Oh my gosh I couldn't. Hell, I can't stand guys my own age lol my bf is my sister's age. Like if it's your thing, cool. But show him how grown ups do and get a hotel room. That's cringe af and you know he only wants it to be at the dorm so he can "show her off".
This right here.
Girl, just hit it & move on. Ain't nothing wrong with it.
BUT get a damn hotel bc yeah, he wants you as a trophy & you better believe he or his friends will record it. And then tiktok or worse pornhub it.
That's not even a joke.
If he wants it only at the dorm, then nope nope nope! Unless you're OK with being the Real MILF of the Day...
Not um not that I know what that is 😳🫣
I feel like you're right. If genders were reversed OP would be getting torn to shreds. Personally I think it's gross either way, the kid is fresh out of high school...
Glad someone said it. They're making jokes about the dorm room. If this was a 34 year old guy saying he wants to blow an 18 year olds back out in her dorm everyone would be crying that he's a creepy predator.
I agree. 18 year olds are still dumb kids to someone in their 30s. This woman is desperate or will look like she’s desperate to be with someone that age.
34m wanting to hook up with 18f people would have much much more harsh words. Bottom line regardless of the genders if both are consenting adults then you can argue all ya want and not like it. But they can do what they want !
There’s 0 chance you say that with a gender swap. She’s a creep. Period. End of story. If she were a guy asking this, you’d be calling him a pervert and pedophile. They’re JUST legal, yet you seem to think it’s fine because she’s a woman and he’s the 18 yo. Reddit and the double standards come flying thru again
She's caught up in the compliment that she looks younger. He must look like a little boy. It's completely creepy. Especially being willing to go to the dorm. She must want to be young girl again and this kid is making her that way. What grown woman would bang a kid in a dorm room?
Op is literally a rapist pedo. O wait my bad it's a woman ! . Then you go girl. Love how you manage to make the victim the bad guy. Reddit is disgusting.
Hahaha right! Omg good point about the showing off. I wasn’t as bothered by this until she mentioned the dorm. Like I could never do that with an 18 year old but if you’re gonna do it at least act like adults about it!!
I agree! You'd think he'd pick the option of doing it in a hotel room that is getting paid for. It's a little suspicious that he is insisting on bringing her to his dorm.
I’m a little younger than OP and work with college kids. One of my coworkers just turned 20 and they’re such a child to me. They find it hilarious when I point it out because it’s not like in a condescending way or anything but they’re just so young! I cannot imagine finding someone that young attractive enough to sleep with. It’s pure ick. I mean sure I’ll see some people and think like young me would’ve had such a crush but that’s like a fleeting thought. But being in your mid 30’s and wanting to sleep with an 18 yr old?!? Just ewww no OP.
Totally!! I remember being like 28 and hooking up once with a 22 year old and it felt like a weird Mrs. Robinson adventure lol. That was pushing it for me THEN.
I think the difference is so much less apparent to college-aged people bc they feel so adult compared to their recent literal childhood. I definitely remember not understanding why people thought I was so young at my internships and first job. It’s not until you get older that you really realize how much growing up you do in your 20s.
Same (I’m 36). I’m not saying I’ve never been like “damn that person is hot” and then found out they were young, but the difference is my body and mind instantly are like “NOPE.”
OP the fact that you’re debating this with yourself should tell you what you need to know. Also, it isn’t just a one night stand— you’ve been texting for weeks. A one night stand IMO would’ve happened the night you met and then you’d be done with it. *Maybe* it would be more understandable under those circumstances, but even still… 😬 You have a lot more faith in what an 18 year old brings to the table in bed than me.
I’m just saying you need to think long and hard about how you’re gonna feel if someone asks if you’re visiting your child when you’re peeing in the communal bathroom after. Seriously, *in a dorm*? Cmon now.
Probably because it’s embarrassing as a guy to not even be able to afford condoms nevermind a hotel… and how can he flex and flaunt to his dorm if he doesn’t parade her thru there?
lol the dorm room part is what got me... what 34 yo would even consider hooking up in a dorm room? Also probably have the roommate along for the ride on the top bunk too...
I’m 34 and I can honestly say…absolutely the fuck not. To all of this. Why the fuck would I want to have (probably mediocre) sex with a guy who is literally almost young enough to be my son in a goddamn dorm room?
Actually, he is young enough to be your child I'm 35 and my child is 17 I got pregnant with her a few months before my 18th birthday you would just be a teen mom. Yeah, it's gross he is still growing which means he is still young mentally. I don't care about the gender they are too young mentally.
"He won't let me pay for a hotel room"...what??
You're a grown woman and he is a broke college kid. Pay for the damn hotel room if you don't want to be a bigger creep.
My college roommate had literally just turned 17 right during HS graduation week and was 17 until almost the end of his freshman year, so it’s very possible to have 17 year old freshman in college. Heck, it’s possible to be even younger, but that’s some Doogie Howser stuff, lol.
I chatted up a girl in one of my classes my sophomore year, so i was 19. We went out for ice cream, and when talking about school, she kept switching from professor to teacher. I asked more about the class she said teacher...it was at her high school. She was in post secondary option as a sophomore in high school...
I told her it was a lot of fun talking and I'd always be on campus if she wanted to chat but said you're a little too young for me, haha. She got defensive, saying it was 3 years and whatever. And i calmly just said it would be unfair for me to try and date you while you are still going through the high school experience. You have prom and school games and meaningless heartbreaks, so you know who you are when you start dating college guys.
Didn't think about it again besides side stepping a pedo logo bullet. Like a year after i was out of college, i got a long snapchat from her, just saying she really appreciated what i said, and she was mad at the time, thought i was stupid and probably racist or gay. But after a couple of guys on capus tried pressuring her, she stopped hanging out on campus and more with her friends. At the time(this message was like 3 years ago), she was dating a guy she met her senior year of hs at her school.
She didn't need to add the gay part.
You know how people say men in their 30’s who go for 18 year olds are gross, insecure perverts who can’t get someone mature who’s their own age? Well that ISN’T JUST FOR MEN who do it
I can’t stop side eyeing this post. I at 25 was discussing with someone how I probably would never be into dating a 19 year and this lady is talking about going to his dorm 😭😭😭
I'm 33 and was discussing with my rm how someone would have to be very special for me to consider dating them if they're under 30. But even then I feel like 26 is the very very lowest I'd ever go. 18 year olds look like kids to me. OP is gross.
I'm a 26 yearold dude and an 18 yearold seems too young. Honestly I have no idea what this woman sees in an 18 yearold. Honestly 21 is young for me and 34 is definitely too old. But I also don't like hookups so maybe I'm looking at the situation wrong if it's just "an eligible body".
This is so true. The fact OP has to ask this question, shows she knows it’s morally wrong. Legal, yes. Disgustingly creepy, also 100x yes. Being a woman doesn’t excuse this behaviour, it’s predatory.
I turned down an 18 year old when I was 24.. we talked and the age/maturity difference was very noticeable. idk HOW these people do it. I couldn’t. Even if its just for a hook up. Even though legally you’ll be ok, it just feels wrong.
Yeah. I'm pretty sure the most condensed period of time for mental/emotional maturing is done during those college years of 18-22. K-12 is a steady maturing, college age is like crunch time, and then after that it's a slow and steady rate of continued maturation. With some spikes as life events happen. Buying a house. Marriage. Starting a family.
I came to the comments to say this if it wasn’t already said just by reading the title! These comments would be SOOO different if the genders were reversed, and that’s wrong.
>He won't let me pay for a hotel room, and I won't let him pay for one either, so the only option is his dorm room.
eww and double eww the age...
you know it would be wrong.
>Just to clarify: I have no intentions of starting a relationship with him! This would just be a one night stand situation!
set aside the age gap, does he know this will be a one-time thing?
Why the fuck would any self-respecting woman in her 30s let some college dude forbid her from getting a hotel room? Why the fuck would an 18 year-old dude forbid a potential hookup from paying for a hotel room? The age gap is the least problematic part of this story in my opinion.
Nah, age gap explains everything and is the worst part
OP is the kind of person to knowingly give an 18 yr old half her age her number because he flirted with her. Her submitting to him wanting to bring her to the dorm doesn't sound too off base when you think about it.
You know what? There were already red flags here, mainly the “almost double his age” thing. But once he makes his dorm the only option, that’s when you say “you know what, I just don’t feel comfortable with that.” And walk away.
thank. you.
legality has never, ever been the same as morality.
it’s moral to punch fascists, but assault is illegal. it’s legal to sleep with an 18 yo, but it’s morally questionable at its most generous interpretation.
i know morality in general is its own can of worms. i just don’t get how people who rely on the “well, it’s legal” argument as the backbone of defending something skeevy don’t see that legality is the floor, not the ceiling.
edit: not interested in engaging with any “just curious” or “what’s your moral praxis” questions because i used the fascist example, which to me was the most painfully obvious comparison i could make regarding legality and morality. the only good fascist is a dead fascist and if that statement bothers you then google the paradox of tolerance and take it up with yourself
I am also 34 F - Girl, this is GROSS.
First of all, "he wont let me pay for a hotel room" bitch you are an ADULT do not go fuck someone in a dorm room, have some self respect for real. Thats the dumbest shit I've read on Reddit all day. Youre gonna go fuck him in a dorm room and be walking past *teenagers.* Grow up and get a fucking hotel room AT LEAST.
2nd of all - No its gross. 18 year olds do *not* know how to fuck. Facts.
If a 34 year old dude was going to an 18 year old girl's dorm room it would be creepy as fuck.
Please have some self awareness here.
Damn talk about a beat down with words! You committed a homicide and I'm here for it! 🤣
OP don't fuck an 18 year old; but if you must, pay for a hotel room. His parents paid for that room for him to sleep & study; NOT for their child to fuck some broad in.
I wouldn't do it because the situation sounds ripe for someone to "get in their feelings," blackmail, social media exposure, reputations ruined, etc. It's just not worth it for the 1 orgasm she might have.
Did you miss the part where he's literally a teenager and you're a full grown ass woman who should know better? The fact that you're even asking shows you know your behaviour is creepy
My mom instincts prevent me from seeing anyone who can be on their parents' insurance as a full-grown adult. 18 is a BABY. I would not do this. Even if he perceives it as fun now, it may be the type of thing he cringes at later.
When I was 24 I thought 18 year olds were way too young for me. Even if they are legally considered adults and it's legal to have romantic/sexual relations with them. It's fucking weird because 18 really is still a child. You're still developing at that point. Most people don't actually stop developing until their early to mid 20's.
As someone who's a little older, I have to know what the attraction could possibly be? No offense to anyone here but they're so immature at that age .. I'm just curious
Thank you!! I’m also 38, and talking to anyone under 25 usually does feel like talking to a kid. I cannot fathom being attracted to an 18-year-old because they look and think like children. They *are* children, developmentally, regardless of their legal status as “adult” — we all know they are NOT.
I can’t imagine being desperate enough at my old ass age to fuck a teenaged kid in a dorm room. Gives me the heebie-jeebies!!!
There is a 0% chance the sex will be good enough to justify any of that ick. 🤢 (Not that it would be justified anyway; I’m being facetious.)
I went to my SILs birthday party a few weeks ago. All her friends are between 19 and 17. They all looked like kids to me. I couldn’t imagine dating any of them at 26, let alone 34.
Yes, it's wrong. He's 18, still a teenager and barely an adult. His brain won't finish developing until he's about 25-27 and he should be exploring this stuff with people in a suitable age range. This is exactly as gross as predatory older men going after really young women. I'm 35 and I have no idea how you can even be attracted to him. All of the 18 year olds I know, look like literal children to me.
At 34, you're willing to have sex on a twin mattress in a dorm? Have self-respect and tell this 18-year-old you will get a hotel room like an adult. I promise he'll compromise. Be very vocal about it being a one-time thing before you have sex. If you want a puppy, you can get one from the pound.
I used to have a friend with benefits situation with a women in her late 30’s when I was 19, and 20. The sex was amazing. Just get the hotel room, let him know you did and he’s just going to have too come over, and give him the best night of his life
Umm, yeah you're definitely wrong. That's like a 16 year age gap and he's still in college? Come on now, use your brain. Plus, the whole "he likes older women" thing is just a line. Don't fall for it. And seriously, don't bring him back to his dorm room. That's just asking for trouble.
I’d never go back to his dorm room. What if he has a camera hidden in his room and his buddies are watching you and him make a lasting memory for him? If you’re gonna do it, be an adult and get a hotel room.
Ok this may be an unpopular opinion but meaningless hookups the whole age thing goes out the window imo.
You shouldn’t be trying to make a romantic long term connection with someone half your age but two adults who just want to get off and find each other attractive is really whatever.
It gets weird if you only hook up with 18-24 year olds but as an occasional thing I think it doesn’t matter.
It’s weird when Leo does it because he exclusively hooks up with and more importantly “dates” young people.
We have started running into a problem where people act like it’s weird to be attracted to attractive people just because they are younger. It’s weird to see them as a life partner but are we supposed to pretend the 20 something year old famous people who sell themselves on their looks aren’t attractive?
Damn, some ready-to-go dude is getting cockblocked out of a super fun and memorable experience by a bunch of sexless pearl-clutching Redditors rn. You hate to see it.
Even though he's an adult he still has a lot of developing to do, My boyfriend and me have a 10 year age gap but we met when we were well over 25. That is quite a bit of a age gap though, while it may be legal it may not look morally ok to others or to each other. I was with a younger guy before and it was one of my worst relationships ever. Not saying it's the same for everyone, Things turn out differently. But this guy didn't know what he wanted and basically used me, and ruined my trust for future relationships. All I can say is be careful in what you do and think about how this would look if someone knew. Even if his intention are good, sometimes you can never know. If you don't care what people think, that's great, all power to you. Just be careful.
I just can't understand how 'have sex in his dorm room' is considered the more obvious choice than just splitting the hotel room 50:50. Could even go 60:40 either way, whatever.
A dorm room is an awful place to go back to when you're actually in college, let alone at the age of 34. There's a realistic chance people think you're either his mom or a hooker.
Just no to the dorm. If neither of you wants the other to pay for a room, you both pay for half. The dorm takes this from exciting to creepy. The worst part is I get the sense you both prefer the dorm for different but equally yuck reasons.
This dudes almost old enough to be your child bro
Imagine if you had a teen pregnancy at 16- this guy would literally be your kid
Also imagine if genders were swapped picture a 34year old MAN going after a 18 year old GIRL that's fucked up as all shit
So what different is that verse this? Suddenly it's ok because it's a older lady? Yeah No ur gross IMO for even considering this
He won’t let me pay for a hotel room.
That’s a cop-out. Why would you let an 18 your old *teenager,* which he still is, tell you you can’t get a hotel room, and you listen to it?? Why would you think you’re “only option” is to go to his dorm? I am truly curious if you’re trying to relive something? Or poss even experience something you weren’t able to when at college? Let your 34 yo brain remember how foolishly immature boys are at that age: cameras (milf porn?), pictures, telling all the dorm buds what you were like - & my apologies If this offends you - how “old” you were. You just don’t know. If a hook up get a hotel room, you can afford one night. *WHY RISK IT?*
Texting some kid you met at a bar then going back to his dorm is foolish, & you know it. It won’t be a one & done no more communication; He’s got your number.
Girls/women need to learn/remember the numbers on a phone that spell out “‘Sorry no;” it’s more fun than just giving a fake number.
We are infantilizing people who are legally adults by suggesting that we are in charge of policing or facilitating their decisions. At some point we have to agree that people of a certain age are capable of making informed decisions. We have give them the respect of agency.
I have zero interest in telling anyone what age that should be. I know I would have been thrilled to have casual sex with an 34 year old when I was 18.
But I can’t imagine actually sleeping with an 18 year old now that I’m 34. And I’ve seen so many smoking hot 18 year olds. But they all act like children, and that is immediately off-putting to me.
I don’t think there is anything inherently harmful about this hook-up as long as everyone is sharing their honest/genuine feelings and expectations, and then everyone is still interested.
Some people are into things that I’m not into. And that’s fine—as long as no one is being harmed.
Back to his dorm room?? Walk of shame will be interesting at least
I am a 35yo woman and the dorm room part made my skin crawl
I'm a 24yo woman and the dorm room part made MY skin crawl.
Interesting!! I’m trying to remember what I thought of 18 year olds at that age and I think it also weirded me out then haha
Oh my gosh I couldn't. Hell, I can't stand guys my own age lol my bf is my sister's age. Like if it's your thing, cool. But show him how grown ups do and get a hotel room. That's cringe af and you know he only wants it to be at the dorm so he can "show her off".
This right here. Girl, just hit it & move on. Ain't nothing wrong with it. BUT get a damn hotel bc yeah, he wants you as a trophy & you better believe he or his friends will record it. And then tiktok or worse pornhub it. That's not even a joke. If he wants it only at the dorm, then nope nope nope! Unless you're OK with being the Real MILF of the Day... Not um not that I know what that is 😳🫣
Curious what these comments would be like if the sexes were reversed.
Pitch forks and torches
There is no question how it would go.
Correct
Shit would have been removed by now and the word pedophile would be used ALOT
You'd see a bunch of dudes in here telling the kid not to fuck.
I think they meant if it was a 34m asking about having sex with a 18f.
I feel like if this was an 18 y/o chick and 34 y/o man you wouldn’t be saying this. Maybe I’m wrong tho
I feel like you're right. If genders were reversed OP would be getting torn to shreds. Personally I think it's gross either way, the kid is fresh out of high school...
Fr the kid LITERALLY just became old enough to watch porn and vote. Not even smoke or drink. Just old enough for porn, voting and maybe a gun.
Sir, this is Reddit. You’re basically reading Jezebel here.
The lifetime movie channel of web sites. "Men are terrible, and they will hurt you".
“They will definitely record you on pornhub.”
Glad someone said it. They're making jokes about the dorm room. If this was a 34 year old guy saying he wants to blow an 18 year olds back out in her dorm everyone would be crying that he's a creepy predator.
I think it's weird either way. As a 32yo woman, I'd feel like a creep.
I agree. 18 year olds are still dumb kids to someone in their 30s. This woman is desperate or will look like she’s desperate to be with someone that age.
“If Harvina Weinstein approached my son with a legitimate contract???” Joe Rogan
Agreed folks would say its scummy.
If this were a man, he'd be ridiculed and looked down on.
34m wanting to hook up with 18f people would have much much more harsh words. Bottom line regardless of the genders if both are consenting adults then you can argue all ya want and not like it. But they can do what they want !
There’s 0 chance you say that with a gender swap. She’s a creep. Period. End of story. If she were a guy asking this, you’d be calling him a pervert and pedophile. They’re JUST legal, yet you seem to think it’s fine because she’s a woman and he’s the 18 yo. Reddit and the double standards come flying thru again
She's caught up in the compliment that she looks younger. He must look like a little boy. It's completely creepy. Especially being willing to go to the dorm. She must want to be young girl again and this kid is making her that way. What grown woman would bang a kid in a dorm room?
Looks like Stella trying to get her groove back.
This is the real answer. Do NOT go to his dorm.
He definitely plans to record it
Op is literally a rapist pedo. O wait my bad it's a woman ! . Then you go girl. Love how you manage to make the victim the bad guy. Reddit is disgusting.
Hahaha right! Omg good point about the showing off. I wasn’t as bothered by this until she mentioned the dorm. Like I could never do that with an 18 year old but if you’re gonna do it at least act like adults about it!!
I agree! You'd think he'd pick the option of doing it in a hotel room that is getting paid for. It's a little suspicious that he is insisting on bringing her to his dorm.
I’m a little younger than OP and work with college kids. One of my coworkers just turned 20 and they’re such a child to me. They find it hilarious when I point it out because it’s not like in a condescending way or anything but they’re just so young! I cannot imagine finding someone that young attractive enough to sleep with. It’s pure ick. I mean sure I’ll see some people and think like young me would’ve had such a crush but that’s like a fleeting thought. But being in your mid 30’s and wanting to sleep with an 18 yr old?!? Just ewww no OP.
Last year she was 33. Last year he was *in high school*
Take it a few steps further. 4 years ago she turned 30. 4 years ago he was a freshman in high school, and 2 years away from being able to drive.
8 years ago she was on the back end of her 20’s while closer to 30 at 26 years old while he was 10 years old.
Totally!! I remember being like 28 and hooking up once with a 22 year old and it felt like a weird Mrs. Robinson adventure lol. That was pushing it for me THEN. I think the difference is so much less apparent to college-aged people bc they feel so adult compared to their recent literal childhood. I definitely remember not understanding why people thought I was so young at my internships and first job. It’s not until you get older that you really realize how much growing up you do in your 20s.
I'm a 48yo woman with an 18yo freshman son and the dorm part made MY skin crawl.
Skin crawls regardless of where it is ☠️
Same (I’m 36). I’m not saying I’ve never been like “damn that person is hot” and then found out they were young, but the difference is my body and mind instantly are like “NOPE.” OP the fact that you’re debating this with yourself should tell you what you need to know. Also, it isn’t just a one night stand— you’ve been texting for weeks. A one night stand IMO would’ve happened the night you met and then you’d be done with it. *Maybe* it would be more understandable under those circumstances, but even still… 😬 You have a lot more faith in what an 18 year old brings to the table in bed than me. I’m just saying you need to think long and hard about how you’re gonna feel if someone asks if you’re visiting your child when you’re peeing in the communal bathroom after. Seriously, *in a dorm*? Cmon now.
it's pretty obvious OP ***IS*** thinking about something long and hard.
Hard? Sure. Long? Who knows?
I have a 20 year old son and I never even want to go in his room. I can’t imagine willingly going back to an 18 year old’s dorm room.
I’m sure he would clean up the room before she got there. Might even try to impress her with clean sheet on his twin bed.
To collect “specimens”
Spesemens*
Leave early enough and they’d just assume she was Stacey’s mom.
“He won’t let me pay for a hotel room”…. Why not?
He wants to show his friends that he got an attractive older woman…
He’s gonna ask his mom to pay for it for them
I bet he wants to record it.
Why couldn’t they split one? Real questions.
Someone really wants to relieve their college days
Lol “he won’t let me buy a hotel room” uhh ma’am that is a boy
Probably because it’s embarrassing as a guy to not even be able to afford condoms nevermind a hotel… and how can he flex and flaunt to his dorm if he doesn’t parade her thru there?
It’s her “only option”. So creepy
I can’t even imagine how disgusting his dorm room is. OP get a hotel like a real creep. It’s like $100
Stride of pride
lol the dorm room part is what got me... what 34 yo would even consider hooking up in a dorm room? Also probably have the roommate along for the ride on the top bunk too...
I’m 34 and I can honestly say…absolutely the fuck not. To all of this. Why the fuck would I want to have (probably mediocre) sex with a guy who is literally almost young enough to be my son in a goddamn dorm room?
I'm also 34 and I agree with you. Not one part of any of it sounds appealing.
Actually, he is young enough to be your child I'm 35 and my child is 17 I got pregnant with her a few months before my 18th birthday you would just be a teen mom. Yeah, it's gross he is still growing which means he is still young mentally. I don't care about the gender they are too young mentally.
Absolutely. The almost was for me personally - I was too shy/awkward/introverted to have anything to do with boys when I was a teenager!
What if it's a Mormon university? If it is, it might be a soaking situation.
My apologies for my lack of inclusivity... the roommate might be the one giving them the ride...
>what 34 yo would even consider hooking up in a dorm room? Someone either extremely desperate, or off their rocker. I can't believe OP even asked.
Split the cost of a hotel for gods sake
"He won't let me pay for a hotel room"...what?? You're a grown woman and he is a broke college kid. Pay for the damn hotel room if you don't want to be a bigger creep.
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Just don’t be surprised to learn he’s actually 17. Ask to check his driver’s license
My college roommate had literally just turned 17 right during HS graduation week and was 17 until almost the end of his freshman year, so it’s very possible to have 17 year old freshman in college. Heck, it’s possible to be even younger, but that’s some Doogie Howser stuff, lol.
I chatted up a girl in one of my classes my sophomore year, so i was 19. We went out for ice cream, and when talking about school, she kept switching from professor to teacher. I asked more about the class she said teacher...it was at her high school. She was in post secondary option as a sophomore in high school... I told her it was a lot of fun talking and I'd always be on campus if she wanted to chat but said you're a little too young for me, haha. She got defensive, saying it was 3 years and whatever. And i calmly just said it would be unfair for me to try and date you while you are still going through the high school experience. You have prom and school games and meaningless heartbreaks, so you know who you are when you start dating college guys. Didn't think about it again besides side stepping a pedo logo bullet. Like a year after i was out of college, i got a long snapchat from her, just saying she really appreciated what i said, and she was mad at the time, thought i was stupid and probably racist or gay. But after a couple of guys on capus tried pressuring her, she stopped hanging out on campus and more with her friends. At the time(this message was like 3 years ago), she was dating a guy she met her senior year of hs at her school. She didn't need to add the gay part.
Lol, is being gay worst then being racist or stupid 🤣🤣🤣
I’m just like “he lied about his age once.”
If you have to check their drivers license, it’s probably best to not fuck him.
lol 34 walking out the dorm the next day would be so fucking creepy just like this whole situation.
She bumps into the RA in the hall: Hi Miss, who’s parent are you?
"I'm about to be this dude's mommy if you catch.....oh God I have to get out of here"
I'd imagine walking in the dorm would be equally as creepy
You say creepy, I say sad. Why not both.
Especially when she finds herself on the Hub later that day. Dude has a camera set up already.
Walk out of a dorm room and go home to clean the house and pay bills. That'd be a weird transition
So you gonna suck this kids dick or what
Reddit is a dark place lmfaoo
Just choked on my water. That’s hilarious
Uhh….there’s *TWO* dicks in that dorm room, and the second one isn’t going to suck itself….
Possibly 4
Mine had 8 🤣
take my poor man’s gold🏅
You know how people say men in their 30’s who go for 18 year olds are gross, insecure perverts who can’t get someone mature who’s their own age? Well that ISN’T JUST FOR MEN who do it
I can’t stop side eyeing this post. I at 25 was discussing with someone how I probably would never be into dating a 19 year and this lady is talking about going to his dorm 😭😭😭
They’re gonna bang and then he’s gonna ask her how to do his laundry😂😂
"hey before you go could you maybe buy me and my friends some beer?"
This comment wins
HELP 😭
He’s going to trick her into thinking they will bang but he will ask her to do his laundry
She’s gonna be turned off when she sees his TMNT tighty whities😂😂
If she's this desperate to hook up with someone half her age, she probably doesn't have much pride left.
I'm 33 and was discussing with my rm how someone would have to be very special for me to consider dating them if they're under 30. But even then I feel like 26 is the very very lowest I'd ever go. 18 year olds look like kids to me. OP is gross.
I'm a 26 yearold dude and an 18 yearold seems too young. Honestly I have no idea what this woman sees in an 18 yearold. Honestly 21 is young for me and 34 is definitely too old. But I also don't like hookups so maybe I'm looking at the situation wrong if it's just "an eligible body".
And what if he's a virgin? Or maybe that would turn OP on? What if halfway in he starts calling her "mommy." Yeah, this is kinda gross.
I’m 21 and hearing an 18 year old boy being called a man just shocked me. Especially coming from someone in their mid-30s.
The fact that she knows his brain is not fully developed and mentions it is repulsive
She knows all the reasons why she shouldn’t be a predator all she’s looking for is some other predator to tell her it’s ok
Clearly, because that’s just gross. I’m younger than OP and the thought of talking to an 18 year old makes me pre annoyed.
An adult hooking up with an adult isn't a predator. This isn't some child that doesn't know if they want to have sex or not.
I was just sitting here thinking that if a 34-year-old woman was hitting on my 19-year-old son. I would want to choose violence.
You're not the only one thinking that.
Exactly what I thought! EWWWWW!
This is so true. The fact OP has to ask this question, shows she knows it’s morally wrong. Legal, yes. Disgustingly creepy, also 100x yes. Being a woman doesn’t excuse this behaviour, it’s predatory.
I turned down an 18 year old when I was 24.. we talked and the age/maturity difference was very noticeable. idk HOW these people do it. I couldn’t. Even if its just for a hook up. Even though legally you’ll be ok, it just feels wrong.
Yeah. I'm pretty sure the most condensed period of time for mental/emotional maturing is done during those college years of 18-22. K-12 is a steady maturing, college age is like crunch time, and then after that it's a slow and steady rate of continued maturation. With some spikes as life events happen. Buying a house. Marriage. Starting a family.
YES! 30-something’s who find teenagers attractive are pervs. They should look like children to you and that should be gross to you as well.
I'm 33 and I've never and would never EVER be attracted to an 18 year old boy. Either he's a rough 18 or OP is fucking weird.
I came to the comments to say this if it wasn’t already said just by reading the title! These comments would be SOOO different if the genders were reversed, and that’s wrong.
>He won't let me pay for a hotel room, and I won't let him pay for one either, so the only option is his dorm room. eww and double eww the age... you know it would be wrong. >Just to clarify: I have no intentions of starting a relationship with him! This would just be a one night stand situation! set aside the age gap, does he know this will be a one-time thing?
Why the fuck would any self-respecting woman in her 30s let some college dude forbid her from getting a hotel room? Why the fuck would an 18 year-old dude forbid a potential hookup from paying for a hotel room? The age gap is the least problematic part of this story in my opinion.
Like other people pointed out he’s probably wants to do her in his dorm room so he can show off in front of his buddies
Or he has a camera in there. Neutral territory to avoid this.
Nah, age gap explains everything and is the worst part OP is the kind of person to knowingly give an 18 yr old half her age her number because he flirted with her. Her submitting to him wanting to bring her to the dorm doesn't sound too off base when you think about it.
You know what? There were already red flags here, mainly the “almost double his age” thing. But once he makes his dorm the only option, that’s when you say “you know what, I just don’t feel comfortable with that.” And walk away.
You like to fuck Seniors in HS? Same age.
18yr old dude is easily hanging out with 16 year olds on the reg. Like they talk about 16yr old shit, even if he is 18. Lol. So gross.
All these people going "Well, technically..." But it's like if the base letter of the law is your morality, you ain't got much.
thank. you. legality has never, ever been the same as morality. it’s moral to punch fascists, but assault is illegal. it’s legal to sleep with an 18 yo, but it’s morally questionable at its most generous interpretation. i know morality in general is its own can of worms. i just don’t get how people who rely on the “well, it’s legal” argument as the backbone of defending something skeevy don’t see that legality is the floor, not the ceiling. edit: not interested in engaging with any “just curious” or “what’s your moral praxis” questions because i used the fascist example, which to me was the most painfully obvious comparison i could make regarding legality and morality. the only good fascist is a dead fascist and if that statement bothers you then google the paradox of tolerance and take it up with yourself
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I am also 34 F - Girl, this is GROSS. First of all, "he wont let me pay for a hotel room" bitch you are an ADULT do not go fuck someone in a dorm room, have some self respect for real. Thats the dumbest shit I've read on Reddit all day. Youre gonna go fuck him in a dorm room and be walking past *teenagers.* Grow up and get a fucking hotel room AT LEAST. 2nd of all - No its gross. 18 year olds do *not* know how to fuck. Facts. If a 34 year old dude was going to an 18 year old girl's dorm room it would be creepy as fuck. Please have some self awareness here.
Damn talk about a beat down with words! You committed a homicide and I'm here for it! 🤣 OP don't fuck an 18 year old; but if you must, pay for a hotel room. His parents paid for that room for him to sleep & study; NOT for their child to fuck some broad in. I wouldn't do it because the situation sounds ripe for someone to "get in their feelings," blackmail, social media exposure, reputations ruined, etc. It's just not worth it for the 1 orgasm she might have.
I bet $20 she does not get an orgasm out of this.
Don't say a dude doing this would be creepy as fuck but also tell her she should get a hotel room AT LEAST. Sexist
Did you miss the part where he's literally a teenager and you're a full grown ass woman who should know better? The fact that you're even asking shows you know your behaviour is creepy
But he “won’t let” her get a hotel room :(((( a grown woman is letting a barely HS graduate dictate that
She was wrong from the start giving him her number.
She knew *exactly* what she was doing.
Half your age plus 7. 34 x .5 = 17 17 + 7 = 24 24 > 18 Math says it's creepy.
Came here to say this. Solid rule.
Im 36 and have zero inclination to talk to let alone date anyone 25.
Totally agree, I'm 37 and have no interest in someone that much younger. But that's the creepy line.
Solid rule. Science proves that OP is indeed a creep. A desperate one at that.
My mom instincts prevent me from seeing anyone who can be on their parents' insurance as a full-grown adult. 18 is a BABY. I would not do this. Even if he perceives it as fun now, it may be the type of thing he cringes at later.
Yea I'm 39 (male) and work on a large college campus. The students are absolute babies, especially freshman. OP's behavior is highly disturbing.
When I was 24 I thought 18 year olds were way too young for me. Even if they are legally considered adults and it's legal to have romantic/sexual relations with them. It's fucking weird because 18 really is still a child. You're still developing at that point. Most people don't actually stop developing until their early to mid 20's.
It screams gross insecure and desperate
It screams gross period
Ewww and yes
He is barely not a child. That’s gross. If you were ten years younger it might be ok.
It isn't illegal to eff him but he's still a child.
Honestly imo it’s till gross. I’m 24 and sleeping w an 18 year old would feel disgusting to me
You both are adults and can do whatever the fuck you want. But I feel like it’s straight up creepy for a 34 year old hooking up with a 18 year old.
As someone who's a little older, I have to know what the attraction could possibly be? No offense to anyone here but they're so immature at that age .. I'm just curious
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Thank you!! I’m also 38, and talking to anyone under 25 usually does feel like talking to a kid. I cannot fathom being attracted to an 18-year-old because they look and think like children. They *are* children, developmentally, regardless of their legal status as “adult” — we all know they are NOT. I can’t imagine being desperate enough at my old ass age to fuck a teenaged kid in a dorm room. Gives me the heebie-jeebies!!! There is a 0% chance the sex will be good enough to justify any of that ick. 🤢 (Not that it would be justified anyway; I’m being facetious.)
I went to my SILs birthday party a few weeks ago. All her friends are between 19 and 17. They all looked like kids to me. I couldn’t imagine dating any of them at 26, let alone 34.
A 34 year in having sex in a dorm is kinda wild lol
I’m not even saying you can’t get yours, do your thing you’re grown.. just get that hotel room lol
Bombastic side eye~~~
Yes, it's wrong. He's 18, still a teenager and barely an adult. His brain won't finish developing until he's about 25-27 and he should be exploring this stuff with people in a suitable age range. This is exactly as gross as predatory older men going after really young women. I'm 35 and I have no idea how you can even be attracted to him. All of the 18 year olds I know, look like literal children to me.
Right? Just 6 months ago, the kid had to ask for permission to use the bathroom in high school
I kinda just walk out ngl (unconstructive comment)
Gross. Really. This guy is still practically a kid.
At 34, you're willing to have sex on a twin mattress in a dorm? Have self-respect and tell this 18-year-old you will get a hotel room like an adult. I promise he'll compromise. Be very vocal about it being a one-time thing before you have sex. If you want a puppy, you can get one from the pound.
But if you want a doggy, you can get it in pound town.
You are a creep. Leave the teenager be.
I used to have a friend with benefits situation with a women in her late 30’s when I was 19, and 20. The sex was amazing. Just get the hotel room, let him know you did and he’s just going to have too come over, and give him the best night of his life
Umm, yeah you're definitely wrong. That's like a 16 year age gap and he's still in college? Come on now, use your brain. Plus, the whole "he likes older women" thing is just a line. Don't fall for it. And seriously, don't bring him back to his dorm room. That's just asking for trouble.
Still in college? He just got there 6 weeks ago
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If you have to ask you already know the answer….leave that child alone
I think you can do it fine, but i also think that making fun of you for it is totally fair.
Hotel or bust
“Brain is fully developed should I go to his dorm room to bang?” 🤣
This was the cherry on top lmao
Ew no. I remember being 18. We were children. This guy is months out from living in his parents’ house.
And still living off his parents.
Yes, you're wrong. That's a whole ass child ma'am.
This is super gross
I'm all for having fun but this is pretty gross. Dorm room seriously?
I’d never go back to his dorm room. What if he has a camera hidden in his room and his buddies are watching you and him make a lasting memory for him? If you’re gonna do it, be an adult and get a hotel room.
At 34, I was hella done fucking in a twin bed. Frfr.
Ok this may be an unpopular opinion but meaningless hookups the whole age thing goes out the window imo. You shouldn’t be trying to make a romantic long term connection with someone half your age but two adults who just want to get off and find each other attractive is really whatever. It gets weird if you only hook up with 18-24 year olds but as an occasional thing I think it doesn’t matter. It’s weird when Leo does it because he exclusively hooks up with and more importantly “dates” young people. We have started running into a problem where people act like it’s weird to be attracted to attractive people just because they are younger. It’s weird to see them as a life partner but are we supposed to pretend the 20 something year old famous people who sell themselves on their looks aren’t attractive?
Damn, some ready-to-go dude is getting cockblocked out of a super fun and memorable experience by a bunch of sexless pearl-clutching Redditors rn. You hate to see it.
Please don't. Please don't do that.
You are gross and yes
Even though he's an adult he still has a lot of developing to do, My boyfriend and me have a 10 year age gap but we met when we were well over 25. That is quite a bit of a age gap though, while it may be legal it may not look morally ok to others or to each other. I was with a younger guy before and it was one of my worst relationships ever. Not saying it's the same for everyone, Things turn out differently. But this guy didn't know what he wanted and basically used me, and ruined my trust for future relationships. All I can say is be careful in what you do and think about how this would look if someone knew. Even if his intention are good, sometimes you can never know. If you don't care what people think, that's great, all power to you. Just be careful.
The 16 year age gap isn't the issue to me. The fact that he is 18 is. He graduated HS in May.
Creepy
That’s ridiculous, pay for a hotel room
I just can't understand how 'have sex in his dorm room' is considered the more obvious choice than just splitting the hotel room 50:50. Could even go 60:40 either way, whatever. A dorm room is an awful place to go back to when you're actually in college, let alone at the age of 34. There's a realistic chance people think you're either his mom or a hooker.
Make sure to do it in his dorms bathroom so the shared room next door has a good listen, too.
Its fucking weird to say the least
Just no to the dorm. If neither of you wants the other to pay for a room, you both pay for half. The dorm takes this from exciting to creepy. The worst part is I get the sense you both prefer the dorm for different but equally yuck reasons.
This dudes almost old enough to be your child bro Imagine if you had a teen pregnancy at 16- this guy would literally be your kid Also imagine if genders were swapped picture a 34year old MAN going after a 18 year old GIRL that's fucked up as all shit So what different is that verse this? Suddenly it's ok because it's a older lady? Yeah No ur gross IMO for even considering this
If a man wrote this post people would go insane
I’m actually here for all the people calling this behavior out. Although you are right, it would be tenfold for a man.
Weird, he's gonna fall in love too with his pudding brain.
He won’t let me pay for a hotel room. That’s a cop-out. Why would you let an 18 your old *teenager,* which he still is, tell you you can’t get a hotel room, and you listen to it?? Why would you think you’re “only option” is to go to his dorm? I am truly curious if you’re trying to relive something? Or poss even experience something you weren’t able to when at college? Let your 34 yo brain remember how foolishly immature boys are at that age: cameras (milf porn?), pictures, telling all the dorm buds what you were like - & my apologies If this offends you - how “old” you were. You just don’t know. If a hook up get a hotel room, you can afford one night. *WHY RISK IT?* Texting some kid you met at a bar then going back to his dorm is foolish, & you know it. It won’t be a one & done no more communication; He’s got your number. Girls/women need to learn/remember the numbers on a phone that spell out “‘Sorry no;” it’s more fun than just giving a fake number.
We are infantilizing people who are legally adults by suggesting that we are in charge of policing or facilitating their decisions. At some point we have to agree that people of a certain age are capable of making informed decisions. We have give them the respect of agency. I have zero interest in telling anyone what age that should be. I know I would have been thrilled to have casual sex with an 34 year old when I was 18. But I can’t imagine actually sleeping with an 18 year old now that I’m 34. And I’ve seen so many smoking hot 18 year olds. But they all act like children, and that is immediately off-putting to me. I don’t think there is anything inherently harmful about this hook-up as long as everyone is sharing their honest/genuine feelings and expectations, and then everyone is still interested. Some people are into things that I’m not into. And that’s fine—as long as no one is being harmed.