13 years into marriage before we started. She suggested it 6 years before marriage (so it took 19yrs in total to start)
I, the husband, did performative monogamy for **way to long** thinking I was supposed to and this was a test because I was brainwashed by society instead of communicating with my spouse about her wants and needs.
All of this…. Been married 20 years and started swinging a year ago. Would not have even considered it early in the marriage. Plus kids were little and we had a lot of peaks and valleys to work through to get where we are today. 💕
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We had our first threesome about three years after we started dating and got married four years after that (with a spattering of threesomes during that time). We officially entered the lifestyle about one year before our wedding. Almost 24 years later and we’re still loving it.
Before we were married. It was something we got into and were really open about while dating. We'd both had experiences in the past where we weren't fully compatible with our partners and it was extremely important to both of us that we were fully compatible. If you have even the slightest inkling that you might want to try something like that, you owe it to your partner to bring it up before getting married, not years down the road when there's a house, kids, commitment, all that. You don't want to set that up to fail because you were to shy or scared to be totally open with someone before you married them.
Met my gf that way, but we've been monogamous ever since. I want to rejoin the lifestyle with her. It'll be easier with the kids moved out soon, I think..
I'm not married.
All my relationships have started non-monogamous. Some included group sex asap. Some never included swinging or group sex. You think there is a correct way to do this. But there 1 million paths.
What do you want?
My wife and I started back in the early 90's and had been together for 6 years and married for 5. We were already very experimental with kinks and fetishes and having fun exploring when we met someone quite by accident who were swingers.
Our first party was just suppose to be us observing everyone to see what it was all about but we ended up jumping right in and never regretted the decision.
We had our first MFM on our one year anniversary of dating. It’s been five years since then. We got married early this year and we’ve been swinging for just over a year. We started pretty early on lol.
My wife was part of a mfm threesome at 19 before we met. We got married about 5 years later and started swinging after 10 years of marriage. It was always in the back of our minds but it was only after the kids got old enough to NOT wake us up early on Sunday morning after a late night fucking others. That was 25 years ago and after a 10 year break doing the kid thing, we started back up and have been going strong ever since.
Less than two years, it happened one Friday night when a friend of mine stayed with us from out of town. Some partying led to the events but she obviously had a strong attraction to him, she showed him her tits and it was off to the races. He was noticeably larger and her joy was not suppressed, all weekend. Then every time he was in town for the next two years.
2 weeks after I met my wife we had a mfm with my friend I told her the night we met I wasn't monogamous and I didn't want to be with a woman that was a that I like mfm a lot and that I didn't want to start a LTR with a woman if that wasn't going to be a part of it honesty is important to me and I have always tried to be honest with my partners from the start
Used to have a third starting about 3 years before we were married, that went to a couple after we were married and lasted about a year in. Stopped before starting again 10 years in.
My husband and I have been together for 13 years, married for 7. We never really thought about it until I went out for my bday with some friends and my BF told me about she and her hubby were dipping their toes. I came
Home buzzed and just asked my husband “what are your thoughts on this?” We’ve now been in/out of the LS for 6ish years.
My ex I caught her with another I joined in we talked after he left this was a year into marriage we had fun for 5 years before she left with a big dick
Never been married. Never will be married. My nesting partner and I started our non monogamy journey about 2 years into the relationship though honestly neither of us was ever particularly monogamous in the standard definition of the term, especially in the first year of our relationship. Really you could say we have a year of monogamy a try when we realized the relationship was serious and had the real talk about opening up ethically when we were both starting to go stir crazy. Marriage doesn’t suit our values.
We started swinging about 6 months after we started dating, but I was already in the lifestyle previously, with my ex husband, and as a unicorn. My hubby was super open minded and we started talking about it within a month of dating. I think most couples do it after several years of being together though.
Been married for 12 years and we started discussing it about 6 months ago when I shared a peverted picture of her in a G string with a friend and it turned me on and she noticed. It turned her on also. Still havent crossed the line but feel like we are about to. Very exciting🤗. Whats probably holding us back is that I said FFM first before MFM... The candidates for MFM are everywhere but the other is a bit tougher.
Most people have an established monogamous relationship for over a decade before they decide to try swinging.
That said, i met my now husband in a sex club so i guess you can say we were in this starting day one.
The day we get married it will be roughly 3 years and 2 months before we got married that we started.
We met in the lifestyle 4+ years ago (forever grateful to that held together by yarn and glue website SLS) and became official a year later.
Oh, about negative 18 months.
Wait, you were saying that as if bi dudes fucking isn't a thing.
In that case, about negative 2 weeks. My bachelor party was an orgy with my wife and 6 other friends.
We went to our first party to check out what it was like on our 23rd wedding anniversary. We played with our first couple (2nd sexual partner ever for both of us) 2 weeks later. We have been LS for 11 years now.
Started to talk about this at the beggining of our relationship. Didn't want to wait marriage to discover are we sexually compactible or not. After year of talking , we started slowly...
Lots of people are in serious mitted relationships but not married.
I've been living with my partner 10 years.
about 8 years in we started getting into it.
There will be some people who are in a newer relationship, excited to 'try everything' and others who have been together longer, and and want to spice things up in their life.
Had a threesome while dating. Put it away for first 9 years of marriage. The discussion began at that point. Going on 15 blissful years now. Still honeymooning! 🍻
We were swinging in our heads about 5 years in...but it took 13 years to actually take the plunge.... Here we are 14+ years after that fateful valentines day still a'swangin'.
Met in college 35 years ago, started swinging around two years later, got married and had a daughter and stepped away for about a decade then went right back and why? Because even tho the sex between us and others is fucking phenomenal, we simply missed all the friends we had made the first time in. So glad we got (some of) them back.
We met swinging, she was just supposed to be a one night thing. But we liked each other so much we started dating and swinging as much as possible because she had swinging friends and I did too. We dated for 5 years then got married. We've been together over 20 years.
We have been married 29 years. We have been doing 3somes from the start but it was only in the last 4 years that we started engaging with couples. It took the Mrs a while to get past the idea that Mr would not have an issue and even enjoys watching her with other men.
My husband and his best friend fucked me when we first started dating in our teens 40 yrs ago
That's how it was for us too
Nice 😆
13 years into marriage before we started. She suggested it 6 years before marriage (so it took 19yrs in total to start) I, the husband, did performative monogamy for **way to long** thinking I was supposed to and this was a test because I was brainwashed by society instead of communicating with my spouse about her wants and needs.
Performative Monogamy... I'm going to remember that one.
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All of this…. Been married 20 years and started swinging a year ago. Would not have even considered it early in the marriage. Plus kids were little and we had a lot of peaks and valleys to work through to get where we are today. 💕
Peaks and valleys you said.
I love this!!! 🤍
The Mrs is Bi. We started having 3somes almost immediately but didn’t start playing with couples until our 17th year married
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Before getting married - you want to make sure you are sexually compatible when you marry your third husband.
lol this made me chuckle
Met wife at swingers club… so first date?
30 years.
I brought it up when we were dating. No go. 16 years later and married for a long while, she brought it up.
We had our first threesome about three years after we started dating and got married four years after that (with a spattering of threesomes during that time). We officially entered the lifestyle about one year before our wedding. Almost 24 years later and we’re still loving it.
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19 years
About 2 years we discussed it before we got married. No regrets...
24 years
We met on a swingers website and already had been swingers. There was no need to have that talk 😆
About 1 year after we were married. It was with another couple that we were good friends with.
~25yrs
Before we were married. It was something we got into and were really open about while dating. We'd both had experiences in the past where we weren't fully compatible with our partners and it was extremely important to both of us that we were fully compatible. If you have even the slightest inkling that you might want to try something like that, you owe it to your partner to bring it up before getting married, not years down the road when there's a house, kids, commitment, all that. You don't want to set that up to fail because you were to shy or scared to be totally open with someone before you married them.
36 years🤷🏻♀️
We weren’t. We met at an orgy and really hit it off 🤷🏼♂️
Met my gf that way, but we've been monogamous ever since. I want to rejoin the lifestyle with her. It'll be easier with the kids moved out soon, I think..
Msg me i want to fuck her
I'm not married. All my relationships have started non-monogamous. Some included group sex asap. Some never included swinging or group sex. You think there is a correct way to do this. But there 1 million paths. What do you want?
12 years for us, and we are now married 36 years.
My wife and I started back in the early 90's and had been together for 6 years and married for 5. We were already very experimental with kinks and fetishes and having fun exploring when we met someone quite by accident who were swingers. Our first party was just suppose to be us observing everyone to see what it was all about but we ended up jumping right in and never regretted the decision.
Before we were married
We started before we got married. 20+ years.
My husband and I did all of the above when we were dating and still do 4 yrs later. My parents are long time swingers so I guess it was in my genes.
We had our first MFM on our one year anniversary of dating. It’s been five years since then. We got married early this year and we’ve been swinging for just over a year. We started pretty early on lol.
Almost 5 years
My wife was part of a mfm threesome at 19 before we met. We got married about 5 years later and started swinging after 10 years of marriage. It was always in the back of our minds but it was only after the kids got old enough to NOT wake us up early on Sunday morning after a late night fucking others. That was 25 years ago and after a 10 year break doing the kid thing, we started back up and have been going strong ever since.
Met my GF at a lifestyle sex party.
15 years into marriage. However have done lot of flashing and exhibitionism as newly wed.
after dating exclusively for 6 mo - had our first MFM - have been swinging since 10 yrs - married for 8
Less than two years, it happened one Friday night when a friend of mine stayed with us from out of town. Some partying led to the events but she obviously had a strong attraction to him, she showed him her tits and it was off to the races. He was noticeably larger and her joy was not suppressed, all weekend. Then every time he was in town for the next two years.
-1 year
2 weeks after I met my wife we had a mfm with my friend I told her the night we met I wasn't monogamous and I didn't want to be with a woman that was a that I like mfm a lot and that I didn't want to start a LTR with a woman if that wasn't going to be a part of it honesty is important to me and I have always tried to be honest with my partners from the start
About 7 years
Same time that we decided to husband share.
5 years
Hey guys
15 years of married
I got introduced to the lifestyle with my ex-husband after 12 years together.
About a year and a half into the marriage but we discussed it before getting married.
We had been together about 7 years and married for 4 when we started.
Almost 10 years.
We were married 10 years before we started the conversation.
ten years for us
Almost 10 years married but together off and on for 24 years
A long time...
Married 12 together for 16 at the time
15 years, together for 20
21 years
Used to have a third starting about 3 years before we were married, that went to a couple after we were married and lasted about a year in. Stopped before starting again 10 years in.
No consensus it seems. 5 years of traditional marriage for us prior to any LS activities..
We were married 13 years before we started.
My husband and I have been together for 13 years, married for 7. We never really thought about it until I went out for my bday with some friends and my BF told me about she and her hubby were dipping their toes. I came Home buzzed and just asked my husband “what are your thoughts on this?” We’ve now been in/out of the LS for 6ish years.
22 years
My ex I caught her with another I joined in we talked after he left this was a year into marriage we had fun for 5 years before she left with a big dick
Never been married. Never will be married. My nesting partner and I started our non monogamy journey about 2 years into the relationship though honestly neither of us was ever particularly monogamous in the standard definition of the term, especially in the first year of our relationship. Really you could say we have a year of monogamy a try when we realized the relationship was serious and had the real talk about opening up ethically when we were both starting to go stir crazy. Marriage doesn’t suit our values.
We were about 6 years in but both had a lot of experience prior to being together.
We had been together for 21 years and married for 16 when we first started swinging.
We started swinging about 6 months after we started dating, but I was already in the lifestyle previously, with my ex husband, and as a unicorn. My hubby was super open minded and we started talking about it within a month of dating. I think most couples do it after several years of being together though.
Before marriage
Together 18 years, married 8. We're fairly new though.
So either early on or after a long time. Doesn’t seem like there are many in the 5-7 year range. Lol
28 years
Been married for 12 years and we started discussing it about 6 months ago when I shared a peverted picture of her in a G string with a friend and it turned me on and she noticed. It turned her on also. Still havent crossed the line but feel like we are about to. Very exciting🤗. Whats probably holding us back is that I said FFM first before MFM... The candidates for MFM are everywhere but the other is a bit tougher.
16years more or less
We actually started swinging while we were dating, and still do 20 years later.
Started 2 months into meeting
Most people have an established monogamous relationship for over a decade before they decide to try swinging. That said, i met my now husband in a sex club so i guess you can say we were in this starting day one.
Together 5 years, married for 2.5 years.
7 years.
4 years into the marriage
Better when you are close to 40 and married for over 10 years before swinging.
The day we get married it will be roughly 3 years and 2 months before we got married that we started. We met in the lifestyle 4+ years ago (forever grateful to that held together by yarn and glue website SLS) and became official a year later.
With 2nd wife, on honeymoon at Hedo in Jamaica
We had been together about a year before he suggested it, about two years before I had the nerve to do it and still not married.
We’ve been together 13 years; entered the lifestyle about 5 years ago. 🥃
23 years
Oh, about negative 18 months. Wait, you were saying that as if bi dudes fucking isn't a thing. In that case, about negative 2 weeks. My bachelor party was an orgy with my wife and 6 other friends.
We were married for just over 30 years before we got involved with various lifestyle things.
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Nothing weird, we all just have our kinks 🙃
About 15 years
We went to our first party to check out what it was like on our 23rd wedding anniversary. We played with our first couple (2nd sexual partner ever for both of us) 2 weeks later. We have been LS for 11 years now.
Together for 15, Married for 11 before we gave it a try.
37 years, after leaving a very high demand church. Wife first suggested it.
Started to talk about this at the beggining of our relationship. Didn't want to wait marriage to discover are we sexually compactible or not. After year of talking , we started slowly...
11 years into marriage, 14 years into our relationship
Lots of people are in serious mitted relationships but not married. I've been living with my partner 10 years. about 8 years in we started getting into it. There will be some people who are in a newer relationship, excited to 'try everything' and others who have been together longer, and and want to spice things up in their life.
Had a threesome while dating. Put it away for first 9 years of marriage. The discussion began at that point. Going on 15 blissful years now. Still honeymooning! 🍻
3 years before we got married. Now married 15 years.
6 months
14 year for us before we got into the LS…..
We had our first swinging experience about 8 months before we got married. We were engaged at the time.
24 years after we were married
We started 8 years into our results
We were swinging in our heads about 5 years in...but it took 13 years to actually take the plunge.... Here we are 14+ years after that fateful valentines day still a'swangin'.
Met in college 35 years ago, started swinging around two years later, got married and had a daughter and stepped away for about a decade then went right back and why? Because even tho the sex between us and others is fucking phenomenal, we simply missed all the friends we had made the first time in. So glad we got (some of) them back.
2 years
Married 31 years!
We met swinging, she was just supposed to be a one night thing. But we liked each other so much we started dating and swinging as much as possible because she had swinging friends and I did too. We dated for 5 years then got married. We've been together over 20 years.
We discussed and agreed on our ideas before we got married and it was about a year before an opportunity presented itself for a mfm.
Before marriage - around 4 years dating
We have been married 29 years. We have been doing 3somes from the start but it was only in the last 4 years that we started engaging with couples. It took the Mrs a while to get past the idea that Mr would not have an issue and even enjoys watching her with other men.