i’m very masculine. I’m also 6’2” 280 and black. I look like the average bbc top in porn. I can top but prefer to bottom. I get lucky maybe twice a year.
Dog fucking same. 5’11, 210. I work out. Black and dreadlocks. Can’t speak to a “top” for 3 messages before them begging me to try topping them. I’m 90% bottom. Really gotta be the right set of circumstances for me to top. I hate hate hate the bbc fetish because it doesn’t benefit me in any way. Do I fit the stereo type? Yes. I’m much larger than average. But useless because I don’t really have any interest in topping.
Then I see some guys who get to bottom whenever they feel like it because they’re everyone’s type.
The switchy top thing has happen to me many times, the reality is that I think they will top you if you allow them to... big guys are imposing to most and most men are pussies anyway so they fall for the least resistance path, a fetish and see what comes up out of it, it's almost (if not utter) compulsive behavior really. I've done my fair share of interactions as a bottom with guys "outta standard" (7.5 and way up, including girth) and to be honest most men (even older!!) are interested on it, so be open to the experience, the most masculine guys and the most nelly big dick top dudes will reach to you and eventually something will come from it.
Sounds like we are in the same boat. I look like the typical “thug” in BBC porn. I’m built like a line backer and had dreads also. 9/10 a “strict top” sees my dick and now they want to try to bottom for the “first time”.
Masculibe Bi bottom here, and yes, that's exactly how it works. I've commented on similar posts before how I tend to be more dominant or in control when I'm with women and I want the top to be more dominant or in control when I'm with a man.
As a clarification, and this is just my preference, when I speak of being more dominant, I'm not referring to BDSM or degradation, just a slight power shift. I'll actually put a stop to things if guy in with starts being too bossy or starts insulting me thinking it's dirty talk. I know some people love that, and I have nothing against them doing it, but it's definitely not for me. As a masculine bottom who wants a top that's more in control, tell me what you find hot, tell me what position you want me in, take the lead, but don't be a jerk. In return, I make sure I give moans of pleasure or tell him how good, or big, or how deep inside of me he is. And I always do my best to ensure he gets everything he wants and hopefully more every time lol
That's true for the most part. I did date a woman many, many years ago, before I ever even admitted to anyone that I was bicurious and before I ever had any interactions with another man. She somehow sensed that I would probably enjoy ass play and would often rub around and play with my hole as she went down on me. And one time, after we both had gotten really drunk. She really wanted to use her dildo on me. Like, she was really excited about the possibility of doing it, and so she convinced me (I was very hesitant at the time). She got so turned on laying me back, having me lift my legs and guiding that dildo into my hole. The only problem was she was a little too excited and just rammed that plastic cock right in to the hilt. I about jumped to the ceiling! Since I was also pretty drunk, that jab to my guts actually made me sick to my stomach, so I had to run to the bathroom to throw up. Needless to say, we didn't try that again
I haven’t had this issue as much. I’m fairly muscular but the tops I interact with tend to be more so than I am. If I’m on a dating app, I make sure to choose photos that show off my ass. I also just always say I’m a bottom.
I've noticed this too and it's really weird to me. For me though, personally, sure I have a soft spot for twinks and such but broadly speaking, I'll take the biggest, most masculine, a foot+ taller than me bottom I can. The power exchange is incredible and gets me off majorly so
I think it’s just a personal thing—everyone has likes/dislikes. I’m 5’10” in shape, masc but am only attracted to masc energy, a bottom who is taller than me, more well hung and/or more muscular is a super turn on. Wish there there more of you.
Yeah I’ve found plenty of folks I could mess around with but I was noticing a shift in profiles lately. At least online what people were requesting. I won’t hit someone up if I don’t fit the profile. So 🤷🏾♂️
I like masculine bottom to a man on street, a slut in between the sheet.
The problem isnt masculinity for me, outside of bed, i dont really care. its just in bed , i need someone submissive , moaning femininely, acting slutty . I dont want them to look like a woman( thats a turn off) but i want them to act like one( in bed)
I personally prefer any guy thats just an everyday guy, but I also find it extremely hot when a big muscular guy submits to dick and prefers to bottom rather than top. Shame I haven't run into many much less been with one. I find the going against prejudices to be overwhelmingly hot.
I am not into fem explicitly, I don’t find cross dressing or youtube makeup guru faces attractive.
But I am also not into masc. I don’t like hairy or big guys. I just like twinks personally 🤷♂️
I'm a top into masculine bottoms and I know exactly the phenomenon you've been seen online and I don't really get it lol. There has definitely been a shift towards like guys to be more femme (both as bottoms AND as tops) and I don't know exactly where it is coming from per se.
Same here, 6’1”, 190, swam and played high school football. Guys are always surprised I’m a total bottom. I find a lot of tops aren’t looking for bottoms like me, but those who are… love it
Definitely! Especially when the top isn’t a stereotypical “top” in being gruff and super masculine. Part of the fun of being gay is playing around with these assumptions people often make.
I’m 5’6” and muscular (appear pretty masculine online). Don’t have that much of an issue. If anything, I get far more attention than when I was a short twink. I think guys use height as an indicator for masculinity/femininity, which they then correlate with sexual role .
There are def guys out there for anything. I’d put “tall bottom” right in your tag line so people know right away. My friend is a bear and quite honestly, not the best looking guy I know. He gets far more sex than I do. We joke all the time that he exploits his “niche market”. To me, it’s all about filtering out the wrong ones and drawing in the right ones. You may have less interactions, but they’ll be higher quality
Definitely on board with filtering out the useless interactions. Yes I’ve noticed height seems to correlate with top or bottom for some people. Why I have no idea 🤷🏾♂️.
I am into very masculine bottoms, and to be frank we as this type of tops tend to be pariahs... the stereotype of petit fem bottom and jock BBC top is way too common in the mainstream thought.
I prefer masculine bottoms. I find masculinity to be incredibly attractive- putting a man on his back or on all fours and making him moan for me is the sexiest thing.
The way his body flexes and relaxes as I enter him, ready for me to take him, let me have him how I want. Or even play fighting for dominance, pushing him down and grinding against him, forcing him to submit to me then making him mine. I also find that a lot of guys like the fact that I'm so much taller then them- seems to add to the experience for them.
I don't know what it is about masculinity, but I'd probably sleep with a tomboy before a femboy. Feminity just doesn't turn me on- not like masculinity.
I’m in the same boat as you kinda. I don’t think I act super feminine, I love playing video games - like rainbow six siege, I’m 5’11, workout, i love breaking shit too 😂, and building / doing projects. I like sports such as soccer, volleyball, dodgeball, and I’ll watch college basketball w friends. I love tattoos, and plan to get way more.
I’m a top, and I love a more masculine/Masculine presenting bottom😮💨mainly because most fem/twink guys prefer to be/are smoother and I like my men with body hair
I do like masculine bottoms, buy so far my experience was limited, as I am not falling into the gym body drawer.
I had one experience so far and it was hot, but mostly guided through Dom/sub power, which I am into. But couldn't yet replicate it as both via Grindr and Tinder my messages remain mostly unanswered.
But we are there and as some other comments say, the variety of people we have being comfortable in themselves, we still face a lot of internal pressure to fit into roles.
I am strictly attracted to masculine guys, and 10000000% more if they're hairy. I'm 50/50 vers and my partner is like 90/10 almost pure bottom. We're both bearded lumberjack-looking guys. I'm more chubby bear. He's more otter, with more fur than a sasquatch (just the way I like it). I always joke with him that nobody would know he's gay unless they see him holding a cigarette like Joan fuckin Crawford 🤣 (or I guess if they heard his whimpers and moans when I'm in him)
I’m a top and I strictly prefer your kind of guys, masculine and fit preferably. No wonder why I just find other tops in chat while my bottom friends can’t lol
Well in general there are probably are more masculine tops than bottoms but the assumptions people make are so laughable. And why would someone need to be feminine to be a bottom.
if you are white, bottom and masculine you will have a lot of tops and vers behind you, as a feminine guy I will tell you that I always have to be told that I should be more masculine to be more attractive 🙄 who understand them?😬
Yeah, I'm a masc daddy type, and I get pigeon holed into the dom daddy fetish role by younger guys. It's such a turn off--"oooo daddy, destroy my hole..."
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I’m masc, somewhat hairy, bi, and vers. It’s so hard to find a nice smooth twink who wants to give my tight ass a good 6-8”.
And I’m not even that picky, I would love any fit/slim, slightly smoother guy. But often the assumption is I must be a top or only into other masc guys.
Anyways, feel free to slide into my DMs…
It can take a lot of work to find em. I’m a beefy, muscular, blue collar type bottom, but I didn’t come out as a bottom until about 8 yrs ago. I’m not tall, 5’9” ish, but I weigh 265 lbs, sometimes more, depending on work and weight training. I run a crew of between 20-30 guys depending on the job (I’m a foreman, I run heavy machinery). Most guys expect me to top but I only top my Boy, that’s it. We are into group sex, I like to bottom for a lot of guys and it took a long time to find guys that like my type. A lot say they’re tops just in the hopes that I’ll give in and fuck them. My Boy started putting together tops for me way back when Craigslist was a thing, and it’s taken yrs to get the group we have now.
Send them my way, all I have ran into is a bunch of fem bottoms demanding that I do something I don't like doing (Topping) and then throwing a fit when I refuse.
i’m very masculine. I’m also 6’2” 280 and black. I look like the average bbc top in porn. I can top but prefer to bottom. I get lucky maybe twice a year.
Dog fucking same. 5’11, 210. I work out. Black and dreadlocks. Can’t speak to a “top” for 3 messages before them begging me to try topping them. I’m 90% bottom. Really gotta be the right set of circumstances for me to top. I hate hate hate the bbc fetish because it doesn’t benefit me in any way. Do I fit the stereo type? Yes. I’m much larger than average. But useless because I don’t really have any interest in topping. Then I see some guys who get to bottom whenever they feel like it because they’re everyone’s type.
The switchy top thing has happen to me many times, the reality is that I think they will top you if you allow them to... big guys are imposing to most and most men are pussies anyway so they fall for the least resistance path, a fetish and see what comes up out of it, it's almost (if not utter) compulsive behavior really. I've done my fair share of interactions as a bottom with guys "outta standard" (7.5 and way up, including girth) and to be honest most men (even older!!) are interested on it, so be open to the experience, the most masculine guys and the most nelly big dick top dudes will reach to you and eventually something will come from it.
Sounds like we are in the same boat. I look like the typical “thug” in BBC porn. I’m built like a line backer and had dreads also. 9/10 a “strict top” sees my dick and now they want to try to bottom for the “first time”.
Nothing hotter than a big masculine guy taking cock.
Twice a year? How often are you trying to get lucky?
My Grindr is always logged on. lol
6’2/225 black dude. Total hole but guys want me fuck them. So annoying.
Im the same way and have had a hard time. plus I'm bi so i think men assume i'm a top
I’ve always found bi bottoms interesting. So do you only bottom for men and top for women? If so.. what fuels those particular urges?
Masculibe Bi bottom here, and yes, that's exactly how it works. I've commented on similar posts before how I tend to be more dominant or in control when I'm with women and I want the top to be more dominant or in control when I'm with a man. As a clarification, and this is just my preference, when I speak of being more dominant, I'm not referring to BDSM or degradation, just a slight power shift. I'll actually put a stop to things if guy in with starts being too bossy or starts insulting me thinking it's dirty talk. I know some people love that, and I have nothing against them doing it, but it's definitely not for me. As a masculine bottom who wants a top that's more in control, tell me what you find hot, tell me what position you want me in, take the lead, but don't be a jerk. In return, I make sure I give moans of pleasure or tell him how good, or big, or how deep inside of me he is. And I always do my best to ensure he gets everything he wants and hopefully more every time lol
As a fellow bi bttm, thank you for putting into worlds what I could not! I feel the exact same way!
You're welcome!
I’m a bi bottom also.
Yeah I’m with you on the degradation stuff. I can’t get on board with that. Awesome explanation!
I agree with everything. I would add that being with women, most aren't going to appreciate my ass the way a male top will.
That's true for the most part. I did date a woman many, many years ago, before I ever even admitted to anyone that I was bicurious and before I ever had any interactions with another man. She somehow sensed that I would probably enjoy ass play and would often rub around and play with my hole as she went down on me. And one time, after we both had gotten really drunk. She really wanted to use her dildo on me. Like, she was really excited about the possibility of doing it, and so she convinced me (I was very hesitant at the time). She got so turned on laying me back, having me lift my legs and guiding that dildo into my hole. The only problem was she was a little too excited and just rammed that plastic cock right in to the hilt. I about jumped to the ceiling! Since I was also pretty drunk, that jab to my guts actually made me sick to my stomach, so I had to run to the bathroom to throw up. Needless to say, we didn't try that again
Definitely… love a hot muscular bottom. Deep voice, big dick, firm ass getting railed! Showing them who is really in charge!
🥵🥵🥵
Me. I'm into masculine "regular guys" who are bottoms
What do you mean by “regular guys”
straight-coded, most likely. not somebody who is femme-presenting
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lol
I haven’t had this issue as much. I’m fairly muscular but the tops I interact with tend to be more so than I am. If I’m on a dating app, I make sure to choose photos that show off my ass. I also just always say I’m a bottom.
Yeah I had to put bottom front and center cause it was a problem before. People don’t read the small stuff.
Yes haha then I just assume whoever matches with me is a top
Still weird though cause sometimes you meet up with someone and they’ll want you to top them too knowing you’re a bottom 🤦🏾♂️
That's typical toxic bottom behavior, not being respectful of other's boundaries.
Crazy people would even try it.
Or they just be making love to and petting your penis but not really interested on having normal human interactions with you. It gets freaky, yes.
You can usually get a feel for their energy through the messages.
Scruff is full of masc bottoms and masc tops who want them.
Never used that app maybe I’ll check it out.
I've noticed this too and it's really weird to me. For me though, personally, sure I have a soft spot for twinks and such but broadly speaking, I'll take the biggest, most masculine, a foot+ taller than me bottom I can. The power exchange is incredible and gets me off majorly so
Totally… don’t get me wrong I like my tall guys too but there is something crazy sexy about a little guy taking control. Such a turn on!
I think it’s just a personal thing—everyone has likes/dislikes. I’m 5’10” in shape, masc but am only attracted to masc energy, a bottom who is taller than me, more well hung and/or more muscular is a super turn on. Wish there there more of you.
Yes… people definitely have their personal preferences.
I don't have that issue thankfully..most guys I've met prefer that I'm masculine because they like bitching out men.
Yeah I’ve found plenty of folks I could mess around with but I was noticing a shift in profiles lately. At least online what people were requesting. I won’t hit someone up if I don’t fit the profile. So 🤷🏾♂️
Yea, I think most of the online profiles do say they want twinks. All of the guys that fuck me though are usually blank profiles.
I like masculine bottom to a man on street, a slut in between the sheet. The problem isnt masculinity for me, outside of bed, i dont really care. its just in bed , i need someone submissive , moaning femininely, acting slutty . I dont want them to look like a woman( thats a turn off) but i want them to act like one( in bed)
🤔 interesting. I feel you!
um…where you at? I need to meet a top like you! as a friend described me: I’m daddy in the street but mommy in the sheets 😉😉
My ideal fantasy is a masc hairy bottom with an insane furry hole. My bf comes pretty close, if he was muscular.
I personally prefer any guy thats just an everyday guy, but I also find it extremely hot when a big muscular guy submits to dick and prefers to bottom rather than top. Shame I haven't run into many much less been with one. I find the going against prejudices to be overwhelmingly hot.
It can be fun with things don’t fit the so called norm.
Oh absolutely.
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Older top dad here…VERY into masc bottoms. Especially enjoy older dads though do have a wide range of interest in bottoms.
Masculine bottoms are hot
Where are you!?? I love masculine bottoms. I’m more a bearish build and I get turned on by a masculine bottom.
I am not into fem explicitly, I don’t find cross dressing or youtube makeup guru faces attractive. But I am also not into masc. I don’t like hairy or big guys. I just like twinks personally 🤷♂️
What about twunks? Well shaved but clearly masculine.
It’s a yes 😉 Now I want one in front of me to make him squirm by eating his ass out 😈
Why can't I find a man like you!?😭
Hello 😌
I'm a top into masculine bottoms and I know exactly the phenomenon you've been seen online and I don't really get it lol. There has definitely been a shift towards like guys to be more femme (both as bottoms AND as tops) and I don't know exactly where it is coming from per se.
Glad someone else notices the same change. That’s awesome for those that fit that category. But not so much for me haha.
I also feel like most guys are into twinks these days.
Love masc bottoms - but can never find any!
Same here, 6’1”, 190, swam and played high school football. Guys are always surprised I’m a total bottom. I find a lot of tops aren’t looking for bottoms like me, but those who are… love it
It’s always nice when you find the ones who are 👌🏾.
Definitely! Especially when the top isn’t a stereotypical “top” in being gruff and super masculine. Part of the fun of being gay is playing around with these assumptions people often make.
The assumptions lol… don’t get me started haha.
I LOVE masculine bottoms. Message me!
I’m 5’6” and muscular (appear pretty masculine online). Don’t have that much of an issue. If anything, I get far more attention than when I was a short twink. I think guys use height as an indicator for masculinity/femininity, which they then correlate with sexual role . There are def guys out there for anything. I’d put “tall bottom” right in your tag line so people know right away. My friend is a bear and quite honestly, not the best looking guy I know. He gets far more sex than I do. We joke all the time that he exploits his “niche market”. To me, it’s all about filtering out the wrong ones and drawing in the right ones. You may have less interactions, but they’ll be higher quality
Definitely on board with filtering out the useless interactions. Yes I’ve noticed height seems to correlate with top or bottom for some people. Why I have no idea 🤷🏾♂️.
Very much so. I’m married to one!
Way to go!!!
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Well glad you kicked that addiction. Porn can be unhealthy sometimes.
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Sometimes I think it’s the area you live in vs world demographics. Cause I’ll always hear from people far away that I’d totally mesh with.
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That’s awesome! Glad to hear it!
lmfao reading this is so funny cause im a bottom twink and i think it's the opposite from my experience
Really?
well i live in a rural area in the middle of fucking brazil so maybe thats that but yeah im 23 and a virgin bottom twink
Yeah where you live matters!
lets switch places then 🤷♂️
Haha I might come some day!
I am into very masculine bottoms, and to be frank we as this type of tops tend to be pariahs... the stereotype of petit fem bottom and jock BBC top is way too common in the mainstream thought.
I prefer masculine bottoms. I find masculinity to be incredibly attractive- putting a man on his back or on all fours and making him moan for me is the sexiest thing. The way his body flexes and relaxes as I enter him, ready for me to take him, let me have him how I want. Or even play fighting for dominance, pushing him down and grinding against him, forcing him to submit to me then making him mine. I also find that a lot of guys like the fact that I'm so much taller then them- seems to add to the experience for them. I don't know what it is about masculinity, but I'd probably sleep with a tomboy before a femboy. Feminity just doesn't turn me on- not like masculinity.
Nice… how tall are you?
6'7
That’s hot 🥵
I’m in the same boat as you kinda. I don’t think I act super feminine, I love playing video games - like rainbow six siege, I’m 5’11, workout, i love breaking shit too 😂, and building / doing projects. I like sports such as soccer, volleyball, dodgeball, and I’ll watch college basketball w friends. I love tattoos, and plan to get way more.
I’m a top, and I love a more masculine/Masculine presenting bottom😮💨mainly because most fem/twink guys prefer to be/are smoother and I like my men with body hair
I'm living for masculine bottoms. 🤤
I do like masculine bottoms, buy so far my experience was limited, as I am not falling into the gym body drawer. I had one experience so far and it was hot, but mostly guided through Dom/sub power, which I am into. But couldn't yet replicate it as both via Grindr and Tinder my messages remain mostly unanswered. But we are there and as some other comments say, the variety of people we have being comfortable in themselves, we still face a lot of internal pressure to fit into roles.
I am strictly attracted to masculine guys, and 10000000% more if they're hairy. I'm 50/50 vers and my partner is like 90/10 almost pure bottom. We're both bearded lumberjack-looking guys. I'm more chubby bear. He's more otter, with more fur than a sasquatch (just the way I like it). I always joke with him that nobody would know he's gay unless they see him holding a cigarette like Joan fuckin Crawford 🤣 (or I guess if they heard his whimpers and moans when I'm in him)
I’m a top and I strictly prefer your kind of guys, masculine and fit preferably. No wonder why I just find other tops in chat while my bottom friends can’t lol
Well in general there are probably are more masculine tops than bottoms but the assumptions people make are so laughable. And why would someone need to be feminine to be a bottom.
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So true!
if you are white, bottom and masculine you will have a lot of tops and vers behind you, as a feminine guy I will tell you that I always have to be told that I should be more masculine to be more attractive 🙄 who understand them?😬
Yeah, I'm a masc daddy type, and I get pigeon holed into the dom daddy fetish role by younger guys. It's such a turn off--"oooo daddy, destroy my hole..."
I love a masculine DILF bottom.
Well I don’t think I’m old enough for the daddy category yet lol.
I love masculine dudebro bottoms too. :)
Masculine Bi Bottom here with the same issue. Any suggestions on how to ‘signal’ I am a bottom when I am out at bars and clubs? Handkerchief? Earring?
You're asking the wrong person lol. I'm no expert.
Me. I like guys. I want a guy. I don't like uber fem. Feminine aspects can be cute.
I love topping super tough masc men, such a powertrip
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I’m masc, somewhat hairy, bi, and vers. It’s so hard to find a nice smooth twink who wants to give my tight ass a good 6-8”. And I’m not even that picky, I would love any fit/slim, slightly smoother guy. But often the assumption is I must be a top or only into other masc guys. Anyways, feel free to slide into my DMs…
It can take a lot of work to find em. I’m a beefy, muscular, blue collar type bottom, but I didn’t come out as a bottom until about 8 yrs ago. I’m not tall, 5’9” ish, but I weigh 265 lbs, sometimes more, depending on work and weight training. I run a crew of between 20-30 guys depending on the job (I’m a foreman, I run heavy machinery). Most guys expect me to top but I only top my Boy, that’s it. We are into group sex, I like to bottom for a lot of guys and it took a long time to find guys that like my type. A lot say they’re tops just in the hopes that I’ll give in and fuck them. My Boy started putting together tops for me way back when Craigslist was a thing, and it’s taken yrs to get the group we have now.
What I wouldn't give for Masc bottoms..
Send them my way, all I have ran into is a bunch of fem bottoms demanding that I do something I don't like doing (Topping) and then throwing a fit when I refuse.