Which is super easy to do. Just take the button off the door frame and unhook one of the wires from the back of the switch and wrap some tape around it (the wire), then put the button back on the door frame with the unhooked wire curled up behind it.
Edit for clarity.
It depends how your house is wired. When I was an electrician, we just pulled a line up from one of the outlets near where the doorbell mechanism was installed. We never put in a dedicated breaker or switch for it.
Right on. It's not a bad idea to have the dedicated breaker, or even just a light switch to kill power to the chime mechanism. The reason I recommended disconnecting a wire from the actual button was because then, you're just dealing with low voltage wires instead of the high voltage wires that go to the transformer that feeds the chime mechanism.
The outlet we pulled a wire from was on a 110v circuit and that went to the input side of the doorbell transformer. The low voltage wire that went from the output of the transformer to the button at the front door was either 18 or 20 gauge wire (I forget which). It was basically speaker wire.
We put ours on a switch. Right next to the porch light switch. Porch light on? Door bell off. If it’s that important at 3am, people will bang on the door.
The sign is going to need a little firmer notification from food deliveries not to knock on your door or ring your doorbell or the message the ex-bf leaves or what he tells them if they see the sign and ask him what to do now is going to supervene.
I’d just be honest “I’m being harassed be an ex sending me unwanted food deliveries. Do not knock or ring doorbell for food delivery’s under any circumstances”
Like someone else said. Take about 30 minutes and talk to his commanding officer. They can comondere his phone and go through the history.
Put his ass in the brig. Also there's two screws on an old school doorbell. Pop it off and undo one wire. You can also contact the delivery companies and tell them not to take orders for this addres, You can still charge the card though.
This is the best answer. Acting like an idiot while in the military it is so easy to completely stop this behavior by talking to the first sergeant or commander and letting them know what a POS one of their subordinates are being.
The worst possible thing that can be done by the POS once their chain tells them to stop is to do it again. They are just destroying their career at that point.
You can contact the Army IG to report your harassment. The Nuclear Option is to contact a Congressional representative or Senator, they don’t have to be yours. Kirsten Gilibrand (D-NY) has been outspoken on sexual assault in the military and sexual harassment. It’ll nuke his career and ding his chain of command!
The military won't punish him. They will talk to him, but it's because they don't want to be bothered with civilians. Nothing he's doing affects them directly, so it likely won't go far. The military protects their own. Everyone saying it will destroy his career I'm guessing never spent time in. Brig? Denying promotion? For being an ass?....
i would just post a note on the door explaining the situation, saying something like if you are here to deliver food, please know that i did not order it. my ex bf has been ordering food to be sent here late at night to harass me after hours. please feel free to keep/enjoy the food yourself, or donate the food, and please block this address from further deliveries.
often delivery drivers arent paid great, and since theyre probably stiffed out of a tip, they should at least get first dibs on free, prepaid food to make up for it.
might want to tape that note to cover the doorbell, and also keep your porchlight on so they can read it in the dark.
also, file a police report. if he's military, they might be able to contact his superiors, who wont be happy he's committing harassment/stalking crimes while enlisted.
Not sure if it's unethical enough for the sub because but I'd contact the restaurants he uses and find a way that his orders to your address will be donated. He won't find out and further waste his money, but it would help other people. Not sure if that's acceptable.
You said he's a sergeant in the army so use that against him. They tend to take misconduct and harassment of any kind very seriously. Contact the higher ups wherever he is stationed over there and tell them what he's doing. I'm pretty sure it won't go well for him and will end his BS.
Call his commander. Explain situation in a clear, respectful manner. Explain you want no more contact with him. Explain that this behavior is unwelcome, and is threatening and disruptive to your whole family. His company commander can make him stop or face UCMJ action. If his CO wont help, track down his First Sargeant or Sargeant Major. Document your request with names and time/date. If this continues after you notify his chain of command, notify your congressman. Congressional complaints are 100% accountable to a very high level and eliminate any discretion or protection his chain of command might try to give him.
Source: Former Army officer who dealt with this crap all the time.
Just post a note on the door explaining that your ex is ordering food as a way to bother you and that the dashers are more than welcome to keep/donate the food as long as they don’t bother you. Please and thank you.
If he’s in the U.S. Army, find the contact info for his unit commander. All you really need is the unit number to find this. Call or email that guy about what your ex is doing. Commander will make his life hell.
Reverse uno him by sending him a few ounces of weed and some fent for good measure in the mail.
Not sure how well the US military would take that. Might do some time.
No idea if the mail gets sniffed or x-rayed though. He may just get to party on your expense.
> and some fent for good measure
I know this is UnethicalLifeProTips, but messing with fentanyl is going way too far. Let's not get into murder territory.
Yes I’m sure he’s harassing her nightly because he wants a civil apology lol
“Please give me tips on how I can get him to stop this” Not revenge, stopping this. She had zero involvement with the weed comment. Where is she “still trying to be a piece of shit?” Why are you on unethical life pro tips if you’re so focused on the ethics of it all lol
But sure, continue wHiTEKnighTiNg for random unhinged military man.
This is just silly, how much is this costing him? Put a sign on your door telling the delivery person to keep the food and not ring the bell. maybe briefly explain the situation so they don't think it's a trick or something. Occasionally send your ex a message about it so he keeps doing it, and just let him pay to feed the delivery people forever.
you need to move.
When you report him to his commanding officer, he is going to be confronted, but he is going to deny it. He probably sent all that food on a burner phone using a prepaid visa card. Good luck catching him.
If you place a sign that the driver should take the food, the driver might think it is a trap. He might think he could get in trouble for not delivering the food. He will just ring the doorbell and leave.
The sleeping baby, leave food on top of chair/ box is a good idea. But you are really in danger.
I used to work providing therapy to sex offenders, and this whole sending stuff to get your attention is alarming.
If he ever goes on leave, be ready, because right now, being in the military is what is holding him back.
So, moving is your only solution. Also change your phone number, email address etc.
I know, a pain in the azz to do all this, but your safety is at risk right now.
Good Luck
Call his unit and explain he's harassing you. Nothing gets a soldier to stop being a dick faster than the brass telling him to cut it out or he'll face consequences.
Tell them you would rather talk with the military to talk sense into him than get police involved with a more formal complaint.
Leave a sign outside the door that says please don't ring bell (baby sleeping) or something like that. If you know his number or email, post it on any possible spam site possible (politics and religion related ones are the worst). Make all sorts of accounts using his name and email so that he sees himself forced to get another email and potentially and different phone number. Lastly, find out ways to hex him or make a witchy friend to help you. There's plenty of communities on Reddit that could help you with this too. Lastly, enjoy the free food.
Contact your local inspector general to file a complaint. Also try to get contact for his base and ask to speak with someone that oversees the NCOs because you have an issue with one harassing you while on deployment. If you can, explain the situation and what he has been doing. They will be very happy to deal with that issue for you.
The inspector general is usually the best way for a civilian to complain against someone in the Army but cutting out the middle man and speaking to a higher ranks office on base, will expedite punishment. I would still file with the inspector general so it will definitely be on file what he is doing, and if he continues or escalates, you have even more evidence in your favor.
I wonder if there's an ULPT thread from earlier "My m26 ex f23 broke up with me, how can I mess with her?"
Reddit: Send doordash deliveries to her through the night!
This is more LPT than ULPT, but contact the Army and let them know what he is doing. His base command will put a stop to this real quick based on posts in other subs I’ve seen on Reddit over the years.
Start buying weird sex toys and fetish magazine's and send it to his parents' house under his name. And if you really want to fuck with him try to find the info on his command team and send them emails how he is harassing you if you have proof.
>EX-BF is army, stationed abroad
>You broke up with him
>Don’t want to get into reasons why
My money is on you cheated/found somebody new while he was away?
You’re in the wrong sub for this. Sensible solutions are leave a sign/note to stop deliveries making noise, or to raise a complaint with his CO.
This is for unethical life pro tips, there’s not much you can do other than hammer home to him something mean about why you left him?
He’s stationed in Japan , you live in the states. You don’t want to give the reasons for why you broke up?
That’s cause you cheated on him with Jodie. Doesn’t take a genius to figure that one out.
Maybe apologize?
Short for ‘JOb DEferment’ JODE - when the draft was in effect the men who didn’t get drafted because their jobs at home got them deferred from the draft … JODE-Jodie…
no mercy for cheating whores. u deserve it😂
especially on someone that puts his life on the line to keep you and this country safe.
he needs to come here instead so we can help him do more
He's stationed in Japan, he's not putting his life on any line, like the vast majority of soldiers anyway
Where's the cheating accusation coming from ? OP said nothing about that, sounds like projection tbh
If someone cheated on me I’d find better ways than wasting my money on food deliveries for revenge.
Anyway this subreddit is UNETHICAL life pro tips. Think we care why someone wants revenge?
Funny idea: He's not realising that when he's awake during the day and ordering you food, it's going to be the middle of the night where you are, if he's in japan.
Smart doorbells allow you to turn the actual noise off. You could probably do that before going to bed. Also just leave a note on the door and cover it. Just say something like baby is sleeping, ignore what I said on DoorDash.
Doordashers may not read the note: Make a smallish sandwich board and put STOP and READ on it, then the message, telling them not to knock, and to keep the order for themselves.
Is it possible to contact the delivery services and request no deliveries?
-Add a lamp switch to your doorbell. Turn it off during the knight. The food delivery service that you attend just give them his address and tell them its the wrong address. You can always contact the delivery app he's using and tell them to block your address or his account.
-Start documenting his approaches so you can escalate to the police if it becomes necessary.
-Set a fake account advertisement giving free food for free. Write his address and phone number as contact.
There you go.
Contact his chain of command with pictures and proof is ordered from his card. Even though he's in Japan, he still has to abide by US rules. Even if there is a restraining order against him that you got yesterday........you got the restraining order, right?
Source: me. I was a soldier 2 years ago. Rules haven't changed.
Put a sign on door baby sleeping leave food on chair. (Leave out a chair or box or whatever).
Do this and also cut the power to the door bell.
Which is super easy to do. Just take the button off the door frame and unhook one of the wires from the back of the switch and wrap some tape around it (the wire), then put the button back on the door frame with the unhooked wire curled up behind it. Edit for clarity.
Doorbell can be unhooked at the chime as well. Might be easier.
This is the way
Read this as “take the BOTTOM off the door frame” and was wondering how that was super easy lol
If you had a long enough crowbar, it would become easier.
There are some great crowbars out there…
Usually there's a dedicated switch on your electrical panel too, just gotta flip it.
It depends how your house is wired. When I was an electrician, we just pulled a line up from one of the outlets near where the doorbell mechanism was installed. We never put in a dedicated breaker or switch for it.
Of course. My house has a dedicated one, it's worth checking. I'd probably disconnect the ring chime if there's no breaker.
Right on. It's not a bad idea to have the dedicated breaker, or even just a light switch to kill power to the chime mechanism. The reason I recommended disconnecting a wire from the actual button was because then, you're just dealing with low voltage wires instead of the high voltage wires that go to the transformer that feeds the chime mechanism.
Yeah your proposed approach works great for her.
What was the breaking current? What was the rated current of the bell wire?
The outlet we pulled a wire from was on a 110v circuit and that went to the input side of the doorbell transformer. The low voltage wire that went from the output of the transformer to the button at the front door was either 18 or 20 gauge wire (I forget which). It was basically speaker wire.
We put ours on a switch. Right next to the porch light switch. Porch light on? Door bell off. If it’s that important at 3am, people will bang on the door.
The sign is going to need a little firmer notification from food deliveries not to knock on your door or ring your doorbell or the message the ex-bf leaves or what he tells them if they see the sign and ask him what to do now is going to supervene. I’d just be honest “I’m being harassed be an ex sending me unwanted food deliveries. Do not knock or ring doorbell for food delivery’s under any circumstances”
For extra pettiness also state that the delivery driver can keep the food.
This is awesome.
this was easy
Like someone else said. Take about 30 minutes and talk to his commanding officer. They can comondere his phone and go through the history. Put his ass in the brig. Also there's two screws on an old school doorbell. Pop it off and undo one wire. You can also contact the delivery companies and tell them not to take orders for this addres, You can still charge the card though.
This is the best answer. Acting like an idiot while in the military it is so easy to completely stop this behavior by talking to the first sergeant or commander and letting them know what a POS one of their subordinates are being. The worst possible thing that can be done by the POS once their chain tells them to stop is to do it again. They are just destroying their career at that point.
You can contact the Army IG to report your harassment. The Nuclear Option is to contact a Congressional representative or Senator, they don’t have to be yours. Kirsten Gilibrand (D-NY) has been outspoken on sexual assault in the military and sexual harassment. It’ll nuke his career and ding his chain of command!
The military won't punish him. They will talk to him, but it's because they don't want to be bothered with civilians. Nothing he's doing affects them directly, so it likely won't go far. The military protects their own. Everyone saying it will destroy his career I'm guessing never spent time in. Brig? Denying promotion? For being an ass?....
Id honestly love to know why people are down voting, I've been active duty 22 years. I've experienced this and seen it with others.
Because it’s Reddit and most of them are virgins with god complexes 😅
They cannot commandeer his phone lol
i would just post a note on the door explaining the situation, saying something like if you are here to deliver food, please know that i did not order it. my ex bf has been ordering food to be sent here late at night to harass me after hours. please feel free to keep/enjoy the food yourself, or donate the food, and please block this address from further deliveries. often delivery drivers arent paid great, and since theyre probably stiffed out of a tip, they should at least get first dibs on free, prepaid food to make up for it. might want to tape that note to cover the doorbell, and also keep your porchlight on so they can read it in the dark. also, file a police report. if he's military, they might be able to contact his superiors, who wont be happy he's committing harassment/stalking crimes while enlisted.
Also ask the drivers to file complaints with the company saying it's being used for harassment.
contacting his chain of command will absolutely solve the issue if OP has proof
Only reasonable comment
>stiffed out of a tip You pay "tips" up front on those apps. The drives call them a "bid for service".
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Not sure if it's unethical enough for the sub because but I'd contact the restaurants he uses and find a way that his orders to your address will be donated. He won't find out and further waste his money, but it would help other people. Not sure if that's acceptable.
“Ex ordered you a free meal, do not ring doorbell”
"Take pic without this sign so he keeps giving you free food"
As a door dasher we would 100% adore you for life. We will happily keep the food and enjoy the humor.
Leave a cash $5 tip and say "I know he isn't tipping but this is the best I can do, enjoy YOUR meal doordasher."
You said he's a sergeant in the army so use that against him. They tend to take misconduct and harassment of any kind very seriously. Contact the higher ups wherever he is stationed over there and tell them what he's doing. I'm pretty sure it won't go well for him and will end his BS.
Call his commander. Explain situation in a clear, respectful manner. Explain you want no more contact with him. Explain that this behavior is unwelcome, and is threatening and disruptive to your whole family. His company commander can make him stop or face UCMJ action. If his CO wont help, track down his First Sargeant or Sargeant Major. Document your request with names and time/date. If this continues after you notify his chain of command, notify your congressman. Congressional complaints are 100% accountable to a very high level and eliminate any discretion or protection his chain of command might try to give him. Source: Former Army officer who dealt with this crap all the time.
Report him to the cops and make sure to send the police report to his superiors in Japan.
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You seen oddly invested in calling this one out. You've made 5 separate comments, so far. Are you the EX?
Just post a note on the door explaining that your ex is ordering food as a way to bother you and that the dashers are more than welcome to keep/donate the food as long as they don’t bother you. Please and thank you.
If he’s in the U.S. Army, find the contact info for his unit commander. All you really need is the unit number to find this. Call or email that guy about what your ex is doing. Commander will make his life hell.
Reverse uno him by sending him a few ounces of weed and some fent for good measure in the mail. Not sure how well the US military would take that. Might do some time. No idea if the mail gets sniffed or x-rayed though. He may just get to party on your expense.
> and some fent for good measure I know this is UnethicalLifeProTips, but messing with fentanyl is going way too far. Let's not get into murder territory.
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So? Not condoning the cheating by any means but him finding creative ways to harass her post-breakup is crazy
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Yes I’m sure he’s harassing her nightly because he wants a civil apology lol “Please give me tips on how I can get him to stop this” Not revenge, stopping this. She had zero involvement with the weed comment. Where is she “still trying to be a piece of shit?” Why are you on unethical life pro tips if you’re so focused on the ethics of it all lol But sure, continue wHiTEKnighTiNg for random unhinged military man.
Somebody call the president looks like we got a new Sherlock Holmes in town No shit she cheated this is supposed to be a sub for unethical people
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i don’t condone cheating but didn’t we only find out she cheated because she /admitted/ to it
lol
Mans probably supports pedophiles because they are “unethical people”
What bro? What are you on about?
This is harassment and you need to report it to his CO.
This is just silly, how much is this costing him? Put a sign on your door telling the delivery person to keep the food and not ring the bell. maybe briefly explain the situation so they don't think it's a trick or something. Occasionally send your ex a message about it so he keeps doing it, and just let him pay to feed the delivery people forever.
you need to move. When you report him to his commanding officer, he is going to be confronted, but he is going to deny it. He probably sent all that food on a burner phone using a prepaid visa card. Good luck catching him. If you place a sign that the driver should take the food, the driver might think it is a trap. He might think he could get in trouble for not delivering the food. He will just ring the doorbell and leave. The sleeping baby, leave food on top of chair/ box is a good idea. But you are really in danger. I used to work providing therapy to sex offenders, and this whole sending stuff to get your attention is alarming. If he ever goes on leave, be ready, because right now, being in the military is what is holding him back. So, moving is your only solution. Also change your phone number, email address etc. I know, a pain in the azz to do all this, but your safety is at risk right now. Good Luck
Sign him ip for everything related to Scientology, they will literally never stop harassing him.
Eat the free food and go back to bed
Call his unit and explain he's harassing you. Nothing gets a soldier to stop being a dick faster than the brass telling him to cut it out or he'll face consequences. Tell them you would rather talk with the military to talk sense into him than get police involved with a more formal complaint.
Leave a sign outside the door that says please don't ring bell (baby sleeping) or something like that. If you know his number or email, post it on any possible spam site possible (politics and religion related ones are the worst). Make all sorts of accounts using his name and email so that he sees himself forced to get another email and potentially and different phone number. Lastly, find out ways to hex him or make a witchy friend to help you. There's plenty of communities on Reddit that could help you with this too. Lastly, enjoy the free food.
Put his number on fliers for a Chewbacca soundalike contest.
Report it to the delivery companies (door dash, uber eats, whatever) and he'll probably get banned from them.
Get in touch with his boss. Problem solved.
Contact your local inspector general to file a complaint. Also try to get contact for his base and ask to speak with someone that oversees the NCOs because you have an issue with one harassing you while on deployment. If you can, explain the situation and what he has been doing. They will be very happy to deal with that issue for you. The inspector general is usually the best way for a civilian to complain against someone in the Army but cutting out the middle man and speaking to a higher ranks office on base, will expedite punishment. I would still file with the inspector general so it will definitely be on file what he is doing, and if he continues or escalates, you have even more evidence in your favor.
I wonder if there's an ULPT thread from earlier "My m26 ex f23 broke up with me, how can I mess with her?" Reddit: Send doordash deliveries to her through the night!
Contact his chain of command and request a no contact order. Tell them ever time he violates it. This is ethical but your best, most effective route.
Buy a doorbell that disables during scheduled hours.
Unhook the doorbell and enjoy the free food. Easy.
Contact his commanding officer and report him.
>my ex is a sergeant in the army Find his superiors and call them up every time this happens
You edited the post. We know you cheated on him now you’re framing yourself as the person being abused just gtfo out of here 😂
This is more LPT than ULPT, but contact the Army and let them know what he is doing. His base command will put a stop to this real quick based on posts in other subs I’ve seen on Reddit over the years.
Start buying weird sex toys and fetish magazine's and send it to his parents' house under his name. And if you really want to fuck with him try to find the info on his command team and send them emails how he is harassing you if you have proof.
piss disc
>EX-BF is army, stationed abroad >You broke up with him >Don’t want to get into reasons why My money is on you cheated/found somebody new while he was away? You’re in the wrong sub for this. Sensible solutions are leave a sign/note to stop deliveries making noise, or to raise a complaint with his CO. This is for unethical life pro tips, there’s not much you can do other than hammer home to him something mean about why you left him?
Its 2023, we don't make assumptions because, you know it just makes you an ass. Also you're wrong. Reddit finds a way.
... So cheaters deserve to be shot? Come now. The best way to move on is too find success.
Send him a video of you dressed sexy going to answer the door. Tell him thank you for sending his replacement, and that the new guy has a plantain.
Lmao
He’s stationed in Japan , you live in the states. You don’t want to give the reasons for why you broke up? That’s cause you cheated on him with Jodie. Doesn’t take a genius to figure that one out. Maybe apologize?
Non-American here, who is Jodie?
It is the generic name of the person your significant other is sleeping with while you are deployed.
Short for ‘JOb DEferment’ JODE - when the draft was in effect the men who didn’t get drafted because their jobs at home got them deferred from the draft … JODE-Jodie…
Honestly my thoughts too. Deserves what she is dealing with and more.
Become his mother in law and have home removed from the will.
Change your password? Then sign his number up of for Some k or j-pop tickets as a seller.
I'm sorry but this is fucking hilarious.
You shouldn’t of cheated.
r/lostredditors
She edited the post.
We're in unethical life pro tips. Not cheating would be for ethical life pro tips
She cheated on him and he’s getting his revenge in the funniest way possible.
no mercy for cheating whores. u deserve it😂 especially on someone that puts his life on the line to keep you and this country safe. he needs to come here instead so we can help him do more
He's stationed in Japan, he's not putting his life on any line, like the vast majority of soldiers anyway Where's the cheating accusation coming from ? OP said nothing about that, sounds like projection tbh
Whoa this took an unexpected turn
reading comprehension is HARD!
What a fucking loser you are
If someone cheated on me I’d find better ways than wasting my money on food deliveries for revenge. Anyway this subreddit is UNETHICAL life pro tips. Think we care why someone wants revenge?
Start contacting his CO in Japan
We noticed the edit where you said “he cheated” instead of “reasons I don’t want to get into right now”
Don't need unethical call the cops for stalking.
First you must answer a pivotal question. What kind of food is he sending you.... /s
Funny idea: He's not realising that when he's awake during the day and ordering you food, it's going to be the middle of the night where you are, if he's in japan.
Get a rumor back to him that you started dating the DoorDash driver.
He is in the Army. If you can prove it's him, contact the companies for payments for food. Report him the his superiors, he will be in big trouble.
Smart doorbells allow you to turn the actual noise off. You could probably do that before going to bed. Also just leave a note on the door and cover it. Just say something like baby is sleeping, ignore what I said on DoorDash.
Doordashers may not read the note: Make a smallish sandwich board and put STOP and READ on it, then the message, telling them not to knock, and to keep the order for themselves. Is it possible to contact the delivery services and request no deliveries?
Did he start this before he left, or did you break up long distance?
-Add a lamp switch to your doorbell. Turn it off during the knight. The food delivery service that you attend just give them his address and tell them its the wrong address. You can always contact the delivery app he's using and tell them to block your address or his account. -Start documenting his approaches so you can escalate to the police if it becomes necessary. -Set a fake account advertisement giving free food for free. Write his address and phone number as contact. There you go.
Just post a note on your door over the doorbell. Tell the drivers you're being harassed by an ex and to enjoy the food. let him buy food for them all.
Contact his chain of command with pictures and proof is ordered from his card. Even though he's in Japan, he still has to abide by US rules. Even if there is a restraining order against him that you got yesterday........you got the restraining order, right? Source: me. I was a soldier 2 years ago. Rules haven't changed.
Talk to his co.
Maybe put a sign on the door explaining the situation and referring them back to his number
He seems desperate for your attention so you should give him lots of attention from his commander.
Contact his command. They’ll put snd end to it.