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marxam0d

Why is this “couch surfer” in your home? Kick him out.


TripleSkeet

Exactly what I was about to post. Let Trump take care of you, ya bum.


ImaginaryQuantum

Couch surfer screamimg before 6h30am? Listen, I have empathy but at least they have to respect, kick him out and tell him to ask Trump to pay for his apartment and call him a socialist.


exscapegoat

Maybe he can stay at trump tower


Marble05

I didn't understand if this guy lives in your apartment complex or with you from the post. If it's the latter what are you doing with him? Making noise at that hour is one of the reasons why your neighbours might give you trouble, he doesn't care because it's not his name on the contract but yours so he'll just go to another couch if he gets you kicked out. This behaviour shouldn't fly in your house, you should talk to him that either he cuts the crap or he's out on the streets as soon as it happens again.


mybloodyballentine

He lives in my apartment. He was a friend, he was getting evicted from his rented room and needed a place to stay and never left. I’ve told him to leave and he won’t.


Bekiala

Sounds like you might call the police and ask them what you can do.


notMyPenis

Yeah, get him the fuck out of the apartment.


MutantMartian

She won’t need to. The neighbors will and the apartments will evict both of them. Why do you think he needed a home?


Smackdaddy122

they can both go live on the street, and OP can listen to his rants from their tent


Bekiala

I was kind of thinking the neighbors might take care of it but it will be a bummer if they both get evicted. Maybe she could explain the situation to her landlord, ask to get out of her lease and find another place to live.


MutantMartian

I doubt the landlord would let the paying person leave.


cusscakes

Tell your landlord you have a squatter on your couch who refuses to leave. I don't get how you're not kicking him out? Yelling at 6am I would have defenestrated him before breakfast!


notyouagain19

Bonus points for this use of the word defenestration 🤣


Appropriate-Safety66

This Czech approves.


XIXButterflyXIX

Great play to run, I hear.


Revolutionary_Law793

This Czech also approves.


ambiguousthinker

This Czech also approves.


ReasorSharp

I’d never seen this word before this. Knowing Swedish and French, I recognize the similarity to fönster/fenêtre and thought “I bet this means throwing someone out the window.” *I love language.*


notyouagain19

The thing that irks me about English is that it has dropped useful words like “overmorrow” and “ereyesterday” (meaning the day after tomorrow and the day before yesterday) but it keeps silly words like this that are so rarely used. But yes, I love language too. Mostly. 😆


ReasorSharp

Welp, thank you for two more words to add to my vocabulary. I’ll use every one of these.


Oldebookworm

It always sounds more like someone’s getting disemboweled rather than being pushed out of a window


glorae

Depending on how the person goes out and also how the glass breaks, it could 100% be both!


KHaskins77

I remember hearing about a D&D session where the party survived an encounter with a particularly tough rogue by using the Command spell and ordering him to “autodefenestrate.” 😁 Guess the enemy’s WIS score was high enough to know what that word meant.


OriginalEchoTheCat

Agreed. if you rent, I would just tell the landlord you had a visitor for a weekend and he has refused to leave since. If he's just couch surfing that means he's not on your lease. Contact your landlord and they will boot him right now. They have the right to do it. Additionally, it is a breach of your lease to have someone living there not on the lease. They could throw you out as well. But, if you just tell them he came for the weekend and he's refused to leave, I don't think they will kick you out.


Fyzzle

I think I found the follow up. https://www.reddit.com/r/SipsTea/comments/1d5ft3o/when_aliens_throw_you_back_on_earth_because_you/


jetttward

You need to evict him before he gets you evicted with all of his screaming. BTW I am in Florida and am Anti Trump. So of course, he is wrong to say everyone is in Trump's side. Get rid of this person.


Raileyx

Stop being a doormat and show him the door. If he can't find it by himself, the police can show him where it is.


Not_Ur_Mom

This is the answer.


Renaissance_Slacker

Does he have his mail delivered to your apartment? This is one thing that helps people establish “residency” and could make it difficult to force him to leave. You might have to go through a formal eviction if he refuses to leave one day. IANAL and you might end up needing one.


jenea

Yeah, sadly this guy has a legal right to be there by now. Even OP says “he lives here,” which the court would take as further evidence of his residency.


ja-mama-llama

The guy gets by on welfare (from you) and would vote for a known business/tax fraud who grifts supporters to pay his legal bills but wants to cut public benefits/food for low-income people who are aging or disabled and kids.


GalleonRaider

The majority of Republicans are folks who will gladly vote against their own interests in order to "own" the libs. Cutting off their nose to spite their face. Hate and anger blind people to logic.


Critical_Reasoning

> "When I need welfare, it's different! I deserve it!"


Mr_Conductor_USA

Are there charity legal services in your area who could teach you how to legally evict him? Depending how long he's stayed there, it might not be so simple, but it's unacceptable that you have to live like that.


HelloThisIsDog666

This is a case where you move and leave him behind if you're living in a state with weird eviction laws


mybloodyballentine

I own my apartment. If I rented I would have left.


Puzzleheaded_Fold466

You would leave your own apartment for this lunatic rather than do what you have to do to make them leave *your own property* ? What ?


mybloodyballentine

What I have to do is file for an eviction. Like I said, these take a minimum of 6 months where I am. Once he gets served, I need to be out of my apartment with my cats because he’s violent. Can you explain how I would do this without leaving my apartment? Because you can’t just lock someone out where I live and he knows that because the police told him they would arrest me if I did that. Look up squatters laws.


kegman83

> Can you explain how I would do this without leaving my apartment? Wait til he leaves, pack his shit and put it on the porch. Then change the locks. Unless he's got a piece of mail on him that says he's a resident there (and I mean on him because you just throw that shit away immediately), there's nothing he can do. Call the cops as soon as he comes by, or preferably before. Explain to them that you had a guest (emphasize the word guest) overstay their welcome and you are removing them. They are not tenants. Preferably have some able bodied people with you when this happens. Then you just talk to him through the door and let him know that he's no longer welcome in your house. He might threaten to sue, but without some shred of evidence that he's a tenant (and money), he's not going anywhere but the street. This is going to happen in a traditional eviction anyways. If you are in the US, you have to pay the sheriff for their services and he can still get violent or potentially screw with eviction day. The other option is to get your friends to make his life a living hell inside your apartment. Couch surfer? Oh yeah well now my friend is sleeping there too for the foreseeable future. Oh yeah there's a lock on the fridge too since you dont pay for anything. Then you decorate the house with Biden posters and pride flags.


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kegman83

The other option here is to evict yourself. Not really, but you can fake an eviction fairly easily. Depending on how cool your management is, they also may play along but the forms should be easily found online. Go to the post office and certify mail it to yourself. Then, when they are gone, tape a copy of it to your door. Fill it out and sign some judges name. Fill it out for 30 days from now. The key is to pretend to be absolutely shocked when you see it. Scream, cry, etc. Start buying boxes, pack some stuff. Disconnect the internet and cable for added effect (its cheaper than an actual eviction). On the day of the "eviction" if you could have your friends show up in some matching polo shirts to "help move you forcifully". You can even rent a u-haul for a day. And then you get everything out. Make a big scene, cry. Say you are going to stay with a relative. Drive off. Then just wait for them to fuck off to wherever. Knowing PoS's like that though, they wont hang around in a crisis and will be long gone by then.


jenea

It’s not that hard to prove residency. OP said outright “he lives here.” That’s enough. The cops already told OP they would get arrested if they locked him out. Squatters who don’t want to leave are harder to get rid of than bed bugs.


dipmyballsinit

This is the correct answer 🤣🤣


RevLoveJoy

OP, it's this right here.


fseahunt

Are you aware they changed the eviction laws for NYC April 20, 2024. They are trying to make it easier to evict a squatter. I know it's still a lot, but it's hopefully a bit easier. Do you have a place to go with your cats in the meantime? I'm 1300 miles away but if you could get your cats here I'm a champion at giving kitties insulin shots! (My girl went over the rainbow bridge after almost 5 years of being diabetic and I've yet to adopt another. ) Edit: it read the changes and it doesn't make it any easier for you to evict him. I am so sorry.


mybloodyballentine

High five for the offer and giving your kitty insulin shots!


fseahunt

I believe a restraining order can get around that. And dear God, I'm afraid for your kitties.


20growing20

I hear you that it's hard to get someone out. They get rights after squatting for a period of time in my state, at least. Here's what I didn't know back when my ex refused to leave that might have helped me hurry the process along: you can call the police on someone for yelling. You can get restraining orders against someone for intimidation. I suspect if I were in your position with what i know now, I'd begin the eviction process and have a consultation with a lawyer. Figure out all your options, make a plan, and know what things might open the door to speed the process... such as having a paper trail of his unhinged behaviors that destroy the peaceful enjoyment of others. (I received a warning for this once, when my country children could not adapt to living in an upstairs apartment.) Let him know that the yelling is not acceptable, and that if it happens again you will call the police (if you feel safe calling the police, I know in some places this is not a good option for some people.) If you do contact the police, I'd pull them aside and let them know the situation you are in. Your squatter has gotten rights and is disrespecting the space and the neighbors. In the very least, you need to document what he's doing to move him along quicker, but are hopeful there's another way they can help. Perhaps having him leave to keep the peace even if temporarily, or threatening to do something if they keep getting called over for his aggressive screaming. Another way to get documentation of the situation is in visiting your own doctor (and therapist if you happen to have one). Get the stress that this causes you documented. Any sleepless nights over it, missing days of work, etc. Consider talking to some neighbors to let them know the situation. This might give them more patience towards you. You might also get their agreement to witness to the situation if you figure out a way to push him out early. Even if you have to fork out a few hundred for some legal counsel, it will probably be cheaper than living with a free loader for even a month longer than you need to, and would be well worth it.


Top-Night

Sounds like you’re just making up a million excuses


fseahunt

I've been there. It's truly terrifying when your intentions were solely to help someone.


Ellecram

Do what you need to to make his existence uncomfortable. Cancel internet and cable. Stop buying communal food. Get a fridge and hot plate for your bedroom and keep it locked. Invite some noisy friends over frequently. Find his weak spots and exploit w/o harm of course. I would start doing something like this aggressively.


Fyzzle

Eat cabbage everyday


HelloThisIsDog666

Hate to say it but this is the kind of thing I have heard of working.


DiveCat

So you are instead letting another 6 months go by of doing nothing? You could have started the process 6 months ago and be 6 months closer. This man is dangerous to you and your cats NOW, you have no idea when he will go into a flying rage harming you and your cats - he is already showing his unpredictability, lack of care for you or others, and violent outbursts. Get a lawyer. Cops are not lawyers. Lawyers will give you options that go beyond “naw, if you change locks we will arrest you”. Stop catering to this free loading violent man because eviction would be difficult.


dipmyballsinit

File the paperwork on Monday


MasterChicken52

I also live in NYC, so I get that it’s difficult to evict. Please contact a lawyer for your own sanity and so you can have a decent relationship with your neighbors. I’m so sorry this happened to you; it sucks when you are just trying to help someone and it blows up in your face :-(


RaptorJesusLOL

How can someone possibly be this huge of a pushover? He’s not a tenant. He’s some guy you let sleep on your couch. He has absolutely nothing to come back at you with. Grab him by his shirt collar and throw him outside, call the police.


fseahunt

She's not wrong about possibly needing to evict him.


hamish1963

He gets violent, you call 911, let the police take care of him.


thebaron24

Just turn off the Internet and he will disappear


_DOA_

Change the locks.


Marble05

Have you tried going or at least threaten the police/legal way? Could he be trying to claim squatters right?


plvstvcbvrds

tell him he won a free trump cruise, drop him at the nearest port and then change the locks


fseahunt

Oh honey other than the Q/MAGAt stuff, this could be me posting this a few years ago. Even down to the diabetic cat! The last time it took two years. I supported him all but a few months of this two years. Pull the trigger now, don't let him screw your life up any more. You'll never do enough to help someone who won't help themselves. If you need to talk, DM me.


Ursomonie

You got yourself a MAGA-squat


dipmyballsinit

Sounds like you need to go formally evict him, depends on the laws where you live. Some places in America you can simply ask him to leave, in others, if he’s established residence you need to formally evict. It’s time to make the decision.


Intrepid_Advice4411

You need to give him, in writting, 30 day notice to leave. Yes, mail it to him at your apartment. Once you've done that hopefully he just goes. If he doesn't you're going to want to talk to your landlord. Nyc is a whole other beast when it comes to renters, but most likely he would need to be evicted.


jenea

~~That’s a tricky situation. I certainly recommend formal legal eviction. Be careful and do everything by the book. Even easier, see if you can get your landlord to insist it’s against your lease or something. But in any case, it’s past time for him to go.~~ Edit: never mind, I see in other comments that you own the apartment and he is a psycho. I’m so sorry. It seems extreme, but perhaps selling your place would liberate you. I hope it doesn’t come to that.


YumariiWolf

Toss all his shit on the street and when he goes out to at least lose his shit over it lock the fucking doors. If he calls the cops tell them you’ve never seen this crazy homeless man before and he’s trying to break into your apartment.


Facsimile-Jones

Buy him a one way ticket to Mar a Lago, tell him tRump's hiring and he can live on site.


FelixDK1

Go to nycourts.gov and pull the three day notice and eviction paperwork. Give him the notice, then go file for a summary eviction proceeding. Make sure when you file that you request fees and rent. You’re unlikely to get them, but it’s possible. Have the sheriff serve him with the papers, preferably when you aren’t home. If you feel like you would be in danger, you can also apply for an order of protection. You will get a court date, make sure you attend because you don’t want the matter dismissed for essentially failure to prosecute. Once you have the court involved, they will likely give the guy 1 week to vacate (order the eviction and stay for 7 days). After that he has to be gone and if he isn’t, the sheriff can take him out.


Adventurous_Shock_93

it sucks and can be hard/scary, but you dont/shouldn’t put up with this. contact your landlord and the authorities/police to have him removed and then change the locks. also look up and reach out to local domestic violence programs who can help support you. many programs recognize roommates as a form of interpersonal violence. Good luck and im sorry this is happening to you.


solitarium

Better evict him before the complex evicts you. Especially if he’s not on the lease


hamish1963

Start eviction proceedings, Monday!!


secondrat

You need to start formal eviction proceedings unfortunately. Also if he’s using your WiFi or cable cut him off.


Radarmelloyello

Tell the landlord and get him to change the locks. He’s not your friend, nor is he your responsibility.


theyellowpants

If he’s been there long enough check the local laws and begin the official eviction process


Less_Cryptographer86

Change the locks and throw his stuff out the window. Let the police know what’s going on.


dunndawson

Wait til he leaves for any reason, throw his shit outside and change the locks. You have a squatter. Get rid of him now.


advamputee

Just a quick correction on 5: it's not the amount that raised it to a felony level, it was the intent. The charges are 34 counts of falsifying business documents, which is typically a misdemeanor in NY. The misdemeanor becomes a felony if it is done to cover up another crime. In this case, there were 3 other crimes for the jury to choose between: election interference, campaign finance violations, or tax/accounting violations. So, other people could pay a porn star $130k in hush money and only get charged with a misdemeanor, sure. But they weren't doing it to hide another crime. No laws were "changed", except a change in statute of limitations that happened during COVID due to court processing delays caused by COVID. Now, this is technically Trump's "first offense", and they're all class E felonies (lowest level in NY), with a maximum sentence of a $5k fine and 4 years in jail. At worst, he'd get all 34 sentences concurrently; but realistically he'll probably end up with a slap on the wrist and very loose probation for the NY crimes.


TeslaNova50

This. The media and people keep calling this a 'hush money case' when in reality it was a conspiracy to affect the outcome of an election.


nachocouch

Is it possible to have any additional case(s) against him to determine which of the 3 crimes he was trying to cover up?


Christinebitg

I am hopeful that Trump's attitude displayed during the trial and his lack of remorse may actually result in jail time for him.  It could happen. Maybe just wishful thinking on my part.  I know that home confinement would be much simpler for the Secret Service to implement.


Netprincess

He just had a ton more money donated to his campaign. The crazy has deep corporate anti government pockets ...


solitarium

Eh, the Georgia RICO case will probably eat that up by the end of Q3


iamthatguyiam

No way he’ll spend time in jail. I’ll send you $50 if he goes to jail in the next 2 years. Btw I can’t stand Trump, I just think he’s too connected to go to jail.


fseahunt

He could still run for and serve as president from prison. God help us all!


MutantMartian

Seeing it from a deep red state, this is what will happen.


dangerspring

From what I read it's possible the judge could sentence him to consecutively but it's extremely unlikely for a number of reasons including it being his first crime. The judge will however consider other things that might result in prison time or house arrest including his lack of remorse, violations of gag orders, etc.


FlamesNero

First *convicted* crime… he got away with decades of crimes until he could no longer bribe and blackmail the right people.


chik_w_cats

Glenn Kirschner, a former federal prosecutor, has said that house arrest for the guy is just Netflix and Door Dash vacation. Suggested he might get 30 days with the rest suspended, if no further crimes. Every other place he's charged and out on pre-trial release has the condition of no felonies. I'm sure they'll round him up any minute. /s


dangerspring

It's not that I have a lot of hope but it's possible. I would link the legal analyst who I read but I'm suspended from Twitter right now because someone asked the name of a song and I misrembered it in the reply. Lol.


thebaron24

Very well explained. Definitely explained it better than I did.


Background-Koala-

I want to puke every time I hear my Qs say “they,” and “them,” like clearly you have no fucking clue who/what you’re talking about if you’ve just been conditioned to think everything is a conspiracy or controlled by the Illuminati or some shadow society. Just STFU already. Just because you yell the loudest doesn’t mean you have anything worth hearing.


Ted-The-Thad

Not a Q but my father likes to say "They said" when saying something spurious and questions about who "they" are never lead to any specifics


Background-Koala-

Exactly this. Or “it will be coming out soon,” or “my sources told me.” Like bitch I know your “sources” are some dude that got banned from YT for violating their code of conduct so now you pay to follow him on Patreon 😒😒😒


Evilevilcow

And you're allowing this living arrangement why?


mybloodyballentine

I’ve asked him to leave and he won’t. I need to file in court to get him evicted, and would have to leave the apartment and take my cats until the eviction happens (6+ months) because he can be violent. Like I said, he’s mentally ill, completely estranged from his family, and would be on the street, so me evicting him is an existential threat. He’s incapable of not being like this.


Mr_Conductor_USA

Maybe it's time for you to find a 6'5" bodybuilder boyfriend who does protection work to move in for a few months. Seriously, I had a coworker who was a man who had to do this, he was like 5'7" and skinny and worked all the time. He dated a woman who moved herself and her son onto his property and wouldn't leave. He invited some biker friends of his over to stay for a few weeks. They left.


Christinebitg

Better to do that sooner rather than later.  He will become more deranged as the election approaches, no matter who it looks like will win. And thank you for making sure your kitties are safe while that's going on.


inzillah

Have you actually talked to a lawyer about this? There's no way it takes 6 months to kick out a violent couch surfer who isn't on the lease.


mybloodyballentine

The housing courts are backlogged where I live. A lawyer can’t do anything about that. He hasn’t hit me, he destroys property and lies about it, and in the past the police have believed him. He’s white, I’m not, and that could be the issue. The police have told me if I feel unsafe I need to leave because without evidence of actual assault they can’t do anything. This is all pretty standard stuff.


dfwcouple43sum

Do you have evidence he destroys property? From a legal standpoint, that may help you get him out of there sooner than later. But yeah; talk to a lawyer. Remember it’s not what you know, it’s what you can prove.


mybloodyballentine

No I don’t. If I did I could do something about this.


fseahunt

You can get some pretty cheap hidden cameras now. I suggest you do to correct evidence.


thebaron24

We are all invested in helping you get out of this it looks like. This makes you really not want to help out people who need it.


RaptorJesusLOL

If the housing courts are backlogged he has no chance of successfully suing you… This broke couch surfer you’re afraid will hire a high power attorney or something


mybloodyballentine

It wouldn’t be a suit. He could call the police and have me arrested if I lock him out. I’ve already asked him nicely, meanly, in writing, and via email to leave, and have even offered him money to leave. He’s not uncomfortable enough.


YumariiWolf

No he really can’t without proof that he lives there. “Sorry officers I have no idea what this crazy homeless person is even saying, please remove him from my front door. You can ask the complex if he lives here, he does not” also if it’s a civil matter they will tell HIM to take it to civil court. No cop is going to arrest you, and you don’t even need to unlock your door and talk to them if they don’t have a warrant, which if you dump all his shit out of your apartment, they can’t really get.


Royals-2015

Install ring cameras in your house.


chik_w_cats

I hate this for you so much!! If they won't do anything without assault, maybe for mental health check? Might save that. He will get worse!


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rifain

Can't you wait for him to go outside and change the locks ? And leave his stuff outside ?


mybloodyballentine

Not legal if a person has been in your residence for over 30 days.


Royals-2015

No good deed goes unpunished. BTW, this is why more people don’t open their homes to homeless or immigrants. Once you let them in, you can’t get them out.


Less_Cryptographer86

Wouldn’t he have to prove that? His just getting mail there isn’t proof- you could say he was homeless and needed a place to get his mail. You could ask all your neighbors to confirm.


fseahunt

The police told me this but mine didn't know and they didn't tell him. Thankfully I live in a small town and have a good reputation with the local cops who are the nicest cops in the USA.


HelloThisIsDog666

Leave and file a restraining order. Yes, moving will be expensive but totally worth it. This sounds unsafe.


mybloodyballentine

I can’t get a restraining order where I live unless there is an actual assault against me.


fseahunt

Are you aware they changed the eviction laws not 2 months ago in NYC?


Royals-2015

Every time he does something, file police reports. This will help with your emergency eviction.


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mafaso

Stay strong and ditch this loser.


Rupejonner2

People like this would not be there for you when you would find yourself in his situation , so let the welfare moocher lazy couch sitter get the fuck out and tell him to ask Trump for help


mybloodyballentine

Oh, I know. It’s hard to evict people where I live though, and if they’ve been in your home for more than 30 days and they won’t leave on their own, you need to file for an eviction.


Slothie__

I can imagine you would want to, but what would happen if you sold the apartment? Is he still your problem then?


molewarp

You REALLY need to get rid of him. Your cats do not deserve this disturbance in their lives.


BreakfastLife7373

I’m always curious how folks like this feel like they’re contributing to “making America great again”. The cognitive dissonance is wild.


caspian1969

You might be able to get a restraining order. Behavior being volatile to the point of threatening. You dont know what he'll do next. Go to the clerk of court.


endorrawitch

Also, #4: Jimmy Carter never fired a single shot during his term. Sorry, I have to defend St. Jimmy!


mybloodyballentine

Yes he did say except for Carter( and Trump)


endorrawitch

My apologies!


Dolla_Dolla_Bill-yal

Homie, someone like this cannot and will not have the resources to pursue legal action against you. Put his shit out and change the locks. The cops ain't gonna help him. He's not a tenant, to the cops, he's your ex and he won't go. They won't touch that shit with a 10 foot pole (iTs a CiViL iSsUe) so use that shit in your favor. There is a 0% chance of this guy actually getting his shit together enough to get a lawyer to do anything against you.


SamSlams

Sounds like you got an easy problem to take to the curb. Just put them out with the trash where they belong.


fseahunt

Too bad it's so much harder than that in reality.


SamSlams

In OP's situation it is not. As long as this "friend" doesn't have any way to prove he lives there then OP is solid to just kick him out. When he isn't home all he needs to do is take all his stuff and put it in bags and put it in the trash. Then change the locks and call the police if he makes a nuisance, which he surely will. That easy.


YumariiWolf

Yup, cops will call it a civil matter and literally can’t enter her apartment without a warrant. Which they can’t really get off this situation.


PurpleSailor

>could have done the same and not been charged with felonies The doing it to hide info from the public during a political campaign is what raised the charges to a felony. Otherwise it just would have been a business misdemeanor tax crime.


Flashy-Potato-1891

Please protect yourself and your own sanity. Read my post. This is eerie how similar to things I heard, and I always knew my marriage would not survive another Trump Election Day, much less this.


iamjustaguy

**It's not your concern if he makes himself homeless with his bad behavior because you, Ninja, and your neighbors deserve a peaceful place to live.** First thing to do: don't debate him; do not engage. You will never convince him of anything. You will never change his mind. He's in too deep for you to pull him out. Just respond with noncommittal things with no emotion. Look up the grey rock method. Once you got the grey rocking down, then tell him he's not welcome in your place anymore at every waking moment. Make it the only thing you say to him from here on out. If he starts ranting about stupid stuff, respond with "you're not welcome here anymore. Get out." If he asks you a question, respond with "you're not welcome here anymore. Get out." Keep calmly saying it over and over; make it the only thing you say to him. Last, but not least, document everything he says and does from here on out. This may be very important if he decides to legally go after you, or if you're trying to get him committed to a psych hold, or if you're trying to get him arrested. You need to build a case, and you need solid evidence in your favor. Get video, audio, and write things down in a dedicated notebook (and keep it safe). Talk to your neighbors, and let them know to call the police to report a dangerous man in your apartment the next time he starts yelling. If you are successful in getting him removed, even temporarily, change the locks and get a restraining order (this is where your documentation/evidence comes in handy). Most importantly, if you have friends/family who are willing to help, then definitely get their help.


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mrcatboy

>Something about this not being a felony and the charges were fake. I told him it’s because of the amount of money but he insists other people could have done the same and not been charged with felonies. Seriously? Bring up the fact that Trump's lawyer Michael Cohen was convicted of the exact same crime (that is he was also involved in the crime Trump was charged with as the guy who was given the money) and he was fined $50,000, was disbarred, and spent 3 years in prison in 2018. No one raged about the injustice then, and even Trump (who had absolutely given pardons to his cronies as favors) chose not to pardon Cohen. So it was definitely a crime in 2018 when Cohen was convicted. So why is not a crime now when it's Trump?


dfwcouple43sum

What’s to stop your neighbors from complaining and getting you evicted? Does your lease allow for someone to live their more than X days? He may be an illegal tenant, and you are at least partially liable for it.


mybloodyballentine

It would have to be multiple complaints over a period of time, and honestly my co-op is so ficked up they’d never file to evict. There’s someone here who hasn’t paid maintenance is 9 yrs.


fseahunt

She owns her apt.


Mithrion_Zee

My experience with Qrumpers has led me to believe that they are mostly victims of their own making who latch on to this this lifestyle and their "leaders" know how to exploit that.


Netprincess

Don't ever babysit a grown person,don't ever be the sole provider. Time to move on hun


IllustriousBig456

Kick his ass to the curb. Tell him he can worship a billionaire from a park bench.


BudgetNoise1122

Screaming loud in an apartment can get you thrown in jail. Happened to my daughter and I certainly understand why the police were called by the neighbors.


TzarKazm

You need to ditch this guy. I'd make the landlord the bad guy " hey the landlord heard about the yelling at 6am and said you have got to go or I'm getting evicted" if he has a shred of decency left, he will just leave. If he doesn't give a shit about you, then you don't have to feel bad when you file for eviction and have him removed.


fseahunt

She owns her apt. He has zero decency. She would file for eviction but he's violent and she needs an alternate place for her and her cats to stay during the time it takes for the eviction to be finished.


Spartan2022

Make him your ex-Q today. Happy Q move out weekend to you!!


kegman83

Looks like someone woke up and did their daily meth allowance.


fseahunt

So it seems you need a place to stay for you and your cats while this eviction moves through the legal steps it has to. Do you have that? Is there any place you can stay? I suppose you need to be in the city for work and can't go elsewhere for the time being?


notyouagain19

I don’t know where you live, so I don’t know what the specific laws are, but in some jurisdictions, it is pretty easy to evict someone if you share a kitchen in the bathroom with them, as normal landlord, tenant laws may not apply. Stating that you feel unsafe might be enough. Again, I don’t know if this is true in your jurisdiction. It is true in mine. Perhaps it would be good to speak to someone who specializes in this if you haven’t already, and make sure that you make it very clear that this is an apartment, not a house, and he does not have a separate unit.


mybloodyballentine

Not the case in mine, unfortunately.


storymom

Have landlord change the locks.


mybloodyballentine

Not legal.


storymom

I am the only person on a lease and I can't have the landlord change the locks? Why?


NaNaNaNaNatman

Squatters rights laws in their area. OP has already explained elsewhere that the police have already spoken to the Q and sided with him on the issue. OP actually owns the dwelling but they still are not allowed to do that because he has established residency.


thebaron24

Just for a little extra info. The reason it is a felony is because it was used to cover another crime. That's how it works in NY ever since they had mob issues there. Why not kick this guy off your couch? It's easy. Just shut off the Internet and he will scurry off somewhere else.


Chobitpersocom

We're trying to sleep you asshat!


Megerber

I'm in Texas with a large amount of anti-trump sentiment around me. EVERYone does NOT support him.


ValuableDragonfly679

Kick him out if he’s a couch surfer. You could also call the cops on him for disturbing the peace if he won’t stop next time


fegd

...why the hell is this person in your couch, making trouble with your neighbors no less? Kick them right out stat.


socialistal

Give Ninja a.snack


mybloodyballentine

Oh, Ninja gets a snack! I opened a new bag of temptations for him.


socialistal

🥰🥰🥰 thanks for my smile today, stay well!


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ishtar_the_move

With regard to other people could have done the same and not be charged, have he not heard of John Edwards? But then John Edwards was not found guilty and the state did not retry him.


Top-Night

More important question why are you with a loser that doesn’t work? You’re better than that


spookinky987

If you can, move.


KimiMcG

Ask your landlord if you can switch apartments and don't let him move with you.


fseahunt

She owns.


KimiMcG

Did not catch that, I had a undesirable couch surfer. I told them, they had a week to move as I had decided to sell the place. Got some boxes and started packing. They moved out in 2 days. Changed the locks and gave the boxes to a friend who was moving.


NaNaNaNaNatman

That’s pretty smart


Codas91

Kick his ass out, if he won't leave, call the cops


KinseyH

The other person that did the same (Cohen) went to prison.


Freebird_1957

It’s not about the amount of money. It’s because he paid the money in order to interfere with an election, which made it a federal crime.


[deleted]

Kick this Q ball to the curb you deserve the peace and quiet!


FlynnMonster

Wow you’re an extremely nice person. Too nice.


Qidiots

They are addicted to Hopium, (Hope based on false propaganda that makes them feel better. They started ingesting it during the lockdowns of the pandemic. Most of them were lonely, retired and had no idea how the Internet works. They still don’t get it, because the people they latched onto are banking on their “marks” to stay engaged. Hopium should be treated as any other drug, it affects their beliefs and they slowly begin to abandoned their beliefs and exchange it for the grifters that are leading them. I call those “grifters” the “Hopium Dealers” and there are many, many of them. Several of these Hopium dealers were never millionaires but they are now. They are the worst thing that has happened to our country and the saddest part is that a lot of our families and friends have fallen into it and getting them back to “normal” just like getting any addict to stop and realize what they’re doing is going to be Herculean, but not impossible.


SuperMadBro

Why are you letting him stay? This sounds self inflicted


Uranium_Heatbeam

Why are you letting this oxygen thief stay rent-free in your house? Evict his ass.


WhichEmojiForThis

Pays no rent? Get rid of him!


HottKarl79

I love when the people who want to install a dictator to ensure their lone specific way of life is preserved at the expense of everyone else start railing against the "end of democracy."


The-CatCat-1

Um…why is he still in your life???


JohnDodger

Tell him that freedom of speech comes with consequences. I don’t understand why you would be friends would such a person? I’ve long since cut out all MAGA cultists from my life because they’ve proven time and time again that they have absolutely zero morals or redeeming features.


dukecharming1975

is your Q Cosmo Kramer?


earlstrong1717

Kick em out


ComprehensiveCake463

Yep that’s a deal breaker


Pooltoy-Fox-2

>He doesn’t care about the neighbors, blah blah free speech. I live in an apartment. It’s 6 in the morning, dude! Average citycel L. Go ahead, try to force us all into pods where we don’t have freedom to live our lives even in our own “homes,” always in public and needing to put up a front, conform to the hivemind. You can drag my cold, dead corpse into multi-family housing.


PsychologicalHalf422

You sound sane enough. Honestly how and why do you put up with this crazy?


MountainMagic6198

If you live in NY city, tell him to go down and protest the sentencing in July, and while he is gone, change the locks and throw all his stuff out.