As a top you notice it. As a bottom you dont necessarily.
This is called stealthing, and is a form of sexual assault.
Are you on prep? If not you have to go get PEP asap, you have 72hrs since the incident.
Edit: some guys have reported not feeling as a top and feeling it as a bottom below, so it might be accidental still.
I’ve noticed every single time and it’s only happened three times I can remember, all with women. If drugs or alcohol were involved I can see a genuine mistake happening, otherwise it’s pretty unlikely. That said, I’m uncut and probably have more sensitivity than a cut guy.
Top here. Very definitely it feels different with and without a condom. (It’s different enough that a lot of guys have trouble staying hard in a condom.)
Yes, do get tested. But be aware that it can take a minimum of 14 days and up to 3 months before an HIV infection can be detected by testing, so it would be wise to test around day 14 and again in 3 months just to be sure.
That said, there really is no need for panicking that you have HIV for that whole 3 months (been there, so I know the feeling!). If you have sex with an HIV-positive partner, the chances of getting infected are (IIRC) 1% as a bottom and 0.1% as a top. So get tested, learn about PEP, and ideally get on PrEP, and perhaps be slightly more judicious about who you have sex with in the future to avoid people who would intentionally stealth you.
PreP is pre-exposure prophylaxis.
He didn’t say PreP though he said PEP which is post-exposure prophylaxis.
It’s essentially a cocktail of drugs at high concentrations that flood your body to prevent replication and HIV infection if you’ve been exposed and potentially have virus replicating in your body. If taken within a window of 72 hours it can prevent the virus from taking hold on your body and essentially keep you from getting HIV in your body.
Wanna expand on the top experience from this: When I have gone intentionally without a condom (consensual of course!!!) I definitely feel the difference.
The very few times the condom has slipped off (2, mayyyyybe 3 times, but memory isn't great), I have not consciously noticed a difference, and cannot tell there was a difference looking back. However, after finishing, of course I told my partner (now SO), and took appropriate precautions.
BUT. also to note, is that in these times, I was \*very\* high and/or drunk (this was that party period in my life, and I went so goddamn hard compared to what I can stand now). So maybe if you're sober it's easier to feel the change. Idk.
An intact guy can most definitely feel the difference. The condom can most definitely come off during thrusting. But it is the responsibility of the top to stop immediately and either fix the condom, replace it, get consent to approve. But just continuing to “finish” is not an option.
Not really. It has happened with me that it I'm doing it aggressively and/or if the condom was not my size, it did slip off.
That being said, ONE can instantly feel the difference that the condom is off. In my case, I put a new one.
Not necessarily in every instance, and this was my wake-up call (ohhhhh so many years ago) to bring my own condoms. The bottom provided some unbranded condom and a few thrusts in, I felt it "go." (When my dick was not covered, I could feel the sloshing around in his butt.) I pulled out and true enough, only the "ring" around my dick was visible but condom, as such, no longer existed. We stopped, I didn't bring a condom, and he had no others from a familiar brand. We called it quits for the session. When I returned (and since then), I travel/bring my own condoms.
I've had a condom break while I was with a girl and knew instantly and im cut(lucky cut as told by my baby stories of my moms girlfriends asking if i was indeed cut cause i look uncut so Mileage may very).
There is absolutely no excuse for anyone to "lose" a condom period and anyone that tells you they can't notice are straight up lying or must have such fucked nerve endings below the belt that they need hospitalization or a treatment plan for the lack of feeling
It’s actually possible he didn’t realize. It happened to me once while topping — it was feeling better without it, but it was after already fucking for a long time and so I subconsciously thought the improvement in sensation was just from me getting closer to orgasm, so didn’t even occur to me to check if the condom was still on. Especially didn’t think of it because it hadn’t happened before. So, it’s possible he’s not lying, but I don’t know how common my experience is.
I’ve had a condom come off and I’ve had them to break. Both times it was with a woman. I knew when it came off, but only because I saw it when it happened. When the condom broke, I had no idea. I am circumcised so I have no idea about someone who is in tact. I would refrain from calling someone a liar without proof though.
Most definitely, once the tip of the condom broke and the feeling was incredibly better. I instantly had to pull out and check. Sadly I had to stop, but I did finger and make out with them until they got off.
I'm a top and I think I would notice but I've definitely had on experience when the condom broke and I wasn't aware. My head was exposed but the shaft was still in the condom. If you lube up your dick before putting the condom on or you have a lot of spit on your dick before putting a condom on the sensations can be hard to differentiate.
Yes it feels different.
When I was young and incredibly inexperienced, my first girlfriend and I were having sex. She was not adequately lubricated and, as I was pushing in, I felt this moment where all of a sudden the resistance stopped and it was a lot smoother. Being incredibly inexperienced, I just thought she had loosened up, so I kept going. It wasn't until after I had ejaculated that I pulled out and realized that the condom had broken.
So, yes, there is a huge difference in sensations, but (and I'm just giving this guy the benefit of the doubt), maybe he, like I, was just so inexperienced that he didn't realize what had happened.
That’s called stealthing. It’s actually sexual assault. In Australia where I live it’s a criminal offence. You consented to have sex with a condom not to have raw sex. I fail to see how he didn’t notice losing the condom. When it slips down your cock you can feel it around your helmet whilst you’re fucking.
If you both agreed to use condom then there’s no way he should continue raw and cum inside you. If he’s a one night stand I’d go and get a full sexual health screening.
As someone who primarily tops I 100% know when the condom slips off. Also, as a conscientious top, I check frequently during sex as condoms can come off during thrusting. He knew, and he blew his load in you anyways because he wanted to, and that’s shit.
As a bottom, you MIGHT not notice. I would. And I wouldn't believe any top who said it slipped off and they didn't know the difference. Unless they were drunk or stoned, bareback feels diff for sure.
i cant fuck with a condom because it feels that different for me, I can’t stay hard with it. Without a condom it’s so wet and slippery and it’s so easy to keep a boner, so yes, you can DEFINITELY tell a difference
Huge difference.
Condom numbs half of the feeling when fucking
And when you have a condom on its got a tight sleeve around all of it, like a tight ass when when you pull out.
But raw you feel the looseness when you slide out & the tightness of the ass when you slide in.
Massive difference and can't mistake the 2
The only time a condom slipped off during sex for me. I was bottom, my boyfriend stopped immediately to tell me what happened and we fixed the issue. I didn't know, he knew immediately. Take that information as you will. Many others have told you what stealthing is and I also think you might have been a victim of this as well.
It’s almost certainly a lie, it sounds very fishy. A condom doesn’t just “slip off.”
That said, in my own experience I have had a condom break mid-topping and not notice in the heat of the moment, and if I lube my dick before putting a condom on (which is what you’re supposed to be doing) it feels less like I’m wearing a condom which would make it less distinguish able from bareback sex.
Where was the condom after he finished? If the condom was inside you it's possible he didn't notice that it had come off. If the condom ended up outside it's hard to see how he didn't notice and/or possible help it come off (stealthing).
FIRSTLY, any top can tell the difference if it's on or off, at the point of first insertion - though he may find it harder to tell if it comes off amidst all that in and out plunging. As a 'bot bro' I can tell any textural difference, as well. Me and the BF have ALWAYS "barebacked" - between the two of us - for decades. Outside of the relationship, we've each been strictly safe with "condom only" when it came to penetration
We've BOTH been freed up, now, with PrEP, taken strictly as directed - to "bareback" with any other dudes. PrEP is a godsend for outside 1 on 1's to 3somes and more.
As a top you notice it. As a bottom you dont necessarily. This is called stealthing, and is a form of sexual assault. Are you on prep? If not you have to go get PEP asap, you have 72hrs since the incident. Edit: some guys have reported not feeling as a top and feeling it as a bottom below, so it might be accidental still.
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I’ve had condom come off with a woman and didn’t notice. So I wouldn’t jump immediately to assault. Unless the condom wasn’t in you.
I’ve noticed every single time and it’s only happened three times I can remember, all with women. If drugs or alcohol were involved I can see a genuine mistake happening, otherwise it’s pretty unlikely. That said, I’m uncut and probably have more sensitivity than a cut guy.
Top here. Very definitely it feels different with and without a condom. (It’s different enough that a lot of guys have trouble staying hard in a condom.) Yes, do get tested. But be aware that it can take a minimum of 14 days and up to 3 months before an HIV infection can be detected by testing, so it would be wise to test around day 14 and again in 3 months just to be sure. That said, there really is no need for panicking that you have HIV for that whole 3 months (been there, so I know the feeling!). If you have sex with an HIV-positive partner, the chances of getting infected are (IIRC) 1% as a bottom and 0.1% as a top. So get tested, learn about PEP, and ideally get on PrEP, and perhaps be slightly more judicious about who you have sex with in the future to avoid people who would intentionally stealth you.
Sorry but that is a lie, I bottom and I can feel the difference between condom and no condom.
What's prep?
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HIV infection specifically.
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PreP is pre-exposure prophylaxis. He didn’t say PreP though he said PEP which is post-exposure prophylaxis. It’s essentially a cocktail of drugs at high concentrations that flood your body to prevent replication and HIV infection if you’ve been exposed and potentially have virus replicating in your body. If taken within a window of 72 hours it can prevent the virus from taking hold on your body and essentially keep you from getting HIV in your body.
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Wanna expand on the top experience from this: When I have gone intentionally without a condom (consensual of course!!!) I definitely feel the difference. The very few times the condom has slipped off (2, mayyyyybe 3 times, but memory isn't great), I have not consciously noticed a difference, and cannot tell there was a difference looking back. However, after finishing, of course I told my partner (now SO), and took appropriate precautions. BUT. also to note, is that in these times, I was \*very\* high and/or drunk (this was that party period in my life, and I went so goddamn hard compared to what I can stand now). So maybe if you're sober it's easier to feel the change. Idk.
That’s a lie. I feel like I’ve been with enough man to know they feel the difference 100%.
That muthafuckers a liar stay away from him
Pretty sure that’s a crime.
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\*headpats*
An intact guy can most definitely feel the difference. The condom can most definitely come off during thrusting. But it is the responsibility of the top to stop immediately and either fix the condom, replace it, get consent to approve. But just continuing to “finish” is not an option.
"somehow the condom slipped off" No, he took it off.
Not really. It has happened with me that it I'm doing it aggressively and/or if the condom was not my size, it did slip off. That being said, ONE can instantly feel the difference that the condom is off. In my case, I put a new one.
Not necessarily in every instance, and this was my wake-up call (ohhhhh so many years ago) to bring my own condoms. The bottom provided some unbranded condom and a few thrusts in, I felt it "go." (When my dick was not covered, I could feel the sloshing around in his butt.) I pulled out and true enough, only the "ring" around my dick was visible but condom, as such, no longer existed. We stopped, I didn't bring a condom, and he had no others from a familiar brand. We called it quits for the session. When I returned (and since then), I travel/bring my own condoms.
Absolutely yes, you can feel the difference. Edit: to clarify: I am talking as a top.
Fuck yes. I definitely feel the difference. But I'm uncut. Having a condom on makes a *big* difference to me. Maybe cut men don't notice as much?
Pretty sure it is a no. Cut or uncut, you know when you don't wear condom.
I've had a condom break while I was with a girl and knew instantly and im cut(lucky cut as told by my baby stories of my moms girlfriends asking if i was indeed cut cause i look uncut so Mileage may very). There is absolutely no excuse for anyone to "lose" a condom period and anyone that tells you they can't notice are straight up lying or must have such fucked nerve endings below the belt that they need hospitalization or a treatment plan for the lack of feeling
It’s actually possible he didn’t realize. It happened to me once while topping — it was feeling better without it, but it was after already fucking for a long time and so I subconsciously thought the improvement in sensation was just from me getting closer to orgasm, so didn’t even occur to me to check if the condom was still on. Especially didn’t think of it because it hadn’t happened before. So, it’s possible he’s not lying, but I don’t know how common my experience is.
I’ve had a condom come off and I’ve had them to break. Both times it was with a woman. I knew when it came off, but only because I saw it when it happened. When the condom broke, I had no idea. I am circumcised so I have no idea about someone who is in tact. I would refrain from calling someone a liar without proof though.
I'm not sure if you would notice it, if the condom slips off... But there is a hire difference between raw and with condom...
They.Can.Tell.
Definitely way more as a top than bottom. He's lying.
Most definitely, once the tip of the condom broke and the feeling was incredibly better. I instantly had to pull out and check. Sadly I had to stop, but I did finger and make out with them until they got off.
My boyfriend’s cock is very veiny so I notice the difference. A bit more friction and more Lube is needed
He should have noticed though. Easily
Maybe you feel a difference inserting, but after fucking for a while definitely not
I'm a top and I think I would notice but I've definitely had on experience when the condom broke and I wasn't aware. My head was exposed but the shaft was still in the condom. If you lube up your dick before putting the condom on or you have a lot of spit on your dick before putting a condom on the sensations can be hard to differentiate.
Yes it feels different. When I was young and incredibly inexperienced, my first girlfriend and I were having sex. She was not adequately lubricated and, as I was pushing in, I felt this moment where all of a sudden the resistance stopped and it was a lot smoother. Being incredibly inexperienced, I just thought she had loosened up, so I kept going. It wasn't until after I had ejaculated that I pulled out and realized that the condom had broken. So, yes, there is a huge difference in sensations, but (and I'm just giving this guy the benefit of the doubt), maybe he, like I, was just so inexperienced that he didn't realize what had happened.
That’s called stealthing. It’s actually sexual assault. In Australia where I live it’s a criminal offence. You consented to have sex with a condom not to have raw sex. I fail to see how he didn’t notice losing the condom. When it slips down your cock you can feel it around your helmet whilst you’re fucking. If you both agreed to use condom then there’s no way he should continue raw and cum inside you. If he’s a one night stand I’d go and get a full sexual health screening.
As someone who primarily tops I 100% know when the condom slips off. Also, as a conscientious top, I check frequently during sex as condoms can come off during thrusting. He knew, and he blew his load in you anyways because he wanted to, and that’s shit.
as for me a bottom yes you can feel the difference weather they are cut are uncut are let me say i can feel the difference
He’s lying. fucking with a condom has a totally different feeling and less fun.. assuming that’s why he did it and played it off
Yeah you can 10000% feel the difference please get tested. That is SA and it needs to be resolved.
He’s lying. There is a very very very obvious textural difference.
As a bottom, you MIGHT not notice. I would. And I wouldn't believe any top who said it slipped off and they didn't know the difference. Unless they were drunk or stoned, bareback feels diff for sure.
Of course…
Yes you can feel the difference. He should not have done that to you. I’m so sorry.
i cant fuck with a condom because it feels that different for me, I can’t stay hard with it. Without a condom it’s so wet and slippery and it’s so easy to keep a boner, so yes, you can DEFINITELY tell a difference
Huge difference. Condom numbs half of the feeling when fucking And when you have a condom on its got a tight sleeve around all of it, like a tight ass when when you pull out. But raw you feel the looseness when you slide out & the tightness of the ass when you slide in. Massive difference and can't mistake the 2
The only time a condom slipped off during sex for me. I was bottom, my boyfriend stopped immediately to tell me what happened and we fixed the issue. I didn't know, he knew immediately. Take that information as you will. Many others have told you what stealthing is and I also think you might have been a victim of this as well.
It’s almost certainly a lie, it sounds very fishy. A condom doesn’t just “slip off.” That said, in my own experience I have had a condom break mid-topping and not notice in the heat of the moment, and if I lube my dick before putting a condom on (which is what you’re supposed to be doing) it feels less like I’m wearing a condom which would make it less distinguish able from bareback sex.
Where was the condom after he finished? If the condom was inside you it's possible he didn't notice that it had come off. If the condom ended up outside it's hard to see how he didn't notice and/or possible help it come off (stealthing).
I feel the difference as a top. Not saying he is lying but it doesn't sound right to me.
Im a bottom and never use them. I dont like it
FIRSTLY, any top can tell the difference if it's on or off, at the point of first insertion - though he may find it harder to tell if it comes off amidst all that in and out plunging. As a 'bot bro' I can tell any textural difference, as well. Me and the BF have ALWAYS "barebacked" - between the two of us - for decades. Outside of the relationship, we've each been strictly safe with "condom only" when it came to penetration We've BOTH been freed up, now, with PrEP, taken strictly as directed - to "bareback" with any other dudes. PrEP is a godsend for outside 1 on 1's to 3somes and more.