Married but no kids. Also in my 40’s weekday works full time on weekend I get to do house chore like cleaning, laundry. Having no kids allows me to travel and watch all concerts na di ko napanood nun highschool or 20’s ko.
I love this! Possible naman pala talagang di magbagong isip even in your 40s and still be happy being child free. ❤️
Love all the happy women in the comments. More travels, and happy moments to all of you! 🥳🥳
Yes possible naman, it was not the usual for pinays like us. But living in another country where daycare is same rate as your wage means nagttrabaho ka for daycare lang ng anak mo. Also it is not taboo where I live na walang anak mga babae. If yun husband ko pa lang eh para na ko may anak kasi di sya nag house chores eh ano pa pag magdagdag ako. Also I am at an age where iisipin mo by the time 20 un anak ko eh senior citizen na ko.
Haha! Rare may magsabi pangarap nila buhay ko. But it was a decision of both of us. Nun una we tried but later on we decided na we wanted to be stable and with the cost of living now parang ang hirap magdagdag ng bubuhayin.
36, pedia here. Everyone thought I went into pediatrics because I love kids but in reality, I don't. I just love studying about them. 😅 After all the sleepless nights in training, I realized I do not want to be woken up in the middle of the night so I have always thought that having kids is not for me, I'm too selfish. 😅
Tbf, watching kids and playing with them for a short while is very fun, it gets old quick and you'll soon realize that you need some me time that you wouldn't get otherwise.
Ayala ko talaga lahat peds the go into Pediatrics because they love kids. You know when they do rounds, they always say "oh you're so cuuuteee. Cute naman ni baby mommy.." kami parang ah okay. sa hospital, they are one of the kindest people.
Cute naman ang babies! Wala naman ako sinabi na hindi sila cute. Wala rin naman ako sinabi na hindi mabait ang pedia. 😅
Pero yung aalagaan 24/7 ang hindi ko kaya.
Um. Just because you don't find them cute doesn't mean it's the same with other people. Wag na lang po sana tayo mag judge. Bata pa yan, jnjudge na sa itsura pa lang. Kawawa naman.
Hindi naman sa ganun. Don't misinterpret it Ma'am. My point was iba ang heart ng pediatrics talaga sa kesa ibang services. You have a heart for kids. Your passion for kids is different from ours. Me personally, I see them as patients. But when pediatrics do rounds, invalid muna nila kids. Ganun point ko Ma'am
Same, in my 30s here. Single and childfree. Laging inaasar na wala pang special someone at tumatanda na daw ako. Whenever overbearing and chismosa relatives tell me na bakit hindi pa ako nag-rerelationship para magka-anak ako, I always tell them "OK na po ako sa buhay ko. Masaya, wala akong anak na iniintindi. Sarili ko lang iniintindi ko." I also love to travel at hindi ko kakayanin na may iniintindi akong anak na kung saan ko siya iiwan pag gusto ko mangibang bansa
36F single and child free. Weekdays puro work lang, minsan video games after work. Thursday/Friday I go put with friends pag may nag-yaya or if may event sila. Weekends are for rest, housekeeping, cooking, and long drives with parents. Yung money ko goes to bills, retirement, concerts, and travel. Masaya naman. Feeling ko if i have kids di kakayanin ng sweldo ko even if I give up yung mga luho ko.
34F married , DINK. My husband and I like to watch K drama, go on dates, try new things. We are also able to generously help our parents financially because we are DINKs. We both know that we are not missing out on anything in life just because we’re childfree.
Im 43, single and childfree, no intentions of getting married. Wala lang, i do me. Gusto ko lang ng katahimikan so okay ako. Ma-stroke na lang yung mga nakikialam bakit daw. Az if may moral ascendancy sila kumuda, eh mga miserable naman 🤷🏻♀
Comments section is giving 💓 I'm inspired to be child-free. But I like having kids around. Just because ayaw ko ng anak, doesn't mean I'm against the idea.
Late 30s, married. Child-free couple.
I work 4 days a week, 3 days off. Yun husband ko, work from home. I earn more so I pay most of the expenses. Pero he does 90% of the household chores.
I go to the gym 3x a week. Sometimes, we go together rin.
Weekends can be a social weekend or a quiet weekend. Pag social weekend, more often than not, sa bahay ng friends namin. Kain, chill, kwentuhan then go home around 7pm. Pag quiet weekend, I play games. Currently doing A Plague Tale in PS5. I also do cross stitch, I just started it again. Pag winter, early ng Saturday, magdrive ako pa-mountain para mag-snowboard. Mga every 2 weeks yan. Tas ngayong spring, going towards summer, rollerblades or pickleball. Planning to enroll sa cycling club/gym, pero not yet 100% sure.
Sunday is usually our grocery day. Early morning, like 6am. Pamper/me time ko din. My husband and I usually disconnect every Sunday, after our grocery time. Dyan ko na ipapasok yun bath time, scented candle sa room, ambient and lofi music. Basta di kami mag uusap, until lunch.
Every Thursday, we have our brunch date. It's something we look forward to every week. Tas every year, we should have at least 1 travel abroad. Max of 3 countries.
I am happy with my choice. Less stress, and not a single wrinkle on my face lol.
They say that motherhood is the essense of womanhood. I disagree. Empowering other women, no matter their status, is the essense of womanhood.
Married late rin. 4 years ago. I think I got hooked up with the "less stress" life nun single pa ako. And nadala ko siya hanggang sa mag asawa ako.
I got lucky because my husband and I, pareho ng trajectories sa buhay. Yan ang number 1, for a healthy marriage. If sa umpisa palang, magkaiba na yun goals niya, that would not work. If you try, it takes a lot of effort.
36F. Still living with parents, but I get to do what I want like traveling, etc. Minsan iniisip ko na baka I am missing out a lot in my life kasi I'm kinda of stuck with them daily, pero narealize ko na they're almost 70 na and di ko alam how much time left I've got with them, but I'm sure I've got more time for myself in the future compared to that so parang I'm somehow blessed pa rin for this chance to still be with them and help them in our daily lives and managing stuff. Di rin sila dependent sakin financially kaya ok lang, nakakapag ipon talaga ako for things I want. Iniispoil ko nalang pamangkins ko from time to time.
Single, no kids and retired at 53! I’ve been to 20+ countries and planning to travel more. I’m the cool tita who loves to feed and spoil my nephews/nieces and I’m happy with this arrangement. Marriage and/or kids are just not for me. I’ve always been independent and prefers a stress-free life!
Married but no kids.
I can stay up late playing games, and sleep in during weekends. My husband and I can go anywhere without much planning and preps. :3 We dont have to acquire properties, kaya we can both spend on experiences for the present rather than paying for long-term mortgages.
Medyo struggle lang with friends who have kids din, at some point mag iiba yung flow ng conversations and you have to be empathetic with them pag nahihirapan sila with parenthood even if you cannot fully relate.
And of course, lagi nakukuha na Ninang sa baptismal hahahahha! :3
Also married, turning 30 this year and being childfree is the best - ever. First of all, uninterrupted sleep. I could wake up whenever I want. I could buy white furniture without the worry na dadrawingan ng crayons lol and the best would be a quiet house. Hindi ko talaga kayang tiisin yung iyak iyak ng bata, imagine working two jobs tapos coming home sa iyak iyak. My cats are enough as stress relievers.
i am enjoying it. walang worries because i will only think about myself. i also have a lot of time for travel and taking care of myself. i take time sa skincare ko and sa pag ayos sa sarili. i have time for working out and going out as well.
Late 30's, QINK, married. Very flexible ang work, kaya 2/3 of the month I can do whatever I want. Usually play games, read books, eat out.
Hubby and I follow a frugal lifestyle. Recently, I've been wondering, kanino mapupunta ang mga pinaghirapan namin kung wala kaming anak? So I sort of doubted my decision. Pero I really can't convince myself na magka-anak. So starting this year, we decided na we will enjoy our money more! Baka you have suggestions for us, pa-share naman. :)
37F married and childfree. It's saturday now and im just at home while my husband is out busy with his passion projects. As for me I just finished bible study, and now watching kdrama. :D
TBH, minsan nakakabore lalo na pag masyadong tahimik sa bahay. Pero madali naman hanapan ng solusyon like kahapon nanood lang ako ng sine mag-isa.
Same tayo walang energy to take care of kids. Hinahanap ko na lang mga pamangkin ko minsan pag gusto ko ng interaction with kids, pero yung pakiramdam talaga na uuwi ka sa sarili mong bahay na walang maingay, grabe napapa "this is the life" talaga ko minsan.
DINKS kami ni hubby in our 30s. Travel is life. May 3 house and lot and fully paid used car. Tumutulong din kami both sides ng family. Weekdays work lang. Pag weekends, laundry, grocery, date etc. At meron kami 2 adopted aspins! <3
35F. Single and child-free. I’ve been told a few times na mag-iiba rin daw isip ko or that I should hurry dahil geriatric pregnancy na raw pag nabuntis ako, 2 people in the medical field told me this. Gosh, the word “geriatric” made me squirm haha. All I said is that I didn’t even want to get pregnant to the point na I had an implant last year after a pregnancy scare. Life’s good. I get to wake up late on weekends, do chores, go out with friends, spend my money the way I want to. About to finish my masters na rin. I am my nephews’ favorite tita as well, so goods na ko dyan. Madali ibalik ang bata pag umiyak haha.
30F single and child free. Weekdays - work and workouts, some nights after work, catch up with friends, if may events sila or nagyaya. I sometimes go treat myself to a nice meal or coffee kahit ako lang magisa. On weekends, magbabike or run then tutulong sa bahay sa mga chores. I also travel alone if my schedule permits me to and syempre kapag kaya ng budget/bulsa ko.
My money ko goes to bills, maliit na savings, travel, shopping? (sakto lang), share sa household expenses. I love kids but hindi ko pa kaya iadjust yung current lifestyle ko sa ngayon thus the tita age but no child. Sa totoo lang. 😅
30's I look younger than my age. Genetics and probably zero stress from not having to raise a human. I get to do what I want. Anyone who tries to pressure me gets cut off.
Just turned 40 last yr. No kids no husband. Perks:
Travel na walang paalam. Pansin ko sa couples nagpapapaalamanan. So ako since nakatira sa mother, kay mother lang pero madalas si mother ang kasama ko naman (recently dahil kakaretire lang).
Food galore. Ayun order dito order doon. At pwedeng kumain sa labas kung gusto.
Furmom. Kakabigay lang ng dalawang dogs sa akin so sila ung pinagkakagastusan ko ngayon. Di rin makagala kasi clingy yung isang aso.
Madaling maaya. So most ng friends ko, ako ung biglang inaaya sa gala, may libreng panood ng Miss saigon, travel sa sg, kain etc. Masaya kasi di nila pinaparamdam na mag-isa ako at the same time masaya din naman ako sa company nila.
D ko makita sarili ko na nasa relasyon, siguro if magkaroon man, laging mainit ulo ko. Charizzz.
Me and my husband (both 31) was planning to have no children, go on cruises lang, etc. And since may PCOS ako super kampante ako na di ako mabubuntis especially early 30s na ako, mahihirapan na daw makabuo. 2 income household, ang sarap ng nabibili mo lahat ng gusto mo. Nabibilan ko ng mga expensive items ang husband, nieces, nephews, and mum ko. Then we found out I’m pregnant last december. Ang mahal pala ng gatas at diapers 😂😂😂
Hahaha wag makapante sa PCOS sis. Diagnosed in my teenage years tas recently ngayong 35 na ako sabi ng OB nawala na daw kaya eto nagpa-implant agad ako hahaha. I was using pills prior anyway.
You can still live a good life as a mom. I wish your family well ❤️
Mid30s here and married. I didnt choose to be childless, Its just unfortunate that we werent blessed to have kids. But its okay, and Im embracing a life without having them. My husband and I both work and enjoy a dual income household.
What I have are my beautiful dogs and a cat (majority are rescued). I wouldve taken more rescued dogs but hindi na din kaya ng budget ko. Hehe pero my life revolves around them. I also read books during my free time. At this point in my life, I dont travel much. Pag need lang umuwi ng province. I prefer staying at home, with my dogs while I read or watch kdrama. And Im perfectly happy with this setup.
Masaya. Maraming oras. May pera. Magagawa mo lahat ng gusto mo. Yung iba kasi akala nila ang pag aasawa at pagkakaroon ng anak ang bubuo ng buhay pero, No. It's up to you. Kung ano gusto mo gawin sa buhay mo para maging masaya ka. Sa pinas lang naman ata kasi yung dapat may asawa at anak ka sa paningin ng iba haha. Pero sa ibang bansa sobrang normal lang kahit wala kang ganito. Tsaka hindi porket ayaw mo magkaanak selfish ka na, No. Personal na desisyon mo lang sa buhay mo yun. But if gusto mo din namang magkaroon ng anak, its also okay kasi personal decision in life mo yan at dun ka sasaya. Basta kung ano gusto mo sa buhay mo, gooo.
Being childfree allowed me to be more aggressive in taking risks. Not that I don’t calculate the consequences, it’s just that I have less people to think about when making a decision. I also have liberty to do what I want, because no one is depending on me.
This is a bit dangerous too, though. If mismanaged, I imagine the chaos I would bring. Lol.
I have so much free time and can do whatever I want 😂 work during weekdays. Weekends are for house cleaning and doing meal preps para stress free during weekdays. Hybrid set up sa work - so andaming free time talaga that sometimes I feel so guilty lol
I have a LIP, both of us in our 30s and we both decided not tohave kids for now. We can do whatever we want after our work, can go out and travel without restrictions. Just enjoying each other’s company. Sa ekonomiya ngayon, parang mahirap bumuhay ng isa pa.
Para sa akin ha, magaan ang buhay. Walang pressure. Matutulog, gigising, kakain at kikilos kung kelan ko gusto. Hindi malaki sahod ko tulad ng iba pero we can book international or domestic travel for next month if we want to. Ang malaking expense ko talaga is napupunta sa monthly support ko sa senior parents ko. Pero syempre ibang usapan naman yun.
31, no S.O, no kids.
Focusing on my goals and self as of the moment.
I'm still healing and is fixing myself. That's all I needed right now and music which helps to soothe my emotions.
I am just going with the flow like working 5 days a week, sharing my energy to those that deserve it, loving my family and my pets.
Also, I love to isolate too much. It's where I can be at peace with my mind.
I ain't ready to settle down. Let alone with kids. Not yet financially, emotionally and mentally stable for having a family.
I don't even know if I want to get married in this current world we are living in.
35M DINKs. Weekdays, work. Weekend, tulog, binge netflix, labas bahay, mall, tulog.
Kapag bday ni Mrs, out of town. Once a year, out of country. Kapag malaki laki ipon, out of country ulit.
We have a lot of pamangkins, kapag nag iiyak na, balik na sa parents.
Some people think I’m still in my 20s lol siguro dahil nagmanifest ang pagiging immature ko 😂 I’m 34 haha
Ok naman kasi I’m trying to build my career kahit medyo late as per social norms. I also watch anime on my free time.
Di naman sa ayaw ko sa kids, kasi parang minsan nagkaka baby fever ako HAHAHAHAHA pero sabi ng bf ko di pa namin afford so no 😂 may point naman sya haha. Ineenjoy lang namin yung life na meron kami. Chill lang ganern.
30, in a relationship, child-free, with dogs (🤣). i try to learn new hobbies (especially sa arts) and upskill. nakikipag-s*x madalas with jowa w/o worries dahil naka-pills hahahaha (TMI)
never wanted to have kids ever since kasi ayoko manganak. also takot ako sa gastusin.
33f married, DINK din but we are trying since gusto talaga ni husband magkababy kami. Monday - Saturday trabaho kami and workout after work, sa gabi magpprepare pa ng food para baon the next day. We only have 1 day off and it’s for chores like laundry, linis ng bahay, groceries or eating out. Honestly, may mga araw na gumigising ako at napapaiisip na parang sobrang sakto lang para sa sarili namin yung time na meron kami in a day, paano pa kaya pag nagka-baby. Kaya I don’t really feel bad na wala pa kaming baby. Masaya na ko sa set up namin, hindi ko talaga alam saan isisingit ang pag-aalaga ng kids if ever. Same, ang gusto ko talaga sa buhay ay magtravel, before kami ikasal ni husband napag-usapan naman namin na if ever hindi kami magkababy okay lang samin yun. And ayun nga, nakakatulong din kami sa mga pamilya namin kasi medyo nakakaluwag financially.
I have a lot of control over my life. Not complete because I still have social obligations, but definitely I can do what I want, go where I want, go home (or not go home at all) when I want, and spend for what I want.
I am aiming to enhance my skill. But in everyday life, I work, I exercise, I dine out, I meet new people and hang out with friends. I also get to travel. It’s freeing since I do live alone. The thought of having a kid is cute but tbh I cant imagine my self being a mom. A wife for sure! Pero in this mental health? In this environment? No. Im ok.
35+, single, child-free. I currently have a low-stress, high-paying job that enables me pa to do freelance on the side if I want extra fun money. I work out 4-5x a week. I have out-of-the-country trips every year. I have a cute dog. Renting for now in a nice condo + neighborhood, but I'm not really looking to buy property pa. My weekends are full of activities with friends or family, but I can also choose if I want to stay quiet at home. All in all, this is the most peaceful period of my life so far.
Picked up hobbies I wanted to explore as a kid but wasn't able to due to finances.
Art classes, painting, swimming, reading, cooking, etc.
When I was younger I liked to shop a lot, pero that's dwindled after the pandemic.
Okay naman, I'm leaning more on having a husband than a child. I can plan my day however I like and do activities without having much restraint. I just want a partner to share life with. 😊
Sobra! Specially kapag na matay ang partner mo ng mas maaga. Ikaw nalang mag-isa sa mundo mo kahit alam mo na may mga kamag-anak at friends kapa naman.
Turning 34 this year.
I used to work and study full time but I paused school for now after getting diagnosed with cancer because the mental and physical demands of always going to the hospital has been tiring. Right now medyo kumalma yung hospital visits at sabi ko sa husband ko I LOVE not doing anything after work 😂 I watch whatever I feel like watching on streaming apps, I listen to whatever I feel like listening to (music or podcasts), I hang out with my husband - and even tho he’s not a possessive/jealous person at all, I occasionally use him as an excuse to not go out when my friends ask me to hang out 😂 I also get to spend time with my mom and our dogs. Minsan nakakaisip ako mag try ng sport or pumunta somewhere and my husband goes along with it. My best friend is also childfree and we get to hang out whenever we want (minsan nga we just hang out and nap together 😂😴). I just enjoy a really slow and quiet life and so happy that my husband and bestie are aligned with me on that.
background: When my husband and I started dating, not wanting kids was one of the things we had in common. He didn’t want to pass any trauma to kids and I just don’t want to worry about another person (I’m an only child and my mom is a very pasaway senior so i dedicate all of my energy to her and my husband).
After I got diagnosed with multiple illnesses (diabetes and hypertension in 2021, panic disorder in 2022, cancer in 2023), I realized that we made the right decision not to have kids because I can’t pass unhealthy genes to another human being. Not to mention global warming. Super kawawa mga bata lately with different skin conditions and pulmonary issues due to the weather.
Hi sis I super relate sa story mo.
Yes one factors made me decide to be childfree is dahil na rin sa health conditions.
Yes I have diabetes and diagnosed with cancer 2018.
Tried to have kids in the past pero ayun di talaga nangyari. I guess that's a blessing too kasi it would likely take a toll in my body and mind if I had kids and then later on diagnosed with cancer.
So yeah let's just enjoy the freedom we have. Cheers to more fulfilling life despite these health setbacks ❤️
30F, single and child-free, doesn't see myself committing to anyone anytime soon.
Corpo girlie with a single day off (workaholic eme). I usually read manga, or manhwa, attending animecon, try new recipes, and recently get into baking in my free time (I'm still contemplating whether to enroll in a BJJ class or MMA.)
Every once in a while, I go to events with my family (simply because they're the coolest people; no pressure: free alcohol). HAHAHA and if schedules allow, my friends and I hang out or travel.
I'm happy and enjoying my freedom.
I have one child (single mom by choice) and parang same lang rin naman nagagawa ko sa maraming childfree, like have financial freedom, travel whenever and wherever I want, going out, self care.
Narealize ko na a lot of benefits that people associate with being child free are associated with money, so if you have money, even with a kid, you still get to enjoy childfree “perks”.
Haha onga eh. But sanay na ako sa rabid childfree advocates of reddit.
Some people seem to think na if may anak ka wala kang financial freedom or time for self-care and individual pursuits, but I know for a fact na I have more financial freedom and time than many childfree couples/people because I earn a good income so I can provide a good life for both me and my kid.
May mga staunch childfree kasi na di open sa reality. Being childfree, similar to being a mother, is not a personality! It’s just one aspect of your life.
Naniniwala ako na whether may anak ka o wala, the level of contentment and happiness is just the same, magkaiba lang ng pinanggagalingan.
In my case, the desire to have children is just not there. Madalas dinidismiss yon ng ibang parents kasi laging sinasabi "magbabago rin yang isip mo", "walang katumbas ang saya na binibigay ng mga anak","mahirap pero fulfilling maging magulang", etc.
Maybe some childfree people just seem to have the constant need to justify their choices, kasi sa mundong to, wala namang nag-cocomment sa mga gusto mag-anak ng "magbabago din yang isip mo", or "wag ka nang mag-anak kasi tumatanda ka na".
Yes yung feeling ng dismissal or iniinvalidate kahit legit naman yung reason mo why you wanna be childfree 😢 usually quiet lang ako ayoko sabihin sa lahat na childfree ako. But people, esp other women, will always always always ask. Then if you answer you will only be brushed off or be questioned.
I think whether you want them or you don’t mutual respect ang important. I get what you mean about having to justify your choices all the time. I decided to be a single mom by choice because I want a kid but don’t ever want to get married. So daming nagtake issue with that. Haha. Dami kong narinig na “ano nalang sasabihin ng iba?” “Iisipin na nabuntis ka at iniwan!” “Paano magkakagusto sayo kung may sabit ka na?” Dafuq is up with that?
Tama ka to remain child free if you just dont want to have kids same as me na ayaw ko mag asawa kasi wala akong desire to be tied down by marriage (ayaw ko rin ng kahati sa decision-making). I just always think that I don’t need or want to explain myself to anyone. Ang walang ambag, walang say sa buhay ko. It’s been working out well for me and my kid. Haha.
Yes money is a one factor.
It's great you have a good enough income to be a single mom by choice and raise one child and have your freedom still. It's not something a lot of people can achieve tbh.
I guess being unmarried is also another factor cos no husband to look after as well lol.
DINKS with hubby, and both In our early 40s. Because we have no kids, malakas ang Log namin to start a new In a foreign country. I dont think we will be as brave kung may mga bata kaming iisipin kasi. Yes, we are still open to risks pero for sure, katakot-takot na backip plans ang In place just to make sure the kids Will be ok
I’m an OINK (one income, no kids lol) i get to go on vacations whenever i want without complicated logistics. Lahat ng pera ko sakin, and i can focus on work and finding out new things that excites me every day. Other than the fact that having kids doesn’t appeal to me, i carry sick genes. Ayaw ko ipasa yon. That shit ends with me.
Financial freedom! Best feeling in the world 😊
Married but no kids. Also in my 40’s weekday works full time on weekend I get to do house chore like cleaning, laundry. Having no kids allows me to travel and watch all concerts na di ko napanood nun highschool or 20’s ko.
I love this! Possible naman pala talagang di magbagong isip even in your 40s and still be happy being child free. ❤️ Love all the happy women in the comments. More travels, and happy moments to all of you! 🥳🥳
Yes possible naman, it was not the usual for pinays like us. But living in another country where daycare is same rate as your wage means nagttrabaho ka for daycare lang ng anak mo. Also it is not taboo where I live na walang anak mga babae. If yun husband ko pa lang eh para na ko may anak kasi di sya nag house chores eh ano pa pag magdagdag ako. Also I am at an age where iisipin mo by the time 20 un anak ko eh senior citizen na ko.
Yas!! I'm getting married this year and we choose to have a child-free life. 😊
Ito ang dream ko 🥹
Goals.
Parang pangarap ko po buhay niyo, married with no kids lol hehe
Haha! Rare may magsabi pangarap nila buhay ko. But it was a decision of both of us. Nun una we tried but later on we decided na we wanted to be stable and with the cost of living now parang ang hirap magdagdag ng bubuhayin.
36, pedia here. Everyone thought I went into pediatrics because I love kids but in reality, I don't. I just love studying about them. 😅 After all the sleepless nights in training, I realized I do not want to be woken up in the middle of the night so I have always thought that having kids is not for me, I'm too selfish. 😅
Tbf, watching kids and playing with them for a short while is very fun, it gets old quick and you'll soon realize that you need some me time that you wouldn't get otherwise.
That's why I have mad respect for parents! ☺️ Kaya nila alagaan kids nila 24/7. Hindi lang talaga siya for me. 😅
Pero pwede ka pa rin gisingin ng mga ROD doc kapag may nag toxic kang patient in the middle of the night. 😅
Okay lang yun kasi hindi naman tatagal ng years yun 😂
Haha may point ka doc.
Ok lang kasi bayad naman siya dun haha
Ayala ko talaga lahat peds the go into Pediatrics because they love kids. You know when they do rounds, they always say "oh you're so cuuuteee. Cute naman ni baby mommy.." kami parang ah okay. sa hospital, they are one of the kindest people.
Cute naman ang babies! Wala naman ako sinabi na hindi sila cute. Wala rin naman ako sinabi na hindi mabait ang pedia. 😅 Pero yung aalagaan 24/7 ang hindi ko kaya.
Meron kasi ibang hindi ganunan... ka...cute. Hehehe. Yung parang kami nag titinginan na lang "saan kaya banda?" .hehehe sorry naman.
Um. Just because you don't find them cute doesn't mean it's the same with other people. Wag na lang po sana tayo mag judge. Bata pa yan, jnjudge na sa itsura pa lang. Kawawa naman.
Hindi naman sa ganun. Don't misinterpret it Ma'am. My point was iba ang heart ng pediatrics talaga sa kesa ibang services. You have a heart for kids. Your passion for kids is different from ours. Me personally, I see them as patients. But when pediatrics do rounds, invalid muna nila kids. Ganun point ko Ma'am
Mafe-feel mo if they're into kids or just doing their job. Iba yung sincerity e
how much consult fee?
Same, in my 30s here. Single and childfree. Laging inaasar na wala pang special someone at tumatanda na daw ako. Whenever overbearing and chismosa relatives tell me na bakit hindi pa ako nag-rerelationship para magka-anak ako, I always tell them "OK na po ako sa buhay ko. Masaya, wala akong anak na iniintindi. Sarili ko lang iniintindi ko." I also love to travel at hindi ko kakayanin na may iniintindi akong anak na kung saan ko siya iiwan pag gusto ko mangibang bansa
36F single and child free. Weekdays puro work lang, minsan video games after work. Thursday/Friday I go put with friends pag may nag-yaya or if may event sila. Weekends are for rest, housekeeping, cooking, and long drives with parents. Yung money ko goes to bills, retirement, concerts, and travel. Masaya naman. Feeling ko if i have kids di kakayanin ng sweldo ko even if I give up yung mga luho ko.
Weekends for rest, housekeeping, cooking, and long drives with parents? You're doing it right girlieee
34F married , DINK. My husband and I like to watch K drama, go on dates, try new things. We are also able to generously help our parents financially because we are DINKs. We both know that we are not missing out on anything in life just because we’re childfree.
ano po yung dinks?
double income no kids. welcome to reddit.
Im 43, single and childfree, no intentions of getting married. Wala lang, i do me. Gusto ko lang ng katahimikan so okay ako. Ma-stroke na lang yung mga nakikialam bakit daw. Az if may moral ascendancy sila kumuda, eh mga miserable naman 🤷🏻♀
Comments section is giving 💓 I'm inspired to be child-free. But I like having kids around. Just because ayaw ko ng anak, doesn't mean I'm against the idea.
Late 30s, married. Child-free couple. I work 4 days a week, 3 days off. Yun husband ko, work from home. I earn more so I pay most of the expenses. Pero he does 90% of the household chores. I go to the gym 3x a week. Sometimes, we go together rin. Weekends can be a social weekend or a quiet weekend. Pag social weekend, more often than not, sa bahay ng friends namin. Kain, chill, kwentuhan then go home around 7pm. Pag quiet weekend, I play games. Currently doing A Plague Tale in PS5. I also do cross stitch, I just started it again. Pag winter, early ng Saturday, magdrive ako pa-mountain para mag-snowboard. Mga every 2 weeks yan. Tas ngayong spring, going towards summer, rollerblades or pickleball. Planning to enroll sa cycling club/gym, pero not yet 100% sure. Sunday is usually our grocery day. Early morning, like 6am. Pamper/me time ko din. My husband and I usually disconnect every Sunday, after our grocery time. Dyan ko na ipapasok yun bath time, scented candle sa room, ambient and lofi music. Basta di kami mag uusap, until lunch. Every Thursday, we have our brunch date. It's something we look forward to every week. Tas every year, we should have at least 1 travel abroad. Max of 3 countries. I am happy with my choice. Less stress, and not a single wrinkle on my face lol. They say that motherhood is the essense of womanhood. I disagree. Empowering other women, no matter their status, is the essense of womanhood.
Woowww sarap naman po ng buhay niyo 😊
Married late rin. 4 years ago. I think I got hooked up with the "less stress" life nun single pa ako. And nadala ko siya hanggang sa mag asawa ako. I got lucky because my husband and I, pareho ng trajectories sa buhay. Yan ang number 1, for a healthy marriage. If sa umpisa palang, magkaiba na yun goals niya, that would not work. If you try, it takes a lot of effort.
36F. Still living with parents, but I get to do what I want like traveling, etc. Minsan iniisip ko na baka I am missing out a lot in my life kasi I'm kinda of stuck with them daily, pero narealize ko na they're almost 70 na and di ko alam how much time left I've got with them, but I'm sure I've got more time for myself in the future compared to that so parang I'm somehow blessed pa rin for this chance to still be with them and help them in our daily lives and managing stuff. Di rin sila dependent sakin financially kaya ok lang, nakakapag ipon talaga ako for things I want. Iniispoil ko nalang pamangkins ko from time to time.
Single, no kids and retired at 53! I’ve been to 20+ countries and planning to travel more. I’m the cool tita who loves to feed and spoil my nephews/nieces and I’m happy with this arrangement. Marriage and/or kids are just not for me. I’ve always been independent and prefers a stress-free life!
Wonderful. Thank you for sharing. I love that even beyond 50's you are happy with childfree life 😘❤️
Married but no kids. I can stay up late playing games, and sleep in during weekends. My husband and I can go anywhere without much planning and preps. :3 We dont have to acquire properties, kaya we can both spend on experiences for the present rather than paying for long-term mortgages. Medyo struggle lang with friends who have kids din, at some point mag iiba yung flow ng conversations and you have to be empathetic with them pag nahihirapan sila with parenthood even if you cannot fully relate. And of course, lagi nakukuha na Ninang sa baptismal hahahahha! :3
Universe, yung ganito po sana please. Married, madly in love, but child free. 🙏🙏🙏
Same. I thought I will regret it, but currently I don't.
Also married, turning 30 this year and being childfree is the best - ever. First of all, uninterrupted sleep. I could wake up whenever I want. I could buy white furniture without the worry na dadrawingan ng crayons lol and the best would be a quiet house. Hindi ko talaga kayang tiisin yung iyak iyak ng bata, imagine working two jobs tapos coming home sa iyak iyak. My cats are enough as stress relievers.
i am enjoying it. walang worries because i will only think about myself. i also have a lot of time for travel and taking care of myself. i take time sa skincare ko and sa pag ayos sa sarili. i have time for working out and going out as well.
Late 30's, QINK, married. Very flexible ang work, kaya 2/3 of the month I can do whatever I want. Usually play games, read books, eat out. Hubby and I follow a frugal lifestyle. Recently, I've been wondering, kanino mapupunta ang mga pinaghirapan namin kung wala kaming anak? So I sort of doubted my decision. Pero I really can't convince myself na magka-anak. So starting this year, we decided na we will enjoy our money more! Baka you have suggestions for us, pa-share naman. :)
Iydm, Whats QINK po?
37F married and childfree. It's saturday now and im just at home while my husband is out busy with his passion projects. As for me I just finished bible study, and now watching kdrama. :D TBH, minsan nakakabore lalo na pag masyadong tahimik sa bahay. Pero madali naman hanapan ng solusyon like kahapon nanood lang ako ng sine mag-isa. Same tayo walang energy to take care of kids. Hinahanap ko na lang mga pamangkin ko minsan pag gusto ko ng interaction with kids, pero yung pakiramdam talaga na uuwi ka sa sarili mong bahay na walang maingay, grabe napapa "this is the life" talaga ko minsan.
Same here. Child free. But have two cute and sweet furbabies. Living my own life with parents but with no worries.
Lonely. Married but no kids. All the money in the world won't make me feel less alone.
For people commenting on here, you could always join r/ChildFreePh ☺️
DINKS kami ni hubby in our 30s. Travel is life. May 3 house and lot and fully paid used car. Tumutulong din kami both sides ng family. Weekdays work lang. Pag weekends, laundry, grocery, date etc. At meron kami 2 adopted aspins! <3
The dream <3
Life is hard but at least I have no kids.. 😊
35F. Single and child-free. I’ve been told a few times na mag-iiba rin daw isip ko or that I should hurry dahil geriatric pregnancy na raw pag nabuntis ako, 2 people in the medical field told me this. Gosh, the word “geriatric” made me squirm haha. All I said is that I didn’t even want to get pregnant to the point na I had an implant last year after a pregnancy scare. Life’s good. I get to wake up late on weekends, do chores, go out with friends, spend my money the way I want to. About to finish my masters na rin. I am my nephews’ favorite tita as well, so goods na ko dyan. Madali ibalik ang bata pag umiyak haha.
Masaya na rin ako maging favorite tita ng niblings ko. ❣️
34. Married, no kids with 4 dogs. We get to spend our money the way we wanted to!
Masaya.
30F single and child free. Weekdays - work and workouts, some nights after work, catch up with friends, if may events sila or nagyaya. I sometimes go treat myself to a nice meal or coffee kahit ako lang magisa. On weekends, magbabike or run then tutulong sa bahay sa mga chores. I also travel alone if my schedule permits me to and syempre kapag kaya ng budget/bulsa ko. My money ko goes to bills, maliit na savings, travel, shopping? (sakto lang), share sa household expenses. I love kids but hindi ko pa kaya iadjust yung current lifestyle ko sa ngayon thus the tita age but no child. Sa totoo lang. 😅
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hi, where do you volunteer for the kapon program?
30's I look younger than my age. Genetics and probably zero stress from not having to raise a human. I get to do what I want. Anyone who tries to pressure me gets cut off.
Decided to be childfree, turning 30 this year. I think it’s gonna be cool? I have more time for myself hehe
Acceptance. Have pets and be a furmom. Bond with your nephews/nieces.
Just turned 40 last yr. No kids no husband. Perks: Travel na walang paalam. Pansin ko sa couples nagpapapaalamanan. So ako since nakatira sa mother, kay mother lang pero madalas si mother ang kasama ko naman (recently dahil kakaretire lang). Food galore. Ayun order dito order doon. At pwedeng kumain sa labas kung gusto. Furmom. Kakabigay lang ng dalawang dogs sa akin so sila ung pinagkakagastusan ko ngayon. Di rin makagala kasi clingy yung isang aso. Madaling maaya. So most ng friends ko, ako ung biglang inaaya sa gala, may libreng panood ng Miss saigon, travel sa sg, kain etc. Masaya kasi di nila pinaparamdam na mag-isa ako at the same time masaya din naman ako sa company nila. D ko makita sarili ko na nasa relasyon, siguro if magkaroon man, laging mainit ulo ko. Charizzz.
Me and my husband (both 31) was planning to have no children, go on cruises lang, etc. And since may PCOS ako super kampante ako na di ako mabubuntis especially early 30s na ako, mahihirapan na daw makabuo. 2 income household, ang sarap ng nabibili mo lahat ng gusto mo. Nabibilan ko ng mga expensive items ang husband, nieces, nephews, and mum ko. Then we found out I’m pregnant last december. Ang mahal pala ng gatas at diapers 😂😂😂
Hahaha wag makapante sa PCOS sis. Diagnosed in my teenage years tas recently ngayong 35 na ako sabi ng OB nawala na daw kaya eto nagpa-implant agad ako hahaha. I was using pills prior anyway. You can still live a good life as a mom. I wish your family well ❤️
Mid30s here and married. I didnt choose to be childless, Its just unfortunate that we werent blessed to have kids. But its okay, and Im embracing a life without having them. My husband and I both work and enjoy a dual income household. What I have are my beautiful dogs and a cat (majority are rescued). I wouldve taken more rescued dogs but hindi na din kaya ng budget ko. Hehe pero my life revolves around them. I also read books during my free time. At this point in my life, I dont travel much. Pag need lang umuwi ng province. I prefer staying at home, with my dogs while I read or watch kdrama. And Im perfectly happy with this setup.
Masaya. Maraming oras. May pera. Magagawa mo lahat ng gusto mo. Yung iba kasi akala nila ang pag aasawa at pagkakaroon ng anak ang bubuo ng buhay pero, No. It's up to you. Kung ano gusto mo gawin sa buhay mo para maging masaya ka. Sa pinas lang naman ata kasi yung dapat may asawa at anak ka sa paningin ng iba haha. Pero sa ibang bansa sobrang normal lang kahit wala kang ganito. Tsaka hindi porket ayaw mo magkaanak selfish ka na, No. Personal na desisyon mo lang sa buhay mo yun. But if gusto mo din namang magkaroon ng anak, its also okay kasi personal decision in life mo yan at dun ka sasaya. Basta kung ano gusto mo sa buhay mo, gooo.
Being childfree allowed me to be more aggressive in taking risks. Not that I don’t calculate the consequences, it’s just that I have less people to think about when making a decision. I also have liberty to do what I want, because no one is depending on me. This is a bit dangerous too, though. If mismanaged, I imagine the chaos I would bring. Lol.
I have so much free time and can do whatever I want 😂 work during weekdays. Weekends are for house cleaning and doing meal preps para stress free during weekdays. Hybrid set up sa work - so andaming free time talaga that sometimes I feel so guilty lol
I shop, travel, dive and practice yoga
I have a LIP, both of us in our 30s and we both decided not tohave kids for now. We can do whatever we want after our work, can go out and travel without restrictions. Just enjoying each other’s company. Sa ekonomiya ngayon, parang mahirap bumuhay ng isa pa.
ang sarap haha my SO and I just enjoy our lives together
Para sa akin ha, magaan ang buhay. Walang pressure. Matutulog, gigising, kakain at kikilos kung kelan ko gusto. Hindi malaki sahod ko tulad ng iba pero we can book international or domestic travel for next month if we want to. Ang malaking expense ko talaga is napupunta sa monthly support ko sa senior parents ko. Pero syempre ibang usapan naman yun.
31, no S.O, no kids. Focusing on my goals and self as of the moment. I'm still healing and is fixing myself. That's all I needed right now and music which helps to soothe my emotions. I am just going with the flow like working 5 days a week, sharing my energy to those that deserve it, loving my family and my pets. Also, I love to isolate too much. It's where I can be at peace with my mind. I ain't ready to settle down. Let alone with kids. Not yet financially, emotionally and mentally stable for having a family. I don't even know if I want to get married in this current world we are living in.
35M DINKs. Weekdays, work. Weekend, tulog, binge netflix, labas bahay, mall, tulog. Kapag bday ni Mrs, out of town. Once a year, out of country. Kapag malaki laki ipon, out of country ulit. We have a lot of pamangkins, kapag nag iiyak na, balik na sa parents.
Yaass!
Some people think I’m still in my 20s lol siguro dahil nagmanifest ang pagiging immature ko 😂 I’m 34 haha Ok naman kasi I’m trying to build my career kahit medyo late as per social norms. I also watch anime on my free time. Di naman sa ayaw ko sa kids, kasi parang minsan nagkaka baby fever ako HAHAHAHAHA pero sabi ng bf ko di pa namin afford so no 😂 may point naman sya haha. Ineenjoy lang namin yung life na meron kami. Chill lang ganern.
30, in a relationship, child-free, with dogs (🤣). i try to learn new hobbies (especially sa arts) and upskill. nakikipag-s*x madalas with jowa w/o worries dahil naka-pills hahahaha (TMI) never wanted to have kids ever since kasi ayoko manganak. also takot ako sa gastusin.
33f married, DINK din but we are trying since gusto talaga ni husband magkababy kami. Monday - Saturday trabaho kami and workout after work, sa gabi magpprepare pa ng food para baon the next day. We only have 1 day off and it’s for chores like laundry, linis ng bahay, groceries or eating out. Honestly, may mga araw na gumigising ako at napapaiisip na parang sobrang sakto lang para sa sarili namin yung time na meron kami in a day, paano pa kaya pag nagka-baby. Kaya I don’t really feel bad na wala pa kaming baby. Masaya na ko sa set up namin, hindi ko talaga alam saan isisingit ang pag-aalaga ng kids if ever. Same, ang gusto ko talaga sa buhay ay magtravel, before kami ikasal ni husband napag-usapan naman namin na if ever hindi kami magkababy okay lang samin yun. And ayun nga, nakakatulong din kami sa mga pamilya namin kasi medyo nakakaluwag financially.
I have a lot of control over my life. Not complete because I still have social obligations, but definitely I can do what I want, go where I want, go home (or not go home at all) when I want, and spend for what I want.
Joy like no other.
You're so hot OP.. oops wrong subreddit.. haha. I admire your mentality. It's a different world we live in.
I am aiming to enhance my skill. But in everyday life, I work, I exercise, I dine out, I meet new people and hang out with friends. I also get to travel. It’s freeing since I do live alone. The thought of having a kid is cute but tbh I cant imagine my self being a mom. A wife for sure! Pero in this mental health? In this environment? No. Im ok.
35+, single, child-free. I currently have a low-stress, high-paying job that enables me pa to do freelance on the side if I want extra fun money. I work out 4-5x a week. I have out-of-the-country trips every year. I have a cute dog. Renting for now in a nice condo + neighborhood, but I'm not really looking to buy property pa. My weekends are full of activities with friends or family, but I can also choose if I want to stay quiet at home. All in all, this is the most peaceful period of my life so far.
Picked up hobbies I wanted to explore as a kid but wasn't able to due to finances. Art classes, painting, swimming, reading, cooking, etc. When I was younger I liked to shop a lot, pero that's dwindled after the pandemic.
Okay naman, I'm leaning more on having a husband than a child. I can plan my day however I like and do activities without having much restraint. I just want a partner to share life with. 😊
Looking forward to reading your next post when you reach the age of 50 and up.
Yeah hope reddit still exists at that time lol
bakit? malungkot ba pag walang anak when u're 50?
Sobra! Specially kapag na matay ang partner mo ng mas maaga. Ikaw nalang mag-isa sa mundo mo kahit alam mo na may mga kamag-anak at friends kapa naman.
Late 30s. DINK with cats kami. Kapag weekend or walang pasok, either chill sa bahay, eat out or asa travel kami ni hubby.
Turning 34 this year. I used to work and study full time but I paused school for now after getting diagnosed with cancer because the mental and physical demands of always going to the hospital has been tiring. Right now medyo kumalma yung hospital visits at sabi ko sa husband ko I LOVE not doing anything after work 😂 I watch whatever I feel like watching on streaming apps, I listen to whatever I feel like listening to (music or podcasts), I hang out with my husband - and even tho he’s not a possessive/jealous person at all, I occasionally use him as an excuse to not go out when my friends ask me to hang out 😂 I also get to spend time with my mom and our dogs. Minsan nakakaisip ako mag try ng sport or pumunta somewhere and my husband goes along with it. My best friend is also childfree and we get to hang out whenever we want (minsan nga we just hang out and nap together 😂😴). I just enjoy a really slow and quiet life and so happy that my husband and bestie are aligned with me on that. background: When my husband and I started dating, not wanting kids was one of the things we had in common. He didn’t want to pass any trauma to kids and I just don’t want to worry about another person (I’m an only child and my mom is a very pasaway senior so i dedicate all of my energy to her and my husband). After I got diagnosed with multiple illnesses (diabetes and hypertension in 2021, panic disorder in 2022, cancer in 2023), I realized that we made the right decision not to have kids because I can’t pass unhealthy genes to another human being. Not to mention global warming. Super kawawa mga bata lately with different skin conditions and pulmonary issues due to the weather.
Hi sis I super relate sa story mo. Yes one factors made me decide to be childfree is dahil na rin sa health conditions. Yes I have diabetes and diagnosed with cancer 2018. Tried to have kids in the past pero ayun di talaga nangyari. I guess that's a blessing too kasi it would likely take a toll in my body and mind if I had kids and then later on diagnosed with cancer. So yeah let's just enjoy the freedom we have. Cheers to more fulfilling life despite these health setbacks ❤️
I aspire to be child-free. I realized na the physical and mental toll of pregnancy are just some things I am not willing to go through 🥺
30F, single and child-free, doesn't see myself committing to anyone anytime soon. Corpo girlie with a single day off (workaholic eme). I usually read manga, or manhwa, attending animecon, try new recipes, and recently get into baking in my free time (I'm still contemplating whether to enroll in a BJJ class or MMA.) Every once in a while, I go to events with my family (simply because they're the coolest people; no pressure: free alcohol). HAHAHA and if schedules allow, my friends and I hang out or travel. I'm happy and enjoying my freedom.
I have one child (single mom by choice) and parang same lang rin naman nagagawa ko sa maraming childfree, like have financial freedom, travel whenever and wherever I want, going out, self care. Narealize ko na a lot of benefits that people associate with being child free are associated with money, so if you have money, even with a kid, you still get to enjoy childfree “perks”.
Hahahaha bat to downvoted? Confirmation bias?
Haha onga eh. But sanay na ako sa rabid childfree advocates of reddit. Some people seem to think na if may anak ka wala kang financial freedom or time for self-care and individual pursuits, but I know for a fact na I have more financial freedom and time than many childfree couples/people because I earn a good income so I can provide a good life for both me and my kid. May mga staunch childfree kasi na di open sa reality. Being childfree, similar to being a mother, is not a personality! It’s just one aspect of your life.
Naniniwala ako na whether may anak ka o wala, the level of contentment and happiness is just the same, magkaiba lang ng pinanggagalingan. In my case, the desire to have children is just not there. Madalas dinidismiss yon ng ibang parents kasi laging sinasabi "magbabago rin yang isip mo", "walang katumbas ang saya na binibigay ng mga anak","mahirap pero fulfilling maging magulang", etc. Maybe some childfree people just seem to have the constant need to justify their choices, kasi sa mundong to, wala namang nag-cocomment sa mga gusto mag-anak ng "magbabago din yang isip mo", or "wag ka nang mag-anak kasi tumatanda ka na".
Yes yung feeling ng dismissal or iniinvalidate kahit legit naman yung reason mo why you wanna be childfree 😢 usually quiet lang ako ayoko sabihin sa lahat na childfree ako. But people, esp other women, will always always always ask. Then if you answer you will only be brushed off or be questioned.
True yan. Lalo na pag ang comment "you'll regret it when you're old". We can say the same to those with kids, pero sinong nanay naman ang aamin? 😄
I think whether you want them or you don’t mutual respect ang important. I get what you mean about having to justify your choices all the time. I decided to be a single mom by choice because I want a kid but don’t ever want to get married. So daming nagtake issue with that. Haha. Dami kong narinig na “ano nalang sasabihin ng iba?” “Iisipin na nabuntis ka at iniwan!” “Paano magkakagusto sayo kung may sabit ka na?” Dafuq is up with that? Tama ka to remain child free if you just dont want to have kids same as me na ayaw ko mag asawa kasi wala akong desire to be tied down by marriage (ayaw ko rin ng kahati sa decision-making). I just always think that I don’t need or want to explain myself to anyone. Ang walang ambag, walang say sa buhay ko. It’s been working out well for me and my kid. Haha.
Yes money is a one factor. It's great you have a good enough income to be a single mom by choice and raise one child and have your freedom still. It's not something a lot of people can achieve tbh. I guess being unmarried is also another factor cos no husband to look after as well lol.
DINKS with hubby, and both In our early 40s. Because we have no kids, malakas ang Log namin to start a new In a foreign country. I dont think we will be as brave kung may mga bata kaming iisipin kasi. Yes, we are still open to risks pero for sure, katakot-takot na backip plans ang In place just to make sure the kids Will be ok
Edit: malakas ang loob*
I’m an OINK (one income, no kids lol) i get to go on vacations whenever i want without complicated logistics. Lahat ng pera ko sakin, and i can focus on work and finding out new things that excites me every day. Other than the fact that having kids doesn’t appeal to me, i carry sick genes. Ayaw ko ipasa yon. That shit ends with me.
Thats kinda sad
Sa umpisa lang yan masaya haha