I don't really like it when people aren't paying attention during sex, like you invited me over to do it with you and you aren't even gonna be in the moment with me? I would be kind of upset.
I guess I'm in the minority on this one. I think it's rude as hell. I want someone who is going to be fully present in the moment during sex. Afterwards? Knock yourself out bud, but during? That feels massively inconsiderate, but I get that some people find that to be a turn on.
Its very rude, even its just a casual encounter. wouldn’t kill a guy to be the least bit romantic as to simply silence notifications from the slut/hookup apps during the act of boning.
I’ve had days when I’m super horny and hearing it I usually ask the guy if he wants to invite someone else. And in all fairness if I’m there to serve him and I didn’t cum I’ll probably check into it as soon as I’m in the car again
Never happened to me, but I would find it rude, even if we never agreed to only see each other. I'd also be hesitant to see a guy if he was having a lot of partners.
Yeah, your last sentence is def a bit of a concern now that I’m thinking about it. He didn’t have grindr notifs w/ sound on the last few times so I had no clue but this guy was getting dinged like crazy.
I do see why with him and he showed me his last test result in march and on prep but he’s prob getting way more than what he gets from me weekly lol
im not a super attention seeking person, but I'd still be pretty pissed if i was just being ignored.
i know there are some guys who are into that kind of play "treat me like a toy" and all that, but if I've cleared my schedule, invited you over/came over and given oral I'd at least like some engagement beyond a dick in my mouth.
if that was a first-time hookup, I'd block them the second they left. with the two of you having multiple hookups going into FWB territory, I'd suggest being a bit cautious and seeing how the next meeting goes if you decide to continue.
he used you to cum and then didn't do anything to get you there as well (after specifically agreeing to do so beforehand). this is something they you apparently are not into, and hadn't agreed on. FWB is a mutual relationship. he got his benefit, and you didn't get yours.
communication is usually just the best option, so I'd mention to him (especially if he messages asking for another meetup) that you didn't appreciate him seemingly setting up other meetups while you were going down on him or him declining to help you finish like he had said he would prior. let him apologize, but if he does it again, you need to stand your ground and cut him off.
Thanks for this, really needed to read this because I’ve been so dick drunk on his dick since yesterday still lol it’s just such a good dick and he’s so sexy.
I def do need to really think about this fwb relationship, but I know he’s not gonna care and just brush it off w a joke if I say anything about him being on grindr and I hate confrontation… If I do see him on grindr again next time, will def need to tell him to at least turn that shit off while we’re playing.
Him not rimming me makes me more upset than anything else though lowkey. Hurried me to get to him with sexy voice texts and how badly he wants to eat my ass then 15 minutes into getting his dick sucked, he wanted to cum on my ass! ugh, i begged to at least suck him off until he finishes but he said only if i swallow and i wasn’t in the mood to do so - so he instead jerked himself off at the end and came on my ass. Def the most disappointing meetup w this guy so far
im gonna be honest with you. He just sounds like a douch.
I'd personally drop him as a FWB, maybe keep him as a dick dial-up if i can't find another meetup.
assholes like him deserve to get ghosted. there's plenty of nice dicks on nicer guys.
I once had a hook up that, while he was riding me, answered his phone (days before the apps) to coordinate his next meet up...literally while my dick was inside him he was making arrangements. So, it could be worse.
It happen to me yesterday! He was on Grindr while I was giving him head. It turn me on but at the end I was like sad maybe cus I didn’t give him
A good bj
It personally turns me on but I have an objectification kink so I can't really speak for anyone else's but I do feel a guy doesn't go on grindr to connect emotionally so I think it shouldn't be surprising or reprimanded
Ngl, mute that shit! I know a lot of people are “emotionally removed” from sex at this point but its still totally rude and it makes you look like a huge hoe! lol.
I think you’re over thinking it. I think it’s hot. He clearly chose me if we are together. Sometimes we invited a guy he was chatting to to come over. I’ve also have been chatting or grindr has been going off while I’m with guys as well. Again, sometimes they come over to join. My advice, get outta your head. You’ll be able to cum and you’ll have more fun if you just go with the flow
As long as I'm getting what I want I don't really care what they are doing. Be it texting, watching porn, on Grindr, ect.
I think that’s the most rational way of viewing this, thanks.
I don't really like it when people aren't paying attention during sex, like you invited me over to do it with you and you aren't even gonna be in the moment with me? I would be kind of upset.
I guess I'm in the minority on this one. I think it's rude as hell. I want someone who is going to be fully present in the moment during sex. Afterwards? Knock yourself out bud, but during? That feels massively inconsiderate, but I get that some people find that to be a turn on.
Its very rude, even its just a casual encounter. wouldn’t kill a guy to be the least bit romantic as to simply silence notifications from the slut/hookup apps during the act of boning.
I always tell whoever I’m hooking up to bring friends.. or strangers. It’s hot to be getting the deed done with one guy and then in walks another.
The more the merrier. Although it is nice to be the sole focus of a buddy.
I’ve had days when I’m super horny and hearing it I usually ask the guy if he wants to invite someone else. And in all fairness if I’m there to serve him and I didn’t cum I’ll probably check into it as soon as I’m in the car again
Thought about doing that, but was annoyed haha. Really should’ve
Put it in the request for the next time. Haha. Either way you’re in the same room with them now. You’re already one up the rest of them.
I guess some people ike it but I think its lame af. You cant put your damn phone down for a few minutes while you get your dick sucked? f'in loser.
Never happened to me, but I would find it rude, even if we never agreed to only see each other. I'd also be hesitant to see a guy if he was having a lot of partners.
Yeah, your last sentence is def a bit of a concern now that I’m thinking about it. He didn’t have grindr notifs w/ sound on the last few times so I had no clue but this guy was getting dinged like crazy. I do see why with him and he showed me his last test result in march and on prep but he’s prob getting way more than what he gets from me weekly lol
Maybe he likes the attention and isn't meeting at ton of guys.
Hope that’s the case haha
im not a super attention seeking person, but I'd still be pretty pissed if i was just being ignored. i know there are some guys who are into that kind of play "treat me like a toy" and all that, but if I've cleared my schedule, invited you over/came over and given oral I'd at least like some engagement beyond a dick in my mouth. if that was a first-time hookup, I'd block them the second they left. with the two of you having multiple hookups going into FWB territory, I'd suggest being a bit cautious and seeing how the next meeting goes if you decide to continue. he used you to cum and then didn't do anything to get you there as well (after specifically agreeing to do so beforehand). this is something they you apparently are not into, and hadn't agreed on. FWB is a mutual relationship. he got his benefit, and you didn't get yours. communication is usually just the best option, so I'd mention to him (especially if he messages asking for another meetup) that you didn't appreciate him seemingly setting up other meetups while you were going down on him or him declining to help you finish like he had said he would prior. let him apologize, but if he does it again, you need to stand your ground and cut him off.
Thanks for this, really needed to read this because I’ve been so dick drunk on his dick since yesterday still lol it’s just such a good dick and he’s so sexy. I def do need to really think about this fwb relationship, but I know he’s not gonna care and just brush it off w a joke if I say anything about him being on grindr and I hate confrontation… If I do see him on grindr again next time, will def need to tell him to at least turn that shit off while we’re playing. Him not rimming me makes me more upset than anything else though lowkey. Hurried me to get to him with sexy voice texts and how badly he wants to eat my ass then 15 minutes into getting his dick sucked, he wanted to cum on my ass! ugh, i begged to at least suck him off until he finishes but he said only if i swallow and i wasn’t in the mood to do so - so he instead jerked himself off at the end and came on my ass. Def the most disappointing meetup w this guy so far
im gonna be honest with you. He just sounds like a douch. I'd personally drop him as a FWB, maybe keep him as a dick dial-up if i can't find another meetup. assholes like him deserve to get ghosted. there's plenty of nice dicks on nicer guys.
I agree. def gonna do my best to not message him but if he hits me up, I’m gonna be a little weak lol
That's pretty hot. I like thinking about who's coming next!
Was he getting notifications and ignoring them or was he taking his phone out to check messages as you were sucking him off?
In the beginning, the latter, but then it was just off to the side & he was very much into it.
I once had a hook up that, while he was riding me, answered his phone (days before the apps) to coordinate his next meet up...literally while my dick was inside him he was making arrangements. So, it could be worse.
It happen to me yesterday! He was on Grindr while I was giving him head. It turn me on but at the end I was like sad maybe cus I didn’t give him A good bj
I just hope he's inviting more guys over to get blown by me.
It personally turns me on but I have an objectification kink so I can't really speak for anyone else's but I do feel a guy doesn't go on grindr to connect emotionally so I think it shouldn't be surprising or reprimanded
Depends on the hookup. I mostly wouldn’t really care unless we also decided to just hang out/chill and fuck in the meanwhile
I kinda feel disrespected and am instantly afraid of doing it raw
That is grinder
I guess I’ve just been fortunate with all of my guys before him.
Happened to me once but he’s just playing with his phone. Did it the first time I met him too. Just a bit weird.
Ngl, mute that shit! I know a lot of people are “emotionally removed” from sex at this point but its still totally rude and it makes you look like a huge hoe! lol.
I think you’re over thinking it. I think it’s hot. He clearly chose me if we are together. Sometimes we invited a guy he was chatting to to come over. I’ve also have been chatting or grindr has been going off while I’m with guys as well. Again, sometimes they come over to join. My advice, get outta your head. You’ll be able to cum and you’ll have more fun if you just go with the flow