganak ko iniisip ko pa rin magpaka single, until lumaki na si baby at ngayong elementary na siya at may mind of his own. Sobrang lambing, daig pa yung asawa ko sa lambing. Hahaha.
From time to time naiinggit pa rin ako sa single life, lalo kapag stressful sa bahay. Nagpapaalam lang ako to go out with friends one weekend, tapos ok na after that. Sarap na may inuuwian na bata tapos sobrang saya niya pag sumasalubong sa door.
As generally matalinong tamad lol, it also keeps you going, motivates you to push boundaries. May papakainin kang bata kaya bawal tamad 😂
Yeah. I was a social worker in a home for the aged and most of my clients are widows and single old women. And they are always surprised why at 28 im still single. Hahaha they always tell me, mag boyfriend ako, mag asawa na ako. But, yeah. Sino naman?! Hhahah
Lagi nila sinasabi na, iba ang may partner sa buhay na pagsheshare-an ng good, bad and the ugly. Haisst napapaisip ko na din parents ko who are celebraring 30 years of tolerating each other lol
I would say no. Tho I watched this vid sabi nya you can never be ready because there would always be something you would eventually think na ay “hindi pa siguro ako ready”. That could be financially, mentally or emotionally.
Feeling ko naman ready ka na kasi buo ka na as a person. Kumbaga you don't NEED a man naman talaga, you WANT a person to share this life with, which is mas maganda kasi di ka magiging dependent. Hope you find someone soon.
I promise to myself na magiging rich single tita ako.
Pero true na nakaka inggit yung happy families..
But nakakatakot din haha, may trust issue si ateng. Baka mag failed din, so wag na lang.
I don't wanna sound bitter but this way of thinking is just too reckless. Marriage is not all sunshine and glitters. There are lots of people regretting getting married and having a family. My mom told me if you are ready for a possibility to be a broke single parent then build one. Are you ready to become the primary parent? Are you willing to halt your dreams because of pregnancy? Are you willing to pursue your dreams AND be a parent? Are you willing to sacrifice your sleeping hours to take care of the baby? Are you ready to experience PPD?
"Oh but my partner will help me with childcare" Walang assurance that your partner will not change either for the worse or cheat on you. So many women complaining about their husbands not helping them. Lots of women getting overwhelmed. Money come and go but responsibility is forever.
I do feel like this recently when I saw a cute family strolling inside the mall. Seeing them so happy and at peace, malaking sanaol po talaga. Pray po tayo na darating din tayo sa gnung sitwasyon.
I know you didn’t come here asking for advice but I’d like to tell you that someone is out there for you. You took some time for yourself, learn to be independent, and now learned what you want in a relationship. You are secure. It is the perfect time for you to be in a relationship.
Some would say to wait patiently but I say, wait ACTIVELY. Go on dating apps, meet people, go on dates, get to know strangers. Put yourself out there. There will be some disappointments but don’t lose hope. You need to kiss a few frogs to find your prince.
Best of luck to you, OP!
Me too! Ang sarap sa feeling na minamahal din no. Bakit kaya ang hirap magkaron ng relasyon pag nasa 30s ka na tapos may career naman. Sabi ng friend ko na guy, intimidating na daw kasi sa lalaki kapag successfull ang girl.
sameee, took me good amount of time to be better from a failed relationship. and guess what? ive been comfortable being single that I got scared of how comfortable I am being single HAHAHA. 7 year relationship ba nman tas magccheat lang ung gf mo? saklap dba? HAHA. pero agree ako sayo, pag may dumating oks pag wala oks padin. dadating din satin yan 😅😅. godspeed 🥳🥳
Never too late to get what you want.
I m a father of a two year old daughter and having a child and a loving wife makes my life really meaningful. I do miss having time for myself and do things without any careful planning but having moments of being with my child and wife is so much better. To give you an example, I arrived home late one evening and my wife video called me to tell me that she and my daughter would be sleeping at her parent’s tonight. It was late and they didn’t want to come home when it was really dark. After the video call, I get another call from her saying my daughter was crying because she wanted to see her papa. That was enough for me to go and spend the night at my in-laws.
Gantong ganto din ako before OP. Sabi ko pa ayaw ko magka anak since I'm with my ex pa noon and focus nalang sa career and pagpapa yaman. Pero nung nag break kami and started to know myself more, then my wife came ang happy lang araw-araw and kasama ko na sila mag walk around pag nag exercise ako 😁
minsan din napapaisip ako pag may mga cute na bata tapos twinning sila ng magulang nya. parang ang saya siguro...
Tapos naalala ko yung nabasa ko somewhere, projected college tuition fee of babies today ay around Php 300-600k / yr. Ayun, ahihimasmasan ako. :D
Libre naman ang state university tsaka kung makapasok anak mo sa UP eh miscellaneous lang babayaran mo. Yung friend ko nga kahit di pasok sa quota course na gusto nya, naipasok sya ng Auntie nya sa non-quota na course sa UP.
This is what I wanted after ending my 3 years relationship that was way back 2015 sabe ko sa sarili ko na ibaon ang sarili ko sa work para maging single tita with millions worth of insurance - pag aagawan padin ako ng pamangkins ko pagtanda - not until I met my boyfriend now. Bilang batang 90’s na pinalaki ng realidad ng buhay ndi uso samin ang softspoken. Lage sigawan ang simpleng usap. Hindi kame open sa mga ganap ng isat isa sa bahay simula nung namatay Papa namin. Kanya kanya kameng grind at pag need ni Mama ng support dun lang ang usapan. He is so softspoken (minsan nga nananadya ako para magalit sya - para makita ko kung pano sya magalit pero ang soft padin - akala ko yung galit na may sasabihin din sya pero he is soooo chill, saka pag uusapan ang solusyon sa problema. Makadiyos din sya (siya lang ang nagpasimba saken na every sunday consistent) at galing sa “prominent” na family. Nameet ko Mama nya na ang love language ata ay physical touch lage ako hinahawakan sa balikat, everytime na nagpapaalam na kame umuwi hinahalikan ako sa noo, sa pisnge. Oh to be loved by my boyfriend now and his family parang naghiheal ang inner child ko. Pwede naman pala ang gantong gentle parenting. Kaya ndi na ako nagtataka bat ganto jowa ko kase the environment he grew up with is sooooo peaceful. Nagkukwento din naman sya ng mga struggles nila noon which I consider to be normal sa family structure ng PH. Right now wala ako ibang gusto kundi sana in the future ibigay na saken to ni Lord. Andun na kase ako sa point na kung hindi sya wag nalang. 🙃
I have been very intentional and open with my dating life in recent years. Unfortunately, I haven't found success yet but one thing's for sure which I don't deny myself is I still want to be with someone even without kids but, I won't chase and beg. I want it to be reciprocal. The process is tiring but if it's meant to be, it will be. 47 here, fit, single, and financially stable Tita. Kapit lang tayo.
Yup, failed relationships and a classic example of if it’s not meant to be yet, then it won’t work no matter how much you control the situation. I’m probably a red flag kase I haven’t been in a long term relationship. Hehe. I don’t settle pag Hindi Aligned sa gusto Ko. If gusto Ko magwala now, pwedeng pwede Ko gawin. I’m free as a bird and I have the means but I’m firm na I don’t like that kind of life just to fill the loneliness sometimes. So I travel, workout, socialize etc. Thank God I still have the grace to resist delusions and temptations at this very moment. My peace of mind is more important.
No disrespect or harm intended. Hindi kaya yan ang one of the main causes bat wala pong guy ang nag tatagal? Impulsive behaviors like magwawala kung kelan gusto and non submissive sa guys. Opposites po kasi nyan gusto ng karamihan sa mga lalaki.
Awww I do understand that feeling. May I ask how old are you now, OP?
By age of 30, I accepted the fate of a rich single Tita. Then met someone before I turn 31. Got married at 33 then fast forward 5 yrs; we’re still going strong. The only thing that changed is I am married now, but still adamant on being childfree. I’ll be turning 40’s in a few yrs, still embodies the rich Tita but not single anymore 😉
Just remember, don’t make any decisions when you’re sad. Make sure you have the right reasons, especially when planning to have a baby. Di dahil maganda tingnan sa iba, magiging ok din sayo. Anyway, best of luck, OP!
I feel bad na yung una kong naisip after reading the two seemingly content couple strolling happily with their child is "ngayon lang yan, wait naten after 5 or so years". Naniniwala naman ako na posible yan, i guess di ko lang siguro maimagine na mangyayari sakin HAHA o baka naiinggit lang HAHAHAHA. Nainspire din naman ako kahit konti after reading this post. Goodluck sa ating lahat na nagaatempt parin 😵
Feel ko di naman mawawala yung problems regardless of how you both try kasi you cannot control external factors eh. But just having someone who will stick with you through thick and thin, who will never make you doubt, who will love you through it all~ Looooooooord
>“If it comes, fine. If it doesn’t, fine too.”
I was in this era of my life when I met my now partner. I never wanted to settle down or have a family of my own until I met him. I know ang cliché pero darating din yan, sometimes when you least expect it, but it helps if you are more proactive in trying to meet a potential partner. 😊
When you’re ready, the Universe will help you manifest what you want! Good luck, OP and for sure, you’re better prepared now to attract what kind of person you want to spend your life with!
Kagabi bago ako matulog sabi ko kay Lord, “Lord please wag mo pa ako kukunin ha, madami pa akong gustong gawin, puntahan na lugar, basahin na Libro and gusto ko pa mameet yung LOML and have a happy family” 😅
Oo strong and independent ako, happily single naman pero pangarap ko talaga maging career woman, maging ilaw ng tahanan at maging isang mabuting ina 🥹 pero sa ngayon nagtatalo pa yung heart and mind ko haha
Kasi while it's true that self love is there, iba parin yung feeling of enjoying life together with your loved one
Yung everyday meron kang kashare sa experience, may kasabay ka sa growth at pagtanda and if palarin magka anak eh the kid will be your legacy
Someday noh OP 😌
nakakasawa maging single lalo na't mawawala kana sa kalendaryo nakaka alangan na, ang hirap pa naman humanap ng totoo at makakasama through ups and downs kasi karamihan pag sa downs mo iiwanan ka na manlalamig na sayo hahahaha
This was me for the longest time, then met the man who I thought I would be forever with last year. Got pregnant, we both wanted it - pero mas gusto nya. Then, ayaw nya na. Magiging Tatay na lang daw sya ng anak namin, but don't want me. Di ko alam paano mag-heal. The last time I did was ten years ago, and walang anak na involved.
me na after failed talking stages, I settled for not hoping for date-to-marry guys until I met someone. Lord, babaguhin ko na naman plano ko niyan hahshajsjs
Don't get too drowned sa nakita mo nung nagjogging kayo. It's just 2 to 5 mins of their life, I dont say miserable sila behind curtains pero, if you already found your peace. You're already good at your own.
Same. Kahit nanggaling ako sa masakit na sitwasyon recently and still healing eh baliktad nangyari sa akin. Before it happened, I’ve already closed my doors for love. But still gave it a try sa recent kahit nasaktan. Imbes na mas lalong maging bitter naging love girl ako which I didn’t expect na may ganyan pala akong side, kala ko kasi pang casual lang ako. Now, focus muna ako sa self ko while waiting for him hihi.
25 years old ako when I told my self I'm gonna be a spinster. NBSB ako kase nun. Tapos ayun, nakilala ko husband ko sa very very long line ng LTO circa 2020. Ngayon may toddler na kame na mag 2 years old na this month.
Kasi ganto yan. di porke gusto ng iba na maging Single Income, No Kids (SINK) or Dual Income, No Kids (DINKS) ay susundin mo na rin. after all, may kanya kanya bagay o sa phase sa buhay na magpapasaya satin. Just make sure lang naman na maging responsableng magulang. Yon lang naman yon. atleast ngayon pa lang narealize mo na gusto mo rin pala magka pamilya, hindi ung nasa 40s ka na.
I’ll be 30 next year, sabi ko sa sarili ko I’ll go to Siargao this year and continue my dream to be a digital nomad. Lo and Behold, nagkaplot twist 2023 ko bago matapos ang taon. Now I’m working on my visa to be with him and while motherhood has sailed long time ago for me, ngayon ay gusto ko na din 😝 It seems pala that if we find the guy we know can be a good father, it just hits you. HAHAHAHA
Sabi nga ng mga mas nakakatanda sa atin to be loved and cared is the most sweetest thing in the world hnd daw natin need maging matatag ( strong independent woman ) at all times minsan kailangan dn ntn lumambot at maramdmamn na mag nag mamahal sa atin 💗
I want to give a more realistic perspective to this, OP. What you saw is a picture perfect kodak moment, that will happen probably only 1% of the time, the other parts are dull, boring, or outright « matrabaho ». Probably start with a jowa first, and then think about child/ren with all the logistics that comes with it. Remember, not everyone who has children are taken care of by the same children when they get old.
Hugs. It will come. Ako pinagdasal ko talaga. Mga 5 years kong dinasal. Basta every simbahan or temple, iisa lang yung prayer ko. Pati wishing well at widh bone pinatulan ko na.
Same, I always fucked up sa lahat ng nakikilala ko but I want and really really pray na sana magka family na din ako of my own. Pero sana wag dagdag pasakit, sa right time ganun haha.
Me too, its been a while since I have been looking for a girlfriend with a mind that wants to settle down. Nakakapagod rin most are work driven and wala pa kasal and having a family on their plans.
Hoping to find the one soon.
Same. Before I was diagnosed last 2020, sabi ko okay lang na kahit single ako basta may pera. Travel travel nalang. Pero life is like a box of chocolate nga naman. The first thing my doctor told me after the diagnosis was pwede pa raw akong mag asawa at magkaroon ng anak. It was an eye opener for me kaya ayan, open na ako sa idea ng marriage and having my mini version. 😄
I had thoughts about this too pero because of financial reasons, how messy my extended family is, and other personal reasons I don't think I'd be able to have a family of my own. Kung mangyayari, it's nice. But since I don't see it being possible anytime soon, I'm focusing on being independent.
It's a nice dream tho
Same. Pero yung realization ko came during the Covid Pandemic. People were dying left and right, and doon ko na realize na, shyet. Gusto ko ma-experience ma-in love ulit pero this time around, I'd also be loved back.
It's never too late. Just to share I have an ate cousin, bale older blood cousin ko sya na she was Sooo convinced na single tita na daw sya,
(Pasensya na magulo ako mag kwento, yung traumatic brain-injury ko it's acting up again yung phantom pain)
Everything in her life is like she pre-planned and planned.
Everything changed when she went to that business event, except the unexpected until she met her guy at a get-together business event.
At first, di type ni ate cousin si Doctor. So, let's call him, Doctor Shy, kasi nga, MD sya, soft spoken and shy.
They started dating, at first they testing each other, like in the most comedic manner, Ate cousin's is very extroverted, Doctor Shy naman transformed from an introvert into an ambivert, and became even more confident, and more outspoken.
Like a medical professional, like a doctor. Si ate cousin ko?
Well, she is doing well sa Lazada, Shopee and freelance work nya,
Kakilala ko yung guy kasi kasama namin ng GF ko sa MMA trainings. This Doctor Shy has the best glow ups ever. Di na sya si Doctor Shy,
And mind you, He had this bad case of ugly duckling syndrome,
(meaning despite his good looks, mababa ang self esteem nya dahil sa trauma, he is really shy and sobrang socially awkward guy. Imagine his chinito looks, imagine yung Jungkook, Lee Min Ho and Kim Jung-hyun, yung King Cheoljong of Joseon sa K-series na Mr. Queen)
Years after, Much to the unexpected twist, she ended up marrying the younger resident doctor,
So picture this, my ate pinsan married a younger guy, did she plan being in a relationship with him? No, but she allowed herself to be in love.
What is my point dito sa story? Ito OP, Sabi ng mentor ko sa Self-Development
"Love is like a feral cat, if you chase Love, it might run away screeching at you. And it may hurt you unintentionally. But, if you Allow yourself to be found by Love, if you allow Love to come to you, then it will find you."
Ayun, allow love to find you OP... And if you don't mind meeting a younger guy, have at it. ;) 😉
For context my Ate cousin was 33 nun and she and the Doctor Shy was at 30. They got married, and they have 3 kids. 1 eldest daughter and 2 younger boys
This realization also hit me massively during the wedding of my friend. Specially during the solo dance moment of the husband with their first daughter. It was heart melting.
Weddings! Weddings have this special tama talaga!!!
Agree! From the recent weddings I went too, I always try to create a montage of their weddings on my phone because it’s such a beautiful memory to capture. 🥹 Tapos deep inside, mga when kaya for me? 😅🤣
7 years single, nagkaroon ng sweetest, kindest jowa ever pero ako lagi taya. Hindi naman sya materialistic, never nagpabili ng gadget, motor damit etc, pero ung tipong basic necessities ako na rin ung nagpprovide. Girlll 😭 Hindi naddrain energy ko pag kasama sya, pero naddrain wallet ko. After nito ayoko na muna ulit 😭 Ang mantra ko ngayon, "don't chase, attract". If mamatay akong rich single tita, ok lang, iredirect ko nalang yung energy ko into money-making, nature-seeking, hobby-hording and family-loving self, pero open parin into dating.
>Ang mantra ko ngayon, "don't chase, attract". If mamatay akong rich single tita, ok lang, iredirect ko nalang yung energy ko into money-making, nature-seeking, hobby-hording and family-loving self, pero open parin into dating. Haha. I'm this but from a male viewpoint. The coolest single tito 😂
kayo na lang kaya HAHAHHA halos same icon pa kayo
Let's all be the single and coolest titos in town lol🤣🤣🤣
Teka, may iba pa ba akong account? Nagcomment n ba ako? Eh parang ako 'to. Hahaha Seriously, wala nman talagang masama kung gustuhin natin maging single or to be in a relationship. Basta yung pipiliin natin eh yung talagang bukal sa loob natin. Hindi ung niloloko na natin ung iba na masaya tayo, pati pa ba sarili natin? Kung may makakatagpo ba nman tayo ng partner with same core values and will give us respect, loyalty, and the feeling of peace,(and vice versa) for sure naman na di tayo aarte. Kaso, wala eh 😅🤷✌️
Medyo pareho tayo, pero hindi naman sa financial, imagine mo nonchalant na di umabot sa bare minimum. Free things like random hugs or kisses kailangan pang irequest. Kung hindi ako magtatanong kelan kami magkikita, walang kusa. And the list goes on. Open din ako sa dating, pero kung wala okay lang din. Dami ko ding ganap sa buhay at andun ang energy ko nowadays.
Mamsh ako diiiin. The thought of being loved and being cared for tapos meron kayong little one na halong mini you and your partner tas sabay nyong papalakihin. Haaaay taga sana all na naman tayoooo 🤣
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LORD WHENNNN 😭
Lord, i have seen what you did for others. 🤭
Lagi ko nababasa baby fever, family fever I guess haha
Hahahaahahahah sana all talaga when you put it like that 😂
Me too 🥹
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Lord, masaya naman kami sa self love. Pero pwede bang may isa pang magmamahal sa amin? 😭😂
I want to settle down pero sa kids talaga alanganin ako. I've spent the past 10yrs being a substitute mother to my nieces and nephews dahil hindi kaya ng mga kapatid ko. Yung pagluwal na lang ang hindi ko naexperience, but I think quota nako sa pagpalaki ng bata. If bibigyan at makakabuo, sige. Kung hindi, mas ok. 😅 anak na rin naman turing ko sa mga pamangkin ko, and I'm already planning para sa mga mana nila kung sakali. But the settling down part with someone na best friend mo na tapos may partner ka pa to fulfill your fantasies, baka naman Lord? Haha!
Some say iba daw pag sayo talaga.
Yeah, I know what they're saying. Iba talaga yun. Ibang klaseng love yung mararamdaman mo pag unang hawak mo sa kanya. Overwhelming nga raw. But it doesn't change the fact na nakakapagod at very stressful magpalaki ng bata. You won't understand yung araw araw na hirap physically, financially, and mentally pag hindi ka pa nakapag alaga. Madaling sabihin na gusto magka anak, pero iba ang reality. Kailangan ready ka sa lahat ng aspeto. If may choice, ayoko na ulit maranasan. But again, if ibigay, tatanggapin ng buo.
Same naranasan koto sa pamangkin ko pero nakaka burnt out mag alaga ng bata everyday.
I feel you! Ang hirap mag alaga ng mga pamangkin, yung tipong pagluwal palang, ikaw na ang nag alaga. Mga damit, toys and snacks nabibigay ko naman pero iba pa rin pagmamahal ng isang ina. Pero ano kaya feeling ng may sarili ka ding family? Hehe
dibaaaa? haaay. gusto ko din ng husband and a baby girl.. 😍
Baby girl para ma-dress up 😂😂
yesss. kaya nga gusto ko talaga baby girl para matchy kami, mabibihisan ko, maaayusan ko ng buhok. haaay. cutie lang. hehe
Hahaha masaya ang dress-up maybe until 6 years old. Pag marunong na sila mamili ng damit makakarinig ka na ng "ayaw ko niyan ih" based on a true story hahaha she's 15 years old now.
I want a baby girl din to dress up
I want a baby girl din.
Me too
ako rin baby girl ever since
Hahahahaha feel you. Masaya naman yung feeling ng solitude, pero minsan mapapawhen ka talaga. haha
Di mo na ma-blame sa lamig ng pasko kasi March na eh 🥲
True. Heavy comforter helps to sleep, pero minsan gusto ko din cuddle. :D
I SECOND THIS HAHAHAHA
Dadating din yung para satin. Goodluck OP!
ako parang tanggap ko na. haha, nearing my 40s tapos binata na maganda ang trabaho pero dahil siguro sa mga events sa buhay namin nung walang wala kami. nakalimutan at nai-set aside ko na yun lovelife. sinubukan ko naman pero siguro hindi talaga ako interesting na tao haha.
Paps pareho lang siguro tayo. I'm in my 30s. Almost got married 8 years ago. Pero un nga, life happens. Took some time to recover emotionally and mentally pero in the end you'll find that freedom, peace and solitude. Ngayon I'm very content being the cool ninong/tito my friends' kids. I also go hiking and try new stuff/hobby each year. Maraming interesting na bagay, buhay at kwento sa mundo. Galing din kami sa baba kaya I'm kinda spoiling my parents and cherishing the time I have with them. Wish ko lang na humaba pa buhay ng mga magulang ko and see them experience everything that they deserve.
Bless you! 🙏🏻
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Hanap na lang kayo ng Russian girl or East European girl(Balkan region) kasi domesticated sila, marunong sila gumawa ng gawaing bahay. Yung current generation kasi ng Filipina women ay lumaki na may katulong. Pero dahil domesticated ang mga Russian women & Balkan women, expected na husband ang breadwinner sa pamilya habang sila ay sa bahay bilang traditional na misis. Di nahawa ang mga bansa nila sa Western concept ng working woman kasi malaking insulto sa pagkalalaki ang pagtrabahuhin ang misis para makihati sa finances, at kung may income man ang misis ay for her personal consumption lang yun(parehas ng mga Muslim women na bawal pag-ambagin ng husband ang misis base sa religion nila).
Feeling the same way bro. Lalo na to the point na ikaw yung breadwinner at may mataas na pangarap sa buhay kasi nanggaling kayo sa wala, pero I do believe when the time is right, everything will fall into place, even finding the right woman. It starts that we are building ourselves to be the right man. So for now cool tito muna sa mga pamangkins and honoring our parents coz they deserved it na suklian ang kanilang pagmamahal na hindi tayo napipilitan o obligasyon pero dahil mahal natin sila at napalaki nila tayo ng tama, may values, respect, with dignity, and principles in life. Rooting for us brothers, stand tall dear men.
Cheers, bro. Totoo at tama yan lahat ng sinabi mo. I always make sure that my parents are making the right decisions and enjoying themselves, kahit minsan kunsintidor rin sa konting luho, basta reasonable at may purpose. Di kasi natin alam gano pa natin sila katagal makakasama. I will never take it for granted. After all the challenges, failures and rejections in life tapos sila andyan parin para sumuporta at unconditionally accepting us.
Dadating din yan bro kasi kung ano ang puno siya din ang bunga, kung pinalaki tayo ng maayos at tama ng magulang natin, for sure ripple effect will go to our time pag tayo naman, the Universe and Creator will always have the chain of events, thus finding us the right woman. Kaya marahil wala pa tayo sa ngayon kasi hinahanda yung para sa atin na kapareho ng puno natin, so patience lang and let's continue building a life. The right woman will come. Hindi tayo mama's boy or papa's boy, sadyang pinalaki lang tayo ng maayos. Kaya panalangin din nila yan sa atin na tayo ay makatagpo ng akmang nararapat para sa atin. Besides lalake tayo. Rooting for all single men right here, let's aim to be better and my full support for everyone. In this modern dating world na puro luho at aesthetics lang sukatan ng relationship, we deserved finding the right partner as well. 🫵💪
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Hindi naman, you're just passionate. After my falloff 8 years ago, sobrang dami ko nasubukan. Bagay na pinangarap ko lang dati at mga hindi ko naisip na gawin. I did like 5 overseas solo trips with adventures on the side. Talagang eye-opening and life-changing sakin. Especially when I did the 4 day hike sa Inca Trail to Machu Picchu in Peru. Sobrang naiba pananaw ko sa mundo. Some time ago I was asked by older colleagues that I might be missing out kasi nga parang di ko iniisip magkaroon ng sarili kong pamilya. Ang naisagot ko sa kanila is that I'm more than content with all the good things I have, I can die tomorrow with zero regrets sabi ko pa. Pero wala akong balak mamatay anytime soon kasi I still have an endless list of things to experience. Masarap mabuhay at mas masarap ung pakiramdam na nakakatulong.
Shocks sobrang goals yang Peru! I wanna visit that country someday rin 🥺✨
>Ngayon I'm very content being the cool ninong/tito my friends' kids. Same here! Kaya ako favorite ng mga pamangkin ko and inaanak, we go out and they are open sa akin kasi they trust me. >I also go hiking and try new stuff/hobby each year. Maraming interesting na bagay, buhay at kwento sa mundo.. Ang sarap din magdiscover ng bagay bagay and doing things you love, diba? >Wish ko lang na humaba pa buhay ng mga magulang ko and see them experience everything that they deserve. Ito yung hope ko talaga eh. While they enjoy their retirement, andun yung fear na mawala sila soon.
>Same here! Kaya ako favorite ng mga pamangkin ko and inaanak, we go out and they are open sa akin kasi they trust me. Comedy nga minsan ung iba kong inaaanak, pag dumadalaw ako sa bahay nila super clingy sakin. Minsan sanabihan ako ng isamg kumare ko na wag ko daw masyado iniispoil ung mga bata. Eh kaso di ko matiis ung lambing nila sakin 😅 >Ang sarap din magdiscover ng bagay bagay and doing things you love, diba? Sobra, and developing your passion. Laking bagay rin when you're meeting new people who share the same principles and interests. The best part is learning how big the world is and insignificant some of our worries. >Ito yung hope ko talaga eh. While they enjoy their retirement, andun yung fear na mawala sila soon. Keep them busy and occupied. Give them something that they will look forward in the future. Yung parents ko nag bbook na ng mga future holiday trip nila this year and next. Bahala na si Visa at Mastercard 😵🙈🤣
>Keep them busy and occupied. Give them something that they will look forward in the future. Yung mother ko ok lang mahilig magtravel, yung father ko ayaw maiiwan yung pinakamamahal nyang dog. Gusto lagi uuwi nang maaga pag lumalabas kami. Hahaha
siguro nga , sobrang enjoy ko rin yun freedom, wala akong pag papaalam na kailangan gawin kapag may gusto akong bilhin para sa sarili ko. bili ako ng gaming console, ng mga libro, ng mga hobbies ko. punta ako sa concerts, nood ng movie mag isa , uwi ng late, tapos wala akong iniintindi na kailangan ko i update na tao bawat kilos ko haha. pero syempre habang nagkaka edad ako minsan nga din naiisip ko yun lalo kapag nakikita ko mga barkada ko na isa isang nag uupload / update ng cover photos nila sa socmed. pero wala talaga haha, parang ok na rin na wala
Dating is hard nowadays. 😅 Nagkakakalyo na ko kakswipe sa dating apps. 🤣🤣🤣
Maling app kasi ang gamit mo, majority ng gumagamit ng Tinder ay naghahanap lang ng panandaliang ligaya. Dun ka sa DateinAsia app, pwede mo i-customize kung saang country ang gusto mong hanapin.
Baka puro foreigner doon? Not my preference 😅 ETA: Ay, missed the part that the country can be changed.
It will come when you least expect it!
My dad was a divorcee and he got married to my mom during his 40s. Never too late for love!
Dati, lagi kong sinasabi na hindi ko naman kailangan ng makakasama sa buhay para sumaya. Ngayon, binabawi ko na ang sinabi ko. Masaya pala sa feeling kapag may 'someone' na nandyan para sayo all the time. Yung sabay niyong aabutin mga pangarap niyo, magkaroon ng sariling pamilya, at gumawa ng memories habambuhay. Ang saya lang siguro sa feeling na ganon. Kaya simula nang mapagtanto ko yun, lagi na akong nagpe-pray kay God na mabigyan niya ako ng matinong lalaki at magkaroon ng babies hahahahaha. Tbh, excited na ako hahahaha. Sana dumating. 🤍
Hoping na dumating dn ako sa ganitong point. Sa ngayon talaga I can't imagine myself having kids... pero ung partner ko gustong gusto nya magkaanak... 30 na ako this year pero wala pa sa heart ko ang baby huhuhu I feel like there's something wrong with me.
We will never want all the same things, and that’s okay. Just because it’s different from the norm doesn’t mean it’s “wrong”
OMG! 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻 When you do that, please pray. You won’t know what will happen hut at least try! Who knows ♥️♥️♥️ Hopefully you find him!
THANK YOU OP 😭😭🫶🏻🫶🏻 BACK AT YOUUUUUU!!!
Sa true lang. Anong feeling ng may little one na half of you and half the person you love 🥹🥹🥹
Exactly! Diba kung mahal mo Yun tao, nandun din yun desire na may maliit na half mo at half nya. Being married and loving your spouse and little one, you really get out of oneself.
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Watching PewDiePie (his vlogs with his family) makes me feel the same way kagaya sa'yo. Really love imagining things with a wife who's supportive, caring, and loving by your side. Hanggang when nalang ako neto😭🙏. Doomed to be lonely ata ako forever (sorry if mali mali grammar ko, first time ko kasi mag comment, super introverted ko kasi).
Iba talaga realization kapag sabado nights tas nasa bahay ka lang ano hahaha
Lalo na pag nasa park ka with happy families HAHA
Hahaha. Hayaan mo OP bukas wala na yan. Kasi mag lulunes na ulit. Until next sabado na lang ulit.
Nakaka inggit dbaa hahaha anona, Lord. Mamatay na ba akong ******😭🤣
Oo daw sabi ni Lord. JOKE HAHAHA
Single?
Virgin
Omgggg same!!!! Narealize ko rin siya kanina lang! May nakita akong tikt0k vid this morning na super happy yung husband niya kasi sinurprise ni wifey na preggy siya. Tapos umiiyak yung guy and nag-pray silang dalawa. Sobrang pure lang. 😭
Ang hirap din kasi maka tagpo ng totoo
Girl oo naman. Sa panahong to, iniisip ko na nga rin. Ayoko rin naman na mag-dating apps bc it never worked well for me in the past. Pero as someone na bahay at work lang everyday, san ba tayo makakahanap
Marami padin na good man who loves to lead, provide, edify you, and loves to take care of a spouse and build a family type of a man. They just not being noticed coz they don't regularly exist or active in social media, you will find them busy doing their purpose coz social media is just showing the facade perception of an ideal man which made the dating market more hard for good man to be noticed. Like for me, I tried apps and social media, but then realized it's not for me and kung ganito lang din ang dating market ng ibang girls, puro katawan at hubog ng katawan ang pinangangalandakan sa internet, better go back and stay focus of building ourselves than to find a date. You will also find most them in church too. Happy Sunday.
Maybe dito sa reddit po. Hehe
me at 2AM everytime na may makikita akong cute family vids sa reels ng ig lalo na yung mga may cute na baby. hahahahaha
Dami ko nang saved cute baby tiktoks 🥹😂
You deserve to be loved! Actually we all are. Sana someday tumigil na tayo sa kaka-“sana all”. 😭❤️
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Having a spouse with the same goal and toddler made me realize how selfless I can be. I love my son kaya I make sure na may daily father and son time kami at the same time I make sure I pamper my wife. Nabawi naman si wife through cooking and letting play video games or ride my motorcycle every weekends
It’s a scary thought to be alone at the top. And scarier to know that by the end of the day, you didn’t give it a try and have regrets in the end. Explore more and you’ll eventually relearn a lot it stuffs.
Been there, then suddenly got married, natanggal yung "rich" sa title hahahahaha Anyway, I feel blessed with a good partner despite the financial challenge, I kinda made sure my partner would share, and not even count his contributions, in all household tasks and errands. Siguro yung mental burden nalang ang challenge with all the planning and bills payment, ako lahat nagssched at nagttransact, nakahawak ng budget (na monthly naglalahong parang bula,, etc.) but hubby is proactive in all the physical input the partnership entails. Walang reklamo, minimal bisyo, just chill daily musings. bonus that he picks me up from work kahit makapag OT from extended meetings and I don't oblige him to do so, and over all companion in everything which is not required or asked from him, and no misogynistic vibe, he's really very supportive. I see some other couples na napabayaan yung isa ng mga asawa nila, so para silang naging single tito/tita na may palamunin at alalahanin, so I hope you are warned with the difference.
I used to be like that din, self_love, and takot magkaanak. Pero ngayon, i'm the happiest with my husband and child. Especially if very involved ang husband mo sa bahay and sa pag-alaga sa anak, mas lalong masaya. 🥰
Why not tita just go ahead and find that worthy person to build family with. Ako naman opposite ang effect sakin looking at a small family. Mamsh di ko maimagine maghabol ng bata na sobrang kulit. At magpuyat sa pag-aalaga. Makes my decision to be childfree more firm. I want to be in a happy childfree marriage.
Last year lang ayaw kong magka-anak. Kuntento na ko na may jowa lang kahit di kami ikasal. Pero dumating yung blessing saming dalawa na sobrang unexpected. Ngayon na kakapanganak ko lang, I wouldn’t trade this moment for anything else. Sobrang fulfillling. Totoo pala yung love at first sight at sa anak ko yun naramdaman. Seeing her smile while sleeping, mapapa- Thank you Lord ka nalang talaga.
We have the same goal haha to become a rich tita. When I also go to ‘that’ park na maraming naglalaro na kids with their rich parents parang gradually nagugustuhan ko na rin to have my own fam. Baka dahil lang they looked stable rin and happy.
I already had this kind of relationship. We were happy. We were building our future together. We dreamt together. But she cheated. 5 years down the drain. What a life.
Used to dream this but… life happens. Gustuhin ko mang maging ama or maging ulirang asawa, sa estadl ng buhay ko ngayon baka isumpa lang ako ng magiging asawa o anak ko.
Sometimes it's the idea of love that we love. Hope you find the right one. It's hard to love the wrong person. It's taxing, it's consuming, and it's damn hard depressing.
Same, OP. At first, I didn't want to have children. But now, I've changed my mind. I actually plan to have three children. I want my firstborn to be a girl and my mini me. It's so heartwarming to watch baby videos on FB. I hope we choose our future husbands wisely because our kids cannot choose their fathers. 🥹😍
Same din, 33[M] here, pagnakakakita ako nang baby nagbubulkan yung puso ko, gusto ko din nang pamilya 😭 Please lang kung nasaan ka future gf to wife magparamdam ka na mamayang lunes! 😂
If you're 40's, you should consider making your last will for your pamangkins.
kahit anong mangyare di talaga ako magsasawa. rich virgin tita talga ako... Makakita pa ng sweet couples and babies.. Di talaga mababago isip ko hahahha yikes
I focused on my career and other priorities and when I reached them during my early 30s, I realize "I have everything but who do I share them with?" Glad I found my gf not long after that realization. Masarap may pinaglalabanan ka na tao kasama mo bumuo ng pangarap. My income increased too when she's here.
Ganito rin mindset ko until I got pregnant accidentally. Kahit pagkapanganak ko iniisip ko pa rin magpaka single, until lumaki na si baby at ngayong elementary na siya at may mind of his own. Sobrang lambing, daig pa yung asawa ko sa lambing. Hahaha. From time to time naiinggit pa rin ako sa single life, lalo kapag stressful sa bahay. Nagpapaalam lang ako to go out with friends one weekend, tapos ok na after that. Sarap na may inuuwian na bata tapos sobrang saya niya pag sumasalubong sa door. As generally matalinong tamad lol, it also keeps you going, motivates you to push boundaries. May papakainin kang bata kaya bawal tamad 😂
Yeah. I was a social worker in a home for the aged and most of my clients are widows and single old women. And they are always surprised why at 28 im still single. Hahaha they always tell me, mag boyfriend ako, mag asawa na ako. But, yeah. Sino naman?! Hhahah Lagi nila sinasabi na, iba ang may partner sa buhay na pagsheshare-an ng good, bad and the ugly. Haisst napapaisip ko na din parents ko who are celebraring 30 years of tolerating each other lol
Same. Napagod na lang din ako mag aral puro titles lang nadagdag sa name ko. Gusto ko iyong surname naman ng magiging tatay ng future kids ko 🥹🥹🥹
I wanna settle down too
Ang tanong, ready na ba?
I would say no. Tho I watched this vid sabi nya you can never be ready because there would always be something you would eventually think na ay “hindi pa siguro ako ready”. That could be financially, mentally or emotionally.
Yeah I’ve heard this too!! We wanna be as ready as we can, but the truth is we’ll never really know
I guess we need someone who is brave enough to take the lead.
Feeling ko naman ready ka na kasi buo ka na as a person. Kumbaga you don't NEED a man naman talaga, you WANT a person to share this life with, which is mas maganda kasi di ka magiging dependent. Hope you find someone soon.
Reading your post makes me think of the guys na nagpa-vasectomy by age 18-23 HAHAHAHAHA
I promise to myself na magiging rich single tita ako. Pero true na nakaka inggit yung happy families.. But nakakatakot din haha, may trust issue si ateng. Baka mag failed din, so wag na lang.
May the love you deserve find you
I don't wanna sound bitter but this way of thinking is just too reckless. Marriage is not all sunshine and glitters. There are lots of people regretting getting married and having a family. My mom told me if you are ready for a possibility to be a broke single parent then build one. Are you ready to become the primary parent? Are you willing to halt your dreams because of pregnancy? Are you willing to pursue your dreams AND be a parent? Are you willing to sacrifice your sleeping hours to take care of the baby? Are you ready to experience PPD? "Oh but my partner will help me with childcare" Walang assurance that your partner will not change either for the worse or cheat on you. So many women complaining about their husbands not helping them. Lots of women getting overwhelmed. Money come and go but responsibility is forever.
I do feel like this recently when I saw a cute family strolling inside the mall. Seeing them so happy and at peace, malaking sanaol po talaga. Pray po tayo na darating din tayo sa gnung sitwasyon.
Gawa po tayo prayer group HAHAHAHA
HAHAHAHA Yes OP mas maririnig daw po ni Lord pag marami ang nagdadasal
I know you didn’t come here asking for advice but I’d like to tell you that someone is out there for you. You took some time for yourself, learn to be independent, and now learned what you want in a relationship. You are secure. It is the perfect time for you to be in a relationship. Some would say to wait patiently but I say, wait ACTIVELY. Go on dating apps, meet people, go on dates, get to know strangers. Put yourself out there. There will be some disappointments but don’t lose hope. You need to kiss a few frogs to find your prince. Best of luck to you, OP!
Thank you!! 🫶🏻🫶🏻
Me too! Ang sarap sa feeling na minamahal din no. Bakit kaya ang hirap magkaron ng relasyon pag nasa 30s ka na tapos may career naman. Sabi ng friend ko na guy, intimidating na daw kasi sa lalaki kapag successfull ang girl.
sameee, took me good amount of time to be better from a failed relationship. and guess what? ive been comfortable being single that I got scared of how comfortable I am being single HAHAHA. 7 year relationship ba nman tas magccheat lang ung gf mo? saklap dba? HAHA. pero agree ako sayo, pag may dumating oks pag wala oks padin. dadating din satin yan 😅😅. godspeed 🥳🥳
Never too late to get what you want. I m a father of a two year old daughter and having a child and a loving wife makes my life really meaningful. I do miss having time for myself and do things without any careful planning but having moments of being with my child and wife is so much better. To give you an example, I arrived home late one evening and my wife video called me to tell me that she and my daughter would be sleeping at her parent’s tonight. It was late and they didn’t want to come home when it was really dark. After the video call, I get another call from her saying my daughter was crying because she wanted to see her papa. That was enough for me to go and spend the night at my in-laws.
Gantong ganto din ako before OP. Sabi ko pa ayaw ko magka anak since I'm with my ex pa noon and focus nalang sa career and pagpapa yaman. Pero nung nag break kami and started to know myself more, then my wife came ang happy lang araw-araw and kasama ko na sila mag walk around pag nag exercise ako 😁
minsan din napapaisip ako pag may mga cute na bata tapos twinning sila ng magulang nya. parang ang saya siguro... Tapos naalala ko yung nabasa ko somewhere, projected college tuition fee of babies today ay around Php 300-600k / yr. Ayun, ahihimasmasan ako. :D
Libre naman ang state university tsaka kung makapasok anak mo sa UP eh miscellaneous lang babayaran mo. Yung friend ko nga kahit di pasok sa quota course na gusto nya, naipasok sya ng Auntie nya sa non-quota na course sa UP.
Tita, It will come! Dasal dasal lang.
Sorry pero ito ang sign mo na magiging steong independent woman ka until death
Hahahaha so mean!!
Joke lang yun bata ka pa
This is what I wanted after ending my 3 years relationship that was way back 2015 sabe ko sa sarili ko na ibaon ang sarili ko sa work para maging single tita with millions worth of insurance - pag aagawan padin ako ng pamangkins ko pagtanda - not until I met my boyfriend now. Bilang batang 90’s na pinalaki ng realidad ng buhay ndi uso samin ang softspoken. Lage sigawan ang simpleng usap. Hindi kame open sa mga ganap ng isat isa sa bahay simula nung namatay Papa namin. Kanya kanya kameng grind at pag need ni Mama ng support dun lang ang usapan. He is so softspoken (minsan nga nananadya ako para magalit sya - para makita ko kung pano sya magalit pero ang soft padin - akala ko yung galit na may sasabihin din sya pero he is soooo chill, saka pag uusapan ang solusyon sa problema. Makadiyos din sya (siya lang ang nagpasimba saken na every sunday consistent) at galing sa “prominent” na family. Nameet ko Mama nya na ang love language ata ay physical touch lage ako hinahawakan sa balikat, everytime na nagpapaalam na kame umuwi hinahalikan ako sa noo, sa pisnge. Oh to be loved by my boyfriend now and his family parang naghiheal ang inner child ko. Pwede naman pala ang gantong gentle parenting. Kaya ndi na ako nagtataka bat ganto jowa ko kase the environment he grew up with is sooooo peaceful. Nagkukwento din naman sya ng mga struggles nila noon which I consider to be normal sa family structure ng PH. Right now wala ako ibang gusto kundi sana in the future ibigay na saken to ni Lord. Andun na kase ako sa point na kung hindi sya wag nalang. 🙃
I have been very intentional and open with my dating life in recent years. Unfortunately, I haven't found success yet but one thing's for sure which I don't deny myself is I still want to be with someone even without kids but, I won't chase and beg. I want it to be reciprocal. The process is tiring but if it's meant to be, it will be. 47 here, fit, single, and financially stable Tita. Kapit lang tayo.
Sorry to ask, bakit single ka pa rin at 47 po? Failed relationships po ba in the past or nbsb talaga?
Yup, failed relationships and a classic example of if it’s not meant to be yet, then it won’t work no matter how much you control the situation. I’m probably a red flag kase I haven’t been in a long term relationship. Hehe. I don’t settle pag Hindi Aligned sa gusto Ko. If gusto Ko magwala now, pwedeng pwede Ko gawin. I’m free as a bird and I have the means but I’m firm na I don’t like that kind of life just to fill the loneliness sometimes. So I travel, workout, socialize etc. Thank God I still have the grace to resist delusions and temptations at this very moment. My peace of mind is more important.
No disrespect or harm intended. Hindi kaya yan ang one of the main causes bat wala pong guy ang nag tatagal? Impulsive behaviors like magwawala kung kelan gusto and non submissive sa guys. Opposites po kasi nyan gusto ng karamihan sa mga lalaki.
Awww I do understand that feeling. May I ask how old are you now, OP? By age of 30, I accepted the fate of a rich single Tita. Then met someone before I turn 31. Got married at 33 then fast forward 5 yrs; we’re still going strong. The only thing that changed is I am married now, but still adamant on being childfree. I’ll be turning 40’s in a few yrs, still embodies the rich Tita but not single anymore 😉 Just remember, don’t make any decisions when you’re sad. Make sure you have the right reasons, especially when planning to have a baby. Di dahil maganda tingnan sa iba, magiging ok din sayo. Anyway, best of luck, OP!
Q, are you considering giving your wealth away to your nephews/nieces once you die? Or sa charity?
Charity. We plan to build a foundation someday for out of school youths to put them through school. Hopefully this will pan out.
Thats a great cause. Praying that it will materialize.
Thank you so much!
I feel bad na yung una kong naisip after reading the two seemingly content couple strolling happily with their child is "ngayon lang yan, wait naten after 5 or so years". Naniniwala naman ako na posible yan, i guess di ko lang siguro maimagine na mangyayari sakin HAHA o baka naiinggit lang HAHAHAHA. Nainspire din naman ako kahit konti after reading this post. Goodluck sa ating lahat na nagaatempt parin 😵
Feel ko di naman mawawala yung problems regardless of how you both try kasi you cannot control external factors eh. But just having someone who will stick with you through thick and thin, who will never make you doubt, who will love you through it all~ Looooooooord
Haaaay gusto ko din hahahhaa
Lord ready na me ulit mag lovelife. Char!
sameee huhu
I don't want that too but based on how life's going mukhang yun na nga.
mapupuno na naman ng post yung phr4rdating at phr430 neto. HAHAHA. welcome guys!
you'll get there, op 😊
Ganun talaga teh, panget siguro ugali natin hahahahahaha. Tanggap ko na Jane at Wanda 😂😂😂😂
Huhu so relatable!!!
>“If it comes, fine. If it doesn’t, fine too.” I was in this era of my life when I met my now partner. I never wanted to settle down or have a family of my own until I met him. I know ang cliché pero darating din yan, sometimes when you least expect it, but it helps if you are more proactive in trying to meet a potential partner. 😊
talk to your parents about love, sobrang dami kong matutunan and one thing is may karamay ka sa hirap at ginhawa. :)
Same sis. I would always say na okay lang na solong katawan ako pero sabay kambyo na Lord, mas bet ko po na may someone. 🥹
When you’re ready, the Universe will help you manifest what you want! Good luck, OP and for sure, you’re better prepared now to attract what kind of person you want to spend your life with!
Basta ready na puso mo OP 😃
It's never too late OP. MAY NAKALAAN PARA SATIN 🤙
Dahil po dito sa post mo, OP parang nagbago na rin ang isip ko 😅🥲
Taena pa-6 yrs na ko single ayoko pa din makipagdate. Pero minsan talaga parang gusto mo din ng jowa, minsan nag-ccrave ka parang ice cream. lol
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Awww
Kagabi bago ako matulog sabi ko kay Lord, “Lord please wag mo pa ako kukunin ha, madami pa akong gustong gawin, puntahan na lugar, basahin na Libro and gusto ko pa mameet yung LOML and have a happy family” 😅 Oo strong and independent ako, happily single naman pero pangarap ko talaga maging career woman, maging ilaw ng tahanan at maging isang mabuting ina 🥹 pero sa ngayon nagtatalo pa yung heart and mind ko haha
Kasi while it's true that self love is there, iba parin yung feeling of enjoying life together with your loved one Yung everyday meron kang kashare sa experience, may kasabay ka sa growth at pagtanda and if palarin magka anak eh the kid will be your legacy Someday noh OP 😌
SAME HAHAHAHAHAHAH I WANT TO GIVE MY ALL AGAIN HAHAHAHAAHAH 😭🥹
Sana all rich hahaha. Joke
thats a good thought eventually people tend to find love to other people, we need each other
nakakasawa maging single lalo na't mawawala kana sa kalendaryo nakaka alangan na, ang hirap pa naman humanap ng totoo at makakasama through ups and downs kasi karamihan pag sa downs mo iiwanan ka na manlalamig na sayo hahahaha
This was me for the longest time, then met the man who I thought I would be forever with last year. Got pregnant, we both wanted it - pero mas gusto nya. Then, ayaw nya na. Magiging Tatay na lang daw sya ng anak namin, but don't want me. Di ko alam paano mag-heal. The last time I did was ten years ago, and walang anak na involved.
I want it too 🥺
me na after failed talking stages, I settled for not hoping for date-to-marry guys until I met someone. Lord, babaguhin ko na naman plano ko niyan hahshajsjs
My everyday prayer. 🤞🏻
Goodluck sainyong lahat. Sana mahanap nyo si 'The one' at makabuo kayo ng mini me version nyo. 😊
yeaaaa.
Me too.. tired na sa pagiging financially independent single tito haha.. Lord beke nemen.🙏🏻
Don't get too drowned sa nakita mo nung nagjogging kayo. It's just 2 to 5 mins of their life, I dont say miserable sila behind curtains pero, if you already found your peace. You're already good at your own.
Ngaun nagegets ko na bakit may ngccomment na tuwing 10pm ganto din sila hahaha Maybe the ovaries/uterus are screaming Pg gantong oras hahaha
Same. Kahit nanggaling ako sa masakit na sitwasyon recently and still healing eh baliktad nangyari sa akin. Before it happened, I’ve already closed my doors for love. But still gave it a try sa recent kahit nasaktan. Imbes na mas lalong maging bitter naging love girl ako which I didn’t expect na may ganyan pala akong side, kala ko kasi pang casual lang ako. Now, focus muna ako sa self ko while waiting for him hihi.
Feeels. Kahit ung nag sscroll ka lang then you see shorts vids/reels of cute babiess- baby fever ba 😩🥹
kung may matinong lalake, it's hard to find 🤔 suntok sa buwan
25 years old ako when I told my self I'm gonna be a spinster. NBSB ako kase nun. Tapos ayun, nakilala ko husband ko sa very very long line ng LTO circa 2020. Ngayon may toddler na kame na mag 2 years old na this month.
Kasi ganto yan. di porke gusto ng iba na maging Single Income, No Kids (SINK) or Dual Income, No Kids (DINKS) ay susundin mo na rin. after all, may kanya kanya bagay o sa phase sa buhay na magpapasaya satin. Just make sure lang naman na maging responsableng magulang. Yon lang naman yon. atleast ngayon pa lang narealize mo na gusto mo rin pala magka pamilya, hindi ung nasa 40s ka na.
I’ll be 30 next year, sabi ko sa sarili ko I’ll go to Siargao this year and continue my dream to be a digital nomad. Lo and Behold, nagkaplot twist 2023 ko bago matapos ang taon. Now I’m working on my visa to be with him and while motherhood has sailed long time ago for me, ngayon ay gusto ko na din 😝 It seems pala that if we find the guy we know can be a good father, it just hits you. HAHAHAHA
Hay Pucha. Ganito din ako. Til I attended weddings in December tapos di ko namalayan na tinatanong ko na sa sarili ko kailan naman ako.
He will come soon. Hehe
Sabi nga ng mga mas nakakatanda sa atin to be loved and cared is the most sweetest thing in the world hnd daw natin need maging matatag ( strong independent woman ) at all times minsan kailangan dn ntn lumambot at maramdmamn na mag nag mamahal sa atin 💗
I want to give a more realistic perspective to this, OP. What you saw is a picture perfect kodak moment, that will happen probably only 1% of the time, the other parts are dull, boring, or outright « matrabaho ». Probably start with a jowa first, and then think about child/ren with all the logistics that comes with it. Remember, not everyone who has children are taken care of by the same children when they get old.
Hugs. It will come. Ako pinagdasal ko talaga. Mga 5 years kong dinasal. Basta every simbahan or temple, iisa lang yung prayer ko. Pati wishing well at widh bone pinatulan ko na.
Same, I always fucked up sa lahat ng nakikilala ko but I want and really really pray na sana magka family na din ako of my own. Pero sana wag dagdag pasakit, sa right time ganun haha.
Me too, its been a while since I have been looking for a girlfriend with a mind that wants to settle down. Nakakapagod rin most are work driven and wala pa kasal and having a family on their plans. Hoping to find the one soon.
Same. Before I was diagnosed last 2020, sabi ko okay lang na kahit single ako basta may pera. Travel travel nalang. Pero life is like a box of chocolate nga naman. The first thing my doctor told me after the diagnosis was pwede pa raw akong mag asawa at magkaroon ng anak. It was an eye opener for me kaya ayan, open na ako sa idea ng marriage and having my mini version. 😄
I had thoughts about this too pero because of financial reasons, how messy my extended family is, and other personal reasons I don't think I'd be able to have a family of my own. Kung mangyayari, it's nice. But since I don't see it being possible anytime soon, I'm focusing on being independent. It's a nice dream tho
Same. Pero yung realization ko came during the Covid Pandemic. People were dying left and right, and doon ko na realize na, shyet. Gusto ko ma-experience ma-in love ulit pero this time around, I'd also be loved back.
Same. Kaya kung ayaw niyo ko mamatay na single tita pm niyo ko 😆 charot
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It's never too late. Just to share I have an ate cousin, bale older blood cousin ko sya na she was Sooo convinced na single tita na daw sya, (Pasensya na magulo ako mag kwento, yung traumatic brain-injury ko it's acting up again yung phantom pain) Everything in her life is like she pre-planned and planned. Everything changed when she went to that business event, except the unexpected until she met her guy at a get-together business event. At first, di type ni ate cousin si Doctor. So, let's call him, Doctor Shy, kasi nga, MD sya, soft spoken and shy. They started dating, at first they testing each other, like in the most comedic manner, Ate cousin's is very extroverted, Doctor Shy naman transformed from an introvert into an ambivert, and became even more confident, and more outspoken. Like a medical professional, like a doctor. Si ate cousin ko? Well, she is doing well sa Lazada, Shopee and freelance work nya, Kakilala ko yung guy kasi kasama namin ng GF ko sa MMA trainings. This Doctor Shy has the best glow ups ever. Di na sya si Doctor Shy, And mind you, He had this bad case of ugly duckling syndrome, (meaning despite his good looks, mababa ang self esteem nya dahil sa trauma, he is really shy and sobrang socially awkward guy. Imagine his chinito looks, imagine yung Jungkook, Lee Min Ho and Kim Jung-hyun, yung King Cheoljong of Joseon sa K-series na Mr. Queen) Years after, Much to the unexpected twist, she ended up marrying the younger resident doctor, So picture this, my ate pinsan married a younger guy, did she plan being in a relationship with him? No, but she allowed herself to be in love. What is my point dito sa story? Ito OP, Sabi ng mentor ko sa Self-Development "Love is like a feral cat, if you chase Love, it might run away screeching at you. And it may hurt you unintentionally. But, if you Allow yourself to be found by Love, if you allow Love to come to you, then it will find you." Ayun, allow love to find you OP... And if you don't mind meeting a younger guy, have at it. ;) 😉 For context my Ate cousin was 33 nun and she and the Doctor Shy was at 30. They got married, and they have 3 kids. 1 eldest daughter and 2 younger boys