I'm a big butch girl who's always been kinda sensitive about my size and weight, but I swear my girlfriend can make me feel beautiful when she gets going
All body types are lovely and good, i wish there wasn't this stigma on being a bit heavier. No matter what you look like, you're gorgeous and perfect, don't let unrealistic expectations bum you out, you're good the way you are. And if you are on the plus side of things, that's just more girlfriend to hug, i see it as an absolute win 😊
There's ofc a difference between being a bit on the heavier side and obese... really need to emphasize that if your weight is getting in the way of your daily activities physically... it's probably not a good thing
Of course yeah but I feel like that’s something no one ever lets people forget..? Like every time someone tries to post or say anything remotely body neutral/positive there’s always this response. Not mad at you or anything btw just something I noticed
I think that’s pretty obvious, and also beside the point. Being too skinny, too muscular… too anything can be bad. Does not mean that you don’t deserve love or can’t feel self worth. Hating obese/anorexic people has not helped them get better.
I think adults can be trusted with their own bodies. And no one forces you to love a person with a certain look or lifestyle.
Point is - this comment was highkey out of topic. Because being plus sized to a certain point doesn’t really tell us anything about a persons health☺️
Hey I have the same view for myself. I'm good with whatever weight I am and if it gets in the way of things I want to do, that's when I course-correct. I don't impose this view on others, but it's a good rule to live by for myself.
Same like I don't even want to not be chubby I want to be chubby in a feminine way not have all of my chub just as a belly that's just completely unproportional to the rest of my body
i'm a slimmer masc with a bigger femme and i fucking love her body. imo as long as you're healthy then who gives a fuck?? there are pros to every body type and if someone doesnt like yours thats their problem not yours 🩷
These kind of memes get me sad and frustrated... I wish I was overall chubby, but I'm not. All my fat has gone to my stomach and omg it's sucks. It makes me feel unlovable some days
I compete at sports so I'm fit and a little muscular and i think thicc girls are sooooo beautiful, not only by the looks, and curves, but there's like a lot to touch and it's so soft and nice, my skin is always so bruised and my hands are rough, I be like 🤤 thinking bout curvy girls with soft skin that I could lift and carry around
The frustrating bit is that I have this exact build, except I have no boobs :(
All my fat just decides to gather at my hips/thighs/stomach and I look so weird and pudgy at the bottom. It’s like being a weird incomplete half-curvy shape.
I've always been more attracted to fluffier women. To each their own. Personally, I prefer a little more cushion for the pushin, more ounce for the bounce.
From the beginning, I have been so outspoken about how beautiful plus sized bodies are, ever since I started liking girls back in 5th grade, and at 30, I maintain this stance!!
My partner deals with problems with his self image, but I always tell them that they’re not fat and that they’re super handsome and lovely but he just won’t listen 😡😡😡
And he’s not even like fat! At worst he’s like chubby, but they act like they’re this rotund mound of gelatinous flesh and it just grrr it grinds my gears hearing him talk about himself like that
Edit: I’m really sorry, I could have worded this better. My intention was not that you can’t be handsome or good looking while being fat or overweight, more that in this situation, he really does not want to be overweight, and I’m trying to explain to them go hat they’re really not as overweight as they see themselves as being. I understand there are better ways I could go about saying this, as well, but this was how I have said it in the past, so it’s how I wrote it. I will try to be better in the future.
Coming from another fat person, I think a better way to go about it would be to not say ‘you’re not fat, you’re handsome!’ Because that further perpetuates the harmful beliefs that being fat = being ugly, which was what the commenter above was trying to say, I believe. Constantly denying someone’s reality when they know they’re fat/chubby might seem to you like it’s reassuring, but it doesn’t actually help at all. I know this comes from a place of good intent though of course. Saying things like ‘you’re handsome and I love your body the way it is’ is much better since you aren’t denying their reality or indirectly saying that you think fat = ugly
You’re probably right, I’m sorry. The reason I think like this is because they very heavily struggle with self image, and they really don’t like the way they look. I’m sorry if I’m thinking in a harmful or toxic way, I just don’t have very much experience with the subject :< I’ll try to be more positive in the way I approach it
I would encourage you to read the Fat Studies Reader, either of Aubrey Gordon's books or listen to something like Maintenance Phase.
I would also encourage the book The Body Is Not An Apology for your partner (and you).
“At worst” is just perpetuating the idea that being overweight is ugly.
I’m fat and fine as fuck.
If someone told me I wasn’t fat and that I was actually hot (because you’re basically saying they can’t be both) I’d be insecure in the relationship as well.
I didn’t mean that you can’t be fat and hot, my problem is that he hates how he looks, and that they can’t stand being overweight, so the fact that they constantly talk about themselves like that upset me. I have no problem with people being fat or chubby or anything, I just meant that he doesn’t isn’t as okay with it as some others may be. I’m sorry, I could have worded it better, however.
Make sure you’re careful with your words with him as well! Reinforce the fact that he can be attractive at any size. Just tell him he looks great without telling him he’s not fat.
I’ll try my best to be more mindful, going forward! I’m just really afraid of upsetting him :\^( he has a tough life already, and I don’t want to make it worse
I'm a big butch girl who's always been kinda sensitive about my size and weight, but I swear my girlfriend can make me feel beautiful when she gets going
Love that for you. That you have someone who enjoys you and your body
All body types are lovely and good, i wish there wasn't this stigma on being a bit heavier. No matter what you look like, you're gorgeous and perfect, don't let unrealistic expectations bum you out, you're good the way you are. And if you are on the plus side of things, that's just more girlfriend to hug, i see it as an absolute win 😊
Well damn make me cry why dontcha
Loving your words 🙂
Same with stretch marks they're so gorgeous like beautiful ore veins decorating the body of an earth goddess.
There's ofc a difference between being a bit on the heavier side and obese... really need to emphasize that if your weight is getting in the way of your daily activities physically... it's probably not a good thing
Of course yeah but I feel like that’s something no one ever lets people forget..? Like every time someone tries to post or say anything remotely body neutral/positive there’s always this response. Not mad at you or anything btw just something I noticed
I think that’s pretty obvious, and also beside the point. Being too skinny, too muscular… too anything can be bad. Does not mean that you don’t deserve love or can’t feel self worth. Hating obese/anorexic people has not helped them get better. I think adults can be trusted with their own bodies. And no one forces you to love a person with a certain look or lifestyle. Point is - this comment was highkey out of topic. Because being plus sized to a certain point doesn’t really tell us anything about a persons health☺️
Sorry
Hey I have the same view for myself. I'm good with whatever weight I am and if it gets in the way of things I want to do, that's when I course-correct. I don't impose this view on others, but it's a good rule to live by for myself.
More so need to emphasize that adults can be trusted with their own health & should be trusted to decide what is best for their own bodies.
Exactly. Losing/gaining weight should be morally neutral as far as other people are concerned. It's your own business
trueeeeeee
Soft, chubby bodies/persons are so hot and beautiful🔥🥰🤗
Big girls you are beautiful... 😊 (Love that song)
Me too
If i had a nickle for every time a gay man made a song about big girls, I'd have two. Which isn't a lot but it's nice that it happened twice
Which one is the second?
Queen's, fat bottom girls
Women 😍
I love this so much.
Me crying because I don't even have someone to love 😭
Me too😭
Ahhh I want a gf who can be like that with me 😭 I need a gal ta play with my stummy and remind me how beautiful my body is
I've been trying to lose weight for a long time and it's frustrating, but this is really cute
Thats what I thought too. I'm a big woman myself and don't like all of my bodyparts
Yeah I don't like my 🍆
I don't like my belly, my thighs and my ass
Oh I want to have a big butt, yeah my belly is too big imo
I'm fine with my🍆 but god do I hate my 🥚🥚.
I’m trynna lose male fat so I don’t really get validation from posts like these unfortunately 😞
Same like I don't even want to not be chubby I want to be chubby in a feminine way not have all of my chub just as a belly that's just completely unproportional to the rest of my body
Exactly… if I looked like the girl in the illustration that’d be one thing
Mmmmm yeah I get that 😅 unfortunately I've gained about a hundred pounds since starting HRT almost two years ago
Now kith
Been trying to deal with how big my belly is and honestly it's refreshing to see something like this. Helps make me feel like I'm wanted.
I love the squish sm!! X3
I love being a bigger girl and I love girls who love bigger girls. All of the love shown to us in recent posts has really made my heart smile xoxoxo
i'm a slimmer masc with a bigger femme and i fucking love her body. imo as long as you're healthy then who gives a fuck?? there are pros to every body type and if someone doesnt like yours thats their problem not yours 🩷
I'm a bigger femme and my partner is a slim masc enby... check out (nsfw) baileyillustration on Instagram.
Belly! :D
this is so true
im gonna be honest if a girl was admiring me for being chubby i would just cry
These kind of memes get me sad and frustrated... I wish I was overall chubby, but I'm not. All my fat has gone to my stomach and omg it's sucks. It makes me feel unlovable some days
Iam chubby but I have small breasts for example. Everyone is different. I always thought bigger breasts are better but now I like mine pretty much
Mannn, glad to see people actually find this attractive, Never really felt like it before a soft masc fat dork xD
I've... really needed to see this. I've been gaining weight lately and have found myself skipping meals...
To me the most attractive thing is being kind and having stuff your passionate about
Yes perfect big spoon so I can be little spoon 😍❤️❤️
the cutest
This makes me unequivocally happy
I'm glad that I could bring a little bit of happiness
Yeye!
Big girl means more girl per girl. Simple as that :3
Shout out to all my friend shaped gals
I compete at sports so I'm fit and a little muscular and i think thicc girls are sooooo beautiful, not only by the looks, and curves, but there's like a lot to touch and it's so soft and nice, my skin is always so bruised and my hands are rough, I be like 🤤 thinking bout curvy girls with soft skin that I could lift and carry around
Me and who :,)
Do any girls ac like this irl tho 😫
I know that my ex gf loved my soft skin
that’s so cute !!!
🤙🤙
Fat people are beautiful and I’m always going to love and accept my partner as they are 😢😢😢💜💜💜
The frustrating bit is that I have this exact build, except I have no boobs :( All my fat just decides to gather at my hips/thighs/stomach and I look so weird and pudgy at the bottom. It’s like being a weird incomplete half-curvy shape.
Me too...hugs for you
Thank you, you’re so sweet 💚 Hugs to you too
I’ve been gaining weight lately and I really needed to see this 🥺
I've always been more attracted to fluffier women. To each their own. Personally, I prefer a little more cushion for the pushin, more ounce for the bounce.
Your comment made me smile. Thanks
*squiiiiiissssshhhhhhhhhhhh* 💜🥰
I agree with this image
Very true. My girlfriend loving my tummy really makes me so much less insecure about my body
Sadly this does not work like this
But it would be nice
Yeah it would be :(
somehow i manage to fall inbetween those categories
Meow purr purr
Curves are hot just saying
From the beginning, I have been so outspoken about how beautiful plus sized bodies are, ever since I started liking girls back in 5th grade, and at 30, I maintain this stance!!
u/auralynnnnnnnnn THE SIGN
Hehehe the sign :3
I definitely feel this as a trans girl
This would be so me lol
I'll never see myself as pretty. My friends will be disappointed when they see me for the first time.
But maybe it will be the exact same picture and they like your body
My partner deals with problems with his self image, but I always tell them that they’re not fat and that they’re super handsome and lovely but he just won’t listen 😡😡😡
Being fat =/= ugly or not handsome
And he’s not even like fat! At worst he’s like chubby, but they act like they’re this rotund mound of gelatinous flesh and it just grrr it grinds my gears hearing him talk about himself like that Edit: I’m really sorry, I could have worded this better. My intention was not that you can’t be handsome or good looking while being fat or overweight, more that in this situation, he really does not want to be overweight, and I’m trying to explain to them go hat they’re really not as overweight as they see themselves as being. I understand there are better ways I could go about saying this, as well, but this was how I have said it in the past, so it’s how I wrote it. I will try to be better in the future.
I'm fat and need a break from comments like these. Have a good day
Sorry :\^( I didn’t mean to upset
Coming from another fat person, I think a better way to go about it would be to not say ‘you’re not fat, you’re handsome!’ Because that further perpetuates the harmful beliefs that being fat = being ugly, which was what the commenter above was trying to say, I believe. Constantly denying someone’s reality when they know they’re fat/chubby might seem to you like it’s reassuring, but it doesn’t actually help at all. I know this comes from a place of good intent though of course. Saying things like ‘you’re handsome and I love your body the way it is’ is much better since you aren’t denying their reality or indirectly saying that you think fat = ugly
You’re probably right, I’m sorry. The reason I think like this is because they very heavily struggle with self image, and they really don’t like the way they look. I’m sorry if I’m thinking in a harmful or toxic way, I just don’t have very much experience with the subject :< I’ll try to be more positive in the way I approach it
I would encourage you to read the Fat Studies Reader, either of Aubrey Gordon's books or listen to something like Maintenance Phase. I would also encourage the book The Body Is Not An Apology for your partner (and you).
I’ll see about reading them. Hopefully this can be a learning experience for me 🙏
“At worst” is just perpetuating the idea that being overweight is ugly. I’m fat and fine as fuck. If someone told me I wasn’t fat and that I was actually hot (because you’re basically saying they can’t be both) I’d be insecure in the relationship as well.
I didn’t mean that you can’t be fat and hot, my problem is that he hates how he looks, and that they can’t stand being overweight, so the fact that they constantly talk about themselves like that upset me. I have no problem with people being fat or chubby or anything, I just meant that he doesn’t isn’t as okay with it as some others may be. I’m sorry, I could have worded it better, however.
Make sure you’re careful with your words with him as well! Reinforce the fact that he can be attractive at any size. Just tell him he looks great without telling him he’s not fat.
I’ll try my best to be more mindful, going forward! I’m just really afraid of upsetting him :\^( he has a tough life already, and I don’t want to make it worse
Keep doing it...maybe someday they believe you
That’s the plan!