Same here. Also hindi naalagaan sarili so mukha na syang yung medyo chubby na dads - sobrang tanda na nyang tignan despite us being the same age. Tapos nung nag mini-reunion uung datit naming village, ang sama na ng ugali. Immediately killed whatever fondness remained for him lol
>napapanaginipan ko rin (is it weird?).
Hindi weird. Kasi ikaw na nagsabi iniisip mo pa din siya and still checking his fb. Saka may history ka ng puppy love sa kanya. All the ingredients para mapanaginipan mo siya.
22 ka na. Medyo lubayan mo na yan ganyang pagiisip.
Well yeah, you asked why first love never dies, because you don't want it to die.
Its like asking yourself bakit ka nababasa ng tubig, habang may hawak kang water hose na may running water, naka-point straight at you.
Trot.
The past shouldn't be romanticize. It's in the past for a reason. Let go of 'the grass is greener on the other side' mindset. Nakakagago yan. Lol.
Move on, bhie! Get a life.
Alam mo yung short story na "Dead Stars". Yan lagi naaalala ko about first love.
You think its love you cant forget pero baka it was just the light from a dead star, kala mo meron pa, pero wala na talaga.
> thinking what life could have been if I’m with him
Sounds like unresolved issues. I still sometimes think about my first love 20 years ago, but not in that sense. More like I know he’s been a big part of my teenage life and that I will always have a certain fondness for him, in a small corner of my heart. And yes, sometimes I get curious what he’s been up to. But I will never think of what ifs with him, nor will I want to be with him again.
unresolved issues hmmm not really po since elem days pa siya but siguro it was all rainbows and butterflies, tho may part na bigla na lang siya nagka-something with another classmate lol
Yung panaginip na yan bunga lang yan ng kung ano naiisip mo prior baga ka matulog. Oo napapanaginipan ko pa rin yung niligawan ko 6 yrs ago pero pag napaisip lang ako paminsan minsan. Madalas na panaginip ko ngayon work related na (yes, stressed ako sobra sa work). Kung curious ka what awaits you with him as your partner, there really is one way to find out and you already know the answer on how to do that. Win or lose, just make sure you don't have any regrets as life goes on, yan lang ang mapapayo ko.
I read somewhere that first love never dies but true, genuine love can bury it alive. I'm glad it didn't work out with my first love. I'm happily married with my husband and it's the best decision I've ever made :)
>I read somewhere that first love never dies but true, genuine love can bury it alive.
I like this. Meron akong childhood crush na I think puppy love ko na din. Even if I had a boyfriend I was still thinking about my puppy love from time to time. Pero, when I met my husband na wala lahat ng feelings ko sa mga taong na in love ako. Hahaha.
I sometimes think kapag napapanaginipan mo ang isang tao and wala na kayong communication, maybe may times na iniisip ka rin niya or naalala ka niya. But still depends on the person, lalo na kung may pinagsamahan kayo. But I really think this is normal. Maybe hindi lang talaga siya nawala sa heart mo. Hmm
Your first love never dies because you won’t let it die. Period 😅
As for me, pass HAHAHA. Masaya na ako na okay siya, pero I don’t want him back in my life at all. At peace dapat tayo. How can we move forward?
Maybe. I still think of him and sometimes get curious of what ifs. He fell first, Grade 2 kami nun crush niya na ko, he confessed sa paper binigay niya sakin. Then I transferred school nung Grade 5 that’s when nag ka Crush ako sa kanya. Naging boyfriend/girlfriend when we were 15 years old up until 18. Then we broke up. After that we see each other from time to time kasi classmates kami before, whenever we have reunions. Now, ilang years na din kami hindi nagkikita, and we both have partners.
It’s nice to cherish the memories especially when the person has been good.
it kinda did not die for a while, it's been 4 years. Hanggang sa isang araw I decided i don't want to have any connection with him anymore, so I soft unfriended and unfollow him on all remaining social media, para hindi na kami friends on facebook, and para di na niya ako i follow on other socials. It gave me peace of mind, kasi before I catch myself checking the views on my story if na view ba niya and ano kaya iniisip niya when I posted this and that. Now I'm more genuine with expressing myself, I don't become curious anymore on what he will think when he sees what i post :)
It depends kasi how you ended. Like for my first love, we liked each other na since elementary then became bf and gf after highschool graduation. Kaso strict parents ko so we have to break up after hiding the relationship for 6 months. Now I’m in my 30s and happily married, he’s also happily married. I still dream about first love from time to time pero when I remember him, it’s the what ifs lang talaga.
Sameee napapanaginipan ko sya tho sa inis ko kasi lagi ko syang napapanaginipan I unfollowed him in all of my social media. It's been a year siguro since I did that but he still appear in my dreams from time to time, di ko naman sya iniisip, wala naman kaming communication, di ko naman na din nakikita posts nya, but still...
It's frustrating na minsan. Di ko na din alam ano meron sa unconscious mind ko pag gising naman ako trabaho mostly laman ng utak ko. I know din naman na di ko na sya gusto kasi ang tagal na non.
Btw sorry sa rant OP 😂
In your case, OP, not applicable. You haven't had enough experiences to have that kind of bond. Kulang ka lang siguro sa stimuli. Get out there. Explore new places, develop new hobbies, meet new people, and work out a bit. If you let yourself be so attached to the idea that "he" could have given you the world, then you're nurturing an illusion. You'll have memories of him, sure. But the line between "unrequited love" and delulu galore will be blurrier than shit water. Don't dwell if it's not beneficial for you.
A close friend would simply put this as "gaga, wag ka nga tanga"
Di ba kasama parents, grand parents sa first love?
Pero miski na hindi sila kasali. Yung first mo yung magiging basis. Kasi walang duda at alinlangan yung una. Miski na kunyari sinusuka mo sha ngayun.
Tingin ko yung first love natin hindi namamatay, nag flourish lang sha papunta sa ibat ibang tao na makikilala natin.
Yung first love ko, namatay. Literal. Lol.
Kidding aside, I think that’s normal - thinking about the what ifs. I’m still young but what I’ve learned so far is if you hold memories dear, they will always be precious to you. I’m married now, but my spouse knows that I hold my memories with my first love dear to me - it’s not something romantic but it’s something that I look back with fondness. Nothing bitter and sad. Just acknowledging that the time I spent with my first love was happy and colorful.
I lost my first love, but I married my greatest love.
Don’t be tied to the past and what ifs. It’s normal to think about the possibilities pero it’s not good to hold on to them. Live in the present kumbaga.
For me somehow yes OP, ito 6th grade lang kami nento ah, no communication ever since, napapaginipan ko siya out of nowhere kahit hindi ko naman siya iniisip, and iniimagine ko future ko with her I know weird haha, tas after 10 years nag reach out ako sakanya, pumunta kami sa Grand rally together kay VP Leni, we clicked and mag 2 years na kami together sa August ☺️
I have this crush when i was 11 yrs old (1st year high school).
I graduated at 15yrs old - still thinking the what ifs.
Had a girlfriend at 17 yrs old - yes still thinking the what ifs.
Broke up at 21 yrs old - yes same what ifs.
Got back with Ex at 22 yrs old - yes same what ifs.
Broke up again at 23 - yes same what ifs.
Met with that 1st crush at 24 yrs old.
Officially in a relationship at 24.5 y/o.
Proposed to her last year (at 29 y/o).
Getting married with her this year at 30.
but not like a fairy tale - we did struggle.
love is not enough:
financial stability,
compromise,
forgiveness,
she is not perfect neither am I
and thats perfect for me.
and if you did read this
dont hope it will end like this
almost 90% of the early years I thought we're done.
just want to say start it and see what happens.
I personally hate myself being reserved in my past relationship. I was unfair. resolve your unresolve issue with that 1st love. good luck.
girl, 2024 na and your old enough.
no shame in getting a coffee and catch up. but you do you haha.
(1st crush asked me for a coffee, coz im an idiot who never did the 1st move)
ur not alone, same w me my first crush was in elementary, was puppy love , we held hands n had a crush on him since LOL till grade 7 tapos I met a Canadian who was in my class then that went on since 2022 even tho I went to different schools bck then, I would think about him pero. I finish hs na
Now mild crush nalang, parang wala na nga eh . walang feelings for anyone atm.
Narinig ko sa kapitbahay namin to. Nagtanong kasi ang anak niyang babae sa nanay kung totoo ba na "first love never dies". Ang sagot ng nanay sa tanong ng anak ay totoo na first love never dies. Kasi yung hinayupak (tamad, batugan etc) daw na asawa niya ay hindi mamatay matay.
BTW, Kumain ka na? 😁
i think it doesnt die in a sense na you will always remember how recklessly and unadulterated you first ever loved someone. the reality of the situation is there to straighten you up, but on the other hand also remains that they were the first person you loved.
you can be sad about it, happy it ended, mourn that it was a waste. one of the beauty in it is that it reminds you that no matter how dreadful, bitter, great, or trauamatizing it was, all things end. then from there it depends on how you look at that ending.
i had my first love in hs, hs bestfriends for 3 years, bonded over guitar and music, got together for 1.5 years. ended horribly and traumatically for me, now im happily married with my college bandmate (hes our drummer lol)
noon pag nakikita ko mukha ni ex bumabalik yung fight or flight response, literal na minsan pag pinipilit ko kayanin yung mukha nya nasusuka ako or my stomach starts turning. nowadays pag namemention yung name nya i just remember our faults together, mine and his, and how pure our love was at first. i mourn for my innocence.
i believe at the end of the day, it always depends on how you look at it. had i not gained the experience and improved my emotional intelligence (it was very VERY poor, trust me. one of the reasons why i didn’t have much friends since elementary till college) from that previous relationship, i wouldnt be with my husband who now thinks im the smart one :p
It took me a few years to get over my first love, although it was because I never got to confess to him so probably my biggest what if. It was a good lesson because now I shoot my shot and it doesn't leave me any regrets.
I'm not sure if this is applicable, but there's this defense mechanism in Psychology called regression and I think you might be dreaming about him because you're going back to the past or the state where everything was 'good'. I noticed that I used to dream about my first love before whenever I was super stressed, it gave me comfort.
I agree with some comments though, out of sight out of mind. It's good to think of, but you have to be aware that you should take it as a good lesson, cherish the memory and move on. But who knows, maybe try to give it a shot baka kayo talaga? Haha who knows.
Para sa akin hindi. Maybe gusto mo lang yung idea na first love mo siya and likes to reminisce. Sure, you can rekindle the old spark pero iba siya noon at iba na siya ngayong adults na kayo. You'll still have to get to know each other again.
This is coming from my experience na iisa ang first love at TOTGA. We rekindled pero iba na siya from my POV nung younger days namin.
No, binibigyan mo lang yung sarili mo ng dahilan para maisip sya like checking on his facebook account kaya na consider mo sabihin na first love never dies.
"napapanaginipan ko rin (is it weird?)" <-- totally normal
"is it true that first love never dies" <-- it's more on the what-if side. once you're in a relationship, then definitely you're attention will be towards that partner of yours and there may be cases na sasagi sa isipan mo ung puppy love mo pero you'll come to realize na hanggang dun lang yun.
Doesn't work for everyone. I could no longer remember my first crush lol, and when I was with my ex, I'm hardly thinking of anyone else... It was when we broke up and I moved on that I looked back on my first love, not my first crush, and felt it really odd that I was still thinking of that person.
I think it was just me wanting something pure and genuine. Green flag kasi 'yung first love ko lol.
Di naging kami but sobrang pure and kind of unconditional kasi ng love niya, kahit platonic because we're friends.
Akala ko noon totoo yan hahaha pero after ko malaman kung gaano kabilis magpalit ng nililigawan yung first love ko parang na-off ako hahah naexperience ko din yang magkaroon ng "what if naging kami?" saka yang pagcheck sa FB.
Pero ngayon kahit tignan ko FB niya wala na parang gusto ko lang makichismis lol. Minsan bored lang talaga mga utak natin kaya kung anu-ano naiisip at naa-alala. Makakaget over ka din dyan.
my first love and i lasted for three years, i was passionately in love and willing to do anything for him. i thought my world was gonna crash when he broke up with me. two months later i moved on as if we never happened.
several years have passed and it came to the point that whenever i see him sa posts ng friends or in person i dont feel anything, no love, no hate, no bitterness, not even indifference, i just see him as a former classmate ,
so no for me it's not true that first never dies lol
shahhahahahaha medj same although pag naiisip ko sya mostly parang gusto ko lang kamustahin wala naman romance na involved lol or gusto ko lang lagi nangangamusta kasi pati sa 2nd at 3rd, heck, pati sa mga di ko naman nagustuhan romantically lol
>Wala kaming communication since I left our province pero I still check him on facebook.
Kaya mo siguro sya naiisip dahil chine-check mo pa rin sya sa Facebook. Tama yung nagsabi dito na "out of sight, out of mind".
And to answer your question, HINDI totoo na first love never dies. True love never dies siguro?!
Not true po.
Ung first love ko friends pa rin kami, napapaginipan ko paminsan, kahit nung nagkaron ako new gf.
Pero parang symbolism na lang sya ng kung anong mangyayari sa conscious state ko. Kaya ang weird din.
Parang subconsciously, image nya ung mga nagpoportrait ng anxiety ko? Haha pero di ko sure. Weird mga panaginip eh. Hirap hanapin ng meaning.
kaya minsan pag napapaginipan ko, kinakamusta ko.
Minsan right timing din? kasi naghahanap pala sya masasabihan problema nya sa asawa nya. Tapos sakto ako ung nangangamusta.
Coincidence? Ewan eh. Pero baka dahil connected kami from the past, may vibrational effect pa rin pag nasa lowest kami ng buhay namin.
Chika chika ganun. Walang landian.
Pero kung ung feeling na romantic love? Faded na talaga un. Naging platonic friend na lang. We still care for each other as a person.
Low maintenance friend ganun lang ung level. Hindi mo kailangan kausapin or mag-check-in araw araw. Hindi rin as special friend, kasi mukang kung may emergency sya na as in may taong dapat pumunta, alam ko hnd ko gagawin.
Ganito rin ako before but i realized na I was still holding on sa mga memories namin kaya siguro ganun ako at first time ko lang maramdaman ang ganoong kilig and butterflies, yung brain ko nakaset na sa kanya na everytime kikiligin ako sya agad naiisip
But i realized na I could feel all those emotions and feelings sa ibang tao at may magpapakilig din sa akin na mas higit pa at hindi lang sya.
Live more to experience all the things out there.
I guess so, same situation. No communication at all, and we don't even see each other sa socmed o kahit random day lang kasi kalapit purok lang kami. Hays, nakailan na ako pero 'di tumatagal kasi parang siya pa rin ang nasa isip ko. Although hindi yung katulad ng dati na may malalim na feelings, pero basta...
Not true in my case because I’ve loved someone before, heavily, deeply. But now I’m with my current partner and I can’t imagine nor currently feel anything for my first love 😣
hindi ko alam pero hanggang ngayon, gusto kong makita yung crush ko nung third grade. dayo lang siya that time sa lugar namin then umalis na. i just want to know kung nasan siya or kung ano na siya ngayon. yun lang HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Not true. Out of sight, out of mind.
Same here. Also hindi naalagaan sarili so mukha na syang yung medyo chubby na dads - sobrang tanda na nyang tignan despite us being the same age. Tapos nung nag mini-reunion uung datit naming village, ang sama na ng ugali. Immediately killed whatever fondness remained for him lol
>napapanaginipan ko rin (is it weird?). Hindi weird. Kasi ikaw na nagsabi iniisip mo pa din siya and still checking his fb. Saka may history ka ng puppy love sa kanya. All the ingredients para mapanaginipan mo siya. 22 ka na. Medyo lubayan mo na yan ganyang pagiisip.
Hahahaha wake up call
Well yeah, you asked why first love never dies, because you don't want it to die. Its like asking yourself bakit ka nababasa ng tubig, habang may hawak kang water hose na may running water, naka-point straight at you.
😭🤣🤣🤣
Trot. The past shouldn't be romanticize. It's in the past for a reason. Let go of 'the grass is greener on the other side' mindset. Nakakagago yan. Lol. Move on, bhie! Get a life.
Alam mo yung short story na "Dead Stars". Yan lagi naaalala ko about first love. You think its love you cant forget pero baka it was just the light from a dead star, kala mo meron pa, pero wala na talaga.
Aray ko naman po! Pero true!
Who's the author po? I wanna read it
Paz Marquez Benitez. It’s the first Filipino short story written in English (and by a woman) :>
Read this in college! Made me appreciate our Filipino literary talents more.
Not true for me, past is past, no turning back😁
NEVER.LOOK.BACK.
Elem mo pa siya last na kausap? Ibang tao na yan kalimutan mo na siya.
Not true yan, it will die eventually, and you’ll see that’s how life works
talaga. yung first love ko gusto ko sagasaan ng kuliglig. it’s also been ten years.
Tawang tawa ko dito sorry 😆
May point na napapanaginpan ko pero unintentional kasi yun. pero bakit nagsstalk ka pa rin sa fb acc? sounds sus
> thinking what life could have been if I’m with him Sounds like unresolved issues. I still sometimes think about my first love 20 years ago, but not in that sense. More like I know he’s been a big part of my teenage life and that I will always have a certain fondness for him, in a small corner of my heart. And yes, sometimes I get curious what he’s been up to. But I will never think of what ifs with him, nor will I want to be with him again.
unresolved issues hmmm not really po since elem days pa siya but siguro it was all rainbows and butterflies, tho may part na bigla na lang siya nagka-something with another classmate lol
Yung panaginip na yan bunga lang yan ng kung ano naiisip mo prior baga ka matulog. Oo napapanaginipan ko pa rin yung niligawan ko 6 yrs ago pero pag napaisip lang ako paminsan minsan. Madalas na panaginip ko ngayon work related na (yes, stressed ako sobra sa work). Kung curious ka what awaits you with him as your partner, there really is one way to find out and you already know the answer on how to do that. Win or lose, just make sure you don't have any regrets as life goes on, yan lang ang mapapayo ko.
I read somewhere that first love never dies but true, genuine love can bury it alive. I'm glad it didn't work out with my first love. I'm happily married with my husband and it's the best decision I've ever made :)
>I read somewhere that first love never dies but true, genuine love can bury it alive. I like this. Meron akong childhood crush na I think puppy love ko na din. Even if I had a boyfriend I was still thinking about my puppy love from time to time. Pero, when I met my husband na wala lahat ng feelings ko sa mga taong na in love ako. Hahaha.
WOOOOWWW! Happy for you po 💗
Lol no. Stop getting warmth from the light of dead stars
Everyone dies eventually 😂
🤣🤣🤣
I sometimes think kapag napapanaginipan mo ang isang tao and wala na kayong communication, maybe may times na iniisip ka rin niya or naalala ka niya. But still depends on the person, lalo na kung may pinagsamahan kayo. But I really think this is normal. Maybe hindi lang talaga siya nawala sa heart mo. Hmm
>Maybe hindi lang talaga siya nawala sa heart mo. Hmm Maybe...
make the first move, just send a friendly message.
No haha.
12 years running, still head over heels for her
Your first love never dies because you won’t let it die. Period 😅 As for me, pass HAHAHA. Masaya na ako na okay siya, pero I don’t want him back in my life at all. At peace dapat tayo. How can we move forward?
No. Napaisip ako. Ewww that guy. Haha.
Same! Mukha na siyang libagin. Cheret! 🙈
I made it true haha. Pursued her for years, succeeded. Worth it!
Maybe. I still think of him and sometimes get curious of what ifs. He fell first, Grade 2 kami nun crush niya na ko, he confessed sa paper binigay niya sakin. Then I transferred school nung Grade 5 that’s when nag ka Crush ako sa kanya. Naging boyfriend/girlfriend when we were 15 years old up until 18. Then we broke up. After that we see each other from time to time kasi classmates kami before, whenever we have reunions. Now, ilang years na din kami hindi nagkikita, and we both have partners. It’s nice to cherish the memories especially when the person has been good.
Nope. Maganda lang gawing statement o lyrics ng kanta ang "first love never dies" char lang.
it kinda did not die for a while, it's been 4 years. Hanggang sa isang araw I decided i don't want to have any connection with him anymore, so I soft unfriended and unfollow him on all remaining social media, para hindi na kami friends on facebook, and para di na niya ako i follow on other socials. It gave me peace of mind, kasi before I catch myself checking the views on my story if na view ba niya and ano kaya iniisip niya when I posted this and that. Now I'm more genuine with expressing myself, I don't become curious anymore on what he will think when he sees what i post :)
It depends kasi how you ended. Like for my first love, we liked each other na since elementary then became bf and gf after highschool graduation. Kaso strict parents ko so we have to break up after hiding the relationship for 6 months. Now I’m in my 30s and happily married, he’s also happily married. I still dream about first love from time to time pero when I remember him, it’s the what ifs lang talaga.
Sameee napapanaginipan ko sya tho sa inis ko kasi lagi ko syang napapanaginipan I unfollowed him in all of my social media. It's been a year siguro since I did that but he still appear in my dreams from time to time, di ko naman sya iniisip, wala naman kaming communication, di ko naman na din nakikita posts nya, but still...
right? 😭🤣
It's frustrating na minsan. Di ko na din alam ano meron sa unconscious mind ko pag gising naman ako trabaho mostly laman ng utak ko. I know din naman na di ko na sya gusto kasi ang tagal na non. Btw sorry sa rant OP 😂
In your case, OP, not applicable. You haven't had enough experiences to have that kind of bond. Kulang ka lang siguro sa stimuli. Get out there. Explore new places, develop new hobbies, meet new people, and work out a bit. If you let yourself be so attached to the idea that "he" could have given you the world, then you're nurturing an illusion. You'll have memories of him, sure. But the line between "unrequited love" and delulu galore will be blurrier than shit water. Don't dwell if it's not beneficial for you. A close friend would simply put this as "gaga, wag ka nga tanga"
You can never get over it if you keep on romanticizing the thought of it since it was your first. First love dies because true love can bury it alive.
Di ba kasama parents, grand parents sa first love? Pero miski na hindi sila kasali. Yung first mo yung magiging basis. Kasi walang duda at alinlangan yung una. Miski na kunyari sinusuka mo sha ngayun. Tingin ko yung first love natin hindi namamatay, nag flourish lang sha papunta sa ibat ibang tao na makikilala natin.
Obsession is real mumsh.
yes siguro 😭
Yung first love ko, namatay. Literal. Lol. Kidding aside, I think that’s normal - thinking about the what ifs. I’m still young but what I’ve learned so far is if you hold memories dear, they will always be precious to you. I’m married now, but my spouse knows that I hold my memories with my first love dear to me - it’s not something romantic but it’s something that I look back with fondness. Nothing bitter and sad. Just acknowledging that the time I spent with my first love was happy and colorful. I lost my first love, but I married my greatest love. Don’t be tied to the past and what ifs. It’s normal to think about the possibilities pero it’s not good to hold on to them. Live in the present kumbaga.
Thank you po 🥺💗
For me somehow yes OP, ito 6th grade lang kami nento ah, no communication ever since, napapaginipan ko siya out of nowhere kahit hindi ko naman siya iniisip, and iniimagine ko future ko with her I know weird haha, tas after 10 years nag reach out ako sakanya, pumunta kami sa Grand rally together kay VP Leni, we clicked and mag 2 years na kami together sa August ☺️
awwwww huhu sana all
I have this crush when i was 11 yrs old (1st year high school). I graduated at 15yrs old - still thinking the what ifs. Had a girlfriend at 17 yrs old - yes still thinking the what ifs. Broke up at 21 yrs old - yes same what ifs. Got back with Ex at 22 yrs old - yes same what ifs. Broke up again at 23 - yes same what ifs. Met with that 1st crush at 24 yrs old. Officially in a relationship at 24.5 y/o. Proposed to her last year (at 29 y/o). Getting married with her this year at 30. but not like a fairy tale - we did struggle. love is not enough: financial stability, compromise, forgiveness, she is not perfect neither am I and thats perfect for me.
and if you did read this dont hope it will end like this almost 90% of the early years I thought we're done. just want to say start it and see what happens. I personally hate myself being reserved in my past relationship. I was unfair. resolve your unresolve issue with that 1st love. good luck.
I dont know if I can "start" it. im just a girl (notting hill lang lol) but u know
girl, 2024 na and your old enough. no shame in getting a coffee and catch up. but you do you haha. (1st crush asked me for a coffee, coz im an idiot who never did the 1st move)
GASHHH 😍
OMGGGGGGGGGGGG HOW I WISH
CONGRATS PO, SO SOOOO HAPPY FOR YOU!
meh. idc about my first love anymore. HAHAHA
ur not alone, same w me my first crush was in elementary, was puppy love , we held hands n had a crush on him since LOL till grade 7 tapos I met a Canadian who was in my class then that went on since 2022 even tho I went to different schools bck then, I would think about him pero. I finish hs na Now mild crush nalang, parang wala na nga eh . walang feelings for anyone atm.
Not true. Haha. Baka you're just holding on to the good memories lang.
Can’t even remember mine
not applicable to all people
[удалено]
i wish 🥲
Nah. Pag naiisip ko first love ko ang pumapasok lang sa isip ko ay "pag ikaw nagliyab at may baso ako ng tubig, magdidilig na lang ako".
it may take time, but it's not true.
Narinig ko sa kapitbahay namin to. Nagtanong kasi ang anak niyang babae sa nanay kung totoo ba na "first love never dies". Ang sagot ng nanay sa tanong ng anak ay totoo na first love never dies. Kasi yung hinayupak (tamad, batugan etc) daw na asawa niya ay hindi mamatay matay. BTW, Kumain ka na? 😁
Not true. I'm even questioning myself why I can't picture a single person to refer to as my first love.
Sakin, it's been dead and forgotten.
i think it doesnt die in a sense na you will always remember how recklessly and unadulterated you first ever loved someone. the reality of the situation is there to straighten you up, but on the other hand also remains that they were the first person you loved. you can be sad about it, happy it ended, mourn that it was a waste. one of the beauty in it is that it reminds you that no matter how dreadful, bitter, great, or trauamatizing it was, all things end. then from there it depends on how you look at that ending.
i had my first love in hs, hs bestfriends for 3 years, bonded over guitar and music, got together for 1.5 years. ended horribly and traumatically for me, now im happily married with my college bandmate (hes our drummer lol) noon pag nakikita ko mukha ni ex bumabalik yung fight or flight response, literal na minsan pag pinipilit ko kayanin yung mukha nya nasusuka ako or my stomach starts turning. nowadays pag namemention yung name nya i just remember our faults together, mine and his, and how pure our love was at first. i mourn for my innocence. i believe at the end of the day, it always depends on how you look at it. had i not gained the experience and improved my emotional intelligence (it was very VERY poor, trust me. one of the reasons why i didn’t have much friends since elementary till college) from that previous relationship, i wouldnt be with my husband who now thinks im the smart one :p
It took me a few years to get over my first love, although it was because I never got to confess to him so probably my biggest what if. It was a good lesson because now I shoot my shot and it doesn't leave me any regrets. I'm not sure if this is applicable, but there's this defense mechanism in Psychology called regression and I think you might be dreaming about him because you're going back to the past or the state where everything was 'good'. I noticed that I used to dream about my first love before whenever I was super stressed, it gave me comfort. I agree with some comments though, out of sight out of mind. It's good to think of, but you have to be aware that you should take it as a good lesson, cherish the memory and move on. But who knows, maybe try to give it a shot baka kayo talaga? Haha who knows.
Wait mo makahanap ka ng ibang passion. :) Di kelangan another jowa, kahit new hobby, interests. Goodbye, Carlo!
May crush din ako noon 2 years din yun ha tapos nung nakita ko sya ulit ay nag fizzle out haha
Haha di totoo yan. Totga siguro, yes
It dies. Ikaw pa maghuhukay para ilibig lol.
Di ako naniniwala dyan, but sa greatest love oo. Yung totga mo talaga
Para sa akin hindi. Maybe gusto mo lang yung idea na first love mo siya and likes to reminisce. Sure, you can rekindle the old spark pero iba siya noon at iba na siya ngayong adults na kayo. You'll still have to get to know each other again. This is coming from my experience na iisa ang first love at TOTGA. We rekindled pero iba na siya from my POV nung younger days namin.
No, binibigyan mo lang yung sarili mo ng dahilan para maisip sya like checking on his facebook account kaya na consider mo sabihin na first love never dies.
"napapanaginipan ko rin (is it weird?)" <-- totally normal "is it true that first love never dies" <-- it's more on the what-if side. once you're in a relationship, then definitely you're attention will be towards that partner of yours and there may be cases na sasagi sa isipan mo ung puppy love mo pero you'll come to realize na hanggang dun lang yun.
Not trueeeee
He still sneaks up in my dreams for some reason. Kahit na hindi siya sumagi sa isip ko when I’m awake.
Not true, diko nga kilala or nakilala saken lol
Not true for me. He's a thing of the past.
Super noooo. Hahaha minsan matatawa ka nalang na ay ex ko nga pala siya. Siguro meron padin tinik if you see him in person pero wala na talaga.
mas maniniwala pa ako sa bagong ex
Doesn't work for everyone. I could no longer remember my first crush lol, and when I was with my ex, I'm hardly thinking of anyone else... It was when we broke up and I moved on that I looked back on my first love, not my first crush, and felt it really odd that I was still thinking of that person. I think it was just me wanting something pure and genuine. Green flag kasi 'yung first love ko lol. Di naging kami but sobrang pure and kind of unconditional kasi ng love niya, kahit platonic because we're friends.
you just love 'em in a different way now.
>I still check him on facebook. kaya sya nasa dreams mo, ikaw na mismo nag lalagay r'yan.
Akala ko noon totoo yan hahaha pero after ko malaman kung gaano kabilis magpalit ng nililigawan yung first love ko parang na-off ako hahah naexperience ko din yang magkaroon ng "what if naging kami?" saka yang pagcheck sa FB. Pero ngayon kahit tignan ko FB niya wala na parang gusto ko lang makichismis lol. Minsan bored lang talaga mga utak natin kaya kung anu-ano naiisip at naa-alala. Makakaget over ka din dyan.
True in a wattpad world
my first love and i lasted for three years, i was passionately in love and willing to do anything for him. i thought my world was gonna crash when he broke up with me. two months later i moved on as if we never happened. several years have passed and it came to the point that whenever i see him sa posts ng friends or in person i dont feel anything, no love, no hate, no bitterness, not even indifference, i just see him as a former classmate , so no for me it's not true that first never dies lol
Depends on the person. Pero basically, not true. Lahat pwedeng pumanaw 😎
uhm about that. Context: Cancer.
Palagi mo kasing chinechek. Try not to para makalimutan mo
No. I won't even recognize her now lol Pearline who? Hahaha
shahhahahahaha medj same although pag naiisip ko sya mostly parang gusto ko lang kamustahin wala naman romance na involved lol or gusto ko lang lagi nangangamusta kasi pati sa 2nd at 3rd, heck, pati sa mga di ko naman nagustuhan romantically lol
Not true. Kinakain ka lang ng what ifs mo.
>Wala kaming communication since I left our province pero I still check him on facebook. Kaya mo siguro sya naiisip dahil chine-check mo pa rin sya sa Facebook. Tama yung nagsabi dito na "out of sight, out of mind". And to answer your question, HINDI totoo na first love never dies. True love never dies siguro?!
Not true at all. My first gf broke up with me because I didn't want to stay in the province.
Not true. First love nakalimutan ko na, naalala ko lang dahil sa post na to hahaha
not true. i even forgot the name haha
Not true po. Ung first love ko friends pa rin kami, napapaginipan ko paminsan, kahit nung nagkaron ako new gf. Pero parang symbolism na lang sya ng kung anong mangyayari sa conscious state ko. Kaya ang weird din. Parang subconsciously, image nya ung mga nagpoportrait ng anxiety ko? Haha pero di ko sure. Weird mga panaginip eh. Hirap hanapin ng meaning. kaya minsan pag napapaginipan ko, kinakamusta ko. Minsan right timing din? kasi naghahanap pala sya masasabihan problema nya sa asawa nya. Tapos sakto ako ung nangangamusta. Coincidence? Ewan eh. Pero baka dahil connected kami from the past, may vibrational effect pa rin pag nasa lowest kami ng buhay namin. Chika chika ganun. Walang landian. Pero kung ung feeling na romantic love? Faded na talaga un. Naging platonic friend na lang. We still care for each other as a person. Low maintenance friend ganun lang ung level. Hindi mo kailangan kausapin or mag-check-in araw araw. Hindi rin as special friend, kasi mukang kung may emergency sya na as in may taong dapat pumunta, alam ko hnd ko gagawin.
It only happens in movies, OP.
Di rin. Ang 'di namamatay ay yung TOTGA at first heart break.
That's regrets talking, OP.
Regret po ba if hinayaan ko siya sumaya sa iba noon?
Ganito rin ako before but i realized na I was still holding on sa mga memories namin kaya siguro ganun ako at first time ko lang maramdaman ang ganoong kilig and butterflies, yung brain ko nakaset na sa kanya na everytime kikiligin ako sya agad naiisip But i realized na I could feel all those emotions and feelings sa ibang tao at may magpapakilig din sa akin na mas higit pa at hindi lang sya. Live more to experience all the things out there.
Mine died a long time ago.
Buhay pa naman siya.
I guess so, same situation. No communication at all, and we don't even see each other sa socmed o kahit random day lang kasi kalapit purok lang kami. Hays, nakailan na ako pero 'di tumatagal kasi parang siya pa rin ang nasa isip ko. Although hindi yung katulad ng dati na may malalim na feelings, pero basta...
No it isn't true. Let him be out of your mind. Years have passed, a lot changes. You may not know him now.
Not true in my case because I’ve loved someone before, heavily, deeply. But now I’m with my current partner and I can’t imagine nor currently feel anything for my first love 😣
hindi ko alam pero hanggang ngayon, gusto kong makita yung crush ko nung third grade. dayo lang siya that time sa lugar namin then umalis na. i just want to know kung nasan siya or kung ano na siya ngayon. yun lang HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
not true. Also, we tend to fantisize kung ano sila noon without realizing that time has passed and things changed. For sure iba na ugali niya.
Dead na long time ago. We are still friends though pero wala na akong nararamdaman sa kanya romantically.