I assure you that it's not your fault. There are so many horny guys that tell you that they want you, then they end up jacking off & lose all interest. They make an excuse, or call you hurtful words, then flake on you. It happens way too often. There are a few that actually go through with it, but they're hard to come by.
Online hookup apps are a huge headache.
* Flakes.
* Roleplayers.
* Picky guys who will agree to meet but then see some new profile that they prefer so they will tell you nevermind or flake and then they'll start talking to this new hotter guy who will likely end up being a flake or a roleplayer themselves...
Also - different guys like different things. In person at a cruising space, some guys are super into me, some guys want nothing to do with me.
Most reddit gay spaces have a preponderance of guys who are only interested in sex chat. Sex chat is the most boring fucking thing on the planet once you get used to hookups. It's like you're hungry and someone is like "hey wanna look at pictures of saltines with me?" But those guys will say anything it takes to keep you engaged in the chat until they fill a kleenex.
Try to learn to love and appreciate yourself based on your own view of yourself and to not let others decide for you.
I'm well aware I'm not everyone's cup of tea, I'm not gonna let others decide how I feel about myself.
There's a world of guys out there who are real and like to fuck, keep at it and I'm sure you'll establish a network of FWBs.
Everything normalguy said is my experience. Most are jerking off and not serious. I got used to asking guys straight away if they're looking and whether they're looking now or later. Majority of the time if you have to trade pics and they're not looking within an hour, it won't happen.
I've gotten off apps and am just meeting people at events/bars to have sex with. That and if you do have a successful online hookup, hit that person back up again for a regular thing.
Hooking up has gotten harder. Lots don't want to host. They don't want to drive. They don't want to use condoms. They just want to jerk off online to nudes. It's funny.
It's not that they don't want to host, they can't. Housing is prohibitively expensive for most to have their own place unless you are in a small town/rural area. And it's only going to get worse before it gets better #latestagecapitalism
I've hosted with roommates / tenants. For me it's no big deal but I get how others can't because they live with family or are embarrassed if they have roommates (or have no sex rules with roommates, etc.)
Me I just never gave a fuck lol.
It went from bad to worse over the past year or two. It's almost entirely a waste of time.
Which is crazy, cuz it's *sex*. It's *supposed* to be a fun thing lol
A huge, and I mean H U G E percentage of dudes on Grindr are just horny people looking to jack off and enjoy some dirty talk/pics, and have absolutely 0 intentions of ever actually meeting in person.
Do you live in a small community? Because, based on your pics, it looks like you are really in good shape and you have a great peen! Can't speak on the "ugly " part without seeing a face pic but if its as nice as the private parts, you are excellent... fk the guys who are missing out... their loss.
Maybe what’s ugly is your personality, not your physical. Not saying it is lol but I’ve been with enough “hot” guys with the best physique and face only to be immediately turned off by their personality.
That's always a possibility. What are some of your biggest issues/turn offs with a bottom's personality?
Edit: I mean like, what turns you off *before* actually meeting him?
I assure you that it's not your fault. There are so many horny guys that tell you that they want you, then they end up jacking off & lose all interest. They make an excuse, or call you hurtful words, then flake on you. It happens way too often. There are a few that actually go through with it, but they're hard to come by.
True. Some guys are just horny and inexperienced. More experienced ones tend to now waste cum in a tissue and rather shoot it in an ass or a mouth.
Online hookup apps are a huge headache. * Flakes. * Roleplayers. * Picky guys who will agree to meet but then see some new profile that they prefer so they will tell you nevermind or flake and then they'll start talking to this new hotter guy who will likely end up being a flake or a roleplayer themselves... Also - different guys like different things. In person at a cruising space, some guys are super into me, some guys want nothing to do with me. Most reddit gay spaces have a preponderance of guys who are only interested in sex chat. Sex chat is the most boring fucking thing on the planet once you get used to hookups. It's like you're hungry and someone is like "hey wanna look at pictures of saltines with me?" But those guys will say anything it takes to keep you engaged in the chat until they fill a kleenex. Try to learn to love and appreciate yourself based on your own view of yourself and to not let others decide for you. I'm well aware I'm not everyone's cup of tea, I'm not gonna let others decide how I feel about myself. There's a world of guys out there who are real and like to fuck, keep at it and I'm sure you'll establish a network of FWBs.
Everything normalguy said is my experience. Most are jerking off and not serious. I got used to asking guys straight away if they're looking and whether they're looking now or later. Majority of the time if you have to trade pics and they're not looking within an hour, it won't happen. I've gotten off apps and am just meeting people at events/bars to have sex with. That and if you do have a successful online hookup, hit that person back up again for a regular thing.
Hooking up has gotten harder. Lots don't want to host. They don't want to drive. They don't want to use condoms. They just want to jerk off online to nudes. It's funny.
It's not that they don't want to host, they can't. Housing is prohibitively expensive for most to have their own place unless you are in a small town/rural area. And it's only going to get worse before it gets better #latestagecapitalism
I've hosted with roommates / tenants. For me it's no big deal but I get how others can't because they live with family or are embarrassed if they have roommates (or have no sex rules with roommates, etc.) Me I just never gave a fuck lol.
It went from bad to worse over the past year or two. It's almost entirely a waste of time. Which is crazy, cuz it's *sex*. It's *supposed* to be a fun thing lol
A huge, and I mean H U G E percentage of dudes on Grindr are just horny people looking to jack off and enjoy some dirty talk/pics, and have absolutely 0 intentions of ever actually meeting in person.
Do you live in a small community? Because, based on your pics, it looks like you are really in good shape and you have a great peen! Can't speak on the "ugly " part without seeing a face pic but if its as nice as the private parts, you are excellent... fk the guys who are missing out... their loss.
Guys flake all the time. I just had one the other day. We sat and talked and he was all in then the next day said I don’t think we fit.
Lots of guys on gay dating sites are straight(ish) and have no interest in actually hooking up, it's just their wank fodder.
Maybe what’s ugly is your personality, not your physical. Not saying it is lol but I’ve been with enough “hot” guys with the best physique and face only to be immediately turned off by their personality.
Honestly i get told alot im easy to talk to very laid back person by girls and guys
That's always a possibility. What are some of your biggest issues/turn offs with a bottom's personality? Edit: I mean like, what turns you off *before* actually meeting him?
That rarely happens. It’s usually in person where I find it transparent.