Itâs the average. If it were an issue then most guys would be struggling regarding size (ie. their partners not feeling like itâs enough), but they donât (though a lot of men *do* still worry about it)
>Itâs the average
But you know most men don't want this - average. If most were ok with this, we wouldn't continuously see questions like this one here.
Their view of "average" is also incredibly skewed by porn. I'm sure there's niche lil dick fetish content, but far and away most of the dongs the average dude sees are monsters. While they might logically know that most men aren't packing porn levels of heat, if that's all you're seeing, there's going to be an illogical part of your brain that will believe that you're abnormal.
People like to throw a fit about the phrase "representation matters," but from a physiological, brain chemistry perspective, it's just true.
"big tit energy" honestly makes me, as a tit owner, chuckle. There's no set good/bad thing to associate it with, and tbh, big boobs are annoying and inconvenient so "big tit energy" could either be "hot" or "annoying"
Sadly this also affects their thinking about women. They think they need a huge penis and they also think women need to look like pornstars. This usually messes up their reality and dating life because they end up comparing their women to pornstars.
And thinking that porn moves are how you have sex in general - dudes, the most likely way to get a girl to orgasm during PIV is to "wet hump."Think like dry humping, grinding your pelvises together. That, but with penetration. Grind your pelvis against her clit.
Oh - misread this as PIV is something guys learn from porn and is ineffective. I was about to have an existential breakdown because wet humping is what my girlfriend likes.
As someone who dated a âporn addict,â he couldnât get hard or stay hard for any of his girlfriends because of his addiction (he had a ten year relationship and then a two year relationship before I also dated him for two years.)
He had very weird ideas about his size (average; although he thought he was tiny) and he also thought I didnât enjoy sex if I wasnât yelling like a maniac. Iâm very enthusiastic, just not a yeller, and Iâm assuming he thought all girls should be hollering when weâre having sex.
Dude here, got some big misconceptions from porn through the years. I was so insecure about my size, and in hindsight it showed in previous relationships. I met my now wife, and our bits just seemed made for each other, until one time when we were intimate and she was crying and she told me it was because I physically hurt her, *with* my bit. After a generous amount of research and measuring, and her anecdotes, we determined that I'm not HUGE, but I'm decently above average. This was 4 or 5 years ago now, and I'm 32. I discovered porn at age 11. Thats ~15 years of being presented with centaurs in porn, and not seeing anything else. This is all just to say that your comment is true.
Similarly, I had a girl once tell me her last bf was 9in. This made me hesitate hard, as I too have seen way too many porn sized members. Eventually we went forward and she said, âwow, youâre almost as big as he was!â Iâm not, but the confidence boost was nice and she still complained about pain down there from my size regularly. So I think dude was lying, but either way we both were âtoo bigâ to be completely comfortable. When she had joked she was a âsize queenâ, I almost broke it off because Iâm decent, but no pornstar. Just goes to show some people donât know what they have, had, or can handle. Keep your heads up, kings.
But mostly only men care about penis size. Most women donât. As long as youâre a considerate lover, penis size isnât an issue. It becomes an issue when men think the penis is the only part that matters. Even then, itâs less about size and more about being a selfish lover. Vaginas arenât that big and it can really hurt to have sex with a large penis.
I mean I see a lot of posts about women wanting larger dick size so...
If men feel like 5 isn't good enough, a lot of that comes from women making them feel that way and the porn industry setting stupid standards
Probably because the only people posting about it are the ones with a strong preference. The vast majority of woman simply donât post about dick size because itâs not important. So you see a biased sample.
Itâs like with vegans, everyone thinks theyâre all super preachy and wonât shut up about it. Truth is, those are just the ones you see. For every annoying vegan thereâs a thousand quiet vegans trying to avoid being labelled preachy, and most people they meet will never even know theyâre vegan.
I don't see "a lot" of those posts, I see way more from men, although I'm sure we're reading different subs. I can say research suggests the majority of women can't orgasm through penetration alone anyways, some men have crazy misconceptions from porn and get way too hung up on things.
Itâs men who tell eachother that bigger is better, and than harass women for âlying about how small their penis isâ. Iâve had men yell at me demanding that I âadmitâ that itâs small, meanwhile heâs obsessed with porn and all of his male friends lie about their penis sizes.
I think that men need to take this issue up with other men and leave us women alone?? Go to the original source of the bullying and stop harassing us with their issues and freaking out on us when we tell them that their size is fine.
The only men that havenât treated me this way oddly enough are the men with traditionally whatâs considered small dicks. And I went back for fun again and again many times.
Hence my âthough a lot of men still worry about itâ. Point being, itâs not an issue for their partner 90% of the time, so it technically *is* enough. Itâs not a functional problem, itâs an insecurity.
Yup some women can have preferences just as everyone else can, and theyâll settle with less too. To all the worrying guys, you know how your porn searches are typically of your preference? Well, one day out of the blue you meet someone thatâs entirely not those preferences, but is cool as fuck and makes you feel good then you suddenly forget about all those preferences. Preferences only come up when asked but outside of that so many different things can hit the spot.
Just know that 5 inches is average, and by being average, about half of men (2 billion people) would slay countless foes enough to reach Valhalla if it meant they could have a dick your size. Be happy with what you already have
Came in to say this, I donât come through PIV anyway but I fuckin love riding my bfs dick regardless. Iâve had toys etc that were bigger and it was just uncomfortable. Thereâs size queens out there for sure but itâs not guna be universal
Angle, intensity, direction, etc of the action is much more relevant than size. And what he does simultaneously with the rest of his tools can have a dramatic effect as well.
Lesbians can satisfy with zero inches. You have plenty of penis. Porn may be the only time you see dicks. They hire men with large penises disproportionately. It's a bad frame of reference.
Having a larger penis often results with pain during sex for women, 5 inches is almost perfect to most because it's comfortable and won't cause pain unless you don't know how to use it.
The only time a penis is too small is when a guy comments all the time about how small his dick is. If youâre confident, Iâll never judge or care about it. 5 inch penises are perfect, but having to soothe a man about his penis size all the time isnât fun.
The best sex I ever had was with men who were average to slightly below average in size. Fit me like a glove, and no pain. Could actually have sex more often because of that. Stop obsessing on your penis size and work on your personality.
"Is having normal male human anatomy an issue when dating a woman?"
Not usually no, but I haven't surveyed every women on earth so I can't promise you some might prefer you not to have a 5" penis
That's average length. Honestly, as we mature and figure out what we like and don't like, women (myself included) tend to prefer them average-sized. Big porn dicks may *look* impressive, but they're wince-worthy for most women. 5 inches is in the Goldilocks zone.
no seriously, whenever i do watch porn, i always wonder how they can endure it for so long, and at that, how they can portray that theyâre really enjoying it too! i just always think back to times iâve been just waiting for it to end bc it was so uncomfortable!
maybe itâs just me, but i donât like too much girth, i prefer skinny and very curved. maybe iâm weird because most people iâve met always care for girth
Curved would do the trick too. No need for the girth if things line up right. But idk how many guys are like that. In my small sampling of five or six guys, only one was curved but also had the girth. Maybe I assumed it was the girth that made it so great when it was actually the curve.
Damn, I hope my kids don't stalk my posts...lol. Although they're young adults, so they may just laugh.
This isnât talked about enough: there are different sizes of vaginas just like there are penises. 5 inches is right around the average, this will fit vaginas that are an average size. There are larger vaginas that will require larger penises to be filled up just like there are smaller ones. Donât be so hung up on your size and find a vag that fits you like a glove. Men are just shamed about penis size because we can attach an actual size measurement to the penis whereas vaginas are much harder to measure
Thank you! People act as if vaginas are infinite chasms. They have different depths and while this is not really something that is researched much, it has been researched and you can just google it.
This is the best advice on here. Iâm a girl who is more accommodating towards larger penises. It is what it is. I only feel slight discomfort when the guy is packing 10in or more. I hear of other girls feeling pain with 6 or 7in dicks, that just seems absurd to me but I believe it. All vaginas are different too!
So do you still feel satisfied with a smaller/average size then? Iâm just curious bc the larger ones hurt me, so I prefer a good shmedium size, but small is just as good in missionary.
No I donât. I find myself not moaning as much with a smaller dick, and I just donât feel full or fulfilled. Since Iâm a big girl with a fat ass certain position just arenât possible with smaller cocks. And I loooove riding so this just sucks. And itâs always slipping out regardless of the position which makes it difficult to build up to an orgasm.
Huh, learn something new every day! I feel like the first few inches, and the ability to go âto the hiltâ so to speak, are the most arousing aspects of penetrative sex so I figured (at least in some positions) that it would work out. Itâs interesting bc the guy Iâm currently with is frankly a little too big for me and Iâve found the best is from behind so he canât go so deep.
This is all quite a lot of sharing but Reddit is anonymous and I think itâs interesting lol, so whatevs.
same! had to stop it, i really liked the guy so i always tried to keep going, but i honestly think about how many women he will encounter until he finds someone who it doesnât hurt?
No, it's not. It's average, and women care waaaaaay less about dick size then guys. 70-80% of women don't orgasm from penetration to begin with, so your dick is not what's gonna get her off. Ask and learn what she likes, communicate what you like, and you're golden!
5 inches will do the job, as long as you have a bit of girth. What the lack of length really puts you at a disadvantage for is just different positions. Doggy is your best friend.
Depends on the woman, and on whether the guy is good at sex.
I don't care if you think the thing is too big or too small, if the guy is good at sex you don't just tolerate an unideally sized member, you completely change your preferences.
I've been with a too large guy and a legitimately tiny guy, both were great in bed and with both of them I was completely happy with what they had in their pants.
A tip for you, if you never want to worry about your size again, make sure she is having the best sex possible long before she has an opportunity to form an opinion on your penis.
this!! itâs so crazy how many men iâve met who think we ALL orgasm from PIV, and are shocked when i tell them i donât. like, is this news to you? iâm pretty sure itâs like, what, 70-80% of women?
It's above average globally. Don't let porn or locker room gossip skew your idea of what penises actually look like. Five inches isn't remotely close to small
And the average is the average for a reason. If a majority of women truly desired larger penises, we likely would have selected partners with larger penises and the average would skew towards bigger than 5". Of course some women will prefer bigger than average. But I think it's safe to say that the average woman will prefer the average size.
Porn definitely warps men's ideas of what women want. Remember that porn is a visual medium, and larger dicks facilitate getting clear shots of penetration from various angles and positions, but it's not an accurate representation of the norm or women's preferences. And it's DEFINITELY not what most women would say feels the best.
How much a women enjoys sex is rarely correlated to the man's penis size. More importantly how much confidence you have in bed and attention to their needs (ie: foreplay, giving them head, rubbing their clit, etc). Most girls I have been with cum from fingers or head rather than sex.
It is plenty for the majority of women. After sex, when he was soft but hadnât pulled out, I wiggled my pelvis against his and made myself cum.
IME sexual chemistry does most of the heavy lifting. The dick is a bonus.
most people incorrectly believe a bigger penis is better. thatâs just due to pornography. in reality large penises are most often very uncomfortable for women
Quite simply no. No issue.
If your reference material is porn it's very unrealistic.
Big dicks can hurt. For me at least. It's not fun.
The best lover I've had is not in the "big dick" category.
It's all about foreplay, connection and rhythm.
My boyfriends is 5" or so. The only time that it's an "issue" is for positions like doggy, where my butt cheeks take up some of the depth. Or if he goes fast but pulls back too far, it comes out lolz. It's big enough (I don't think I could fit more than 6 inches inside anyway đł)
Congratulations, youâre average. The makeup of a good lover is so much more than any measurements of your equipment. You have an entire body and mind with which to pleasure your partner with. Learn about your own sexuality, learn about the physiology of your partners, body, and talk with them about their interests and desires and preferences. And then learn and explore together.
Absolutely not! That's completely normal. Penis size rarely actually matters. What actually can destroy your relationship is if you aren't concerned about satisfying your partner, which for a lot of women, usually requires more attention than just sticking your penis in there.
I think most women will have more of an issue with lack of foreplay and not reciprocating oral. Years of self consciousness, too much porn, and not meeting the right women made me learn the hard way.
8 inches here, most of my sexual partners felt pain because its really thick and long, specially anal. My gf doesnt let me go deep most of the time because it kills her. Kinda wish I were 5 inches.
Not even. It's totally dependent on her/them. It's not even something to disclose like it's an issue.
Love yourself and know there's always someone who loves you entirely.
Best sex I've had is with a guy who was about 5". Larger hurts and so sex is restricted to maybe two or three positions. At 5" anything goes and the sex is way more fun!
5 is good size trust, porn makes us all think we have a small dick. I have 6 and when I look at my dick Iâve just always thought itâs small cause the only other penises I see are all 8 inch plus (porn) itâs actually could be considered body dysmorphia. We know average is 5 so your good.
Ok look, size is not as important.
Realistically there is a lower and upper limit, and those are pretty pragmatic. Say your penis is an inch long, itâs gonna be a challange. Say its 8 long, then itâs just too large and ends up hurting.
So 5 inch is nowhere near too small/large
Everyone talks about length and no one ever talks about girth
A pencil is too narrow*, regardless of length. A pint glass is too wide*, regardless of length.
5 inches length with average girth is fine.
*for the average lady. Outliers exist both ways
I am a woman who has had sex with plenty of men and women. Can confirm, the average vagina is only about 5 inches deep. I can get my fingers all the way to the cervix with ease. Vaginas can get used to whatever they get frequently penetrated by. When with someone with a big dick (or dildo) it usually takes a while to get accustomed to it to where there isn't pain. But even if I get used to a big dick/dildo, if I were to cease having that kind of penetrative sex for several weeks or months, my vagina would go right back to square one.
What I'm trying to say, is that a 5" penis is plenty for the average vagina, the woman in question would get accustomed to the dick, no matter the size.
It's definitely more about how you use it and the other skills you incorporate into sex that make it all successful.
It's sometimes too big, but it depends on the person.
Keep in mind that up to 25% of women suffer from vaginisimus so for some it may be too big or need extra lube or foreplay.
Purely from a sexual pleasure standpoint, 6 or 7 is probably better, its just easier to get a girl off during intercourse, while not being so large that it makes sex complicated. I'd assume more promiscusous girls would care more. So, you're probably not gonna be a total fuck boi with 5". Though, that will also be because of a lack of sexual confidence (porn doesn't help).
I was in a relationship with someone who seemed really self-conscious about his size because he'd occasionally ask me if I thought his dick was tiny, and when I said that it's perfect for me, he'd semi-argue saying that it could be "a little bigger" or something. In hindsight I think it might've been some sort of kink of his to be humiliated or whatever, but in that case he should've spoken up about that and I could've humiliated him as much as he'd like!
Seriously though, it's perfectly understandable that people have insecurities around this because porn is fucking it up for us.
I just need you (not OP but people in general) to understand that if you have an issue with this, it's fine to express it to your partner, but don't do like mine and keep repeating it, because it's really unattractive for your partner to constantly berate their own body and you having to constantly reassure them. If it's that big an issue then seek help in therapy, or speak to friends or something. Chances are that if your partner is with you, they're with you because they love you and your body.
As a woman, i can attest that i dont want my guts scrambled and bruised during sex, so 5inches is good
Dont let the word 'average be taken negatively bc it just means its in the range of normal and nothing to be anxious about.
Also every woman is different, some like bigger/length/width bc the feeling it gives them, others might find bigger members to cause too much pain.
There will be some women who will only date a man with a bigger penis. That's their choice. But ask yourself, would you want to date the kind of woman who would pass up on an otherwise great guy because their penis size was slightly below average?
If it was a deal-breaker for a woman (or man), I'd personally be questioning whether I'd have an issue with them instead.
It shouldn't be. Don't worry about that so much as how long you are lasting and making sure she is getting off. As long as you are making her orgasm I guarantee she will not care about the size of your dick.
5 inches is quite average dude
I avoid any woman with a penis over 4 inches.
I avoid women with a penis under 5. If it dont flop around I won't give 'em the pound
5 inches is above average... right guys????
Of course..that's massive girth. Way to go there "beer can" đ
I know a guy called "Coke Can" Phil. Parents can be so cruel.
Right, feels big to me
Depends how you frame it in the picture. See my username.
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You might have tiny hands
Maybe, but not a tiny penis, that's for sure
Or a tight butthole đ¤ˇđźââď¸
i'm afraid of where this thread is going
Down town im willing to bet
Wdym bro it's massive those guys with 12in are just photo shop
I think 5 is exactly average.
Erect or flaccid?
Yes
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you measure from the butthole, right?
You measure from someone elseâs butthole.
Itâs the average. If it were an issue then most guys would be struggling regarding size (ie. their partners not feeling like itâs enough), but they donât (though a lot of men *do* still worry about it)
>Itâs the average But you know most men don't want this - average. If most were ok with this, we wouldn't continuously see questions like this one here.
Their view of "average" is also incredibly skewed by porn. I'm sure there's niche lil dick fetish content, but far and away most of the dongs the average dude sees are monsters. While they might logically know that most men aren't packing porn levels of heat, if that's all you're seeing, there's going to be an illogical part of your brain that will believe that you're abnormal. People like to throw a fit about the phrase "representation matters," but from a physiological, brain chemistry perspective, it's just true.
Add in our societies constant reminder with "big dick energy " and " little dick energy" and BAM large scale body dismorphia
Youâre right, man. I wonât be saying anything like that again, Iâve only ever said it in jest, but I just realized how fucked up it really is.
Same... We really need to talk more about body shaming men and how it effects them.
Can you imagine if men told women they had big tits energy? No way those basketballs are gonna bounce on the court of society.
"big tit energy" honestly makes me, as a tit owner, chuckle. There's no set good/bad thing to associate it with, and tbh, big boobs are annoying and inconvenient so "big tit energy" could either be "hot" or "annoying"
Sadly this also affects their thinking about women. They think they need a huge penis and they also think women need to look like pornstars. This usually messes up their reality and dating life because they end up comparing their women to pornstars.
And thinking that porn moves are how you have sex in general - dudes, the most likely way to get a girl to orgasm during PIV is to "wet hump."Think like dry humping, grinding your pelvises together. That, but with penetration. Grind your pelvis against her clit.
Oh - misread this as PIV is something guys learn from porn and is ineffective. I was about to have an existential breakdown because wet humping is what my girlfriend likes.
As someone who dated a âporn addict,â he couldnât get hard or stay hard for any of his girlfriends because of his addiction (he had a ten year relationship and then a two year relationship before I also dated him for two years.) He had very weird ideas about his size (average; although he thought he was tiny) and he also thought I didnât enjoy sex if I wasnât yelling like a maniac. Iâm very enthusiastic, just not a yeller, and Iâm assuming he thought all girls should be hollering when weâre having sex.
Dude here, got some big misconceptions from porn through the years. I was so insecure about my size, and in hindsight it showed in previous relationships. I met my now wife, and our bits just seemed made for each other, until one time when we were intimate and she was crying and she told me it was because I physically hurt her, *with* my bit. After a generous amount of research and measuring, and her anecdotes, we determined that I'm not HUGE, but I'm decently above average. This was 4 or 5 years ago now, and I'm 32. I discovered porn at age 11. Thats ~15 years of being presented with centaurs in porn, and not seeing anything else. This is all just to say that your comment is true.
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Similarly, I had a girl once tell me her last bf was 9in. This made me hesitate hard, as I too have seen way too many porn sized members. Eventually we went forward and she said, âwow, youâre almost as big as he was!â Iâm not, but the confidence boost was nice and she still complained about pain down there from my size regularly. So I think dude was lying, but either way we both were âtoo bigâ to be completely comfortable. When she had joked she was a âsize queenâ, I almost broke it off because Iâm decent, but no pornstar. Just goes to show some people donât know what they have, had, or can handle. Keep your heads up, kings.
But mostly only men care about penis size. Most women donât. As long as youâre a considerate lover, penis size isnât an issue. It becomes an issue when men think the penis is the only part that matters. Even then, itâs less about size and more about being a selfish lover. Vaginas arenât that big and it can really hurt to have sex with a large penis.
I mean I see a lot of posts about women wanting larger dick size so... If men feel like 5 isn't good enough, a lot of that comes from women making them feel that way and the porn industry setting stupid standards
Probably because the only people posting about it are the ones with a strong preference. The vast majority of woman simply donât post about dick size because itâs not important. So you see a biased sample. Itâs like with vegans, everyone thinks theyâre all super preachy and wonât shut up about it. Truth is, those are just the ones you see. For every annoying vegan thereâs a thousand quiet vegans trying to avoid being labelled preachy, and most people they meet will never even know theyâre vegan.
I don't see "a lot" of those posts, I see way more from men, although I'm sure we're reading different subs. I can say research suggests the majority of women can't orgasm through penetration alone anyways, some men have crazy misconceptions from porn and get way too hung up on things.
I agree with porn but people should also learn to realize that NOT all women feel that way.
Itâs men who tell eachother that bigger is better, and than harass women for âlying about how small their penis isâ. Iâve had men yell at me demanding that I âadmitâ that itâs small, meanwhile heâs obsessed with porn and all of his male friends lie about their penis sizes. I think that men need to take this issue up with other men and leave us women alone?? Go to the original source of the bullying and stop harassing us with their issues and freaking out on us when we tell them that their size is fine. The only men that havenât treated me this way oddly enough are the men with traditionally whatâs considered small dicks. And I went back for fun again and again many times.
Hence my âthough a lot of men still worry about itâ. Point being, itâs not an issue for their partner 90% of the time, so it technically *is* enough. Itâs not a functional problem, itâs an insecurity.
The person the penis is attached to is much more important than the penis.
Awe man Iâm gonna disappoint them twice then
Wow, this person just committed r/suicidebywords. Well done!
As a man with a shit personality but larger than average penis, this hurt me dearly.
For example if it's attached to the woman
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Yup some women can have preferences just as everyone else can, and theyâll settle with less too. To all the worrying guys, you know how your porn searches are typically of your preference? Well, one day out of the blue you meet someone thatâs entirely not those preferences, but is cool as fuck and makes you feel good then you suddenly forget about all those preferences. Preferences only come up when asked but outside of that so many different things can hit the spot.
For me, not at all. Might be because I'm not a woman, might be because I'm European and have no idea how much 5 inches are.
Canadian here, canât remember if this is a metric thing, an imperial thing or a hockey thing.
underrated comment, you just made my night sir
Just know that 5 inches is average, and by being average, about half of men (2 billion people) would slay countless foes enough to reach Valhalla if it meant they could have a dick your size. Be happy with what you already have
You are confusing average and median.
You won't reach Valhalla with that attitude.
Lets assume itâs a standard distribution for a scale of 4 billion people
I am a women, 5 inches is perfectly fine for me, that is by boyfriends size and it does just nicely
Came in to say this, I donât come through PIV anyway but I fuckin love riding my bfs dick regardless. Iâve had toys etc that were bigger and it was just uncomfortable. Thereâs size queens out there for sure but itâs not guna be universal
Agreed, 5in is perfect
Angle, intensity, direction, etc of the action is much more relevant than size. And what he does simultaneously with the rest of his tools can have a dramatic effect as well.
Lesbians can satisfy with zero inches. You have plenty of penis. Porn may be the only time you see dicks. They hire men with large penises disproportionately. It's a bad frame of reference.
Foreplay young man, foreplay maketh the man.
I thought manners maketh man
I mean...foreplay is manners with sex, so...
Both involve a versed tongue
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Only when the clothes no longer maketh a man.
Best advice! Make sure she has a few Os before penetration and dick size wonât matter.
A few?!? Feel like if you're giving a woman even one "O", you're outperforming most guys.
Having a larger penis often results with pain during sex for women, 5 inches is almost perfect to most because it's comfortable and won't cause pain unless you don't know how to use it.
'Long & thin - too far in ! Short & thick does the trick'
Long and thick - ouch letâs quit
Short and thinâŚ.hmmm, is it in?
that was good
Ive heard that before, girth is the stuff!
Nobody needs their uterus pounded. But rock the hell out of the sides.
The only time a penis is too small is when a guy comments all the time about how small his dick is. If youâre confident, Iâll never judge or care about it. 5 inch penises are perfect, but having to soothe a man about his penis size all the time isnât fun.
What I've heard is that the only time a penis is too small is when he doesn't dine at the y.
I make jokes about having a small dick cause I feel like it's funnier than how tons of dudes say how huge theirs is. Plus no one would expect much
what if I am neither confident nor sad about it?
The best sex I ever had was with men who were average to slightly below average in size. Fit me like a glove, and no pain. Could actually have sex more often because of that. Stop obsessing on your penis size and work on your personality.
"Is having normal male human anatomy an issue when dating a woman?" Not usually no, but I haven't surveyed every women on earth so I can't promise you some might prefer you not to have a 5" penis
Does it belong to you?
That's average length. Honestly, as we mature and figure out what we like and don't like, women (myself included) tend to prefer them average-sized. Big porn dicks may *look* impressive, but they're wince-worthy for most women. 5 inches is in the Goldilocks zone.
no seriously, whenever i do watch porn, i always wonder how they can endure it for so long, and at that, how they can portray that theyâre really enjoying it too! i just always think back to times iâve been just waiting for it to end bc it was so uncomfortable!
Need to also learn to go down on a woman.
For me it has nothing to do with inches - itâs the girth. SoâŚare you girthy?
Yeah, I never understood the obsession with length. Girth for the win. And what you do with it as well as what other stuff you can do.
maybe itâs just me, but i donât like too much girth, i prefer skinny and very curved. maybe iâm weird because most people iâve met always care for girth
Curved would do the trick too. No need for the girth if things line up right. But idk how many guys are like that. In my small sampling of five or six guys, only one was curved but also had the girth. Maybe I assumed it was the girth that made it so great when it was actually the curve. Damn, I hope my kids don't stalk my posts...lol. Although they're young adults, so they may just laugh.
This isnât talked about enough: there are different sizes of vaginas just like there are penises. 5 inches is right around the average, this will fit vaginas that are an average size. There are larger vaginas that will require larger penises to be filled up just like there are smaller ones. Donât be so hung up on your size and find a vag that fits you like a glove. Men are just shamed about penis size because we can attach an actual size measurement to the penis whereas vaginas are much harder to measure
Thank you! People act as if vaginas are infinite chasms. They have different depths and while this is not really something that is researched much, it has been researched and you can just google it.
What's more beyond the first inch or so vaginas aren't that sensitive. And just about everyone can get past the first inch.
This is the best advice on here. Iâm a girl who is more accommodating towards larger penises. It is what it is. I only feel slight discomfort when the guy is packing 10in or more. I hear of other girls feeling pain with 6 or 7in dicks, that just seems absurd to me but I believe it. All vaginas are different too!
So do you still feel satisfied with a smaller/average size then? Iâm just curious bc the larger ones hurt me, so I prefer a good shmedium size, but small is just as good in missionary.
No I donât. I find myself not moaning as much with a smaller dick, and I just donât feel full or fulfilled. Since Iâm a big girl with a fat ass certain position just arenât possible with smaller cocks. And I loooove riding so this just sucks. And itâs always slipping out regardless of the position which makes it difficult to build up to an orgasm.
Huh, learn something new every day! I feel like the first few inches, and the ability to go âto the hiltâ so to speak, are the most arousing aspects of penetrative sex so I figured (at least in some positions) that it would work out. Itâs interesting bc the guy Iâm currently with is frankly a little too big for me and Iâve found the best is from behind so he canât go so deep. This is all quite a lot of sharing but Reddit is anonymous and I think itâs interesting lol, so whatevs.
Too big isnât a good thing. Once slept with someone who was about 8-9 inches and it was extremely painful
same! had to stop it, i really liked the guy so i always tried to keep going, but i honestly think about how many women he will encounter until he finds someone who it doesnât hurt?
No, it's not. It's average, and women care waaaaaay less about dick size then guys. 70-80% of women don't orgasm from penetration to begin with, so your dick is not what's gonna get her off. Ask and learn what she likes, communicate what you like, and you're golden!
Only on Reddit is 5 inches an issue. 99% of dicks Iâve seen IRL are 5-6 inches.
I donât really know a lot of women who actually like a big penis, personally, I donât
5 inches will do the job, as long as you have a bit of girth. What the lack of length really puts you at a disadvantage for is just different positions. Doggy is your best friend.
It's fine broski. Learn how to fuck well. That's literally all you need.
Depends on the woman, and on whether the guy is good at sex. I don't care if you think the thing is too big or too small, if the guy is good at sex you don't just tolerate an unideally sized member, you completely change your preferences. I've been with a too large guy and a legitimately tiny guy, both were great in bed and with both of them I was completely happy with what they had in their pants. A tip for you, if you never want to worry about your size again, make sure she is having the best sex possible long before she has an opportunity to form an opinion on your penis.
Well said. Canât agree more.
Nah ,Not if you know how to use it and are also generous in other area( oral) large% of women canât orgasm from penetration anyway
this!! itâs so crazy how many men iâve met who think we ALL orgasm from PIV, and are shocked when i tell them i donât. like, is this news to you? iâm pretty sure itâs like, what, 70-80% of women?
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One of my buddies has a 5 incher. Dude got around because heâs quite charismatic and attractive
One? Most of your buddies likely have one since it's the average size, he's just honest about it.
It's above average globally. Don't let porn or locker room gossip skew your idea of what penises actually look like. Five inches isn't remotely close to small
And the average is the average for a reason. If a majority of women truly desired larger penises, we likely would have selected partners with larger penises and the average would skew towards bigger than 5". Of course some women will prefer bigger than average. But I think it's safe to say that the average woman will prefer the average size. Porn definitely warps men's ideas of what women want. Remember that porn is a visual medium, and larger dicks facilitate getting clear shots of penetration from various angles and positions, but it's not an accurate representation of the norm or women's preferences. And it's DEFINITELY not what most women would say feels the best.
How much a women enjoys sex is rarely correlated to the man's penis size. More importantly how much confidence you have in bed and attention to their needs (ie: foreplay, giving them head, rubbing their clit, etc). Most girls I have been with cum from fingers or head rather than sex.
It is plenty for the majority of women. After sex, when he was soft but hadnât pulled out, I wiggled my pelvis against his and made myself cum. IME sexual chemistry does most of the heavy lifting. The dick is a bonus.
5 in feels great to me, I canât stand too big bc it hurts.
most people incorrectly believe a bigger penis is better. thatâs just due to pornography. in reality large penises are most often very uncomfortable for women
Quite simply no. No issue. If your reference material is porn it's very unrealistic. Big dicks can hurt. For me at least. It's not fun. The best lover I've had is not in the "big dick" category. It's all about foreplay, connection and rhythm.
My boyfriends is 5" or so. The only time that it's an "issue" is for positions like doggy, where my butt cheeks take up some of the depth. Or if he goes fast but pulls back too far, it comes out lolz. It's big enough (I don't think I could fit more than 6 inches inside anyway đł)
Congratulations, youâre average. The makeup of a good lover is so much more than any measurements of your equipment. You have an entire body and mind with which to pleasure your partner with. Learn about your own sexuality, learn about the physiology of your partners, body, and talk with them about their interests and desires and preferences. And then learn and explore together.
I personally would have an issue if the woman I was dating had a five inch penis, yes
Use your hands, use your mouth, use your brain, youâll be fine.
Depends on the woman. Some will like it, some wonât.
Dude any girl whoâs not a legitimate pornstar will get a lot of pleasure out of a 5 inch dick. Girls want to be pleasured anyway, not impaled
No.
Absolutely not! That's completely normal. Penis size rarely actually matters. What actually can destroy your relationship is if you aren't concerned about satisfying your partner, which for a lot of women, usually requires more attention than just sticking your penis in there.
Nah. And honestly if a girl makes you feel that way, then you donât want them.
Yeah dude it's an issue you won't leave any girls for the rest of us!
Ive heard the vagina has 90% of pleasure sensors before like 4 inches deep so I think you're good
I think most women will have more of an issue with lack of foreplay and not reciprocating oral. Years of self consciousness, too much porn, and not meeting the right women made me learn the hard way.
Since your asking this here, it might not be an issue for her, but it will always be an issue for you.
5 is definitely the norm.
Short answer: no. Long answer: also no.
8 inches here, most of my sexual partners felt pain because its really thick and long, specially anal. My gf doesnt let me go deep most of the time because it kills her. Kinda wish I were 5 inches.
No
Kids should really stay off reddit
Watch the Howard Stern show with the small dick contest. Youll realize that you are just fine.
Watch Howard Stern micro pennies contest video. That helps a lot for the ego and teach you that you are blessed
Depends where it is
It's the most average of average size
Not even. It's totally dependent on her/them. It's not even something to disclose like it's an issue. Love yourself and know there's always someone who loves you entirely.
Best sex I've had is with a guy who was about 5". Larger hurts and so sex is restricted to maybe two or three positions. At 5" anything goes and the sex is way more fun!
5 is good size trust, porn makes us all think we have a small dick. I have 6 and when I look at my dick Iâve just always thought itâs small cause the only other penises I see are all 8 inch plus (porn) itâs actually could be considered body dysmorphia. We know average is 5 so your good.
No, you'd literally have more problems with a 7-8" dick than a 5"
That's literally average. There's nothing to worry about.
Ok look, size is not as important. Realistically there is a lower and upper limit, and those are pretty pragmatic. Say your penis is an inch long, itâs gonna be a challange. Say its 8 long, then itâs just too large and ends up hurting. So 5 inch is nowhere near too small/large
Between using your hands, your mouth and 5 inches, you can please a woman. Communication is key
5 inches is all you need. Technically all you need is 4.5
Everyone talks about length and no one ever talks about girth A pencil is too narrow*, regardless of length. A pint glass is too wide*, regardless of length. 5 inches length with average girth is fine. *for the average lady. Outliers exist both ways
youâre good đ
I think most women donât go, 5inches is bad and 6inches is good. They just care about how it feels when they have sex.
No.
I am a woman who has had sex with plenty of men and women. Can confirm, the average vagina is only about 5 inches deep. I can get my fingers all the way to the cervix with ease. Vaginas can get used to whatever they get frequently penetrated by. When with someone with a big dick (or dildo) it usually takes a while to get accustomed to it to where there isn't pain. But even if I get used to a big dick/dildo, if I were to cease having that kind of penetrative sex for several weeks or months, my vagina would go right back to square one. What I'm trying to say, is that a 5" penis is plenty for the average vagina, the woman in question would get accustomed to the dick, no matter the size. It's definitely more about how you use it and the other skills you incorporate into sex that make it all successful.
Itâs the intention, baby, not the size.
It depends on what you do with it and how you treat her after the sex.
Only if a dick is connected to it.
No itâs great
Nah Iâve never had issues. If they like you they like you
No? Stop watching porn
5.1 inches is the average, erect North American penis( 5.2 for Aussies, 5.5 Canada, UK, and New zealand
It's sometimes too big, but it depends on the person. Keep in mind that up to 25% of women suffer from vaginisimus so for some it may be too big or need extra lube or foreplay.
Thatâs average, I donât think most women care. You wanna know a secret? The most erotic thing in the world is being understood.
Not at all
Nope. And any penis haver should know that sex is and should be more than âpenis enter vaginaâ.
Not at all!
Put down the pornhub for a while man
Purely from a sexual pleasure standpoint, 6 or 7 is probably better, its just easier to get a girl off during intercourse, while not being so large that it makes sex complicated. I'd assume more promiscusous girls would care more. So, you're probably not gonna be a total fuck boi with 5". Though, that will also be because of a lack of sexual confidence (porn doesn't help).
I was in a relationship with someone who seemed really self-conscious about his size because he'd occasionally ask me if I thought his dick was tiny, and when I said that it's perfect for me, he'd semi-argue saying that it could be "a little bigger" or something. In hindsight I think it might've been some sort of kink of his to be humiliated or whatever, but in that case he should've spoken up about that and I could've humiliated him as much as he'd like! Seriously though, it's perfectly understandable that people have insecurities around this because porn is fucking it up for us. I just need you (not OP but people in general) to understand that if you have an issue with this, it's fine to express it to your partner, but don't do like mine and keep repeating it, because it's really unattractive for your partner to constantly berate their own body and you having to constantly reassure them. If it's that big an issue then seek help in therapy, or speak to friends or something. Chances are that if your partner is with you, they're with you because they love you and your body.
porn fucked u all in the brain dude
woman here. 5-7 inches is what i call âjust rightâ. anything bigger causes lots of discomfort for me personally.
a lot of women prefer average penises. anything more than 7 is an issue for me because itâll hurt.
It's not the penis, just the dick it's connected to.
No. Source: am a woman
As a woman, i can attest that i dont want my guts scrambled and bruised during sex, so 5inches is good Dont let the word 'average be taken negatively bc it just means its in the range of normal and nothing to be anxious about. Also every woman is different, some like bigger/length/width bc the feeling it gives them, others might find bigger members to cause too much pain.
No, it is not. If you know how to use it, it means nothing. Coming from someone who's boyfriend is around that.
That's literally the Average, the length of 90% of men in the world
Isn't that supposed to be average size. Or is that 5.5
Whip it out! Whip it out!
No Stop watching so much porn
There will be some women who will only date a man with a bigger penis. That's their choice. But ask yourself, would you want to date the kind of woman who would pass up on an otherwise great guy because their penis size was slightly below average? If it was a deal-breaker for a woman (or man), I'd personally be questioning whether I'd have an issue with them instead.
Considering I've had the misfortune to have sex with a guy with a nub and another one with a tiny pencil dick.... 5 inches is awesome. Bravo dude
You got what you got.
It shouldn't be. Don't worry about that so much as how long you are lasting and making sure she is getting off. As long as you are making her orgasm I guarantee she will not care about the size of your dick.