I have the feeling that the websites worked for people back then. At least for some and using them wasn't as bad as it is now. That's at least the impression I got from the few people that used them back then.
I remember how ridiculous we all felt about this in the beginning, but finally went to a wedding because of a couple that met like that (I think in 2007/ 2008)
I’ve used them quite a bit and I’ve never had an interaction remotely close to the stuff you see here. It might have something to do with treating the people I matched with like they were actual humans instead of some AI chatbot that I’m crowdsourcing the best response for, but idk.
It's misogynistic. He's not seeing this woman as a human who is blatantly unwell and vulnerable but as a sex object. The full conversation is in his account. If someone tells you they're not going to be here in another year and they're suicidal, try to help them, not make jokes, objectify them, and try to sleep with them.
Your desperate hard dick is not the center of the universe, OP. Maybe you could cum some fucking compassion sometime.
As if your original lines weren't bad enough.. "I hope I made you want to live another day"??? Did you really think you were cooking with this one? She told you she was suicidal, then gave you one word responses to your jokes, you definitely did not have a positive impact on this person.
Your response here restored my faith in humanity a little. Thank you for being so direct and logical, some of these replies are absolutely insane. OP has *zero* onus to concern himself with *someone he hasn't even met*. Regardless of how cringe others think his responses are, her mental well-being is not his responsibility.
I was in a long-term relationship for a few years until recently, and having a partner use you as a therapist is fucking exhausting, and has put me off seeing anyone for a few years. Someone I don't even know? Sort your life out before you jump on apps.
Im going to come talk to you level-headed guys. Everyone else at this party is so angry.
And by the way, as someone who has been severely depressed and used the apps, I thought it was funny.
Same, dude was obviously just trying to engage and make them laugh regardless of the morbidity of it all. As a female who has struggled with severe depression, I think OP did good 👍
My take exactly! As someone who has been suicidal many times, his response was using dark humour and was probably the only way to engage her. Depending on how deep in it she is, he may very well have saved her life. I don't think his intention was to hook up with her at all. Rather he was trying to keep her talking and find a way to make her smile/check on her IRL. Kudos to him.
I genuinely don’t understand how “lemme hit it before you croak” is supposed to strengthen her will to live lmao this whole exchange has been really cringey on his part
Worst part is it seems like OP thinks he actually did something 😭😭 very strange behavior from a 36 year old man ngl.
These types of posts make me super glad I don’t use dating apps anymore… she telling him she’s suicidal and he still trying to solicit her for sex anyways 🙃 no empathy for her situation at all…
You seem to think this is a joke and tried to sleep with this woman who appears to be having a hard time and yet all you could think about was sex and making fun of her situation…. L….
My dumbass used to think the older men on dating apps would act more mature, and posts like these just show me that’s a lie 😂
A lot of the older men you see still using tinder are definitely single for a reason
...what?
You meet a suicidal person on Bumble and decide to play with them for the lolz? Like, you good bro?
I see you say "dark humour". You don't know 'em like that. You're just being fucking weird.
Or what...are you just going to use them for sex? Are we supposed to start clapping now?
Has anyone stopped to think that OP might be a decent human who is using this as a tactic to check on this person in real life and possibly offer them some support that they obviously need? I see this interaction as tongue-in-cheek/dark humor. He seems to be trying to snap her out of it rather than cancel her. He has reacted in the opposite way to what she expected and, as such, has caught her attention. Maybe I'm an optimist, but to me it seems that this is a very wholesome/caring attempt to show kindness.
Is glaringly obvious to anyone with even the smallest amount of compassion. Your use of the 🙏in your initial response showed me that immediately.
In situations like this, you need to get creative to pull someone out of their black hole. I have been there and I am very grateful to the people who didn't play into my pity party and instead cut through by giving me the kick up the arse that I needed. I wouldn't be here today without it.
Its true that caution is needed as you never know how people might react, but I believe you read her well and she responded in the exact way you had hoped - ie she engaged and saw your attempt to cut through.
Were you able to speak with her? Is she OK? Thank you for being a good human. I wish there were more out there!
Ok but wtf... why on earth would you think it's ok to just play with a suicidal person. I'm not saying it's your job to "save" them but have some respect will you?
Man some of you fucking morons are unbelievable.
Because im sure theres no way having sex (making an emotional connection of sorts on her end) with someone with very poor mental health can go wrong.
Tbh I disagree with this take. It might not be your sense of humour, but it's still clearly morbid shock humour.
He's trying to elicit a reaction to break through the apathetic jaded defence. Getting to meet in person, or getting to keep talking is a chance to help.
As a person who has dealt with suicidal thoughts (and one attempt) before. I think your conclusion is correct. Sure, a normal person might find that comment repulsive, but someone who is suicidal is not in a normal frame of mind. It might be dark humor, but it is humor nonetheless, and it could very well be something that keeps that person talking to you. And if they are talking to you, they aren’t attempting to end their life.
I didn't read all of the comments, but I skimmed. I'm surprised that more people didn't find this hilarious. I guess being prior military and a current psychiatric nurse allows my humor and sphincter to stay relaxed in these scenarios. If I only had a dollar for every dark or inappropriate joke I've heard. Great comedians offend half of the audience while the other half are laughing. The best comedians aim for a more 70/30 split leaving people gasping and clutching their pearls while the folks like me are slapping their thighs and wiping tears away. My only advice, entertain a friendship, don't smash, and ABSOLUTELY DON'T GET HER PREGNANT! I personally don't want this thread (and my comments) on her Snapped episode.
She didn’t even tell you she’ll crush your head with her thighs! That’s how I tell men I’ll end them. Responses are very positive. Men want to die by thigh.
I’m so glad I can read dating app bullshit without being on them, this stuff is so wild
Right? I’ve never been on them but this sub is so wild, I love it
Yea I found and dated my now wife before the apps were really a thing. More like websites lol But this sub is so entertaining hahaha
It’s bizarre seeing some of these interactions
I have the feeling that the websites worked for people back then. At least for some and using them wasn't as bad as it is now. That's at least the impression I got from the few people that used them back then. I remember how ridiculous we all felt about this in the beginning, but finally went to a wedding because of a couple that met like that (I think in 2007/ 2008)
Lmao people on the internet been terrible since the internet came out. Trust me.
People been terrible way before the internet too lol
If women see u and like you you’ll see a friend request or get a Dm!
for what reason?
There’s two reason! You get to see who you’re chatting to!
lol yh good to read!
Same I don’t do dating apps but these chats make me realise I’m not missing nothing
It’s a lot better to meet people in person! Do it old school! Our ancestors didn’t need apps lol
All my dms I prefer to meet in person for coffee! Way too many catfish online!
its a lot more boring than this sub lol. you are missing nothing, trust me
Social Media is enough lol!
I’ve used them quite a bit and I’ve never had an interaction remotely close to the stuff you see here. It might have something to do with treating the people I matched with like they were actual humans instead of some AI chatbot that I’m crowdsourcing the best response for, but idk.
90% of it is completely normal. All what you would expect conversations. But that last 10 is indeed wild asf
I've been done with dating apps for a few years now. I'm so glad 🙌
It's not hard to avoid the nutjobs...
I’m very happy I deleted mine 😂 nothing on there at all 💀
Lmao same
This is insane
jesus
I was about to make this exact same comment.
You still can
jesus
Jesus
Jesus?
jesus.
JEEESUS!!
jizzus
jesus
Jesùs?
Yeah man I'm about to call my boss and tell him I can't work today on account of having read this.
Pretty sure jesus failed. If he died for our sins how are we left with this.
afk
I thought Bumble was supposed to be classier than Tinder..?
You can change the app, but you can’t change people. Different toilet, same shit.
wiser words have never been typed
I laughed out loud at this comparison 😂
That's gonna be my life mantra now, thanks
A visual of all the shits i have taken till now apart from my home just flew in my head.
Same old shit, new maggots.
Haha. I read this while I’m on the toilet.
Just marginally
It’s just yellow tinder
No, that's hinge
I'm sure these texts are unhinged.
Online dating is an absolute shit show no matter what app you use.
nah, it's got people on it. the problem is people and not the app itself
Pfft haha
this is how you wake up with your kidneys missing and her wearing your face like a mask
 Like this too
Leave'em alone. Maybe that's what they into
Good thing you dont wake up from that
Hot
I woke up one time and my kidney were gone. True story. I have pics to prove it.
No kink shaming, please!
I think I already saw this on black mirror
This made my pussy dry up into chicharrones.
Im trying to grapple with how anyone can look at this interaction as anything but a warning sign. Ill bet the bedspread is just one big red flag.
Exactly, are people actually that desperate for sex out here? 💀
Not as much recently, but when I was 16/17, yes...
Chicharrones are good though.
Thanks ;)
☠️☠️ bro what
Jajaajajjaja
I think that's what OP wants.
Fair enough. SSRIs do cause dry cooter as well.
Great visual!! hahaha
I'm sure your pursuing this for the shits and giggles of it but I cant imagine this going anywhere.
Well, I dunno… OP might be on to something. I heard suicidal chicks fuck like there’s no tomorrow!
Lol
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It’s about dropping the veil and doing it for the humor. I’m not actually trying to sleep with this girl.
But you know, your not *not* trying either
His silence speaks volumes.
Sure.
Unless... Haha no just kidding. Unless...
Unlesss… 
this is just sad 😔
Ya idk how anyone sees this as a positive thing
Gross
Yeah this is weird
Yeah I find it strange that someone’s telling him she’s suicidal and he’s still trying to get sex from her😬 very cringe…
It's misogynistic. He's not seeing this woman as a human who is blatantly unwell and vulnerable but as a sex object. The full conversation is in his account. If someone tells you they're not going to be here in another year and they're suicidal, try to help them, not make jokes, objectify them, and try to sleep with them. Your desperate hard dick is not the center of the universe, OP. Maybe you could cum some fucking compassion sometime.
Exactly, so cringe
So… is there an update?
She responded “Lol.” And I said, “I hope I made you want to live another day.”
As if your original lines weren't bad enough.. "I hope I made you want to live another day"??? Did you really think you were cooking with this one? She told you she was suicidal, then gave you one word responses to your jokes, you definitely did not have a positive impact on this person.
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Your response here restored my faith in humanity a little. Thank you for being so direct and logical, some of these replies are absolutely insane. OP has *zero* onus to concern himself with *someone he hasn't even met*. Regardless of how cringe others think his responses are, her mental well-being is not his responsibility. I was in a long-term relationship for a few years until recently, and having a partner use you as a therapist is fucking exhausting, and has put me off seeing anyone for a few years. Someone I don't even know? Sort your life out before you jump on apps.
Im going to come talk to you level-headed guys. Everyone else at this party is so angry. And by the way, as someone who has been severely depressed and used the apps, I thought it was funny.
Same, dude was obviously just trying to engage and make them laugh regardless of the morbidity of it all. As a female who has struggled with severe depression, I think OP did good 👍
My take exactly! As someone who has been suicidal many times, his response was using dark humour and was probably the only way to engage her. Depending on how deep in it she is, he may very well have saved her life. I don't think his intention was to hook up with her at all. Rather he was trying to keep her talking and find a way to make her smile/check on her IRL. Kudos to him.
Who the fuck cares? Why is this girl on bumble telling strangers she wants to kill herself? How is he the weird one?
I hope they do.
Brother, how in the fuck do you think that was a positive experience for her??? To literally every single person here you look like a massive creep.
I genuinely don’t understand how “lemme hit it before you croak” is supposed to strengthen her will to live lmao this whole exchange has been really cringey on his part Worst part is it seems like OP thinks he actually did something 😭😭 very strange behavior from a 36 year old man ngl.
These types of posts make me super glad I don’t use dating apps anymore… she telling him she’s suicidal and he still trying to solicit her for sex anyways 🙃 no empathy for her situation at all…
Chances are you actually just shortened her life. Wtf dude leave the poor girl alone.
I think you just shortened my life by implying he is at fault for entertaining her antics.
Did you see her original messages? I can't really blame him
You seem to think this is a joke and tried to sleep with this woman who appears to be having a hard time and yet all you could think about was sex and making fun of her situation…. L….
This is how you act at 36…?
My dumbass used to think the older men on dating apps would act more mature, and posts like these just show me that’s a lie 😂 A lot of the older men you see still using tinder are definitely single for a reason
...what? You meet a suicidal person on Bumble and decide to play with them for the lolz? Like, you good bro? I see you say "dark humour". You don't know 'em like that. You're just being fucking weird. Or what...are you just going to use them for sex? Are we supposed to start clapping now?
Exactly, Idk why he posted this, and he’s 36 💀
Everyone boo this man
Boo BOOOOOO
Throw your tomatoes!!! 🍅🍅🍅
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Dog pics, kitten requests, and gym progress pics? I really don't see the issue.
It’s people like you is why I am moderately successful on dating apps. Thank you sir, for showing women that I am the better option.
I thought I was awkward, sheesh!
Nah fuck that.
'thx to everyone's tips & tricks' This is disgusting and worse you can't report it
Why? Why? Why?
Weird..
Bro had to reroll the persuasion check
Yikes. This is so disappointing.
This is where the tips and tricks brought you?
The fact that you think this is cute at age 36 speaks volumes for the type of person you are. This is gross. Grow up.
And they wonder why women are leaving them in droves and dating apps are turning into a sausage fest🙃
Jesus you have no remorse
Desperate.
I can’t believe you asked for the number
Desperate.
Gross
wtf is this 😭😭
🙄
High key embarrassing for both of you
Has anyone stopped to think that OP might be a decent human who is using this as a tactic to check on this person in real life and possibly offer them some support that they obviously need? I see this interaction as tongue-in-cheek/dark humor. He seems to be trying to snap her out of it rather than cancel her. He has reacted in the opposite way to what she expected and, as such, has caught her attention. Maybe I'm an optimist, but to me it seems that this is a very wholesome/caring attempt to show kindness.
Literally thank you. My god all the hate has been overwhelming but finally someone can see the nuance of the reality of the situation.
Is glaringly obvious to anyone with even the smallest amount of compassion. Your use of the 🙏in your initial response showed me that immediately. In situations like this, you need to get creative to pull someone out of their black hole. I have been there and I am very grateful to the people who didn't play into my pity party and instead cut through by giving me the kick up the arse that I needed. I wouldn't be here today without it. Its true that caution is needed as you never know how people might react, but I believe you read her well and she responded in the exact way you had hoped - ie she engaged and saw your attempt to cut through. Were you able to speak with her? Is she OK? Thank you for being a good human. I wish there were more out there!
People being vulnerable with their mental health can be sexy. This is the least sexy thing imaginable.
Don’t worry everyone, in the very slim chance she actually opts to sleep with him this dude is gonna politely decline.
Reminds me of that Black Mirror episode, White Christmas...
You know I remember a black mirror episode that goes a certain similar direction. Hope he has location services on…
This sounds so dumb both of you talking about taking lives.
Ok but wtf... why on earth would you think it's ok to just play with a suicidal person. I'm not saying it's your job to "save" them but have some respect will you?
Man some of you fucking morons are unbelievable. Because im sure theres no way having sex (making an emotional connection of sorts on her end) with someone with very poor mental health can go wrong.
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Tbh I disagree with this take. It might not be your sense of humour, but it's still clearly morbid shock humour. He's trying to elicit a reaction to break through the apathetic jaded defence. Getting to meet in person, or getting to keep talking is a chance to help.
As a person who has dealt with suicidal thoughts (and one attempt) before. I think your conclusion is correct. Sure, a normal person might find that comment repulsive, but someone who is suicidal is not in a normal frame of mind. It might be dark humor, but it is humor nonetheless, and it could very well be something that keeps that person talking to you. And if they are talking to you, they aren’t attempting to end their life.
This guy gets dark humor. I have survived multiple suicide attempts. Be well, redditor.
Why is this wholesome while entirely being unwholesome?
Bro said. “A win is a win”
Damn, am I the only one who thinks this is hilarious? As a depressed girlie, I totally would appreciate this banter
Whew. Thank you.
Also, I've also said something similar to "I use sex to cure my depression, wanna come over?" so....I totally get this conversation
Don’t run towards the red flag, run away from the red flag
He’s the red flag
I didn't read all of the comments, but I skimmed. I'm surprised that more people didn't find this hilarious. I guess being prior military and a current psychiatric nurse allows my humor and sphincter to stay relaxed in these scenarios. If I only had a dollar for every dark or inappropriate joke I've heard. Great comedians offend half of the audience while the other half are laughing. The best comedians aim for a more 70/30 split leaving people gasping and clutching their pearls while the folks like me are slapping their thighs and wiping tears away. My only advice, entertain a friendship, don't smash, and ABSOLUTELY DON'T GET HER PREGNANT! I personally don't want this thread (and my comments) on her Snapped episode.
Replying “lol” to someone trying to help or be supportive is insane to me
That's how you actually end up dead in bed
Please let us know if you actually end up meeting
She didn’t even tell you she’ll crush your head with her thighs! That’s how I tell men I’ll end them. Responses are very positive. Men want to die by thigh.
OP gonna come up missing.
No one saw black mirror but good job I'm rooting for you guys
We need a follow up to make sure this didn't go all Black Christmas on him.
You went straight to the dark side 🥹 I’m proud
WILD
Beautiful work. The "After?" is fucking hilarious hahaha
Lol
You thought you was doing something with these shitty ass pick up lines? 🌝
This whole Convo is just giving me Dazai vibes from Bungo Stray Dogs and his obsession of double suicide with a love. Wtf
even considering this reflects poorly on your overall judgement abilities.
Omg bro no lol
I saw the original post and you should’ve just left it at that lmao now you both look insufferable