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sharpshooter-13

Kink is about transgressing. Obviously we prefer what feels the best to us, but if we identify as a top or a bottom, the occasional moment of versatility feels naughty. “I’m a top I shouldn’t be enjoying being taken by this guy!” “I’m a bottom; I shouldn’t be topping this guy bigger than me!” That dissonance between the narrative we tell ourselves and the “transgression” action against that identity creates sexual tension that is fun and desirable.


a_random_gay_001

Every cumdump hardcore bottom I know loves fucking other cumdumps!


Dear_Definition7699

Guess thats me, a cumdumps cumdump ☺️


What_Is_EET

When people list as a top on an app, it means that with hookups, that's what they're looking for. Like me, I only bottom inside of a relationship or with a close friend. Some are the opposite, they're more comfortable bottoming with hookups for whatever reason. Guys who participate in all aspects of sex are definitely better at it. The best "Dom" I've met also did a lot of sub play, because he'd mimic what worked for him.


Dear_Definition7699

I totally get that there arent a lot of people that are SUPER strongly just one thing. I wanna hear from everyone but Im most interested in those because thats what this guy was haha


jay7171

I am probably not the first, and won't be the last to say this, but I bottom primarily because I just can't get or stay hard enough to be a top. I'd love to top if I could. As a kid I could get an erection at the drop of a dime. When I was barely a teen, I remember there was nothing that felt more incredible than fucking another guy, listening to him when I'd hit the right spot, and unloading inside him. The whole mental thing of dumping my seed inside him and knowing he'd be walking around with it was a mental high. BJs were great too, but still not as good as fucking. Somewhere in the following years, it just became more difficult being able to top. Happily I enjoy bottoming and I have defaulted to that. I figure my erection issues are a combination of age, crappy diet, and likely a dry handed death grip when I masturbate, which I do two or three times a day. I have the drive, but not the ability anymore. I can't do anything about my age, but I am working to improve my diet, and I've taken to using a fleshlight working on regaining some of the lost sensitivity. I probably should back down on the frequency of masturbating, but damnit, it just feels great. TL;DR I'd love to top but can't. I'd be having a lot more sex if I could get erections that were strong enough to penetrate a guy.


Dear_Definition7699

Yeah this guy said he doesn’t stay hard much normally and was loving how hard he stayed with me 🤭 I’ve also been with bi guys who resort to bottoming with men for similar reasons and similarly enjoyed staying hard topping a guy for once And yes omg I bet even getting down to once a day would make a huge difference haha but I can’t blame you. Its really for the best that most men have refractory periods. I don’t, which can make me worthless some days lol


Smile_lifeisgood

Normally I'm just really chasing either the fun I had in one awesome flip FWB relationship I had before I moved or this one experience with a bottom/top married couple where I went into the threesome expecting to top both and then I felt a cockhead press into my hole while I was fucking the bottom. I felt very seduced and I was like, drunk on arousal so I was like "ok go for it." Currently, I only get into this mood like 2 times a year for a week or three. And even when I do bottom I'm not doing marathon bottoming sessions. Topping someone while my asshole is slick and throbbing from being fucked/bred is phenomenal.


Dear_Definition7699

Mmmmm drunk on arousal, my favorite kind of non alcoholic drunk hahaha


Iamlosingmyerection

For me it's always been conflicting, im bi and my philosophy has always been I will top when I'm with a girl but I will always bottom when I'm with a guy. I think it also has to do with the fact the it takes me a really long time to cum when topping, like I can last 45 mins or longer and a lot of the time my partners won't even make it that long, that's also bare, if I use a condom there's basically no shor that I can finish. Most of my experience with guys has just been hookups so we use condoms. While with girls I've had more long term relationships where we get comfortable to not need them. With all the guys I've been with I've only even bottomed, maybe if I was in a more long term relationship I'd be more willing to try topping but if its just a one time thing I'd rather bottom.