Girth can be a much bigger problem than length. Like, with length, you only need to use as much as necessary, but with girth there's really no alternative.
I had a really, really lovely partner. But we had this problem. It was painful. And there wasn't really an obvious solve. Beyond continuing to be in love, and in horrible physical pain, whenever fucking was to happen.
We broke up. I still feel awful about it. I loved him a lot. He's a very cool person.
When I had done it with the same person, my body couldnāt even let theirs in first time without me just tightening so much with tension & pain, but second time it was much better with minor blood. Still not worth it though š
Yeah, I'm a big guy that's pretty damn average in that department, and I have literally had a couple of women sigh in relief upon noticing that I was average. I have come to the conclusion that the only people who care about big dicks are other men.
Your conclusion is correct. My ex was a big guy in every department, and it made sex feel like such a chore. It had to only be in certain positions, and even then, it wasn't all that fun. My husband, on the other hand, is average sized, and he's perfect. No notes. Just a brilliant man in every possible way.
Dude, I'm a lady and we love average! Great for deepthroating, hand jobs, all the fun positions, anal etc.
Average means we get to do EVERYTHING with you.
Well above average means we get to do less with you.
If you're a variety person, then average is the best!!
Ugh one time I was having sex with someone who had an abnormally large girth (bigger than Iāve ever seen) and it slipped out and went into my asshole and I SCREAMED. That was one of the worst pains I have ever felt. My asshole was bleeding that night and the next day. It was barely enjoyable with PIV, nevermind unlubed surprise butthole.
Edit: Iām loving all the comments sharing their similar experiences! Iām so sorry for you all!! But we live to tell the tale!
Happened to me and it was so painful and shocking that out of instinct (I guess) I jumped and slapped my partner whom I was very much in love with at the time!
Lmaooo! Iām sorry to laugh but that happened to me too. I screamed and had to run into the bathroom to see if my butthole was bleeding and I couldnāt hold a fart for at least 3-4 days after. Made me wonder how people function normally that do it willingly bc I clearly canāt hang.ššš
Lol!!! Ya I think I experienced butthole pain for at least 3-4 days also. It was insane. Iāll never forget it. Iām glad we have both lived to tell the tale!
19 year old me having sex on the stairs with 18 year old gf cause stair sex seems like the adult thing to do. Going hard into pound town (cause 18 year old me knew no better) I moved cause I was on my knees and she was on her back and my knee was fuckin hurting. But not as much as her butthole when Mr. Rock hard 8ā x base of glass bottle beer size slid right in that poop chute. Straight nuts to butt all the way in.
I felt really really bad. Had to take her to the ER. Never had sex on stairs again. If youāre out there Lorraine, Iām still fuckin sorry.
This happened to my first gf (with a different partner before we met), which totally put her off ever even considering exploring any back door shenanigans with me... :-(
Then I got over myself, and actually realised I find the whole idea a bit gross. Plus I'd feel awful if I ever hurt my partner like that, so it's not something I've ever bothered with since.
There are those who insist on using the full length too which can cause pain. Iām married to one unfortunately. Why is it so hard to just use part of it?
This!!! I knew someone who would'nt stop trying to get the whole thing in, and even with dild*s he would just push and push even even try to 'knock' that damn thing in...like bro, its not budging this is as far as it goes!
Length can hit the cervix and hurt but if you know what youāre doing positioning can help.
Girth aināt much you can do. Especially that size which is ridiculousā¦thicker than a redbull can must be very rare and a matching vagina as well.
As a man you can also kinda tell when your getting close to the cervix, different positions and using your thighs to control how deep it goes when hot and heavy
Calling it ridiculous is kind of mean - OP is *right there*, please be mindful of what you write. I know if it was me, and I was feeling vulnerable like he is, I'd be upset at the general lack of consideration and kindness in these comments.
I believe OP. I once went out with a guy whose dick was TOO big, to the point it was painful and I bled. I had to dump him after the second date because I just couldnāt get used to it. My body has limits.
Yes, it was about the girth of a soda can.
Iām only 5ā long but 7ā circumference. Which is girthier than an 8.4 oz Red Bull, but not as girthy as a 12 oz soda can. Itās weird, I kinda always thought I was small, but apparently my girth is quite challenging. Itās a weird predicament to be in.
Can't speak for OP, but for me there's no difference in girth from my wrist/lower forearm...depending on the partner it really can be exactly how OP describes. Blowjobs are typically also a bit problematic. I've had very few partners even willing to attempt anal (which, fair enough to be honest).
I was incredibly lucky to find my wife - with foreplay and a lot of lube we manage to have incredible sex.
I watched some documentary a while back, I think it was on HBO, and it was about this young guy who was big. Thatās how he described it, it was as long as his forearm and he had a similar problem. Most women couldnāt handle it. And it wasnāt very enjoyable because he could only go in about half way. No he didnāt show it, just described it.
You just have to find the right partner because all women are different. Some cannot physically handle that size and some can. You're not too big, you just haven't found the right one. She's out there :)
Go to an adult shop. Ask them if they have any books on the topic you can purchase. Women can stretch but you have to work on it over time use multiple fingers or varying size dildos and make sure your partner is turned on and maybe has had an orgasm before you enter her. If you do it right your partner should not feel like she needs stitches after sex. Many men assume size overcomes a lack of technique. Don't be one of those jerks
Specifically, there are vaginal dilator sets often used to treat issues with penetration. They're like a set of basic dildos of increasing diameter, and combined with some biofeedback and specific exercises they really do help. Its also possible to make these DIY but its a bit of a faff.
However, these are great tools to employ in a long term relationship when such issues arise. With dating being fickle as it is, i imagine that telling your date "hey, im packing a forearm down there so you're gonna need to practice with these first, don't worry i cleaned them" might be a mood killer and a significant challenge in a fledgling relationship.
Problem is I am one of those women who when told āhey you need to practiceāā¦.i will be more interested and practice sooo damn hard becauseā¦effortš
This right here. I'm more likely to O without penetration than with. Everyone is different. It's weird so many people on this thread are trying to tell the rest of us what does and does not get us off lmaaooo.
This is true. My canal is ālong and very narrowā according to the nurse who did my last Pap test. And this was after I read a spicy book so it wouldnāt hurt as much.
As a bloke who is not packing I absolutely can confirm all women are different.
Anecdotally the girl with the least 'grip' was a tiny 19 yearold who'd slept with one person a couple of times before me, the one that felt like she was a human vice was a retired sex worker with 2 kids.
My ex had only had sex twice before me, and it honestly felt like a hotdog down a hallway. I thought I was small and inadequate, so for long, then the next woman I got with literally just couldn't take it, and she had an extensive list of sexual partners before me.
As it turns out, women's genitals are just as varied as men's.
But people are wrongly relating womenās tightness to their sexual past. Itās not linked. Menās dicks donāt change with the amount of sex they have, just like vaginas donāt lose elasticity the same way.
Like dick size, it really only comes down to physical differences between women.
It's all about the strength of the pelvic floor. I recently needed pelvic floor therapy because I was too tight, and it was painful for more than one finger.
Woman who was in a relationship with a guy with a similar dick to what you described for 6 years here. Donāt worry, the break up had nothing to do with his dick.
In the beginning, it definitely felt like too much. It doesnāt sound like youāve had many partners, so I would say donāt lose faith in that youāll find someone to have a fulfilling sex life with. My biggest advice would to let her take control during penetration. Like let her hold it and be the one to guide it in and let her control the motion and the speed of it rather than you doing the thrusting. It took a few tries but I did āadjustā to size and girth. Funny thing was the first guy I dated after that guy was average in size and I got surprised by how āeasyā it went in and was honestly a longer adjustment period because I got used to getting it big lol.
My ex husband had a really big (thick) one and it was 20 years of hell. Constant pain, ended up being put on a daily antibiotic bc I constantly had bladder infections from my bladder getting traumatized during sex. He needed sex everyday or twice a day so it was really rough for me.
After we split up I dated a guy who had one even bigger than my ex and I was like, "Oh, shit." When we finally had sex I was pleasantly surprised at how well I tolerated and even enjoyed it. I could definitely feel myself being stretched but it wasn't miserably painful although I would be a little sore afterwards.
I realized then that my ex was smashing directly into my cervix while the new guy glided past my cervix. So what I'm saying is, don't give up hope! It may be just a matter of finding someone whose anatomy fits better with yours. Sure, that might be a bit of a challenge but I promise you it can happen!
Edit: Since some people are somehow misunderstanding, I'm not saying he was inside my cervix. I didn't imply that in any way. I'm saying he went passed my cervix, like to the side of it. And if a penis were able to go inside your cervix that would be incredibly fucking painful so obviously I didn't think that's what was happening.
"He needed sex everyday or twice a day so it was really rough for me."
WTF?! How about "no" when it's not enjoyable for you? Getting "forced" to have sex everyday for 20 years?! Why?!
Yo, my girthy dude, you just need to find the right lady. Some don't have a lot of space to work with and some could take all the meat plus a Thanksgiving turkey up that thang if they want to.
Same, and the other way around too. OP perhaps should try dating āout of his typeā or whatever tf you call it. If he dates inexperienced/shy/repressed girls, they are less likely to know what to do and how to work with, uhh, special circumstances. A girl who is more open-minded/experienced might teach him a few tricks to make it more enjoyment for everyone, at least.
Also! Maybe try FetLife or another kink community. Obviously, these places are more kink focused but true connection can be found anywhere and it could be a more open minded space to address your concerns early on.
You have to play with her a lot and multiple fingers if you girthy. Then sex regularly and no issues, but if you miss a week, itās starting all over. Also some women are more narrow and canāt handle that much. But girthy can be super fun if you play it right. A lot of foreplay donāt just 1 or 2 fingers. Try to get up to 4 fingers before penetration with the lube.
That sounds like a great size to me lol. You really just need to find the right woman tbh. Youāll have to work a bit harder to find her probably, but thatās just a time thing. Maybe try meeting women on kink friendly website or apps, they have a tendency to be more aware of their sexual tastes as well as know their bodies a bit better. Some women are size queens, you just have to find them. And plenty of them are looking for a good relationship and not just sex either, you just have to find them. Good luck!
From the dimensions you're describing you've just had bad luck with partner compatibility. It's a decent size but I've been with similar sized men and just found it to be very satisfying and experienced no pain. I've been with average guys no issue but had problems with guys with smaller penises so I suspect I'm maybe a bit bigger myself. Women have different sizes as well as men, we just need to find the right people to match up with.
Perineal massage is going to be your best friend bud. Yes it is traditionally used to prepare a person for vaginal birth but thatās because something waaaay wider than what youāre packing is gonna be pushing its way out. Look up videos on how to do it properly. Itās not necessarily going to be super sexy but it can absolutely fit into foreplay and in your relationships it almost definitely will *need* to. Same for lube and super same for patience on your end. ALSO let her be the one to set the pace. She will be able to feel when sheās stretched enough to allow a little more in. You wonāt. Lay on your sides and allow her to push back into you rather than you pushing into her. This position will be the way to go until sheās stretched enough to try something else. And even then it may still be too uncomfortable right away. So back to cuddle sex until sheās stretched enough. Itās going to be slow work at first but honestly thatās not a bad thing if you can appreciate the build up. You can absolutely have a very fulfilling sex life with what you have going on but it is going to take some extra work and care in your relationships. Good luck!
Iv got a decent hog and have been unable to penetrate before due to tightness, and iv also been with someone who i could barely feel the sides.
Youll find a woman who can handle it. Bit of a mission to find her, but there are lots of women who youll be compatible with
I'm in your girth class my guy. Just gotta be honest about the size organically during the starter phase and you will be able to weed out the women (or men) that can't take it and weigh if that's a deal breaker when it comes to types of sex and frequency.
My ex said she met a dude that had a baseball bat sized dick and couldn't even get the head in and dumped him, so even on the women that can take our girth they have their limits. š
I have literally been with women that said they prefer smaller penises because of this difference in types of vaginas.
The women not using you as a big dick kink are out there my friend. I promise.
Idk everyoneās anatomy is different, I prefer bigger dicks and can take my manās no prob. Although heās mentioned a lot of women canāt take his size
I would mention this in a dating profile. You'll find someone who takes this as a big plus.
Edit: A lot of people saying this is a bad idea, why? Keep doing what he's doing, fall in love, then be forced to break up with someone he likes because they can't handle it. OR - weed out people that can't handle it to begin with, and find someone he loves among the "wrong people."
I am sorry. I donāt have any advice other than maybe getting used to the idea that PiV isnāt the only way to be intimate with someone you love.
I hope youāre able to find happiness. I wish I had better advice.
Got to be a match somewhere for you. Maybe lead with that? It is, after all, the āelephant in the roomā that inevitably reveals itself and sours your relationship.
That may help narrow the field to real possibilities.
Maybe find more options/alternatives to penetrative sex. More creativity and finesse.
I wish you the best.
I can empathize with this from the female side of things. My boyfriend isā¦ *big*, to say the least. As a contrast, Iām very petite, even fingers can hurt if things arenāt done right. Heās also 6ā5 and Iām 4ā11, so honestly I was petrified the first few times we were intimate because I knew that there would be a huge size difference regardless and we definitely had some problems with it hurting because we didnāt know how to sleep with one another at first.
You need to invest in toys and lots of lubricants. Foreplay **cannot** be skipped when youāre packing extra heat. If my boyfriend is raring to go and on his way home, sometimes Iāll start things because otherwise itāll take a while for me to be ready. Itās important to make sure your partners have at least one orgasm before you even think about penetration so that her muscles are relaxed and ready. Breathing is also really important. Work on breathing exercises while starting. If she tenses up, itās going to hurt badly and she wonāt be able to continue so itās important to breathe through the initial stretching and go very slowly.
**Make sure that if a position has been painful or traumatic for her that you are very cautious and gentle reapproaching that position if at all.** If sheās apprehensive and tense she wonāt be able to take it and sheāll get hurt again.
Using pillows under the hips and stuff is also a huge game changer. Try different positions, because given individual differences in internal shape and the shape of the guy, some are just going to hurt more no matter what. Find new ones, try it in a bunch of spots and positions. Cross off the ones that hurt no matter how much you both prepare, itās a waste of time to try those because theyāll always be unpleasant.
My boyfriend and I have learned how to navigate the bedroom a lot better over time, and the biggest helper is the fact that we encourage each other to be very transparent and vocal when things arenāt working out. If I canāt get aroused enough to take him, I have to be comfortable enough to say that we have to do something else instead. If it hurts or he feels nervous about hurting me, we stop and talk about it to see if we should continue. Be open, communicative and patient and you will find things will get easier. It can be really frustrating to not just be able to drop āem and go at it like a lot of other people can, but you can still find enjoyment with your partners if you can learn to value patience.
Met an accident a few days ago,my right chest pains even from a slightest movement and the comments on this post are so gut-busting that it will send me to ER.
The sad story is that you will have to try out for compatibility. Women are NOT one size fits all by a long shot.. despite popular media trying to tell us otherwise.
I was once getting hot and heavy with a guy and he dropped his pants and I immediately said nope, sorry and gtfo of there.
Large dicks are scary! I'm sorry OP for your pre'dick'ament but honestly have you considered porn?
My husband and I have this problem. He's so girthy and pretty long. It's a beautiful dick but it causes so much pain. I have Interstitial Cystitis which causes painful sex so this girthy issue just is a painful cherry on top. We haven't been intimate in a year or so. I get so nervous when he's in the mood because I just don't want to deal with the aftermath. It sucks but I love the shit out of him. Would never leave him because of it.
We talked to my doc who has prescribed Bladder Ozone to help with my IC and she advised we try dilators to help with the pelvic floor and stretching.
Best of luck! I'm sure there's someone out there who will be a perfect fit (giggity).
Girth can be a much bigger problem than length. Like, with length, you only need to use as much as necessary, but with girth there's really no alternative.
Agree with this as a girl. I like girth, but when it came to it, that shit fucking hurt so bad š
I had a really, really lovely partner. But we had this problem. It was painful. And there wasn't really an obvious solve. Beyond continuing to be in love, and in horrible physical pain, whenever fucking was to happen. We broke up. I still feel awful about it. I loved him a lot. He's a very cool person.
And I donāt even know how girth would be reduced other than cutting a pizza slice shaped wedge out of the length of the shaft :(
Never ever say anything like that again please
That hurt me and I'm female. š©
How could you even do that, itd create scar tissue and its a part of you that grows and needs to be flexible/spongey
It would also need to be even cuts on both sides so the muscle on one end doesn't end up stronger than the other and cause the penis to curve.
Second that! Love some girth over length and some āstretchā but umm Iād have to pass at ripping and blood.
When I had done it with the same person, my body couldnāt even let theirs in first time without me just tightening so much with tension & pain, but second time it was much better with minor blood. Still not worth it though š
Iām dead average in both length and girth, and the more I read posts from people talking about size the happier I am with what I have.
Yeah, I'm a big guy that's pretty damn average in that department, and I have literally had a couple of women sigh in relief upon noticing that I was average. I have come to the conclusion that the only people who care about big dicks are other men.
Your conclusion is correct. My ex was a big guy in every department, and it made sex feel like such a chore. It had to only be in certain positions, and even then, it wasn't all that fun. My husband, on the other hand, is average sized, and he's perfect. No notes. Just a brilliant man in every possible way.
Dude, I'm a lady and we love average! Great for deepthroating, hand jobs, all the fun positions, anal etc. Average means we get to do EVERYTHING with you. Well above average means we get to do less with you. If you're a variety person, then average is the best!!
AGREE!!
Ugh one time I was having sex with someone who had an abnormally large girth (bigger than Iāve ever seen) and it slipped out and went into my asshole and I SCREAMED. That was one of the worst pains I have ever felt. My asshole was bleeding that night and the next day. It was barely enjoyable with PIV, nevermind unlubed surprise butthole. Edit: Iām loving all the comments sharing their similar experiences! Iām so sorry for you all!! But we live to tell the tale!
Same. Fucking stabbing, shooting, deep, intense immediate pain like a lightening bolt. I actually cried. Fucking hurt like hell.
Itās seriously excruciating. I could barely breathe and I was seeing stars lol.
Omg, me too. I got a little dizzy and hot and crawled my wsy off the bed, bleeding. No fucking bueno.
Happened to me and it was so painful and shocking that out of instinct (I guess) I jumped and slapped my partner whom I was very much in love with at the time!
I feel like this is standard, happens at least once in your life for a girl. Been there, bled like a mofo.
Lmaooo! Iām sorry to laugh but that happened to me too. I screamed and had to run into the bathroom to see if my butthole was bleeding and I couldnāt hold a fart for at least 3-4 days after. Made me wonder how people function normally that do it willingly bc I clearly canāt hang.ššš
Lol!!! Ya I think I experienced butthole pain for at least 3-4 days also. It was insane. Iāll never forget it. Iām glad we have both lived to tell the tale!
19 year old me having sex on the stairs with 18 year old gf cause stair sex seems like the adult thing to do. Going hard into pound town (cause 18 year old me knew no better) I moved cause I was on my knees and she was on her back and my knee was fuckin hurting. But not as much as her butthole when Mr. Rock hard 8ā x base of glass bottle beer size slid right in that poop chute. Straight nuts to butt all the way in. I felt really really bad. Had to take her to the ER. Never had sex on stairs again. If youāre out there Lorraine, Iām still fuckin sorry.
Iāve always enjoyed it with the right partner, not the surprise part but yeah. Feel like I am the minority rather than the standard
This happened to my first gf (with a different partner before we met), which totally put her off ever even considering exploring any back door shenanigans with me... :-( Then I got over myself, and actually realised I find the whole idea a bit gross. Plus I'd feel awful if I ever hurt my partner like that, so it's not something I've ever bothered with since.
O.M.G!!! šš¤£
Right!! ššš#NeverAgain That was like like 20 years ago and I still get nervous when my knees are at my chest.
While the situation sounds terrible, āUnlubed surprise buttholeā is the funniest thing Iāve read all day.
There are those who insist on using the full length too which can cause pain. Iām married to one unfortunately. Why is it so hard to just use part of it?
Check out the Ohnut: limits depth of penetration https://thepelvicpeople.com/collections/all-products/products/ohnut-depth-limiting-rings
You don't have to let him do that! Why are men so selfish in bed š
This!!! I knew someone who would'nt stop trying to get the whole thing in, and even with dild*s he would just push and push even even try to 'knock' that damn thing in...like bro, its not budging this is as far as it goes!
Length can hit the cervix and hurt but if you know what youāre doing positioning can help. Girth aināt much you can do. Especially that size which is ridiculousā¦thicker than a redbull can must be very rare and a matching vagina as well.
As a man you can also kinda tell when your getting close to the cervix, different positions and using your thighs to control how deep it goes when hot and heavy
Calling it ridiculous is kind of mean - OP is *right there*, please be mindful of what you write. I know if it was me, and I was feeling vulnerable like he is, I'd be upset at the general lack of consideration and kindness in these comments.
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My man is packing a hockey puck.
Tuna can
But tuna can would mean itās also small (length wise) which we know is not the case here lol
Am I missing something? A hockey puck and tuna can are nearly exactly the same size
I think we have a tuna puck here
Or a hockey can
Ok, pringles can
Now Iām hungry
Only 7 inches long, more like a can of Monster Energy.
"only"
Bro is built like a bucket
Can of bushs baked beans
Except the can doesnāt fit in the bushes.
Okay I guess I will eat the bullet and ask. How big are we talking about?
The people must knowā¦
Iām a dude and the suspense is killing me. If itās not like a footlong sub Iām reporting this fucker to Reddit.
Bro has a soda can. Not super long, just girthy. The ladies call him Dr. Pepper.
Dude says he's 7 long. That's no Dr Pepper, that's 7Up inside.
Heads up 7-up
Yall killing me with these š¤£š¤£
dude packin a Tall boy that milwakees beast ice
Oh that's a good one.
I believe OP. I once went out with a guy whose dick was TOO big, to the point it was painful and I bled. I had to dump him after the second date because I just couldnāt get used to it. My body has limits. Yes, it was about the girth of a soda can.
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Could he be the OP š?
My bf has a soda can and we've been together 7 years, just gotta find the right one! He was my first.
Dr. Peepee
Eggroll
I added it at the bottom in your honour, it sure as hell aint no footlong š
7 inches but with more girth than a Red Bull can is wild. I didnāt even know penises came in that shape
They cum in many shapes. I'll see myself out.
Iām only 5ā long but 7ā circumference. Which is girthier than an 8.4 oz Red Bull, but not as girthy as a 12 oz soda can. Itās weird, I kinda always thought I was small, but apparently my girth is quite challenging. Itās a weird predicament to be in.
e need a diameter or circumference to have any idea why its a problem
Can't speak for OP, but for me there's no difference in girth from my wrist/lower forearm...depending on the partner it really can be exactly how OP describes. Blowjobs are typically also a bit problematic. I've had very few partners even willing to attempt anal (which, fair enough to be honest). I was incredibly lucky to find my wife - with foreplay and a lot of lube we manage to have incredible sex.
š§ yeah sounds kinda terrifying to be honest š
Not even joking but you should try OF, at least make good $$ off it
Soda can Sam?
With shrinkflation happening, it may as well be!
It might not be 12 inches but it still smells like a foot! (Probably)
this comment is absolutely sending me. āIām reporting this fucker to Redditā made me laugh out loud
Itās like the size of an average forearm.
I watched some documentary a while back, I think it was on HBO, and it was about this young guy who was big. Thatās how he described it, it was as long as his forearm and he had a similar problem. Most women couldnāt handle it. And it wasnāt very enjoyable because he could only go in about half way. No he didnāt show it, just described it.
Itās always funny to joke about being that big, but it would be miserable in real life.
5x5 Imagine Minecraft Steve
Youāre supposed to bite the bullet, not eat the damn thing!
There's always a lid, for every pot
Name checks out.
And the name and comment low key rhyme
Can we get the circumference of your hog?
Diameter of a Pringle can. I'll say it again 2 radius of a Pringle can.
If you feel me, put your hands up, come on! If you feel me, put your hands up
Look at all these hands that canāt fit inside a Pringle can
I wanna have a daughter Wanna have a daughter So I'll finally have someone around whose hands can fit inside a Pringle can!
Yes I'm still on the Pringle can thing. Alright, I'll move on, but that is priority numero uuuuunnnnnoooooo.
i donāt go to the gym because iām self conscious about my #body body ^body
But Iām self conscious about my body, because I donāt go to the gym
Irony can be so paaaaaainful, itās a catch twenty twooooooo-ooooooooā¦.lets do this!
look I wouldn't have had the lettuce if I knew it wouldn't fit....
Did we finally find someone with a bigger unit than count dankula
He says more than a redbull can which is ridiculous already.
I got curious for the numbers and measured. The smaller thin can is about 6 3/4" and the regular can is about 8 1/4". That's absolutely crazy.
Bigger than an empty tp roll?
Isā¦. Is it gay that I kinda wanna see it?š
We're all gay this blessed day, brotherĀ
Amenš
You just have to find the right partner because all women are different. Some cannot physically handle that size and some can. You're not too big, you just haven't found the right one. She's out there :)
Cock cinderella
Fairy cockmother lol
Yall got me cackling š
Cockiling
Cockerella
The Princess and the Pea-nis
OP is going to have to throw a ball and use a large glass dildo to find his new princess.
Go to an adult shop. Ask them if they have any books on the topic you can purchase. Women can stretch but you have to work on it over time use multiple fingers or varying size dildos and make sure your partner is turned on and maybe has had an orgasm before you enter her. If you do it right your partner should not feel like she needs stitches after sex. Many men assume size overcomes a lack of technique. Don't be one of those jerks
Specifically, there are vaginal dilator sets often used to treat issues with penetration. They're like a set of basic dildos of increasing diameter, and combined with some biofeedback and specific exercises they really do help. Its also possible to make these DIY but its a bit of a faff. However, these are great tools to employ in a long term relationship when such issues arise. With dating being fickle as it is, i imagine that telling your date "hey, im packing a forearm down there so you're gonna need to practice with these first, don't worry i cleaned them" might be a mood killer and a significant challenge in a fledgling relationship.
Problem is I am one of those women who when told āhey you need to practiceāā¦.i will be more interested and practice sooo damn hard becauseā¦effortš
Best feedback here šš¼
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āSome women can orgasm without penetrationā. Yeah. All of them.
lmao i just read this bit too, most women need more than penetration alone
A huge chunk of women can't orgasm from penetration.
Itās honestly shocking to me that thereās men out there who still donāt know this in 2024. Do we need to draw them a diagram? Publish a PSA?
I have a hard time orgasming without penetration. I need both to reach a conclusion
Literally was given one the other day with just kissing and nipple play. Husband is a master of my body.
This right here. I'm more likely to O without penetration than with. Everyone is different. It's weird so many people on this thread are trying to tell the rest of us what does and does not get us off lmaaooo.
This is true. My canal is ālong and very narrowā according to the nurse who did my last Pap test. And this was after I read a spicy book so it wouldnāt hurt as much.
This is a great ingenious idea and I am going use it for my next pap
As a bloke who is not packing I absolutely can confirm all women are different. Anecdotally the girl with the least 'grip' was a tiny 19 yearold who'd slept with one person a couple of times before me, the one that felt like she was a human vice was a retired sex worker with 2 kids.
The stripper-momma does kegel exercises lol
I literally just started doing mine when I read this haha
I swear I can't read the word "kegel" and not automatically start it lol
My ex had only had sex twice before me, and it honestly felt like a hotdog down a hallway. I thought I was small and inadequate, so for long, then the next woman I got with literally just couldn't take it, and she had an extensive list of sexual partners before me. As it turns out, women's genitals are just as varied as men's.
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But people are wrongly relating womenās tightness to their sexual past. Itās not linked. Menās dicks donāt change with the amount of sex they have, just like vaginas donāt lose elasticity the same way. Like dick size, it really only comes down to physical differences between women.
It's all about the strength of the pelvic floor. I recently needed pelvic floor therapy because I was too tight, and it was painful for more than one finger.
Woman who was in a relationship with a guy with a similar dick to what you described for 6 years here. Donāt worry, the break up had nothing to do with his dick. In the beginning, it definitely felt like too much. It doesnāt sound like youāve had many partners, so I would say donāt lose faith in that youāll find someone to have a fulfilling sex life with. My biggest advice would to let her take control during penetration. Like let her hold it and be the one to guide it in and let her control the motion and the speed of it rather than you doing the thrusting. It took a few tries but I did āadjustā to size and girth. Funny thing was the first guy I dated after that guy was average in size and I got surprised by how āeasyā it went in and was honestly a longer adjustment period because I got used to getting it big lol.
Do not, Loose Faith is coming.
I noticed the spelling of Loose and was trying to come up with the right quip but this is good
My ex husband had a really big (thick) one and it was 20 years of hell. Constant pain, ended up being put on a daily antibiotic bc I constantly had bladder infections from my bladder getting traumatized during sex. He needed sex everyday or twice a day so it was really rough for me. After we split up I dated a guy who had one even bigger than my ex and I was like, "Oh, shit." When we finally had sex I was pleasantly surprised at how well I tolerated and even enjoyed it. I could definitely feel myself being stretched but it wasn't miserably painful although I would be a little sore afterwards. I realized then that my ex was smashing directly into my cervix while the new guy glided past my cervix. So what I'm saying is, don't give up hope! It may be just a matter of finding someone whose anatomy fits better with yours. Sure, that might be a bit of a challenge but I promise you it can happen! Edit: Since some people are somehow misunderstanding, I'm not saying he was inside my cervix. I didn't imply that in any way. I'm saying he went passed my cervix, like to the side of it. And if a penis were able to go inside your cervix that would be incredibly fucking painful so obviously I didn't think that's what was happening.
"He needed sex everyday or twice a day so it was really rough for me." WTF?! How about "no" when it's not enjoyable for you? Getting "forced" to have sex everyday for 20 years?! Why?!
Are you doing plenty of foreplay beforehand?
Thats literally the best part
You're doing everything right then. Don't worry, you got this. Your perfect fit will meet you soon
I know this is a real desire for intimacy. I wish you the best šŗ
He said he did and used lube too
RIP your DMs
Too much ripping :(
Itās all about the ripping and the tearing.
the wild women, the wild women
Mostly from dudes probably
There are women who can handle that. You just havenāt found one yet. Dont give up hope!
Yeah, where are all those size queens when you need them.
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How big are you
Someoneās interested over hereā¦.. lol
we are all interested
i kinda wanna see
i think we all kinda wanna see....
We all want to see apparently
all the men and women here are all invested :P
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Yo, my girthy dude, you just need to find the right lady. Some don't have a lot of space to work with and some could take all the meat plus a Thanksgiving turkey up that thang if they want to.
bro what
That's an entirely brand new sentence right there...
Bro, as a queer person, I have literally put my whole ass fist in someone. You'll find someone, don't give up š Best of luck to you
This tickled me because this is what i imagined in my head while reading the post lbvs. Somebody will fit eventually. Good luck!
Same, and the other way around too. OP perhaps should try dating āout of his typeā or whatever tf you call it. If he dates inexperienced/shy/repressed girls, they are less likely to know what to do and how to work with, uhh, special circumstances. A girl who is more open-minded/experienced might teach him a few tricks to make it more enjoyment for everyone, at least.
This is such a funny way to comfort someone š
This comment about fisting is now my most liked comment on Reddit. This is my legacy lmao āš½
Also! Maybe try FetLife or another kink community. Obviously, these places are more kink focused but true connection can be found anywhere and it could be a more open minded space to address your concerns early on.
Dude is girth brooks
This postās title should end (ā¦ladies?)
You have to play with her a lot and multiple fingers if you girthy. Then sex regularly and no issues, but if you miss a week, itās starting all over. Also some women are more narrow and canāt handle that much. But girthy can be super fun if you play it right. A lot of foreplay donāt just 1 or 2 fingers. Try to get up to 4 fingers before penetration with the lube.
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Same, fingers hurt and idk why. š¤·āāļø
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That and people can be so aggressive with fingers, bending them to fit where they're going? No. Must remain straight >:(
That sounds like a great size to me lol. You really just need to find the right woman tbh. Youāll have to work a bit harder to find her probably, but thatās just a time thing. Maybe try meeting women on kink friendly website or apps, they have a tendency to be more aware of their sexual tastes as well as know their bodies a bit better. Some women are size queens, you just have to find them. And plenty of them are looking for a good relationship and not just sex either, you just have to find them. Good luck!
From the dimensions you're describing you've just had bad luck with partner compatibility. It's a decent size but I've been with similar sized men and just found it to be very satisfying and experienced no pain. I've been with average guys no issue but had problems with guys with smaller penises so I suspect I'm maybe a bit bigger myself. Women have different sizes as well as men, we just need to find the right people to match up with.
Perineal massage is going to be your best friend bud. Yes it is traditionally used to prepare a person for vaginal birth but thatās because something waaaay wider than what youāre packing is gonna be pushing its way out. Look up videos on how to do it properly. Itās not necessarily going to be super sexy but it can absolutely fit into foreplay and in your relationships it almost definitely will *need* to. Same for lube and super same for patience on your end. ALSO let her be the one to set the pace. She will be able to feel when sheās stretched enough to allow a little more in. You wonāt. Lay on your sides and allow her to push back into you rather than you pushing into her. This position will be the way to go until sheās stretched enough to try something else. And even then it may still be too uncomfortable right away. So back to cuddle sex until sheās stretched enough. Itās going to be slow work at first but honestly thatās not a bad thing if you can appreciate the build up. You can absolutely have a very fulfilling sex life with what you have going on but it is going to take some extra work and care in your relationships. Good luck!
Iv got a decent hog and have been unable to penetrate before due to tightness, and iv also been with someone who i could barely feel the sides. Youll find a woman who can handle it. Bit of a mission to find her, but there are lots of women who youll be compatible with
I'm in your girth class my guy. Just gotta be honest about the size organically during the starter phase and you will be able to weed out the women (or men) that can't take it and weigh if that's a deal breaker when it comes to types of sex and frequency. My ex said she met a dude that had a baseball bat sized dick and couldn't even get the head in and dumped him, so even on the women that can take our girth they have their limits. š I have literally been with women that said they prefer smaller penises because of this difference in types of vaginas. The women not using you as a big dick kink are out there my friend. I promise.
Idk everyoneās anatomy is different, I prefer bigger dicks and can take my manās no prob. Although heās mentioned a lot of women canāt take his size
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I would mention this in a dating profile. You'll find someone who takes this as a big plus. Edit: A lot of people saying this is a bad idea, why? Keep doing what he's doing, fall in love, then be forced to break up with someone he likes because they can't handle it. OR - weed out people that can't handle it to begin with, and find someone he loves among the "wrong people."
Don't mention it in a dating profile, it will be disregarded as a lie. The proof is in the penis
It would attract the wrong people. He said he doesn't like casual srx and that's probably all he'd get.
I am sorry. I donāt have any advice other than maybe getting used to the idea that PiV isnāt the only way to be intimate with someone you love. I hope youāre able to find happiness. I wish I had better advice.
Girth matters too bro, not just length. What we talkin here? A soda can? A paper towel tube? Magic marker? Girth can be a killer
Got to be a match somewhere for you. Maybe lead with that? It is, after all, the āelephant in the roomā that inevitably reveals itself and sours your relationship. That may help narrow the field to real possibilities. Maybe find more options/alternatives to penetrative sex. More creativity and finesse. I wish you the best.
I can empathize with this from the female side of things. My boyfriend isā¦ *big*, to say the least. As a contrast, Iām very petite, even fingers can hurt if things arenāt done right. Heās also 6ā5 and Iām 4ā11, so honestly I was petrified the first few times we were intimate because I knew that there would be a huge size difference regardless and we definitely had some problems with it hurting because we didnāt know how to sleep with one another at first. You need to invest in toys and lots of lubricants. Foreplay **cannot** be skipped when youāre packing extra heat. If my boyfriend is raring to go and on his way home, sometimes Iāll start things because otherwise itāll take a while for me to be ready. Itās important to make sure your partners have at least one orgasm before you even think about penetration so that her muscles are relaxed and ready. Breathing is also really important. Work on breathing exercises while starting. If she tenses up, itās going to hurt badly and she wonāt be able to continue so itās important to breathe through the initial stretching and go very slowly. **Make sure that if a position has been painful or traumatic for her that you are very cautious and gentle reapproaching that position if at all.** If sheās apprehensive and tense she wonāt be able to take it and sheāll get hurt again. Using pillows under the hips and stuff is also a huge game changer. Try different positions, because given individual differences in internal shape and the shape of the guy, some are just going to hurt more no matter what. Find new ones, try it in a bunch of spots and positions. Cross off the ones that hurt no matter how much you both prepare, itās a waste of time to try those because theyāll always be unpleasant. My boyfriend and I have learned how to navigate the bedroom a lot better over time, and the biggest helper is the fact that we encourage each other to be very transparent and vocal when things arenāt working out. If I canāt get aroused enough to take him, I have to be comfortable enough to say that we have to do something else instead. If it hurts or he feels nervous about hurting me, we stop and talk about it to see if we should continue. Be open, communicative and patient and you will find things will get easier. It can be really frustrating to not just be able to drop āem and go at it like a lot of other people can, but you can still find enjoyment with your partners if you can learn to value patience.
Have you tried buying and driving a very large truck, I've heard there's a correlation.
Met an accident a few days ago,my right chest pains even from a slightest movement and the comments on this post are so gut-busting that it will send me to ER.
Iāve been trying to tell these āall women are size queensā incels this very thing. Size does matter, just not how they think it does!
i'm reading this with a red bull in hand - you're girthier than that??? good lord
The sad story is that you will have to try out for compatibility. Women are NOT one size fits all by a long shot.. despite popular media trying to tell us otherwise.
Did OP mention where he was located?
I was once getting hot and heavy with a guy and he dropped his pants and I immediately said nope, sorry and gtfo of there. Large dicks are scary! I'm sorry OP for your pre'dick'ament but honestly have you considered porn?
My husband and I have this problem. He's so girthy and pretty long. It's a beautiful dick but it causes so much pain. I have Interstitial Cystitis which causes painful sex so this girthy issue just is a painful cherry on top. We haven't been intimate in a year or so. I get so nervous when he's in the mood because I just don't want to deal with the aftermath. It sucks but I love the shit out of him. Would never leave him because of it. We talked to my doc who has prescribed Bladder Ozone to help with my IC and she advised we try dilators to help with the pelvic floor and stretching. Best of luck! I'm sure there's someone out there who will be a perfect fit (giggity).
I think you should appreciate your dick.
>7 inches Literally perfect? I dont see the pro-- >thicker than a redbull OH. OW.
It's crazy how I got the exact opposite situation, and still struggling.
Find a woman who loves to take big dicks.