Sibat na. Ikaw na rin may sabi na nasira na niya yung confidence na matagal mong binuild tapos hindi ka na naniniwala sa mga compliments na sinasabi niya.
I mean, ano pang sense 'di ba? Naglolokohan na lang kayong dalawa. 🫠
+1 iwan na nya the damage has been done ika nga. Kahit ano gawin ni OP di na nya makakalimutan lahat ng sinabi ni bf sa knya. Bakit kasi may pag rate pa si BF? Pwede nman nya sinabi na walang mali kay OP maganda sya. Periodt! Bakit may pa rate pa na 8/10 ang disrespectful non for me. 🙄
based on research, kapag ang tao addict na sa corn, nagkaka sexual dysfunction talaga. about sa seggs niyo, the problem is not you. Alam ko hindi madali gawin but, if you don't feel valued, might as well leave.
Ang babae nga daw, maaarouse yan sa’yo sa sex kapag fully complimented yung mental state nila. Meaning, kapag alam nilang nagagandahan ka sa kanila, nasesexyhan at alam nila na totoo ang mga sinasabi mo. Doon magstart ang pagkahorny nan. Since alam niya na ganun yung thinking ng bf niya sa kanya, baka kahit tumingin sa bf hindi niya na magawa.
And now I’m concerned kung hindi ba nakakatakot makasama yan ng magiging anak mong babae or sinong relative mong girls? May nabasa ako before, binobosohan ng asawa niya yung younger sister niya. Pero hindi sinabi na addict sa porn. Nakakatakot tuloy.
If hindi kayo sexually compatible simula palang tapos issue na agad. Alis na kana dyan. Imaginin mo if napangasawa mo yan, at nagbago na katawan mo dahil sa panganganak and all. E di lalo bababa rating na nalalaman nya. Sibat kana
Mhie di rin natin sya masisisi kung bakit ganun yung reaction niya na nagasgasan yung confidence nya dahil sa rating ni bf. Baka sensitive talagang topic para sa kanya ang appearance at sabi nga ni OP, ilang taon din niyang binuild ying confidence niya. Grabeng emotional impact din yun 'no, yung i-rate ng bf yung physical appearance niya.
Hindi rin ganun kadali na mag-initiate ng conversation kasi it really requires a lot of courage and trust to discuss sensitive matters openly kahit pa nasa relationship na
Grabe naman "don't spare your courage and effort". Of course nasaktan si ate, affected na on how she handled it.
She's allowed to get hurt and also understandable na slightly carried away by the hurt na yung way of approaching the situation nya by that time. Di robot si ate.
Wrong din ni guy to rate shit eh, you never say that. There's no reason to say it. The only acceptable thing to say is 10/10 no matter how flawed they are. It's just the things you say in a relationship.
Sa true lang. Honestly, sa lahat ng nakausap ko, whether serious o trip trip, puro 10/10 sinasabi kung ipapa-rate ko- most likely not because I'm actually a 10/10 pero tipong maganda enough for them (haha sheesh nakakahiya naman). Pero if I were to rate myself, around 6/10 lang ako on a good day. 😂😂
Sorry ha. So he was aware of his addiction, but the first thing he did was to neg the fuck out of you? Lol just no. Online din kami nagmeet ng bf ko and ldr din kami. Araw araw niya pinapafeel sakin na maganda ako at amazing ako. Tinamad na rin ako mag ayos dahil sa kanya pero baligtad yung reason. Bat ko pa kelangang mag-ayos kung tanggap naman ako kahit anong itsura ko?
Ang hirap basahin ng post mo kasi I feel so bad for you. Rating anyone is so fucked up. Lalo na kung partner mo. You should always see the best in each other.
He lost your trust and that’s on him. Bat kelangang ikaw ang mageffort para mabalik yung trust na nawala?
I rarely ever say this, pero please leave him. He doesn’t deserve you.
magkkwento ako. some 3 years ago I dated a guy na addict sa porn. minimum 3x/day nagjajakol. nung naging kami I can say na I was at my peak physically. Lagi akong mabango, laging nakaayos. in fact, ginawa nya akong trophy gf at pangyabang sa friends, fam at officemates. lagi kong joke hindi consumated ang relationship namin kasi once lang sya nilabasan sa bj pa tapos kinamay lang nya in the end kaya sya nakatapos. adik sya sa nsfw accounts sa ig na tipong 3 months na kami magjowa before kami nagfollowan sa ig may disclaimer pa sya sakin na puro nsfw nga daw (0 intentions to unfollow). alam mo nakakatawa sizt? nagustuhan ko sya dahil nagpretend syang decent guy. the mask fell off the moment naging kami. PANGIT SYA, MORBIDLY OBESE, AT SUPER KURIPOT. not to mention na ambaho ng paa at ng pusod. the audacity wag tigasan sa ganda at sexy ko back then lol (still losing my pandemic weight haha). what am I trying to say? hiwalayan mo na yan. attraction is important sa relasyon at yung sinabi nya na mataas standards nya aba bakit ikaw ba hindi? pag nagstay ka ayun baka mababa standards mo girl kasi magstick ka sa taong shallow. the nerve magdemand ng porn star di naman tinitigasan lol.
Yes. Tayo talagang mga tao ang hilig higitan yung limitations natin, ‘noh? Like sa sex, diba sex is for those people na in love? Tapos ngayon pwede na rin sa kabet, sa fubu, etc. Kaya nakakatakot magkaron ng relationship sa generation natin eh. Ang daling umalis kapag may problema. Ang daling magloko dahil easy access na ang lahat.
If I were you, I'd leave while I could. I got married to a man who eventually developed porn addiction dahil nag LDR kami, sa umpisa, porn lang pero aabot yan sa point na may mga video sex, phone sex, inquiring with walkers etc. Iba ang porn addiction. For some reason, escape nila yan for a deeper problem, and it will affect their relationships and sex life. My husband is now undergoing therapy, pero ang hirap ibalik ng trust, at ng confidence sa sarili.. it will take so much work unless your bf is willing to let go of all the triggers, i.e., social media, and whatnot, wag na lang. I mean, if I were given a choice kung nalaman ko lang dati, baka sana hindi nalang ako nag pakasal sakanya. It's a mental torture, kahit alam kong nag ttry sya. 🙏 you can check out r/loveafterporn for similar experiences with porn addicts. Wish you the best, OP.
hiwalayan mo na yan habang d pa kayo nagtagal. he needs to fix himself first bago pumasok sa relasyon. ano ka therapist?hindi mo deserve to be treated like that. kapal ng mukha para mag rate ng tao. sobrang f*cked up na cguro utak nya para ma apektohan ang t*t* nya
Naalala ko tuloy noong jowa ko pa lang asawa ko, nirate niya ako vs ex niya. 8/10 lang daw ako tapos ex niya ay 9/10. Naging cold ako afterwards, narealize niya na may mali pero hindi niya raw alam ano mali. Hutaena!
I have to explain pa na mali ang nirate niya ako vs ex niya, tapos mas mataas pa rate niya sa ex niya??? Wtf! Todo sorry siya at nagexplain na 1st and last gf niya raw si ex niya at more than 10 yrs ago na sila break kaya hindi niya raw alam na mali ‘yun. Until now hindi ko pa rin malimutan lmao. Naka-move on na ako but until now I still compare myself to his ex gf. So gurl, I relate!
Baka may sakit ang bf mo kaya di sya tinitigasan? And siguro naging excuse nya lang yung "di sya naattract sayo" para di sya mapahiya. Batang pornhub din ako, pero hindi tumaas standards ko especially sa sex. Pag dating sa sex, ang standards ko lang ay may "pussy" ang babae. If hindi "pussy" ang nakita ko after ko siyang hubadan, then I'm out (I'm straight as an arrow, gusto ko ako lang ang may tite). After kong makita na may "pussy" ang babae, I'll be hard na. And I'm pretty sure na halos lahat ng lalaki, after nila mahawakan at makita ang partner nila, magiging sobrang hard na din sila. I'm just saying, maybe you're being too hard on yourself. Baka masyado mo dinadown ang sarili mo pero wala naman sayo ang mali. Sabi mo nga may mga nanliligaw sayo, so it's a sign na maganda ka. And sabi mo din, malaki ang boobs mo, which is also something na ikakaattract ng maraming kalalakihan (I know alot of people, including myself, na actually prefer girls na may magandang personality at malaki ang dyoga kesa sa babaeng sobrang ganda ng mukha). So don't be hard on yourself. Nasa kanya siguro ang problema.
Plus, ang selfish din ng bf mo. Pag di siya tinitigasan, di na matutuloy ang sex? Ituloy nya without using his cock! Eat some pussy, satisfy your needs using his hands and tongue! Hell, if open nga sya, why not eat some ass (with your consent ofcourse)! Pag di pa rin matigas, then atleast nasatisfy ka nya.
I'm a female who watches porn almost every day but in a relationship for a guy with four years. Mas masarap pa din pagkasama ko partner ko. He doesn't mind that I watch it almost every day, I still feel horny for him 1000x more intense than watching stuff. Kaya I don't know why hirap si bf mo because if there's connection it's always 1000x better. Though baka kay kanya kanya kaming experience as addict. May certain expectations din na na-imprint ang panonood ng porn sa akin pero it doesn't matter with my partner. He makes me feel good and loved in sex in ways even my most favorite porn tags/vids can't.
May erectile dysfunction na yan. That's the side effect of being addicted to porn. You're training your brain to be an observant of two people having sex rather than being an active participant. In short, you're CUCKING yourself. In a scenario where I'm the one having sex with you instead of him, for example, that would be the time when he would get really rock hard 100% because that's what he trained his brain to do for a very long time. Isn't that embarrassing for a man? You get turned on by watching people having sex but not when you are the one participating and as a result, he doesn't know what to do when the real thing is in front of him.
If he really loves you, he would begin the process of getting rid of his addiction to porn. It would take time, though, like any addiction does. He would have to re-train his brain. He would need to have the strong willpower to make changes to himself. Not only that, but he also would have to develop a realistic mindset that most women in real life do NOT look like porn actresses and that he should accept that. It's NOT gonna be easy, in fact, this would be HARD. You can't expect people to give up drug addiction in just a day, do you? It would take MONTHS or even YEARS. And you also have to take note of the relapses he will go through. I'm giving you a warning right now. If his love for you is strong, he would do it for you and to keep your relationship afloat. Otherwise, cut your losses and leave him. You can't save him, only HE can save HIMSELF. This is ADDICTION we're talking about, and it should be taken seriously.
Let him make the decision to quit or you will leave. No, you're not ugly or unattractive. You are in a relationship with a person who has PORN ADDICTION, and that has nothing to do with you, it has everything to do with his own mindset and how addiction has deluded his mind.
Sexual appeal talaga sometimes is a mystery. Pero generally speaking, simple lang naman ang mga minds ng mga lalake. IF you look and act sexy plus pleasantly looking ka and physically fit? generally, tataas ang appeal mo to most men, so if you're going to rate yourself, saan kaba dun? real talk wise?
Now the case ng BF mo, it might be different na you just dont appeal to him in a sexual way. May mga ganun talaga for some reason eh. Pero sa ibang Men, baka its opposite naman.
Sexual compatibility is important, not the most, but if yan does not work, medyo challenging ang magiging relationship niyo.
May porn addiction yung guy. May erectile dysfunction na. That's what porn addiction does to you because you are training your brain to get turned on by watching people having sex rather than you being an active participant. As a result, the guy cant get erection when experiencing the real thing. But when another guy is going to have sex with his girlfriend, that's the time he WILL get turned on because that's what his brain has been trained to do.
Dapat alisin ng guy muna yung addiction nya.
It still doesn't change the fact na the guy is not getting turned on by real sex. And since it's porn addiction, that's a side effect talaga. Ksi nga when watching porn, of course you're gonna beat your meat all the time. Slowly, you are training your brain to get turned on by watching people having sex rather than you being an active participant. And that's why the guy doesn't know what to do when the real thing is in front of him, because yung brain nya is hard-wired to get turned on only when watching people having sex. Plus, it also deludes a person's mind into thinking that real women suck because they don't look hot like those porn actresses he always sees.
All porn addicts have this mentality. Kaya nga dapat alisin muna yan, otherwise walang mangyayari sa sex life nila, ang gagawin lng ng guy is he will finish himself off ksi nga mas nasanay cya to finish himself off with his own hands rather than with another. He mentally cucked himself because of his addiction and it needs to STOP.
may erectile dysfunction sya, kakajakol nya sa mga porn for such a long time di na sya nasistimulate sa irl sex, which is mostly his fault. Wala kang kasalanan dun OP, overstimulated bf mo sa porn kaya ganyan sya.
dami pa namang isda sa dagat. imo laking part din ng relationships ang sexual intimacy kaya big deal din yan moving forward.
Wala na. Don't try to fix it anymore. Pero communicate mo kay guy kung bakit. He deserves an explanation at least.
You deserve more. Be the best you can be ulit. Mahirap mag start ulit from scratch pero ganun talaga e. We fall or get shattered time and time again. Pero we still choose to thrive.
Wishing you healing and a bright future, OP.
hindi nyo na maayos yan. kasi the biggest attack to ur confidence will come from someone u love so much. what he said destroyed u and it affected u that much coz u LOVE HIM. hes someone u thought would not hurt u, but he did anyway. theres nothing u can do, but that guy HAS TO WORK ON HIMSELF. he has to CURE HIS PORNSICK MIND. tingnan mo, bakit sya nag settle sayo despite having porn-based standards?? it's because hindi sya maka skor sa mga babaeng within his "standards" and lalong hindi sya type ng mga to, kaya he settled for someone like u and ended up dumping his illness to u. GUYS LIKE HIM DISGUST ME SO MUCH. WALANG KULANG SAYO. SYA ANG KULANG KULANG AT NAKAKADIRI. pls. take ur time to process ur feelings. ikaw at ikaw lang makaka rating sa hangganan mo kung gang san mo sya kayang karelasyon
I feel bad for you, but you know what? Ikaw na pumipili ng ikasasakit mo kung hindi mo siya iiwan. Oo nasaktan ka pero may free will ka, may option ka para umalis.
Tangina hindi tayo nanay nila para pag tiyagaan sila. Kung gusto nila maging better person then i-figure out nila on their own. Huwag natin saktan sarili natin to save other people.
Hugs, OP 🫂
Nakakalungkot man, pero need mo na mag let go. A relationship that’s eating away your self-esteem and self worth will never gonna be worth it. It will just bring you a lot of trauma if you stay.
Porn addiction does really make a person impotent, kaya it’s not about you anymore, OP. As you said, maraming nagkakagusto sayo and you can’t even make him hard? That’s his problem na and it’s not you who’s causing it. Wag mong hayaan na gawing reality ang standard ng isang tao. You are so much more than that, you are so much more than 8/10. And the right person can make you feel like you are the standard for beauty itself.
And the fact na you still wanted to make him feel comfortable kahit iiyak iyak kana, that’s beauty, that even external beauty can’t compare 🩵
8/10? Mataas na yun hahaha! Pero abnoy nga jowa mo kasi hindi dapat nag rarate ng tao na jinowa mo na! Ilang taon na ba yan bat parang hindi lang porn ang addiksyon niya pati yung podcast ng mga toxic na lalaki pinapanood niya for sure!
No. You are just inhaling copium my guy. Porn Addiction HAS some serious side effects. Anyone who denies this are just delusional. Porn Addiction makes a guy impotent, causes ED, and a LOT of delusion. Ksi nga you are training your brain to get turned on by watching other people having sex rather than being an active participant. All porn addicts experience this. Walang Porn Addict na hndi nagkakaroon ng side effects.
I've mentioned this before above. Pls don't listen to this guy na BS ang ED. Totoo yan and marami ng YT creators na nagprove na totoo.
why are you staying kung nasasaktan ka na pala? para saan pa? after niyang sirain confidence mo and all, kahit sabihin mong di niya sadyang saktan ka e parang ininsulto na nga niya yung pagka-babae mo sa pag describe niya sayo tsaka sa tanginang rating na yan, bakit may rate rate 🧍🏻♀️ since satisfied na siya sa fleshlight niya as you said edi sila nung fleshlight niya yung mag sex 🤡
inamin na porn adik, iba standard...check.
so hindi sayo problema. na hurt ka lang talaga... check
tinuloy ang relationship.... check (meaning like mo din sya)
bumabawi na ngayon, nag sorry din siya ...check
madam, baka pwede konting leeway, benefit of the doubt??? ung mga sinungaling nga napapanood natin harapan eh, yan pa kayang bumabawi naman.
Question for u:
willing kaba to do porn style sex maneuvers or galawang porn star, for ur sexytime???
payag kaba na dalawa kayo manood ng porn para ganahan muna siya???
kasi sa nabasa ko, sex nang galing ang problema. ung addiction nya nagbago ng sexual mindset. yung hindi sya natigasan sayo nagmula ang hurt feeling mo, later on pa ung 8/10 rating (which is high for a first time meet up). wala ka naman nabanggit abt other aspects ng rel. nyo kaya i assume, ur feelings are mutual kaya u decided to meet up and mag effort para magkasama.
the sex part sa kwento mo is the easiest problem i see. pero kung sasamahan ng close-mindedness or hindi mo i-acknowledge ung pagiging porn adik nya, hindi hindi mo sya maiintindihan.
this will end up sa puro tamang hinala. help him sa addicition nya by knowing it, try and experience it... let him tell u about it.... the more u undersrand, the more na malalaman mo diskarte sa kama. wag na sarili mo pag isipan mo ng kung ano-ano.
wish u both will open ur mind to have a healthy rel. kahit LDR.
sibat na te! pinaghirapan mong ibuild confidence mo tas sinira lang niya ng ganon ganon lang??? stop na.
you'll meet someone na makikita worth mo at papahalagahan ka, maa appreciate ka. don't settle sa ganyan te. di naman na rin effective sa'yo yung mga sinasabi niya, so why ka pa nagstay diyan? you deserve better!
End the relationship OP kase ikaw lang po masasaktan. He is addicted to porn and is not willing to do something about it so eventually it will get worse and it will further affect your relationship negatively. As for you, I’m so sorry that he made you feel that way. Trust me this is not the man that you want in your life. So leave while it’s not yet too late. You’ll thank yourself later.
Ginagawa na niya, actually nag research siya about it. Nag stop siya mag porn, 3 weeks na actually. Tinapon na din niya pinaka mamahal niyang flesh light. 13-14 years old ata siya exposed na siya sa porn. 27 na siya ngayon. Minsan daw nagigising siya sa madaling araw sobrang tigas ng etits nya, iniihi na lang daw niya lol
ang fucked up naman kasi ng body standards sa traditional porn.
although some porn sites feature real people, and the porn quality there is soooo much better than the canned ones.
Sibat na. Ikaw na rin may sabi na nasira na niya yung confidence na matagal mong binuild tapos hindi ka na naniniwala sa mga compliments na sinasabi niya. I mean, ano pang sense 'di ba? Naglolokohan na lang kayong dalawa. 🫠
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+1 iwan na nya the damage has been done ika nga. Kahit ano gawin ni OP di na nya makakalimutan lahat ng sinabi ni bf sa knya. Bakit kasi may pag rate pa si BF? Pwede nman nya sinabi na walang mali kay OP maganda sya. Periodt! Bakit may pa rate pa na 8/10 ang disrespectful non for me. 🙄
based on research, kapag ang tao addict na sa corn, nagkaka sexual dysfunction talaga. about sa seggs niyo, the problem is not you. Alam ko hindi madali gawin but, if you don't feel valued, might as well leave.
Ang babae nga daw, maaarouse yan sa’yo sa sex kapag fully complimented yung mental state nila. Meaning, kapag alam nilang nagagandahan ka sa kanila, nasesexyhan at alam nila na totoo ang mga sinasabi mo. Doon magstart ang pagkahorny nan. Since alam niya na ganun yung thinking ng bf niya sa kanya, baka kahit tumingin sa bf hindi niya na magawa.
I couldn’t agree more. +1 dito, sister!
Pag porn addict talaga mas satisfied sila manood kaysa gawin ganern
Awts, that’s unfair sa other SO. Sana hindi nalang sila nakikipagrelationship.
Totoo
And now I’m concerned kung hindi ba nakakatakot makasama yan ng magiging anak mong babae or sinong relative mong girls? May nabasa ako before, binobosohan ng asawa niya yung younger sister niya. Pero hindi sinabi na addict sa porn. Nakakatakot tuloy.
Sad kase alarming talaga yan pagganyan nakatuluyan mo
If hindi kayo sexually compatible simula palang tapos issue na agad. Alis na kana dyan. Imaginin mo if napangasawa mo yan, at nagbago na katawan mo dahil sa panganganak and all. E di lalo bababa rating na nalalaman nya. Sibat kana
If he doesn't find you attractive, someone else will. Wag mag settle, OP.
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Mhie di rin natin sya masisisi kung bakit ganun yung reaction niya na nagasgasan yung confidence nya dahil sa rating ni bf. Baka sensitive talagang topic para sa kanya ang appearance at sabi nga ni OP, ilang taon din niyang binuild ying confidence niya. Grabeng emotional impact din yun 'no, yung i-rate ng bf yung physical appearance niya. Hindi rin ganun kadali na mag-initiate ng conversation kasi it really requires a lot of courage and trust to discuss sensitive matters openly kahit pa nasa relationship na
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Grabe naman "don't spare your courage and effort". Of course nasaktan si ate, affected na on how she handled it. She's allowed to get hurt and also understandable na slightly carried away by the hurt na yung way of approaching the situation nya by that time. Di robot si ate. Wrong din ni guy to rate shit eh, you never say that. There's no reason to say it. The only acceptable thing to say is 10/10 no matter how flawed they are. It's just the things you say in a relationship.
Sa true lang. Honestly, sa lahat ng nakausap ko, whether serious o trip trip, puro 10/10 sinasabi kung ipapa-rate ko- most likely not because I'm actually a 10/10 pero tipong maganda enough for them (haha sheesh nakakahiya naman). Pero if I were to rate myself, around 6/10 lang ako on a good day. 😂😂
Pag totoong mahal ka ng tao, di mo dapat maramdaman na may pagkukulang ka. Save yourself for someone else who trully deserves you.
Tangna tas BJ mo pa siya.
Sorry ha. So he was aware of his addiction, but the first thing he did was to neg the fuck out of you? Lol just no. Online din kami nagmeet ng bf ko and ldr din kami. Araw araw niya pinapafeel sakin na maganda ako at amazing ako. Tinamad na rin ako mag ayos dahil sa kanya pero baligtad yung reason. Bat ko pa kelangang mag-ayos kung tanggap naman ako kahit anong itsura ko? Ang hirap basahin ng post mo kasi I feel so bad for you. Rating anyone is so fucked up. Lalo na kung partner mo. You should always see the best in each other. He lost your trust and that’s on him. Bat kelangang ikaw ang mageffort para mabalik yung trust na nawala? I rarely ever say this, pero please leave him. He doesn’t deserve you.
magkkwento ako. some 3 years ago I dated a guy na addict sa porn. minimum 3x/day nagjajakol. nung naging kami I can say na I was at my peak physically. Lagi akong mabango, laging nakaayos. in fact, ginawa nya akong trophy gf at pangyabang sa friends, fam at officemates. lagi kong joke hindi consumated ang relationship namin kasi once lang sya nilabasan sa bj pa tapos kinamay lang nya in the end kaya sya nakatapos. adik sya sa nsfw accounts sa ig na tipong 3 months na kami magjowa before kami nagfollowan sa ig may disclaimer pa sya sakin na puro nsfw nga daw (0 intentions to unfollow). alam mo nakakatawa sizt? nagustuhan ko sya dahil nagpretend syang decent guy. the mask fell off the moment naging kami. PANGIT SYA, MORBIDLY OBESE, AT SUPER KURIPOT. not to mention na ambaho ng paa at ng pusod. the audacity wag tigasan sa ganda at sexy ko back then lol (still losing my pandemic weight haha). what am I trying to say? hiwalayan mo na yan. attraction is important sa relasyon at yung sinabi nya na mataas standards nya aba bakit ikaw ba hindi? pag nagstay ka ayun baka mababa standards mo girl kasi magstick ka sa taong shallow. the nerve magdemand ng porn star di naman tinitigasan lol.
Hate me for this but I personally think that porn and healthy relationships don’t mix
Yes. Tayo talagang mga tao ang hilig higitan yung limitations natin, ‘noh? Like sa sex, diba sex is for those people na in love? Tapos ngayon pwede na rin sa kabet, sa fubu, etc. Kaya nakakatakot magkaron ng relationship sa generation natin eh. Ang daling umalis kapag may problema. Ang daling magloko dahil easy access na ang lahat.
If I were you, I'd leave while I could. I got married to a man who eventually developed porn addiction dahil nag LDR kami, sa umpisa, porn lang pero aabot yan sa point na may mga video sex, phone sex, inquiring with walkers etc. Iba ang porn addiction. For some reason, escape nila yan for a deeper problem, and it will affect their relationships and sex life. My husband is now undergoing therapy, pero ang hirap ibalik ng trust, at ng confidence sa sarili.. it will take so much work unless your bf is willing to let go of all the triggers, i.e., social media, and whatnot, wag na lang. I mean, if I were given a choice kung nalaman ko lang dati, baka sana hindi nalang ako nag pakasal sakanya. It's a mental torture, kahit alam kong nag ttry sya. 🙏 you can check out r/loveafterporn for similar experiences with porn addicts. Wish you the best, OP.
Grabe ang sakit naman neto. My ex was addicted to porn din. Well not just that meron din yung mga local scandals. I’m sorry this is happening to you.
hiwalayan mo na yan habang d pa kayo nagtagal. he needs to fix himself first bago pumasok sa relasyon. ano ka therapist?hindi mo deserve to be treated like that. kapal ng mukha para mag rate ng tao. sobrang f*cked up na cguro utak nya para ma apektohan ang t*t* nya
8/10 is good. May ED na sya kakanood ng porn.
Naalala ko tuloy noong jowa ko pa lang asawa ko, nirate niya ako vs ex niya. 8/10 lang daw ako tapos ex niya ay 9/10. Naging cold ako afterwards, narealize niya na may mali pero hindi niya raw alam ano mali. Hutaena! I have to explain pa na mali ang nirate niya ako vs ex niya, tapos mas mataas pa rate niya sa ex niya??? Wtf! Todo sorry siya at nagexplain na 1st and last gf niya raw si ex niya at more than 10 yrs ago na sila break kaya hindi niya raw alam na mali ‘yun. Until now hindi ko pa rin malimutan lmao. Naka-move on na ako but until now I still compare myself to his ex gf. So gurl, I relate!
It's not you, it's him
an 8/10? and he's not dicking you good? RUN!!!! iwanan mo yang gago na yan madami pang tite sa mundo! NO DICK IS EVER THAT GOOD!!!
Baka may sakit ang bf mo kaya di sya tinitigasan? And siguro naging excuse nya lang yung "di sya naattract sayo" para di sya mapahiya. Batang pornhub din ako, pero hindi tumaas standards ko especially sa sex. Pag dating sa sex, ang standards ko lang ay may "pussy" ang babae. If hindi "pussy" ang nakita ko after ko siyang hubadan, then I'm out (I'm straight as an arrow, gusto ko ako lang ang may tite). After kong makita na may "pussy" ang babae, I'll be hard na. And I'm pretty sure na halos lahat ng lalaki, after nila mahawakan at makita ang partner nila, magiging sobrang hard na din sila. I'm just saying, maybe you're being too hard on yourself. Baka masyado mo dinadown ang sarili mo pero wala naman sayo ang mali. Sabi mo nga may mga nanliligaw sayo, so it's a sign na maganda ka. And sabi mo din, malaki ang boobs mo, which is also something na ikakaattract ng maraming kalalakihan (I know alot of people, including myself, na actually prefer girls na may magandang personality at malaki ang dyoga kesa sa babaeng sobrang ganda ng mukha). So don't be hard on yourself. Nasa kanya siguro ang problema. Plus, ang selfish din ng bf mo. Pag di siya tinitigasan, di na matutuloy ang sex? Ituloy nya without using his cock! Eat some pussy, satisfy your needs using his hands and tongue! Hell, if open nga sya, why not eat some ass (with your consent ofcourse)! Pag di pa rin matigas, then atleast nasatisfy ka nya.
I'm a female who watches porn almost every day but in a relationship for a guy with four years. Mas masarap pa din pagkasama ko partner ko. He doesn't mind that I watch it almost every day, I still feel horny for him 1000x more intense than watching stuff. Kaya I don't know why hirap si bf mo because if there's connection it's always 1000x better. Though baka kay kanya kanya kaming experience as addict. May certain expectations din na na-imprint ang panonood ng porn sa akin pero it doesn't matter with my partner. He makes me feel good and loved in sex in ways even my most favorite porn tags/vids can't.
May erectile dysfunction na yan. That's the side effect of being addicted to porn. You're training your brain to be an observant of two people having sex rather than being an active participant. In short, you're CUCKING yourself. In a scenario where I'm the one having sex with you instead of him, for example, that would be the time when he would get really rock hard 100% because that's what he trained his brain to do for a very long time. Isn't that embarrassing for a man? You get turned on by watching people having sex but not when you are the one participating and as a result, he doesn't know what to do when the real thing is in front of him. If he really loves you, he would begin the process of getting rid of his addiction to porn. It would take time, though, like any addiction does. He would have to re-train his brain. He would need to have the strong willpower to make changes to himself. Not only that, but he also would have to develop a realistic mindset that most women in real life do NOT look like porn actresses and that he should accept that. It's NOT gonna be easy, in fact, this would be HARD. You can't expect people to give up drug addiction in just a day, do you? It would take MONTHS or even YEARS. And you also have to take note of the relapses he will go through. I'm giving you a warning right now. If his love for you is strong, he would do it for you and to keep your relationship afloat. Otherwise, cut your losses and leave him. You can't save him, only HE can save HIMSELF. This is ADDICTION we're talking about, and it should be taken seriously. Let him make the decision to quit or you will leave. No, you're not ugly or unattractive. You are in a relationship with a person who has PORN ADDICTION, and that has nothing to do with you, it has everything to do with his own mindset and how addiction has deluded his mind.
Sexual appeal talaga sometimes is a mystery. Pero generally speaking, simple lang naman ang mga minds ng mga lalake. IF you look and act sexy plus pleasantly looking ka and physically fit? generally, tataas ang appeal mo to most men, so if you're going to rate yourself, saan kaba dun? real talk wise? Now the case ng BF mo, it might be different na you just dont appeal to him in a sexual way. May mga ganun talaga for some reason eh. Pero sa ibang Men, baka its opposite naman. Sexual compatibility is important, not the most, but if yan does not work, medyo challenging ang magiging relationship niyo.
May porn addiction yung guy. May erectile dysfunction na. That's what porn addiction does to you because you are training your brain to get turned on by watching people having sex rather than you being an active participant. As a result, the guy cant get erection when experiencing the real thing. But when another guy is going to have sex with his girlfriend, that's the time he WILL get turned on because that's what his brain has been trained to do. Dapat alisin ng guy muna yung addiction nya.
Cant be 100% till may nakuha say si OP na actual medical confirmation if that is really the case, kung ED na. Though definitely possible.
It still doesn't change the fact na the guy is not getting turned on by real sex. And since it's porn addiction, that's a side effect talaga. Ksi nga when watching porn, of course you're gonna beat your meat all the time. Slowly, you are training your brain to get turned on by watching people having sex rather than you being an active participant. And that's why the guy doesn't know what to do when the real thing is in front of him, because yung brain nya is hard-wired to get turned on only when watching people having sex. Plus, it also deludes a person's mind into thinking that real women suck because they don't look hot like those porn actresses he always sees. All porn addicts have this mentality. Kaya nga dapat alisin muna yan, otherwise walang mangyayari sa sex life nila, ang gagawin lng ng guy is he will finish himself off ksi nga mas nasanay cya to finish himself off with his own hands rather than with another. He mentally cucked himself because of his addiction and it needs to STOP.
Cant say for the ED claim but I see where youre coming from, its the same thing the OP said rin naman. And yes, addiction is bad, all kinds.
Haba bg story at complaints and ending kayo pa rin pala… okay gurl
may erectile dysfunction sya, kakajakol nya sa mga porn for such a long time di na sya nasistimulate sa irl sex, which is mostly his fault. Wala kang kasalanan dun OP, overstimulated bf mo sa porn kaya ganyan sya. dami pa namang isda sa dagat. imo laking part din ng relationships ang sexual intimacy kaya big deal din yan moving forward.
Wala na. Don't try to fix it anymore. Pero communicate mo kay guy kung bakit. He deserves an explanation at least. You deserve more. Be the best you can be ulit. Mahirap mag start ulit from scratch pero ganun talaga e. We fall or get shattered time and time again. Pero we still choose to thrive. Wishing you healing and a bright future, OP.
Makipag break ka na tol
hindi nyo na maayos yan. kasi the biggest attack to ur confidence will come from someone u love so much. what he said destroyed u and it affected u that much coz u LOVE HIM. hes someone u thought would not hurt u, but he did anyway. theres nothing u can do, but that guy HAS TO WORK ON HIMSELF. he has to CURE HIS PORNSICK MIND. tingnan mo, bakit sya nag settle sayo despite having porn-based standards?? it's because hindi sya maka skor sa mga babaeng within his "standards" and lalong hindi sya type ng mga to, kaya he settled for someone like u and ended up dumping his illness to u. GUYS LIKE HIM DISGUST ME SO MUCH. WALANG KULANG SAYO. SYA ANG KULANG KULANG AT NAKAKADIRI. pls. take ur time to process ur feelings. ikaw at ikaw lang makaka rating sa hangganan mo kung gang san mo sya kayang karelasyon
Scarmmmm cystttt!!
I feel bad for you, but you know what? Ikaw na pumipili ng ikasasakit mo kung hindi mo siya iiwan. Oo nasaktan ka pero may free will ka, may option ka para umalis. Tangina hindi tayo nanay nila para pag tiyagaan sila. Kung gusto nila maging better person then i-figure out nila on their own. Huwag natin saktan sarili natin to save other people.
Hugs, OP 🫂 Nakakalungkot man, pero need mo na mag let go. A relationship that’s eating away your self-esteem and self worth will never gonna be worth it. It will just bring you a lot of trauma if you stay. Porn addiction does really make a person impotent, kaya it’s not about you anymore, OP. As you said, maraming nagkakagusto sayo and you can’t even make him hard? That’s his problem na and it’s not you who’s causing it. Wag mong hayaan na gawing reality ang standard ng isang tao. You are so much more than that, you are so much more than 8/10. And the right person can make you feel like you are the standard for beauty itself. And the fact na you still wanted to make him feel comfortable kahit iiyak iyak kana, that’s beauty, that even external beauty can’t compare 🩵
8/10? Mataas na yun hahaha! Pero abnoy nga jowa mo kasi hindi dapat nag rarate ng tao na jinowa mo na! Ilang taon na ba yan bat parang hindi lang porn ang addiksyon niya pati yung podcast ng mga toxic na lalaki pinapanood niya for sure!
If he doesn't get an erection, it's because he is not sexually attracted. Porn causing him ED is BS.
No. You are just inhaling copium my guy. Porn Addiction HAS some serious side effects. Anyone who denies this are just delusional. Porn Addiction makes a guy impotent, causes ED, and a LOT of delusion. Ksi nga you are training your brain to get turned on by watching other people having sex rather than being an active participant. All porn addicts experience this. Walang Porn Addict na hndi nagkakaroon ng side effects. I've mentioned this before above. Pls don't listen to this guy na BS ang ED. Totoo yan and marami ng YT creators na nagprove na totoo.
why are you staying kung nasasaktan ka na pala? para saan pa? after niyang sirain confidence mo and all, kahit sabihin mong di niya sadyang saktan ka e parang ininsulto na nga niya yung pagka-babae mo sa pag describe niya sayo tsaka sa tanginang rating na yan, bakit may rate rate 🧍🏻♀️ since satisfied na siya sa fleshlight niya as you said edi sila nung fleshlight niya yung mag sex 🤡
Teh, ang mga porn addict ay para sa mga porn addict lang. Iwan mo na para pareho kayong sumaya
What the flying fuck indi ka na appreciate unang kita pa lng,what a POS!
Hiwalayan mona te , 2024 na ho dina uso tanga tangahan .
Umalis ka na sa sitwasyon o lugar na hindi ka madidiligan nang tama. Napakaganda mong bulaklak para sa kanya!
inamin na porn adik, iba standard...check. so hindi sayo problema. na hurt ka lang talaga... check tinuloy ang relationship.... check (meaning like mo din sya) bumabawi na ngayon, nag sorry din siya ...check madam, baka pwede konting leeway, benefit of the doubt??? ung mga sinungaling nga napapanood natin harapan eh, yan pa kayang bumabawi naman. Question for u: willing kaba to do porn style sex maneuvers or galawang porn star, for ur sexytime??? payag kaba na dalawa kayo manood ng porn para ganahan muna siya??? kasi sa nabasa ko, sex nang galing ang problema. ung addiction nya nagbago ng sexual mindset. yung hindi sya natigasan sayo nagmula ang hurt feeling mo, later on pa ung 8/10 rating (which is high for a first time meet up). wala ka naman nabanggit abt other aspects ng rel. nyo kaya i assume, ur feelings are mutual kaya u decided to meet up and mag effort para magkasama. the sex part sa kwento mo is the easiest problem i see. pero kung sasamahan ng close-mindedness or hindi mo i-acknowledge ung pagiging porn adik nya, hindi hindi mo sya maiintindihan. this will end up sa puro tamang hinala. help him sa addicition nya by knowing it, try and experience it... let him tell u about it.... the more u undersrand, the more na malalaman mo diskarte sa kama. wag na sarili mo pag isipan mo ng kung ano-ano. wish u both will open ur mind to have a healthy rel. kahit LDR.
Break it off ate.
sibat na te! pinaghirapan mong ibuild confidence mo tas sinira lang niya ng ganon ganon lang??? stop na. you'll meet someone na makikita worth mo at papahalagahan ka, maa appreciate ka. don't settle sa ganyan te. di naman na rin effective sa'yo yung mga sinasabi niya, so why ka pa nagstay diyan? you deserve better!
End the relationship OP kase ikaw lang po masasaktan. He is addicted to porn and is not willing to do something about it so eventually it will get worse and it will further affect your relationship negatively. As for you, I’m so sorry that he made you feel that way. Trust me this is not the man that you want in your life. So leave while it’s not yet too late. You’ll thank yourself later.
Advise mo siya to not watch porn for 2 days then bj mo siya. Ewan ko lang Di tumigas etits non ng malupit.
Ginagawa na niya, actually nag research siya about it. Nag stop siya mag porn, 3 weeks na actually. Tinapon na din niya pinaka mamahal niyang flesh light. 13-14 years old ata siya exposed na siya sa porn. 27 na siya ngayon. Minsan daw nagigising siya sa madaling araw sobrang tigas ng etits nya, iniihi na lang daw niya lol
ang fucked up naman kasi ng body standards sa traditional porn. although some porn sites feature real people, and the porn quality there is soooo much better than the canned ones.