Same lol, being a repressed trans woman most of my life and living in a small town with no money to move doesn't help. Living paycheck to paycheck is rough lol, I'm really hoping I magically find a café filled with queer women lmao
Mean!
I'm already flirting a ton, turning breathless before any of you girls could make me..
Its just that most lesbians I find over here live on the other side of the planet, it's certainly an uphill battle over here xD
Since summer 2021. Prior to that I had been dating since 2009, no gaps between relationships.
Honestly I've been pretty happily single up to this point but now I'm ready to date again. The struggle is actually finding someone.
Since December 12 2018, so about 5 and a half years. But that's okay, I don't ever plan on dating again. But it's also been that long since I've had any physical human contact, and that's supposed to be not good for you lol.
My last relationship was a damn doozy. We tried to do the friends thing after we broke up and I’m sure that was just as bad if not worse. That was about 3 years ago.
Couple months later I got a new job with a new company, moved to a new state & bought my first house. So while I was healing from the chaos that was my last relationship I was figuring out all these life changes (all great ones) in an unfamiliar place where I didn’t really know anyone.
I’m just now feeling like I’m in a place to start looking again. My last relationship was definitely traumatic so I needed every bit of that time to myself.
Yea, same. If I'm not worrying about my inability to socialize then I'm afraid that I won't be seen as feminine enough. It's stupid in hindsight but that doesn't stop me from being nervous about approaching other women.
Mine decided to text me she wants to try to get therapy with her ex. While on holiday alone. Needless to say I didn't take that well... Currently alternating between dissociation and bawling my eyes out. Fun stuff...
It's nebulous. My most recent ex and I never officially split up. We'd been together for about three years and then covid hit. They have a kidney condition that leaves them very vulnerable due to their meds. So we knew that they weren't going to leave their house for any non-emergency reason for an indefinite period. And since my job (chef) puts me at a lot of risk for potentially picking up covid, they couldn't risk it. We still talked every day, etc.
Even after vaccines and time has passed they still are basically on the same lockdown they were four years ago. So all our usual dates of going to movies and shows and restaurants and clubs are off the table. We still talk all the time but somewhere along the way, without saying anything specific, we were no longer dating.
Hugs to you both from someone else still taking a lot of COVID precautions. Have they looked for/joined any still COVIDing communities? I’ve also heard of a new app that just launched for COVIDers to find each other.
Hey, I was in the same boat for the same amount of time. Hang in there, yeah? It gets better after a while. I recently found the courage to download a dating app, though I'm not very successful with it it's a start and I feel like I have finally moved on - I wouldn't have downloaded it had I felt that I was still into my ex
Take care
I’ve been single for 2 months, but it will probably be a while until I end up in another relationship (my last one broke me despite me being the one that had to end the relationship)
5-6 years. Been really really feeling the loneliness and craving touch or comfort or love for maybe the last 9 months.
I've only been in 2 relationships, both guys, but, kinda realized they'd probably ask for things I'm not comfortable doing, and it's really easy to put it off in teenage years, but as an adult, it's a bit harder to find the same reason to say no.
This past Christmas, and probably this Christmas, was hard because I just wanted to have a little Christmas with someone I didn't have to hide around. Even if it was Carol kinda love.
I think I've watched all the movies and shows I could, music helps, but it still hurts when I want to dance with someone, and I can't for several reasons.
Like 10 years I guess. I feel like I want to start dating again but I’ve had a lot of life in those 10 years and I’m still working on myself so idk if I’m even fully ready to put energy into dating still.
I hope I find a partner but I’m okay waiting for it to be right.
I'm married, but the last 9 years I've been basically single. We're roommates raising a child. We don't always get along like we should, but there hasn't been anything I can do. It takes two to put effort in, so if one is doing it, but not the other, it's not going to work. She recently gave me permission to see others (I extended that offer back to her, but she isn't happy with herself, so she isn't interested). I stopped working on the marriage, and have been working on myself. Here's hoping I won't be single forever.
About the same, 4 years, only one relationship and honestly im hopeless
And being so down bad all the time doesnt help at all, it just also makes me feel ashamed
i’ve been single since 3rd grade, technically. it wasnt sapphic though, i didnt know i was a girl yet :3 (well it kinda was? because i was a girl, i just didnt know it? wehhhh, brain hurt)
I’ve been divorced from my husband for 7 months. I haven’t had an actual in person romantic relationship in about 9 months. First time I’m working on a relationship with myself, but I sure do struggle with skin hunger.
I'm on year five of my current relationship, but I was single for SEVEN whole years before that. Like not even dating or hooking up at all during those seven years.
Right now I've been single for almost 2 years after a (for me) traumatizing heart break. In these 2 years I tried dating a little, but that didn't lead to anything serious. Before my last relationship however I've always been single, just had a couple of failed situationships that I can hardly consider relationships.
I have a casual partner mostly for sex and kink, but my last romantic relationships were around 7 years ago and one of them really hurt me, I have gone back to dating slowly after dating very little in the last year or so
It's been like 11 years since I was last in a long-term relationship. It doesn't feel good.
What feels worse is that all of my long-term relationships were also long-distance, so I never got to just, like . . . hang out and cuddle. Time together was always limited, whether by it being a video call or in-person visit. I've never gotten to spend time with a partner making a space feel like a home.
Also, I figured out I'm a trans woman a couple years ago. I'm on HRT but no surgeries yet, and my preferences and dysphoria are such that I wouldn't feel comfortable being sexual with a partner without first having had bottom surgery. So now it feels like there's also a fairly big time buffer ahead of me, separating me from future romance, too.
Almost 9 months now. The relationship was 3-4 years long. Lasted all of college and was my first relationship ever. I’m not really interested in finding a new partner on a dating app though, so I guess if I find someone I do, and if I don’t I don’t. 🤷🏻♀️
Since November 2023, but I’ve been on many flings and going on many dates, but I’m yet to have anything serious or anything with commitment in over 2 years really. I’m always just anxious and wanting to find someone who appreciates me and is able to understand me but it’s such a struggle 😔
If we count the period of time leading up to my divorce, it's about four years. Comphet sucks, and caused me to miss out on a lot, but the relationship counts.
Since Feb 29th this year - but I intend to be single for a few years because I'm so not emotionally mature enough to be in a relationship and will be working on myself before I do.
Since May 2018. So it's been 6 years. Been currently dating someone for 6 months now but we are not official yet. If this doesn't work out I'll stay single.
Let's see. Since I started dating when I was 14, I think I had a period of two months up until I was 19 where I was single/between girlfriends. Then I was single most of college. I dated here or there but only one girlfriend that lasted only 3 months. After graduation, I soon met my first wife. We were married for 5 years. We were split for 3 months when I met who would become my second wife.
So in my 25 years of dating eligibility, I've been single for maybe 5 years of it.
A little over 2 months.
I left my wife in March following many, many years of narcissistic abuse. We had separated in November, and I moved out, and she begged me for another shot.
Found out within this last week that after she begged me to come back, she had an affair with this woman I was suspicious of while we were working things out, and that she’s been prolonging our divorce specifically because this other woman is married, still living with her own wife, and hasn’t even broached the topic of divorce with her wife, and my wife has been waiting out this woman leaving her wife before she’s willing to finalize divorce stuff because she wants to move in with her right away.
I’m not having a good time.
This is the saddest middle school breakup story. I had a girlfriend break up with me because she found out she was lesbian. Weird right? I didn't know I was trans yet :( this was like 7 years ago
About 15 years. And that was a comphet relationship with a guy. We never kissed. It was for religious reasons on his part, but I went with it because I didn't actually want to kiss him.
For almost a year! It isn’t all that bad, I’m going through a bit of a transformation right now, becoming more masculine, it’s awesome. I’ll get back into the scene soon enough.
Im not single at the moment but have been single for about 2 yrs before I met my now partner. I was a happy person back then and am still a happy person now.
Around 3 years, having the ex suddenly dump me a week after spending time with her and talking about moving in, marriage etc it's kind of made me wary and scared of the whole relationship thing since, although I totally get that not every woman is an a hole like she was/is
For a very long time lol, it’s been a few years. One almost destroyed me and other one? That went downhill, dumb and tried again but got cheated on so that was cool. I’ve been single ever since.
Since 2015, but at that time I didn’t know I was gay or a girl and the relationship only lasted a month. Sometimes I feel like I don’t know how to date at all, and I still can not figure out dating apps; I’m just staying hopeful that I meet someone irl that it works out with
My entire life lol
Ditto mostly, I don't really count people leading me on and using me as a relationship =w=; Tho still see them as exes, ex-clowns.
Yup...and I don't like circuses.
Same here. Gotten a date here or there, but nothing has worked out yet.
Same lol, being a repressed trans woman most of my life and living in a small town with no money to move doesn't help. Living paycheck to paycheck is rough lol, I'm really hoping I magically find a café filled with queer women lmao
or, you could…… start the magical café you’re looking for? always been a dream of mine lol
Same
about to be 24 years (oh my god i am so lonely)
24 for me too, that's crazy! xD
If only there was something you 2 lesbians can do about being single 😔
If anyone finds out, let me know for sure!
Did you try believing in yourself
Mean! I'm already flirting a ton, turning breathless before any of you girls could make me.. Its just that most lesbians I find over here live on the other side of the planet, it's certainly an uphill battle over here xD
Aw wow that rough, hope you can find a german girl to luv soon
Why are lesbian sheep everywhere
About to be 25 years for me (just another thing to add to the quarter life crisis)
I found my people 😂not too bad though
Since summer 2021. Prior to that I had been dating since 2009, no gaps between relationships. Honestly I've been pretty happily single up to this point but now I'm ready to date again. The struggle is actually finding someone.
Eh, roughly 2-3 years. I'm not in a rush tho. But why ARE ALL YOU OTHER LADIES SO HOT TO MY EYES AND HEART??? (I know i am too, just not my own type)
Since December 12 2018, so about 5 and a half years. But that's okay, I don't ever plan on dating again. But it's also been that long since I've had any physical human contact, and that's supposed to be not good for you lol.
It's not.
Whole life
It’s been 84 years….
Pahahaa, almost choked on my coffee!
Shoot, someone beat me to it.
My last relationship was a damn doozy. We tried to do the friends thing after we broke up and I’m sure that was just as bad if not worse. That was about 3 years ago. Couple months later I got a new job with a new company, moved to a new state & bought my first house. So while I was healing from the chaos that was my last relationship I was figuring out all these life changes (all great ones) in an unfamiliar place where I didn’t really know anyone. I’m just now feeling like I’m in a place to start looking again. My last relationship was definitely traumatic so I needed every bit of that time to myself.
21 years
W Jean vicquemare pfp 🫰🏽
9 years and crippling dysphoria and social anxiety is not really helping 🌝
Yea, same. If I'm not worrying about my inability to socialize then I'm afraid that I won't be seen as feminine enough. It's stupid in hindsight but that doesn't stop me from being nervous about approaching other women.
12 hours (pain🙃)
Girl, same! My gf just broke up with me on Monday and I’m like, cool cool cool…we live in the same house. I’m sure this won’t be awkward at all
Mine decided to text me she wants to try to get therapy with her ex. While on holiday alone. Needless to say I didn't take that well... Currently alternating between dissociation and bawling my eyes out. Fun stuff...
For a year now, but tbf, the relationship only lasted a month and turned out to be a dumpsterfire
1.5 years now. Post divorce. Still a little heartbroken, or at least not ready to date. Love is hard.
It's nebulous. My most recent ex and I never officially split up. We'd been together for about three years and then covid hit. They have a kidney condition that leaves them very vulnerable due to their meds. So we knew that they weren't going to leave their house for any non-emergency reason for an indefinite period. And since my job (chef) puts me at a lot of risk for potentially picking up covid, they couldn't risk it. We still talked every day, etc. Even after vaccines and time has passed they still are basically on the same lockdown they were four years ago. So all our usual dates of going to movies and shows and restaurants and clubs are off the table. We still talk all the time but somewhere along the way, without saying anything specific, we were no longer dating.
Hugs to you both from someone else still taking a lot of COVID precautions. Have they looked for/joined any still COVIDing communities? I’ve also heard of a new app that just launched for COVIDers to find each other.
Around 6 years.
3 years.. I’m starting to wonder if I’ll ever have another one lmao, dating is hard.
Hey, I was in the same boat for the same amount of time. Hang in there, yeah? It gets better after a while. I recently found the courage to download a dating app, though I'm not very successful with it it's a start and I feel like I have finally moved on - I wouldn't have downloaded it had I felt that I was still into my ex Take care
Ten years still feel heartbroken 😞
I was single for 5 years, then dated someone for 3, then single again for 4 years, now not single anymore but phew, it was a while.
My entire life🥺
In 2019 I “dated” one girl for 8 days while homeless living in a shelter, other than that I’ve been single my entire life
My entire life. Still hoping I would find a romantic partner soon.
18 years....
I have never been in a relationship all my life, I have never had any experience, not even a first kiss
My first ever relationship started when I was 32 and lasted 6 months. I've been single since then, about 9 months now
Over a year, BUT I was alone in that relationship. So now I am by myself, single, with a cat. I validate all my trauma, emotions, and inner child.
I’ve been single for 2 months, but it will probably be a while until I end up in another relationship (my last one broke me despite me being the one that had to end the relationship)
My last ex and me broke up in early 2018. Ever since then I have been single. 7 years and 2 months.
I'm so sorry to hear that. I've been single for almost a year, but I've had many heartbreaks since then, and it's not a fun time
5-6 years. Been really really feeling the loneliness and craving touch or comfort or love for maybe the last 9 months. I've only been in 2 relationships, both guys, but, kinda realized they'd probably ask for things I'm not comfortable doing, and it's really easy to put it off in teenage years, but as an adult, it's a bit harder to find the same reason to say no. This past Christmas, and probably this Christmas, was hard because I just wanted to have a little Christmas with someone I didn't have to hide around. Even if it was Carol kinda love. I think I've watched all the movies and shows I could, music helps, but it still hurts when I want to dance with someone, and I can't for several reasons.
About two years, except it wasn't presenting as a lesbian relationship at the time
Heading to the four years club by next February.
Almost 4 years. Pretty much in the same boat.
It's been 8,307 days and counting 😔
About a year now ;-; I'm dying lmao
Like 10 years I guess. I feel like I want to start dating again but I’ve had a lot of life in those 10 years and I’m still working on myself so idk if I’m even fully ready to put energy into dating still. I hope I find a partner but I’m okay waiting for it to be right.
About 6 months
same
1.5 years and I’m starting to get lonely 😢
I haven’t been properly single for long since like January of 2018, and I’m married now so that won’t change any time soon!!
Racing towards 5 years and no end in sight
Almost 24 years.
Always
3 years. I was happily single for two of them. Now I am sooo ready for a girlfriend
Seven years and I thought I'd be more bothered about it, but I'm not. If I find someone then cool, but if I don't then that's cool too.
I'm married, but the last 9 years I've been basically single. We're roommates raising a child. We don't always get along like we should, but there hasn't been anything I can do. It takes two to put effort in, so if one is doing it, but not the other, it's not going to work. She recently gave me permission to see others (I extended that offer back to her, but she isn't happy with herself, so she isn't interested). I stopped working on the marriage, and have been working on myself. Here's hoping I won't be single forever.
It's been 3 months since I broke off my engagement
3-4 Years. And I’m a hopeless romantic. I’ve turned down hookups multiple times tho, I just want to find my person🤌🏼
Been a couple of years, saying that the last relationship was a trainwreck would be an understatement
3-4 years
*checks watch* About 25 years
About the same, 4 years, only one relationship and honestly im hopeless And being so down bad all the time doesnt help at all, it just also makes me feel ashamed
18 years? Ish? I’m 38.
29 years
Twenty five years, seven months, and twelve days. Probably forever, the way we’re looking at it.
Basically my whole life. I am closer to death than finding someone who is attracted to me/someone who wants to date me.
Like 9 years... Dating is impossible anymore. 😭😭😭
About a year and a half. My last two relationships sucked me dry financially, so I want to get that sorted before thinking about a new one
nearly two months after a 6 year long relationship. starting to come out of the worst of it tho🙏🏻
wayyyy to long, with someone would change that-
A full 22 years! 😭😭
i’ve been single since 3rd grade, technically. it wasnt sapphic though, i didnt know i was a girl yet :3 (well it kinda was? because i was a girl, i just didnt know it? wehhhh, brain hurt)
24 years and counting
I’ve been divorced from my husband for 7 months. I haven’t had an actual in person romantic relationship in about 9 months. First time I’m working on a relationship with myself, but I sure do struggle with skin hunger.
I'm on year five of my current relationship, but I was single for SEVEN whole years before that. Like not even dating or hooking up at all during those seven years.
Since February 😔
Divorced for 4 years! My ex wife was scary I’m too scared to date 😕
Almost 6 years. Longest stretch in over 25 years. Happy being single, and I'm not sure I'll date again, but anything is possible.
2 year bc i’m picky 💀
7 years for me, and that relationship only lasted a month… been 9 years since my last major relationship
14 months, I don’t really mind it
3 years by choice! but been dating around for the last 6 months
I haven’t been single for more than a couple months since I was 13 (I’m 21) it’s kinda terrible ngl
About a year
5 months and I’m still being traumatized to this day
Couple of months
2 and a half weeks...
6months or so idk
Right now I've been single for almost 2 years after a (for me) traumatizing heart break. In these 2 years I tried dating a little, but that didn't lead to anything serious. Before my last relationship however I've always been single, just had a couple of failed situationships that I can hardly consider relationships.
21 years and 2 months (i turned 21 in april)
3 years
7-9 months
I think it's been 2 years now I guess, been kinda miserable ever since ngl
3 and a half years.
im a teen but like 3-4 years now?
year and a half. But sex was there lmao
24 years still counting
16 years so my whole life
29 rn and I think 15 since this started to matter to me #veryorignal
about half a year, last partner figured out she was aromantic.
Since I was born
5 or 6 years officially but with some casual dating sprinkled along smh
my whole life. gosh i'm so touch-starved.
from 2017 and had a crush on my flatmate who has a girlfriend two years ago 🙂🙂🙂
All life, and it will stay that way for a while
Granted right now only about 1-2 months before that relationship upwards of 5 years
For 10 yrs
my whole life so 20, almost 21 years. in my experience not a lot of girls find trans women attractive :[
Basically my whole life<3
Broke up with my first ever gf two-ish months ago
1,5 years now.
3 years! tried dating here and there nothing sticks
A few months
3 years almost
Since October
I haven’t been single in like 10 years, 3 different partners 😵💫 I can’t help it. I’m a Cancer Venus…
I have a casual partner mostly for sex and kink, but my last romantic relationships were around 7 years ago and one of them really hurt me, I have gone back to dating slowly after dating very little in the last year or so
8 months now. Need a cute masc gf omg
21 years 💀😭 Virgin too which is worse
It's been like 11 years since I was last in a long-term relationship. It doesn't feel good. What feels worse is that all of my long-term relationships were also long-distance, so I never got to just, like . . . hang out and cuddle. Time together was always limited, whether by it being a video call or in-person visit. I've never gotten to spend time with a partner making a space feel like a home. Also, I figured out I'm a trans woman a couple years ago. I'm on HRT but no surgeries yet, and my preferences and dysphoria are such that I wouldn't feel comfortable being sexual with a partner without first having had bottom surgery. So now it feels like there's also a fairly big time buffer ahead of me, separating me from future romance, too.
Almost 9 months now. The relationship was 3-4 years long. Lasted all of college and was my first relationship ever. I’m not really interested in finding a new partner on a dating app though, so I guess if I find someone I do, and if I don’t I don’t. 🤷🏻♀️
Since November 2023, but I’ve been on many flings and going on many dates, but I’m yet to have anything serious or anything with commitment in over 2 years really. I’m always just anxious and wanting to find someone who appreciates me and is able to understand me but it’s such a struggle 😔
If we count the period of time leading up to my divorce, it's about four years. Comphet sucks, and caused me to miss out on a lot, but the relationship counts.
15 years and counting, but hopefully not for long
Comment section did not disappoint
Little over a year and a half
5+years. I’m going insane
So am I! I'm afraid that once I meet a woman that's interested in and sexually attracted to me, I'm gonna go FUCKING NUTS!
16 years 🙃
20 years (aka my entire life lol) Is it too much to ask just to be held by someone that loves you?😔
Just over 7 years :(
FIVE MONTHS GOING ON SIX LETS FUCKING GOOOOOOO 🗣🗣🔊🔊🔊🔊🔊
~5 months
fifteen years
2 years and a bit
Been a few years 🤧 I feel like I’m ready to start dating again but I’m also terrified
About 4 years. Being a transbian hasn't helped out, one iota!
6-7 years
Since Feb 29th this year - but I intend to be single for a few years because I'm so not emotionally mature enough to be in a relationship and will be working on myself before I do.
Since May 2018. So it's been 6 years. Been currently dating someone for 6 months now but we are not official yet. If this doesn't work out I'll stay single.
7 years :/
7 or 8 years. Haven't really been interested.
2 1/2 months
2020, so 4 years. I'm a touch starved hopeless romantic bisexual 😅
1 year and 4 months I think.
been single since 4th grade (im in 10th now). and yes it was a real relationship!!!!
23 years, yippeeeeeeeee
23 years, yippeeeeeeeee
23 years, yippeeeeeeeee
been about 10 weeks since my most recent breakup
been about 10 weeks since my most recent breakup
A year lol… I’ve been in many “talking” stages and “situationships” but never anything serious
A year lol… I’ve been in many “talking” stages and “situationships” but never anything serious
Let's see. Since I started dating when I was 14, I think I had a period of two months up until I was 19 where I was single/between girlfriends. Then I was single most of college. I dated here or there but only one girlfriend that lasted only 3 months. After graduation, I soon met my first wife. We were married for 5 years. We were split for 3 months when I met who would become my second wife. So in my 25 years of dating eligibility, I've been single for maybe 5 years of it.
A little over 2 months. I left my wife in March following many, many years of narcissistic abuse. We had separated in November, and I moved out, and she begged me for another shot. Found out within this last week that after she begged me to come back, she had an affair with this woman I was suspicious of while we were working things out, and that she’s been prolonging our divorce specifically because this other woman is married, still living with her own wife, and hasn’t even broached the topic of divorce with her wife, and my wife has been waiting out this woman leaving her wife before she’s willing to finalize divorce stuff because she wants to move in with her right away. I’m not having a good time.
Not long enough lol
This is the saddest middle school breakup story. I had a girlfriend break up with me because she found out she was lesbian. Weird right? I didn't know I was trans yet :( this was like 7 years ago
Officially single since 2017, although the relationship I was in from 2016-17 couldn't really be called a relationship.
About 15 years. And that was a comphet relationship with a guy. We never kissed. It was for religious reasons on his part, but I went with it because I didn't actually want to kiss him.
One year
For almost a year! It isn’t all that bad, I’m going through a bit of a transformation right now, becoming more masculine, it’s awesome. I’ll get back into the scene soon enough.
Like 8 months
It's complicated
Im not single at the moment but have been single for about 2 yrs before I met my now partner. I was a happy person back then and am still a happy person now.
Over a year. Longest I’ve ever dated someone in my life was a few months.
4 months. Still talking to her though.
4 and half years geez
11 years
Almost two weeks 😭
Around 3 years, having the ex suddenly dump me a week after spending time with her and talking about moving in, marriage etc it's kind of made me wary and scared of the whole relationship thing since, although I totally get that not every woman is an a hole like she was/is
Almost 8 years
20 years 😭
For a very long time lol, it’s been a few years. One almost destroyed me and other one? That went downhill, dumb and tried again but got cheated on so that was cool. I’ve been single ever since.
Since 2 years ago and it was my first irl relationship. 😭 It didn’t even last that long either, only for like 2 weeks. So maybe a summer fling lmao?
Let’s just say a very long time😂
Since 2015, but at that time I didn’t know I was gay or a girl and the relationship only lasted a month. Sometimes I feel like I don’t know how to date at all, and I still can not figure out dating apps; I’m just staying hopeful that I meet someone irl that it works out with
my entire life and I am not even kidding
7 years
Just got out a 3.5 year relationship about 2 - 3 months ago. Time to be single for a bit