Bruh you met Larry Wheels? Thats sick. Honestly your profile is way better than when I had mine. Are you having issues with getting matches or something?
I am, this is my third time being on dating apps and my first 2 times I did fairly well getting matches on hinge, tinder and bumble. However this time around, bumble and tinder is all crickets. On hinge, a lot of my matches are really edgy or koreaboo type girls which is not my type.
Honestly as an Asian dude. All the other apps, including bumble, tinder, okcupid and the others I've legit had maybe 1-2 matches in a year. If hinge isn't hitting, I would suggest trying coffee meets bagel. Back when I was on them it seemed to more Asian girls, if that's your thing, and a little more serious in terms of dating. If you're just looking for hook ups it's probably not the best for that. And damn bruh being fetishized sucks
That's what I said. If he lived anywhere in the Bay Area of California he can just go to a Boba or sushi spot and the K girls would be drooling. He hella cute
No worries, I also used to be fairly popular about two years ago I used apps and before that but this year after breaking up. I’m getting almost nothing. I think it’s the algorithm or just time of the year.
But you are very attractive and I’m not saying that often about fellow man.
Married (my husband knows I lurk here, mostly for the laughs) but this one is spot on! Well done profile to OP! I especially love the “together we can be terrible at” thing. It’s cute and endearing I think for single people to be like oh we can do something fun together and both be bad at it!
Let me guess, the people in your area will still the drop casual stereotypes on you out of nowhere?
My hometown had exactly one Asian-American family, and they were super cool, but a lot of people would call them “that Chinese family.” They were Hmong lol
I'm from the SF Bay Area and we Asians are everywhere and most everyone who grew up in my town is pretty savvy about the Asian diaspora.
I remember when King of the Hill came out and the "are you Chinese or Japanese?" joke came out. A lot of people I grew up with here were like, "are they really like that?"
Having gone to college in the East Coast and grad school in the Midwest...yes. yes, they are very much like that.
I’m in the exact opposite situation as you, brown dude in a primarily Asian city, same boat. Come to the SF area.
Also i feel like a lot of people probably don’t know Larry Wheels, especially in a rural town
My only note is you could use 1 or two more photos that are more zoomed in. Like you only have one close up. Not a big deal but it's sorta hard to see what your face looks like from this crop of pics aside from the one which is kinda pixelated and not mega flattering.
I have the opposite experience here where there aren’t many Asians and the only people that I attract are really young girls who are into Kpop Kdrama etc
I attract mostly white girls and girls who like latinos. it might be because I have been told I have “white boy energy” idk what that means. I’m not a self hating azn. Most people think I’m full asian but latinos can tell I’m mixed.
I’ll sign off too. So you can add to your profile that it is endorsed by at least three lesbians.
I don’t actually recommend that though. Save us for LinkedIn.
Oh my gosh! I ran my first this spring and am signed up for another next spring, but thinking about signing up for one in December too! Which one are you training for?
I just want to chime in with some stats but long distance relationships are more likely to be successful than close proximity relationships if they last longer than 6 months. My wife moved from long distance shortly before our wedding.
That's too bad, well if you're open to it, I'd love to chat. Sent you a PM. Been planning on come to NC to visit a long time friend. And yes I can send pics so you can quickly dismiss me if you are not interested at all.
Thank you everyone for the compliments! I’m currently getting ~~matches~~ likes however a lot of them are either goth, emo, very edgy or the koreaboo type, none of which are my type. I’m big in to fitness and outdoor (cooking, golf, running, hiking, pickleball) and would love to find someone with similar hobbies and interests.
2 cents I would consider changing the 🌲 and country music prompts to something that allows responses to be more accurate to what you are looking for. If you want to narrow down your matches I feel like this is your chance to communicate that in text form.
I'd rather swipe on the first pic, because you look smart/ intelligent and well-educated and pretty interesting, and you look way better than on the second pic...
Maybe it's just my opinion, but u look like a glasses-nerd and kinda awkward
But 12/10 profile in general and I'd immediately swipe if you were in my area... Good luck! ^^<3
F perspective.
Personally, I prefer the first photo to show off the face; think headshot photos. Then the rest of the photos can reveal what the rest of you looks like as well as interests, hobbies, etc. Based on profile and comments, you seem awesome and down-to-earth. Wish I could come across more like you where I'm at, but alas. lol.
honestly, like every else said 10/10 😭 you’re attractive, have a good job, and seem like you know how to have fun. maybe try expanding your mileage to the nearest big city
You’re adorable, I hope you find a nice person
Edit: oh god, jogging at 8 am and country music. Well, there’s someone out there for everyone I guess lmao
You’ll have no trouble. Ppl like to whine about being an Asian male. But I’m on the west coast and every semi to good looking Asian male has the finest Asian girl within 3 miles. I swear this Asian male having a handicap certainly does not apply to good Asian guys.
So I feel like I can relate to you in a lot of ways. I'm an Asian (Korean), and grew up in a super rural town that was 99.99% white. Literally no one was into Asians and a lot of stereotypes were had.
As I got older, the only people who were really in to me were the same types you described in your other comments. While I gave them a shot, it just wasn't my thing.
It wasn't until 2020 where I met my (now) wife, by moving to a bigger city where people just have interests of all types, and you're not relegated to only dating a certain type of girl.
My advice would be do the hard thing and move to a bigger city with more diversity, or start broaden your search and try to start a LDR.
If I was in your age bracket I’d swipe whichever way is good means I’d want to meet you. You seem fun and are good looking. You should get some positive swipes. Good luck!
Maybe add extraneous information like dating intention (some people avoid profiles without it), religion etc. to get matches closer to what you’re looking for, but not really needed. Also are you Viet? Rarely see other Viet on dating apps (also a Viet here). I wish you’re in my area haha 🥲 Good luck out there!
Are you me? You’re legit a carbon copy of me 😂 nah I’m same situation. I think your profile is great. Jealous you got to meet Larry Wheels, maybe change the Polaroid pic or golf pic to something else?
Alright I’m gonna be honest with you. There’s nothing wrong with your profile. You’re just on the younger end so your dating pool is limited
Dating apps have also overall been trash. Get off dating apps and meet girls irl. You’re young enough to be in social circles where it shouldn’t be a problem meeting them
If this is the competition I have in the KC area as an Asian male then I gotta hit the gym even harder! I have had a lot of problems with koreboos as well but seems to have gotten better the older I've gotten. Keep up the good work king!
If you were 6ft there would literally be nothing working against you. And since that's out of your control and you pretty much have a perfect profile, I'd say there's nothing to change.
He’s hot but not my type personality wise and as a 23 yo I would’ve ignored that. As a late 30s it’s easier to be like yeah looks only takes you so far. And I think OP might be focusing a little too much on the looks for the likes he’s getting and needs to branch out a little
You guys would actually be correct lol, I really enjoy getting a goodnight of sleep every night, I enjoy the routine, and doing the 3 hobbies that I like just about everyday. To some it can definitely be boring but to me it's peaceful.
Quite a few people asked what my type is. Physically, I would say someone that is fit/slim, on the taller side, natural hair color, with minimal tattoos, piercings/ body modifications in general; someone that is into health/fitness/outdoor, take good care of themselves, and is open to new cultures. Having a career that they love and pay well is also a big plus. All of this might sound like a very high standard, but I uphold myself strictly to these standards as well (plus some more).
Literally nobody wants to go for a *jog at 8am.* If you asked me what would be the thing I'd LEAST like to do in the middle of the night (8am is in the middle of the night), I'd probably say go for a jog. You're repelling 99% of the people with that one prompt alone.
Do you have a single older brother??? Asking for a friend. Your profile is great, you’ll have good luck!
I do have 2 older brothers however they’re both married lol
What about your dad? Asking for a friend, obvs
Hi friend!
Hi, it's me, OP's dad.
I am also at that age where I’m looking at the dads lmao 23 is so young
You are really stinking cute! I hope you find a kind cutie to do things with.
And I’ll bet your mum never stops reminding you of that lol
Ask about him, he's obviously single
The point is I’m 27, and 23 is a bit young haha
I don’t think that age difference is too much at all, you should shoot your shot
Bruh you met Larry Wheels? Thats sick. Honestly your profile is way better than when I had mine. Are you having issues with getting matches or something?
I am, this is my third time being on dating apps and my first 2 times I did fairly well getting matches on hinge, tinder and bumble. However this time around, bumble and tinder is all crickets. On hinge, a lot of my matches are really edgy or koreaboo type girls which is not my type.
Honestly as an Asian dude. All the other apps, including bumble, tinder, okcupid and the others I've legit had maybe 1-2 matches in a year. If hinge isn't hitting, I would suggest trying coffee meets bagel. Back when I was on them it seemed to more Asian girls, if that's your thing, and a little more serious in terms of dating. If you're just looking for hook ups it's probably not the best for that. And damn bruh being fetishized sucks
I actually have also tried CMB and it was awful lol. I live in a fairly rural area so that could have been the reason
If you lived in a major city you’d be getting tooooonsss of likes. Trust me. It’s probably just your area.
That's what I said. If he lived anywhere in the Bay Area of California he can just go to a Boba or sushi spot and the K girls would be drooling. He hella cute
Literally anywhere on a west coast major city or east coast major city. This man would have so many matches lmao
Ah yeah sorry to hear it. It's tough in general unless you're in a city. You'll be slaying it in a more populated area.
cmb is exclusively asians working in tech, mostly software engineers, near me.
What's your type? Asking for....the internet.
I made a comment to reply to this since a lot of people are asking lol
No worries, I also used to be fairly popular about two years ago I used apps and before that but this year after breaking up. I’m getting almost nothing. I think it’s the algorithm or just time of the year. But you are very attractive and I’m not saying that often about fellow man.
Damn if you having this experience doesn't mean the odds are stacked against men on these apps, I don't know what does
typo in the first prompt - the word "like" is there twice
I cannot believe I missed this all this time, THANK YOU!
I was surprised no one else caught it lol
I was distracted by the sheer impressiveness of everything else tbh
Married (my husband knows I lurk here, mostly for the laughs) but this one is spot on! Well done profile to OP! I especially love the “together we can be terrible at” thing. It’s cute and endearing I think for single people to be like oh we can do something fun together and both be bad at it!
better yet if it were me I would JUST use the tree emoji. clever and to the point
I wasn’t sure if it was intentional lmao
Literally a 10/10
Unless he’s just paying the Asian tax, can’t imagine him not doing well
I live in a fairly rural area so I think the tax is high unfortunately lol
Let me guess, the people in your area will still the drop casual stereotypes on you out of nowhere? My hometown had exactly one Asian-American family, and they were super cool, but a lot of people would call them “that Chinese family.” They were Hmong lol
I'm from the SF Bay Area and we Asians are everywhere and most everyone who grew up in my town is pretty savvy about the Asian diaspora. I remember when King of the Hill came out and the "are you Chinese or Japanese?" joke came out. A lot of people I grew up with here were like, "are they really like that?" Having gone to college in the East Coast and grad school in the Midwest...yes. yes, they are very much like that.
"so are ya chinese or japanese?"
I’m in the exact opposite situation as you, brown dude in a primarily Asian city, same boat. Come to the SF area. Also i feel like a lot of people probably don’t know Larry Wheels, especially in a rural town
I think I know where you go to school 😭😭
Based on your profile you are correct 😂
Honestly surprised you're on dating apps, some of my friends would be all over you
Hook the brother up!! Lol
Time to refer a friend!
[*looks at your username*] *Cousin? Girl, is that you?* 🥹
If you like country, then the tax is real high
You would do well in a big city
My only note is you could use 1 or two more photos that are more zoomed in. Like you only have one close up. Not a big deal but it's sorta hard to see what your face looks like from this crop of pics aside from the one which is kinda pixelated and not mega flattering.
That’s weird I’m asian I ONLY do well in places where there ARE NOT many asians. Or maybe bc I live in CA standards are just high in general.
I’m a brown dude and don’t do well in Asian areas either, I’m in the bay in CA
It’s a weird CA thing, they see so many of us they end up not liking it
I have the opposite experience here where there aren’t many Asians and the only people that I attract are really young girls who are into Kpop Kdrama etc
I attract mostly white girls and girls who like latinos. it might be because I have been told I have “white boy energy” idk what that means. I’m not a self hating azn. Most people think I’m full asian but latinos can tell I’m mixed.
seriously. i’m wishing i wasn’t mid-30s so id be within range
💯💯💯💯💯
Dang Tree, you got this!
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What's funny to me, is I hadn't even look at his username until you posted this.
From a lesbians standpoint, this is a good profile lol.
From a second lesbian's standpoint, this is a good profile!
I’ll sign off too. So you can add to your profile that it is endorsed by at least three lesbians. I don’t actually recommend that though. Save us for LinkedIn.
Can confirm he’s a baddie
You look like a handsome dude! That’s what I see.
All the women in here thirst for you, I think you got this
Not just the women.
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You are literally my type wtf why can’t you live in my city
No one is stopping u from flying out to him 😉
OP if you like redheads who run half marathons, play pickleball, play video games, and paint hit me up 😂😂
I’m training for a half this upcoming October!
Oh my gosh! I ran my first this spring and am signed up for another next spring, but thinking about signing up for one in December too! Which one are you training for?
![gif](giphy|5VKbvrjxpVJCM|downsized) NOW KISS!
Can I get an invite to the wedding? ktnx
I wanna go too!!!
Everybody get in here
I brought them together tho...
And you will seal it as the officiant.
My officiating line will be "would u like to reply to the commenter's thread, OP?"
I just want to chime in with some stats but long distance relationships are more likely to be successful than close proximity relationships if they last longer than 6 months. My wife moved from long distance shortly before our wedding.
I'm getting married to my long distance bf in 2 weeks!!!(we now live together) IT CAN WORK GUYS, TAKE A CHANCE!!!
Training for distance running together is how my parents met and they’ve been married for almost 35 years. Just saying.
You should slide in his dm's
We have been chatting a bit :)
Lets goooooo.
I'll try my luck. You're literally my type to. All of what you typed. You wouldn't happen to be in DFW, Portland or San Jose, CA by any chance?
Unfortunately no, I live in North Carolina!
That's too bad, well if you're open to it, I'd love to chat. Sent you a PM. Been planning on come to NC to visit a long time friend. And yes I can send pics so you can quickly dismiss me if you are not interested at all.
Yahoo boy. How far? Una don reach here?
Great hair, teeth, lovely smile
Nothing to add other than you clearly take care of yourself and are a good looking dude.
No advice just saying you’re fine as hell lmao my goodness
Thank you everyone for the compliments! I’m currently getting ~~matches~~ likes however a lot of them are either goth, emo, very edgy or the koreaboo type, none of which are my type. I’m big in to fitness and outdoor (cooking, golf, running, hiking, pickleball) and would love to find someone with similar hobbies and interests.
That’s me!🤣 what’s ur insta
are you good? Your profile posts are concerning
Wtf
Yeah seriously wtf
Dm’d!
do you mind latinas? lol
2 cents I would consider changing the 🌲 and country music prompts to something that allows responses to be more accurate to what you are looking for. If you want to narrow down your matches I feel like this is your chance to communicate that in text form.
who says goth, emo, edgy &’ co girls can’t be outdoorsy & sporty? not all of us are cave dwellers. ~
It just so happen that a lot of goth/emo/edgy are also heavily pierced, tattooed and or smoke which is not my type 😅 at least from my experience
Keep an open mind. Someone’s style versus someone’s hobbies might surprise you!
Perfect, I would send you a like for sure
So so soo handsome but you lost me at the 8 am job 🤣 crushing it tho!!
Use as the first photo the one of you smiling, much better to get people interested and reading your profile!!
This is the kinda feedback I’m looking for, I’ll definitely try it out! Thank you!
I'd rather swipe on the first pic, because you look smart/ intelligent and well-educated and pretty interesting, and you look way better than on the second pic... Maybe it's just my opinion, but u look like a glasses-nerd and kinda awkward But 12/10 profile in general and I'd immediately swipe if you were in my area... Good luck! ^^<3
smash, next!
Look, Tree, if you don’t have success then we’re all doomed
That Polaroid pic is dope dude
Wow dude you are really good looking this profile feels like a little bit like humble bragging lol.
The matches I get on tinder and bumble says otherwise lol
It's brutal if you don't get matches. I'm happy i don't have romantic feelings because i would not have a chance.
F perspective. Personally, I prefer the first photo to show off the face; think headshot photos. Then the rest of the photos can reveal what the rest of you looks like as well as interests, hobbies, etc. Based on profile and comments, you seem awesome and down-to-earth. Wish I could come across more like you where I'm at, but alas. lol.
Thank you for the feedback!
I volunteer as tribute why can’t we turn this sub in actual tinder? I only see interesting people in here
honestly, like every else said 10/10 😭 you’re attractive, have a good job, and seem like you know how to have fun. maybe try expanding your mileage to the nearest big city
I'd swipe right passionately. Buuuut I'm goth (not heavily pierced, tattooed, nor do I smoke tho), so. 🤷🏽♀️
Do you run marathons?
"Am I the hottest Asian you've seen on here"
Considering the reactions. Probably yes. Considering he's got Larry Wheels on photos... Now he just needs photo with a gymcleaner.
Move to CA you'd probably slay in the Bay or SoCal and get a fatty raise $
Feedback (22f): I’m interested in helping you delete the app jkjk… unless…
You’re adorable, I hope you find a nice person Edit: oh god, jogging at 8 am and country music. Well, there’s someone out there for everyone I guess lmao
Yeah I'd swipe right immediately, you're doing a good job ✨️
You are a 10/10
Really handsome. Period.
Whoever you end up with, does that make them a..... Tree hugger? I'll show myself out.
Uhm Op if ure BY ANY CHANCE INTO 24yo artists from Switzerland who look half cute half dead dm me 🤝🏼
Fellow lalafel dark knight... Chaos or light?
light!!! :D so excited for Dawntrail
I think it’s a winner bro 👌🏽you’ll definitely attract a certain audience
Great profile, 2nd photo is a bit blurry ngl
Call me when you're ready for a stump grinder
Bro just made this to flex on us
You are the most handsome asian man i’ve ever seen
Solid profile. I wouldn't change a thing 😍
You’ll have no trouble. Ppl like to whine about being an Asian male. But I’m on the west coast and every semi to good looking Asian male has the finest Asian girl within 3 miles. I swear this Asian male having a handicap certainly does not apply to good Asian guys.
You’re a good looking dude. I’m surprised you even need to use dating apps
Bro if girls are not throwing themselves at you the problem is THEM
If I was single, 10 years younger and living in the USA I’d definitely swipe right! You got this my man!
Not even single redditor girl/woman said a negative thing in here. Wow.
Do you like to be a bf first, or is a fiance or husband, fine too?
I would have FALLEN IN LOVE immediately if I had met you when I was 23
i’ve a got a friend that would die for you
My type if you age up a decade. You're fine haha.
So I feel like I can relate to you in a lot of ways. I'm an Asian (Korean), and grew up in a super rural town that was 99.99% white. Literally no one was into Asians and a lot of stereotypes were had. As I got older, the only people who were really in to me were the same types you described in your other comments. While I gave them a shot, it just wasn't my thing. It wasn't until 2020 where I met my (now) wife, by moving to a bigger city where people just have interests of all types, and you're not relegated to only dating a certain type of girl. My advice would be do the hard thing and move to a bigger city with more diversity, or start broaden your search and try to start a LDR.
Is that Phil heath?
Larry Wheels
What about the guy on the right?
solid.
You're super cute! Good luck :D. Profile looks great.
Killed it.
I didn’t find any Issue so you are reaching 9/10 or 10/10
Hawt Chad!
I would take that extra “like” out of that one prompt, but otherwise you’re so cute and the profile is great
If you’re not getting swiped right on I never stand a chance 💀
If I was in your age bracket I’d swipe whichever way is good means I’d want to meet you. You seem fun and are good looking. You should get some positive swipes. Good luck!
I wouldn’t do anything at all actually it looks amazing and you’re in great shape and healthy good for you
You are super handsome!!
Maybe add extraneous information like dating intention (some people avoid profiles without it), religion etc. to get matches closer to what you’re looking for, but not really needed. Also are you Viet? Rarely see other Viet on dating apps (also a Viet here). I wish you’re in my area haha 🥲 Good luck out there!
I am! Born and raised :) came to the US as an international student a few years back
Are you me? You’re legit a carbon copy of me 😂 nah I’m same situation. I think your profile is great. Jealous you got to meet Larry Wheels, maybe change the Polaroid pic or golf pic to something else?
Alright I’m gonna be honest with you. There’s nothing wrong with your profile. You’re just on the younger end so your dating pool is limited Dating apps have also overall been trash. Get off dating apps and meet girls irl. You’re young enough to be in social circles where it shouldn’t be a problem meeting them
Ðẹp trai!
Perfect. No notes!
If ur having problems the rest of us r screwed 😨
If this is the competition I have in the KC area as an Asian male then I gotta hit the gym even harder! I have had a lot of problems with koreboos as well but seems to have gotten better the older I've gotten. Keep up the good work king!
Bro im a guy and i would 100% be okay with you matchens with My sister haha!
Gahh damn rizzlinator right there
Bro leave some 🐱for the rest of us
If this guy doesn’t get matches then we’re all fucked
Tri Fong?
If you were 6ft there would literally be nothing working against you. And since that's out of your control and you pretty much have a perfect profile, I'd say there's nothing to change.
Bro got the biggest sleeper build tf?!
Literally a dream! 😭🙏🏼 definitely 10/10
Bro I'm totally straight but can I date you please
Yo dude want to be friends? Your profile worked on me.
Sir, if you weren’t so young lol
Hot with a basic ass bio. You should have 0 problem getting matches
He’s hot but not my type personality wise and as a 23 yo I would’ve ignored that. As a late 30s it’s easier to be like yeah looks only takes you so far. And I think OP might be focusing a little too much on the looks for the likes he’s getting and needs to branch out a little
Agreed, his bio is boring as fuck
You guys would actually be correct lol, I really enjoy getting a goodnight of sleep every night, I enjoy the routine, and doing the 3 hobbies that I like just about everyday. To some it can definitely be boring but to me it's peaceful.
I think he wants a woman who is also boring af 🤣
Bro met Larry! Absolute goat. Profile looks good bro
JC what a cutie
You look smart and handsome. That's all I can tell 🙂
heck, if u live in/near kc I’d date you. good job on the profile!
Fine as hell
Quite a few people asked what my type is. Physically, I would say someone that is fit/slim, on the taller side, natural hair color, with minimal tattoos, piercings/ body modifications in general; someone that is into health/fitness/outdoor, take good care of themselves, and is open to new cultures. Having a career that they love and pay well is also a big plus. All of this might sound like a very high standard, but I uphold myself strictly to these standards as well (plus some more).
Literally nobody wants to go for a *jog at 8am.* If you asked me what would be the thing I'd LEAST like to do in the middle of the night (8am is in the middle of the night), I'd probably say go for a jog. You're repelling 99% of the people with that one prompt alone.
Fudge. Buff, cybersecurity, and you look like you could be a BTS singer.
I thought for sure I would see a redhead with Taylor. #iykyk
You have a typo in the one about how to pronounce your name. Other than that, it looks good
Was not expecting somebody to be in my city
I don't see any problems there, and also, dang, your pc set up!