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I feel people who get hit on a lot and brag about ( mostly pretending that its soo annoying being soo beautiful) is because thats how they get their validation.
They probably cant believe it themselves. So when someone compliments them thats when they start feeling confident.
I belonged to this category when i was in my teens. I really was taken aback by the attention. And every time i got hit on.. it made me feel pretty.
It is now that i understand how fucked up the whole thing is. I only feel special when someone compliments me. And this need for external validation is something most of us have .
On the other hand people who are secure and innately confident don’t really care. These kind of people are rare and honestly i aspire to be one.
I was that attractive female when I was younger. I bragged about anything I did other then being attractive because I really wanted people to see me as a person. I had more to offer then just being cute. Unfortunately I was the only one upsetting myself most of the time. So it was like a guy going your cute and me going well yesterday I was carrying entire speakers and got all A's in my psychology classes in college.
That's something, I discovered over the yrs, makes men, especially when young and still insecure feeling less confident. Like a woman that's successful is cool, but if she constantly gives him the feeling he never can impress her, that's another thing and actually turns them away too...
Unfortunately my best friend never stopped that, men run after her, like the first sentence they hear is how successful she is (besides being attractive) and hardly anybody can keep up... and it gives people the feeling to never be enough, she is too damn good in everything, too independent, too disciplined...
I'm 33F and at this point it just annoys me. I've been hit on since I was like 9 and its not something I understood for the longest time, especially out and about on the street just minding my business. Its been a thing that causes insecurity in my partners but my fiancé doesn't mind as long as people don't hit on me when he's with me. I always tell those who approach me that I'm taken. I don't go bragging about it tho. Its not something I enjoy. I have anxiety and it makes me uncomfortable tbh.
My partner said the most she has hit on wolf whistled and all this shit was between the ages of 14-18 her big boobs came in early and every cunt would just harass her make gross sexual comments.
She now has to permanently be aware of how she is presenting herself because she doesn’t want the harassment.
Same, at this point I know most men find me attractive and I can get attention if I want. When it happens, I feel either neutral or uncomfortable about it (depends on the context). I don’t feel like I need the validation anyway.
And I don’t brag about, it would feel weird. I don’t feel the need to make sure that other girls know that I can attract men. I don’t need their validation either and their opinion doesn’t change anything about it.
It is annoying to be honest. Especially when I'm out with my boyfriend. We recently moved into a new apartment and unfortunately we live above the leasing office so we get a lot of people coming in n out our main entrance. When I was trying to move a few things into the apartment while my boyfriend was upstairs, these two guys coming out the leasing office literally followed me into our apartment ; complimenting me. I was more astonished because I thought they were being nice and holding the door open for me. My boyfriend was beyond pissed to say the least. They ended up running out the door once my boyfriend tried to confront them.
I feel you. I often downplay my looks to try to have more privacy in public spaces.
I have nightmares about being watched by strangers because it’s so normal in my reality. Sometimes it would be nice to be invisible.
When people know you are handsome, they assume you get hit on a lot and sleep around a bunch. I was never like that, I enjoy the company being handsome brings me, I can go to a random bar and meet people, guys or girls, hangout with them all night and be good friends with.
Yes, they brag, but they also talk behind your back and don't trust you at times and from experience it's people that are sleeping around a lot and have trust issues, whether handsome/cute/sexy or not. People assume, and people don't like to be wrong...
I'm 46, father, husband, more round than I'd like.
Helllllll yeah I brag about it!!
Hey baby!! This 70 year old woman said I was handsome and gave me a hug. I still got it!!
Sounds like they have a bunch of insecurities so they use being hit on as validation. Further, even if they're not getting hit on, they'll express that they are to increase their perceived value because as humans, if something has value, we're drawn to it. It's sad for the friend because when they don't in fact get hit on often, it'll probably lower their self esteem further than if she never bragged about it in the first place.
People who are truly attractive and confident don't have to convince others that they are attractive and confident.
Your last line was what my daughter said.
It is sad for my friend not only because of her self esteem but because mutual friends make fun of her for those types of posts. She looks pathetic and it's sad because she's cute and a cool chick. It's just so... Distasteful?
Some small things you can do is show her the actual value she has besides superficial things: don’t overly praise her because that creates narcissism, but point out when she does something kind for someone, encourage it, commend her for courage or strength, compassion. Also, don’t be afraid to call out her selfishness or bad traits, to put an end to them.
Excellent advice! I compliment her for being beautiful (she really is I swear lol) but mostly for her talents. She's super crafty so I brag all the time about her skills. She's very humble. Despite the fact that people always tell her how pretty she is, she's humble.
I will get compliments or hit on by men even though I'm not interested and into women. I'll tell my best friends cause we find it funny that only men and never women hit on me
Well you see, she was born and sometime around puberty she realized she is different and she is attracted to girls not boys. She told me this I hugged her said I support her. So that's what happened in our family. It's shame so many people think like you. I don't care about my daughter's sexuality it's none of my business, all I care about is that she dates a nice person and is a good person herself. If I don't care about her sexuality you shouldn't either.
in fairness, lesbian flirting is so close to just making friends that it's harrrd to distinguish and always awkward to work out which it is. the only obvious ones are drinken college women, but then you can't tell if they're just curious.
Ah, I hope she finds the confidence to be the one to initiate. When I was 25 I became friends with a 36 year old and eventually asked them out. It was a shock even to me I had the balls to do it. We dated for 2 months and deeply cared for each other but it just didn't work out. We remained friends afterwards. Still care about each other to this day.
No, because I'm very happy where I'm at, and also, my dumb dense smoothbrained ass wouldn't realize I was being hit on until *at least* a year after the fact.
No. I mean not to sound like an a hole but it's kinda safe to assume. Especially because I work in a bar. I feel like an ass even telling you this now! There's no reason for it. That's the start to alot of mens...start lol "I bet you get hit on alot" 😑
Modest is hottest!
I feel like people who brag about it are people who read into the situation too much. I have a friend that thinks everyone is flirting with her, when really they’re just having basic manners.
I'm beginning to wonder if that's what is happening with my friend too, people are just being nice and she thinks they are flirting. But she's been known to exaggerate.
It's an ego thing. She wants her casual group to think that she's a desirable mate. Super hot people also do this if they're insecure. It's all about insecurity.
Not really, I've met really good looking men and women brag about how much attention they get from the opposite sex.
It's more a case of insecure and secure people who like to brag and who do not.
Yes!
Sometimes I still really struggle with my image of myself which almost nobody really understands (body dismorphia ect) BUT confidence is key. Tend to forget that hahah
No. When someone hits on me like that, I will find it creepy and suddenly become scared. Smile is acceptable, but catcalling or suddenly want to get to know me, No, I always run away. And how can I brag about it? It’s terrifying.
People who get hit on do not brag. It's a simple thank you/you too and a smile. I sometimes get so uncomfortable when I get hit on, and I know the other person can tell cause my face says it all, lol. But on the inside, I like to give them credit for the confidence :)
No it's fucking annoying. I get cat called multiple times most days, and I hate it. If I wear anything that shows a bit of chest I'm screwed. The last thing I want to do is go brag about it.
No, it’s made me guarded.
Got sexualized from a very young age. As a 12 year old, a women came up to me and said “my husband is looking at you, you should be ashamed”. Nah mam’ your husband is a predator.
My friends sexualize me, I know because they eventually tell me. Not that I want to know, it just comes up holike “oh yeah x and I wanted to fuck you when we met” okayyyy????
The ones that think they have a chance never say “I like you” they just send me inappropriate pictures.
I am unsure if people care about me or if they care about what they want from me.
Lots of self hate comes from it. I acknowledge I have pretty privilege, but dang I feel like a piece of meat.
I dont do it, i only tell my friends abt the guys i like. And when i have a bf, i just show him all the guys that text me but i dont text back and ignore their messages becuz i just want to be honest to him and dont want to hide it from him.
Sometimes lol and the irony is that I don’t find myself attractive but I do get hit a lot by my friends and family members (occasionally by random strangers).
I'm not even attractive enough to get hit on but I am incapable of bragging due to abysmal self esteem. There are only two I stances I van recall. This one time a 7-11 clerk propositioned me to blow him in the toilet after touching me without my consent. I was in pajamas and I cried driving home. This other time two young men on the metro were pestering me (I had large pink headphones on) and said they would beat up my boyfriend. I was terrified.
I worked with a really attractive woman a few years back and honestly looking at her face when the men ogled at her, I don’t think impressed her much. I did mention it once in a jokey way and she told me it was really annoying boyfriends never trusted her and she couldn’t have real friends because the women were worse. I told her that as a married man I wouldn’t need to trust her if she wanted a bit on the side to make her feel better. Luckily she knew my sense of humour so laughed with me and didn’t report me to HR
I think she is insecure and the people calling her pretty is not enough to feel secure so she tries to find more validation with others but that also doesn’t fill the hole because being confident comes from within.
I'm not even sure she actually does get hit on or not like she claims. She's cute but she's not particularly "put together" and she's not super approachable it was awkward the first time I met her so I believe she's making it up to boost her self esteem. But I don't know maybe it does happen, either way I think it's tacky to brag like that.
I agree and I feel most sad because she is cute (just needs to work on her outfits and hairstylist) and she's cool so it's like "girl you're fine just be you."
I don’t think I brag about it as much as my friends tease me about it. Saying that I like toying around men and I have numerous men lined up (which is a total bs). “Where are your boys toys?” because I have a lot of male friends and I always talk to new people and I keep telling people about “my new friend Alex sent me this” or “oh Christopher my new friend also said that too!” Or sometimes (I really think it’s not that often) I upload pictures of me and my male friends and people keep saying “you keep getting new boyfriend each week” when uhh.. no?? They’re friends ffs
Probably due to my very histrionic, friendly, and outgoing nature, I look more confident than I actually am. Which somehow makes me more attractive than I actually am (objectively speaking, I’m not ugly, but I’m not that attractive either). Which can be both a curse and a blessing, I guess. Only my closest friends truly know how insecure I am of myself lol. Not something I actively hide but it’s just not noticeable on the surface.
I have no idea what is "a lot".
I think I do get hit on a fair amount of time, even though there are women A LOT hotter then me. Sometimes I think that I just happen to look unusual, slightly excentric, which tends to attract a certain kind of people.
Also, people hit on me much more after they meet me, or if I am specifically talking to them (clerks, colleagues on a conference, in a group of acquaintences), so I think it has to do with personality.
I do not brag about it, but I do tell a story about me being hit on if it's a funny one, which they sometimes are. I certainly do not hide it.
I know some girls who talk about being hit on every time I see them. While they are not just mildly attractive, but super hot, they tend to be insecure and kind of fucked up.
I’m going to brag here. And I’m a straight male. Not that good looking I don’t think. But I’m fairly tall.
I get hit on by gay guys all the time, even if I’m with my partner who’s female.
Bragging that you get hit on makes you less attractive. However, if based only on looks, we wouldn't know about the bragging. IMO, her bragging has something to do with a self-confidence or insecurity issue or narcissism.
My self .. it would be the complete opposite. I was probably hit on about once every 5 years, so if I say anything about it, it's because I can't believe it. Then again, I get oblivious. LOL
She shows signs of narcissism. I always get sad because she's like a pretty cool chick and she is cute but she's so annoying like this, always posting things for attention etc. It's like girl you're fine just be you. I think she makes herself look dumb.
Maybe? Narcissists are actually all insecure that's why they act they way they do so they can feel better. However, almost every single person has narcissistic traits. It's hard to tell. I once tried to help her emotionally but she got very angry so I now I just sit and read her posts and think "poor girl."
Huge Red flag. As soon as someone brags about their attractiveness it’s instantly -3 points on the X/10 scale just due to personality
That’s even further on the insecurity scale than “omg I’m so ugly” *trying to fish for compliments* although that at least doesn’t just make people uncomfortable like bragging does
I find it annoying actually. I'd rather random strangers left me alone. unless they need help or directions or something. It's specifically stopping me to hit on me or ask my number that's annoying. Also not sure if I'd call. myself super attractive, I feel that's way too individual and subjective. I definitely have pretty privilige.
No. I'm always sort of confused by how often people treat me like they're in love with me. I figure the getting hit on part is just because I kind of dress like a slut and like sex.
Hahaha oh boy. I mentioned nothing about myself in this post for a reason. I'm most definitely not jealous of her, I don't like that she brags because it's tacky and I think it's likely exaggerated. Surprised you didn't go look through my past posts before passing judgment. What I have found in my life experience is the women who say other women are jealous of them are actually the jealous insecure ones.
No. In fact I had quite a few really flattering experiences but never told anyone irl or even mentioned it in a post anywhere because I thought it would be extremely cringe and come off as vain.
But over the past few years I've had multiple women of varying ages quite literally cut me off mid-sentence to comment on my looks. At first it was kinda awkward and I probably fumbled a couple opportunities badly due to my own lack of rizz 😅
So now, I just say thank you and carry one as if someone was just complimenting my shirt or something.
Edit: now why is this categorized nsfw?
I don't brag about it. I just try and use it to help me with my social anxiety, knowing that people have positive thoughts about me when they look at me in public or at work, and I try to use it to my advantage (halo effect) but I certainly do not brag about it.
> friend of mine who brags constantly about how she's always getting hit on.
Guarantee you she doesn't get hit on at all, and she's extremely insecure about it.
No because most of the time getting hit on is annoying while I’m trying to go about my day. Unless it’s someone that is my type which is rare. I don’t really talk about it unless someone is tryna get fresh with me 😂 it’s nothing new to a lot of women, day in the life of being a girl is getting hit on rather often. Anyways that person may just like the validation, maybe their self esteem is a little low. 🤷🏽♀️
Also my super gorgeous friends never brag about it because again, it’s kind of annoying 😂 It’s just assumed I think when you see someone really good looking that they get hit on a lot.
I get hit on pretty often at work (I’m a male lifeguard at a massive waterpark), I have a long term girlfriend who I love.
I just thank them for the compliment and let them know I’m in a relationship, it feels nice but I never brag about to anyone or really talk about it much.
No. Cause it’s not fun. I had stalkers that traumatized the sht out of me, creepy old men, UNCLES, and guys who couldn’t take no for an answer.
There is no problem with asking people out. That part is normal. But no is NO.
No, it gets boring. Maybe I will tell someone about it if there was something funny/interesting about it, otherwise I forget about it almost immediately afterwards.
Perhaps it's all in her imagination. If she claims she's constantly getting hit on despite not being attractive, maybe it's just a fantasy of hers. Lol!
It's a bit of a cope mechanism, look up egotism it is linked to that, and it probably doesn't stop with her looks, but also the rest of the things she does she will brag about, it exudes fragile image of themselves
Maybe it’s just an insecure person that wants you to know that others are hitting on them lol!!!
I personally don’t think I’m attractive, but I’ve been told I’m beautiful by a lot of people both men and women. I’ve been hit on by mostly men who are already in LTR. One was my mom’s CEO. I don’t take it personally.
It’s probably supposed to be considered as flattery and you either do or you don’t. For me personally I only want one person to consider me beautiful and that’s my husband. But that’s because he sees me as who I really am and still finds me beautiful.
I might not think I’m rocking it but I’m still pretty confident in myself and that attracts some people whether I want it to or not. But I definitely don’t go boasting to anyone about it. It’s so silly.
Not really, maybe with colleagues or with a friend that’s there at the moment,( I work at a bar ) depends if she’s really attractive to. It’s always a compliment. But in the end who cares lol
I think truly beautiful ppl don’t brag, they don’t need to solidify the “validation” they receive on the daily from strangers by bragging to their friends.
No, im just used to it and ur supposed to ignore them as a female lol men n guys will always stare.. (except the practicing muslims n good n respectful guys.. they look away or lower their eyes and only openly stare at their wife in thaaat way). Like even in the US but still its w.e here ppl dont stalk you like that 😭 you go to other countries, youll get so much attention but realize yes we want attention but only from certain ppl like other girls n my future husband… not 30-60 yr old grown gross men who keep staring at u knowing yk.. anyways my backgrounds from a country like that n thats how i learned and thats why in Islam they teach a woman to cover up.. to kinda deflect the rapies 😭 but yea attractive ppl have to deal with pervs n im also waiting for marriage so i just ignore the opposite gender unless i cant .. i dont show skin unless arms but still wear regular clothes, just no dresses n shorts n tops with no sleeves..
I personally find it fucking annoying and a waste of my time so I usually pretend I don't hear it and move on if they keep it up I'll just leave but I'm an asshole like that
No, actually its kind of annoying… esp bc im in a relationship.. ppl constantly try to hit on me and im playing the rejection game everytime i leave the house.. its tiring as fuck.. i guess a gift and a curse.. yes my ego is prob boosted a bit bc of it.. but realistically im humble.. ik im pretty.. i know i can get what i want/ take advantage of pretty privilege but i dont sit and talk abt it or make ot my personality… its like an unspoken thing… i dont need to talk abt it bc everyone already knows.. and frankly the only ppl who ever « brag » abt shit like that are almost ALWAYS MID!! I mean literally always.
Lol agreed. If you get hit on a lot it just becomes a nuisance to deal with. Too much of anything gets grating. Glad your friend is enjoying the attention though.
I never brag about it. The majority of the time, I dislike being hit on. I feel that if someone is, they are either looking for attention or validation.
My daughter mostly gets creeped out. She was a lifeguard at 17 and would get hit on by 14 year olds and later in the day by their creepy, married dads. She didn't brag about these things. She wanted permission to use pepper spray.
No, it's actually rather annoying. I'll be walking down the street and a random woman makes a stupid comment or in a line, and they keep touching you. I wear normal dude clothes, so I'm not asking for it.
How do one know they're attractive ? Would u not be pompous and arrogant or vain to self declare being attractive ? Thus to be humble would require a outside source informing you of your appealing looks and holding that compliment or affirmation within . Bragging would certainly detract from an individuals sex appeal and be a instant indicator that humbility is not a characteristic that individual possessess.. in my opinion..
Not as attractive now, but through high school and and my early 20s, I did get hit on quite a bit. Never once bragged about it. People who do seem self-centered and weird to me.
No, it's mostly annoying at best (randoms in the street/at work), or hurtful at worst (meeting people who I click with who have the hallmarks of becoming a good friend but they ghost when they learn I'm not romantically interested).
It's really frustrating, you can't really have proper connections with people cause people just wanna jump your bones, think you're unintelligible or people just don't take you seriously. Why would anyone wanna brag about any of that. It's dehumanising and so unnecessary. The only time I haven't been approached as much was when I shaved my hair off and didn't wear make up.
Nearly 30 years of being objectified, imagine what that does to a person's psyche. I understand I do get handed pretty privilege as well which I pushed back on a lot, I ask to be treated like my counterparts on my value and skill, not on likeability/attractiveness.
It's hard, I don't know why people don't think it fucks with you.
No. It pisses people off when I get hit on for doing nothing. I've lost friends over it. Boyfriends were always saying I encouraged it. Yes I know they weren't really friends but it still hurt me. I'm very educated with several degrees and men always make me feel like some stupid slut who slept her way to where she got.
I’ve never been hit on, only catcalled by crackheads on the side of the street since I was 12. I complain about the latter a lot because it genuinely is a safety concern for me. If i got hit on I feel like i’d tell my best friend out of excitement
I don't think it's a matter of looks, but more so a self esteem thing. I know girls who are super attractive nd kinda used to brag about it, nd they are insecure, whilst other hot girls don't. Same goes for average to mildy attractive.
I used to when I linked my worth to how many people found me attractive…now I prefer not to be noticed. I’m engaged, and even if I weren’t, being hit on is not that great. It’s low value attention usually given by people you don’t even know 😭
I think its a double edged sword tbh. A lot of the time, guys will hit on anything they think they stand a good chance of sticking their d into, so it's not really a flex if they hit on you.
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Why? Bragging makes less attractive
Well if I ever get one of those erections lasting more than four hours, I’m calling everyone I know before I call my doctor.
I guess its the absolute correct timing s/
Yes obviously what els do you do with it?
Priaprism
I feel people who get hit on a lot and brag about ( mostly pretending that its soo annoying being soo beautiful) is because thats how they get their validation. They probably cant believe it themselves. So when someone compliments them thats when they start feeling confident. I belonged to this category when i was in my teens. I really was taken aback by the attention. And every time i got hit on.. it made me feel pretty. It is now that i understand how fucked up the whole thing is. I only feel special when someone compliments me. And this need for external validation is something most of us have . On the other hand people who are secure and innately confident don’t really care. These kind of people are rare and honestly i aspire to be one.
It's normal for Teen - as you said: a confident and grown person wouldn't do... but that's what made me turn away from those guys as a teen too...
I was that attractive female when I was younger. I bragged about anything I did other then being attractive because I really wanted people to see me as a person. I had more to offer then just being cute. Unfortunately I was the only one upsetting myself most of the time. So it was like a guy going your cute and me going well yesterday I was carrying entire speakers and got all A's in my psychology classes in college.
That's something, I discovered over the yrs, makes men, especially when young and still insecure feeling less confident. Like a woman that's successful is cool, but if she constantly gives him the feeling he never can impress her, that's another thing and actually turns them away too... Unfortunately my best friend never stopped that, men run after her, like the first sentence they hear is how successful she is (besides being attractive) and hardly anybody can keep up... and it gives people the feeling to never be enough, she is too damn good in everything, too independent, too disciplined...
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I'm 33F and at this point it just annoys me. I've been hit on since I was like 9 and its not something I understood for the longest time, especially out and about on the street just minding my business. Its been a thing that causes insecurity in my partners but my fiancé doesn't mind as long as people don't hit on me when he's with me. I always tell those who approach me that I'm taken. I don't go bragging about it tho. Its not something I enjoy. I have anxiety and it makes me uncomfortable tbh.
9? That's fucking wild jesus christ
A lot of women can relate to that I'm sure. Recently read a thread where others posted even younger ages for being hit on. Its really sad.
My partner said the most she has hit on wolf whistled and all this shit was between the ages of 14-18 her big boobs came in early and every cunt would just harass her make gross sexual comments. She now has to permanently be aware of how she is presenting herself because she doesn’t want the harassment.
Yeah, in retrospect I'm not surprised, world is fucked
'welcome to McDonal -' 'I'M TAKEN!!!'
Lmaoo made me chuckle 🤣
She's against big macs.
Same, at this point I know most men find me attractive and I can get attention if I want. When it happens, I feel either neutral or uncomfortable about it (depends on the context). I don’t feel like I need the validation anyway. And I don’t brag about, it would feel weird. I don’t feel the need to make sure that other girls know that I can attract men. I don’t need their validation either and their opinion doesn’t change anything about it.
I was 12 when I started noticing grown men checking me out. They didn't even do it discreetly
It is annoying to be honest. Especially when I'm out with my boyfriend. We recently moved into a new apartment and unfortunately we live above the leasing office so we get a lot of people coming in n out our main entrance. When I was trying to move a few things into the apartment while my boyfriend was upstairs, these two guys coming out the leasing office literally followed me into our apartment ; complimenting me. I was more astonished because I thought they were being nice and holding the door open for me. My boyfriend was beyond pissed to say the least. They ended up running out the door once my boyfriend tried to confront them.
Please, for the love of all that is holy, tell us that it was another 9 year old... (O_o)
I feel you. I often downplay my looks to try to have more privacy in public spaces. I have nightmares about being watched by strangers because it’s so normal in my reality. Sometimes it would be nice to be invisible.
Get pregnant. First time I ever got a break from it! What a relief.
No. Its a daily nuisance, not an event worth talking about. Like red lights.
REAL. I actually take offense if they feel comfortable to hit on me.
Why the need? People will brag for u if u are.
When people know you are handsome, they assume you get hit on a lot and sleep around a bunch. I was never like that, I enjoy the company being handsome brings me, I can go to a random bar and meet people, guys or girls, hangout with them all night and be good friends with. Yes, they brag, but they also talk behind your back and don't trust you at times and from experience it's people that are sleeping around a lot and have trust issues, whether handsome/cute/sexy or not. People assume, and people don't like to be wrong...
Not attractive and does not get hit at all so can't tell 🫠
Same here.
🫂
I'm 46, father, husband, more round than I'd like. Helllllll yeah I brag about it!! Hey baby!! This 70 year old woman said I was handsome and gave me a hug. I still got it!!
Haha
Cute brags. Hot whispers
Sounds like they have a bunch of insecurities so they use being hit on as validation. Further, even if they're not getting hit on, they'll express that they are to increase their perceived value because as humans, if something has value, we're drawn to it. It's sad for the friend because when they don't in fact get hit on often, it'll probably lower their self esteem further than if she never bragged about it in the first place. People who are truly attractive and confident don't have to convince others that they are attractive and confident.
Your last line was what my daughter said. It is sad for my friend not only because of her self esteem but because mutual friends make fun of her for those types of posts. She looks pathetic and it's sad because she's cute and a cool chick. It's just so... Distasteful?
Some small things you can do is show her the actual value she has besides superficial things: don’t overly praise her because that creates narcissism, but point out when she does something kind for someone, encourage it, commend her for courage or strength, compassion. Also, don’t be afraid to call out her selfishness or bad traits, to put an end to them.
Excellent advice! I compliment her for being beautiful (she really is I swear lol) but mostly for her talents. She's super crafty so I brag all the time about her skills. She's very humble. Despite the fact that people always tell her how pretty she is, she's humble.
I will get compliments or hit on by men even though I'm not interested and into women. I'll tell my best friends cause we find it funny that only men and never women hit on me
Haha happens to my daughter too. She is always getting hit on by boys but no ladies approach her. She is a lesbian and quite disappointed by this.
How she bacame lesbian? Whats going o n in your family?
Well you see, she was born and sometime around puberty she realized she is different and she is attracted to girls not boys. She told me this I hugged her said I support her. So that's what happened in our family. It's shame so many people think like you. I don't care about my daughter's sexuality it's none of my business, all I care about is that she dates a nice person and is a good person herself. If I don't care about her sexuality you shouldn't either.
in fairness, lesbian flirting is so close to just making friends that it's harrrd to distinguish and always awkward to work out which it is. the only obvious ones are drinken college women, but then you can't tell if they're just curious.
I'll let her know lol. She's sad that she'll never find a girl.
Ah, I hope she finds the confidence to be the one to initiate. When I was 25 I became friends with a 36 year old and eventually asked them out. It was a shock even to me I had the balls to do it. We dated for 2 months and deeply cared for each other but it just didn't work out. We remained friends afterwards. Still care about each other to this day.
I will encourage that. Thank you! I appreciate the info, I'm straight and support her 100% but I know nothing about this stuff.
Tbf, women dont hit on anyone.
No, because I'm very happy where I'm at, and also, my dumb dense smoothbrained ass wouldn't realize I was being hit on until *at least* a year after the fact.
Yeah sometimes
Good honesty! 👏👏
Well I’m good and super hot too
No. I mean not to sound like an a hole but it's kinda safe to assume. Especially because I work in a bar. I feel like an ass even telling you this now! There's no reason for it. That's the start to alot of mens...start lol "I bet you get hit on alot" 😑
Lol I get it
Modest is hottest! I feel like people who brag about it are people who read into the situation too much. I have a friend that thinks everyone is flirting with her, when really they’re just having basic manners.
I'm beginning to wonder if that's what is happening with my friend too, people are just being nice and she thinks they are flirting. But she's been known to exaggerate.
It’s more to me those who brag about that sort of thing are more egotistical and it feeds their ego to be boosting about that.
No because it happens so often you simply don't care.
only the unusual ones or if it’s a guy i had my eyes on i’d be bragging 😭
I always tell the weird stories lol
Absolutely not. I do not like the attention. I’d rather go into a crowded room and have no one look at me.
You're asking in the wrong place Lol
It's an ego thing. She wants her casual group to think that she's a desirable mate. Super hot people also do this if they're insecure. It's all about insecurity.
I do only because I used to be ugly so I earned it lol
"Back in the day, when I wore a younger man's clothes..." Yes, I did...I'm a guy. There were some exceptions, but...that's for another sub...🤭😎
I’m not attractive so i definitely brag about it
Not really, I've met really good looking men and women brag about how much attention they get from the opposite sex. It's more a case of insecure and secure people who like to brag and who do not.
Not hot, brag anyway.
I used to when I was younger. Now I have Self-confidence.
That's the key! Confidence makes you more attractive anyway!
Yes! Sometimes I still really struggle with my image of myself which almost nobody really understands (body dismorphia ect) BUT confidence is key. Tend to forget that hahah
Hey a lot of people struggle! You're doing great!
No. When someone hits on me like that, I will find it creepy and suddenly become scared. Smile is acceptable, but catcalling or suddenly want to get to know me, No, I always run away. And how can I brag about it? It’s terrifying.
People who get hit on do not brag. It's a simple thank you/you too and a smile. I sometimes get so uncomfortable when I get hit on, and I know the other person can tell cause my face says it all, lol. But on the inside, I like to give them credit for the confidence :)
It’s annoying and scary. Not brag-worthy. Seriously, I’ve been getting pervved on since I was 7 and I want to just be able to go places alone.
No
No it's fucking annoying. I get cat called multiple times most days, and I hate it. If I wear anything that shows a bit of chest I'm screwed. The last thing I want to do is go brag about it.
No, it’s made me guarded. Got sexualized from a very young age. As a 12 year old, a women came up to me and said “my husband is looking at you, you should be ashamed”. Nah mam’ your husband is a predator. My friends sexualize me, I know because they eventually tell me. Not that I want to know, it just comes up holike “oh yeah x and I wanted to fuck you when we met” okayyyy???? The ones that think they have a chance never say “I like you” they just send me inappropriate pictures. I am unsure if people care about me or if they care about what they want from me. Lots of self hate comes from it. I acknowledge I have pretty privilege, but dang I feel like a piece of meat.
I dont do it, i only tell my friends abt the guys i like. And when i have a bf, i just show him all the guys that text me but i dont text back and ignore their messages becuz i just want to be honest to him and dont want to hide it from him.
Sometimes lol and the irony is that I don’t find myself attractive but I do get hit a lot by my friends and family members (occasionally by random strangers).
Yeah, I get hit on a lot, wherever I go. I certainly don't brag about it... unless answering this question in the affirmative counts as bragging.
Male. I don't brag, But I admit I do get a much needed confidence boost from it.
I'm not even attractive enough to get hit on but I am incapable of bragging due to abysmal self esteem. There are only two I stances I van recall. This one time a 7-11 clerk propositioned me to blow him in the toilet after touching me without my consent. I was in pajamas and I cried driving home. This other time two young men on the metro were pestering me (I had large pink headphones on) and said they would beat up my boyfriend. I was terrified.
Nope, it’s just an approval from someone, no need to put it on a pedestal. Though getting recognized like that feels good
Yes
I worked with a really attractive woman a few years back and honestly looking at her face when the men ogled at her, I don’t think impressed her much. I did mention it once in a jokey way and she told me it was really annoying boyfriends never trusted her and she couldn’t have real friends because the women were worse. I told her that as a married man I wouldn’t need to trust her if she wanted a bit on the side to make her feel better. Luckily she knew my sense of humour so laughed with me and didn’t report me to HR
I think she is insecure and the people calling her pretty is not enough to feel secure so she tries to find more validation with others but that also doesn’t fill the hole because being confident comes from within.
I'm not even sure she actually does get hit on or not like she claims. She's cute but she's not particularly "put together" and she's not super approachable it was awkward the first time I met her so I believe she's making it up to boost her self esteem. But I don't know maybe it does happen, either way I think it's tacky to brag like that.
You might be right. I think it’s mostly sad she feels the need to do so
I agree and I feel most sad because she is cute (just needs to work on her outfits and hairstylist) and she's cool so it's like "girl you're fine just be you."
I don’t think I brag about it as much as my friends tease me about it. Saying that I like toying around men and I have numerous men lined up (which is a total bs). “Where are your boys toys?” because I have a lot of male friends and I always talk to new people and I keep telling people about “my new friend Alex sent me this” or “oh Christopher my new friend also said that too!” Or sometimes (I really think it’s not that often) I upload pictures of me and my male friends and people keep saying “you keep getting new boyfriend each week” when uhh.. no?? They’re friends ffs Probably due to my very histrionic, friendly, and outgoing nature, I look more confident than I actually am. Which somehow makes me more attractive than I actually am (objectively speaking, I’m not ugly, but I’m not that attractive either). Which can be both a curse and a blessing, I guess. Only my closest friends truly know how insecure I am of myself lol. Not something I actively hide but it’s just not noticeable on the surface.
Sometimes I will talk about it with my friends I'm 33 (M) but like funny stories, not bragging about it.
Same. I have a few funny stories or just stories that stood out so I talk about those.
I have no idea what is "a lot". I think I do get hit on a fair amount of time, even though there are women A LOT hotter then me. Sometimes I think that I just happen to look unusual, slightly excentric, which tends to attract a certain kind of people. Also, people hit on me much more after they meet me, or if I am specifically talking to them (clerks, colleagues on a conference, in a group of acquaintences), so I think it has to do with personality. I do not brag about it, but I do tell a story about me being hit on if it's a funny one, which they sometimes are. I certainly do not hide it. I know some girls who talk about being hit on every time I see them. While they are not just mildly attractive, but super hot, they tend to be insecure and kind of fucked up.
"Beautiful things don't ask for attention."
I’m going to brag here. And I’m a straight male. Not that good looking I don’t think. But I’m fairly tall. I get hit on by gay guys all the time, even if I’m with my partner who’s female.
Hell no, I’m quite good looking but my social skills are a shit show. I’m not about to brag about the women I’ve fumbled 😭😭
No. I want them to leave me alone 
In my early 20's the girl's went gaga for me, unfortunately I was too fricken shy to do anything about it; let alone brag about it. Lol.
If you have confidence you don’t brag about those types of compliments.
I'm unattractive and I've been asked out exactly three times. You bet I brag about it! But just online.
People will just think you’re a jerk,nobody cares how much you get hit on ,nobody who has a life of their own.
Yes. Boosts my wife’s ego knowing she got a good one. She will even use it to her advantage when she wants free stuff or a discount.
Bragging that you get hit on makes you less attractive. However, if based only on looks, we wouldn't know about the bragging. IMO, her bragging has something to do with a self-confidence or insecurity issue or narcissism. My self .. it would be the complete opposite. I was probably hit on about once every 5 years, so if I say anything about it, it's because I can't believe it. Then again, I get oblivious. LOL
She shows signs of narcissism. I always get sad because she's like a pretty cool chick and she is cute but she's so annoying like this, always posting things for attention etc. It's like girl you're fine just be you. I think she makes herself look dumb.
Perhaps she has an insecurity, which may be a reason for narcissism?
Maybe? Narcissists are actually all insecure that's why they act they way they do so they can feel better. However, almost every single person has narcissistic traits. It's hard to tell. I once tried to help her emotionally but she got very angry so I now I just sit and read her posts and think "poor girl."
You're a good person. It's hard when that happens.
Huge Red flag. As soon as someone brags about their attractiveness it’s instantly -3 points on the X/10 scale just due to personality That’s even further on the insecurity scale than “omg I’m so ugly” *trying to fish for compliments* although that at least doesn’t just make people uncomfortable like bragging does
I find it annoying actually. I'd rather random strangers left me alone. unless they need help or directions or something. It's specifically stopping me to hit on me or ask my number that's annoying. Also not sure if I'd call. myself super attractive, I feel that's way too individual and subjective. I definitely have pretty privilige.
No, but I definetely feel good about it.
no lol. i do get hit on a lot, especially at work but im not fazed by it so i dont feel the need to tell others.
That's how I see it. Why do you need to tell everyone? What's the point?
No. I'm always sort of confused by how often people treat me like they're in love with me. I figure the getting hit on part is just because I kind of dress like a slut and like sex.
Females, being jealous of other females, trying to justify belittling them. That's what this is.
Hahaha oh boy. I mentioned nothing about myself in this post for a reason. I'm most definitely not jealous of her, I don't like that she brags because it's tacky and I think it's likely exaggerated. Surprised you didn't go look through my past posts before passing judgment. What I have found in my life experience is the women who say other women are jealous of them are actually the jealous insecure ones.
No. In fact I had quite a few really flattering experiences but never told anyone irl or even mentioned it in a post anywhere because I thought it would be extremely cringe and come off as vain. But over the past few years I've had multiple women of varying ages quite literally cut me off mid-sentence to comment on my looks. At first it was kinda awkward and I probably fumbled a couple opportunities badly due to my own lack of rizz 😅 So now, I just say thank you and carry one as if someone was just complimenting my shirt or something. Edit: now why is this categorized nsfw? 
To hide the context of my post. I'm on my phone and that's the only way I know how to do it
That would require me to ever be aware it is happening. Boy, am I shit at social cues.
Not usually, at least back when I got it on a lot. I never saw it as something worth bragging about. There were better things to brag about.
I don't brag about it. I just try and use it to help me with my social anxiety, knowing that people have positive thoughts about me when they look at me in public or at work, and I try to use it to my advantage (halo effect) but I certainly do not brag about it.
One thing we’ve learned is a lot of people in here think they’re attractive 😂
> friend of mine who brags constantly about how she's always getting hit on. Guarantee you she doesn't get hit on at all, and she's extremely insecure about it.
No because most of the time getting hit on is annoying while I’m trying to go about my day. Unless it’s someone that is my type which is rare. I don’t really talk about it unless someone is tryna get fresh with me 😂 it’s nothing new to a lot of women, day in the life of being a girl is getting hit on rather often. Anyways that person may just like the validation, maybe their self esteem is a little low. 🤷🏽♀️ Also my super gorgeous friends never brag about it because again, it’s kind of annoying 😂 It’s just assumed I think when you see someone really good looking that they get hit on a lot.
I get hit on pretty often at work (I’m a male lifeguard at a massive waterpark), I have a long term girlfriend who I love. I just thank them for the compliment and let them know I’m in a relationship, it feels nice but I never brag about to anyone or really talk about it much.
Nah would never happen to me and sometimes glad cause I don’t wanna get a big head and ego and turn into a arrogant pos. Being ugly keeps you humble
If I was then I would definitely brag about it
No. Cause it’s not fun. I had stalkers that traumatized the sht out of me, creepy old men, UNCLES, and guys who couldn’t take no for an answer. There is no problem with asking people out. That part is normal. But no is NO.
No, it gets boring. Maybe I will tell someone about it if there was something funny/interesting about it, otherwise I forget about it almost immediately afterwards.
Perhaps it's all in her imagination. If she claims she's constantly getting hit on despite not being attractive, maybe it's just a fantasy of hers. Lol!
My bro doesn't even need to be attractive and still brags about any woman that so much as talks to him... he's in my phone as sexual chocolate
It's a bit of a cope mechanism, look up egotism it is linked to that, and it probably doesn't stop with her looks, but also the rest of the things she does she will brag about, it exudes fragile image of themselves
I do get hit on a lot. A whole lot. But I only brag about it on Reddit, being anonymous and all.
lol no, that’s weird
Most men who hit on me are married or in relationships. Not much of a Flex to brag about tbh.
Maybe it’s just an insecure person that wants you to know that others are hitting on them lol!!! I personally don’t think I’m attractive, but I’ve been told I’m beautiful by a lot of people both men and women. I’ve been hit on by mostly men who are already in LTR. One was my mom’s CEO. I don’t take it personally. It’s probably supposed to be considered as flattery and you either do or you don’t. For me personally I only want one person to consider me beautiful and that’s my husband. But that’s because he sees me as who I really am and still finds me beautiful. I might not think I’m rocking it but I’m still pretty confident in myself and that attracts some people whether I want it to or not. But I definitely don’t go boasting to anyone about it. It’s so silly.
Stay very friendly......................I learned
No bc my self worth does not equate to it lol
I think bragging diluted that self esteem. Keep people guessing while you know the reality
No, we just assume that's the norm for everyone.
bragging is so unattractive and annoying, I don't get hit on so no
No. Complain or whine or dread it is more like.
Only to my wife.
No. I think I’m ugly and I barely go out anyway
People who get hit on all the time are most likely used to it so wouldn't be bragging like it's big news.
Id assume it’s insecurity. Wether they’re a 0-10 if they’re talking about receiving external validation a lot its probably because they really want it
Not really, maybe with colleagues or with a friend that’s there at the moment,( I work at a bar ) depends if she’s really attractive to. It’s always a compliment. But in the end who cares lol
I think truly beautiful ppl don’t brag, they don’t need to solidify the “validation” they receive on the daily from strangers by bragging to their friends.
No, im just used to it and ur supposed to ignore them as a female lol men n guys will always stare.. (except the practicing muslims n good n respectful guys.. they look away or lower their eyes and only openly stare at their wife in thaaat way). Like even in the US but still its w.e here ppl dont stalk you like that 😭 you go to other countries, youll get so much attention but realize yes we want attention but only from certain ppl like other girls n my future husband… not 30-60 yr old grown gross men who keep staring at u knowing yk.. anyways my backgrounds from a country like that n thats how i learned and thats why in Islam they teach a woman to cover up.. to kinda deflect the rapies 😭 but yea attractive ppl have to deal with pervs n im also waiting for marriage so i just ignore the opposite gender unless i cant .. i dont show skin unless arms but still wear regular clothes, just no dresses n shorts n tops with no sleeves..
I just realised, that no matter how you form an answer to this question, it will sound braggy.
That's exactly why I did not mention my own personal experience or opinion lol.
I personally find it fucking annoying and a waste of my time so I usually pretend I don't hear it and move on if they keep it up I'll just leave but I'm an asshole like that
No, actually its kind of annoying… esp bc im in a relationship.. ppl constantly try to hit on me and im playing the rejection game everytime i leave the house.. its tiring as fuck.. i guess a gift and a curse.. yes my ego is prob boosted a bit bc of it.. but realistically im humble.. ik im pretty.. i know i can get what i want/ take advantage of pretty privilege but i dont sit and talk abt it or make ot my personality… its like an unspoken thing… i dont need to talk abt it bc everyone already knows.. and frankly the only ppl who ever « brag » abt shit like that are almost ALWAYS MID!! I mean literally always.
It’s always better to be humble. You get more outta life
Lol agreed. If you get hit on a lot it just becomes a nuisance to deal with. Too much of anything gets grating. Glad your friend is enjoying the attention though.
As a dude, hell no I don't, it makes my GF jealous, and it's unnecessary to speak about.
I never brag about it. The majority of the time, I dislike being hit on. I feel that if someone is, they are either looking for attention or validation.
It gets old
My daughter mostly gets creeped out. She was a lifeguard at 17 and would get hit on by 14 year olds and later in the day by their creepy, married dads. She didn't brag about these things. She wanted permission to use pepper spray.
No, it's actually rather annoying. I'll be walking down the street and a random woman makes a stupid comment or in a line, and they keep touching you. I wear normal dude clothes, so I'm not asking for it.
How do one know they're attractive ? Would u not be pompous and arrogant or vain to self declare being attractive ? Thus to be humble would require a outside source informing you of your appealing looks and holding that compliment or affirmation within . Bragging would certainly detract from an individuals sex appeal and be a instant indicator that humbility is not a characteristic that individual possessess.. in my opinion..
i would contact my insurance company and file a claim
absolutely not. when you get hit on a lot it’s actually ANNOYING and you can’t even remember them all.
No, i just try to take it in stride and appreciate it as these days are numbered
I don’t brag about because I don’t like it
I am not attractive but back then whenever women hit on me i would brag it to my friends😅. Especially if the said woman was stunning.
They’re new to the game if they brag about it
Not as attractive now, but through high school and and my early 20s, I did get hit on quite a bit. Never once bragged about it. People who do seem self-centered and weird to me.
Only to my wife.
Only to my wife.
No, it's mostly annoying at best (randoms in the street/at work), or hurtful at worst (meeting people who I click with who have the hallmarks of becoming a good friend but they ghost when they learn I'm not romantically interested).
It's really frustrating, you can't really have proper connections with people cause people just wanna jump your bones, think you're unintelligible or people just don't take you seriously. Why would anyone wanna brag about any of that. It's dehumanising and so unnecessary. The only time I haven't been approached as much was when I shaved my hair off and didn't wear make up. Nearly 30 years of being objectified, imagine what that does to a person's psyche. I understand I do get handed pretty privilege as well which I pushed back on a lot, I ask to be treated like my counterparts on my value and skill, not on likeability/attractiveness. It's hard, I don't know why people don't think it fucks with you.
No. It pisses people off when I get hit on for doing nothing. I've lost friends over it. Boyfriends were always saying I encouraged it. Yes I know they weren't really friends but it still hurt me. I'm very educated with several degrees and men always make me feel like some stupid slut who slept her way to where she got.
I'm sorry that's not fair.
I’ve never been hit on, only catcalled by crackheads on the side of the street since I was 12. I complain about the latter a lot because it genuinely is a safety concern for me. If i got hit on I feel like i’d tell my best friend out of excitement
I don't think it's a matter of looks, but more so a self esteem thing. I know girls who are super attractive nd kinda used to brag about it, nd they are insecure, whilst other hot girls don't. Same goes for average to mildy attractive.
I used to when I linked my worth to how many people found me attractive…now I prefer not to be noticed. I’m engaged, and even if I weren’t, being hit on is not that great. It’s low value attention usually given by people you don’t even know 😭
I think its a double edged sword tbh. A lot of the time, guys will hit on anything they think they stand a good chance of sticking their d into, so it's not really a flex if they hit on you.
I am attractive.