It's hilarious how he's like "if they ever told me they did that I'd be absolutely devastated and could never be friends with them again and they all know it. Anyway I'm sure they're being honest when they tell me they don't do that."
Honestly number one reason I never got into it, street cocaine is cut with so many chemicals from rat poison to coffee to rogain. No way was I trusting my mates dealers supply.
I get it. If i found that ALL my friends were collectively lying to me about something i would probably feel hurt outcast. I would probably not want to believe it.
> What country are you all from that commenting coke? I always imagined coke is something super highly addictive that only drug lords do, but it seems y’all did it causally in your 20s?
Woah woah woah. Some people do it casually into their 30’s, too.
Sometimes it's not fun at all, like if you suffer from general anxiety disorder. Then you look around at all your friends getting super chatty with a wide eyed smile on their faces, and wonder why all you feel is shaking and sweaty and nervous.
I found that coke didn't really make me feel good either, just *up*. Like I couldn't hold still, couldn't stop talking, couldn't stop fidgeting. I've tried a good number of drugs in my lifetime, coke is one I would never waste my money on again.
As someone who did enough coke in my 20’s to cause a blue whale mass extinction event… now in my 30’s I just really have zero desire. When it’s around at parties/social events my first thought is “ugh, way too big of a commitment and I’d rather be freshly showered in bed with my skincare all done no later than 1am.”
A friend of mine did it pretty actively in his 20’s and then dropped off in his early 30’s after a really bad night and OD’ing in a dive bar in Gowanus.
Now this friend of mine does more useful things with his time like post on SRD. The thought of doing drugs now makes my friend tired.
I kind of do miss “cocaine plans” though, if I’m being honest.
“We should all go fucking skydiving next week!”
“YES! That is a great idea, let’s all promise we’re going!”
“FUCK YEA! I wouldn’t miss it!”
“I am so in, but everyone promise we’re really doing it!”
…no one ever speaks of it again.
I had one of these that involved me moving across country and getting an apartment with a coworker I barely knew. Only it did happen and if it hadn’t, I would have never met my wife.
True! You ever party with someone and do all the plans and become BFFs….and literally forget they exist when you wake up the next day? And not realize it until months or even years later when you see someone and think, “Huh. They look familiar…”
I gotta be honest, I'm pretty notorious for this sober as well. It's been coined the bff one night stand. I think we're just having a one night magical connection with deep talks and camaraderie and it turns out we aren't always on the same page there. I feel terrible about it and it's something I've spoken to my therapist about extensively.
Oh my God, we did this weigh a friend once in college, this guy had clearly lived a sheltered life and didn't really get the concept of "drunk plans aren't real plans"
We all wake up the next morning nursing our hangovers and he's sent texts out to everyone like "did you all get your warped tour tickets yet? Just got mine, can't wait!" And we all crack up laughing.
I don't think I've often witnessed people on coke successfully *listen* to someone else; mostly it descends into each person talking *at* each other. Good parties though.
IDK it just feels like that's the problem of *not* doing coke if everyone else is.
maybe I this read wrong? sorry
All it leads to is more coke, inflamed sinuses, and a depleted bank account. Oh, and having some dude tell you about his screenplay for 3 hours until 5am.
Obsessed with the optimism of thinking maybe everyone was just getting overstimulated and going to the bathroom to 'relax' (as if a bathroom at a house party is a relaxing space) and that everyone was checking in on each other and providing support. The most progressive mental health party you've ever seen. In between lines they're doing wellness checks on each other. My sweet boy not everyone needs that.
It's just polite, imo
If you're part of a group and you know a friend isn't comfortable with drug use, you do it before going out or you do it *discreetly* because nobody wants to have that conversation.
Like, you still want to party with them because they're fun to hang out with, but you don't want to freak them out. Source: I was the guy who would have been freaked out, I had it explained to me a decade ago
It was a fun "ohhhhhhhhhhhh that's what you guys were doing" moment
Of my friendgroup, 30% will do *something* on a night out everytime, 20% will do it if offered, 40% will know about it but won't partake and 10% won't know about it and will freak the fuck out if they find out. So basically it's 90% of us trying to keep the last 10% from finding out because that causes drama.
Your last paragraph is such an accurate description.
But the way he described it is still unique because he made it sound like he was literally the only one that didn't know. But it's entirely possible a couple of the bathroom trips were the 40%ers that were actually just using the bathroom.
> nobody wants to have that conversation
Ughh. Flashbacks to certain mates overcompensating by not shutting the fuck up about how supportive and nonjudgmental they are about your “habit”
Like simmer down bro. You don’t even have to acknowledge it every time a few of the lads disappear for a cheeky midnight trip to the ATM.
Honestly I think secretly doing drugs around sober people in general can be kind of rude. Not because you're exposing them to drugs or whatever, but because hanging out with drunk/stoned/tripping/coked out people when you aren't can be kind of boring. If you're just at a party though go off
>What country are you all from that commenting coke? I always imagined coke is something super highly addictive that only drug lords do, but it seems y’all did it causally in your 20s?
This comment just seems like difference in cultures. In India, cocaine does have that reputation.
My limited knowledge on the topic is that it really depends on the culture more than the location. I was a waiter in London and a lot of my colleagues did coke on a semi-regular basis (sometimes with the patrons). In general if you are going out in London with finance people, hospitality people, or actors, then there's some snow nearby. Then I worked in a white collar job in a more rural area of England (but still close to London) and even the mention of sharing a joint was seen as incredibly taboo.
However, one constant I've observed is that coke fiends are absolutely convinced that everyone else does coke on the regular, partly to absolve themselves, and partly because they don't realize that they self-select.
>However, one constant I've observed is that coke fiends are absolutely convinced that everyone else does coke on the regular, partly to absolve themselves, and partly because they don't realize that they self-select.
>
It's wild looking up statistics and finding even the most high guesses are pretty low vs how people will talk about how everyone does it, like i don't doubt the stats are under the actual amount, it'd be hard to get accurate self reports, but even if we added like, 20% of the population on some to most stats for country's it still wouldn't be a majority
I think it's one of those things where non users underestimate how many people do them, and users overestimate, since both circles do tend to naturally stay separate though self selecting, as you said
That's self-selection thing is real.
I don't party anymore
but when I did, I partied hard and I didn't want to be "going to the bathroom to party". I wanted to be able to do my thing in the corner real quick with nobody really saying shit or asking me questions or fucking with me, or making a big deal if it preferably cause we was all high
If your party wasn't going to be that way I wasn't going to show up most likely.
The other thing is you weren't going to invite me to your parties if you were not okay with that going on. because it was pretty well known I'm showing up and I'm having a good time. I work hard on the week days, I party hard on the weekends. And it just would be a sketchy situation for everyone else who doesn't party to see me to be the only one out of my mind and everybody else is like a beer and a half deep.
edit: The last thing I want to add is My partying made normal people uncomfortable. there were definitely times where the end of the night happened and we were being much more open about what was happening and I could tell people's girlfriends especially were not okay with us now not just being in one room and now we're at the kitchen table.
And it was uncomfortable like it wasn't fun for me to get the vibes from them that what we were doing was not okay and they def were not having fun being witness to people being slobs and partying the way we were.
Even if it was"fine" I avoided those situations.
I was about to give my POV from kinda the opposite side, I never really fucked with hard drugs and so I never had actual ‘parties’ at my house just ‘hang outs’. The distinction may not matter to some but it can be the difference between some stranger doing coke in my bathroom or not. Weed and alcohol even a lil molly i dont mind but i dont fuck with stuff like cocaine.
Did you guys casually do molly though? I still think that’s the weirdest thing ever. Like we had a few friends that would regularly roll and show up to play pool for a few hours and then just go home.
Maybe it’s because I never did molly regularly but it’s just so different from the normal dive bar vibe I never got it.
It’d be like showing up to a DnD night and ripping lines off your dice tray.
I never did it casually no, i did it one time at a concert and called it there. I never even drank or smoked casually tbh, only for parties. Still dont really, though i will share a drink with someone if they want to. My example was more that I had/have certain things I view acceptable and others I dont. Molly, LSD, that kind of shit is pushing it. Weed and alcohol is fine. Cocaine, meth, heroin, idk whatever crazy synthetic shit they have nowadays is not cool.
But no i wasnt taking pills and hanging out on the couch lol, though i bet my friends did a couple times. But it was a concert and everyone else was high on various shit so i said fuck it.
Point is in my house/where i live i had limits that normal parties dont, and I made sure it was known. When there is none, people start doing crazy shit like its nothing. Doing a line of coke on its own is crazy to me, but people did it a ton.
The comment i replied to was talking about self-selecting and my side is the other side of it. I dont fuck with it and I dont want to be around it as much. Which is why people who do coke think ‘Everyone around me does it so its normal’, because people like me say ‘I dont want to be around folk doing coke’.
Wasn’t trying to call you out or anything. Just saw your comment about the casual hangouts + molly and that sparked a memory.
Your points make sense. Hope you didn’t think I was insinuating you were doing something wrong/bad or anything.
>However, one constant I've observed is that coke fiends are absolutely convinced that everyone else does coke on the regular, partly to absolve themselves, and partly because they don't realize that they self-select.
I mean in contrast and in relation to commenter below, I think it really depends on what level of fiend aka addiction we are talking about.
"I work hard and party hard and want to do drugs to have fun and unwind" is a bit different than "I want to do illicit drugs in everyone's view and not be judged/inconvenienced" when the inconvenience is walking a few more steps to the bathroom.
If we're talking straight compulsive addiction needs it to function, well then yeah self selection is synonymous with that as even among general users you're going to be outside the norm/their comfortability. But that's not any different from other compulsive drug addictions. But cokehead and crackhead don't exactly have the same level of negative connotation here.
There was a meme (was a twitter post) that said 2 things I learned as an adult. 1. Cheese is fucking expensive 2., everyone does cocaine.
And over here has never been truer, and basically every time I've told people about it they've related/agreed, from users and non users alike.
If you're part of the nightlife scene here, the odds of someone in your group who does coke/open to doing coke is relatively high. Like more times than I can count I've been in a group of people and thought guess it'll be a stealth night between me and 1 other buddy. Only to have have one or more of them halfway through approach us cause they clue into to what were doing and ask for some but be like don't tell the rest of my friends.
Or I come empty and someone else I just met is offering me it because they want company and were told I dabble in it.
I've met groups of colleagues who I never thought of as being users who told us they need it to party and never even touched it before they were 30. Basically a PED for partying.(In contrast to my group, was a very different experience who would do cocaine at school to study or work).
I mean I basically even got into coke because i needed to keep up with drinking culture and going out and getting blasted was not exactly my type of night.
I and company would have definitely fit the coke fiend criteria, not necessarily fullblown cokehead like redditor below. But I always preferred to do it behind closed doors ala bathroom with one or two others. Because having a party where the majority go to one area to do coke at a given time and the stragglers are left with their thumbs up their ass, isn't conducive to a good environment imo. And I've never wanted to push my vices onto others or expose them to things they're not comfortable with. Because many aren't about it and that's fine by me.
I was in hippie drugs,it's hard to hide your eyes are dinner plates or the fact you can't really walk straight. what am I supposed to do about me needing something in my mouth to not clench?
I mean hey ..Ive looked like a ghoul before, Early on into my coke adventures, had a bday party , and my ex and her friend surprised me with a birthday cake, right after I came upstairs from doing coke. You could literally see in the video me trying to keep my jaw normal but I couldn't even feel what normal was.
Acid and m funnily enough doesn't regulary fuck my pupils up as much as some of my friends.
In India, alcohol, smoking and weed are kind of common. It's still a bit taboo, but it's not as out of the ordinary. Although people do take other drugs, but most people, especially the ones who don't party like me, won't know about it. And the people who don't know, do think like that. And most people who do hard drugs in India, kind of struggle in life. And it's criminal in India. In fact in India, even alcohol is criminal in some states.
Yeah, I would hazard a guess that coke in the UK has the same rep weed has in India, at least among young people.
My friend was telling me about the fact that they have to keep alcohol usage on the down low and that was the biggest culture shock behind the head bobbing thing.
it's pretty common in melbs too but i'd imagine more so in sydney
i've never been into it and have drifted apart from some friend groups just because it went from 'occasional novelty' to 'every social gathering ever'. even at my age which is by any measure way too old for that shit
Alternatively, some religious groups have a very strict “no drugs, no alcohol” rule. I doubt parties at, say, Brigham Young University involve much coke.
At least in public, maybe
There's a (very) old joke that they don't dust the toilets in Westminster here in the UK because every single one would just be [covered in coke](https://www.businessinsider.com/cocaine-traces-found-uk-parliament-including-near-pms-office-report-2021-12).
It's absolutely rampant in London, even more so for people working in politics, journalism, finance and hospitality.
I assume it's the same in DC, politicians *love* coke.
> conservative society
If you mean *socially* conservative (like actually religious), then obviously.
If you mean *politically* conservative, then no way. Finance guys, C-suite, politicians, anyone who needs to feel confident and "alpha" is likely to do coke, meth, or uppers of some sort. The UK and US are the same in this respect.
This person is 20, says anyone in their friend group who has done coke tried it once or twice ‘years ago’— so, in their teens? But then doesn’t think anyone would do such a thing, gasp. Anyone I know who would have tried coke in their teens would def still do it at a party in their 20s.
LMAO I’m sorry but the “my friends must all be going into the bathroom because they’re *all* overstimulated” is the funniest fucking deduction I’ve ever read in my life 😂😂
Not only that but literally while reading the story I felt like I could practically see it happening: bf/gf bought the coke so was going to town with it more than anyone else. But would leave some lines in the bathroom for next friend/s to use. I guarantee the bathroom visits stood out to him more than other times because as soon as someone came out, the next friend/s went in immediately.
This is honestly the best SRD in a long time.
I’m autistic and I’m a bit confused by this. Like, I understand the concept of doing drugs at parties, but how does anyone here know it was *that* instead of sex, gossip, cigarettes, or arguing?
It's about the rigid moral code and the resistance to challenges to their perceived reality.
In this case that their friends are good people (perceived reality) and that good people can do a little coke at a party (challenges what it means to be a good person and the idea that their friends might be "bad" people).
I remember there was a scene in the Watchmen tv show where Don Johnson’s character just casually goes to the bathroom during a dinner party and does a line. It’s not really remarked on and doesn’t have a bearing on the story in any way.
I also remember someone on Reddit saying that the scene wasn’t believable — that a successful adult wouldn’t just do drugs causally like that.
No, people really do.
I see this all the time in subreddits for some shows. Like in Euphoria's subreddit all you get are comments about how highschoolers don't do that many drugs. Like yeah, sure, some don't, but some do and we are following the ones that do.
>Like in Euphoria's subreddit all you get are comments about how highschoolers don't do that many drugs. Like yeah, sure, some don't, but some do and we are following the ones that do.
It's wild right... the show follows like 8-10 main characters and all but maybe 2 of them come from explicitly messy family situations; most of the people on reddit grew up in the suburbs in a stable home but still think they know how other people live lol
I honestly don't even know what kind of life they've lived. But I will say one thing, people that don't do drugs and have no interest in drugs thinks no one does drugs...except for the homeless looking guy on the street corner.
Can you elaborate with specific characters? To me they all sound different and kind of based on what kind of life they led.
Btw I'm not attached to the show. I really disliked a lot of it but thought some of the drug/sex criticisms were silly.
It would blow peoples minds if they knew how casual drugs were in some countries. The UK has a massive coke culture to the point you could score coke on any given night out outside any club. Hell that’s not even mentioning how brickies, tradesmen, MPs, bankers and probably even teachers have social drug habits.
I did think it was odd how he was at a christmas party with, like, three other people in that scene including children. Like I'll do drugs sometimes, sure, but I prefer a less wholesome environment
When I was younger than my mom would've liked, I found a picture of my dad she had stashed away in the hopes we'd never see it. It's a fucking hilarious picture of him absolutely blasted on coke, mid-laugh, not long before my brother was born. It's one of my favorite pictures ever.
When I grew up a little more, my mom shared the context that she and my dad had done just, like, sooooo much coke for sooooo long. She's been sober for almost 40 years and has strong negative feelings about other illicit substances she's done, but lights the fuck up when she talks about how great coke was lol.
That's extremely cultural/geographic. Living in my hometown in my 20s there were people selling it openly in the bathrooms in every club. Living in the capital of my country in my 30s I knew that some people did it sometimes, but it was not that common for most people (I know it was different in finance circles because I have friends there, but even there it was not so open as in my hometown). In the 4 years I've lived in a different country I have never heard anyone talk about it or much less do it, and it's still inside the EU so not so different culturally from my home country.
I was really shocked when I was out with some people i hadn’t seen in a long time, and they brought it up to kinda test the waters about how I felt about it.
I do get where the people who don’t believe it’s real are coming from. You can very easily grow up and think it’s only happening in movies. I still kinda feel like that even
I used to be like OOP, then my friends sat me down and informed me that anything I find confusing about other people is always gonna be a drug thing or a sex thing.
>i wouldnt call cocaine a “hard drug” lol. actual hard drugs are heroin, fentanyl, meth, & crack. crack being the least hard one outta the rest i listed
What does OP think crack is made of?
Maybe they're from the US. There was a huge right-wing media campaign to paint crack as a seperate more evil drug that only impoverished black people did while cocaine was the cool white rockstar drug. To this day, the sentence for crack possession is a lot longer than for coke.
I cannot get enough of this guy:
"I mean coke and meth heads are like a solid half of my family so i feel like ive got some experience with that. Shit talking coke heads is also a semi common subject of conversation soooo"
Guy is literally surrounded by drug users and one of the points of conversation that keeps coming up when he's hanging out with his friends are amped up cokeheads? Yeah dude, an annoying person on coke annoys someone else on coke most of all.
"I'm certain no one was like hiding some drug use"
lol, omg he's so out of the loop it's adorable. It's drugs dude. Whenever people do that bathroom thing, it's drugs. For some reason they don't think you're down with it and don't want you to know.
Looking up the stats for Denmark 1.9% of the 15-16 year olds have tried cocaine, at least once (2019 data, if you look at 2007 numbers that would have been 3.2%, same year gives 5% for the same age group with Amphetamine)
In more wholesome news the heroine usage for that age group seem to have been 0% since 2007 so at thats something at least. (Edit: nevermind its because they merged smoked and injected and I can't read the table, its hovering around 0.5%...)
"In more wholesome news the heroine usage for that age group seem to have been 0% since 2007 so at thats something at least. (Edit: nevermind its because they merged smoked and injected and I can't read the table, its hovering around 0.5%...)"
Heroin use in a lot of places has gone down because people are doing fentanyl now and can't find heroin.
Doesn't seem like fentanyl is the bigger sinner in denmark at least, something like 2% (stats from 2023) of people below 18 have tried either benzenoids or opioids once. The big non-hash drugs for the youth seems to be largely whippits (2.8% or 15-16) and inhalation of various other gasses and fumes (5.5% for same age group)
(The last 2 stats for 2019)
Sounds like you guys have different trends. I haven't looked up the stats for the USA, but it just feels like those numbers would be different (mainly benzos/fent higher and gases/fumes lower). But what do I know, I'm not a kid anymore so tbh I have no clue what is common. Though I know for a fact trying shrooms has gotten way more popular.
Tbh if we ignore drugs the big problem is probably still alcohol by far. The alcohol culture among the youth is fucked and continue to be so far more than everything else.
i’ve been in OOP’s position of being extremely oblivious *so goddamn many* times, it frankly gets hilarious after it happens enough.
best example off the top of my head: a few summers ago, i was on a trip with the youth group i was part of at the time (think eighty 15/16-year-olds gallivanting in a foreign country) and towards the end of the trip, i expressed to one of my friends that i’d expected at least one couple to have hooked up by now over the past few weeks, but that it seemed like that hadn’t happened so far.
he looks at me and says: ‘dude. people have been hooking up *non-stop* since we got here.’
apparently the subgroup that i was in was also in like… a polycule-type situation? like, *everyone*. and i was the token autist/asexual just being like ‘this is great, i’m glad we’re all such good friends :)’ and no one wanted to tell me otherwise. the *whole* time.
great people, though. good times.
He was just estimating and expressing it was a short amount of time per trip.
If you've ever been around people who are sneaking off to do coke you'd know it's pretty conspicuous.
I'm pretty clueless, but I got told to use the second bathroom at a house party by a friend because "the first one is gonna be busy" and figured it out pretty quick.
>What country are you all from that commenting coke? I always imagined coke is something super highly addictive that only drug lords do, but it seems y’all did it causally in your 20s?
the first time i did coke was in high school with a cheerleader. she definitely wasn't a drug lord, just a rich kid.
These people live in another world.
"but it seems y’all did it causally in your 20s"
This comment is so funny because, yes, that's what a lot of people did and that's usually the age you would do that.
Which ones require going to the bathroom together though? Pretty sure coke is the main "go to the bathroom together at a party" drug. You don't need to go to a bathroom together to take a pill, and they're not shooting up that quickly, so of the snortskies coke is the most likely to me.
> You don't need to go to a bathroom together to take a pill
In my experience people often do, because in friend groups it's often the case that not everyone is carrying their own supply. So people frequently regroup in the bathroom for redistribution purposes.
Yeah but he would notice them being fucked up.
Everyone on coke can seem like a normal night out. Maybe some people are being more social and chattier then usual.
People on K are going to be acting weird, eyes super dilated, slurring words badly, staring into space.
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Eh, coke really is a drug that people (who aren't addicted) just kind of splurge on for a night with buddies. It's 100% affordable. I more wonder how easy it is to get clean coke these days (not mixed with meth).
buying a 30-50$ bag to split with your friends at a party is pretty doable for just about anyone. it's unlikely anyone in this story uses any more regularly than that.
We joke in Spain that it's the only inflation-proof product. It was 10k pesetas per gram 25 years ago and it's 60€ per gram now (exact equivalent of 10k pesetas). It's not uncommon for a drink at a club to cost 10-15€ so not that expensive I guess.
My first thought if they where couples, they where going in there for a quickie. Then if they where in it out cold popped in my mind. I to my knowledge knew one friend who did it and oh did he turn into an asshole. I thought it was alcohol at first but after I connected him going outside to “smoke” and coming back a little more unhinged there was definitely something else.
The amount of people just cool with casual use of coke never ceases to blow my mind. Makes me feel super lame tbh 😅. I wouldn’t try it if someone offered but it’s just kinda crazy to me
This guy! Of COURSE your friends aren’t telling you about the coke! You’re judgemental and kind of a priss!
its hilarious when you finally start actually doing coke, this whole other world opens up you didn’t know existed. You’re like “OHHH that’s what the bathroom thig is about” and “OHHH that’s why I had to go to bed but they stayed up laughing like marmosets.” Now you too use the coin pocket in your jeans and laugh like a marmoset!
Had to stop with that drug when I was driving down I-95 in Delaware at 6am from Philly, having been awake for four days, screaming at various people on the phone (I think). Flushed a good three full grams down a toilet in that Delaware rest stop they fixed up to be fancy
To be fair, I'd have made the same assumption as OOP. On the other hand, I am both autistic and was raise super sheltered by evangelicals, soooooooo yeah poor OOP lol.
To be fair, it could be drugs… or it could be sex. Or both. When I was in high school, girls would stand around in the bathroom and chat. Occasionally there was vaping, but half the time they were literally just talking and I’d be like “why don’t you do this in the hallway?”
I read the post and wondered if OP was that guy. In nearly every 20s friend group I was a part of, there was that guy or girl who tried to follow women into the bathroom.
Going with another woman didn't help much, they would still follow. We went as couples and had safe guys for single women.
Most likely drugs but someone paying that much attention to who is going to the bathroom could be a creep.
"In nearly every 20s friend group I was a part of, there was that guy or girl who tried to follow women into the bathroom."
You had a weird friend group...
Or everyone was doing drugs and you thought the person trying to get in on the action was just being pervy.
Nah i was roundabout agreeing with your friend group assessment of dude you replied to. Why be weird and go to the bathroom together? Let’s just hit this bump right here
Yeah, as they started describing it, it sounds like they hung out in a rougher crowd than I did. I mean, I've been to weird house parties, but the weirdos certainly weren't part of my friend group. And even the loosest use of the word friend group there weren't people there hitting on everyone or being weird when you had to use the bathroom. I don't know, sounds unpleasant.
>What do you mean? Do you think they conspired to collectively lie to me about it? >Yes Gold right there or white in this case.
That whole exchange is so funny. Poor wide eyed sheltered kid is genuinely shocked that people do drugs and lie about it.
It's hilarious how he's like "if they ever told me they did that I'd be absolutely devastated and could never be friends with them again and they all know it. Anyway I'm sure they're being honest when they tell me they don't do that."
Lmao
Imo it’s extremely rude to leave the room to do drugs by yourself so you don’t have to share. That’s coke for you though!
Sharing coke? In this economy?!
He's so pure.
Just like the coke 👌
Probably not
Yeah it's absolutely horrible these days. Haven't smelled diesel in years.
Honestly number one reason I never got into it, street cocaine is cut with so many chemicals from rat poison to coffee to rogain. No way was I trusting my mates dealers supply.
Spendy coke.
Stop it, you! I’m getting all nostalgic!
TBF, they did say they're autistic.
I mean there's Autistic then there's whatever that dude is.
I get it. If i found that ALL my friends were collectively lying to me about something i would probably feel hurt outcast. I would probably not want to believe it.
You're telling me a group of people that just engaged in illegal activities would all lie about it?
Doing illegal things that they specifically know I don’t like? Shocked pickachu
Not to mention the conspired lie is: "hey, does steve want to partake?" "Nah man, he's not cool with this." GRAND CONSPIRACY TO LIE TO HIM.
> What country are you all from that commenting coke? I always imagined coke is something super highly addictive that only drug lords do, but it seems y’all did it causally in your 20s? Woah woah woah. Some people do it casually into their 30’s, too.
Cocaine is like shower paella. It's fun once every month or two. Any more and you end up with a bunch of shellfish in the bathtub.
This is why I come to this sub: new perspectives.
Sometimes it's not fun at all, like if you suffer from general anxiety disorder. Then you look around at all your friends getting super chatty with a wide eyed smile on their faces, and wonder why all you feel is shaking and sweaty and nervous.
I found that coke didn't really make me feel good either, just *up*. Like I couldn't hold still, couldn't stop talking, couldn't stop fidgeting. I've tried a good number of drugs in my lifetime, coke is one I would never waste my money on again.
Wh- What does this mean?
As someone who did enough coke in my 20’s to cause a blue whale mass extinction event… now in my 30’s I just really have zero desire. When it’s around at parties/social events my first thought is “ugh, way too big of a commitment and I’d rather be freshly showered in bed with my skincare all done no later than 1am.”
A friend of mine did it pretty actively in his 20’s and then dropped off in his early 30’s after a really bad night and OD’ing in a dive bar in Gowanus. Now this friend of mine does more useful things with his time like post on SRD. The thought of doing drugs now makes my friend tired.
So glad your friend is ok now. This sub sure wouldn’t be the same without them.
My friend greatly appreciates that.
Dude your fucking flair is killing me.
lol thank you. It still makes my brain itch whenever I take the time to read it on occasion.
Yeah Someone Who Isn’t Me had a similar experience, SWIM prioritizes sleep way too much now.
Can we bring back swim?
I didn’t know swim was a thing until today.
Fuck no, I hated that stuff. I rather people talk about their friends all day.
Recently found out that’s where teddy swims name came from. Felt like i was in a time machine
Of course it’s fucking gowanus. Hopefully he didn’t fall in
No, thank god. But realizing his last moments might be spent on the floor of the men’s room of Canal Bar was enough to kick the habit.
Not the fucking Canal Bar. Good on ya, that woulda been miserable.
Sometimes you just don’t wanna stay up until 3 am listening to some guy’s “totally amazing idea for a food truck”
I kind of do miss “cocaine plans” though, if I’m being honest. “We should all go fucking skydiving next week!” “YES! That is a great idea, let’s all promise we’re going!” “FUCK YEA! I wouldn’t miss it!” “I am so in, but everyone promise we’re really doing it!” …no one ever speaks of it again.
I had one of these that involved me moving across country and getting an apartment with a coworker I barely knew. Only it did happen and if it hadn’t, I would have never met my wife.
There’s a straight to Lifetime romcom I’d watch the shit out of.
And it always ends with a promise and often plans to get breakfast the next day at, like, 4pm. Those were fun times!
ALWAYS “BREAKFAST” PLANS! Omfg! Crazy how one drug can produce such specific social exchanges across the board.
True! You ever party with someone and do all the plans and become BFFs….and literally forget they exist when you wake up the next day? And not realize it until months or even years later when you see someone and think, “Huh. They look familiar…”
I gotta be honest, I'm pretty notorious for this sober as well. It's been coined the bff one night stand. I think we're just having a one night magical connection with deep talks and camaraderie and it turns out we aren't always on the same page there. I feel terrible about it and it's something I've spoken to my therapist about extensively.
I do that too. In my case it is the ‘tism.
Oh my God, we did this weigh a friend once in college, this guy had clearly lived a sheltered life and didn't really get the concept of "drunk plans aren't real plans" We all wake up the next morning nursing our hangovers and he's sent texts out to everyone like "did you all get your warped tour tickets yet? Just got mine, can't wait!" And we all crack up laughing.
“Wait you believed me? Aw, how cute”
One of the last times I did coke I got stuck in a bathroom while a bunch of "entrepreneurs" talked about their rolex watches. I wear a swatch.
I really hope they were the ones buying.
I like the concept of luxury watches, I prefer comfortable furniture.
I don't think I've often witnessed people on coke successfully *listen* to someone else; mostly it descends into each person talking *at* each other. Good parties though. IDK it just feels like that's the problem of *not* doing coke if everyone else is. maybe I this read wrong? sorry
> it descends into each person talking at each other only the echoes of my mind...
+1 Also the thought of 4AM coke chats with randoms in my 30s makes me physically withdraw into a shell, like an old snail
All it leads to is more coke, inflamed sinuses, and a depleted bank account. Oh, and having some dude tell you about his screenplay for 3 hours until 5am.
Fair comment depending on country. I've done all sorts of drugs and never even seen coke in person. ...in minecraft
Obsessed with the optimism of thinking maybe everyone was just getting overstimulated and going to the bathroom to 'relax' (as if a bathroom at a house party is a relaxing space) and that everyone was checking in on each other and providing support. The most progressive mental health party you've ever seen. In between lines they're doing wellness checks on each other. My sweet boy not everyone needs that.
His friends must be the nicest people ever to still invite him to these events and alter where they do coke so that he doesn't see.
It's just polite, imo If you're part of a group and you know a friend isn't comfortable with drug use, you do it before going out or you do it *discreetly* because nobody wants to have that conversation. Like, you still want to party with them because they're fun to hang out with, but you don't want to freak them out. Source: I was the guy who would have been freaked out, I had it explained to me a decade ago It was a fun "ohhhhhhhhhhhh that's what you guys were doing" moment Of my friendgroup, 30% will do *something* on a night out everytime, 20% will do it if offered, 40% will know about it but won't partake and 10% won't know about it and will freak the fuck out if they find out. So basically it's 90% of us trying to keep the last 10% from finding out because that causes drama.
Your last paragraph is such an accurate description. But the way he described it is still unique because he made it sound like he was literally the only one that didn't know. But it's entirely possible a couple of the bathroom trips were the 40%ers that were actually just using the bathroom.
> nobody wants to have that conversation Ughh. Flashbacks to certain mates overcompensating by not shutting the fuck up about how supportive and nonjudgmental they are about your “habit” Like simmer down bro. You don’t even have to acknowledge it every time a few of the lads disappear for a cheeky midnight trip to the ATM.
Honestly I think secretly doing drugs around sober people in general can be kind of rude. Not because you're exposing them to drugs or whatever, but because hanging out with drunk/stoned/tripping/coked out people when you aren't can be kind of boring. If you're just at a party though go off
>What country are you all from that commenting coke? I always imagined coke is something super highly addictive that only drug lords do, but it seems y’all did it causally in your 20s? This comment just seems like difference in cultures. In India, cocaine does have that reputation.
My limited knowledge on the topic is that it really depends on the culture more than the location. I was a waiter in London and a lot of my colleagues did coke on a semi-regular basis (sometimes with the patrons). In general if you are going out in London with finance people, hospitality people, or actors, then there's some snow nearby. Then I worked in a white collar job in a more rural area of England (but still close to London) and even the mention of sharing a joint was seen as incredibly taboo. However, one constant I've observed is that coke fiends are absolutely convinced that everyone else does coke on the regular, partly to absolve themselves, and partly because they don't realize that they self-select.
>However, one constant I've observed is that coke fiends are absolutely convinced that everyone else does coke on the regular, partly to absolve themselves, and partly because they don't realize that they self-select. > It's wild looking up statistics and finding even the most high guesses are pretty low vs how people will talk about how everyone does it, like i don't doubt the stats are under the actual amount, it'd be hard to get accurate self reports, but even if we added like, 20% of the population on some to most stats for country's it still wouldn't be a majority I think it's one of those things where non users underestimate how many people do them, and users overestimate, since both circles do tend to naturally stay separate though self selecting, as you said
That's self-selection thing is real. I don't party anymore but when I did, I partied hard and I didn't want to be "going to the bathroom to party". I wanted to be able to do my thing in the corner real quick with nobody really saying shit or asking me questions or fucking with me, or making a big deal if it preferably cause we was all high If your party wasn't going to be that way I wasn't going to show up most likely. The other thing is you weren't going to invite me to your parties if you were not okay with that going on. because it was pretty well known I'm showing up and I'm having a good time. I work hard on the week days, I party hard on the weekends. And it just would be a sketchy situation for everyone else who doesn't party to see me to be the only one out of my mind and everybody else is like a beer and a half deep. edit: The last thing I want to add is My partying made normal people uncomfortable. there were definitely times where the end of the night happened and we were being much more open about what was happening and I could tell people's girlfriends especially were not okay with us now not just being in one room and now we're at the kitchen table. And it was uncomfortable like it wasn't fun for me to get the vibes from them that what we were doing was not okay and they def were not having fun being witness to people being slobs and partying the way we were. Even if it was"fine" I avoided those situations.
I was about to give my POV from kinda the opposite side, I never really fucked with hard drugs and so I never had actual ‘parties’ at my house just ‘hang outs’. The distinction may not matter to some but it can be the difference between some stranger doing coke in my bathroom or not. Weed and alcohol even a lil molly i dont mind but i dont fuck with stuff like cocaine.
Did you guys casually do molly though? I still think that’s the weirdest thing ever. Like we had a few friends that would regularly roll and show up to play pool for a few hours and then just go home. Maybe it’s because I never did molly regularly but it’s just so different from the normal dive bar vibe I never got it. It’d be like showing up to a DnD night and ripping lines off your dice tray.
I never did it casually no, i did it one time at a concert and called it there. I never even drank or smoked casually tbh, only for parties. Still dont really, though i will share a drink with someone if they want to. My example was more that I had/have certain things I view acceptable and others I dont. Molly, LSD, that kind of shit is pushing it. Weed and alcohol is fine. Cocaine, meth, heroin, idk whatever crazy synthetic shit they have nowadays is not cool. But no i wasnt taking pills and hanging out on the couch lol, though i bet my friends did a couple times. But it was a concert and everyone else was high on various shit so i said fuck it. Point is in my house/where i live i had limits that normal parties dont, and I made sure it was known. When there is none, people start doing crazy shit like its nothing. Doing a line of coke on its own is crazy to me, but people did it a ton. The comment i replied to was talking about self-selecting and my side is the other side of it. I dont fuck with it and I dont want to be around it as much. Which is why people who do coke think ‘Everyone around me does it so its normal’, because people like me say ‘I dont want to be around folk doing coke’.
Wasn’t trying to call you out or anything. Just saw your comment about the casual hangouts + molly and that sparked a memory. Your points make sense. Hope you didn’t think I was insinuating you were doing something wrong/bad or anything.
Shit, if DnD were like that, I'd actually start playing again...
>However, one constant I've observed is that coke fiends are absolutely convinced that everyone else does coke on the regular, partly to absolve themselves, and partly because they don't realize that they self-select. I mean in contrast and in relation to commenter below, I think it really depends on what level of fiend aka addiction we are talking about. "I work hard and party hard and want to do drugs to have fun and unwind" is a bit different than "I want to do illicit drugs in everyone's view and not be judged/inconvenienced" when the inconvenience is walking a few more steps to the bathroom. If we're talking straight compulsive addiction needs it to function, well then yeah self selection is synonymous with that as even among general users you're going to be outside the norm/their comfortability. But that's not any different from other compulsive drug addictions. But cokehead and crackhead don't exactly have the same level of negative connotation here. There was a meme (was a twitter post) that said 2 things I learned as an adult. 1. Cheese is fucking expensive 2., everyone does cocaine. And over here has never been truer, and basically every time I've told people about it they've related/agreed, from users and non users alike. If you're part of the nightlife scene here, the odds of someone in your group who does coke/open to doing coke is relatively high. Like more times than I can count I've been in a group of people and thought guess it'll be a stealth night between me and 1 other buddy. Only to have have one or more of them halfway through approach us cause they clue into to what were doing and ask for some but be like don't tell the rest of my friends. Or I come empty and someone else I just met is offering me it because they want company and were told I dabble in it. I've met groups of colleagues who I never thought of as being users who told us they need it to party and never even touched it before they were 30. Basically a PED for partying.(In contrast to my group, was a very different experience who would do cocaine at school to study or work). I mean I basically even got into coke because i needed to keep up with drinking culture and going out and getting blasted was not exactly my type of night. I and company would have definitely fit the coke fiend criteria, not necessarily fullblown cokehead like redditor below. But I always preferred to do it behind closed doors ala bathroom with one or two others. Because having a party where the majority go to one area to do coke at a given time and the stragglers are left with their thumbs up their ass, isn't conducive to a good environment imo. And I've never wanted to push my vices onto others or expose them to things they're not comfortable with. Because many aren't about it and that's fine by me.
I was in hippie drugs,it's hard to hide your eyes are dinner plates or the fact you can't really walk straight. what am I supposed to do about me needing something in my mouth to not clench?
I mean hey ..Ive looked like a ghoul before, Early on into my coke adventures, had a bday party , and my ex and her friend surprised me with a birthday cake, right after I came upstairs from doing coke. You could literally see in the video me trying to keep my jaw normal but I couldn't even feel what normal was. Acid and m funnily enough doesn't regulary fuck my pupils up as much as some of my friends.
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Yeah I'm in India and the people I met here were shocked that I'd done coke. Meanwhile you were the odd one out if you hadn't done coke in my uni.
In India, alcohol, smoking and weed are kind of common. It's still a bit taboo, but it's not as out of the ordinary. Although people do take other drugs, but most people, especially the ones who don't party like me, won't know about it. And the people who don't know, do think like that. And most people who do hard drugs in India, kind of struggle in life. And it's criminal in India. In fact in India, even alcohol is criminal in some states.
Yeah, I would hazard a guess that coke in the UK has the same rep weed has in India, at least among young people. My friend was telling me about the fact that they have to keep alcohol usage on the down low and that was the biggest culture shock behind the head bobbing thing.
Ironically I have just watched [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/unitedstatesofindia/s/IpXcV7qwcN) video of people being addicted to drugs.
Almost everyone in my group of friends here in Australia does coke. It's actually rare that someone doesn't do it in my experience.
I'm sorry, is your icon Mario goatse??????
Actually, Mario seems to have sat in some raspberry jam, and is showing Luigi the stain on his new pants. He is quite miffed!
NSW?
Yeah. Sydney specifically. Even mutual friends. Now that I think about it, it's actually weird just how common it is.
it's pretty common in melbs too but i'd imagine more so in sydney i've never been into it and have drifted apart from some friend groups just because it went from 'occasional novelty' to 'every social gathering ever'. even at my age which is by any measure way too old for that shit
That’s the exact kinda person I wouldn’t admit cocaine use to
As a kid growing up in PA in the '80s, alcohol was extremely hard to get. So we did coke and mj, because those were always a phone call away.
PA?
Alternatively, some religious groups have a very strict “no drugs, no alcohol” rule. I doubt parties at, say, Brigham Young University involve much coke.
Yeah I’d say socially conservative society in general feels that way about cocaine
At least in public, maybe There's a (very) old joke that they don't dust the toilets in Westminster here in the UK because every single one would just be [covered in coke](https://www.businessinsider.com/cocaine-traces-found-uk-parliament-including-near-pms-office-report-2021-12). It's absolutely rampant in London, even more so for people working in politics, journalism, finance and hospitality. I assume it's the same in DC, politicians *love* coke.
> conservative society If you mean *socially* conservative (like actually religious), then obviously. If you mean *politically* conservative, then no way. Finance guys, C-suite, politicians, anyone who needs to feel confident and "alpha" is likely to do coke, meth, or uppers of some sort. The UK and US are the same in this respect.
This person is 20, says anyone in their friend group who has done coke tried it once or twice ‘years ago’— so, in their teens? But then doesn’t think anyone would do such a thing, gasp. Anyone I know who would have tried coke in their teens would def still do it at a party in their 20s.
I did it once or twice in high school and then stopped..until i graduated and went to college and didn’t stop for a good 5 years.
LMAO I’m sorry but the “my friends must all be going into the bathroom because they’re *all* overstimulated” is the funniest fucking deduction I’ve ever read in my life 😂😂
Not only that but literally while reading the story I felt like I could practically see it happening: bf/gf bought the coke so was going to town with it more than anyone else. But would leave some lines in the bathroom for next friend/s to use. I guarantee the bathroom visits stood out to him more than other times because as soon as someone came out, the next friend/s went in immediately. This is honestly the best SRD in a long time.
OP says he was timing the bathroom visits…wonder if it was with his phone or a wrist watch 😂
Well we know this dude's autism diagnosis was correct.
Not to mention it was the first time someone announcing they are autistic actually helped me understand why he wasn't getting something.
I’m autistic and I’m a bit confused by this. Like, I understand the concept of doing drugs at parties, but how does anyone here know it was *that* instead of sex, gossip, cigarettes, or arguing?
It's about the rigid moral code and the resistance to challenges to their perceived reality. In this case that their friends are good people (perceived reality) and that good people can do a little coke at a party (challenges what it means to be a good person and the idea that their friends might be "bad" people).
Part of growing up is learning the insane number of adults that do coke regularly.
I remember there was a scene in the Watchmen tv show where Don Johnson’s character just casually goes to the bathroom during a dinner party and does a line. It’s not really remarked on and doesn’t have a bearing on the story in any way. I also remember someone on Reddit saying that the scene wasn’t believable — that a successful adult wouldn’t just do drugs causally like that. No, people really do.
I see this all the time in subreddits for some shows. Like in Euphoria's subreddit all you get are comments about how highschoolers don't do that many drugs. Like yeah, sure, some don't, but some do and we are following the ones that do.
>Like in Euphoria's subreddit all you get are comments about how highschoolers don't do that many drugs. Like yeah, sure, some don't, but some do and we are following the ones that do. It's wild right... the show follows like 8-10 main characters and all but maybe 2 of them come from explicitly messy family situations; most of the people on reddit grew up in the suburbs in a stable home but still think they know how other people live lol
I honestly don't even know what kind of life they've lived. But I will say one thing, people that don't do drugs and have no interest in drugs thinks no one does drugs...except for the homeless looking guy on the street corner.
The less realistic part of that show imo is honestly the dialogue. Nobody I knew in high school talked that way
Can you elaborate with specific characters? To me they all sound different and kind of based on what kind of life they led. Btw I'm not attached to the show. I really disliked a lot of it but thought some of the drug/sex criticisms were silly.
It would blow peoples minds if they knew how casual drugs were in some countries. The UK has a massive coke culture to the point you could score coke on any given night out outside any club. Hell that’s not even mentioning how brickies, tradesmen, MPs, bankers and probably even teachers have social drug habits.
> that a successful adult wouldn’t just do drugs causally like that. They haven't seen or heard about all the drug use in Hollywood in the 80's?
I did think it was odd how he was at a christmas party with, like, three other people in that scene including children. Like I'll do drugs sometimes, sure, but I prefer a less wholesome environment
When I was younger than my mom would've liked, I found a picture of my dad she had stashed away in the hopes we'd never see it. It's a fucking hilarious picture of him absolutely blasted on coke, mid-laugh, not long before my brother was born. It's one of my favorite pictures ever. When I grew up a little more, my mom shared the context that she and my dad had done just, like, sooooo much coke for sooooo long. She's been sober for almost 40 years and has strong negative feelings about other illicit substances she's done, but lights the fuck up when she talks about how great coke was lol.
That's extremely cultural/geographic. Living in my hometown in my 20s there were people selling it openly in the bathrooms in every club. Living in the capital of my country in my 30s I knew that some people did it sometimes, but it was not that common for most people (I know it was different in finance circles because I have friends there, but even there it was not so open as in my hometown). In the 4 years I've lived in a different country I have never heard anyone talk about it or much less do it, and it's still inside the EU so not so different culturally from my home country.
I was really shocked when I was out with some people i hadn’t seen in a long time, and they brought it up to kinda test the waters about how I felt about it. I do get where the people who don’t believe it’s real are coming from. You can very easily grow up and think it’s only happening in movies. I still kinda feel like that even
I used to be like OOP, then my friends sat me down and informed me that anything I find confusing about other people is always gonna be a drug thing or a sex thing.
same here lmao. obliviousness solidarity!!
>i wouldnt call cocaine a “hard drug” lol. actual hard drugs are heroin, fentanyl, meth, & crack. crack being the least hard one outta the rest i listed What does OP think crack is made of?
Maybe they're from the US. There was a huge right-wing media campaign to paint crack as a seperate more evil drug that only impoverished black people did while cocaine was the cool white rockstar drug. To this day, the sentence for crack possession is a lot longer than for coke.
I thought crack genuinely was a much more intense high because of how you ingest it? The longer sentence is utter bullshit though
It comes from the crack leaf of course.
I cannot get enough of this guy: "I mean coke and meth heads are like a solid half of my family so i feel like ive got some experience with that. Shit talking coke heads is also a semi common subject of conversation soooo" Guy is literally surrounded by drug users and one of the points of conversation that keeps coming up when he's hanging out with his friends are amped up cokeheads? Yeah dude, an annoying person on coke annoys someone else on coke most of all.
Redditors lmao
"I'm certain no one was like hiding some drug use" lol, omg he's so out of the loop it's adorable. It's drugs dude. Whenever people do that bathroom thing, it's drugs. For some reason they don't think you're down with it and don't want you to know.
I was initially confused after realizing I wandered in to the cocaine reminiscence thread, but ofc I did. Love y'all
I'm still stuck on everyone being 18-22 yet many of them did coke "years ago" Excuse me what
Looking up the stats for Denmark 1.9% of the 15-16 year olds have tried cocaine, at least once (2019 data, if you look at 2007 numbers that would have been 3.2%, same year gives 5% for the same age group with Amphetamine) In more wholesome news the heroine usage for that age group seem to have been 0% since 2007 so at thats something at least. (Edit: nevermind its because they merged smoked and injected and I can't read the table, its hovering around 0.5%...)
"In more wholesome news the heroine usage for that age group seem to have been 0% since 2007 so at thats something at least. (Edit: nevermind its because they merged smoked and injected and I can't read the table, its hovering around 0.5%...)" Heroin use in a lot of places has gone down because people are doing fentanyl now and can't find heroin.
Doesn't seem like fentanyl is the bigger sinner in denmark at least, something like 2% (stats from 2023) of people below 18 have tried either benzenoids or opioids once. The big non-hash drugs for the youth seems to be largely whippits (2.8% or 15-16) and inhalation of various other gasses and fumes (5.5% for same age group) (The last 2 stats for 2019)
Sounds like you guys have different trends. I haven't looked up the stats for the USA, but it just feels like those numbers would be different (mainly benzos/fent higher and gases/fumes lower). But what do I know, I'm not a kid anymore so tbh I have no clue what is common. Though I know for a fact trying shrooms has gotten way more popular.
Tbh if we ignore drugs the big problem is probably still alcohol by far. The alcohol culture among the youth is fucked and continue to be so far more than everything else.
100%
Several people at my high school went to rehab for coke. I knew an Eagle Scout who was dealing in college at 19.
>I knew an Eagle Scout who was dealing in college at 19. Well, if you know of a better way to earn that Escobar badge, I'd like to hear it.
Paying other people to sell it. Obviously.
People are missing the fact that to a 20 year old, 3 years ago can be "years ago"
Given the amount of freshmen who all huddled in the handicap stall at my highschool... Yeah that checks out
growing up multiple of my friends did coke, lsd, shrooms, etc, before the age of 16
Depends on environment. We started partying at 12-13 and easily into coke by 15
i’ve been in OOP’s position of being extremely oblivious *so goddamn many* times, it frankly gets hilarious after it happens enough. best example off the top of my head: a few summers ago, i was on a trip with the youth group i was part of at the time (think eighty 15/16-year-olds gallivanting in a foreign country) and towards the end of the trip, i expressed to one of my friends that i’d expected at least one couple to have hooked up by now over the past few weeks, but that it seemed like that hadn’t happened so far. he looks at me and says: ‘dude. people have been hooking up *non-stop* since we got here.’ apparently the subgroup that i was in was also in like… a polycule-type situation? like, *everyone*. and i was the token autist/asexual just being like ‘this is great, i’m glad we’re all such good friends :)’ and no one wanted to tell me otherwise. the *whole* time. great people, though. good times.
so weird that he was timing how long people were in the bathroom
He was just estimating and expressing it was a short amount of time per trip. If you've ever been around people who are sneaking off to do coke you'd know it's pretty conspicuous.
That's the thing, if OOP is actually this clueless about life then people going to the bathroom to do coke would look bizarre.
I'm pretty clueless, but I got told to use the second bathroom at a house party by a friend because "the first one is gonna be busy" and figured it out pretty quick.
He does say he's autistic.
>What country are you all from that commenting coke? I always imagined coke is something super highly addictive that only drug lords do, but it seems y’all did it causally in your 20s? the first time i did coke was in high school with a cheerleader. she definitely wasn't a drug lord, just a rich kid.
These people live in another world. "but it seems y’all did it causally in your 20s" This comment is so funny because, yes, that's what a lot of people did and that's usually the age you would do that.
Is this the guy who is always anxiously posting about how he refuses to date women who do drugs and he cant find her?
Bit odd everyone keeps suggesting coke. There's a lot of party drugs around.
There is. But coke is the most likely because you need privacy to go have a few lines. If it were pills of any kind you could just do it anywhere
Which ones require going to the bathroom together though? Pretty sure coke is the main "go to the bathroom together at a party" drug. You don't need to go to a bathroom together to take a pill, and they're not shooting up that quickly, so of the snortskies coke is the most likely to me.
> You don't need to go to a bathroom together to take a pill In my experience people often do, because in friend groups it's often the case that not everyone is carrying their own supply. So people frequently regroup in the bathroom for redistribution purposes.
Or to avoid the “what’s in that pill?” conversation.
Ketamine is the other one, but in my experience someone on ketamine is very obviously on ketamine
That people do in a bathroom though? It’s the obvious choice, I don’t see anything odd here Edit - Incredible flair my friend
You too, buddy.
What other party drug requires you to go to the bathroom multiple times?
Depends. I’ve known people to frequent the bathroom for K
Yeah but he would notice them being fucked up. Everyone on coke can seem like a normal night out. Maybe some people are being more social and chattier then usual. People on K are going to be acting weird, eyes super dilated, slurring words badly, staring into space.
Ketamine, speed.
Depends on how frequently they're going, really. Most of them will have people occasionally restocking.
Whippits could, though people usually just do those in the open in my experience.
its normally also super obvious if someones doing whippits
there is no amount of obliviousness that would keep OOP from noticing something off about them after whippits
Anything that causes you to puke?
We need a name for this phenomena of posters who ask a question then proceed to fight every commenter who gives the most obvious (likely correct) answer. It's seen so often here and on Reddit in general.
"People in denial"
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How expensive is coke in the States? I find it hard to believe people are able to afford that habit at just 20 years of age.
Eh, coke really is a drug that people (who aren't addicted) just kind of splurge on for a night with buddies. It's 100% affordable. I more wonder how easy it is to get clean coke these days (not mixed with meth).
buying a 30-50$ bag to split with your friends at a party is pretty doable for just about anyone. it's unlikely anyone in this story uses any more regularly than that.
We joke in Spain that it's the only inflation-proof product. It was 10k pesetas per gram 25 years ago and it's 60€ per gram now (exact equivalent of 10k pesetas). It's not uncommon for a drink at a club to cost 10-15€ so not that expensive I guess.
No idea don’t live there but it’s about £50-£100 a bag in the UK depending on quality
Prices haven't risen in 40 years. It is expensive, but not anymore than a bar tab.
The entire restaurant industry in the US runs on coke, weed, really unhealthy relationships with alcohol, and drama-bomb hookups.
$60-$80 per g on the East Coast.
My first thought if they where couples, they where going in there for a quickie. Then if they where in it out cold popped in my mind. I to my knowledge knew one friend who did it and oh did he turn into an asshole. I thought it was alcohol at first but after I connected him going outside to “smoke” and coming back a little more unhinged there was definitely something else.
This poor kid is in such extreme denial over the most obvious coke usage
The amount of people just cool with casual use of coke never ceases to blow my mind. Makes me feel super lame tbh 😅. I wouldn’t try it if someone offered but it’s just kinda crazy to me
This guy! Of COURSE your friends aren’t telling you about the coke! You’re judgemental and kind of a priss! its hilarious when you finally start actually doing coke, this whole other world opens up you didn’t know existed. You’re like “OHHH that’s what the bathroom thig is about” and “OHHH that’s why I had to go to bed but they stayed up laughing like marmosets.” Now you too use the coin pocket in your jeans and laugh like a marmoset! Had to stop with that drug when I was driving down I-95 in Delaware at 6am from Philly, having been awake for four days, screaming at various people on the phone (I think). Flushed a good three full grams down a toilet in that Delaware rest stop they fixed up to be fancy
This just feels like bait. [Hmmmmm…](https://youtube.com/shorts/GCzxmaDSpss?si=wxAeChFgHKW6tSjh&t=0m30s)
To be fair, I'd have made the same assumption as OOP. On the other hand, I am both autistic and was raise super sheltered by evangelicals, soooooooo yeah poor OOP lol.
To be fair, it could be drugs… or it could be sex. Or both. When I was in high school, girls would stand around in the bathroom and chat. Occasionally there was vaping, but half the time they were literally just talking and I’d be like “why don’t you do this in the hallway?”
I read the post and wondered if OP was that guy. In nearly every 20s friend group I was a part of, there was that guy or girl who tried to follow women into the bathroom. Going with another woman didn't help much, they would still follow. We went as couples and had safe guys for single women. Most likely drugs but someone paying that much attention to who is going to the bathroom could be a creep.
"In nearly every 20s friend group I was a part of, there was that guy or girl who tried to follow women into the bathroom." You had a weird friend group... Or everyone was doing drugs and you thought the person trying to get in on the action was just being pervy.
We just did our coke inconspicuously in the kitchen or at the bar if we were out. We were also on xanax so that inconspicuous part might be subjective
lol, were you part of this friend group?
Nah i was roundabout agreeing with your friend group assessment of dude you replied to. Why be weird and go to the bathroom together? Let’s just hit this bump right here
Yeah, as they started describing it, it sounds like they hung out in a rougher crowd than I did. I mean, I've been to weird house parties, but the weirdos certainly weren't part of my friend group. And even the loosest use of the word friend group there weren't people there hitting on everyone or being weird when you had to use the bathroom. I don't know, sounds unpleasant.